I mean I had one Tau female friend and for years I wasn’t sure she even liked me(again not sure why I put up w/ this) think that libra again wanted to be liked…then once in while she would say stuff that would make me think ok we are friends….but I long gave up on her cause sometimes she would do things that made me think she didn’t care either way…honestly as a warm and sensitive people We really do need that type of vocal affection you know…and I would like to find that in a person…so I totally understand Adam…seriously for us its important to hear it:) Cause after a while it feels like neglect you know, and you do all things loving and caring and then nothing this is why I left my bull alone.

But after reading all of that and understanding it all cos I see those exact qualities in MY man too….I’m not sure a taurus is ever going to be for me.
Your man said ‘if I didn’t think you were great and sexy and all that I wouldn’t be with you right?? … OK first off I don’t know how you didn’t slap him and just lose it lol but mine said something similiar. I didn’t reply to his txts / phonecalls after our 5th date to try and make him work a bit more for me
then when I phoned him and was all ‘I’m soooo sorry my life has been non stop’ he said ‘I know why you didn’t return my calls and how can I like you more if you’re not there when I need you? *long sigh* cause i’m with you cause you love to care for me’.
Taurus men, eh????
They think thats gonna flatter us. Haaaa they need a kick sometimes! lol

But honey after that advice of what they need / want from you I’m not sure I can give him that. I’ll continue to cook, clean and pay him with gooey comments but if he can’t tell me he wants to be with me in so many words, not a taurus ‘i’m with you so stop worrying’ remark then there’s going to be problems. Lots.
I think i’m going to give it another week of trying and also trying to pull sentimental comments out of him in the process to make ‘us’ feel more secure but if he CAN’T then I may have to end it.
and while that seems drastic, ending it cos he wouldn’t tell me he appreciated all I did for him and being that needy I wanted constant re-assurance, i’m quite sure any cancerian would agree that would drive them wild in the end and I don’t want to stick around for the long haul to be only disappointed.

Thank you Libra30 I know it seems you must not have helped cos I’ve basically decided 2 dump my boyfriend haha but noooooo really you have. thank you thank you thank you for the advice, you really cleared me out best of luck with your taurus, too! xxxx

Erm what like someone being hit with a frying pan?

**Well from my experiences they do make jokes but its not in the same why me and you might it is slack stick. I find slap stick stupid lol he likes the dumb comedies where guys are doing all sorts of silly random things…**

Wow maybe I should pay someone to hit someone with a pot on every date I have! Not. Humour – advice? did YOUR tauruses laugh and if yes how did you do it????

**yeah like a frying pain to the head…my taurus was on the cusps between tau and gem so he was kind of funny very sarcastic though, he helped me to be more funny since I am emotional and didn’t really know how to laugh at myself…well I don’t really make him laugh still lol, not very good at that but he likes when a playfully tease him about stuff this makes him smile.**

But I need to be TOLD he cares for me cos you must understand, my mind goes into over-drive of questions – why won’t he tell me? DOES he like me at all? etc.

**See this is what my Tau always said “if I didn’t think you were great and sexy and all that I wouldn’t be with you right??”…LOL yeah he said it just like that**

I think I can look past that, but did you ever do something that made him say aloud he appreciates you?

**Its funny when I wouldn’t look for it he would say and do they most loving things…when I would just be sitting there minding my business he would say you are beautiful, I love you hair, your smile… I love you so so much …but its usually out of the blue you know…its not said everyday, but they show you how much they care and are dedicated…I was very much into him telling me in the beginning…I honestly though I was really sure he loved me for along time…but now I know he does love me…but I still struggle with whether I can be back with him knowing that I won’t hear it, sometimes I just need to hear it more often, so I understand totally Adam what you go through and how you feel.**

One thing about this relationship that I learned like no other was the need to be strong emotionally and independent cause I have a tendency to latch on for dear life lol, and it benefited us both when I was more independent and gave him more room to express love and do more in the relationship… but of course this might not be factor in you relationship Adam, I just really had this tendency to smother.

Ohmygod thank god someone with some cancerian in them understands!!
OK and cos you have cancerian in you, you love to nurture, care and I take it as a wacky sense of humour and can make everyone laugh

HOW DO YOU MAKE IT WORK?
I mean – i know another taurus guy, he’s just a friend and he won’t laugh either! I don’t get it…and i like to make someone laugh as it makes me feel better about myself/makes the date go better but he’s happy to sit there and discuss normal things someone said a taurus likes slap-stick humour. Erm what like someone being hit with a frying pan? Wow maybe I should pay someone to hit someone with a pot on every date I have! Not. Humour – advice? did YOUR tauruses laugh and if yes how did you do it????

Hmm they only show emotion if you say you’re leaving. Ick. I can’t handle that. He’s reliable etc and will cuddle me all day long love that. But I need to be TOLD he cares for me cos you must understand, my mind goes into over-drive of questions – why won’t he tell me? DOES he like me at all? etc.
I think I can look past that, but did you ever do something that made him say aloud he appreciates you? Cos I cook, clean his flat and everything else. Nothing. Not a peep. *sigh*
sorry I know how needy I sound just pleeeease tell me all the things you did / said to your tauruses that made him laugh or happy.
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE xxxx

Not sure what you can do though as being with the aloof bull can take a lot emtionally. I’ve dated two other tauruses who were much worse.. but all in all most I have encountered appear cold and aloof, but when you get past it can be very warm they just don’t express it them same way…one thing I loved about my bull he was stable and relaible… but the emotional stuff doesn’t come up sometime until you are walking out the door…my ex bull cried like a baby, and I am NOT exaggerating when I decided to leave him…I was shocked! I had know idea it was that Real for him…I mean loudly sobbing…he still wants to come back as many Tauruses never let go fully.. As I still care for him deeply I want to make sure he can be alittle more of what I need, if this is even possible as this is their nature… so idk, at the end of the day Adam you got to do whats best for you;)

I don’t mean to whine, when he’s lovely he IS lovely. He cares for me, always takes me out and is a wonder in the bedroom…but he won’t re-act to my sentimental comments etc and won’t laugh with me.
All huge problems in my book! I’m not expecting him to say ‘i bloody love you let’s get married’ cos I don’t love him, it’s only been 2 months but how could i EVER if he won’t nurture to me like a taurus should?
damnit i nurture him and cook for him and dress nicely for him … i do EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!
advice? end it or stick with it and fix it?
also why is he being like this….?????