Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.
If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a tender Taurus, virtuous Virgo, or a committed Capricorn, then you know how it feels to be with a partner who wants to be your biggest asset. But what happens when your earth sign mate has become a liability? Here’s how to make a clean break with a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn:
The Breakup Strategy
Taurus doesn’t like change – even if the change is for the better. This quality is what makes breaking up with Taurus challenging, especially for signs that don’t like change anymore than Taurus does (that means you, Cancer) or who would prefer that a problem solve itself (yes, I’m talking to you, Pisces). You want the quickest way to break up with Taurus? It doesn’t exist. When you entered into a relationship with Taurus, you made an agreement to be in it for the long haul and you must honor that agreement. This includes enduring a long breakup. Begin by weaning Taurus out of your relationship by failing to cater to the Bull. Stop cooking all those great meals. Don’t run any more bubble baths. No more late night massages! If this doesn’t work, try introducing Taurus to someone who cooks better than you.
Breaking up with Virgo is actually very simple. Virgo is a mutable sign, which means that the Virgin easily adapts to new stimuli. In this case, the new stimuli would be you wanting to break up. Expect many questions about how you came to your decision. Although the chain of questions will seem endless, it’s just Virgo’s way of gathering more information for future reference. Not answering the questions only inspires more questions, so carve out some time to satiate Virgo’s curiosity and you’ll be home free!
Capricorns are usually the ones doing the dumping, so breaking up with them is relatively easy – as long as you let them be the boss of the breakup. Present yourself as a loser without future earning potential or any interest in money or status what-so-ever. No matter how many times the Goat introduces you to a great mentor in your career field, say you’re not sure this is the right step for you. The Capricorn will fire you from the relationship for being an unsuitable mate (aka business partner). If you don’t let Capricorn dump you, then look forward to changing jobs, bank accounts, and social security #s in order to protect yourself from the Capricorn wanting to get revenge against you (especially if your goat has Venus in Scorpio).
Unless you broke Taurus’ trust, a Taurus ex will probably be in your life forever in some way or another (especially if you have kids together). If you married Taurus without a prenuptial agreement (how’d you manage that?), then be prepared for a long battle in court if you want to leave the marriage with anything Taurus wants to keep, like the car, the house, the kids, or YOU. If you’re moving out of the home you’ve built with the Bull, make sure to clearly mark all of your belongings. It will make packing so much easier.
You will enjoy Virgo better after a breakup than you did during the relationship. Not only do you still get the constructive “advice,” but Virgo might even help you reorganize your life after it falls apart due to Virgo’s highly noticeable absence. If you share children with Virgo, you won’t have to fight for joint custody, but you will have to endure Virgo frequently correcting and criticizing your parenting style.
The great thing about a Capricorn ex is that the Goat won’t kiss and tell about your breakup. It will be as if you never existed at all…
How did your relationship with a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn end? Did the end of your relationship with an earth sign leave you feeling on shaky footing or on solid ground?
About the Author
Jara Dan-Fodio has been gazing at the sky and observing people all of her life. After reading her first astrology book that went beyond the 12 zodiac signs 15 years ago, the patterns she noticed began to make sense. Although she dabbles in vocational, predictive and electional astrology upon request, her favorites are depth astrology and synastry. She’s an eternal student of life and astrology is just one of her many teachers. You can find more of this 8th houser’s astro-notes at Random Astrology or Twitter.
Hey Adam, I dated a Taurus for 3.5 years. Man I could tell you too many stories like the ones you have mentioned above. They don’t show much emotion. I have a cancer moon and I would be all sweet and sensitive he would often call me needy and SO very emotional. Kind of the reason we broke up cause I DID everything all the time and I got so tired. Cleaning, cooking and looking after things. I’m a Libra, we can be lazy about these things too, but someone had to do it lol and I have a cancer moon so I have a strong tendency to nurture and I am very sensitive.
Not sure what you can do though as being with the aloof bull can take a lot emtionally. I’ve dated two other tauruses who were much worse.. but all in all most I have encountered appear cold and aloof, but when you get past it can be very warm they just don’t express it them same way…one thing I loved about my bull he was stable and relaible… but the emotional stuff doesn’t come up sometime until you are walking out the door…my ex bull cried like a baby, and I am NOT exaggerating when I decided to leave him…I was shocked! I had know idea it was that Real for him…I mean loudly sobbing…he still wants to come back as many Tauruses never let go fully.. As I still care for him deeply I want to make sure he can be alittle more of what I need, if this is even possible as this is their nature… so idk, at the end of the day Adam you got to do whats best for you;)
OMG I just was reading some of the posts about Virgos and my experiences were the same. My first REAL boyfriend was a Virgo, in the beginning I knew something wasn’t quite right about the relationship. So whenever I would try to break up he would tell me he would kill himself, I was reading libralady’s posts about her Virgo ex, wow sounds so much like my first bf…goodness that is wierd, I thought it was just me. Plus idk me and Virgo didn’t have much in common, he thought I thought way too much overanalyzing and I thought he was too rigid…dang when I think about it most of my relationships have been earth signs!hmmm interesting…But I did date another libra and I found that exhausting and full a drama lol…
Libra30:
Ohmygod thank god someone with some cancerian in them understands!!
OK and cos you have cancerian in you, you love to nurture, care and I take it as a wacky sense of humour and can make everyone laugh
HOW DO YOU MAKE IT WORK?
someone said a taurus likes slap-stick humour. Erm what like someone being hit with a frying pan? Wow maybe I should pay someone to hit someone with a pot on every date I have! Not. Humour – advice? did YOUR tauruses laugh and if yes how did you do it????
I mean – i know another taurus guy, he’s just a friend and he won’t laugh either! I don’t get it…and i like to make someone laugh as it makes me feel better about myself/makes the date go better but he’s happy to sit there and discuss normal things
Hmm they only show emotion if you say you’re leaving. Ick. I can’t handle that. He’s reliable etc and will cuddle me all day long
love that. But I need to be TOLD he cares for me cos you must understand, my mind goes into over-drive of questions – why won’t he tell me? DOES he like me at all? etc.
just pleeeease tell me all the things you did / said to your tauruses that made him laugh or happy.
I think I can look past that, but did you ever do something that made him say aloud he appreciates you? Cos I cook, clean his flat and everything else. Nothing. Not a peep. *sigh*
sorry I know how needy I sound
THANK YOU IN ADVANCE xxxx
Man they make Caps look bad.
ok so I am going to try as best I can to answers these concerns Adam cause I wish someone told me what I was in for lol ok here goes…
Erm what like someone being hit with a frying pan?
**Well from my experiences they do make jokes but its not in the same why me and you might it is slack stick. I find slap stick stupid lol he likes the dumb comedies where guys are doing all sorts of silly random things…**
Wow maybe I should pay someone to hit someone with a pot on every date I have! Not. Humour – advice? did YOUR tauruses laugh and if yes how did you do it????
**yeah like a frying pain to the head…my taurus was on the cusps between tau and gem so he was kind of funny very sarcastic though, he helped me to be more funny since I am emotional and didn’t really know how to laugh at myself…well I don’t really make him laugh still lol, not very good at that but he likes when a playfully tease him about stuff this makes him smile.**
But I need to be TOLD he cares for me cos you must understand, my mind goes into over-drive of questions – why won’t he tell me? DOES he like me at all? etc.
**See this is what my Tau always said “if I didn’t think you were great and sexy and all that I wouldn’t be with you right??”…LOL yeah he said it just like that**
I think I can look past that, but did you ever do something that made him say aloud he appreciates you?
**Its funny when I wouldn’t look for it he would say and do they most loving things…when I would just be sitting there minding my business he would say you are beautiful, I love you hair, your smile… I love you so so much …but its usually out of the blue you know…its not said everyday, but they show you how much they care and are dedicated…I was very much into him telling me in the beginning…I honestly though I was really sure he loved me for along time…but now I know he does love me…but I still struggle with whether I can be back with him knowing that I won’t hear it, sometimes I just need to hear it more often, so I understand totally Adam what you go through and how you feel.**
One thing about this relationship that I learned like no other was the need to be strong emotionally and independent cause I have a tendency to latch on for dear life lol, and it benefited us both when I was more independent and gave him more room to express love and do more in the relationship… but of course this might not be factor in you relationship Adam, I just really had this tendency to smother.
edit in second to last paragraph. I honestly thought he didn’t loved me for a long time.
Why Mountain Goat, just curious???
Libra30….I just have to say thank you soooo much you gave like the best and most detailed advice
and it really did help prepare me for the storm of un-emotional times ahead from my taurus!
But after reading all of that and understanding it all cos I see those exact qualities in MY man too….I’m not sure a taurus is ever going to be for me.
Your man said ‘if I didn’t think you were great and sexy and all that I wouldn’t be with you right?? … OK first off I don’t know how you didn’t slap him and just lose it lol but mine said something similiar. I didn’t reply to his txts / phonecalls after our 5th date to try and make him work a bit more for me
then when I phoned him and was all ‘I’m soooo sorry my life has been non stop’ he said ‘I know why you didn’t return my calls and how can I like you more if you’re not there when I need you? *long sigh* cause i’m with you cause you love to care for me’.
Taurus men, eh????
They think thats gonna flatter us. Haaaa they need a kick sometimes! lol
But honey after that advice of what they need / want from you I’m not sure I can give him that. I’ll continue to cook, clean and pay him with gooey comments but if he can’t tell me he wants to be with me in so many words, not a taurus ‘i’m with you so stop worrying’ remark then there’s going to be problems. Lots.
I think i’m going to give it another week of trying and also trying to pull sentimental comments out of him in the process to make ‘us’ feel more secure but if he CAN’T then I may have to end it.
and while that seems drastic, ending it cos he wouldn’t tell me he appreciated all I did for him and being that needy I wanted constant re-assurance, i’m quite sure any cancerian would agree that would drive them wild in the end and I don’t want to stick around for the long haul to be only disappointed.
Thank you Libra30
I know it seems you must not have helped cos I’ve basically decided 2 dump my boyfriend haha but noooooo really you have. thank you thank you thank you for the advice, you really cleared me out 
best of luck with your taurus, too! xxxx
I can totally understand, its hard not to hear and know how someone feels and when they speak in code about how they feel or say nothing at all. It can be gut wrenching. I don’t know how I stayed in it so long I guess they Libra part of me just kept holding on, trying to make it better, which when it hurts or ain’t working I stayed… this is not a good quality to have a times you know…some Taurus do need a good kick lol, they are very hard to change, if at all and they have to think it is their idea hahah! I like Taurus I have a couple of Tau friends…I experience the same things….
I mean I had one Tau female friend and for years I wasn’t sure she even liked me(again not sure why I put up w/ this) think that libra again wanted to be liked…then once in while she would say stuff that would make me think ok we are friends….but I long gave up on her cause sometimes she would do things that made me think she didn’t care either way…honestly as a warm and sensitive people We really do need that type of vocal affection you know…and I would like to find that in a person…so I totally understand Adam…seriously for us its important to hear it:) Cause after a while it feels like neglect you know, and you do all things loving and caring and then nothing this is why I left my bull alone.
hi Libra30,
it seems that you have full of experience with your bull..it has been 3.5 years which is not a short time..
i have been with mine for 2 years and he was just so lazy and short tempered and raised his voice on me. which i do not like at all…
how was your bull? anything like that…
Hi Fire Sun,
These Taurus do have tempers, mine rarely raises his voice w/ me though, but he does get annoyed with his family… and raises his voice w/ them… however this makes me wonder if we become family (married) if he would do the same. When we first started dating is really bothered me that he would yell at his family, I even told him if he continues to do that I would leave…it got better but from time to time he would be tempermental.
They are very slow or lazy at times…he likes to go out, and have fun, but he does like to relax w/ the remote in hand, computer near by and cell phone to text watching the game w/ beer at the end of the day…this used to drive me nuts as if felt at times I didn’t exist, however he has changed this cause I would just get up and leave…so for us it was ALOT of adjusting cause were opposites…I am emotional, he is not, I am into lost of verbal communication he is not, I like art, he doesn’t, lol we are so different, but then so drawn to each other…we are still not together at this time until I see some real changes in him…I am not coming back.
Libra30
Why what?
Re: “Man they make Caps look bad.” why…not too experienced w/ caps. Would be great to hear why?
Libra30
They make us look colder than usual.
That’s interesting considering Taurus in my experience are quite emotionally cold. wWell they can be warm, but its not demonstrative as in the why I am a Libra would show it…
so yeah I see your point mountain goat.
Libra30
Did you see the Grammy nominations concert last night?
So random, no I didn’t. Does this have any relevance? lmao.
Capricorns ARE bad. cold, unemotional, this one woman I dated wouldnt show affection even to her own children. A nickel-plated bitch. He said mountain goat because Capricorn’s symbol is a friggin sea-goat. What’s a sea goat you ask? might as well ask what is up with Capricorns. I dont think anyone knows. A wierd, cold, money-grubbing sign.
God, what i wouldnt have given for the Aries who broke my heart to have read this:
“Breaking up with Virgo is actually very simple. Virgo is a mutable sign, which means that the Virgin easily adapts to new stimuli. In this case, the new stimuli would be you wanting to break up. Expect many questions about how you came to your decision. Although the chain of questions will seem endless, it’s just Virgo’s way of gathering more information for future reference. Not answering the questions only inspires more questions, so carve out some time to satiate Virgo’s curiosity and you’ll be home free!”
I did have 100 questions and instead she just wanted to be left alone which only fueled my desire for answers and I was prepared for the ugly truths. The more I wanted to know, the further she got. All I wanted was honesty and some insight for the next time I fell in Love the way I did for her.
Instead I was left with so many questions and had to make up my own answers that were probably worse than the truth but since all I got was, I dont love you anymore. Dont call me. Which led to phone number change and eventually a restraining order that later would seal my incarceration…if you want to read more about that check out my post in “How Virgo Deals With Heart-Break” because i know it sounds like I hurt her or violated the order but i didnt.
I walked around with unneccesary hurt and pain because I didnt get my answers….just realized I was being a normal Virgo and not some crazy ex.
Did she really think i would force her to love me. What a joke.
@ Mountain Goat:
Must admit; Caps can be quite cold BUT just don’t do anything to piss them off. Be honest, trustworthy and geniune – yourself. Caps, once they trust you, will do just about anything for you and adore you too. I loved and still love a Cap I dated almost 11 years ago. We have both moved on but keep in touch to see how we are doing out of respect and the genuine love we felt for eachother. I adore Caps and wish I could meet another one. This Taurus would take the direct, blunt honesty of a practical Cap over the secretive, emotional (manipulative) crap my present Scorp guy is throwing my way…
This is the ABSOLUTE TRUTH!!!
“Capricorns are usually the ones doing the dumping, so breaking up with them is relatively easy – as long as you let them be the boss of the breakup.”
We will put up with anything when we love you so when we don’t love you anymore, it means you’ve done enough and you’ve got to GO. Not now but right now.
“Present yourself as a loser without future earning potential or any interest in money or status what-so-ever. No matter how many times the Goat introduces you to a great mentor in your career field, say you’re not sure this is the right step for you.”
-Or cheat, be ungrateful, sneaky, dirty and mean. You could be a gas station attendant, a musician whose never ever even had a job, a felon who can’t get a job but is a carpenter, mason or craftsman, and it wouldn’t bother us. We’re great with money and we will let you pursue your passion and your art while we pay the bills, without ever bringing it up or feeling a way. However, if you just don’t work because you won’t work, you’re not particularly good at anything or really passionate about anything and youre lazy in any way, its not going to be doable. Especially if you’ve got other flaws.
“The Capricorn will fire you from the relationship for being an unsuitable mate (aka business partner).”
- She said that I’m not hired, she said that I’ve been fired!!! If there is no future with you, why are we together? if we can’t build anything and this relationship can’t grow, what are we going to do, hold hands and die rooted in the same spot?
“If you don’t let Capricorn dump you, then look forward to changing jobs, bank accounts, and social security #s in order to protect yourself from the Capricorn wanting to get revenge against you (especially if your goat has Venus in Scorpio).”
-Or just give us our stuff back, ALL of our stuff, never speak to us again and don’t try to benefit from us in ANY way. Everybody knows Caps are overly trusting, too giving and kind hearted and we let family and our men walk all over us. Everybody knows the Capricorn will do for you what NOBODY else will. So if its over and you’re STILL making demands and trying to dictate terms, rather than being grateful and apologetic about whatever YOU did, because a Cap will never stop loving someone for any reason other than hurt, now you have to get dealt with.
“The great thing about a Capricorn ex is that the Goat won’t kiss and tell about your breakup. It will be as if you never existed at all…’
-Whether or not we have kids with you, business interests or whatever, when its over we want the WHOLE THING done, no contact, no lingering.
Its not that we’re “cold”, its that we’re too sensitive and we can’t take being hurt or betrayed, AT ALL. So when someone hurts us, betrays us or shows us that they have those kinds of intentions, we need you out of our lives. And you can’t come back because the trust isn’t there. Prolonging contact with us or doing a whole bunch of emotionally dramatic stuff is pointless for that reason. Once you’re fired, you have a little post-it note in your folder saying NOT ELIGIBLE FOR REHIRE. Not saying it can’t happen, but you’d have to let Cappie dictate the terms.
Seriously, If you have to break up with Virgo, take this advice to heart!
We are (mostly) mutable, and if you say “it’s over” be prepared for us to come to terms with it and then ask “why?” Because we can be overly self critical, it’s important for us to understand our shortcomings, or we will think it’s worse than it is. Give us something to work on in our next relationships and us virgos will let you go without much trouble. If you can be forthcoming, we will adjust
I broke up with my Virgo (regretably of course). We were married for xx years. It’s been quite a roller coaster ride. We’re separated now, and he seems to be handling it quite well. He immediately started pursuing another woman. We’ve been communicating and even got together a few times for some great sex. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things out with me. But, all the while, he’s been pursuing this other woman. I’m not sure how to take this. I can tell you this much, I wish I had understood him better (him as a Virgo man); I would have done better to adapt over the years. But then again, a Pisces woman needs to feel love, affection and romance in ways that a Virgo man can’t express, or too rarely does. I’m desparately trying to win him back, but I think it’s too late. I don’t think he knows that I know about the other woman; He tries to cover his tracks, but my resourcefulness surpasses his efforts. And, I’m pretty sure she doesn’t know that I know what’s going on, either. At this point, I feel comfortable admitting that, for now, he’s using me and I’m using him. That is, until the other woman hooks him. My heart is breaking, though. I feel like I’m treading water. I’m so consumed with this. Is there any hope?
I am a Virgo female and as far as breakups go —- we are “still waters that run very deep”. A breakup is not only a failure — but also cuts us very deeply to the core. Virgo are usually very discriminating…so we a lot of time in choosing someone — a lot of time, thought, analyzing and heart-felt love go into the choice. When a breakup occurs — we feel that rejection very hard and it takes us as long to analyze/come to terms with the loss as it did for us to find that person.
Some Virgos do get very angry—but usually we show this side of ourselves as the true Vulcans we are…by just really trying to forget the whole relationship and person and experience. We will cut you off completely and I mean totally from memory. That is usually our way of overcoming that failure…pretend the whole thing did not exist. So many past boyfriends are angry with me – because after a breakup — I never have any type of communication, contact, or even think about that person because I helps us not really even see that failure. Almost every one of my exes has tried to win me back and rekindle and keep in touch — but I really don’t think about them and don’t like retracing the steps of mistakes or “going backward”. We are usually very positive/goal driven people and going back once we have “moved on” is highly improbable that we will ever take anyone back (unless a serious issue with kids is involved).
So before you break it off with a Virgo — know that once you do that — there is usually no going back for us. I think that once people do breakup with us — they start to really realize the beautiful qualities of Virgos…the intellectual, quiet, shy, caring, sharing, centered, and nuturing qualities in us — the things that once loved, and now miss.
Just remember — Virgos are of Vulcan and once our love is ignited it’s white hot like lava, but once heartbroken, we get super cold like Spock’s Vulcan personality and will use the Vulcan mind meld on exes.
OMG Joy what you have said here is ME to a T in every way……….its almost uncanny.
What is the point of being friends with an ex, i totally disconnect move forward and never look back..and yes all my exes have run after me after a break up, although i was madly in love with them at one time, after break up i will not even give them 5 min of my time…
Yes i totally never go backwards.
Forgot to include, i’m a female Virgo.
As a Virgo I will give a reason for a breakup, and it’ll be well thought out cuz I don’t like confrontation and have to give it some serious thought, especially if it is something that can be worked out. I will also do a breakup as it’s supposed to be done–IN PERSON!!!
I do want answers and honesty if I’m broken up with as well as an in person breakup. My Aries ex lost all my respect when he dumped me over text.
My Taurus ex kept trying to get me back after I broke up, first finding ways for it to not be official, then trying to get me back with a last kiss, then–about a month after the breakup–getting me an Xmas present. It was a pain in the ass.
@ Full of Bull,
You can have the Cap that I’m seeing. lol He’s a text book Cap and I hate to say this…he kinda gives me the creeps. lol My moon is in Pisces so I’ve begun to show him resistance to the “motivation” thing, hoping he’ll finally just go away. This involves lying, but hey – everytime I get ready to tell him that we aren’t really compatible, I get this sickly feeling and then all of the sudden I’m answering his calls/texts again. However, each time I’m showing less and less enthusiasm hoping that things will just fizzle out. He’s not the giving up type. So far this week I’ve declined 3 of his invitations to come visit me with lame excuses (which all involve laying around the house in some type of way. ???). Ok, so YES this is a Pisces trait. ha ha ha If he asked me what’s going on, that would give me the door way to telling him how I feel. This dude hasn’t asked. ????
@Adam:
It’s odd that your Taurus wasn’t very emotional, since mine was. Also, he loved to cater to me, sometimes to the point where it drove me nuts-same with his sense of humor. Like me, he had a quirky sense of humor. (I have the Cancer sign in my chart as either my moon or rising sign. Also I’m on the cusp of Leo, my Taurus I believe was on the cusp of Gemini.) I remember when I went camping and unexpectedly fell ill he stayed with me in the bunk we shared and repeatedly asked if I was alright. Really, I was worn out, annoyed with falling ill, and I had an upset stomach. I just needed to be left alone and I would feel better soon. I’m not sure if he got this though…. So yeah, thinking back on my Taurus, it seems odd that yours seems kinda cold.
I agree with another Virgo girl on here– if my Aries guy (two of three I’ve dated) could have understood why I was asking the questions instead of freezing me out, it would have been easier for the both of us, especially since that was our second breakup. (And like Joy pointed out, once you leave us there’s no going back. He asked me out a third time and said no.) I just want to know what happened–how he came to the decision, what–if anything–I did, what I could’ve done differently and what would have made him happy… If I know these things, then I’ll know what I did wrong and, therefor, what kind of behavior I can change when the next person comes along.
I normally wouldn’t change myself for another person–accept me for me or not at all–but if I know the results would work out in my favor and make me happy, then why not?
virgos do ask many questions and i will NOT ANSWER ANYMORE OF THEM! i could careless about them having closure after they started talking to someone new the day we broke up and never looked back and we still live together and yet. im like stop touching me. im interested in a capricorn. puh leease…but anyways. I would rather they just answer their phone right now. so I can say get out of my life. I love you but you will always make me feel like less of a person. so much so that i begin to question myself for NO reason. I am working on building myself back up and pushing them out. over time though they say you always want your virgo back but i have been through a break up with a virgo before and I know they ab so lute ly hate ur guts so. I am ready to say, leave me alone completely forever. I asked u stop talking to me and now that you have I just want my cellphone back. and yes im a pisces so what. Virgos in pisces are the WORST combo ever and i wish you the best. lol…
haha, i dated a taurus and i had to curse him out to get him to go away! i tried to be sublte and give clues, and even be direct about what i wanted but he kept insisting so i had to give it to him……but he finally got the point…
Dear Mmmm,
YOU ARE SO RIGHT…EX IS A VIRGO…A NIGHTMARE ON ELM STREET AND THAT IS AN UNDERSTATEMENT….He still tries to contact me to this day and I wont even him the opportunity…WHEN A PISCES WOMAN CUTS YOU OFF……WE CUT YOU OFF!!!! Especially people who drain us of our peaceful energy….I have never been so relieved to get someone out of my life…I have never missed them at any point and it has been over 10 years…LOL..Mmmm is right, Virgo and Pisces a no no
I have dated Virgos and as said before, my ex was a virgo and I have NEVER EVER EVER thought about going back…..My skin crawls at the thought…lol
Capricorns are usually the ones doing the dumping, so breaking up with them is relatively easy – as long as you let them be the boss of the breakup. Present yourself as a loser without future earning potential or any interest in money or status what-so-ever. ”
LOL, so true.
I’m a Leo male and breaking up with a Cap took me months and took me to rockbottom. They are very negative in perspective and telling her straight up might’ve been too much for her to bear. It’s not befitting of a gentleman to break a woman’s heart like that. I wouldn’t be able to move on if I hurt her like that and worse, maybe she would not be able to move on.(which really bothered me)
I loved her with all my heart but I felt like I was getting in her way, especially in the eyes of her family. And family is important in a Cap’s life. Her family treated me as if she deserved better, which I finally agreed to. It took much soul searching to come to the conclusion that her family was right and that I was wrong in pursuing her. I pictured her future with me(a wild egotistical Leo) and her future without me. The future without me looked so promising for her. She couldn’t see it though, which made me fall for her more. In the end though, I could not put my ego over her future.
So I did what any respectable man does…….acted like a complete asshole so when all was said and done, I’d be the bad guy. Us Leos get a bad wrap for that, but I’d rather live in constant pain than letting someone I love hurt. Does that make any sense????? Sometimes I don’t know. I can sulk, lick my wounds, then continue being positive and continue my life. I dont think its the same for people with negative outlooks and negative traits in their sign. A cap might continue her climb, but a negative outlook on that climb is not what she deserved. Especially with the Cap tendency of thinking they aren’t attractive. She was absolutely beautiful in every way imaginable and then some. She deserved a positive outlook and someone to court her who was better than me.
I guess I was successful because she moved on before we even officially broke up and had a child with him right away. She is with him to this day and is happy(I hope anyway).
The chronology of the breakup:
-I lied and told her I cheated on her early on in the relationship. It bothered her, but she still loved me. I think she knew I was lying.
-I dropped out of college(bothered her. bothered me more but I’d do anything for this girl to be happy in the end, even sacrifice myself.)
-I got tattoos on my lower arms(bothered her very traditional stance)
-I’d dedicate weird music to her(bothered her as she was very much into music and knew i was too)
-I’d complain about my job and tell her I was working a dead end job(bothered her, bothered me more because I WAS working a dead end job)
Eventually one day she told me there was someone else. I chased her a bit after that to not make it obvious. She was steadfast in her decision and I was never so proud of her. She finally saw it.
Perhaps I was wildly stubborn and crazy in my approach, but I feel it was a success. She’s recently moved to the city I live in(which she knew I was moving to) with her family and seems to be doing great. I found out she still calls herself “Queen” and perhaps named her child after me which makes me tear up while I write this. If I could take everything back, I would. I’d love this woman forever and ever and ever and ever and ever and ever and not from a distance. But life doesn’t work out like that. The past is the past. At least she is close and I swear to you, I can sense her presence. I haven’t looked for her in about 3-4 years and last month my gut tells me to google her name. Sure enough, she had just moved to this city.
In the end…… I’m a pompous Leo asshole, and my Queen, you deserved better.
I will always love you, but I must keep my distance. I hope you now understand that I couldn’t control my own power as an immature Leo, and that I’d hurt you mistakingly. There is probably no greater pain than trying to show your love to someone and having the adverse effect. I know the Leos out there understand what I’m talking about.
Peace
hahahah. shoot. imma taurus woman and i have to admit it took me 3 years to break up with my loser gemini. (we were together for 5 years and 4 months) on the 3rd year he stopped loving me and it took me about 3 effing years to finally break free from him. i effing hate his guts now but damn. it really is ridiculously hard to break up with a taurus! lol. i tried to repair the relationship and make him love me again when i felt him slipping away after the 3rd year but he wouldnt come back. he simply became selfish and stopped loving me because i moved into his territory and thinking space and it was the final straw for him. weird that he agreed at first but seeing each other tore up our relationship the first few months. it was hell for the last 3 years. and during this time he never asked me to leave or break up with me. even when we argued he never broke up with me. if he did, i think i woulda walked away cuz i wanted him to break up with me. wait he did, once but he drove back and took me back. i was ready to let go too but he asked me to stay cuz he still “loved me” yea, rite……. lol. and the end was horrible. i finally saw him for the selfish stupid bastard he was and realized i could never change him and left his a$$. it was hard to let go a month after i left too cuz that bastard wanted me to stay. he called constantly trying to revive “us” but i knew it was all an act. his true colors showed a few weeks later. he asked me to send him some money for his living costs. i was like, shit what an a$$hole!!!. i realized he only kept me around for my money. what an a$$! stupid loser! i admit i was stupid for trying to make it work with him too but he was my first love and my first serious relationship. i couldnt let him go……but damn i hate him now. i totally cut him from my life. it took months to a year to get rid of all the sh!t from him. (not that he bought that much sh!t for me) but that it took months for me to get around to throwing out his sh!t. lol. and its been 2 and a half years lol.
if u are determined to rid of ur taurus. act like u have no money. be lazy. be quarrelsome. be loud. be a bitch. touch and misplace their sh!t, tell them it’s over forever!, tell them u dont love them, tell them u found someone else (ultimate butt hurt comment) tell them the sex isnt good, tell them u hate their family (ultimate low blow) tell them u have to cancel ur plans with them (they hate this) tell them to change their plans to accomodate u (most taurus wont), give back all the shit they gave u (except for the ones u wanna keep) especially all the damn pictures and stuff animals they got u. (this is the ultimate “over” sign for me) lol. make every excuse in the book to get rid of them because that taurus will fight till the end to keep u no matter how effing disfunctional that relationship is. i wish my ex had the balls to break up with me instead of stringing me along and using me……effing loser.
hope this helps. cuz we bulls put up a good fight. lol.
and im not trying to put up a hate blog for us bulls, its just that we seem to want to fix stupid relationships that will never work. if it really is over, then i want my mate to have the guts and strength to rid me so i do stop loving him. yes, heart break hurts like hell but so does dead relationships!!! its a dead end already. make us let go!!!
oh and when u are rid of us, stay the hell away! not kidding. we will cling to u like glue to try to win u back. beware we will never really let u go…..officially. lol. u will always be in the back burner of our minds. lol. but if u stay out of our lives we can function better. plus, we can both get on with our lives.
beware of us stubborn bulls. but when we love, we really love unconditionally. its a curse and a blessing. lol.
marie:
you are such a taurus. haha
4 years. tststs gotta watch out next time.
no matter what their sign is.
and im one.
then i gave up. can’t keep loving and talking to a brick wall. 
i am giggling at your post honey. hehehe
just broke up with aries here. won’t do it again.
we can’t tell so much about people til we live with them.
there’s plenty of external factors that influence us all. but fact is bulls are stubborn.
i sure took great care of that old fella.
Ms1974:
How old is the cap who is pursuing you? if I may ask.
Thanks -Ara
i am in a relationship witha taurus for the fourth year and i dont know what to do. ima cancer and everywhere it says that taurus and cancer go together and i thought they did too so that is why i started dating him but it went well and then it broke and for the past two years its like we r just holding onto a string. he is exactly what is written about taurus and i think i should end it by now or at least stand my ground but i love to please people and not being near him hurts but talking to him makes me cry so i dont know what to do
This is “right-on” when it comes to leaving a Taurus! I have been trying to leave my marriage to a Taurus for two stinkin’ years! Two years! I would think that if he realized I didn’t love him and didn’t want to be married to him he would say “Fine, screw you, I’m outta here!” but that is certainly not the case. It’s been a long roller coaster ride of “You could love me if you let yourself”, “You’re MY wife and we agreed to stay married for better or for worse!” I’m not a person to him, I’m his possession. Ugh…so incredibly frustrating!
Nonetheless, he doesn’t realize my (Piscean) inner strength and perseverance. I’m out and there’s nothing he can do about it.
Water signs beware. He may provide steady ground to walk on, but only if it’s on the path he creates!
I’ve known two couples both female Geminis married to male Taureans. I watched the Gemini women milk the Taurean husbands for all they were worth. Neither loved their husbands, they loved the money they were good at making. The Taureans on the other hand were loyal, good providers and protectors who genuinely cared for their wives. Sad but true. Loyal Taurus and Fickle Gemini aren’t a particularly good match, especially as Gemini are often bisexual too – how much more fickle can you get? Both Taureans died before their wives and both wives continued to play the part of grieving widow – at least until the insurance policies were cashed. Sad but true.
My capricorn bf/or the guy that has fallen for me has a Venus in Scorpio. What in God’s holy name does this mean? Because I sense he follows me on weekends. He loves me but he left me a message last Saturday night saying “Hey… you better be good… I’m watching you…” What the hell is that. And I am not sure about the relationship you know. I told him that he should see other women because I don’t like trouble in my life but he just thinks I am pms(ing). I am a taurus and I want to make sure there is security and stability in the relationship so I am not putting my heart so much into it. I step forward then backward. Now he shows jealousy but careful about it knowing I got a bad temper. I just wanna know if I should run fast now. I like him but you know… I am not sure about it and stuff… but him having venus in scorpio gives funny feeling. He seems possessive. Really nice bright and gentle guy with me but I don’t like him following me on weekends. We are both free people. I was honest to him about it. Oh I don’t know.
I agree with Pisces Queen…..that Virgo and Pisces are not a good match always…they make great friends tho. My Libra broke it with me suddenly — and then he got mad because I layed down the truth down to him (he wasn’t perfect for sure). He really hates me now — but that’s us Virgos…we are truthful/ethical people. Now I know a Cap who is very noble and up-standing and GREAT guy.
I’m a Virgo female. Like Ruby and I stated before…we Virgos usually must move on. Virgo men …especially may seem cold — but like the saying goes “Still Waters Run Deep”. After breakups — we are usually VERY hurt — but we NEVER let it show. In fact, Virgos, as an earth sign and the only truly human zodiac symbol, are not only internalizing our own hurt….we feel the hurt of others as well.
I have a friend who was born on the same day as me —- and after 20 years….she finally spoke the name of this boyfriend who broke up with her in high school! She was deeply crazy about him, but he dumped her right before college. She NEVER mentiioned him or acknowledge that he even existed for YEARS. She finally admitted to me that she was so utterly heartbroken back then…that she just never wanted to think about it again.
That ex-Libra guy hurt me terribly/ horribly — but not one soul knew it. AND if I saw him stranded on the side of the road today — -I wouldn’t stop because he is now just another stranger. When you break up with a Virgo, you don’t become an ex or enemy…you truly become total stranger really. It’s too painful for us to dwell on. So be tender with your Virgos…they have quiet and tender hearts.
Ok, this is something that happen to me recently while out with friends and I must say it makes me think. Well, I was at a local club and this guy ask me to dance he was cute so I was all for it. After the dance he asks to buy me a drink so I’m thinking everything is going well. However, once I told him I was a Virgo everything went out the window. Lol but here’s the reason why. We both was there for a friend’s Bday party so both us u know start stating our bdays. His bday was in August he’s a Leo and I said oh cool my bday is Sept. 1 and that’s when his smile went to a frown and he went off saying “oh, no you are a Virgo! Oh, no you people are downright mean… Oh, no you’re a Virgo?” So, to state my case I told him anyone can be mean if you push them to it. He said Oh, no you Virgos are naturally mean and quickly walked away… What a joke.. Lol. So, guess what he definetly use approach to break off with me very fast and easy I kind of welcomed it but it left me thinking are we Virgo’s that bad??? Lol. Oh, btw I have a Libra rising and my Mars is in Leo so I believe this is what got the attention of the Leo man..
Hmmmm,
I’m a Leo, and my “old man” is a Capricorn of nearly 5 years now (10 years my senior). On our first date he gave me the rundown of all of his faults- convicted felon, no driver’s license, currently going through bankruptcy, recently did a year in jail, living in a motorhome at his mom’s, etc! I’m sure anyone reading this is shaking their heads at my utter naivety, but as a Leo I value Honesty very highly. Obviously so much so that I will overlook so many shortcomings in pursuit of it.
Now, fiveish years later, I finally want to break it off. I don’t want to hurt him, and I’ve considered making myself a completely undesirable mate, but I’m currently in school learning a new trade and he has been unemployed for the last 2 1/2 years (ish), and NONE of the good traits of Capricorn have been applying to him. He is goal-oriented, but we live in redneck country. All of his unemployment money goes to his muddin’ truck (which I absolutely hate), and it’s the only goal he has. He chews tobacco like a villain, and then complains that he doesn’t have any money left for groceries. He displaces his anger, is crap for communication, and constantly throws his wet blanket on my enthusiasm (I’m a Leo with Sagittarius rising for crying out loud!). Unfortunately, I think it was my Venus in Cancer that led me to believe that I could care for and fix him. For all that, I would like to clarify that there are times of pure and utter sweetness emanating from him. He can occasionally touch my tender heart, and for that I can’t find it in me to cast him from my “ranks”, like some used up plaything.
I’ve really been leaning into astrology lately (which he considers “evil” by the way–he’s sleeping right now and I have to keep my newfound interest a stinking secret) because I’m trying desperately to understand things about myself and others, and I really can’t afford a therapist.
Anyway, blah blah, anyone got any ideas on how I can break up with this guy without him trying to burn my house down?
So true that Virgos have the tendency to adapt faster that any other zodiac. It’s really quite hard to end it off with an Taurus, good thing I haven’t been with a Taurus…yet. As for Cappys, well same goes with Virgos, easy to break it off.
better be ready to change that job! venus in scorpio comin right at you! hahaha!!!