The worst way to break up with Aquarius
August 22, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Friendship can be more important to the Aquarius man than romance, so a breakup ending with, “And I never want to see you again!” can be particularly hard on the Water Bearer. And, although “Let’s stay friends” can be the salt on a wound to many others, the Aquarian will say, “Coolio!”
You see, the Aquarius man isn’t going to be as devastated by the ending of a relationship as those born under some other signs, so maintaining a friendship isn’t as painful for him. He’s not going to be jealous when you talk to other guys. He’s not going to pine for you and sing love ballads from outside your window.
As much as the Aquarian needs distance, he doesn’t want you cut off from his community. Speaking of which … another bad way of breaking up with an Aquarius is by creating subdivisions among his circle of friends. This egalitarian sign isn’t all too keen on group rifts, so don’t spread malicious half-truths or try to get the majority of your mutual friends to take sides with you. They ought to (according to Aquarius) be able to view the breakup with some perspective, respect the reasons for the demise of the relationship, and not get all emotional about it! It’s not like they slept with him — you did! — so why should they be all that invested?
Can’t we all just get along?
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I have been with an Aquarius guy (won’t dare to call him a man) for almost 2 years now. I am Sagittarius, scorpio rising, moon in aries, sag. venus, he is moon in leo, venus in capricorn, and taurus rising i believe.
He has left me 3 times. First time was for 4-5 days, second was about 2 hours, third was 1 hour. LOL.
I have just found out that the first time, he went out and slept with another girl, and then decided to call me back, and made sure i didnt find out.
UNTIL NOW, i have found out that he has lied to me SO MANY TIMES.
He got me pregnant this summer and STAYED AWAY, was so UNSUPPORTIVE i cannot even describe. Complete a******, he was with another girl while i was pregnant with his kid!!!!!!!
He is still lying to me and i know because i have proof, but keeps on telling me he is completely honest.
He has always been unaffectionate, it doesn’t even feel like he ever gives a sh*t about me, or anything i do.
He’s a DJ on top of that, and just got signed to a label, so now he’s walking around like he’s the center of the world and everyone should look up to him.
I AM STARTING TO HIM HIM
I thought this man was the love of my life, the deepest person, the only one who understands me. Turns out, he’s a lying sack of sh*t, who only wants sex and attention.
I am still with him because my stupid Scorpio rising and other factors make me so emotionally attached and co-dependant, but i am at the point of ending it.
Within the next week hopefully, this coward will know what
Alexandra
That is so sad, I almost cried when I read your post….I hope that you find someone else soon. Me too, I was so emotionally attached to my Aqua BF, he wasnt as cruel as yours, we hadnt gotten to the physical stage yet, but it still hurt when he left after asking me to marry him….I still love him but Ive waited so long for him now that its obvious that I need to move on. As for your situation, I hope that you have familly around to help, being a single mother myself (libra ex took off when kid was 4) I have been lucky to have so much support from my familly.. Dont let it wear you down, keep positive that baby will give you more love then any man will
This article helped me out so much. i have such a great friendship with my boyfriend (aquarious) and i was so scared that breaking up with him would ruin what we have. reading this made me more conifident on telling him how i feel. im a taurus and ive realized we are way too different for eachother. im excited to let him know how i feel tomorrow, without being scared he’s gonna snap at me. thanks
LibraLady and Christina,
Thank you and you related to my post.
Last week, I decided to tell him how I felt (I couldn’t hold the pain in any longer), and went over to his place.
He started crying… a lot. And told me that i’d never lose him and he’d always be here for me… and that we shared beautiful, simple memories…
I told him I didn’t want to be a memory but that something had to change…
I made it clear that I wasnt asking for him to be more emotional or affectionate, just for him to pay a little more attention to me.
Anyways, to make a long story short, i slept over, and we “slept” together, if you know what i mean…. I had to leave early the next morning for school, so we never really concluded anything.
Last time we spoke was thursday, we said we’d give everything some more thought and talk Today (Sunday).
Ive had the strongest urge to call him ever since i last spoke to him, because i know that that’s the worst thing to do with an aqua. They hate clingers!
So it’s almost 10pm, and I am still waiting to resolve this issue… I think I still want to be with him for some reason…
I haven’t been sleeping or eating and this guy is driving me nuts!!
Should I call??
ughhhh
I am dating an aquarious male, and care very much for and very attracted to him as well. He is one of the best lovers ive ever been with and brings out the best in my between the sheets. But other then that we dont have much in common and he is very distant and with drawn from me. he a hard man to love and is 100% aquarious. BUt all those traits that drive me crazy and baffle me,well theyre exactly what attracts me to him. BTW i am a scorpio!! so you can only imagine the differance is us
you know aquapiscescusp that was some really intuitive insight that now, has me thinking deeply of an aquarius in my life…
Actually, things like that can backfire. The Scorpio I was involved with has an Aquarius best friend, who moved into my building when he found out the me and the Scorpio. I had a feeling the potential for drama was very likely. Little did I know it was going to destroy my life.
Oddly enough the article above states that Aquarius hates this…
( creating subdivisions among his circle of friends. This egalitarian sign isn’t all too keen on group rifts, so don’t spread malicious half-truths or try to get the majority of your mutual friends to take sides with you. )
That is exactly what the Aquarius did to me. Turned out he is in the closet and possessive of the Scorpio. Being they were best friends, The S. was in denial of his A's feelings for him and chose to believe the lies and such. Its best to never create triangles or play games.
Alexandra….Was that aquarian a****** name Kevin. Because the mother effr did the same to me 4yrs ago. As you can see im a Sag. The rat bastard did me dirty while pregnant…hickies on the neck, woman harrassing me. He used to live with a woman the woman who harrassed me…he was even a walking STD CAMP. A piece of earthly scum s***. Cheater liar stealer every name in the book except a child of God. Low life indentity crisis illiterate scrum bag.
It’s preety simple…the WORST way to breakup with us is to kick us to the curb with no explanation. We are so analytical we hold on too long just so we can get clarity. We really hate to burn bridges. Ignore us in person or over the phone yikes …severe torture..my cap just did that to me…This only works is we have really taken a true liking to you, otherwise we are like…oh well!!! It’s all a mental game with us!
Haha or you could break up with us by showing our insecurities to us. For example: sometimes I have dreams with my man and a girl we know totally making out in front of me, acknowledging my presence, and not caring. As if to say “this girl is better than you”. Do that in real life…holy hell try and dodge my gunfire!
Alexandra
He tells everyone that he loves me, even his family. I guess I lucked out when I met him. He is amazing. My best friend, and I’ve done something that I’ve never done before, I’ve lost interest in other guys, I’ve never cheated but always had feelings for others anyways, this time that’s just not happening.
I know that feeling, once you love a guy like that no matter how bad things get part of you always wants him back. I got over mine but right now I’m in love with a different Aquarius man, its funny how they are so different from each other yet have the same Bday (dif years) The one I’m with now is clingy. He is worse then I am, When I cling to him he loves it. With him, I find our connection growing every day. It is so opposite then my previous relationship. I loved the other guy but I feel stronger for this one. I guess that’s how I got over the first, the new guy is more loving and around more. He has no problem with his emotions or displaying affection, even in public. After meeting a few of his friends and family I found out that he’s been treated badly by women since they could remember, he was always the one wondering where she went. Its nice to finally be with someone that knows how it feels to be left in the dust. He would never do that to anyone, and better, never to me
@LibraLady: don’t get too comfortable yet.You know, it’s there and it’s gone.Aqua always come on strong when they want you.After all, they’re Fixed sign like Scorp.The ability to obsess with their “current project”.Only time will tell him that you’re the “worthy project” to extend to an unlimited lenght of time.I knew a couple Aqua introduced their girlfriends to their family,all loving and adoring for like 5 or 6 years , then they just left one day, not a word, no explaination.
I hear so many different storys about Aquarian men….however they all seem tohave one thing in common, they all seem to come one strong and then out of no where it’s all gone.
Here’s what I’m going through at this time. About a month ago I met this (Aquarius) guy. We met on a dating site and it took a while before we agreed on finally meeting in person. Right from the start before we even met in person, he started calling me little petnames like “sweety” “beautiful” ect. After the frist few dates he texted me every single day…sometimes several times. In the morning…mid afternoon and before he went to sleep. We only talked about small stuff and eventhough I can’t stand small talk I had no problem with it. It made me feel good in a way. He was so sweet and basically treated me like I was the best girl he’s ever been with.
However…and here’s comes the part that throws me off completley…Since last week it’s like he transformed into someone else. After a month of dating him, I thought him and I are ready to have sex. I mean I went over to his house a few times and cuddled and things got really heated but nothing happened. So anyway..last week I went over his house again with the intention of having sex with my man. We cuddled, kissed and had tons of forplay and just as I was ready to take his boxers off and get it on with him, he looks at me and says “I’m just not ready for this yet”! I mean don’t get me wrong, the guy had a throbing, hard dick…..however he said he wasn’t ready. I was extremly confused and didn’t quite know what to think of it. After a while I just left and his last words were “I’ll talk to you tomorrow”. That night I noticed his demenior changing and I had a feeling something was up.
He didn’t call or text the next day and neither did I until Sunday morning. I had a feeling something was up and so I texted him several times until he finally responed. He said he was out of town on a business trip and won’t be until Tuesday. I mean WTF? It would have been nice to know….but I guess he decided to just leave and say nothing about it. I was pissed….and still am. I felt as though he’s not being truthful to me. I kept texting him and questioning him and he kept insisting over and over agian that there is nothing wrong and that everything’s and he’s just busy.
I’m not buying that and I think he’s full of S.H.I.T!!!
I found exactly mine situation in so many posts,..In the begining it was perfect,crazy in love,..amazing sex ..but with time he got distant,and it seems like he doesn’t care anymore,we don’t talk so much,like we dont have nothing in common anymore..and I’m taurus and really need to feel his love..and due to all these reasons- we broke up.and now I’m suffering so much,and he is as well and the thing is that he cares,but in his own way,and I need to decide whether to accept this or to move on..he’s just the way he is..so Aquarius
I have been dating an Aquarian man since 06 and we have had so many rollercoasters i cant even explain. But long story short-I am aquarian as well (whoa!) and this man asks me to come back home (traveling) sooner because he was horny and missed me, but then when I got intown that night, a woman was getting into his shower. He let me in and pretended that she was just a friend, shrugged his shoulders and bugged his eyes at me. He wouldn’t give me much of an explanation other than “he was helping someone out”. He said God wants us to help people!!!!!!!!!!! So two days after listening to him call me crazy and a complainer, I went to his house again with a bat and played baseball as I asked him at each break, for the truth. I also got the truth from the girl via phone and texted him after I destroyed his place right in front of him, the truth.
For almnost 2 weeks he ignored me, didn’t want to experience any of the pain and resentment I was feeling and even ignored me on Valentines Day.
3 days later he wanted to talk, of course I was even madder and emotional. More ignoring, then 3 days later he asked if I wanted to consider counseling. I think he is feeling pressure from his friends and family because his attitude is take it or leave it. And it’s like he wants to appease them and his desire to not completely burn bridges with me.
Should I go to counseling with him? I still love him but deep down I feel that this relationship would be miserable. I am not one to back down and because we are so much alike, he would have hell to pay as I would mimick his actions from now on. You give me love, you get it. You give me s***, I will turn you into fertilizer.
Help!! Counseling or Move the heck on?
Gee whiz. I’m in a new 3 month relationship with an Aquarius. So many of the posts sound so familiar, even the part about starting off so strong .
Has anyone on here had a good relationship with an Aquarius? I’ve read several posts and they are all on the not so good side.
I am a Scorpio and know I am not a good match for an Aquarius but when we met it was like love at first site. He seemed addicted to me and really stepped up. Called me several times a day… like clock work. We spent hours on the phone together each day and really got to know each other. We haven’t had sex yet because he said he’s looking for a wife and wants to know what’s left once you take sex out of the picture and said he wanted to court me. I’m glad I found this site. We recently had a pretty bad argument and I wondered why I felt like he wasn’t listing to me. He’s such a great guy but when I started to TALK about the issue, he said he didn’t have time to keep talking about it and walked away. The whole conversation lasted all of 30 seconds, lol. I got upset and told him I was only talking about it and we should be able to talk about anything and he quickly left. Now, it’s been a few days since we’ve talked and I already miss him. We were on a daily pattern. I know he misses me (because things were so good and getting better) and I want to call him but I want him to get my point about how important communication is.
If I call, he won’t get my point… If I don’t call, he may disappear. I don’t know what to do.
It was a very small discussion that turned into a huge one because he wouldn’t talk about the small one. It was nothing at all really but it’s the principle. My point is it shouldn’t be so difficult to comminicate about small things. What happens when something major happens. This is the only fault I’ve see so far. Other than that, I really like him.
Any advice? Does anyone have any good tips for being in a relationship with an Aquarius? Alot of these posts are on what’s happened in relationships.
The worst way to break up with an Aquarius ?oh that ones easy just plain cut them the hell out of your lives. They will be so startled at the loss of communication it will knock them side ways.
As you can all probably guess Im a crab been reading were not that compatible but oh well you live and learn dont you ? maybe it was just that one lol.
I was seeing an Aquarius, was on the pill had been taking some medication that the doctor didnt tell me could interfere with it.
This was genuiene he knew I wanted kids some day never trapped him, wanted him to come to the decision in his own good time. Well he freaked when I told him , gave him time to get his head together didnt hear from him for about a month nothing , fine he needed his space but I was always brought up to believe relationships are about two people , he wasnt the only one hurting I was scared stiff , thats the thing nothing will make a crab feel more hurt than not knowing where we stand atall,if you let us know where we stand then we will actually be fine with giving you space, we like ours to ( says my libra moon lol).
He eventually asked to meet up in a cafe, said I was trying to pin him down, I wasnt I only did it because I felt I had to I had worried for ages how to tell him.
I started to walk away from him , I was going to cry how could someone who was supposed to love me be so cruel?
Later that night I got a text from him , call me when you are done blubbering, I will support the baby but you and I will never happen.
This was a knife through my heart. A child deserves to born with two parents who love it more than the world.
After a lot crying I decided enough was enough, there is only so much in a relationship that is on one persons terms. Wrote him a letter told him how much I had given him space hoping he would come around , yet he still couldnt bring himself to work things out with me ? we were both adults why couldnt we talk about adults ? I had given him all the space in the world( had put up with no communication after one frantic message asking him to call me after he thought about it yet it was such a chore to talk to me.
I know alot of you will think I was selfish but after that few months hell , I just wanted my life back. I told him , there is only so much that gets to be about you , I have my own life to consider do I want to live with a physical reminder of the man who resents me ? to have him sticking around just to remind me of I tied him down I told him I was having an abortion due to the above reasons.
It was one long letter!.
Dropping it in the post box felt so good it felt I was finally getting some purpose back I had a plan. It was one moment in my life I felt powerful and strong the last few months didnt matter I was getting my life back I was no longer going to live under his shame and anger.
He showed up drunk at the clinice he got taken away by the police.My friends helped me through it I have sinced trained as a teacher. I love it so much ,just to see their little faces in the morning gives me purpose.(the abortion left me unable to have kids)
Saw him at a party recently he was drunk smelly and rude and embarrased himself. He lost of his friends (even a Gemini , yes a gemini that was a friend of his called him a heartless b.)
He shouted the most rude things to me asked if I cried, hah you will never see a crab cry theres a reason we have a tough shell for a reason. And most people thought crabs were whimps right.
I laughed in his face I knew right then I was free I had found it in myself to move on. I have no man , yet I have never been happier !
He hadnt moved on , he was a drunk heartless cruel person who had turned bitter.
Any aquarius man who thinks cancerwoman or any water woman are cry babys WRONG !!!! we are tougher than you think !
Keep on dancing in the moonlight ladies
I am a leo and was with a aqua since 2006 till 2010 and now I see all the lies and secrecy and it just blows me away so much.
He lied about so many things and the lies got better like wine. And of course he tells me I am drama hello Im a Leo spotlight anyone! I just don’t understand why we got stuck in spot for so long and never went anywhere. He just told me I was fun! Fun thanks I like being compared to a carnival ride.
I’m an Aquarius woman and I can tell you it’s not just the Aquarian men that are like this. I was such a commitment phobe before I met my boyfriend when I was 28. The longest relationship I’d had before him lasted only 4 months. It took working next to him 11 hours a day six days a week and us becoming friends first for me to finally admit I really liked this guy and wanted to be with him. I think us Aqarians are just scared, we don’t want to end up with the wrong person and then have to deal with the drama and emotions of it when we finally realize this person isn’t the one. I think that’s why we’re so against getting too deeply invovled with someone. But don’t give up hope on Aquarian men ladies. The guy I just told you about, my boyfriend we’ve been together for 5 years now and have two daughters together. So it is possible for us Aquarians to grow up and settle down. BTW my boyfriend is a Leo.