So what are you going to do? Use your feminine wiles to “manipulate” him into making the first move? What a great idea!
If you’re lucky, the Crab of your dreams has Venus in Gemini — how could there be a better planetary placement for seduction via the telephone? All you’ve got to do is give him your number and say, “Call me” with a sexy wink to inspire him to ring you the next day.
Otherwise, he may need some goading to get out from behind his shell. Fortunately, Cancer is a cardinal sign. It initiates. There are four cardinal signs: Aries pioneers, Libra mediates, Capricorn climbs … and Cancer wants you to meet his mother. So to get him motivated to act, it has to be in service to the Moon, his ruling planet. If you’re a single mom, tell him you’d love him to meet your kids. If he discussed how close he is with his sister, share that a party of three at brunch would be a great idea. Then tell him to call to set up a time. I know these are not the most erotic come-ons, but the fastest way to a Cancer man’s heart is through his family.
Unless you can cook.
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Hi everyone! I need help with my Cancer man. We met and fell in love 25 years ago and back then he was the one who broke up our relationship. I was hurt but i took it all in because I was very troubled back then. After 23 years we connected again on & off through chatting online (he’s now married with kids BTW). He was working overseas but when he came back for a vacation he asked me if I could meet him to talk and reminisce but I was so busy so we never had the chance then he left the country again. We again resumed on & off chatting online and emails. Then Sept last year he contacted me to tell me he was back in the country for good and wanted to meet up. At first I was hesitant but he was persistent so we met October last year. We had a good talk about our families, careers and whatever happened to us after our break-up. He said he wanted to see me again and I agreed to it.
I’ll be real honest, seeing him again kinda brought back my feelings for him but I know he’s now happily married (he constantly brags about how blessed he is). Then we came to a point where we had a chance to be intimate, he made a move but i told him that I’m not the same girl anymore. He took it lightly but said he still wanted to see me even if it was just for lunch or coffee. When I got home I emailed to ask him what is it that he wanted from me. He said he wanted to spend intimate times with me and reminisce but never said if he still loved me or wanted me back. Which took me by surprise because i know how much he loves his wife. I understood that what we had 25 years ago was pretty intense. I agreed to he wanted and we met every time he was in town. The first time we did it I asked him why and he said he was just curious how it would feel after so many years. In my mind, if he was just curious why did he wanted more time? After the second time we met, I felt he didn’t really trust me and I was hurt so I broke it off with him. He asked me a couple of time if I was sure if i wanted to stop seeing him I lied and told him yes.
When I got home I realized how stupid I was and I deeply regret what i did. So I texted him to say sorry and explain. He said he realized it was also unfair for me so its best that we end it. He even said you were the first one who said “goodbye” so its ok. I sent him a message saying that he must get over who I was 25 years ago and learn to trust me now cuz I’m a different person. If he can do that we can definitely pick-up where we left off. He has never replied positively since about our relationship though he still replies to my other messages.
I want my cancer man back but i dont want to be the first one to make a move like say that i want him back. I prefer that he says he wants me back. What do I do? Please help me with this I miss him so much even if we don’t see each other that often. Just the thought of him wanting me is enough.
Frustrated Aquarius:
Yes its me again, ok I thought I was doing really well…..you know getting on with the life and letting go of the cancerian but no he keeps appearing in my life.
First as previously said he sends me an invite on a social networking site in December but that was it no communication on there at all but its not like FB.
Then in January he sends me an email hoping I had a lovely Xmas and NY blah blah blah mainly pushing for my company to start work with his and yet he doesn’t need to contact me anymore as I’m in contact with his colleague its bizarre, I did send back an assertive email and said that I would update his colleague and I thought that would get rid of him but it didn’t he’s contacted me again, wanting to speak to me on the phone and I have purposely avoided talking to him on the phone because I can’t do it…hearing his voice again would wreck the amount of effort I have put into not fall for him, its been so hard, and very upsetting. I know he has noticed a change in my emails, they are not as friendly as I pretend I’m emailing someone else, he keeps asking if I’m ok…..I just don’t know what to do as I can’t say anything to anyone especially to him as I could make myself look ridiculous. I love the work I do but I’m wondering if I ask my manager to move projects then he’ll never need to contact me again.
CHARM! It a girls secret weapon to winning in almost everything. If a woman uses her charm to lure a man, whatever his zodiac may be, she already wins half the battle. If this is the case, then Cancer Men are an easy catch ,don’t you think so ladies?
Ok, I didn’t know where to post this question, but I understand that Cancers have difficulty letting go of their past. They hope the best for everyone… even those that hurt them. My question is….. how can I get my Cancer to let go of his past relationship with a certain ex f buddy? I know they remain in contact, and I’ve already expressed I’m not okay with it, but he hasn’t done anything about it. What are some ways I can really put my foot down on this or am I fighting a losing battle?
Someone please answer my question above
We’re now nearing the point of breaking up because this other woman have suddenly started posting public posts that indicate she’s doing something… with someone at least. And I’ve been blocked from my bf’s fb because I told him that I delete all my ex hookups and relationships and he said he would do the same 2 months ago and still hasn’t. I’m only concerned about one because I did meet her, shook her hand and introduced myself, she got the hint and offered not to keep in contact with him, but he said “no worries, if you need to get ahold of me do it on fb” and now he checks his fb every day whereas it’d be like twice a week. Yet, I don’t know if this is a battle worth fighting, but now he says we’re close to breaking up and blocked me because I stood up for integrity and honesty. I need so damn advice, pleaaaaase :/
ok… mmm i have known this cancer guy for 7 months (im a scorpio, november 6th, & his is July 22nd) ok so im dying to go out with him, we used to go to school together but he moved last month 7 hours from me but he still texts me every day, every morning and every night! i mean i love everytime he texts me he makes me happy & he wants to go out with me too but he thinks that just because he moved it’s not a good idea to have a relationship. But he still comes to town sometimes to visit his family & he comes & visits me, but i just think he’s too shy to ask me out. Please help i really like this guy. He knows how i feel & i know how he feels i just don;t understand why he’s shy with me…. i don’t know what to do.
Hi Heidi,
Are you perhaps confusing “FRIENDSHIP” with “ROMANTIC INTEREST”.???
They are very different but if you want him romantically you are viewing him through
different eyes then the way he views you as just a “FRIEND”. IF he really was interested
in more then a friendship he would have indicated to you that he wants you as more than
just a friend, especially after seven months so he maybe using the distance as an excuse.???
What does he say in his texts or anything else you two talk about which indicates or leads
you to think that he wants you in the same way which you obviously want him.???
He is not “SHY” when he texts you, comes to visit you and has told you that the reason he
does not want a relationship is because he moved, so why would he be “SHY” when it comes
to asking you to go out with him because he is interested in you not as just a “FRIEND” but
something more and beyond just “FRIENDSHIP”.???