How to make an Aries man obsessed with you

AriesWait … does the Aries man even get obsessed? He may have the ability to tune out all other stimuli to accomplish his goal, but that’s not obsession — it’s single-mindedness. If he really wants you, he’ll garner all his resources to capture you, but once he loses interest, you’ve lost.

The best way to extend his attention span is to fuel his competitive drive. Although I am not a fan of “games,” you may want to flirt with someone else at a party he’s at, if you already know he’s interested in you. Seeing you with another man will spark his instinctual urge to be Alpha Male, and he’ll want to beat out the other guy for your attentions.

In other words, play hard to get.

The venerable Bruce Springsteen (a Libra) once wrote that you can’t start a fire without a spark. I can’t help you there (although a tight red dress will turn him on!). You need to be distant enough to be a challenge, but not so unattainable that he’s easily distracted by the next pretty young thing that comes his way. The art of attraction is a Libran balancing act, and a tip of the scales in the wrong direction will send the whole contraption toppling to the floor.

Comment below: How have you kept an Aries man’s attention?

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Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.

Comments

  1. Finally youre back. I was wondering where you disapeared to so now I see you have
    been busy again meeting Men. Two Aries and a Leo very hot combination with three
    fire signs you must be burning up by now.???

    So you decided to settle for the Aries fellow whom doesn’t want children Hmmm I
    wonder why.???

    How old is he and where do you think this possible future relationship may lead.???

    I have been really good and how are you feeling now because last time you were
    on a real downer have they adjusted your medication.???

  2. Hahah yeh did I forget to mention the Gemini fellow lmao

    Lol yeh I wonder why? Hahah
    Where could it lead, dunno.. Maybe I should stop myself from liking him.
    I must find him pretty cute, I was telling my mum about him and showing her pictures lol.
    Um, I used have a crush on him at skool he’s a year or 2 older than me.
    I would have to wait and see if we meet up an see how it is.
    At the same time I really value his friendship and wouldn’t want to loose that.
    So just keeping being friends and wait and see if he asks me out again, and then see war happens.
    But ATM the moment I think hes the cutest thing.

    I’ve been so busy lately I havnt ha time to feel down.

    P.s and all those guys are just chasing me, no sexual activity! Thought I’d just make that clear lmao

    So u didn’t tell me how you have been?

  3. Yep so far I really like him :/ the last week, he’s been on my mind alot and the last day or 2 I get a smile from ear to ear.
    Ooooh no hahhaha I can’t stop thinking about him.
    Whoops! Lol
    But I guess it’s just all fantasy, cause I havnt seen him in person since skool..
    Facebook is evil, I can look at his pictures when ever which makes it worse.
    The last couple if weeks we have been speaking alot, somedays it been allay through messages..
    I think that’s way did it..
    I wasn’t that fussed when he asked me to dinner, I was just going for something to do..
    But if I said yes again it would be actually cause I’m interested..
    Oooooh no lol.. Yep I like him.. The more I think about it, so far I can say I really like him.
    Hahahhahaha
    Well things could be different in person. As my mum just said to me..
    All morning if been asking my mum way she thinks and showing her pics like I said.
    So yeh I must be really day dreaming about seeing him in person.
    He’s friends with alot and I mean alot if people I know, some of them I’m not that fussed over..
    So that for me is a major turnoff.. I can’t picture myself hanging out wit them.
    Maybe I should focus on that.. Cause as we all know, I get fixated and obsessed with things and people that are all a daydream.

  4. Oooooh but he’s so gorgeous mummy :) lol

  5. Sounds as though we have a new obsession on the horizon so your new name fits
    the bill.!!!

    You mean to say you haven’t met this Guy in person yet.???

    And you are already obsessing over him. Oh dear what am I going to do with you.???

    You are a real handful you know that.???

  6. Hahha yeh I know right???
    Lmao
    I have met him, but it was like 12 years ago lmao
    But yeh havnt met up with him. Lol :P

    Lock me up and throw away the key hahhaha

    All good in the hood : P

  7. Mummy, he asked me out :)
    But I’m declining. I don’t feel the best, and that drives Aries nuts anyways doesn’t it?
    Mmmmm he’s cute :)

  8. Can someone help me out here! I was recently told by an Aries they wanted to be single , as they had been in a relationship for 16 years , and couldn’t handle static! , and wanted to be free to sleep around if the need was there. I thought fair play it was direct to the point Harsh ! But said.

    we were shag buddies if you like but also great friends , which they claim has not changed but the love is not there. no official claim to dating although the Aries when out would go out their way to let all there friends know they were with me.Now thats good , and all, but now i gotta heal! i am cancer , and I now how it works between us two signs , I dated an Aries for 8n years, but they fly if you start to show signs of clingy or lacking excitement. so I agreed, but this bloody Aries keeps texting , etc, and I need time to heal they were the ones who wanted space…..And I never call or text , but this Aries is making out they are all happy things are great , but keeps asking me every few days hows things what you unto . tAsked me the other day if I wanted my top O said just post or give to charity Lol ! as a joke , then I said i would post beck the book , but got nope save post give it to me when we meet , or next time your round.
    I thought I thought those Aries wanted space, then I got asked when you back from your dads which is a 200 miles away .3 hours drive ., I just said will let you now , Aries reply When ….

    Guys what they hell is going on, I kinda like it but I need time to heal ,I went into this relationship having left another who was an emotional bully, had crazy sex with the Aries , but Aries doesn’t work , neither am i currently as I resigned due to bulling at work also. so we became static in each others company daily I even lived there for 3 weeks , so I knew it would kill the intensity, but now I am away from the Aries, I can feel the tension , even from so many miles I think of them and bang a message. I don’t want to be close not yet , because we will end up in the sack all the time…. because we draw each other like magnets, but
    I want stability , not casual , What should I do? And what is this Aries after.. It’s messing with my drive forward, although I am trying hard to stay on the (NC) No contact route. Till I feel no pain. HELP!

  9. It’s been 365 days, Ive been told that if u keep urself busy.. Thoughts of people disappear, in that time i started a job, started to study, started a sporting a a activity.. Been on holidays with friends, met loads of cute guys, had guys obsessed with me, I’ve had a relationship, and Stijl every day for 365 days I have thought about him.
    Possibly I’m crazy, possibly it because of Pluto, possibly it’s??
    Karma?

  10. @Smiles,

    Yes, definitely karma and /or pluto. I’m sorry hun, who is this guy anyway?

  11. @bliss
    Thank you so much for a reply
    He was just someone I couldn’t get out of my head, I felt like it was driving me insane…

    Just over a couple of weeks ago I met someone that has now over taken his obsession, this prob isn’t the best place to post this but I would really like your help if you would like to help me?? Please..

    I met someone that I felt so comfortable with and felt this strong magnetism towards them it was unbelievable,
    I did a chart and got this

    Sun Conjunction Sun 3.33 103
    Sun Conjunction Mercury 0.48 368
    Sun Sextile Uranus 0.07 104
    Mercury Square Jupiter 0.30 -163
    Venus Conjunction Venus 4.24 45
    Mars Conjunction Mars 2.29 24
    Mars Conjunction Neptune 0.04 114
    Jupiter Conjunction Mars 3.40 92
    Jupiter Conjunction Jupiter 0.23 128
    Saturn Conjunction Venus 0.38 136
    Saturn Conjunction Saturn 0.23 110
    Uranus Sextile Mercury 0.50 69
    Uranus Conjunction Uranus 0.08 99
    Neptune Conjunction Mars 2.28 86
    Neptune Conjunction Neptune 0.03 88
    Pluto Sextile Mars 0.05 63
    Pluto Conjunction Pluto 0.08 79

    me :
    Sun Libra 10.13
    Moon Capricorn 25.45
    Mercury Libra 4.23
    Venus Scorpio 9.17
    Mars Sagittarius 28.38
    Jupiter Capricorn 4.56
    Saturn Scorpio 14.35
    Uranus Sagittarius 10.26
    Neptune Sagittarius 28.49
    Pluto Scorpio 1.12
    Lilith Aries 3.02
    Asc node Taurus 28.24

    him:
    Sun Libra 14.09
    Moon Pisces 14.08
    Mercury Libra 11.31
    Venus Scorpio 14.10
    Mars Capricorn 1.23
    Jupiter Capricorn 5.22
    Saturn Scorpio 15.01
    Uranus Sagittarius 10.35
    Neptune Sagittarius 28.52
    Pluto Scorpio 1.21
    Lilith Aries 3.29
    Asc node Taurus 28.11

    What does this mean?
    Do 2 people with charts like this meet often?
    Is there nothing special about it? Or is it rare?

    Or was I ment to meet this person to take a look at myself?

    I’m at odds, cause I like him alot, and because I do want to come on too strong like I always do, I’ve taken hours to reply to a message, told him I liked him, then disappeared from his house at 5.30am with out saying good bye..
    And now we have lost decent communication,
    I don’t know how to fix it.
    When he txts he sends only a few words even when he has initiated the txt, and it just feels like a game.

    I’m dreaming about him everynight, wanting to ignore other males who are interested, which is not like me at all..

    I’m not quite sure what I’m asking,
    I want to send him a txt and say I miss him, but don’t want to chase,
    Can u see anything in the chart that will help be best approach him and how not to scare him off.. I tend to do this when I fall for people :-/
    And magnetize the ones im not interested in :(

    Thank you :)

  12. @bliss
    Thank you so much for a reply
    He was just someone I couldn’t get out of my head, I felt like it was driving me insane…

    Just over a couple of weeks ago I met someone that has now over taken his obsession, this prob isn’t the best place to post this but I would really like your help if you would like to help me?? Please..

    I met someone that I felt so comfortable with and felt this strong magnetism towards them it was unbelievable,
    I did a chart and got this

    Sun Conjunction Sun 3.33 103
    Sun Conjunction Mercury 0.48 368
    Sun Sextile Uranus 0.07 104
    Mercury Square Jupiter 0.30 -163
    Venus Conjunction Venus 4.24 45
    Mars Conjunction Mars 2.29 24
    Mars Conjunction Neptune 0.04 114
    Jupiter Conjunction Mars 3.40 92
    Jupiter Conjunction Jupiter 0.23 128
    Saturn Conjunction Venus 0.38 136
    Saturn Conjunction Saturn 0.23 110
    Uranus Sextile Mercury 0.50 69
    Uranus Conjunction Uranus 0.08 99
    Neptune Conjunction Mars 2.28 86
    Neptune Conjunction Neptune 0.03 88
    Pluto Sextile Mars 0.05 63
    Pluto Conjunction Pluto 0.08 79

    me :
    Sun Libra 10.13
    Moon Capricorn 25.45
    Mercury Libra 4.23
    Venus Scorpio 9.17
    Mars Sagittarius 28.38
    Jupiter Capricorn 4.56
    Saturn Scorpio 14.35
    Uranus Sagittarius 10.26
    Neptune Sagittarius 28.49
    Pluto Scorpio 1.12
    Lilith Aries 3.02
    Asc node Taurus 28.24

    him:
    Sun Libra 14.09
    Moon Pisces 14.08
    Mercury Libra 11.31
    Venus Scorpio 14.10
    Mars Capricorn 1.23
    Jupiter Capricorn 5.22
    Saturn Scorpio 15.01
    Uranus Sagittarius 10.35
    Neptune Sagittarius 28.52
    Pluto Scorpio 1.21
    Lilith Aries 3.29
    Asc node Taurus 28.11

    What does this mean?
    Do 2 people with charts like this meet often?
    Is there nothing special about it? Or is it rare?

    Or was I ment to meet this person to take a look at myself?

    I’m at odds, cause I like him alot, and because I do want to come on too strong like I always do, I’ve taken hours to reply to a message, told him I liked him, then disappeared from his house at 5.30am with out saying good bye..
    And now we have lost decent communication,
    I don’t know how to fix it.
    When he txts he sends only a few words even when he has initiated the txt, and it just feels like a game.

    I’m dreaming about him everynight, wanting to ignore other males who are interested, which is not like me at all..

    I’m not quite sure what I’m asking,
    I want to send him a txt and say I miss him, but don’t want to chase,
    Can u see anything in the chart that will help be best approach him and how not to scare him off.. I tend to do this when I fall for people :-/
    And magnetize the ones im not interested in

    Thank you :)

  13. I like this aries with venus in pisces 29 degrees and his mercury is 21 degrees in pisces moon in libra. He is so kind and nice however, he does have that cockiness in him, but i dont mind that cockiness cuz i like it but I noticed he gives me attention and when he is with other girls he is normal genuine we do go for dinner or drinks but I noticed when my friend was around he was a bit quiet and weird but when she wasnt there he is all happy and funny as usual. The thing is I know aries guys are always the initiatives whtever there venus sign but this guy we r not living in the same city he has work and his social life I looked his chart up he seems so detach about relationship as if he has problems with himself he wants freedom and at the same time wants to be loved. Anyways, I know when he was at uni he had a gf didnt last long she was a gemini and she was tall blond and unattractive but he fall for him cuz she had this dreamy attitude like a mermaid. and i noticed he liked this asian girl she seems so dreamy and skinny tall I feel so bad cuz i like him and am not that skinny or tall am maybe consider as short to average (160 cm) and am not blond am brown eyes and light brown hir libra sun and ascendnt and mars all in first house with venus in scopio 28 degrees and merceury in virgo 26 degrees my chart get along with his I know why i am attrcated to him its all there but the thing is I do not know if he is into me cuz he isnt giving me any initiation the only thing he did was texting me on my birthday, wishing me a happy birthday with a smile :). and i was expecting him to say it on facebook but he didnt surprisngly O_o I knw am analysing a lot its just I cant help it am so into him and no matter who i meet or anyone he pops on my mind :/ whtever. I hate when i am helplessly head over heels on ay guy i truely like, I just liek the eneregy flow between me and him its beautiful I also notice he keeps the conversation going when i stop talking lol and he does find me enigmatic he says lol. anyways I just hope something happens I miss being in a relationship. I been single for a year and a half and its driving me crazy its so true that we libra cannot live alone we feel incomplete without love -.- i think i am cursed lol

  14. @Smiles,

    Those are a lot of conjunctions! Haven’t seen that before but I’m not an astrologer. What I have read about that is that it could be good but it’s a pretty strong aspect so it’s like a double-edged sword.
    Sun conj. Sun, Venus conj.Venus & Mars conj. Mars all show compatibility to an extent but sometimes it can be too much where you might get competitive with each other. Also, his mars in Capricorn will make him slower to act than your mars would like.

    There are no moon or venus aspects? A romantic relationship needs that but the rest is interesting and may be enough. His mars shares your moon which is good but I guess they don’t aspect. Your moons are in complimentary elements; earth & water. And your venus/mars the same.

    Your pluto conj and sextile are very tight. There is the culprit of obsession. Less than one degree plus all those conjunctions. Yeah, he’ll feel it too but doesn’t act on it right away like you might because of his mars in Cap. Reign yourself in and let him lead the way.

    That is a pretty insane synastry chart. Wonder how all those conjunctions will play out. Have faith!
    Keep us updated and remember patience my child! ;)

  15. @sara,

    Sounds like he likes you. Don’t compare yourself to other girls. He’s not with them now anyway and seems to light up when around you. Trust that and just be who you are. Aries with lots of Pisces or water in their charts can be quite shy (I have that too).

    You said you went out for dinner, did he ask you out or was it a group thing?

  16. thanks bliss :D

    “Your pluto conj and sextile are very tight. There is the culprit of obsession. Less than one degree plus all those conjunctions”

    my word I feel it…
    can I ask? what does less than one degree mean? does that mean a tight cause of obsession?

    I’m hoping he is feeling something too, I guess I will have to be patient like you say.. and back off and let him lead the way…
    I havent heard from him in 2 days and its killin me not to txt “sigh” . . . I have to learn to chill

    I will definatly keep you updated..

    when i see him its a tad bizzare how we mirror each other, we both start humming at the same time,
    tapping our feet at the same time, same way, our manurisims are very similar and in sync, i feel like im almost copyingg him, and freak out he may think i am.. very bizzare

    in bed, i have never felt anything like it, beyond beyond anythng i could describe..
    im way to immersed and addicted to thinking about about him, i need to take 10 deep breaths and perhaps just let go.. and wat eva will be will be? arrhhhh sigh…

    thanks for explaining our charts to me, it shed some light on hows hes slow to act, and makes sense our my sag mars is just wants to go gun ho..

    i hope he feels it too like you say :) i really do..

    “There are no moon or venus aspects? A romantic relationship needs that but the rest is interesting and may be enough.” i hope the other aspects is enough… time will only tell..

    thanks again :)

  17. p.s bliss,
    with the ““Your pluto conj and sextile are very tight. There is the culprit of obsession. Less than one degree plus all those conjunctions”

    is that just a feeling of obsession from my side? or would he feel it too??
    (is it bad, that im hoping he is?)
    I have this weird feeling like i have to prove to him, what he means to me? is there an aspect that predicts this? could he be feeling this way? and im picking up on that? is that the venus conj venus both in scorp?

    at first he was calling me a few times a day we were talking for hours, txting,
    through the night he was sending up to 4 txts saying he wanted me with him, i admitedly didnt reply on purpose, i guess i like the obsessivness and taking hours to reply, now hes doing it to me, i am suspecting? (as a tit for tat) can i fix this? or just bk off like you suggested?

    also at first when i went out he would ask,
    “so did you hook up”? is that a jealousy thing??

    one time after seeing him he said “so do your friends have friends you can hook up with”?
    is that a dickhead way to say im not interested? or a jealousy, interigation of wat i would say?

    when he says things like this I have got cut, and have replied with things like na i just hook up with my brothers mates, or go sit in a bar and let the guys come to me”..
    is it possible i have screwed up with this?
    or will he be like me and waiting for me to obsess over him?

    arrrhhh im lost in love…

    maybe all questions he can only answer… maybe hes just playing the game

    i feel like a lost little puppie >_< just his voice sends chills down my spine :)

    thanks bliss :)

  18. @ bliss

    No it as just me and him alone. it started cuz i initiate the convrsation on fb and i didnt mention meeting up he mentioned it and we did meet up but he spontaneously decided dinner but i didnt eat and he just paid for my drink lol how nic of him and he walked the tube with me however i have not mentioned him walking with me and he hugged me when he saw me and also in the end of the tube he hugged me befire i went to my destination I wish we kissd but he has this habbit of not texting me or calling me or nothing after anythng :/ that is why i feel oh maybe he doesnt like me. and today i texted him cuz i wanna see him next weekend I just miss him and cant stop thinking bout him O_O am going nuts lol.

    ru guys into art cuz he seems as he is into music and he was insisting to see my lyrics or hearany music I made i tol him its private but he wants to see it and i also notice he remember everything do u have that too like every little silly detail ? cuz i am like that but i always play dumb that i dont remember so people dnt think am a stalker or something lol.

  19. @Smiles,

    He’s feeling it but mars in Cap won’t trust it as fast as you. Plus his venus in Scorpio love having the upper hand so the more you delay going after him, the better. They are also very jealous so saying you’d hook up with whoever isnt good. I mean, don’t you feel the same way? He needs to be yours 100% or forget it.

    Anything less than 3 degrees is considered fairly tight in that it’s a stronger felt aspect for both of you.

    @Sara,

    Open up to him. Aries with water are very creative and love that in other person. Share what you can with him so he’ll feel closer to you. That opens them up and creates intimacy which can lead to better things ;) If you want him in your life, you have to let him in.

  20. @Bliss
    thank you so much you are an angel

    oooh I hope i didnt cut him too much :(

    ooooh waiting I hate waiting :-/ it makes me feel like, i dunno,wrestless.. edgey

    thanks for explaining the degree’s etc, it kinds calms my wrestlessness..

    if only our charts could tell me how long i have to wait lol..

    mwa Xx

  21. @ bliss

    I have a problem in opening up to any man I did once and he made fun of me and made me feel as I am pathetic and a loser, too emotional and he said that i was too fragile that was so mean and from there i taught my self never open up that deeply to any man in a relationship. however, with this aries i feel i wanna open up but he isnt my boyfriend yet so lol I dont open it just talk and share things with him but not the deep things and I dont also show him my music am too shy althoguh he asks for it lol many times!! I just wish he would ask me out becuz heis tiring me :( I feel like I want to explode he is replying to my texts but I wish he would ask me out ALREADY, you can till am very impateint i blame the first house mars -.- although its a libra lol. Thanks bliss for the advice ;)!! intimacy I like that!! venus in scorpio :D we love intimacy

  22. @Sara,

    I’m so sorry that a jerk hurt you. It wouldn’t be bad if you told this Aries your past experience and why it’s hard for you to open up. Because right now, he thinks it’s him and that you don’t like him enough to let him in your life. We can never avoid pain when it comes to relationships. We will get hurt but the key is to learn from it. If we go around never opening up, we will never have anything because that person who wants to get to know you is scared too, believe me, and then they won’t open up.

    The key is to be strong and always be yourself no matter the criticism. If you are an artist that is the first thing you learn. Some people just get what you’re doing and others won’t. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you but by holding back, you are letting that first bad experience hold you back from being happy and that jerk should never have that much control over your life.

    Chose to be you no matter what and show it to everyone around you. The world needs more artists. Look, there are people who hate Picasso or Lady Gaga or Johnny Depp. They have had their share of critics and yet still keep going. Be strong in who you are and let your light shine!

  23. I am a Leo, ascending Scorpio, defending Libra, Venus & Mercury in Cancer

    I just went on a date with an Aries bloke. I don’t know his Ascending or descending unfortunately! :( So I don’t know the “traits” he was showing me “mixed” w/ the Aries personality…

    Here is the “sitch”
    We went out for drinks because we met online. I’m considered attractive & he was ALSO a fit bloke! We even both have “muscle” cars. lol (I have 2008 Shelby Mustang, he has 2011 Camero) says a little something about us, ya? ;)

    We went 4 drinks…couldn’t tell if he was “into” me. At times yes…then not sure.
    Yes…because he kept saying he will have another drink if I did & paid 4 it. But no, when we both had 2 move to another area of the pub, he didn’t take my hand or look behind him 2 c if I was right behind him. At times he looked nervous (which is a good sign. ;) ) but the lack of trying 2 hold my hand or snog me was confusing.

    Things that led me 2 believe he fancied me at LEAST a little…He wanted 2 continue the evening. We went 2 another pub & he again bought the drinks. After the pub closed, I asked if he wanted 2 hang out just a bit more at my flat. (I made SURE he understood my intentions were pure.) he said yes…came in & met my pets…played w/ them a bit but then said he had 2 get on w/in 20min. hhmm…
    BUT…them he said, “I like you…maybe we can hang out next weekend?”

    Totally confused at this point because he hasn’t tried 2 touch me all evening…I smiled, said sure. You’re very sweet & gave him a hug….inwhich THANKFULLY, because I didn’t know this was his sensitive “spot” at the time, I caressed the back of his head a bit & he got a good feel of my waist & hips ;D (I was wearing pants…sexy outfit but not tight!) I’m slender athletic…which I believe he likes.

    During the evening I asked & listened a lot about him but he kept pressing me 2 chat about myself. :P (I did) He seemed enamored that I care about others & don’t tolerate bullshit behaviour in relationships. He opened the car door for me every time we came 2 his car, I had photos of painting from a museum on my phone which he loved because he loves art as well & we both tend 2 get “engrossed” in paintings & forget those around us! lol When a guy guy came up 2 us & intruded on our convo…after awhile he had the nerve 2 tell him 2 get on, which I loved! And….I know he knows I wasn’t “glued” 2 get his attention…because when I went 2 the loo…I met this girl who was in plays & when we came close 2 the bar (he was 20ft away), I was engrossed in what she & I were chatting about & exchanging #’s. I almost want 2 say he had a smile on his face when I finally looked at him & walked towards him.

    He seems shy & said he IS…until he gets 2 know a girl. He has a hard time approaching girls (even though he’s PROPER FIT!) but once in a relationship…he can approach them & be “innocently flirty” because he says he not trying 2 REALLY chat them up.

    He also has asked his younger sister (2yrs) advise on how 2 “act”. (He wouldn’t tell me what she said of course. lol)

    I’m just confused on if he REALLY fancies me or was just being polite? It was REALLY hard 2 tell because again…he didn’t even try 2 touch my hand…but said he liked me & maybe we could get 2gether the following weekend? (this weekend but hasn’t called yet.)

    I’m actually dealing w/ ANOTHER Aries man & thankfully…without reading what you said…I have “naturally” been behaving as such & he is still interested. ;). But they BOTH seem 2 be SHY (yet cocky of course) & SLOOOW at communicating. IF…I make them wait…they seem 2 respond QUICKLY. But is that normal? Are they testing me 2 c if I will get impatient & go ahead & call them or pursue them?

    If this bloke that I JUST went out w/ DOESN’T call me by the weekend….could he be “testing” me 2 c if I will call him? And should I? My instincts say that IF I do….
    I wouldn’t do it until maybe the following week..maybe Wed. or Thurs. & since w both like galleries…I was thinking of mentioning a few exhibits I would like 2 c.

    Cheers & thanks! I was detailed on PURPOSE in hopes that would help give better advise. ;)

  24. I am a Leo, ascending Scorpio, defending Libra, Venus & Mercury in Cancer
    *
    I just went on a date with an Aries bloke. I don’t know his Ascending or descending unfortunately! :( So I don’t know the “traits” he was showing me “mixed” w/ the Aries personality…
    Here is the “sitch”
    We went out 4 drinks because we met online. I’m considered attractive & he was also a fit bloke! We even both have “muscle” cars. lol Says a little something about us, ya? ;)
    We went 4 drinks…couldn’t tell if he was “into” me. At times yes…then not sure.
    Yes: because he kept saying he will have another drink if I did & paid 4 it. No: when we both had 2 move to another area of the pub, he didn’t take my hand or look behind him 2 c if I was right behind him. At times he looked nervous (which is a good sign.) but the lack of trying 2 hold my hand or snog me was confusing.
    Things that led me 2 believe he fancied me at LEAST a little: He wanted 2 continue the evening. We went 2 another pub & he again bought the drinks. Pub closed & I asked if he wanted 2 hang out just a bit more at my flat. (I made SURE he understood my intentions were pure.) he said yes…came in & met my pets…played w/ them a bit but then said he had 2 get on w/in 20min.
    When leaving he said, “I like you…maybe we can hang out next weekend?”
    Totally confused because he hasn’t tried 2 touch me all evening…I smiled, said sure. You’re very sweet & gave him a hug….in which THANKFULLY, because I didn’t know this was his sensitive “spot” at the time, I caressed the back of his head a bit & he got a good feel of my waist & hips ;D (I was wearing pants…sexy outfit but not tight!) I’m slender athletic…which I believe he likes.
    During the evening I asked & listened a lot about him but he kept pressing me 2 chat about myself. :P (I did) He seemed enamored that I care about others & don’t tolerate crap behaviour in relationships. He opened the car door 4 me every time we came 2 his car, I had photos of painting from a museum on my phone which he loved because he loves art as well & we both tend 2 get “engrossed” in paintings & 4get those around us! lol When a gay guy came up 2 us & intruded on our convo…after awhile he had the nerve 2 tell him 2 get on, which I loved! And….I know he knows I wasn’t “glued” 2 get his attention…because when I went 2 the loo…I met this girl who was in plays & when we came close 2 the bar (he was 20ft away), I was engrossed in what she & I were chatting about & exchanging #’s. I almost want 2 say he had a smile on his face when I finally looked at him & walked towards him.
    He seems shy & said he IS…until he gets 2 know a girl. He has a hard time approaching girls but once in a relationship…he can approach them & be “innocently flirty” because he says he not trying 2 REALLY chat them up. He also has asked his younger sister (2yrs) advise on how 2 “act” or “look 4″. (He wouldn’t tell me what she said of course. lol)
    I’m just confused on if he REALLY fancies me or was just being polite?
    I’m actually dealing w/ ANOTHER Aries man & thankfully…without reading what you said…I have “naturally” been behaving as such & he is still interested. ;). But they BOTH seem 2 be SHY (yet cocky of course) & SLOOOW at communicating. IF…I make them wait…they seem 2 respond QUICKLY. But is that normal? Are they testing me 2 c if I will get impatient & go ahead & call them or pursue them?
    If this bloke that I JUST went out w/ DOESN’T call me by the weekend….could he be “testing” me 2 c if I will call him? And should I? My instincts say that IF I do….
    I wouldn’t do it until maybe the following week..maybe Wed. or Thurs. & since w both like galleries…I was thinking of mentioning a few exhibits I would like 2 c.
    Cheers & thanks! I was detailed on PURPOSE in hopes that would help give better advise. ;)

  25. I am a Leo, ascending Scorpio, defending Libra, Venus & Mercury in Cancer
    *
    I just went on a date with an Aries bloke. I don’t know his Ascending or descending unfortunately! :( So I don’t know the “traits” he was showing me “mixed” w/ the Aries personality…
    Here is the “sitch”
    We went out 4 drinks because we met online. I’m considered attractive & he was also a fit bloke! We even both have “muscle” cars. lol Says a little something about us, ya? ;)
    We went 4 drinks…couldn’t tell if he was “into” me. At times yes…then not sure.
    Yes: because he kept saying he will have another drink if I did & paid 4 it. No: when we both had 2 move to another area of the pub, he didn’t take my hand or look behind him 2 c if I was right behind him. At times he looked nervous (which is a good sign.) but the lack of trying 2 hold my hand or snog me was confusing.
    Things that led me 2 believe he fancied me at LEAST a little: He wanted 2 continue the evening. We went 2 another pub & he again bought the drinks. Pub closed & I asked if he wanted 2 hang out just a bit more at my flat. (I made SURE he understood my intentions were pure.) he said yes…came in & met my pets…played w/ them a bit but then said he had 2 get on w/in 20min.
    When leaving he said, “I like you…maybe we can hang out next weekend?”
    Totally confused because he hasn’t tried 2 touch me all evening…I smiled, said sure. You’re very sweet & gave him a hug….in which THANKFULLY, because I didn’t know this was his sensitive “spot” at the time, I caressed the back of his head a bit & he got a good feel of my waist & hips ;D (I was wearing pants…sexy outfit but not tight!) I’m slender athletic…which I believe he likes.
    During the evening I asked & listened a lot about him but he kept pressing me 2 chat about myself. :P (I did) He seemed enamored that I care about others & don’t tolerate crap behaviour in relationships. He opened the car door 4 me every time we came 2 his car, I had photos of painting from a museum on my phone which he loved because he loves art as well & we both tend 2 get “engrossed” in paintings & 4get those around us! lol When a gay guy came up 2 us & intruded on our convo…after awhile he had the nerve 2 tell him 2 get on, which I loved! And….I know he knows I wasn’t “glued” 2 get his attention…because when I went 2 the loo…I met this girl who was in plays & when we came close 2 the bar (he was 20ft away), I was engrossed in what she & I were chatting about & exchanging #’s. I almost want 2 say he had a smile on his face when I finally looked at him & walked towards him.
    He seems shy & said he IS…until he gets 2 know a girl. He has a hard time approaching girls but once in a relationship…he can approach them & be “innocently flirty” because he says he not trying 2 REALLY chat them up. He also has asked his younger sister (2yrs) advise on how 2 “act” or “look 4″. (He wouldn’t tell me what she said of course. lol)
    I’m just confused on if he REALLY fancies me or was just being polite?
    I’m actually dealing w/ ANOTHER Aries. They BOTH seem 2 be SHY (yet cocky of course) & SLOW at communicating. IF…I make them wait…they seem 2 respond QUICKLY. But is that normal? Are they testing me 2 c if I will get impatient & go ahead & call them or pursue them?
    If this bloke that I JUST went out w/ DOESN’T call me by the weekend….could he be “testing” me 2 c if I will call him? And should I? My instincts say that IF I do….
    I wouldn’t do it until maybe the following week..maybe Wed. or Thurs. & since w both like galleries…I was thinking of mentioning a few exhibits I would like 2 c.
    Cheers & thanks! I was detailed on PURPOSE in hopes that would help give better advise. ;)

  26. I am a Leo, ascending Scorpio, defending Libra, Venus & Mercury in Cancer
    *
    I just went on a date with an Aries bloke. I don’t know his Ascending or descending unfortunately! :( So I don’t know the “traits” he was showing me “mixed” w/ the Aries personality…
    Here is the “sitch”
    We went out 4 drinks because we met online. I’m considered attractive & he was also a fit bloke! We even both have “muscle” cars. lol Says a little something about us, ya? ;)
    We went 4 drinks…couldn’t tell if he was “into” me. At times yes…then not sure.
    Yes: because he kept saying he will have another drink if I did & paid 4 it. No: when we both had 2 move to another area of the pub, he didn’t take my hand or look behind him 2 c if I was right behind him. At times he looked nervous (which is a good sign.) but the lack of trying 2 hold my hand or snog me was confusing.
    Things that led me 2 believe he fancied me at LEAST a little: He wanted 2 continue the evening. We went 2 another pub & he again bought the drinks. Pub closed & I asked if he wanted 2 hang out just a bit more at my flat. (I made SURE he understood my intentions were pure.) he said yes…came in & met my pets…played w/ them a bit but then said he had 2 get on w/in 20min.
    When leaving he said, “I like you…maybe we can hang out next weekend?”
    Totally confused because he hasn’t tried 2 touch me all evening…I smiled, said sure. You’re very sweet & gave him a hug….in which THANKFULLY, because I didn’t know this was his sensitive “spot” at the time, I caressed the back of his head a bit & he got a good feel of my waist & hips ;D (I was wearing pants…sexy outfit but not tight!) I’m slender athletic…which I believe he likes.
    During the evening I asked & listened a lot about him but he kept pressing me 2 chat about myself. :P (I did) He seemed enamored that I care about others & don’t tolerate crap behaviour in relationships. He opened the car door 4 me every time we came 2 his car, I had photos of painting from a museum on my phone which he loved because he loves art as well & we both tend 2 get “engrossed” in paintings & 4get those around us! lol When a gay guy came up 2 us & intruded on our convo…after awhile he had the nerve 2 tell him 2 get on, which I loved! And….I know he knows I wasn’t “glued” 2 get his attention…because when I went 2 the loo…I met this girl who was in plays & when we came close 2 the bar (he was 20ft away), I was engrossed in what she & I were chatting about & exchanging #’s. I almost want 2 say he had a smile on his face when I finally looked at him & walked towards him.
    He seems shy & said he IS…until he gets 2 know a girl. He has a hard time approaching girls but once in a relationship…he can approach them & be “innocently flirty” because he says he not trying 2 REALLY chat them up. He also has asked his younger sister (2yrs) advise on how 2 “act”.
    I’m just confused on if he REALLY fancies me or was just being polite?
    He seems 2 be SHY & SLOW at communicating. IF…I make them wait…they seem 2 respond QUICKLY. But is that normal? Are they testing me 2 c if I will get impatient & go ahead & call them or pursue them?
    If this bloke that I JUST went out w/ DOESN’T call me by the weekend….could he be “testing” me 2 c if I will call him? And should I? My instincts say that IF I do….
    I wouldn’t do it until maybe the following week..maybe Wed. or Thurs. & since w both like galleries…I was thinking of mentioning a few exhibits I would like 2 c.
    Cheers & thanks! I was detailed on PURPOSE in hopes that would help give better advise. ;)

  27. I am a Leo, ascending Scorpio, defending Libra, Venus & Mercury in Cancer
    *
    I just went on a date with an Aries bloke. I don’t know his Ascending or descending unfortunately! :( So I don’t know the “traits” he was showing me “mixed” w/ the Aries personality…
    Here is the “sitch”
    We went out 4 drinks because we met online. I’m considered attractive & he was also a fit bloke! We even both have “muscle” cars. lol Says a little something about us, ya? ;)
    We went 4 drinks…couldn’t tell if he was “into” me. At times yes…then not sure.
    Yes: because he kept saying he will have another drink if I did & paid 4 it. No: when we both had 2 move to another area of the pub, he didn’t take my hand or look behind him 2 c if I was right behind him. At times he looked nervous (which is a good sign.) but the lack of trying 2 hold my hand or snog me was confusing.
    Things that led me 2 believe he fancied me at LEAST a little: He wanted 2 continue the evening. We went 2 another pub & he again bought the drinks. Pub closed & I asked if he wanted 2 hang out just a bit more at my flat. (I made SURE he understood my intentions were pure.) he said yes…came in & met my pets…played w/ them a bit but then said he had 2 get on w/in 20min.
    When leaving he said, “I like you…maybe we can hang out next weekend?”
    Totally confused because he hasn’t tried 2 touch me all evening…I smiled, said sure. You’re very sweet & gave him a hug….in which THANKFULLY, because I didn’t know this was his sensitive “spot” at the time, I caressed the back of his head a bit & he got a good feel of my waist & hips ;D (I was wearing pants…sexy outfit but not tight!) I’m slender athletic…which I believe he likes.
    During the evening I asked & listened a lot about him but he kept pressing me 2 chat about myself. :P (I did) He seemed enamored that I care about others & don’t tolerate crap behaviour in relationships. He opened the car door 4 me every time we came 2 his car, I had photos of painting from a museum on my phone which he loved because he loves art as well & we both tend 2 get “engrossed” in paintings & 4get those around us! lol When a gay guy came up 2 us & intruded on our convo…after awhile he had the nerve 2 tell him 2 get on, which I loved! And….I know he knows I wasn’t “glued” 2 get his attention…because when I went 2 the loo…I met this girl who was in plays & when we came close 2 the bar (he was 20ft away), I was engrossed in what she & I were chatting about I am a Leo, ascending Scorpio, defending Libra, Venus & Mercury in Cancer
    *
    I just went on a date with an Aries bloke. I don’t know his Ascending or descending unfortunately! :( So I don’t know the “traits” he was showing me “mixed” w/ the Aries personality…
    Here is the “sitch”
    We went out 4 drinks because we met online. I’m considered attractive & he was also a fit bloke! We even both have “muscle” cars. lol Says a little something about us, ya? ;)
    We went 4 drinks…couldn’t tell if he was “into” me. At times yes…then not sure.
    Yes: because he kept saying he will have another drink if I did & paid 4 it. No: when we both had 2 move to another area of the pub, he didn’t take my hand or look behind him 2 c if I was right behind him. At times he looked nervous (which is a good sign.) but the lack of trying 2 hold my hand or snog me was confusing.
    Things that led me 2 believe he fancied me at LEAST a little: He wanted 2 continue the evening. We went 2 another pub & he again bought the drinks. Pub closed & I asked if he wanted 2 hang out just a bit more at my flat. (I made SURE he understood my intentions were pure.) he said yes…came in & met my pets…played w/ them a bit but then said he had 2 get on w/in 20min.
    When leaving he said, “I like you…maybe we can hang out next weekend?”
    Totally confused because he hasn’t tried 2 touch me all evening…I smiled, said sure. You’re very sweet & gave him a hug….in which THANKFULLY, because I didn’t know this was his sensitive “spot” at the time, I caressed the back of his head a bit & he got a good feel of my waist & hips ;D (I was wearing pants…sexy outfit but not tight!) I’m slender athletic…which I believe he likes.
    During the evening I asked & listened a lot about him but he kept pressing me 2 chat about myself. :P (I did) He seemed enamored that I care about others & don’t tolerate crap behaviour in relationships. He opened the car door 4 me every time we came 2 his car, I had photos of painting from a museum on my phone which he loved because he loves art as well & we both tend 2 get “engrossed” in paintings & 4get those around us! lol When a gay guy came up 2 us & intruded on our convo…after awhile he had the nerve 2 tell him 2 get on, which I loved! And….I know he knows I wasn’t “glued” 2 get his attention…because when I went 2 the loo…I met this girl who was in plays & when we came close 2 the bar (he was 20ft away), I was engrossed in what she & I were chatting about & exchanging #’s. I almost want 2 say he had a smile on his face when I finally looked at him & walked towards him.
    He seems shy & said he IS…until he gets 2 know a girl. He has a hard time approaching girls but once in a relationship…he can approach them & be “innocently flirty” because he says he not trying 2 REALLY chat them up. He also has asked his younger sister (2yrs) advise on how 2 “act” or “look 4″. (He wouldn’t tell me what she said of course. lol)
    I’m just confused on if he REALLY fancies me or was just being polite?
    I’m actually dealing w/ ANOTHER Aries. They BOTH seem 2 be SHY (yet cocky of course) & SLOW at communicating. IF…I make them wait…they seem 2 respond QUICKLY. But is that normal? Are they testing me 2 c if I will get impatient & go ahead & call them or pursue them?
    If this bloke that I JUST went out w/ DOESN’T call me by the weekend….could he be “testing” me 2 c if I will call him? And should I? My instincts say that IF I do….
    I wouldn’t do it until maybe the following week..maybe Wed. or Thurs. & since w both like galleries…I was thinking of mentioning a few exhibits I would like 2 c.
    Cheers & thanks! I was detailed on PURPOSE in hopes that would help give better advise. ;)

    & exchanging #’s. I almost want 2 say he had a smile on his face when I finally looked at him & walked towards him.
    He seems shy & said he IS…until he gets 2 know a girl. He has a hard time approaching girls but once in a relationship…he can approach them & be “innocently flirty” because he says he not trying 2 REALLY chat them up. He also has asked his younger sister (2yrs) advise on how 2 “act”.
    I’m just confused on if he REALLY fancies me or was just being polite?
    He seems 2 be SHY & SLOW at communicating. IF…I make them wait…they seem 2 respond QUICKLY. But is that normal? Are they testing me 2 c if I will get impatient & go ahead & call them or pursue them?
    If this bloke that I JUST went out w/ DOESN’T call me by the weekend….could he be “testing” me 2 c if I will call him? And should I? My instincts say that IF I do….
    I wouldn’t do it until maybe the following week..maybe Wed. or Thurs. & since w both like galleries…I was thinking of mentioning a few exhibits I would like 2 c.
    Cheers & thanks! I was detailed on PURPOSE in hopes that would help give better advise. ;)

  28. Babyblue,

    First off, I apologize if this comes out wrong, but do you have much experience in dating? You went on one date with a guy and you’re questioning how the night went down. Sounds like it went down normally. If a guy professes he is shy, he’s very unlikely going to hold your hand on the first date. If another guy approaches into your conversation, as a man, he is going to give out “guy code” and tell the other guy to leave. If his sister told him to behave, he could have taken that literally. If he kept feeding you drinks… maybe he was trying to loosen you up. And as a first date – it’s a little presumptuous to invite a guy back to your house EVEN IF you make it clear you don’t have any intentions….. which is why he only stayed for 20 minutes or so. My guess is it was probably late, too. I think you’re reading into your date WAY TOO much.

    But, I’ll give you positives. I’m a little versed in Aries men. For starters, you talking to that girl was a plus. Means you can hold your own – Aries like that. You’re both intrigued by art – plus, Aries likes the arts. And yes, Aries are definitely polite. They’ll give a little, and you take it, but don’t give before them.

    And, I have to ask, why are these Aries men slow at communicating? What are the signals you’re giving off? And yes, Aries men can be cocky… and slightly controlling… but that’s much later. The Aries keywords are I AM. The mature ones try their best and are always looking for interesting ways to make money.

  29. Thanks 4 the response No-P!

    Again…sorry if my post…posted WAY TOO many times. ggrr!

    Writing details is hard….because it almost seems like your “frantic” or “desperate” because u can’t hear my voice & all the info is lumped 2gether. ;)

    I come across…hhmm…would feel better if someone else could tell me but I’ll say: Calm, happy, interested but independent. I give the bloke my attention but I can hold my own in conversation & like 2 chat about things of substance. (We Brits don’t shy away from “deep” talks. lol)

    Normally….I would say the evening went “normal” but maybe I have been in CA 2 long. ;) I’m just not use 2 a fit bloke not trying 2 brush my arm at least once. He seemed 2 relax as the night went on. He talked a bit more freely…So I guess I figured an attempt 2 hold my hand, touch my arm or a small snog at the end?

    The OTHER Aries man was a little more forward but yet still respectful. And I definitely “feel” & “see” the push & pull. Everything suggested 2 DO in a relationship w/ an Aries man with THIS Aries…I naturally just did & he is still interested.

    This new one is a little different obviously. Since I don’t naturally “play games” & pretty sincere in my actions…I’m just trying 2 figure it out. I don’t care 4 chasing blokes, so if he was trying 2 B polite…I’ll just be on my way..but I’ve noticed guys can need a little assurance? Ex: I give a text & that starts the ball rolling or an email.

    As 4 going 2 my flat…
    Isn’t that kind of normal if u 2 REALLY just would like 2 spend a little more time together & everything was closed? I guess I will have 2 keep that in mind.

  30. Hi guys,

    I finally got the aries man that I wanted but the thing is he is very odd he is not like others that I been with, he says he wants to take things slow :S . and he finds me a very nice girl and because we are nto in the same city so he is like thatis why he doesnt want to get into something or rush into something then baaaam I get hurt or he stops from seeing me, he said his previous relationships were soo ehh annoying some because the girls used ot get angery when he doesnt gvie them a call like twice a day or sees him every single day O_O i told him I am nto that type i give so much space lol I need my space too. He also said he would like to see me again and I just dont understand I know aries men they want you they want you this guys is tooo ehhh slow and shy and weird his kisses are so nto firy there cold and too soft O_o and he is too dreamy and soft and he i nto assertive at all. I actually asked him fi he likes someone or is there anyone on his mind he said no, because I am too busy, do nto have time for that (the selfish aries is poping) although his actions speaks differently because he was kissing me and touching me a lot. and when i asked him is this a one thing he said no. and he said he wants me to text me when i get home which i did. and teh enxt day eh texted me he had fun and he hope i had too, despite it was freezing cold. and now we r just sharing music on facebook. I just want to ask you girls out there is this normal why he wanst thinsg slow O_o am just in shock and I am very impatient he is tooo cold no fire at all :/ and does he like me or is he indisicive? his moon is in libra btw mine is capricorn lol

  31. If an Aries guy likes you, he’ll take it slow. That’s because when he is in love, it’s all consuming for him and he wants to know all of you first. He doesn’t want to blow it (as we easily can do) by moving too fast. And that’s a good thing girls. I don’t know why you need him to act like a pig around you to make you feel wanted. A good Aries man is very much the knight in shining armor.

    When it comes to love, Aries (men & women) have very idealistic visions of our ideal partner. An Aries man wants a strong yet feminine woman. He also likes a challenge and will treat the object of his affections in what is probably now considered, an old fashioned way.

  32. I found an Aries man that treated me like a princess. He’s amidst a divorce and really screwed up in the head. I don’t get this man. One minute i’m sitting on his lap and being told how beautiful I am, the next I’m being told he wants to see other people. I’m confused…..

  33. Aries men love to be surprised! They love the mysterious so don’t pour out you heart,mind and soul on the first date! Aries men want it all rolled in one, romance, passion mixed with plenty of excitement. Aries men get bored easily by routine day by day and the mundane.
    If you really want to capture his attention, be subtle, blow hot then cold, he will soon be chasing you!
    S.

  34. curious757 says:

    Poor Aries men, they’re born with the energy to fight, to conquer and to win, even to their detriment or fall. *fall in saturn* Then when they’re done, they are bored. They got to have constant stimulation.
    Someone has to keep these guys in line. Too much work.

  35. Single lIBR says:

    An Aries Man saw me at a party and said I was beautiful and that he could not stop looking at me, he dropped me home from a party, and immediatley added me on facebook. He never called after that, its been two days, what should I do? Libra girl.

  36. no thanks, dont be obsessed. wht not to do…

  37. Can someone help me in regards to understanding an Aries man? My ex-boyfriend and I met back in 2009 and at the time I was not really interested in him. He pursued me for a year and a half until we finally became romantically involved. Once we did, i had moved away for a job and after a few months I had returned. I returned because I had lost my job and of course during that time I couldn’t handle things and I broke up with him. We ended on really good terms and after a month we hung out together. A month after that we saw each other by chance in a different state and ended up spending the evening together. From there we ended up getting back together and were dating. After about 3 months he became extremely ill and ended up having surgery. It was a long recovery and I was not able to see him. Once he started to feel somewhat normal something happened and we/he saw me as a friend and no longer as a girlfriend. I told him I couldn’t continue to see him as I had wanted more and for me to move on I needed to break all ties with him. He contacted me 7 weeks later and we hungout again. He kept saying it was so great to spend time with me and mentioned it 5 times the first time we saw eachother. we hungout 1 more time after that and it was then that I followed up with an email saying I really couldn’t hangout with him anymore. Ok, so 5 weeks later he invites me out and says whenever he has tickets to concerts he always thinks of me first. He invited me to go to an event he was hosting and during that time, while we were only friends, he would look across the crowd and lock-in and smile at me as well as held my hand as we went to an event right after his party. At the event, I asked him if the girl who was buy herself was his girlfriend and while he tried to deny it, I called him out on it and said I saw you kiss her. As it turns out, his best-friend pulls me aside and says “Here is what happened. He didn’t find out that she was coming until the last minute and didn’t know what to do. He said he didn’t want to hurt me and his friend said why…Do you love her?” His answer was “no.” Why did the Aries man do this to me and why does he keep calling me back into his life?? I never deserved to be hurt the way he hurt me?

  38. Hi there! I’m a Pisces SUN MOON and a Cancer Rising venus is in aries. I met this Aries (i think he’s libra moon, cancer rising, taurus venus) guy in h.s., but I already had a bf at the time. We would flirt all the time in class, when i came into the room he would turn in his chair and just watch me waiting for the convo to start i guess. One day my bf was in class and we were talking steadily and we started to laugh at the same time it was like something clicked and the week before i was considering breaking up with my bf because he was abusive. my bf just glared at him and said he had to get back to his class. then the whole rest of the hour my aries guy didn’t look at me. so fast forward. i’m out of h.s. now and this guy is out of college (i didn’t go) we didn’t talk after h.s. and one day on fb we just started talking again and had done so for over a year. most of our conversations were great and he said that they were interesting. i was still going out with the same guy from h.s. so i asked him did he remember that day and he said that he did remember, but he wasn’t going to get in the way of a guy and his girl stuff like that. but then he would say stuff like gf bf relationships aren’t fully mature or quite as serious as marriage stuff like that. so we would talk a lot online and it was really fun and interesting. i was considering giving up my bf for good for this guy. he made me feel more confident, and i confided some of the stuff that was happening to him and he said that it could be overcome and that i was so intelligent and not to give up. so one day i sent him a bunch of compliments to test the waters and see if he was really interested or just flirting to stroke his ego. he sent me a message back thanking me for my opinions and informing me that he had a gf. so i said i was very happy for him and stuff. we talked a little bit after that and one day he sent me a message and i just ignored it cuz i was sad. but i didn’t let him know that. so a few weeks later he said that he hasnt heard from me in a while and would like to know how i’m doing and stuff. so i replied and he just ignored it and didn’t send anything back. so i messaged him asking him how he was doing and stuff and he would be very polite and answer my questions never really giving away anything. so one day i had a difficult time with some friends and he talked to me about it. he gave me his number and told him that i could call him when he was off work or just call if i needed to talk sometime. i never called him i just thanked him for his help cuz it helped everything. so then he checked on me again a few weeks later i would respond and then nothing. so then i would send him messages and he would reply. i broke up with my boyfriend i changed my status to single. i got a bunch of messages from a ton of other guys some were raunchy so i turned it back to into a relationship. i figured he would ask me about it so i could explain. but idk. did i do the wrong thing? is this guy interested in me or not? my friends say that he just went out with the other girl to make me jealous and it’s his first gf, she says that aries guys do that. but they look happy and he says she’s great and not like other girls, and he’s not really man whorish he’s a virgin and he seems sweet and caring. idk do i have a chance with him? should i even message him while he has a gf? i’ve really liked him ever since high school i just thought he was waay out of my league. he would say things like my wife would never do that when he was mentioning something i would do or something like that. but now that i’ve seen that he might just be slightly interested how do i get his attentions back so that he’ll give me a chance, or so that he’ll give me a chance in the future? please help i’m so confused and not really good at the whole dating game.

  39. I’m dating a Costa Rican aries man. He is 26 , I’m 38 Taurus women. I’ve never met him personally. Met him on FB. He sent me a request since June 15, 2013.Since then, due to communication issue we txt, video chat, email, call each others cell phones at least 4 or 5 times a week. When it rains a lot its very difficult. We last sometimes about a week without contact. By the 3rd eeek of txyn he proposed but I told him to slow down. By the 2 month he stopped talking to me for 10 days but he gave me the suprise that he got a work visa for Canada but is not going till January. He trust me and I trust him. We never fight. Flirt a lot , laugh, talk about the future together.No routine days. We respect and love each other very much. I’ve seen the past post and I want to know how I can spice it up and for him not to get bored ? He is used to me calling txtn first and I want him to do it. How can I do that ? I tried getting him jealous, but he only asks and doesnt go off or get upset with me at all.But I get confused bc he says he doesn’t want me to stop txtn or calling. He always sounds excited when I call. He always says he’s thinking of me and thinking when we are going to be together. He even says that he’s going to help me with my daughters so we can be in seaking terms. I just can’t believe a younger man I’ve never met , can make me feel loved and feel I’m the only one in the world for him.

  40. I’m dating a Costa Rican aries man. He is 26 , I’m 38 Taurus women. I’ve never met him personally. Met him on FB. He sent me a request since June 15, 2013.Since then, due to communication issue we txt, video chat, email, call each others cell phones at least 4 or 5 times a week. When it rains a lot its very difficult. We last sometimes about a week without contact. By the 3rd eeek of txyn he proposed but I told him to slow down. By the 2 month he stopped talking to me for 10 days but he gave me the suprise that he got a work visa for Canada but is not going till January. He trust me and I trust him. We never fight. Flirt a lot , laugh, talk about the future together.No routine days. We respect and love each other very much. I’ve seen the past post and I want to know how I can spice it up and for him not to get bored ? He is used to me calling txtn first and I want him to do it. How can I do that ? I tried getting him jealous, but he only asks and doesnt go off or get upset with me at all.But I get confused bc he says he doesn’t want me to stop txtn or calling. He always sounds excited when I call. He always says he’s thinking of me and thinking when we are going to be together. He even says that he’s going to help me with my daughters so we can be in seaking terms. I just can’t believe a younger man I’ve never met , can make me feel loved and feel I’m the only one in the world for him.

  41. aharrcoop3 says:

    To be honest, I don’t know what’s going on! We met a year ago and he’s carried the entire friendship on his terms until I got enough of that. I block his calls and texts and I never initiate. I refuse. When he texts if it’s about Sex then he gets ignored. I’m not playing games with him and I don’t have time for his crap. We are both in our 40′s with no children and both single. I supposed he wants to keep it that way forever but I don’t. I’ve been trying to shake him for the past 6 months but he calls me from another phone or whatever he has to do to keep contact. I don’t understand him. I don’t know what he wants with me if he won’t move further. I can’t possibly allow myself to fall for such a fickle nut case. He says he misses me. He won’t let go and he’s driving me batty. Insulting him hasn’t worked. We would be so good together if he would stop holding on so tightly to his own freedom. I feel like he’s afraid but of what? He’ll be mean to me one minute and yearn for me the next. Free me Aries!

  42. Wandagirl says:

    Pisces woman here. I’m engaged to an Aries man, which I never thought I would say.

    The trick with an Aries man, unfortunately, is: a) to make him compete for you, and b) be somewhat disinterested early on. If you are, he will be clamoring for a commitment. (More like banging down your door for a commitment.)

    I told my Aries man early on that I wasn’t looking for anything serious, and that I was seeing other men. I had recently gotten out of a soul-shaking relationship with a Scorp, and I really didn’t think that this sunny, happy man could compare to the depths I’d been to with a Scorp.

    I kept forgetting to respond to Aries texts and calls, and he just got more and more determined to win me over. Especially after I told him that I was casually dating other men. The Aries man started pulling out all the stops to ‘win’: flowers, romantic dates, calling all the time. Throughout our relationship, I’ve debated ending it several times, because of our personality differences, and every time it makes him more certain that he wants to be with me.

    So, yeah. Whether intentional or not, playing hard to get (and being a girl who men compete for) will definitely win your Aries man.

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