Comments on: Why does a Capricorn fall out of love?

By: bluegem

bluegem — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 21:40:59 +0000

Sorry to hear that Beth. I’ve come to learn that Cap men are very slow moving creatures with their emotions. By the time the realize the level of importance of the person they had a relationship with it is always too late and we have moved on. Just about everyone I know that has had a relationship with a cap says it is always on and of- hot and cold. You will probably hear from him eventually and when you do stay strong and don’t cave into his wishes. If they don’t hear from you they can be even more persisitent so as hard as it can be you must be adamant that you want nothing from him. I unfortunately, went back to mine 3 times. We are no longer together and I will not go back a forth time as I have wasted another year of my life with someone it will never work with that has caused me a lot of grief…

By: beth

beth — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 20:52:15 +0000

I heard from my cap man a couple of weeks ago, out of the blue after finishing it over christmas after speaking to my ex hubbiw who he chose to believe etc we decided to meet and talk he told me he had retreated into himself “into his weird world” as he put it, I thought we could sort things out face to face and he would realise my ex was just being spiteful, anyway the follwing day he changed his mind again after again speaking to other people and not me!! Heard nothiing since, i sent him an email last week saying I give up I can no longer hope and wait that he will come back, did he ever love me I ask myself if he could just drop me without hearing my side of things, but you are right nothing I can do, cap men wont change x

By: bluegem

bluegem — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 19:32:45 +0000

MissHimSo- I felt really inclined to write you after reading your posts. I too am a gemini who was with a cap man. So sorry about how you were let down by your Cap. Not cool at all. Not sure how long you were with your Cap, I was with mine for over 3 years. I have learned through my own personal experiences taht as hard as it is, sometimes the hard way is the best way in the long run. You are worth more than how he treated you. Haven’t seen any recent posts from you on this thread so not sure if anything is new on the status of you and your cap…The holidays this year were very difficult and I am glad they are over. I broke up with mine on Christmas because I couldn’t handle it anymore. I hated what the relationship transpired into and how he pushed me away to the point that forced me to leave him. I miss him terribly, wen I think of how much he hurt me I don’t miss him so much, but only for a moment. It is hard no matter what. We broke up 1 time each year we were together. Whether it was me breaking up with him or him with me, after a few months of being apart and when I am finally dating again and moving on he crept back into my life…I realize letting him back in was a huge mistake each time and Caps are very manipulating and convincing when they want something. I fell for it because I still loved him and things would be wonderful for a period of time then miserable as our incompatibilities surfaced and he would be negative, cold, and always wanting to argue. Hell, I was even pregnant with his baby and lost it in November, and he could barely be emotionally available to me st see me through that. Cap men have a very difficult time dealing with emational life issues. Point being…they will not change, mine won’t, yours won’t., nor will they suddenly become better men or different with other women they might have a relationship with. In the long run they sadly might have lonely futures, once they realize the woman that was always there for them and loved them with every fiber of her being is gone and they fill in the gaps with shallow, skanky girls for companionship. Anyhow, whether he gave you a proper explanation of why he up and left or not hold your head up high and think only of yourself and your well being as these Caps can get selfish and are ultimately thinking of themselves constantly!

By: trinity

trinity — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 06:43:00 +0000

capricorn men, SNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOZE!!!!!!!

By: ScorpioGirl

ScorpioGirl — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 00:15:43 +0000

Your right, you definitely realize things after it’s over & grow & learn. Even tho, I hate when people say after a break-up when your still upset it was a learning experience. But down the line, you know it’s true. Even know I had a painful break-up for me after my ex, I did learn so much about myself, relationships and what I needed to work on about myself too. Thanks for the comment!

By: AquariusGem

AquariusGem — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 22:35:45 +0000

@ scorpio girl…The shut your mouth comment was meant as a dry humor joke a little. I just hate 2 see people go through what I’d been through. I had to get my own closure..it was rough because I’m so analytical. Controlling your emotions is an art form…..It took some time for me. I remember telling my ex tthat if he died I would be tap dancing over his grave I was so pissed!!!! But we live & we learn.

By: ScorpioGirl

ScorpioGirl — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 22:24:37 +0000

@AquariusGem: I do agree with everything your saying and admire your comment, because it is true & wise. It’s just hard for some girls to try to keep their emotions under control like me. It definitely takes a lot of self-discipline, but you are right. My ex Cappy tried to come up to me & talk the one & only time I saw him out and I gave him a dirty look & walked away and he got pissed & left the place that minute. He texted me like 4 months later since then, but I didn’t answer. We actually talked 7 months after that but very, very small talk & never about the relationship. Then he ask me out & flake every couple months. I never got closure, I think maybe should of took it when I saw him that one time. But now I finally moved on over time. I thought the other day the shut your trap comment was a lil harsh, but I understand what you mean now.

By: AquariusGem

AquariusGem — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 15:21:43 +0000

@ everyone!. I’m a mother of 2 girls. I’ve been through far worst than this, the regret that I had is I was 2 angry to hear & to pissed to cared..I said some things to my ex that I regret…..not because he wasn’t a dog, because a do he was. When I calmed down & reality hit me, I had to look at myself & my imperfections as well. By the time I wanted my explaination 3 yrs later…He wasn’t open to give it & has sinced moved on…this is my child’s father whom has not seen his daughter since she was a baby…I let him have it in the worst way..I say all this to say, I know you are hurt & angry. You may feel that you don’t want to hear or care anymore but you do…If you didn’t you wouldn’t be on these message boards talking the way you do…this is no throw out to anyone’s character however….the way we see ourselves & the way other people see us & the situation maybe different…You are talking to the FORMER revenge Queen of the world. You need to hear what he has to say because if you don’t, you will carry that baggage on & on…get your closure… Like a lot of other women on this board & in this world do. One thing I learned over time is that everything isn’t what it seems or look all the time & sometimes it is…If you feel like he will try to reel you back in, he can’t unless deep down you want to be reeled back in…Remember, every decision we make has an cause & effect

By: beth

beth — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 14:46:08 +0000

Good for you, I agree with what you are saying he had ample time to say the real reason instead just decided to give you the cold shoulder, glad you feel ready to move on, I am with you I have shed so many tears and like you could not understand how they are able to move on so quickly, go about their day to day business etc whilst we are being emotional and resorting to writing on here lol, although this has cheered me up a bit over the last few days,

By: MissHimSo

MissHimSo — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 11:33:43 +0000

@ beth.. you know.. i DID want to know… i DID.. but now I dont even care.. what he put me through this whole month was more than I could bare.. He left me with NO reason at all.. why couldnt he tell me the truth when he FIRST left me.. I sat here crying my eyes trying to figure out what went wrong.. we were so “happy” then he leaves me?? questioning EVERYTHING that ever happened between us.. then even if he didnt leave me for another woman.. even if he DID leave me THEN got with this other girl.. it still hurts knowing the he “supposedly” cared.. then he is canoodling with some other girl.. when someone misses the other person they dont automatically run into another womans arm… you know.. I am here crying for him.. and he’s where ever God knows where with another woman.. he had the moment and time to tell me.. now its too late.. I dont want to hear what he has to say anymore.. his words are NOT going to make everything ok… He dragged me through the dirt.. and now im over it.