How do you know if a Virgo man does not love you anymore?
September 20, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
You know how excessive criticism from a partner makes you doubt that he loves you? Well, the opposite can run true if you’re with a Virgo. If he stops picking you apart, he doesn’t care enough to make you his improvement project. A Virgo dissects things in a quest to make them function more efficiently, and if he isn’t bothering to make you the best-running model he can … well, prepare for your pink slip.
On the other side of the spectrum, he may nitpick such minor details — that he had glossed over before because he was willing to live with a few of your flaws — that you feel every ounce of your being is under the microscope. It’s one thing to be told that a hair is out of place … it’s another to hear that the mole on your chin should be removed. When Virgo harps on aspects of yourself that cannot be changed without the help of surgery or a Scientology audit, you know he’s lost all affection for you.
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ive been with my virgo for a while now. we met back in middle school when we were 13, and he is now 20, im 19. im an aqaurius so first i play the man role whether he likes it or not. i may have my girly quirks which i guess thats a good thing. we havent always been together though, we have been very complicated at times. when we were younger we dated off and on all the time. and since…june 2007 we only broke up once, and he ended up with someone else. but that ended and he was shortly back on my ass. i read updates to see how he was and he was sooo in love and all that crap. but i saw pictures of him at that time and man did he look like someone killed his best friend. he claims he only wanted to piss me off and thats why he was with her, but considering im aware hes a pompous ass it seemed pretty likely. he hasnt lied to me before. hes the one who always remembers the anniversary’s, and when he screws up with me he makes up for it. and he has always nit picked a me and sometimes made me feel like s***, but i do it back so i guess that makes it even. i know were a good match but sometimes i wonder if he will lose interest. ill move on, i will live without him and he knows it, but we have a son together since december 10th 2009, and are also engaged to get married. i just dont need to get married to a guy who will not care anymore. though i doubt it, i have tried to walk away from us but he simply wont have it. does anyone else long term have any experience in this field. virgo can be so irritating and complicated but i honestly think they want someone to figure them out, but he would never let me know.
My computer is messed up so if you receive this message twice, my apologies. Just wanted to share the good news that he proposed on Christmas. Was not expecting at all. In fact, we argued before we left town.
I wanted to share to let you ladies know that it is possible to find the person you are suppose to be with, and that a man can mature into the person he is called to be. All this Virgo and sign bs aside, if he is truly meant to be with you, you will be together.
As he use to always say :IF ALL IT TOOK WAS LOVE TO BE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, WE WOULD BE TOGETHER. But it takes so much more. There has to be mautrity, trust, fidelity, and honesty. No matter what your sign is, be true to yourself and recognize when something is not working for you. Also, don’t be so willing to give up on someone because of their flaws.
One of the biggest lessons I learned from this process and from my Virgo, is patience. Be patient with others, but most of all your self. Don’t fall into the trap of putting up with crap bc you are in a rush to have a boyfriend or husband. Trust me, it will come when its suppose to.
Last thing, BE CAREFUL OF WHO YOU TELL YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS TO AND BE PICKY OF THE ADVICE YOU CHOOSE TO LISTEN TO. For me, it was not a magic trick or no one piece of advice that made our relationship grow. It is when I learned to let go and decided NOT to change him that everything worked out. Good luck ladies……any prayer does help!!!!!!!
I have just recently met my 1st Virgo man, almost 2 weeks ago. We had an instant connection. I could tell he was very shy and kind of awkward in his approach to me, but once we started talking, he seemed to relax and we hit it off. The next day he texted me many times literally begging me to come hang out and go to the movies…after some thought, I went… we had fun.. next day, texted me all day and asked me to hang out again ..I did, we had a great night. He was very sweet and kind, he told me how beautiful he thought I was, how he liked how easily I got along with all his friend’s, etc. We messed around a little, it was pretty hottt, even he said so.. He opened up some, told me about his past relationships, etc.
That week he continued to text and call me constantly everyday, telling me he was thinking about me, when can he see me again, and other things going on in his day/life. So we hung out again..we had a very low-key night, cooking and watching football with his roommates..It went great, or so I thought. The next day I sent him a message..didn’t hear back..so I tried again the next day..still nothing…and I am still waiting…now on day 4..is this normal?
Do I call him in a few days and casually ask if he wants to go grab a drink or something? Ok, so I am a Capricorn and I am a very patient person to an extent, but to have him ignore me when I send him messages…that’s just plain rude. Is he trying to play mind games? I am a very independent person and is not used to having to initiate and chase after a guy. But I really like him, haven’t had this connection in a long time.
I have read many books and websites on these Virgo men in the last week, so I am beginning to see that they can go from hot to cold, then back again to hot. Is this a constant thing with them, or do they evidently mellow out?
This is just a big change from the last guy I dated, an Aries (which did not work well), complete opposite from this Mr. Virgo. Anybody have advice on what to do?
Welcome to the club Cap1girl. Either prepare to be patient/frustrated/roller coaster ride drained or keep it moving. I have been so ready to throw in the towel on my cute little Virgo for the times he disappears, but then he shows back up like nothing is wrong and I melt. He always has an excuse, I’ve just grown tired of them. I have told him I don’t like being left hanging, just tell me the truth if you don’t want to see me, yadda, yadda, yadda and then he straightens up only to turn around and pull the same lame stunts. We don’t argue, we get along like two peas in a pod and the physical side of our relationship is heavenly (I’m starting to wonder if that’s why I put up with so much crap). But I can only take so much and have grown tired of treating someone with so much respect only to feel like my time and feelings don’t mean anything. If my plate weren’t so full I may be up for playing his game a bit longer, but that is not the case. We’ll see what happens when I drop the hammer on this. I’m not reaching back out to him…he will show back up at some point. Just like yours will
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Then Ladies why can’t you put all those men into a ringer and start to twist the ball. let us see who wins…beat them at their own game! or it si stupid to ask if he’s serious when he isn’t give a clue…
hello all. i am a pisces girl with a virgo man. ok i shall summarise.
i did something that broke his trust but now i really realised my mistake and want to change but his trust in me is no longer there. His ex lover has suddenly appear. He tell me tat he admit that he has feelings for her and think she is the best cause she didnt let him down and gave him good memory and she left is because she go back to her country. But he also say he still love me. I dunnno abt the girl’s horoscope.
note: Last time he used another girl’s name to piss me off but in the end he say he jus forcing me to change and he jus angry but he say he nv like the girl. This time, he tell me straight that dun misunderstand he not testing me.
just want to ask does anyone know how to gain back a virgo trust and make him love me as much as before? and from wat i say here, u think is he testing me again or he really still like the ex lover? anything that i can do to save our relationship?
seriously, he is the guy that i love alot , the love of my life, i cannot live without him. and all along i know is my mistake and willing to do anything to make up for everything. so please help me !
Pisces girl,
Lmao! Lmao! you’re so funny. Stop all those words that you can’t live without him and he is the love of your life…You look so needy dear. This is not a good sign for you to start reconnecting this virgo man. Be smart. You must boost your confidence. Now, if you broke his trust as long as you didn’t slept another guy then that would be fine…give him space and time to sort out things.
Seems the girl you’re pointing is” Me “lol. It’s just happened we have the same story. I win back my ex..He still loves me though he belong to someone else. It’s funny right, well, He knew from the start I never lied to him. When I did something wrong I always told him in an honest way…but we are too far since I have to left his country..but it’s nice to think that somebody loves me. We’re not the same nationality but we have all those confidence to enjoy each company.
lol interesting but i did lie to him and he say i have the intention to cheat him and by this i disrespect him but i DID NOT SLEEP WITH ANOTHER GUY. hmm but i scared i reveal too much details about the whole thing here ppl will notice it’s me lol so i say main points only
To Pisce Girl, I’am Virgo Woman and The Virgo Men and Women or very much alike but different, if u understand what i mean, The Virgo woman is alot more how can i put this Vicious”’ then the Virgo Man, All in All u asked how to gain our trust back, U cant becoz as a Virgo once the Trust level is dead im dead, its over… A virgo lives for Trust and if we cant trust you its a Head Funeral, which means in our minds its over, Now dont give me wrong we still may very well be Inlove with you from a Distance, A virgo will bend backwards and Frontwards but we wont Brake ever, and we forgive somethings, but TRUST we build our whole life around TRUST”,and Loyalty”… And once thats Broken we or Broken, It hurts us to have to disconnect ourselfs from the ones we truly Love, it does becoz we can become very distance, and can still be inlove with you… But we couldnt never come back its our Pride its sux but that a Virgo summed up in a Nutt Shell!!!
P.S. Move on,I still got love for my ex which is a Aries, When i say I was inlove wit my ex, OMG”’ u have no idea… But when i say its over its over!!!
and still can be friends with my ex…
Thanks for the advice aireezgirl. I will just be patient and if it happens, then so be it, but I am going to move on with my life. Funny thing, a guy that has been in my life on and off for the last 10 years just so happened to find me again 3 days ago on facebook. It has been 4 or so years now, which he told me he has tried to find me on a number of occasions, including calling 411. And I just found out he is also a Virgo. Weird!!!
We are both older now and at different stages of our life. Thanks everyone for the useful information and advice…good luck.
Looking back on our relationship, he was there one minute, then would disappear for a while. It didn’t bother me because I was focused on school at the time and wasn’t looking for a serious relationship. We are going out this week, so I will see how it goes
I going to thru the samething, my virgo disappears and then he shows back up, we have been seeing each other for a lease a year. He blew up my phone and ask to see me and I told him I would have to see him the next day, text him and called him with no reponse. During these times I will suggest that you take the time to work on yourself while he is away. Give them there space. One minute he telling me he enjoys spending time with me and the next is puff gone. My virgo is almost 50 yrs old so like aireezgirl says welcome to the club.