How to make an Aries man obsessed with you
September 25, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Wait … does the Aries man even get obsessed? He may have the ability to tune out all other stimuli to accomplish his goal, but that’s not obsession — it’s single-mindedness. If he really wants you, he’ll garner all his resources to capture you, but once he loses interest, you’ve lost.
The best way to extend his attention span is to fuel his competitive drive. Although I am not a fan of “games,” you may want to flirt with someone else at a party he’s at, if you already know he’s interested in you. Seeing you with another man will spark his instinctual urge to be Alpha Male, and he’ll want to beat out the other guy for your attentions.
In other words, play hard to get.
The venerable Bruce Springsteen (a Libra) once wrote that you can’t start a fire without a spark. I can’t help you there (although a tight red dress will turn him on!). You need to be distant enough to be a challenge, but not so unattainable that he’s easily distracted by the next pretty young thing that comes his way. The art of attraction is a Libran balancing act, and a tip of the scales in the wrong direction will send the whole contraption toppling to the floor.
Comment below: How have you kept an Aries man’s attention?
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I HAVE been married to one for the past 10 years.. great beginning.. he chased me he won we were best friends… but his ego and need for admiration and lack of self analysis got the best of him.. in short… the higher he got … the more entitled he felt for more attention form other ladies always work friends … he has to be a hero to most of them… self centered to a fault… always looking for action outside the marriage but for adoration …. sexually i was always more sexual….
for passion and stamina look for Taurus…
Aries… are and do read HOROSCOPE… very self centered and will cheat i know.. fathers that are aries that cheat.. old ,, young.. but in their eyes they can justify it…
generous yes, relaxed yes, less moody, very driven etc… but not to be trusted … one will always feel alone at the end with these creatures emotionally …
Miss Sag:
Thank you for the post. I’m a Scorpio trying to make it work w/an Aries. I decided to walk away yesterday. Your post is exactly what I;m finding.
EXTREMELY self-centred. I thought the sex would be great! It started to get really good but he has pulled away emotionally and now he doesn’t want to tell me what he was doing the other night…There are LOTS of red flags!
He is VERY moody and, yes, I feel alone. So now I am really alone but it’s ok…
Thanks again for posting; you never know who you may help.
Miss Sag certainly helped me. I sort of blame myself because I am into astrology and should have known from the start that we were not a match. In the beggining, he used to call text email (some type of communication) every day. I began to like him alot. Once he caught wind of this he started treating me different. At one point we were on the phone all night (like when I was a teenager smh) to not calling or cutting conversations short. It sort of puzzled me because I didn’t ask for any of this, he pursued me and now I am the one who is hurt. I think he felt as if he were better than me. I don’t really like people who think this way. That’s what drew the line for me. I couldn’t stand his arrogance anymore. BTW I just met him this past July so at least I learned sooner than later.
I’m a 37 year old Leo female who had met a really outgoing, fun Aries a few months ago. I had only dated one other Aries earlier in my life and that met with disaster after a seemingly beautiful beginning.
In the current relationship dynamic things started out wonderfully. I met him, he was very “in your face”. He gave me alot of attention, he gave me alot of time, he wanted to know who I was in like one swallow. And that’s exactly what they make you feel like in the beginning. You get phone calls, they come over, it’s all about you. Fast forward a month or two and the phone calls dwindle, they come over not as frequently and you start to wonder, “what the hell?’ That’s an Aries, they lose interest, and I pride myself in being the Queen of Sheba in the bedroom but it’s not enough.
I have always been very intuitive and very in touch with my emotions. I knew he wasn’t interested when the phonecalls were fewer and fewer, but the kicker was when he would text me to say he would call and wouldn’t. I can’t tell him I know and he still thinks things are great. I know he’s a DOG. With an Aries there is always the next best thing until the next best thing shows up after that other next best thing loses it’s “value.”
mostar74@yahoo.com, I feel your pain girl. In the beginning things are great, I can attest to that. It happened the same with me and those phonecalls. I would think “wow wtf?” I’m a Leo and never really express myself like I used to when I was younger, I’m 37 now and have been hurt so much that I am in a shell with my emotions. It’s pretty sad because I used to tear people up with my opinions, but I can only do that through writing. but when it comes to telling a guy, especially the Aries I dealt with, ( read my story above) I can’t do it for fear of my old “foot in mouth disease”. So now I just wallow in self pity at times for a few hours and dust myself off. I tend to wish bad things on the men I’ve dated who have wronged me and am trying to combat that as I get older but it’s hard. With an Aries they strike a person’s ego, even if you don’t have a big ego to begin with. they still break that part of your system down. When you think your on top and your giggling on that phone all night they make you feel like a star, then they cut the cord, you didn’t make the cut, and that ego is crushed. That’s what happened to me. I feel sometimes that maybe I wasn’t pretty enough, maybe I didn’t present enough of a challenge, etc. But now I’m starting to understand that even if I had been pretty enough this person would have probably done the same thing. It’s hurts I know, because when an individual doesn’t use tact, and is selfish and things start out so good, it blows. I want to give you hugs and let you know that soon you will forget about him. I always do forget about the Aries ultimately but I have admit this sign has always been the one that took much longer to get over, not because the relationship was just so tra la la la la, but because they GO as quick as they CAME.
Aries bashing are we??
I am a Libra lady been dumped by an Aries man i must say my first love and real relationship was with an Aries man he was my one and only despite i dated a lot of Aries man but this was different he was in march 22 and he was caring loving and a bit sensitive stubborn passionate I miss him so much he left me after 8 months of a beautiful relationship its funny what i read about Libra and Aries relationship i think because i am older so i am more wiser and i understand he is younger than me but frankly he is still in my heart although i am with another fire sign its really good but i dont knw i feel a part of me is missing like emptiness man that ares guy sure left a whole in my heart and i swear when he dumped me i cried like a bitch! we r at the same university i just wish i can get bac together with him i read alot of things how do get back but unfortunately i dont knw how too clueless … is there a way i can get him back??????? i seriously miss him
Well…you guys talking about him loosing intrest!I can’t get him away from me!!!He is very sweet…yes cocky..yes VERY selfcentered…But Idk I guess its bcuz I’m a Sagitariuos supposedly with Aries their a perfect match…But the thing is I had a hugee crush on him..then I just stopped caring and did my own thing…and now he follows me everywhere!(: So with Aries heres my advice.Be fun,have fun,take risks,and if he says he doesnt like you start to not care about him(I know its hard ladies!)Stand out be different and ALWAYS! keep him guessing.Like dont wear your hair makeup ect the same way.These things may sound superficial….But I mean ARIES!self centered you need to do something to draw his attention away from himself.After tht they are very sweet men and CAN BE TRUSTED!Just dont be boring think of new ways to do thigs;) hope tht helped.
If anyone need relationship advice ask me when you post(:
oh and to Sarah,act like you moved on and you could care less dont let him know that you have been hurt by him….tht just strengthens their ego(:
Thanks cjj =) well frankly i posted on here to release my agony but on the outside i am not sad i am living my life normally but GOD i miss him so bad its been 6 months now and this month December was the mo nth where our relationship went to a high level although eh is 18 and i am 20 :-/ but i dont care all i cared that we loved each other anywho i am living my life perfectly but its empty without him but i read what u wrote and i think i will change my behavior more and more
thanks cjj!!! i hope it works 
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Man, I thought I was too old for this stuff, but this younger Aries man took my breath away when I first saw him…unbeknown to him of course. He flirted constantly, but when I gave him a letter to say how I felt, he said ‘not interested’. So, I let it go for 2 months, then he showed interest at a dance, and especially after he found we were perfectly matched…Aries Dragon/Libra Monkey! Anyway, I still went home alone and have done ever since. He watched me everywhere I was, and made feeble excuses to be in my sphere, but when I txt him again to say how I felt and that he should come over and be done with it…cold fish again. He asked me to delete his number (we haven’t even kissed yet, but immensely strong physical and emotional reactions every time we see each other) so I did, and I went into a deep depression as he sends my mind and body in such a spin like I have never known. He pretended to be ignoring me, then, out of the blue 2 days ago star jumps in front of my car as I pull into the park next to his for work. We talked amiably and discussed Christmas plans…I am going on a yacht for the day and he said he would love to do the same. So, as the tickets had to be paid for yesterday and he was working, I booked him on and paid for it. He was excited to get the ticket and went out back…what happens next is anyone’s business, but hope he doesn’t take it wrong and think I am just being a control freak…I just want him to enjoy the escape from the routine of work. Yep! It is so hard, and he always plays romantic songs (we both love music and singing and use music to communicate a lot)the minute I walk into the restaurant he works in…he is extremely sensitive, and jealous the minute I talk to another man…and I will always love him and cherish his childish ways…they bring the biggest smile to my face.(: I think they need nurturing and have their egos boosted more for their insecurities than just narcicsism.
thanks Cjj already started doing that. I just came back today and read your post. I now wait for him to call, e-mail, or text first. I see now that I am a mystery to him he is interested again.
Reading these posts this morning help me a great deal with my Aries male issues. I have been crushing on this Aries male for about 1yr, and then out of the clear blue he buys a house in my block right across the street from me (thank you god!). We would speak to each other, hold small conversations etc… then I gave him a card to welcome to block and from there we would walk our dogs together , he showed the inside of his house just friendly stuff.. I made the first move because I was tried of waiting for him. I put my # in his door …. He called me and we talk for a few hours …then we started to hang out at his house in the evening watching TV, cracking jokes just having fun, the sex is AMAZING but that were thing get hairy. … Everything became a rush so I slow thing down and stop seeing him for a while. Now he has a girlfriend, but still wants me, we still text while he is at work, at home in the middle of the night. I ask what about his girlfriend, he says; I should be his girlfriend, my responds is oh well I have man know, but don’t because I want him. We know Aries get tired after a while… I may wait it out with him but still play hard to get. … I am an Older Libra and he is a Young Aries …….
My Aries is working on a big project, and for three days he’s been working either at home or in the office 18 hours a day…. so yesterday he texts and says he’ll be home at midnight, and is so tired. I text back to say I’ll wait up, but just snuggling will be nice since he’s exhausted and too tired for more. Of course he comes home, we chat for an hour or so about his day and mine, and then we both fall asleep…half an hour later, he’s wide awake and wants “more”
The secret to keeping him interested is letting him take the lead, and then being ready for anything. He woke up today feeling like Superman after a night with Wonder Woman, and not because I’m all that – but he thinks I am and that he’s a champion for catching me but he also thinks he has to catch me every day (even though he doesn’t – I’m all his, body and soul, but he doesn’t know that for sure and he likes it that way.) He left for work this morning with his eyes sparkling and a secret smile on his face that will be there all day, and he’s already texted me to say thanks for being so good to him….
BTW, his last relationship (over 10 years) failed because she was so consumed with the children that she completely ignored him both emotionally and in the bedroom for almost two years…he didn’t cheat and he would have stayed – she broke it up for another man. We’ve got the kids now, and with mine that’s 6 of them (!) but we have adventures with the kids, adventures with each other and plenty of bedroom time for both of us. (Who needs sleep?
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So i came on here and i am reading all of these Aries posts just to find that a lot of people saying that Aries are difficult, its true. Well at least for me it is. I am a virgo female, and as a match we are destined to fail.
But i am Scorpio in venus and he is Cancer in venus so that is where our attraction comes down to. We’ve been dating for a few months now, and spent so much time together. It’s true that Aries loves the chase. He used to chase me like crazy we spent so much time together. He had no problem introducing me to his friends, and family.
Now all the sudden, hes become distant these past few weeks. I know he needs his space, so thats exactly what i am going to give to him. He says he likes me and wants us to progress and “take things slow”… but i am not waiting a month past febuary. If he doesnt ask me by then that means he doubts seeing us together. Cant waist so much time and energy on him. Especially since he is so self centered. He does sweet things out of no where and remembers little things i do or say when i think he isnt listening, thats probably whats kept me hanging on. For now, im keeping busy and getting him to chase me again, but honestly its exhausting… too bad its going down the drain.
Oh, the unpredictable little boys that they are…now not even allowed to contact him,.,Aries Dragon from back a few posts. Didn’t take up the offer to go on yacht for Christmas, and didnt tell me, I heard through his workmates…not nice. I did take some nice poetry and letters to him after he walked out of a bar when I walked in, as it really depressed me that he couldn’t even let me know what I did wrong. All I wanted was for him to know exactly how I felt (nice things), and that he had wrongly assumed some situations. INstead, he threatened me with restraining order (didn’t read letters or poetry) told me to f off…and that I was old, ugly and shameless! I was mega depressed, to the point of the unthinkable…not only him giving me a hard time.
I have now found a mutual friend and his Libra wife , he an Aries male, have recently split. It has been quite a relief to hear this Aries say that they often say things they don’t really mean…so much for them speaking straight…but I always suspected this. I also have caught the alpha Aries doing a drive by but not coming in…again! He was so utterly depressed looking last week, so I used his txt to send him a message to let him know I believe in him and want to still be friends at the very least…no answer, b ut when we pass each other on the road, the butterflies come on strong and it is like he is sending nice thoughts to me…also in the middle of the night…mental telepathy stuff. However, I no longer go out, and won’t contact him, or go to his work, as if he wants me, he can get out of the car when doing his drive by and find the guts to talk with me…I no longer wish to be accused of pushing the issue…but still love him, even more than before(: Does that all make sense?
Ex-BOYFRIEND(libra) tries to suicide, forces me to love him but now i love aries man.
I was in love with my ex-boyfriend for 5.5 years by true heart.but i realized there is lots of lack of understanding between us,because of which there were lots of fights between us ,but still i was dragging relation for sake of commitment .
Then i came in contact with my senior guy (belonging to my caste)who is aries before 2 months and fall in love with him ,he also loves me alot, even from college days We are in different countries so we even didn’t touched each other by finger even,still we were very happy with each other and understand each other very well .
But my ex-boyfriend forces me to love him and he tries to commit suicide,he says if i don’t love him and if i will leave him he wil die .
My parents will also never allow me to marry my ex-boyfriend because of him belonging to scheduled caste .
I don’t have feelings for my ex-boyfriend at all and i love my senior by true heart .Presently i am with my ex-boyfriend for sake of his life and for my responsibility towards him.Day and night he is emotionally blackmailing me and torturing me for loving him ,as i am unable to pretend drama of love for him every time .I love my senior and want to be with him .I will never forgive myself if my ex-boyfriend dies because of me . I want my ex-boyfriend to leave me and live happy in his life .I am crying day and night because of his tries of suicide ,his emotional blackmails, and also because of not talking to my senior ,i miss him very much .Actually my senior and i have decided to not to talk for keeping my ex-boyfriend alive , for stopping him doing suicide,and for escaping my senior’s family from tention as my exboyfriend is abusing my senior and ready to fight with him which causes tension in senior’s family which he does’nt want .Now i am very unhappy ,i miss my senior very much and all time crying because my ex-boyfriend says that “you don’t love me ,i am going to die …………..”.what should i do this is not in my hands to love someone or not to love someone ..i am going mad .
I am 24 years old studying in MS at USA and my ex-boyfriend n my senior are 23 years old they are at my home country INDIA.My ex-boyfriend loves me alot and says that i cheated him but still he wants to marry me and be with me for always.My senior is preparing for MTech (masters program) and he does’nt wants to make any commitment untill he proves his capabilities and establishes himself,he says that he loves me but he will marry one whom his mother will say him to marry.
My parents want me to marry guy from my caste and with excellent education.My ex-boyfriend says that i said to him that if he will get excellent education then i will convince my parents for marrige ,now he got admision in MBA at USA ,he says that i dont want to convince my parents now.what should i do i love my senior ,although he belongs to my caste but my parents will not allow me to marry him if he might not be able to get admission in IIT for Mtech or some other excellent education
What should i do ?..i want to talk to my senior but my ex boyfriend is tracing our calls too ….so we can’t talk even for some time because as he come to know that i called my senior my ex-boyfriend attempts to suicide…………i fell that i can’t live without my senior ,,,,i miss him very much ,but my senior has his family on top priority and he does not want to get involved in any issue.even now to get out of all these tensions my senior (aries)is saying to me that he looked me as friend always nothing else and i should go back to my ex boyfriend’s life for doing justice.
please help ……what should i do ?i want my senior (aries) to be with me and want to get rid of libra ex boyfriend without hurting him
libra girl from India…how sad for you. Due to your caste situation, it is very hard to advise what to do. I am also a Libra lady and have recently considered suicide, but not just because of the Aries male…lots of other stuff was happening all at once.
It is such a delicate situation, and I can see why you would prefer the Aries male over the Libran…they are stronger and we need that strength…although they are also very soft beneath that exterior.
Your senior is probably right in his advice, as he will always be around for you as a very good friend, and hopefully, the Libra male will eventually get over being so depressed…I always do…it just takes time. Is it possible to tell the Lib ran male that if he truly loved you, he would want what is best for you and only your happiness matters? Maybe remind him of Sting’s (another Libran) song about “If you love someone, set them free”…if they come back they’re yours, if not…sadly, they never were. I have been set free/and vice verse from the Aries male, although I do hope he returns, I canno9t rely on it.): Such is life and I have to either deal whatever. Good luck and may the angels watch over you and provide strength to go on(:
I want my ex back what shall i do :-S?? its ben almost 8 months since the breakup we argue and stuff but i dont know what to do to get him back he dumped me not me i am a libra girl all his friends tell me we r compatible together and we r ment for each other but he is just soo ignorant and stubborn that he just irritates me why cant he just get back with me he is so anti social and he has these weirds thoughts he is so mysterious and i still love him i want him back what can i do i am happy i did move on but when i see him u know that feeling of first time u see someone and u feel butterflies thats how i feel around him he i dont knw if he feels that way i am assuming he doesn’t cuz he dumped me and its been ages although when he sees my friends he is soo nice to them and to my mother…. HONESTLY I HAD IT I WANT HIM SO BADLY that i am the one who is behaving like a boy now n he is the girl he ignores me and i am willing to even sing under his window to take me back pr to cross the ocean of wines just to see him and be with hm he is the one for me and i want to tell him not all relaitionships r perfect somtimes u have ur ups n down but we had along break so u u knw what we had enoughing breathign seprately god any suggestion how to get this annoying boy who behaves like a girl/childish/stubborn mind!!!! ???? HELP! i swear he just gets on my nerves and i belive i iwll get him back but dont know how he is a challange to me so guys please any advice if someone says move on i already did i belive there is a way how dunno cuz i feel lost and am not experiencing in getting back wiht a person u seriously dearly love! ?
Oh Nada, I am experiencing the same butterflies for the Aries man who told me whre to go on no uncertain terms…I think they tend to jump to conclusions too quickly as they are hopoeless at communication, and hurt themselves. Their method of coping is to completely turn off, but this doesn’t actually deal with their problems, so they carry around so much bitterness and anger unnecessarily, when all they need to do is talk to us…they almost seem to think they aren’t worthy of receiving love that we offer.
I have never been insulted by a man like he has insulted me, but I don’t believe he really means it, especially after talking to other Aries males who are hurting. How to get him back is something I too would do anything to know…we are so much alike (I have an Aries/Taurus rising) and he is a beautiful soul, but just like a little boy deep down. I feel like I am falling in love all over again every time I see him…butterflies and all…I have stopped going out and visiting his work (cafe) to reduce the chance of contact and stress levels, but it doesn’t reduce the pain I feel or the ache for him, and we haven’t even kissed! It is purely a chemical reaction to him. Obviously, there is more to astrology than some will have us believe as your words are the same as mine.):
Should I follow my feelings here?? The Aries man that drives me wonderfully crazy seems to have tried to make contact today, but a woman I don’t even know, decided to talk to me about stuff I had absolutely NO interest in, but I didn’t want to be rude and just tell her to go away…he then drove away. As he has previously told me to get lost, I am too scared to call or txt to say just come over…but my gut is saying I should): Oh my god this is soooo hard! Damned if I do, but damned if I don’t…any help?
Barb:
I did the hardest thing today Barb. I wrote the man I had been seeing, yes the same Aries, (they are hard to kick) an email saying it’s over, that I’m done. First I got sick and tired of him only seeing me at his convenience and just for sex. I got tired of not getting my text messages returned with the same intensity that I had sent them. I got tired of not being hugged and kissed once he entered my place. I got tired of him not seeing me for who I really was…a good person who just wanted to have someone care for her.
What really pissed me the hell off was the fact that I have been on Short Term Disability and couldn’t see him for 3 weeks because of my back. He hounded me for all of those weeks and when he finally got what he wanted he stopped hounding me. I’m tired of being used, abused and treated like crap.
I can successfully in one go ruin my own self esteem, I can make my own self feel like crap, I don’t need or want someone else doing that for me. Like my mom used to say “You can do bad by yourself.” I also know in my heart, that he has moved onto someone else. All my text messages had miraculously stopped, I was getting forwarded jokes and expected to feel appreciative for getting them. I had to realize I deserved better than that.
I wasn’t being taken out, and I know he’s already in a situation but my goodness it was a red flag in the beginning, I just had to wake up! The person he’s talking to or seeing? I don’t know who she is, I really do care, because it’s so fresh and it hurts my self esteem which has already taken a beating, I mean I’ve been sucker punched without him disclosing anything to me. Some Aries men are heartless that way. Not telling us the truth and being a man and stepping up to the plate is not their way at all.
I’m the one that wrote the email today stating what I felt in my heart of hearts. I had to let it go, because it would have continued and then I would have been that woman who stops believing that there is a person out there that really wants “ME”. I can’t believe I let this go on for sooooo long. Did I really feel that bad about myself that I would allow another to do this to me? A person that made love to me, who took from me. Who ignored me, who could never open up fully to me? I did this to myself, I can’t blame him wholeheartedly for all of this. I ALLOWED IT TO CONTINUE.
I would be lying if I said the sex wasn’t good, it was mindblowing! When I break it off with someone, the first thing that breaks my heart of not seeing them again, is not them, it’s mostly the sex and intimacy I’ll miss, so that helps soften the blow. I mean when I meet someone in the future I want to actually miss the person and not just the sex. With this person that is all there was, and all there ever would be.
Here’s the email I sent:
You won’t have to worry about me bothering you anymore. Since your not happy with me I’ll do you this favor:
You have showed me in more ways than one, that I’m not needed, that your not in the least bit interested, unless we are having sex, and that’s a damn shame. It’s a shame that “I” put myself through something like this with someone that obviously gets tired of someone and can’t even hide the fact or be honest with them.
Recently you just stopped caring, because instead of being honest with me you would rather just keep things going until you can get what you need from it. If things hadn’t been so “one sided” I think it would have been great. But you stopped calling me, and I told you a few times, that I knew and am smart enough to know when someone loses interest in me. I blame myself this time though because instead of just walking away I thought “well maybe things will be ok”.
You have obviously started with someone else, which is cool. Have your fun, enjoy, hope your happy, enjoy the sex, and all that jazz. Really I sincerely mean it, cause obviously it aint me you are digging on these days. I hope it all works out and she can make you happier than happy. You gotta do what you gotta do. It is what it is.
But don’t you think that being honest with me would have been great? Instead you did the opposite. Was it that bad being around me, that you would have to come over here at 11 pm and then leave immediately after you cum? That’s an awful feeling when a man does that to a woman, and I didn’t deserve that, and you know that in your heart too. I’m not a bad person, a person that deserves to be used by people. I never treated you so bad that I would deserve another to treat me like they could give a s*** if I fell off the face of the earth.
Everything had been one sided. You were contacting me everyday within those 3 weeks that you hadn’t seen me. Then when you got what you wanted, all of that stopped. The text messages that you struggled to send me, in response to something I had sent you like hours before were kind of too late. I mean wow, I get it, I’m not that stupid to where I don’t see. I hope you are happy in whatever situation you get in. And never seeing or hearing from you during the day? Not even a text like we used to do, that was my first clue, I mean if your not texting me like you used to then you have lost interest. You can write me back that I don’t know what I’m talking about but I could give a damn, I know like I have never known before that this aint ok.
I don’t have to wonder anymore how you feel because you already showed me in so many ways and you don’t even realize it. I will meet someone in the future whatever their situation, married, single, whatever, that will really give a s***. If it’s any less than that I will walk away.
Kat
P.S. When someone treats you the same way that you treated me, I hope then and only then that you wake up. I was not a bad person. I was good but you didn’t see that.
Yes i do know what you are going through barb the thing is my aries is still a chilish boy he is just 18 now turnng in march 22 19 grr and i am older than him and wiser and more chilled to the bone i am spontaenous i love adventures i love going outdoors and doing stuff but i think its th study holding him i think i was too clingy ( in the aries term 24/7 in there place -.- ) i dont know he was just y drug i felt i needed him he also felt the same way then came a time when he stop loving me becuz of the arguments and fights oh god i just wish i can turn back time and fix soem stuff i think he doesnt want to come back with me cuz he had a relaitionship before and it was serious he felt like a hostage like in a prison chamber so he said he felt it in the end of our relaitionship he wanst to be free and he told me take it as an experience i was like WTF!! is wrong with u thank god i didnt sleep with u cuz if i did that wuld be hurtful even more :S!! but i wont give up even thoguh he is heartless at the moment i love him i still do and i want him back pronto! he is like the third aries guy i been with and honestly he is the only who drives me insane lol just dont kknow what to do?? -.- :S?!again any suggestions
Hi Kat, I think maybe you were right in letting him know he hurt you…he did some pretty uncool stuff to you and needs to learn a lesson. I doubt he will find a good woman like you, but you will meet another man who will respect you just like I did after the aH that treated me so badly years ago. I have NEVER regretted removing him from my life…but he obviously was placed in it to teach me to love myself more. The Aries Dragon isn’t in the same category as him, but is insanely jealous, and I like it as much as I hate it…wierd. At least it shows he cares, but it created a massive misunderstanding and he hates me for it…or so he says. We are back to passing each other every time I go out of the house, like we were before he was annoyed with me showing up at his house. I am going away for a week to the other side of the country for a court case in 2 weeks, so will see what eventuates when he sees me out of the way. If there were some way I could share an e’mail attachment with you, I would send a Tibetan Personality Test to you…it worked instantly for me with my soul mate 8 years ago. You are a good woman and you will achieve great things as you have now found respect for you.(: Love and happiness and angel hugs to you Kat.
Nada, I now see the problem. He is very young, and in all fairness, would need to be free like a butterfly…unlike the butterflies in our stomachs that are locked away(: However, there is no reason why you cannot still be friends and see what may occur down the track in a few years when he grows up. The guy I like is much older, but also younger than me…but perfectly matched in all ways.
I can’t believe I am experiencing this young love feeling at my age, but it is certainly happening and feels good…shame I don’t look as good as I did a few years ago though. There are lots of pretty young girls around on this island (I live on an island), so of course, always tempting and no need to be involved with an older woman…mind you, most young guys here are with older women(: I shall have to just hang in there as everyone tells me to wait for him to make a move if he will…if not, maybe I will look for somewhere else to go…or juswt get my compo and buy a van and WWOOF around the world…who knows what will be? I have had so little love in my life, and that is what depresses me most. I find someone who I am incredibly attracted to, and he has rejected me…and my soulmate lives with another lady whom he will never leave, when he isn’t overseas. It is like I wasn’t meant to have a reciprocal relationship in this godforsaken life.
Barb, thanks for writing me back. You are so sweet. And I’m sorry that it’s taken me so long to write back but I’ve been busy with my medical appointments etc. I appreciate the advice and right back to you. After sending the breakup email I was so weak and told him I was sorry. That’s not bad news it’s actually good news. In doing that I became so vulnerable that I finally saw what he was really doing for the first time, in a new light. After apologizing for sending the email, I was subjected to emotional torture that I hadn’t seen another person put me through in years. I believe he felt that if I had sent the email and then wrote him back, then that made his ego even more bigger, and he became full of himself. In the past 4 days I had been subjected to unnecessary emotional abuse. He said that he wanted to still see me after I had sent an apologetic email but I was dead wrong. This is what I was subjected to in four days time, which brought me to my ultimate conclusion which I hope will help most of the women on here. PLEASE READ BELOW:
First: He began to not return my text messages, I mean completely ignored them outright. Even if he would text me first he would come up with an excuse after I replied, and would say things like “Yeah oh ok. Well my phone is about to die.” Or this is the best one: “I’m tired, long day….I’m going to lay down.” And guess what it was 8:00 pm and he’s an alcoholic and he never goes to bed before midnight!
Second: Wednesday he didn’t contact me at all. That was the kicker right there. I let it go all day and he didn’t say a word to me. Just outright didn’t contact me. Thursday I sent an email saying “HI” and he replied right back, saying that he was having “Family problems with his brothers and he was busy and he would talk to me later.” So Thursday, which was yesterday, he sent me nasty, dirty, vulgar text jokes and that was it, and I finally asked him if he missed me, his answer was “Before I answer that I want you to tell me if you do precisely and then I will answer back ok? Still busy, will answer your text later.” So I texted back “I miss you, is that precise enough lol.” I never got a reply. Fast forward to later on Thursday night and he messages me about 6 pm telling me that he will call me later. He called at 10:20 pm but my phone dropped the call so I called right back immediately. No answer, goes straight to voicemail. I sent a text message saying, that when he gets the message he can just call back. No call back after 15, 20, 25, 30, even 40 minutes. Then I had remembered that I had sent him that text saying that I missed him and he didn’t send s*** back! Oh that did it right there. I sent a text saying that in the past few days I didn’t appreciate how he had been blowing me off etc. It wasn’t long but I sent it. I get no answer.
Third: I know what has occurred, he has found another person, and it’s cool because he’s already married. I think I neglected to tell you all that. He’s a player. He pulls his condom off during sex and he’s a jerk, and an alcoholic so I had to think about that last night. And not to mention what he is doing to his wife isn’t cool and that I don’t want to be a part of something that corrupt and evil anymore. He approached me at the Veterans Hospital where I had an appointment and he will find other’s the same way. He’s a Casanova, a predator, all those things that equate to SERPAENT.
I cried all night these past few days, I was feeling awful, but I had to release every control he had over me. All that energy that I expelled was for a reason, to get better and move on. Yes he’s with someone else, and I don’t mean his wife…. but I feel so much bigger this morning. I have so much confidence like I feel better about myself not being with him. I talked to a good friend last night. A Christian friend who really helped me. She stayed on the phone with me for over an hour and we discussed the whole situation and I was scared to tell her that he was married but I did. She told me I didn’t deserve, and no one deserves to be treated that way. No ONE!
My friend also told me that the best revenge I could ever give would be to get my self esteem back and one day walk into that Veterans Administration Building and him being there to see how good I’m doing without him. She said getting revenge the way I wanted is so counterproductive and he’s not worth it at all. She told me to work on me. She said people see that and when he sees that it will kill him!
An Aries man likes the chase, yes, but what if what you had was good and now it’s gone and is happy without him? She asked me that, but she didn’t use the Aries part lol. She said to get myself together mentally. Chock it up as something I don’t want to experience again. It will take me awhile to date again, but I think I should because he sure as s*** didn’t take me anywhere! I want to find someone who is emotionally available, for example NOT MARRIED! I hope this helps someone on here because we have been exchanging experiences for a few months and I want all of you to know that it’s not worth it. In the end some men are just going to be egotistical, Casanova, skirt chasers and there is not a damn thing we can do to change that!
In closing, he’ll see me one day, either after he knocks a woman up out of wedlock or he catches something and I see him at the VA Pharmacy picking up a prescription (cough cough) lol. And hopefully when he sees me I’ll be hand and hand with someone who cares about me. That is the best revenge. Oh yes, best served COLD!
HUGS and I won’t be on here anymore, because I’m going to work on myself now. If anyone needs to contact me my email is Tinatina72@ymail.com
Peace and love, Kat
Aries Problems have we, I Dated 2 Aries in my Life Time, Loved tha s*** out of both of them, But what i learned about that ram, that made me stronger, Let Go””’, Ive dated a March 22nd and Aries and April Aries and that April Aries is a Mutha Fucca for real!! But this is how u break em down, The April Aries we just started back talking its been 3yrs since we talked, And he still is hasnt changed and he wont, so sum things in our past was brought and what did i do as a Virgo Lady, acted like i never remembered knowing damn well i could never forget, I love this April Aries to death, literally and kinda still do, but he will never not it, So he talking all harsh just like a Aries, Here we go going back and forth, Virgo and Aries Dont mix @ all, I told him how bad his Sex sucked to me, that kills there EGO OMG its does lolol, I know he still loves me or like me, becoz he cant let tha past go, and none of his other relatonships ever work out , so it noththing that you Ladies aren’t doing, Ur doing all the right things, ARIES or mentally f***ED up ppl flat out, hands down!!! like i told my ex your Nice looking but thats it, Attitude is f***ed up!!! So ladies u dont have 2 put up wit tha bulls*** its other Men out here, Dont block ur blessing its ah year, move on!!!!
virgolady you are a classic(: Funny girl, I love it.
You are obviously smarter than I in this department. I wish I had been able to let go a hell of a lot earlier before I drove him crazy, but I can’t stand unfinished business, and need to be able to actually talk about what is up, not just be expected to be a mind reader.
I now feel I can make a break and just do my own thing, but will say hi and be polite if I see the man. I am sure it must hurt that I am actually getting out and enjoying stuff like riding the rapids, with friends, or going out to events that re all about fun in a clean sense. The problem is, I actually don’t want to hurt him, and if I really do love him, as I feel I do, then I have to let him go and find true happiness if he can. He is, after all, a free spirit and I was just a rung on his ladder of life, and a teacher that taught him others can love him. Hopefully, he will gain from this and move ahead in his career and relationships in future. This would be satisfying for me. I am not into revenge, as karma does that quite beautifully, and I know he has suffered dreadfully already. We all need loving.(: I admire your strength though.(:
so i like this aries guy hes an april aries and im a june gemini am i wasting my time?
nope because u too are compatible more than me a libra so u have more chances than me plus his a fire ur an air u so in order for him to be alive he needs more fuel which is u (air) and hey gemini are seriously HOT (girls) so yeaa ur not wasting ur time he will like u and maybe who knows falls for u
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Whoa! Easy on the Aries men my friends! I am a Gemini and apparently I see not what any of you see. Maybe it’s because I like the direct, no nonsense, sexy as Hell, want to be alone some times, adventerous, and actually very loyal Aries man! My first boyfriend ever was an Aries, I was 18 and we dated for 3 years (I cheated on him, it tends to be in my nature). I have been seeing an Aries for about a year now, he is two years younger than me and that seems to work. I am 36 years old now. The thing about an Aries, if he has not been cut down, either by bad life experience, or a terrible divorce, than maybe you get that self-centered egotistical male you all see. My Aries went through a bitter divorce and me also, which puts us both on guard automatically, which works great for both of us. Our emotional attachement is limited to one another, and that seems to work. The key to our success, we are friends first, than lovers. We do not, and I mean do not make sex at the for front. At the beginning we started off very sexually and than he decided that he really liked me and wanted to get to know each other as friends, and not make it all about sex (we have amazing sex when we do have it). This was new to both of us, as we both tend to move head first into sexual relationships. We cook together, go out to the ballet, horseback riding, or just simply sit and watch the UFC or movies and we enjoy every minute of it. We are so much alike!!! I have never had a man make me laugh so much before, and me him. We compliment each other in every way, and guess what, with no effort. It comes naturally to both of us. We just toasted this last Valentines to many more peaceful, fun and good times, and are planning a cruise in September. We are two peas in a pod. I always allow him to make the first move though. I never call him unless he has called me first and I never step on his toes with certain issues. He checks up on me, not me him. He does like to be the caregiver, the one that feels like he is needed. I am sorta of a control freak myself, but with my Aries man, I don’t feel I have to be. He asks me for advice when he thinks he has no answers (mind you I am WAY smarter than him, but I don’t let him feel that way). Our contact in our relationship started out slow at first with a call here, text there, seeing him only once every couple of weeks. Now, we talk every day, text through out, and I see him at least 4 days out of the week, even some days when he has his girls, which he is an AWESOME dad, and I didn’t even get to meet the girls several months into our relationship, he’s just not like that, which I respect highly. I don’t have any children, so being around them is a joy and they love me. I guess when it really comes down to it, you have to look at the circumstances of where two people are at in life and whether or not they are compatible. I love him, he loves me, but we don’t talk about it or what we are, we don’t put a “label” on our relationship, and we don’t have expectations (other than being exclusive, respect, caring, and understanding) or ownership to one another. He supports me, I support him. When I have a bad day, he does everything to make me forget and cheer me up, and me like wise. He loves special things I do for him, even if it’s putting the dishes away (we do not live together, which is also a bonus). Good luck to all of you that are trying to be with an Aries. Bottom line is he won’t bend too much to meet your emotional needs, so if you want to be coddled and worshipped, an Aries man is not the one for you.
Kat, what i read about oy and your aries man described perfectly me and my ex i dated alot of aries men the thing is they always fall for me :S although i am not that pretty anyways one of them is still attached to me but i cheated on him with another aries guy i am a libra btw and gemini and libras i guess they have similarity i get along reaaaallllyy well with geminis plus i think the gemini girls r seriously good looking more than libras and ur fun to hang around with and i like to talk a lot so as my gemini friends anyways back to the point lol yea thi s aries guy is crazy about me i amnot to him but my other ex who is an aries and he dumped me is not attached to me and the thing is I am madly in love with the one who isnt attched to me and teh other one is just ehhh i dont have feelings for him why should i be with him and ppl tell me to move on about my ex who is not attcahed to me but i might say what u AND ur aries man have thats what me an dmy ex had i never felt so comftrable so naked around my ex he feels my inner soul and knows how i feel and i love the fact that he is caring but sadly he ended due of my negativity and selfishness. I am living my life now without him dateed other signs the earh signs r not getting along with me there not that hyper or energetic dont knw why. so i am still in search of anew fellow male but i know this would sound cheesy if i had one wish i would say go back and fix things with my ex becuz we r compatible i dont knw why he said we rnt. if u dont mind me asking do u knw how to change their minds cuz ama libra and am suppose to know how to persuasve people to join me or do somthing but frankly i f***ing dont know :S??!! am so weird -.-
Ladies, do what I did. Being a cappy I took my revenge on the taurus who had venus in aries. He did dump me for another one. All two months he chased me like crazy despite the fact I was extremely resistant. He said I love you and I kept quiet. But kept dating him. Suddenly he stopped calling. But one morning he did just to tell me he could not be with me anymore and that he was interested in someone else. So this is what I did. I gave him the clue in the email that I was not gone. You know being a cappy makes me a methodical backstabber. So I wrote a “sentimental” email telling him that I would be there for him always. There was no reply to it, but I knew I got hold of his brain and that he would come back. But I didnt wait. I got into a relationship with someone new. After three months, I get a text msg from the guy which went something like how are you sweetheart? hoping to see you soon. I responded to it “dude i have fallen in love”. he thougth it was directed towards him. So he answered “whats his name darking”. I replied with “my boyfriend, please dont ever text me ever again”. But he again started chasing. And I knew what to do. I called up his mom and told her that he was harrassing me and if he didnt stop I would go to cop and file a report on him. Then of course there was a huge drama in their house. And here I lived happily ever after with my new man.
Hi all you hurt people out there.. I am at present in a relationship with an Aries man… have been for 7 months.. I have to admit that he is one of the nicest men I have been with.. please keep in my I am 60 and he is 63 does this make a difference I wonder? He is very considerate, and I hasten to add just because there is snow on the roof there is not fire in the grate… as a scorpio I am very passionate and meet his sexual needs head on… but we have never argued, we like doing exactly the same things, when I am away from him we miss each other like hell.. we walk side by side in our relationship there is not the slightest amount of stress.. so please can someone tell me is this a 1st?
Cjj-i am interested in an Aries man. how do i attract him? i feel like i’m dealing with myself. He doesn’t really initiate contact but when we see eachother; he is all over me. The attraction is there but i don’t know how to let it be more. Thanks! Ms. Aries
Most Aries describe my father (April 19)…but MY aries.. and he is MINE is Atypical, even if full on (7th Apr).
He has been so loyal, faithful and stoic he could be Lassie.
In our 20s he was a bit hard headed.. we had two major issues between us Marriage and kids. Not insurmountable. But two young Cardinal signs with a bone of contention and not ready for compromise. Some wacky ju-ju s*** went down in my family and he literally shipped me away and said he’d come get me later and I’d be safe. I was impatient, untrusting and when he was in poor contact for 30 days past the date he was to come for me? I totally angrily dumped him!
and stayed in a bizarre love triangle with two totally psychotic friends turned enemy for 22 years. One is a scary scary sociopath Gemini with OP, the other a self centered, man whore Capricorn manipulator. And My Aries has been calling me home every few years. This time… after a few loose ends are tied.. I am free to go.
He hasn’t been a monk.. but anytime we we were in contact he’d not see anyone.
I crushed his soul the first time I left, his friends all called me The Devil or “the ONE” when I returned on brief interlude. He didn’t date for years the first time and picked a total nutcase the second for similar appearance and name. I broke his heart 15 years ago when we tried to get together again and that time I didn’t return as promised.
I think they are slow to mature….. But PASSION? You guys musta been doin somethin wrong! Embrace in the surf like only people in the world, Carriage ride on impulse. Long talks. Long Walks. Muy Sympatico!
He is the patronomyic guy in charge of all his little buds that he takes care of and nurtures in place of a nuclear family. Not very ambitious but pays the bills. Quiet, mellow. I wonder what his natal chart holds? I never looked.
He fixated on ME. Obsessed with me.. and has waited for me (how about that for some ego bostin? LOL). My compromise would be to come now without the ring, not expect it and simply hope for it. But he waited 25 years… been my confidant, friend and rescuer. He finally won. I am am going to stop running except one more time…. TO him.
What did I do? I don’t know… he just was. And I adore him, always did. And I like him…
wow, I thought I was the only one! I’m a Sagittarius, moon in Aries and Venus in Virgo and my ex is Aries with moon in Sagittarius. He broke up with me 6 months ago to chase his ex gf… in another country. I still cant get my head around it, we were together for 3 yrs and he decides he was “in love w her first”. He will never fathom what it feels like to get this hurt. Because, in all reality, he is just too selfish and careless. Whats even more crazy is that hes told me hes miserable now bc he cant get her back…this is a girl he met on vacation once… what about loosing someone you were with three years?! lol Its like a really really bad joke, just sucks my heart was involved. Aries guys you are comedians when it comes to real love though you are lovable ppl.
at Libra jen thats great .. my brother is 6th of april and seems like his a one woman man..
as for me iv been waiting years and years for my aries to even have a go at a relationship as we are friends flirts the lot.. to be honest i used to work with him have had one sexual encounter with him and even though he says he wants mre he keeps me waiting we have a joke what another couple of yrs before we have sex aagain haha.. but someone did say to me you know its because he knows your there his always got you and thats why he doesn pursue.. which makes sense cos the times iv said im in a relationship he gets moody.. its funny how we only communicate by text or email the other day i said you know you should let me call you..he was like DO IT xx so i will im hoping i can seduce him more with my voice and conversation as i know he does love my voice.
i just know playing hard to get keeping them on there toes is a winner..i also think it depends on thier job enviroment they live in and how much female attension they are getting while single will depend on if they will settle or not .. but to many options they have to pick from. which means you have to stand out from the crowd. i have a funny feeling that when my mr aries is older he may regret not trying to have something proper with me.. or maybe im just self comforting haha xx
Well I just started dating a aries man I’m a sadge. So far so good.I’m not looking for anything serious but I do like him. I read cjj’s comments and I must say that I totally agree. I give him attention but I keep the ball in my court.
Wow! Not sure what to think after reading all that. I met this aries when we were in Jr high! We dated then and through some part of freshmen year of high school. He always seemed smitten with me then. We got ripped out of eachother’s lifes unexpectedly. We’ve recently met up again after more than 20 years! We had a great time. He seems shy now though, not self-centered. Still very good looking though so I don’t think I’ll have any trouble feeding his ego, (should that really be necessary) lol. He was sweet and passionate with his kisses, I even caught him staring at me from across the room. And he was eager to make a second date with just the two of us next time. I’m looking to take this very slow (if I take it at all) and now you ladies have me frightened, lol. I’m a Capricorn so I’m very rational which means I don’t go jumping in. But if it’s just the chase that intrigues, that means I’ll have his interest long enough for him to possibly grab mine then he’ll be on his way? Well, after kisses like that, I’m going to have to risk the 2nd meetup, lol. Eh, who ever really knows, right?
jj,
The staring at you accross the room thing…I had that for months on end. We still haven’t got past that stage really…he really plays hard to get! However, the other day, after months of saying he doesn’t read my txt and to delete his number, he has basically admitted to reading my txt. I had sent him a txt which admitted I din’t have control over my feelings for him and if it repulsed him, I was sorry. When I went to the cafe he works at the next day, all of a sudden all the music was light-hearted and meaningful romantic stuff. I was actually conducting a meeting with a group, then on comes “I can’t help falling in love with you”. You may say so what, but that is how we communicate a lot, by our music! The other thing is that the other staff don’t play that kinda stuff(: However, I am still not sure if he was stirring me up, or saying it from his heart…guess only he can answer that one. Aries, love them…attitude and all(:
Barb,
Sorry to hear that this man has you in such a state and that he seems to be playing games with you. But as you said, only he knows what his true intensions are. I’m going to hang on to my emotions and control for dear life, lol (wish me luck). Lets hope I don’t get too caught up. After reading further into Aries I discovered I was once involved with an Aries in the past. I did capture him in some sense. I was never emotionally involved therefore maybe I was just a challenge so he was able to fall in love and still is after years since our time together. So, apparently it’s true. Being aloof is the real secret in to these guys hearts. It’s quite possible that this current Aries is so intrigued as I was the “one that got away” all those years ago and now I explain to him that I’m not sure I’m interested in a relationship and whatever does happen has to be done slow and at my pace. But let’s hope for the best, as I am in no mood for head games and especially so when it comes to games of the heart.
hi again JJ,
I recall an Aries I did conquer in a short time when I was much younger, and he remained my best friend until he died…not sure how he died as I found his eulogy online. Anyway, it was a love at first sight thing with us, and we felt so comfortable together…he could dance really well too, which is important to me(: However, one night whilst I was working, another little blonde latched onto him. I later tore strips off him for making me feel cheap, and he told her to go away. We shared the best day of his life together on his birthday and called each other every year even after we both settled…he with wife and kids and I with child. He wanted to move to Australia to be with me for life, but our mail got lost due to my moving around and it was too late by time I got his request for sponsorship. I wish this other older Aries would be that straight-forward. He is very lonely and depressed, and afraid of failure, so I will be patient for a while longer as somehow feel he is my reason for being here and I am to teach him love…I believe in angels too(:
I’ve just started “dating” an Aries man. I’m a Taurus, and I know I should stay away. He really drives me crazy… He’s so sporatic and adventurous and I’m not. I am learning through him to become a little less retentive, and just let go. It’s really difficult, but I can see that he’s trying to calm down a lot for me too! We’re not really dating… it’s more of a sexual relationship. I have never been more satisfied in my entire life!!! The stamina is amazing, I have finally met my match between the sheets, and he actually tires ME out! I really don’t care for anything he has to say or talk about, he’s just absolutely gorgeous and I have told him that sometimes I just block him out and stare at him. I even tell him to shut-up and for some reason he loves how direct I can be. Some people might call it being a b*tch, but atleast I’m honest.
He’s been wanting to hang out with me… outside of his bedroom? pffft. I went along with it a few times, I don’t like being around him while he’s drunk because although I’m very patient, I just don’t have the tollerance for him. He gets really mean when he’s drinking too. Like worse than me! The other night a girl at the bar asked if he was my boyfriend and I said “no”. I don’t think I’m ugly, but this girl was gorgeous! After she heard this she was just dying to get his attention. I had to sing another set and was kind of nervous leaving him there to be charmed by this beautiful girl. (Taurus and their possessiveness)
Later in the night I was packing up to go and he was talking to her, I just thought that next time he calls I’m not even going to answer or I’ll tell him to forget my number. I said I was leaving and he followed me. I told him I was impressed that he didn’t want to stay with her, and he said he was disappointed that I didn’t say that he was my boyfriend. I just thought that me being 26 and him 36 that he wouldn’t appreciate those immature labels. I guess I shouldn’t assume :S
Our relationship has been a huge trial. I ignored him for two weeks, and then I finally answered. He calls me almost everyday. My problem is his ego, and when he withdraws, I think I’m doing a good enough job keeping him interested in me, and I have NO idea what it is. If I knew, I would enlighten you! How about being a huge b*tch to them?? I don’t know…
I’ve been away for awhile, well actually a long time after my hellacious time I had with an Aries man. I’m going to tell you all this: This is the only sign in the zodiac I believe that can make a female go to a message board and/or rely on psychic guides to cure the “broken heart”. There is something about their charismatic approach in the beginning that sends us into a tizzy. Then once we are reeled in the gratification we once had is all but gone. That’s what I found anyway. The man that I was seeing was a “ho”. Did I know this for a fact? Partly yes. Given the fact that I met him in September of 2009 and he was already in a relationship says alot. Yes I have already forgiven myself and have asked for forgiveness for getting involved with a man who was already taken. At first I believed I deserved what I got in the end, which was less phone calls, nearly non existent text messages. And the fact that I wouldn’t hear from him via text for 3-5 days at a time, could have given me a clue. But you know how we are.
With an Aries male it’s hard to be the one to breakup, I’m a Leo and that kind of responsibility doesn’t sit well with me especially if I hadn’t done anything to begin with. Ending it would feed his ego in my opinion. I believe he would feel that he had hurt me so much that I had to break it off because I was sooo hurt. So for the past 4 weeks I moarned this guy and he isn’t even worth it. I last saw him on Saturday and I hadn’t seen him prior to that for over 2 weeks. I lost 10lbs and am in the best shape of my life. I got some very good news about compensation from the military and never have to work again unless I really want to. His compensation is still pending and I believe he was very jealous of that initially. See one thing I never explained is that when we met I was not feeling very good about myself. I felt very down about who I was as a person. I got involved with him because I felt I had “lost it” in the love department somehow. He fed that craving I had, but his negativity towards me shown through. Each time he came over I would feel so bad when he left, like he was ripping more and more self esteem from me.
The last straw was Saturday when he saw me after a 3 week hiatus. I’m in shape and very slim, 5′4 1/2 and 114 lbs, and I’m 37 years old. He’s 6′1 and 260-270lbs and drinks alot. I have cut out all alcohol and began to eat well once I began purging him out of my system. The time I took brought out old demons I had to deal with one by one. I still find myself obsessing abit about what would have been, but with him, he’s on a quest to always get that feeling. The feeling he’s trying to acquire in my opinion is that “first love” feeling. It’s like a drug, and I believe he used me as a drug just like he used his alcohol. See what he wasn’t getting at home, he got with me but without all the extra responsibility of children and a “wife”. I was the female that did everything sexually, because I’ve always been adventurous to the max and I put all my cards out there for him and he shuffled until I couldn’t do it anymore. I couldn’t just have sex anymore without there being anything else, not a relationship perhaps, but respect and a little more admiration and adoration on his part. He wasn’t willing to give that because he does this all the time, chasing women. It’s his way. He’s moved onto another person, even though I’ve asked and got no answer I know the drill all too well.
What’s hard for me is that he will never own up and I will have to slowly just have to stop all communication, ending it verbally as I said before has it’s downfall with a person like him. The other thing that hurts is getting over the fact that I wasn’t “special” enough for this person, knowing that even though we had a sexual relationship he only viewed it as that, even though he used his words so well to keep me in it for his own selfish needs. That’s the part I have a hard time digesting daily. Also missing the sex we had is a difficult one but I know one day I will have someone who actually loves me and I know the feeling won’t leave me empty like this one did. That’s all it amounted to anyway. I’m healing myself day by day. That’s all I can do, because self love is better than a bastard that only see’s you as a means to acquire an orgasm or two.
okay i dates this aries dude and the real reason why he left me was becuz i didnt sleep with him :S and teh time that i finally was ready he dumped me :-/ and now i am with other guys who treat me like s*** and dont love me for me and i am still thinking about him and i want him althouhg he is leaving and the year is ending but he is coming back on jan 2011 just leaving for 5 months to south of england anwyas wht wuld i do to get him back i am a libra btw and we haven’t spoken after the breakup its been a year now since we rnt together but we see each other and i always dream of sleeping with him so how can i pursuave him to come back to me and we r together again and finally make him sleep with me i can sense that he is good in bed becuz he drives me crazy even if he kisses me no one ever does it the way he does it and i knw its weird i keep dreaming of him like sleeping with him so tempting. anyways suggestions please???? how to get back and do this ^_^
Hi Kat, glad you got your payout. Mine is close for a MVA…also getting hell from the Aries Dragon, but I think I may have finally got him back last night(: He keeps coming up to my place but never gets to the door…but does eavesdrop on my phone convos…which led to his nasty txt last night. I had txt him to ask the date of his birthday, as knew he was Aries Dragon, but forgot the date…oops! Anyway, it would appear I hit a chord…obviously fretting about turning 46yoa and txt back saying “delete my number f…wit or maybe send me your daughter’s”! Bastard! I told him she has a young live-in boyfriend and not into old guys…have you checked the mirror sober? I had also sent him a msg to say he could put his car in my carport out of the pending cyclone, and wasn’t being crass, but sincere as he has a nice car and no carport. So, I then txt him back saying “I offered you shelter for your car, not a toolbox for your too, you fool!” My female Aries mate thought it rocked!(: However, around 2am I had to just say this “You must really hate yourself to feel you have to be a c… to those who try to care for you. How sad for you”. I think that may get to him. He had been so nice earlier in the day, so I was expecting him to finally come up the steps and actually consummate our relationship…but he obviously stayed under the window and sent the txt as I smelt his cigs immediately it rang. I will let you all know if my bitchy txt pays off or not(: Itis new to me, as I am the Libran that likes to keep the peace at all costs…he is the only one that has ever reduced me to this, and yes, they really do make you go to astgrology and psychics…I hadn’t used them for 30 years! Now I use them daily, and religiously! I amusually a level-headed, intelligent and well-educated person…bugga!