First off, it takes so much initiative for a Pisces man to get off his butt to break up with you, that he must have really wanted out. Maybe the real you didn’t compare to the fantasy you, and he just couldn’t bear the dissonance between the two.
Regardless, you want him to give you a second chance. Remember, the best way to woo a Pisces is with lowbrow Piscean pleasures: drugs, music, movies, video games. Send him a CARE package containing a dime bag and a DVD you think would turn him on. Throw in a burned CD of some hard-to-find Dave Matthews gig, and he’ll know you mean business.
Other Pisces men are too “beyond” to be seduced by media items. You must convince him that you are an embodiment of the Tantric Love Goddess, and you must never reveal your mundane flaws lest you burst his bliss bubble.
Frankly, it would be a lot easier to distract him from the day-to-day problems of relationship by keeping him high. Either that, or make his life so easy — by taking care of dreary tasks like paying his bills and brushing his teeth — that he won’t feel challenged by life’s difficulties, thanks to your efforts to shield him.
It’s not easy to get a Pisces man back, but if you’re willing to drape a Neptunian veil of delusion over his eyes, he may let you into his graces once again.
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there’s heavy mind-climate for most people: saturn is retrograde in libra, that makes it easy to find fault in relations. there’s no genuine affection here – but time for reality assessment.
there’s mars retrograde in leo. that makes for _a lot_ of “genuine frustration”, if creative energies can’t express themselves.
there’s ongoing saturn (in libra: friendship, social relations, social obligations) square to pluto.
the day you post, we had venus-conjunct-uranus – & though many people make-themselve-believe _this_ is a passage to “freedom”…; well actually it’s just disruption.
next week we’ll have venus-square-pluto, depending on your natal scope… that might offer power games, jealousy, dependency or… a transformation for a revived honest relationship.
but too bad… next week also we enter venus-opposition-saturn: & all fires of passions will go cold, to ashes.
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i’m pisces man
even cancer arising 
but there’s mars & moon in leo, there’s a strong pluto, there’s a fine saturn square to neptune to keep pisces-illusion in check.
having said that:
1) you _cannot_ get a pisces “back”. actually, beware, most of them _will_ be with you – even years after you finally made decision “to quit”.
2) don’t be afraid. pisces need spaced-out-space. most pisces don’t know that, especially male – so they just drift off. into whatever kind of arena. don’t worry. it’s just what we need.
3) pisces has “boundary problems”. that is, as “all is all & we’re all inter-connected”, pisces has to learn & to adapt to (saturnian) “reality structure” – that is, “we’re separated. i _am_ _NOT_ you.” that’s really an issue.
4) “mixed messages” is exactly pisces. where most people feel inclined to “take a position” & things appear as “black” or “white” — uiiih, for pisces, what’s the difference between “black” and “white”?
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i’ve met 2 kinds of pisces males. the ones who are lying, cheating, unreliable, evasive & eager to indulge in whatever mind-obsession that’s present. & the ones who “touched their heart”: that is nourishment, inspiration, love to embody & to share.
I have a difficult situation involving a pisces. We dated for a very brief amount of time, but we’re still friends. He broke it off because “he didn’t want to mess up our friendship by dating”, yet when he sees me with my boyfriend (Aries) he does one of two things: A) He stays off to the side and looks depressed, or B) Clings to me and tries make the BF jealous. He even goes so far as picking fights and contests with him. He says he loves me but i’m not sure if he means it in a friend way or not. It’s killing me that i can’t figure him out! Why is he doing this?
@ Regenisis,
1) many pisces have boundary problems. it’s difficult to set boundaries when you experience flow of oneness.
2) some pisces have illusive notions about “love”. [ok, many people have weird notions about love
] it’d be healthier (for pisces) to perceive a “relationship” – that’s a frame for 2 individual partners, with rules these 2 partners agree upon – instead of indulging in some delusions about “romance”.
3) many pisces have difficulties with “letting go”; though not the cancer-way. well, i guess in weak pisces that manifests as some kind of “clinging”.
4) pisces have “self”-issues (i’m not saying that’s bad; it’s a challenge). for weak pisces that comes as low self-esteem – among other things that manifests as “jealousy”.
5) all in all: “Why is he doing this?” – he doesn’t know himself
6) tell him clearly _your_ position, set boundaries you want to be respected. btw – you say you’ve a bf. i wonder how you can have a bf, while at same time involving another man whom you’ve dated? give the guy a break & allow him some time to understand his own needs &, hopefully, his own potential to relate in healthy ways.
7) btw, this is a very typical pisces-story. you’ll find hundreds who had similar experiences.
9) yes, i’m pisces. i enjoy being it. it took some time
wish you well *
@commons,
Thank you for the feedback. I want to maintain a friendship with him, and yes, i still have some feelings for him so his actions leave me very confused. But i’m not involved with him as more than friends. Being the curious scorpio I am, I just can’t leave this alone without knowing his side of the situation, lol.
@Regenisis,
thx for update. uiiih, you’re scorpio? hee hee, i understand your curiosity. i _love_ scorpio intensity & deep probing mind. it’s my opinion scorpio & pisces make a good match – but one would look deeper at individual & relationship charts.
btw, pisces _do_ “confuse”,
if you want to keep it going, set clear boundaries. like “we’re friends – & we’re not this or that or something else.” & give both of you some time to _really_ adjust to that reality.
Hi common, I know this thread was some time ago but I want to gain more insight on my pisces friend. We dated for almost a year but I was childish and eventually he broke it off. We have continued to mess with eachother and havent had any serious relationships. Every time I say when I graduate in May I will move back home (to cali, im in florida now) he gets all defensive and says Im going to just leave like that. I dont know how he feels about me or if he even knows. Can you give me insight? btw I am a leo. Thanks in advance.
he sent me a text “done you did nothing wrong” can I get him back??
Hi i am a pisces girl i went out with pisces guy he loved me so much at the beginning i hurt him so much i break up with him 4 times and most of the time i called him back he came to me last week his ex called him he didnt answer his phone but i was really angry next day i told him do not talk to this girl anymore he told me he likes me but he doesnt love me anymore i dont know what to do!!!
hi im a cancer girl i was dating a pisces man for a good 4 months. Most of the things mentioned describes him, he smokes pot, love classic rock and is comfortable with his job. On the other hand i am very crabby of course, protective, possesive, and I am joining the U.S marines, i am usually a very calm girl putting no pressure but since i am about to leave to bootcamp in a couple of months i put intense pressure on him, that is one of the reasons we broke up. We got in a fight we didnt talk for a week, then once we did we fought through texting, we still are friends but i think im done with that i hate wondering if he still likes me or not. We hung out once after we broke up we had a good time didnt speak anything about our break up. will he come back? should i give him some time? or should i give up? I really do miss him but I dont let him know that.
i’m soo glad i found this site especially this section on Pisces men, i feel a little better about what i had to go through, i’m not alone!!!
hey i am a scorpio i split from my pisceas bf a few months ago….mainly my fault…i have tried to make amends for this…occasionally i get some response and then nothing for a while. i have no idea what hes thinking and would just like to patch things up even if just for friendships sake…should i wait for him too forgive me?
@kelsiemay
You should re-post this under the forum “How to make a Pisces chase you”. Its a very active forum with a few Pisces that weigh in on things!
I am married but have been flirting with a pisces at work for a few months. From the start, he told me that he did not want to come in between me and my boyfriend. He told me that his like was complicated with his ex and young children. Even so, he started to give me appointments at the gym, told me I was sexy, beautiful, asked me for a walk, a lunch, etc. I finally saw him one night at his placed and we fooled around one night. The next day, he told me he would like to see me again. 5 days after… he told me he was not sure, that maybe I expected too much of him. I told him that I simply wanted to see him once in a while, and nothing else, that I would never want to be in his life, that I had my own. He then told me that he would like to see me again… Then, I went on vacation for 3 weeks, and when I came back, he did not answer my sms and finally replied that he did not want to pursue this lie and that he would like to stay friends. I did not reply. When I saw him at work 3 days later, he emailed me asking why I smiled at him, told him that I looked good and wondered why I never answered him after he dumped me. I finally replied and told him that I did not understand why he made so many nice flattering comments and sexual hints and then nothing, all of a sudden, he wants a girl one day to fulfill his life! They are liars and twisted souls, don’t answer your sms. He finally told me that I would get a final answer, it’s been a week and I am still waiting…
Wow, how amazing… It’s really strange how everyone seems to have the same problem with Pisces. It seems like many of them are similar. My pisces is wonderful and so entertaining, but disappears for days straight after being extremely affectionate.
Hmmmmmm…
Pisces Guys are pyschos and sick people! the begining ther are great and all then they will give u less than a year then they will swim away and leave you all alooooooooooooone!! my advice to any girl who knows a pisces guy :
1) ignore him from the begining
2) play games
3) dont show him you love him even if u loved him
if he dumped you then he never loved you,even if u go back to him after he dumps you he will not trreat you well and u will only hurt ur self again! its like collecting the broken pieces of a glass again you will only bleed ur hands and hurt urself
( believe me i’v been there before and it hurts like hell ) dont waste your time with a pisces man
I can totally relate to a Pisces man being “over’ or uninterested in a woman who chases him down a lot. Recently my 4+ year relationship (though it has been very on and off, particularly this past year, we were long distance) came to a crashing halt with Mr. Pisces. Although I see a lot of Pisces bashing on this forum, I don’t think a man’s sun sign can account for his flat out immaturity or inability to commit (that is a common thing regardless of sign). That said, this guy, and my last boyfriend, have been Piscean, and for some reason I attract Water signs a lot (I had a fling with a Cancer guy one time when Pisces and I were broken up).
We met when we were both quite young, and in college so in the middle of a lot of transitioning between things, and it looks like right now our love didn’t have the wings to make it off the ground.
He told me he was uninterested and laid out the things he precisely did not like (too much neediness, clinginess, giving him stress over the telephone) and I didn’t exactly heed the line – possibly I was too selfish, or he was too needy, or it’s possible that there was no way to make it work out.
We’ve been “over” since Saturday – we had a weird, extended fight over the phone that led to me getting angry and saying we were over, then feeling awful and trying to reconcile – he told me to “stop wasting my time” and “we’re broken up, get over it,” but I don’t know, I can’t shake this psychic hold. I’ve been calling and emailing quite a few times a day (over last weekend it was nearly endless, but I had to stop that), maybe 3-4 times a day. I hear Pisces don’t like to be “chased” exactly but I couldn’t let things hang the way that they were, with me angrily telling him to go away. So I have sent many, many kind and reconciliatory messages, saying I miss and love him, among other things. But now I have decided to stop trying so hard.
So I am wondering if I can ask the forum, whether my plan of ignoring him now (no easy feat considering he is ignoring me) will do any good or make him come back. He hasn’t said anything to me at all and I am worried he has swam away for good. I will appreciate some insight. I’ve decided to not contact him all summer if need be and I am truly hoping that he gets in touch with me soon because I do miss him. The last time I saw him we hugged and kissed a lot. I know he feels for me too!
Tuarus female was with Pisces male for 3 years. He just broke it off with me. I was kind of beside my self because it was so sudden. So sad…. but he wouldn’t know it now. I haven’t been coming home and going out every night like nothing is wrong. He has gig tonight (he’s lead singer in a band)….all of our friends are going. Of course I’m not. I sent him a text to “kick a*s tonight and he’s going to do great!” I told him I will always support him and come see him every now and then to see him play. He told me, he never doubted I was a good person and thank you. Anyway, I’m completely heart broken and all I know is that, I know we weren’t happy. But we weren’t happy because we didn’t spend enough time alone or together. It made are passions fade. But I wish we could rekindle. Not sure. I know he still loves me and always will. As will I. So I just wonder what it would take before he calls me to tell me he’s still crazy about me and wants work on us? I’m crazy about him, always will be. Just hurt right now. But I’m partying like I don’t hurt at all. I have to for my sanity. It’s nice getting hit on and being single I guess. But honestly, I’d rather have him by my side instead. Any thoughts or advice???
I need some advice please!!!!
Me and my ex pisces were together for 3 years. We broke up in January because he said I was to mean and realistic for him. But 3 weeks later he came back begging for me to take him back. I told him that we should work on our problems first before we get back into a relationship again. But he was so impatient from January to the begging of April he was always with me. Telling me he loves me and cant his life without me.
March 31 he went to a family party and he met this girl, that he never told me about by april 16 I told him that I think we should try again with our relationship. He told me no he can’t because he is already falling for somebody else.
I asked him is it possible because we been together everyday. He told me that he met the girl 16 days ago and they have a lot of things in common. The funny thing is he never bother to tell the girl that he was trying to work things out withe.
He waited until I fell back in love with Jim to tell me. He didn’t have the ball to tell me face to face. Always avoiding me, it been more than 2 month and I haven’t heard from him.
My heart is broken because gave him all I had.
His new girl is Aries