Loving an Immature Leo
August 25, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
This guest post is by Jara aka BlahBlah.
Leos can bring endless amounts of fun and romance into a relationship. They can also be passionately generous with their hearts, time, energy and money. But what if your Leo isn’t resembling any of this sign’s typical positive traits? What if your Leo likes to play mind games, is stingy (or worse, hot and cold) with his or her affections, dishonest or disloyal? If this is the case, then you’re in love with an immature Leo.
An immature Leo is one of the hardest signs to deal with in love, because when things are good, they’re soooo good that it almost makes it worthwhile to put up with the more difficult aspects of the immature Leo’s personality. They are usually very charming, which they can use to persuade you to see the pros of giving them their way all the time. However, this is the exact opposite of what will help them grow up and learn how to consider others in love. Like their astrological representation, the Lion, they believe themselves to be the Kings (or Queens) of the Jungle. When you cater to this belief, the immature Leo will take advantage and get stuck in the “Gimme, ’cause I deserve it” mode. They will take everything you have to offer and still want more. Nothing you do will ever be enough to convince them you are the love of their lives. The more insecure a Leo is, the more arrogant and inconsiderate he or she will act.
Ironically, the only thing this kind of Leo will respect (or respond to) is someone who has the courage to walk away. They may initially view your walking away as a sign that you don’t love them enough, but eventually they will come to respect you for not taking anymore of the crap they know they’ve been dishing out to you. (Because they’re very aware of how to leave a good impression, Leos know when they’re mistreating someone. Sidenote: RUN, don’t walk, if your Leo doesn’t care at all that he or she is disappointing you.)
As Leo’s partner, you might have come to expect that Leo won’t be able to survive without the daily doses of Vitamin A (affection), Vitamin C (compliments), Vitamin D (devotion) and Vitamin E (excitement) they’ve come to depend on from you. However, even immature Leos are very self-sufficient when left to their own devices. Either they will find someone else who will enable their “me, me, me” attitude or they will learn how to depend on themselves to get what they want. Doing the latter will help them gain the confidence that will bring out the generosity, loyalty, and lovableness that mature Leos already possess. While it will always be important to Leos that others admire them, a sign of Leo’s growing maturity is that they can recognize their own sunshine regardless of whether there’s a moon (i.e. you) around to provide a reflection.
When you’re feeling the urge to shower your immature Leo with more love, just remember that cats always land on their feet. And if they don’t, they have 8 more lifetimes to learn how…
What kind of Leo are you? How have you dealt with an immature Leo? Have you seen an immature Leo become mature?
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i’m a cancer girl and i had a story with a leo man. we started sleeping together (i live in sweden and boy, here dating is something unheard of…) and then it developed into a strange thing…we were together but we were not. in a strange way i felt i had to comply with his bullsh!t because i felt he also cared about me, and i still feel like it. he was an a$$hole nevertheless, treating me badly, bossing me around, making me feel like crap about myself, wanting to be adored and sucked up to when he never had a good word for me. yet i knew that this was just the shell, and i think that with this kind of men you just feel it before you get a clear response. i mean it is obvious the man is a liar and a con (something a previous comment said) when he’s playing with several women at the same time but my man had only me, so i kinda knew…anyways. we ended the story when he had to leave the country and now we still see each other sporadically and never talk too much, and only in public. hasn’t called, haven’t called. what for? it was psychological warfare indeed because i was so longing for him and he was never there for me. so i got tired of ‘feeling’ he reciprocates and forgave him. it’s as simple as that. it took me months to get over him but i’m clean now. i would never take him back considering his past record and i know people don’t change overnight, especially a man like him, arrogant, selfish, full of himself. everyone has their own flaws and we’re all selfish animals if you boil down the instinctual story but there are also things that differentiate us from animals- we have feeling as we have the articulate language for example. somehow this man was never able to verbalize anything positive towards me and i got tired, at one given point my system just cracked and i couldn’t take it anymore. end of the story.
i missed him desperately, there were days i didn’t want to get out of bed and it hurt like a bitch but i’ve moved on. now it seems like a journey of a thousand years but i’ve put him past me.
and i know this is not the thing to say on an astrology-related forum but i think a$$holeness is in the eye of the beholder and anyone can be an a******. it is true that leos are crappier than other with respect to egos. this guy was like a soviet missile.totally destroyed me, and i really loved him. uhm what can i do. if you’re in a passive-aggressive relationship with a leo take the aforementioned advice-RUN!
if he doesn’t say anything good about you, it’s because he’s jealous of you lol. my ex never even had a girlfriend before me. yet he struts and tells everyone like he’s don juan incarnate. i think he only went after me because when i met him, most of the guys were eager to meet me. he pursued me literally everyday because there were 2 guys trying to get me on a date.
he likes the attention he gets whenever a guy would look at me when we’re walking together. it’s like i’m an accessory that other men should envy him for argh! when he gained status, and you know how other girls like attached men, he’d make up stories that he’s busy, etc. i tortured the hell out of him later on after all the things he said to me.
karma is such a b*tch for him when i left. the girls who would go after him before lost interest because of his inflated ego. i posted before that he spread rumors about me that i am a sl*t and things that weren’t true between us. so everytime someone asks me about him, i’d just tell them that he was a broken-hearted virgin and i took it from him LOL
sad but true, he lost his virginity at 28 hahaha
@ anotherariesgirl:
uhm i think what you said about the jealousy thing is true, he was indeed very jealous of me, because everyone was saying, openly or not, that i was too good for him and that he was never going to find someone better than me.
about your situation, although is none of my business, your ex sounds like a total son of a bitch-saying that you were a slut? oh my god,i constantly forget that such people exist.
how did you torture the hell out of him? i’d be curious to know:)
jolie,
actually, i have lots of Leo guy friends and one of my cousins whom i am close with is also a Leo. but they are very competitive. me and my cousin are almost the same age and i remember when we’re kids, he’d always try to outshine my achievements though there’s no competition in my part. we went to different schools and there was a time that we almost have to compete each other for an interschool drawing competition. but now that we’re older, he became less competitive since we pursued different careers. i pursued my interest with computers and he’s now in medicine profession. my ex on the other hand graduated as a computer engineer like me. but he ended up taking another path due to lack of opportunities. i only sensed that he’s trying to compete with me when he’d express desire for things that i just recently acquired. sometimes i would just humble myself down so he won’t feel inadequate.
about the slut comment, the word came from my own mouth cuz i was so pissed at him when we broke up. he alienated me by talking to my mom, my aunt, my friends, and telling them that the current guy i’m dating is no good influence. he thought i was being rebellious because we broke up. the truth is, i ditched him. i told my mom the truth, and my aunt. i asked some of my friends to intervene so we could talk. two guy friends arranged this talk with him, cuz i know he won’t listen to girls. he said it’s unfair that he learned that i was sleeping with this guy then he’s still trying to win me back. i told him it’s none of his business and i wasn’t being unfair cuz as far as i know, he’s not my boyfriend anymore. i just want him to stop talking behind my back, and if he can’t forgive me, at least be civil or stop stalking my friends and leave my mom alone. we’re going back in circles so i thought he’d stop when i told him, “okay, so i’m a slut. are you happy? can you stop now?”
next thing i knew, he told everyone that i’m a slut, ugh. i gave him a doze of his own medicine. since he mostly told everyone online that he knew, i thought of shutting down his accounts. i was able to guess his messenger password lol which connects to all of his social network accounts and e-mails. i changed all his passwords and saved all the conversations with the lies that he told to my friends. after that, i sent those conversations to the friends he alienated me from. after reading the whole thing they were like, “wtf is wrong with this guy. i never knew he’d say that cuz he sounded nice and was playing the victim.”
his coworker, whom i befriended sent me a message saying my ex looked like he’s going to cry when he can’t sign in his accounts lol. he’s able to retrieve one of his accounts later on, and even sent my boyfriend (which is the guy i was dating that time) an e-mail saying i hacked his account. he’s trying to give the impression that i was obsessed with him. my boyfriend knew about this even before i did it. my bf replied with, “i know that, dude. she did that because you are being a d%ck. she wants you to shut the hell up.”
he still appeared to the forums i frequent, telling people i hacked his account. i kept quiet and let him act like a fool. people got annoyed by him cuz he kept talking about it nonstop lol. though karma still got him by now, the karma i brought him really blew his ego down the drain.