How to get a Cancer man to call
September 11, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
You’ve already established that adhering to gender role assignments in dating rituals is the way you want to go, so you’ve given up your power and are waiting for the Crab to pick up the phone. But he’s shy! You could be waiting, like, forever!
So what are you going to do? Use your feminine wiles to “manipulate” him into making the first move? What a great idea!
If you’re lucky, the Crab of your dreams has Venus in Gemini — how could there be a better planetary placement for seduction via the telephone? All you’ve got to do is give him your number and say, “Call me” with a sexy wink to inspire him to ring you the next day.
Otherwise, he may need some goading to get out from behind his shell. Fortunately, Cancer is a cardinal sign. It initiates. There are four cardinal signs: Aries pioneers, Libra mediates, Capricorn climbs … and Cancer wants you to meet his mother. So to get him motivated to act, it has to be in service to the Moon, his ruling planet. If you’re a single mom, tell him you’d love him to meet your kids. If he discussed how close he is with his sister, share that a party of three at brunch would be a great idea. Then tell him to call to set up a time. I know these are not the most erotic come-ons, but the fastest way to a Cancer man’s heart is through his family.
Unless you can cook.
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“If you’re lucky, the Crab of your dreams has Venus in Gemini”
-YEAH RIGHT!!! That means he will have all of the negative cancer s*** with him and be a cheater on top of that. A cheater, a liar and an irresponsible husband. Because- rest assured, whether or not he’s married to you- HE’S MARRIED.
All of you women with negative Cancer men: Check his chart. I bet you money he has Venus in Gemini.
I’ve always wondered why you never meet Cancer man Libra woman marriages. Who more then ever wants to be married then a a Libra woman? and Cancer men dont mind if your clingy, they cling too so why arnt there more crabs with scales in the wedding party? BTW not all Libras are social animals, some prefer to stay home with her man, so please dont tell me its the “social thing”
I usually don’t comment back, but I couldn’t help replying to BeautifulThings comment: YES!! my cancer man has his venus in gemini and he is nothing like the typical sterotype cancer. In fact, I think he is a real crab,but I being a cancer myself, am very attracted to him and he to me. Its definetly a love hate relationship. I don’t get us at times. We both are very reluctant to trust, but with his venus in gemini, he has the tendency not to be trusted. also has scorpio moon in his chart and we all know how secretive they are. Help!! lol
Oh btw..we have been doing this for two years now and seem like we can never progress. he’s either on or off with me and this always makes me wonder if when is “off” he’s with someone else and when he’s “on” with me, its because he’s lonely and know I am always there!!??? One minute he’s possesive of me and attentive and sweet and the next he’s cold and distant and mean. what’s up with that?
I think that Cancer guys apreciate communication, I remember my Dad telling my Mom all the time, “if you wanted flowers, hwy didnt you tell me” She took this as non romantic but I think he was genuinly trying to tell her that he needs reminders. My son is Cancer, he will kove mountains if you ask him. they arnt lazy or cold, they just need to know that what theyer doing is wanted or needed, also they are direct, when they want they ask, Im a Caridnal sign too, I get it. Bossy? oh yes, very bossy guys but the heart is in the right place and they will give you the shirt off their back if they know you need it. Ive seen tears come out of these guys because they get misunderstood. They want to please the ones they care about so much and get torn between sometimes. This is a guy that will tell you he thinks your behaving stupid one minute but tear a bear appart with his bare hands the next to save you
my issue seems to be that the cancer guy I’ve been dating is all about me but then I don’t hear from him for days I’m so lost I thought they were emotional and attentive and loving. Oddly I’m a virgo but I need all those things and when he is with me he IS that way when we are apart I feel like I’m not anywhere in his thoughts what am I doing wrong here?
wow i understand so much more thanks to these comments. i’m a gemini woman but i’m born on the cusp, gemini-cancer. and i’ve had an on and off relationship with a cancer male for 5 years ..and counting. and i just can’t figure him out, he never seems to let on that he is vulnerable or weak or even wrong, even though i know he’s feeling these things. we both have trust issues, but together, we are both just sitting around waiting for the other to take the plunge cause we are both so scared of making a wrong move or getting hurt. and even now, this is all speculation on my part, for all i know, he’s freaking fine, and simply doesn’t care enough. but conversely, i think that’s what he thinks of me, that i’m too flimsy and don’t care enough. but i only pretend to act calm and non chalant so i don’t end up blabbering like a baby, because the man drives me crazy, ..in a good way.
ARGH! soooo astrologically confused :p
I am an Aquarian and I wish I met each of you 7 months ago! I’m on round 3 with my Crab and while I’m lucky enough to keep him at arms length – at the same time – I have never had such difficulties with a friend before. I think my Miss Take was to believe in the intimacy between us. Oh, I believe he believed in it…I just believe he believes in it and actually FEELS something long after he has walked out the door. Amazing little speciman…I wonder when or if he will bother to contact me again. Good thing I’m not holding my breath. Thank you! Thank you everyone! I appreciate you sharing your very painful situations.
Why is it that every site I go to it’s the same thing. Girls as confused as the next one. Crabbybaby, are you dating my man? Same freaking chart.
Venus in Gemini but this guy although probably racking up the interests of every woman he can, is not involved with any of them. He drops them as soon as he has their attention and gets back occasionally to insure it’s still there…Makes it really confusing to try to figure out if you’re one of those but the distinguishing chharacteristic is if he’s dating or sleeping with you or better yet married to you.
Libra, I don’t know why that does’t work. The only Libra/Cancer pairing I have seen looked like 2 unhappy and stressed people. Both of them looked more solid when alone. Part of it is that I think she actually talked to him, alot. I think you gotta talk about other things but talking through problems is a waste of time. Seems you have to simply do what reminds him why he loves you…cook for him, have enjoyable conversations until he drops that revelation you haven’t heard yet (bingo—I trust her). Only speak up when it is necessary and make sure to express that you still care.
Crazyvirgo, you’re not doing anything wrong. That’s how they are. They make sane, unromantic women such as myself, insane..because they are a little bit…insane. I hate him, like, most of the time but I hate that I like him more than anyone else.
I’ve known him a long time and we used to be roommates so I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing him as both friend and love. He talked negatively about a girl he ended up dating and she told me he did the same to me. I beleive her. Cancers seem to suck, guys. I’m trying to figure out how to get off this roller coaster without breaking both legs.
Well, the funniest thing. My Cancer guy FINALLY wrote with an apology,quickly moved into conversation about sex…threesomes to be specific – how sensitive eh given he hadn’t seen me in months? Needless to say I was taken back a bit. Not to be out done, I pulled the conversation back to hey, can we just deal with sex between you and I? Suddenly, he called, left a message. I missed him, he called again and again until I had the mind set to return his call…this is all within the same day by-the-way. Ok. I was ready to chat, get to business…what does he say?. He tells me he is leaving for England forever…with his ex-wife and children…tomorrow…He claimed I was too much into him…fatal attraction like. Really? I never called him in his disappearing game, I never wrote, I never waited for him at his apartment…Anyway, as we spoke further he moved the conversation into trying to get a bootie call before his flight. AMAZING little specimen. He wants his space now he tells me. I hope you all are laughing. What’s a woman to do eh? I guess I should count my blessings…love and lost…I went through a lot of emotional pain with this man. He was very different. I hope he finds his happiness. I hope I’m not too messed up because of it…
Thanks for sharing your experiences everyone…I feel for your frustrations and sadness.
Hello Everyone!
I just started noticeing a Cancer man I think he is so cute but most all , from the little conversations I have had with him he seems to be a really nice man.
I would love for him to ask me out or ask me for my number! I dont see him that often only when he comes in as a client. Can anyone help me as to how to know if his interested or get him to ask me out or my number.
LMAO!!!! @ Beautifulthings…Im never going to bet you because for sure my now ex cancer guy has venus in gemini lol…He is also a cheater and a liar and for sure I cant turst him…He just woke up one day and said im done talkin to her and stop talkin to me completely…I swear I have no clue on why..I chased and and things to see whats going on and nothing…I now cant stand him and hate that I every meet him…I should have known from the first day of meeting him that he would be a person who I couldnt trust in a relationship anyways…O well life goes on.
Wow, I can almost believe it’s my Cancer guy everyone’s talking about. He too has Venus in Gemini, so have I but I’m Taurus Sun. We’ve been on-off for 16 years and he always comes back to me, the magic never dies and within 5 minutes it seems he’s turning the subject back to sex. Problem is he won’t let me go – he clings on tight with those claws of his and he often stalks me. I love him to bits but I’ve asked him to stop doing his boomerang thing, I want to move on. As soon as I try to get free he tries to tighten the emotional strings. My daughter thinks he loves me, but I think it’s just a power thing.
Ugh! CANCERS! They frustrate me to no end!I was after this one cancer guy for months, and he said he wanted to stay friends even though he ACTED interested. I’m a scorpio, and we would have been quite compatible. I finally gave up on him a week ago. Now the jackass keeps following me around. He never says anything to me, just watches. He tries to be sneaky, but his planets in saggitarius make him really bad at sneaking. I just ignore him. I’m trying to get myself a taurus now, no more emotional games 4 me!
The thing is Regenesis, I dunno if it’s that way with all Cancerians, but when you back off from them they can’t handle it. Just like a crab that man just can’t let go! I even tried scare tactics with mine – I poured out my heart to him recently, thinking at least if he knows exactly how I feel he might even run for his life – that would solve my problem straight away. Seems to have had the opposite effect, he loves how I feel about him and when I threaten not to see him he just says, ‘ah – but I thought you were nuts about me!’ or ‘yeah, but don’t I always come back to you in the end?’ Maybe he just wants me to think it’s only a sex thing so that he doesn’t have to show his real feelings? I’m tired of trying to work him out!
All girls above are right.
I have tried a few Cancer men, 4 maybe.
All failed in vain.
please don’t mess up with those guys anymore.
No good ending.
I have a deep liking for a cancerian guy..i love him like anything but i don’t know what does he thinks about me..what kind of feelings does he has for me..i am extremely confused….sometimes i feel i should make the first move ,tell him about my feelings and propose him..but the next moment i think dat how would he take all this and in any case he gotta hurt and even our friendship ends…m extremely confused….can anybody please tell me what should i do..??…should i propose him…how to know wat are his feelings..???
omg…I KNOW> I dated one on and off for 7 yrs…now I am in need of psychological help…..lol….seriously, he messed with my mind soo much….I have never hurt over another man like I have him in my life…..if I could do it over. I would have run when we met…..he is the most emotional, moody, self absorbed person….but on the flip side, when he is on his best behavior, he is awesome….only problem, KEEPING him happy…..I am finally starting to let go….he is now giving me the silent treatment….after yrs of obsessive clinging…..I DO not know what in the world to do to make things better…..I am so tired…..ugh……
Bless you Aymee. I do hope we can both start to heal now, just hope the rats don’t try to come back again. I just pity the girls who are still with them because these guys can lie and charm their way out of the electric chair! Even so, there are Cancer-men out there who are good, kind and loving, and I wish you every success in finding someone else to give you the love you deserve, whatever his star-sign.
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plzzz tell me..wat should i do…..plzzz guys help me out of this situation……
Thanks Marie~ I never knew another person could control my mind and emotions so much……When we started to have trouble, and he would start the silent treatments…..and cold shoulders…I seriously would have withdrawls….I cant believe I am saying that looking at it more clearly now…but its true, like I was hooked on a drug….I literally became depressed….hated myself….because after all I was being rejected….but now I pretty well know it was part of his game…..he had spent so many yrs….making me feel that NOONE, not even my family cared as much as he did, spent every day telling me how much he loved me…..so you can imagine how one would feel, when he went from hot to cold….and When I say he Messed with my mind…honestly that would be putting it lightly….He literally twisted it, tortured it, anything on those levels you could imagine….I am a pisces…. I am a major giver and pleaser…so I do take some responsibility as far as I should have stood up for myself and cared for myself more along time ago, but he is soooo clever….and such a charmer….when he wants to be, or knows there is a threat of losing something he wants…..I guess the thing I am still just in shock about is the fact that he will not tell me why, or will not admit that anything is actually wrong to this day…..lol….it has really been so exhausting trying to figure this man out……I started trying to let go about 6 months ago….but the problem is I live right beside him….so it makes it VERY difficult….when I started to think of myself and what I deserved….he started his pouting game…..He STOPPED calling me, and pretty much told me that if we were gonna talk that I WOULD have to be the one to call him…..and let me tell you, the times I would as soon as he would pick up the phone…by his voice I knew he wasnt happy, first thing that would come out of his mouth….WHY HAVENT YOU CALLED….I mean doesnt the phone ring 2 ways?????? and how did I know HE REALLY wanted me to call when he hardly called me…. Usually in a relationship u call they call….right???? Atleast it was that way for the first 5 yrs I knew him….so its still beyond me how it got to this…..HE WILL NOT TELL ME…He just expects me to know….I have seriously considered a shrink….no lie….to help me fight this addiction…..because why would a sane person, keep trying at something so dysfunctional…..maybe partly because the cancer man he is, he NEVER admits his wrong….in ANYTHING…..so I have taken it all upon myself….and thought IF I try harder…If I change…SURELY I DID something wrong to cause this…..:-(…….I dont know….this is an example of what he has dont to me mentally……I could NEVER string someone along, and NEVER give some kind of closure…..and speaking of “CLOSURE” about 9 months ago before I started backing off, I asked him straight out, to meet me so we could talk…and straighten things out…that I was miserable not knowing what was going on….he acted like “What are you talking about?”…..ugh…..and so then I simply said, well you obviously do not want to tell me…so atleast give me some kind of closure…so I can move on….his response: In an angry tone” WELL if thats what you want! its not me wanting that….It will be you ending this”……..omg…..but I knew, things werent the same…..weeks could go by and I would not hear from him…..what on earth????
All I know to this day is, we had a great relationship for 5 yrs….then almost a yr and a half to 2 yrs ago, he started the on and off thing….he is closer to his ex now because 2 yrs ago their 1st grandchild was born….he calls from time to time now and tells me he still loves me to think about us….(OKAY?) and then the off thing for wks….out of the blue….he will call and tell me to come to his house….we will have a GREAT time…things will start to feel normal…..and bam….the off thing AGAIN…..:-O…..If it could be solid for 5 yrs…without the on and off what in the world is happening….????Now their second grandchild was born 2 wks ago….so I figure it will only be worse between us…..because the only thing I can figure…..and I have done alot of that, is the family thing with cancer’s……maybe when his first grandchild was born he became confused….and torn between me and his family….I dont know….I just wish he would have had enough about him to just say it…..It would have been alot easier for me….and the fair thing of him to do…so I could just move on…….
Sincerely,
TIRED~
Aratrika…Good luck is all I know to tell you….I still dont know….and have been with the guy I spoke about for 7 yrs….At first….I let him pursue me….and he did majorly for 5 yrs….seemed that when I became closer to him….he pulled away…..thats my experience…..To be truthful, I just wish I had never met him sometimes…..cancer men are complicated…I have dated two others in my past….they were as well, their downsides tended to be very emotional, moody, and selfish…..just not as bad as the one above….
Aymee, he will use you as far as you’ll let him. It’s hard but he thinks you should always be there for him, but you have to break loose. I know my ex has been found out by the girlfriend I didn’t know he was back with (incidentally she has his child which originally he didn’t want) but I don’t expect it will be long before he thinks he can try knocking on my door again. She made him ring me, she was there when he told me (tearfully) to stop texting him as he was happy with his girlfriend and child. Then she spoke to me, and asked me not to contact him again. I explained that he was doing all the chasing (if she bothered to check his sent items she would know). I told her to ask him for the truth if he was capable of it and I wished her lots of luck – cos she’ll need it. We have to stand together Aymee, perhaps our cancer-men just had the wrong combination of planets for their own good.
Marie
xx
well…my bf knows dat i cnt cook…he compromises n hes great…treats me like a baby. he keeps slapping my booty whenever i talk against him….aahhh. it hurts
Just an interesting addition to this thread:
My Cancer man drew my attention to a couple of Albums by Yazoo (1980’s)knowing that I wouldn’t be able to resist listening to them. Many of the lyrics are consistently ‘watery’ especially ONLY YOU and DON’T GO. He often says things like ‘I don’t want us ever to end’ or ‘You’re my addiction’ which are echoed within the lyrics of these songs. I was curious to know a little about the song writer, Vince Clarke, feeling certain that he had to be a Cancerian. So I googled him and sure enough he was born 3rd July 1960.
Astrology can be pretty mind blowing stuff!
Hi!
I have a client that comes to my work once in a while, even if I dont help him he always makes small conversaton to me and will always say something to me before he leaves the store. I have a hugh crush on him and when I see him I get all red and nervous. One of my co-workers tells me to give him my business card but I get all nervous and I never do. I feel that if his interested he should make the first move! What do you guys think??? I want ot go out with him even thought I was so hurt by a Scorpio men before, I just want to be carefull. Can anyone one give me some advise? I very shy by nature. When he approaches I get worst!
Does anyone come on this site???? Or everyone is on the Scorpio site???
If anyone has an answer to my above question inregards to how to get a cancer man to call you please let me know or how can I go about it please help me.
Hi girls, I found this website a few months back and devoured everything in it cause i was seeing a cancer guy too. well, needless to say, i’ve never met ANYONE as complex as him before. He sent my psyche haywire. I’m a pisces too… which means I should be able to cope with him! Oh, and he also has venus in Gemini, AND mars in Libra… if that makes it any clearer.
contrary to everyone else here, he ALWAYS called me, we texted whenever we were apart and chatted late late into the night.
But the weird thing was, I never trusted him. he had girlfriends before me, and would always speak of them with respect. now, i’m not THAT jealous, but i know my own worth, and i found his so-called respect and fondness for the past as a little disrespective towards me. (oh, and for the record… we WERE planning to get engaged too). Anyways, I got him to open up about his relationships cause a girls gotta know right? I wanna know where i stand, and being a pisces, I hve an obsessive streak to me when it comes to matters of the heart. I need to know that a guy has put his past behind him. Turns out that he didn’t, or couldn’t, or woudln’t. I was also a bit uneasy of his facebook account. He had LOADS of friends and I spotted a fwe on there that didn’t look like friends at all. You know what i mean… women he slept with, found online, yadda yadda.
Anyway, after i got him to out about his relationships, in particular ONE girl who he said he fell in love with at work (he fell for her tears because she had just split up with her boyfriend). Anyway, this girl apparently cheated on him, and broke his heart, and the way he talked about it, was as if he would never ever forgive her. I felt sorry for him, and believed him, I even consoled him saying i would make it all right. He even went as far as calling her his ‘mistake’ and a stinking corpse (!).
But the very next day, I maanged to get onto his facebook account and lo and behold, what do i see ther?? The girl is STILL a so-called ‘friend’. Anyway, I laid into him (verbally of course) and being an Aries in Mars with a particularly nasty Saturn in Scorpio and Capricornian moon, he got the tongue-lashing of his life. He tried to say that he COULDN’T delete friends from facebook.
Being the computer savvy lady that i am, I instantly pulled up a guide and sent it to him. Needless to say, I degraded him pretty badly… but i DON’T like being lied to, and he was a terribly bad liar.
After this incident i told him to delete ALL other so called ex-girlfriends before i saw anymore. I warned him i wouldn’t be taken for a fool. If I show respect to a man and do everything to make him feel like ‘the one’, then i expect the same in return. After that night, i checked the next day and noticed 13 members were deleted. I felt good… but I just had a feeling that all was not right.
To cut a long story short, my senses were going crazy, telling me something isn’t right. Now, being a pisces, i do know the emotional blackmail/ manipulation game like the back of my hand too, and this was something we were both playing to the nth degree. i can’t tell you the secret, but i actually got him to hand over his facebook password. yup… that’s how good i am
and the very next night, when we were chatting on msn, i noticed his replies were getting slower. i knew he was messing around with something, so i said ‘if you;re busy, we’ll talk another time’. He said no, i’m talking with my cousin, anyway, i logged into his facebook account and saw that he was chatting to a woman from spain. he was telling her that she sholdn’t contact him on facebook anymore but to come over to msn from now on (no guesses as to why!) and proceeded to talk about how to spend the new year together. dates, flights, airlines.
yeah, you guessed it. it was his bit on the side, coming over to keep him company cause i wasn’t there. But what a way to get caught huh? beauitful, you couldn’t get any better than this.
Anyway, i decided it’s all over and i played my own game on him. i didn’t asnwer the phone for 3 days… i told my parents everything and they unhooked the house phone and they didn’t answer their mobile phones either. HE WENT NUTS!!!!! ABSOLUTELY CRAZY! I lved every minute of it. He realised i’d seen the messages in facebook and got scared that everyone in his town would know what he’d been up to. Anyway, everyone did find out, especially his mum and dad, and they hate him now.
I unmasked him, and now he won’t call… FOR GOOD. trust me… hurt them where there is family concerned and they will NEVER come knocking at your door again. Ruin their reputations, because they value that ABOVE everything else in life.
Wow. I am a scorpio girl who went out with a cancer guy a few times and he was so giving me mixed messages and he does have a Gemini in Venus too! Maybe it is good he has not called since the 4th date, but he confused me…but then like you all were saying was somehow not quite totally right. Like he told me a couple stories like he was talking about “friends”, but he was really telling me a story about himself! Weird! And I almost chewed him out when we talked briefly of Tiger Woods, as he said something like, what’s the big deal of him sleeping around…lots of people do it…and I was mad…and made me wonder if he thought that was ok. I have zero tolerance for cheating.
Anyway, it is interesting to see how appropriate astrology can be sometimes, as I can relate to you all. I was willing to give a lot to this man and we had an instant attraction, but he’s being flakey and I’m willing to give someone a chance up until a point, but maybe he is a little whacked out. And he has said a few other questionable comments or not being totally direct — like calling his condo a house and talking about his basement, when he doesn’t have one, unless he meant his mom’s place or his storage unit. I pay attention to details and don’t miss anything, so it is good to know that maybe it was a flaw on his part. A cancer guy sounds great though, normally.
Hi..So I have a few questions here I am beyond confused with this guy I met! We were friends about 5 years ago he and we quit talking cause he got back with the mother of his kids. Now it’s been 5 or 6 years and he ran into someone who knew me and asked for my number. He texted me everyday for a week straight told me things like I had the biggest crush on you and how he wanted to see me. He kept asking me over one Saturday night so I went well I ended up staying the night and of course we slept together..Not GOOD but we have always liked each other and it’s not like it was a one night stand! So on Superbowl I weny over there again which was the next day we watched the game with his friends and mine and he introucded me to his brother and wife that came over! I ended up staying the night again and he slept with me all night and never left my side nothing happend and I had to get up and leave to work! Well he just got divorced in August and his kids were there I am the first girl he has introucded his kids to! I think it may have freaked them out and I felt awful for it. So we had plans to go out the next Saturday and all week he barley texted meabck finally Friday night I said call me when you get a sec and he called me right away! Plans were still on and he had a babysitter! I went over there we went out and had a awesome night he bought me a dozen roses opended my door for me everything! He introcded me to some of his friends later that night and we had alot of fun! So we get back to his house and he starts freaking out saying his kids are not ready for this and all this other stuff! I end up staying the night and he cuddles me all night..He wakes up and says you need to leave soon cause my kids are coming I respect that so I say I will leave before they come. I told him he was being mean the night before he asks me what happend cause he was drunk I didn’t tell him I just said you were being mean. I leave his house he kissis me bye! I text him later say thanks for everything and he says the same suddleny the texts stop I don’t hear from him till Friday a week later and he says what up I am short and mean with him and thats cause the way he said what up was mean (not getting into that)..He asks why I am being so mean twice I say I am not texts stop! The next day I text and call to say sorry! No response! Then Monday he texts me out of the blue to hang out with him and his friend with one of mine I say no I don’t think so I have to work in the morning. I then ask him nicley I tried to call you and text you this weekend he said he tried to get ahold of me to but his phone is broke and not working right………I knew it was broke but that excuse is not going to work everytime! I decide to stay home and tell hiom if he wanst to hang out this weekend then lets do he never responded again! It’s been almost 2 days and still nothing!!!! What is going on here??? He is a cancer! This up and down s*** is crap is driving me crazy! Does he like me or not! I know he works night and has his kids on the weekends but you can still call or drop a text to someone! Is he scared that he is getting feelings or am I just a booty call!!! PLEASE HELP!!!! He has told me on texts he likes me and he always calls me fine ass and cutie it’s such mixed signals these cancers are a trip!!!
lovelylibra
OMG, all you have to do with a Cancer guy is show him that you think he’s great. They arn’t used to people giving them attention and it would make him want to be with you all the time if he thinks you like his thoughts, plans ideas etc. They love shy women btw, if you smile at him and blush he will love it!!!! They love pretending that they are less shy then you….Best way to break the ice? Ask him for advice, they need to be valued
“and Cancer wants you to meet his mother.”
Brilliant! As it happens, I met my husband’s parents and sister only 3 weeks after we’d been dating. And guess what – it isn’t just my husband that’s a Cancer, but also my mother-in-law. Spending too much time with the two of them, hubby and mother-in-law, can make mean ol’ Aries me feel like I’m wading through molasses!
Thankfully, I CAN cook, and very much enjoy doing it. We both do – it’s something we have come to bond over in time. But it hasn’t always been this way, haha… My husband and my first argument EVER when we’d been dating for just 10 days and it exploded in the kitchen. I was chopping onions for a risotto, to which he started instructing me on how to do it best in this benevolent paternal tone that I immediately identified as patronising (though now that I know him better, I realise that he’d never intended it that way, as he does actually have great respect for me and my way of doing things. He just can’t help himself, it’s his way of expressing his caring for someone!). So there I was chopping onions as I had done millions of times, while this guy peered over my shoulder and breathed on my neck offering unwanted advice on how to do it HIS way. Inflammable Aries that I am, I obviously had no patience whatsover for this kind of behaviour, so my Mercury-in-Aries hit back at him with the most sarcastic quip you can imagine. Saying he looked shocked and hurt by my reaction is an understatement! He indeed reacted like a crab retreating from a child poking a stick at it on the beach, or as I like to describe the look he has when you criticise him, he goes into “cornered rat” mode. But you know, my Aries pride had been bruised, as I’d actually intended to impress him with MY cooking! Thankfully, he has since never dared to criticise my cooking (it’s pretty good anyway, as it happens), nor has his mother, who is actually pretty intimidated by mean ol’ Aries me anyway.
So, onions. My first ever argument with the man who later became my husband and the father of my two children involved being competitive with one another on something as traditionally maternal as cooking!
Hi, LibraLady! Lovely to meet you here, too! I figured I’d overstayed my welcome on the Aqua board, so here I am posting on Cancer as well. What you say about Cancer men is very true: what’s your experience of them, apart from your son? I find that they like strong women as well, actually. I can be quite shy and vulnerable when I’m into someone and when it comes to making the first move with them, but in every other field in life I don’t come across as especially shy and can really seem like your typical chatty, ballsy Aries woman. I’ve noticed that more than a few Cancer men have responded well to this, both the emotional vulnerability in love and the warrior queen demeanour.
Throughout my life I find that the men I have tended to attract were: fellow Aries, Cancers (several), Aquarians (quite a few), and Sagittarians (never had one, though). Also, a couple of Pisces (but never had one) and Capricorns. On the other hand I fancied a Scorpio once, and though I was told he was very attracted to me back, he ended up running away from me when I started becoming more blatant about my feelings for him… I’ll never know why he ran away at the last minute! This happened eight years ago, soon after I had broken up with my Aqua ex and about 8-9 months before meeting the Cancer whom I would then marry.
When a Cancer man offers to do something for you, let them do it, then make them feel as if you really couldn’t have done without their help. They will beam with a growing confidence in their ability to win you over and be your devoted own forever – at least in my experience!
It’s nice to see that so many girls are as annoyed/addicted/agrivated by a cancer man. It’s nice to be able to relate.
I have known my Cancer for years, but there was something in the way. Now we’re becoming close “friends” as he likes to label it. I’m a Taurus and very sensitive and compassionate to him and his neediness. I love how he smothers me with attention.
He drives me crazy though. I am so in love with this crazy crab it’s rediculous. I always spend the night at his house, after he calls me late at night. No, it’s not a booty call because he wants to take things slow with me.
Slow with me?!? Apparently I’m the only one he has to be “slow” with, because one night while he was sleeping his cell phone was dying and the beep was really annoying. I went to turn it off, but curiosity got the best of me. I opened the phone to find numerous txts from a girl he claims he can’t stand. Saying how he wished she could come over that night, and how he loves the way she feels. I realised I was second choice.
Then, to make matters worse he invited me out to a concert where I had to cab and pay for the admission at the door costing me $50+ and I found out through his sister than our mutual friend took him home.
I am tired of trying to keep his attention. How can he want to keep everything so slow with me, but able to sleep around with other girls? How can he rant and rave on about our connection, then be so cold and distant from me. I want to give him up, I really do… I can’t.
I love this crazy bi-polar type of guy. I must be very sick and masochistic for him to continue to do this crap to me all the time.
I want all of his attention, or none and I don’t know how to grab any of it.