How to get a Cancer man to call
September 11, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
You’ve already established that adhering to gender role assignments in dating rituals is the way you want to go, so you’ve given up your power and are waiting for the Crab to pick up the phone. But he’s shy! You could be waiting, like, forever!
So what are you going to do? Use your feminine wiles to “manipulate” him into making the first move? What a great idea!
If you’re lucky, the Crab of your dreams has Venus in Gemini — how could there be a better planetary placement for seduction via the telephone? All you’ve got to do is give him your number and say, “Call me” with a sexy wink to inspire him to ring you the next day.
Otherwise, he may need some goading to get out from behind his shell. Fortunately, Cancer is a cardinal sign. It initiates. There are four cardinal signs: Aries pioneers, Libra mediates, Capricorn climbs … and Cancer wants you to meet his mother. So to get him motivated to act, it has to be in service to the Moon, his ruling planet. If you’re a single mom, tell him you’d love him to meet your kids. If he discussed how close he is with his sister, share that a party of three at brunch would be a great idea. Then tell him to call to set up a time. I know these are not the most erotic come-ons, but the fastest way to a Cancer man’s heart is through his family.
Unless you can cook.
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“If you’re lucky, the Crab of your dreams has Venus in Gemini”
-YEAH RIGHT!!! That means he will have all of the negative cancer s*** with him and be a cheater on top of that. A cheater, a liar and an irresponsible husband. Because- rest assured, whether or not he’s married to you- HE’S MARRIED.
All of you women with negative Cancer men: Check his chart. I bet you money he has Venus in Gemini.
I’ve always wondered why you never meet Cancer man Libra woman marriages. Who more then ever wants to be married then a a Libra woman? and Cancer men dont mind if your clingy, they cling too so why arnt there more crabs with scales in the wedding party? BTW not all Libras are social animals, some prefer to stay home with her man, so please dont tell me its the “social thing”
I usually don’t comment back, but I couldn’t help replying to BeautifulThings comment: YES!! my cancer man has his venus in gemini and he is nothing like the typical sterotype cancer. In fact, I think he is a real crab,but I being a cancer myself, am very attracted to him and he to me. Its definetly a love hate relationship. I don’t get us at times. We both are very reluctant to trust, but with his venus in gemini, he has the tendency not to be trusted. also has scorpio moon in his chart and we all know how secretive they are. Help!! lol
Oh btw..we have been doing this for two years now and seem like we can never progress. he’s either on or off with me and this always makes me wonder if when is “off” he’s with someone else and when he’s “on” with me, its because he’s lonely and know I am always there!!??? One minute he’s possesive of me and attentive and sweet and the next he’s cold and distant and mean. what’s up with that?
I think that Cancer guys apreciate communication, I remember my Dad telling my Mom all the time, “if you wanted flowers, hwy didnt you tell me” She took this as non romantic but I think he was genuinly trying to tell her that he needs reminders. My son is Cancer, he will kove mountains if you ask him. they arnt lazy or cold, they just need to know that what theyer doing is wanted or needed, also they are direct, when they want they ask, Im a Caridnal sign too, I get it. Bossy? oh yes, very bossy guys but the heart is in the right place and they will give you the shirt off their back if they know you need it. Ive seen tears come out of these guys because they get misunderstood. They want to please the ones they care about so much and get torn between sometimes. This is a guy that will tell you he thinks your behaving stupid one minute but tear a bear appart with his bare hands the next to save you
my issue seems to be that the cancer guy I’ve been dating is all about me but then I don’t hear from him for days I’m so lost I thought they were emotional and attentive and loving. Oddly I’m a virgo but I need all those things and when he is with me he IS that way when we are apart I feel like I’m not anywhere in his thoughts what am I doing wrong here?
wow i understand so much more thanks to these comments. i’m a gemini woman but i’m born on the cusp, gemini-cancer. and i’ve had an on and off relationship with a cancer male for 5 years ..and counting. and i just can’t figure him out, he never seems to let on that he is vulnerable or weak or even wrong, even though i know he’s feeling these things. we both have trust issues, but together, we are both just sitting around waiting for the other to take the plunge cause we are both so scared of making a wrong move or getting hurt. and even now, this is all speculation on my part, for all i know, he’s freaking fine, and simply doesn’t care enough. but conversely, i think that’s what he thinks of me, that i’m too flimsy and don’t care enough. but i only pretend to act calm and non chalant so i don’t end up blabbering like a baby, because the man drives me crazy, ..in a good way.
ARGH! soooo astrologically confused :p