He’s Sun in Scorpio, Moon in Taurus, Asc in Aquarius and Venus in Virgo. So traditionally it’s promised that we’ll have more tension than harmony. He was the one who pursued me, probing into me with his curious questions, which partly helped me to know myself better. It took a lot out of me to admit that i am in love with him, in which he thought deeply and said “There is no chance between us”. Despite that, i am not allowed to hang out with his best friend (let alone other guys), and we constantly have arguments which often ends with me saying “I don’t see why we’re arguing about this, we’re not even a couple” and he’ll withdraw away into his secret place.
I get confused with his actions, the constant hot and cold, and the uncertainty of it all, i tell myself to move on and forget about him but even that seems like a mistake.
What should i do?
Your not-boyfriend’s Sun and Moon are in possessive, controlling signs. Taurus likes to own things — a valued person is equivalent to an object that he doesn’t want to part with. And Scorpio, as you know, can get rather jealous. His behavior isn’t rational — you’re not even a couple — yet since when was there logic to love? He obviously has feelings towards you, he just — for whatever reason — doesn’t want to legitimize them. So he has no “right” to keep you from talking to other men (not that a real boyfriend has the right, either).
You have a Pluto-Venus-Moon T-square, which means that your Venus and Moon oppose each other along the Leo-Aquarius axis, with Pluto in Scorpio making a 90-degree square to both of them. (Read my post on the Moon-Venus conflict.) Pluto contributes to these emotional, relational planets a big dose of control, manipulation, intensity and probing. Power and love go hand-in-hand for you — your Scorpio not-boyfriend is simply the paper clip drawn to your magnet. (That is, you attracted him to work out your stuff.)
Your independent Aquarius Moon is in your 5th House of Romance, yet your vibrant Venus in Leo is in your 11th House of Friendships. The 5th is naturally associated with Leo, and the 11th with Aquarius. Could it be that you have difficulty with the friends and lovers dichotomy? (Or is there even one?) You’re emotionally detached in dating, yet flirtatious in groups. This not-relationship may perfectly meet your needs!
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