How to Break Up With an Earth Sign (Part 2 of the Breaking Up Series)
August 19, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
This post was written by Jara aka BlahBlah.
Disclaimer: This blog entry is for humorous and educational purposes only. Adhere to the following advice at your own risk.
If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a tender Taurus, virtuous Virgo, or a committed Capricorn, then you know how it feels to be with a partner who wants to be your biggest asset. But what happens when your earth sign mate has become a liability? Here’s how to make a clean break with a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn:
The Breakup Strategy
Taurus doesn’t like change – even if the change is for the better. This quality is what makes breaking up with Taurus challenging, especially for signs that don’t like change anymore than Taurus does (that means you, Cancer) or who would prefer that a problem solve itself (yes, I’m talking to you, Pisces). You want the quickest way to break up with Taurus? It doesn’t exist. When you entered into a relationship with Taurus, you made an agreement to be in it for the long haul and you must honor that agreement. This includes enduring a long breakup. Begin by weaning Taurus out of your relationship by failing to cater to the Bull. Stop cooking all those great meals. Don’t run any more bubble baths. No more late night massages! If this doesn’t work, try introducing Taurus to someone who cooks better than you.
Breaking up with Virgo is actually very simple. Virgo is a mutable sign, which means that the Virgin easily adapts to new stimuli. In this case, the new stimuli would be you wanting to break up. Expect many questions about how you came to your decision. Although the chain of questions will seem endless, it’s just Virgo’s way of gathering more information for future reference. Not answering the questions only inspires more questions, so carve out some time to satiate Virgo’s curiosity and you’ll be home free!
Capricorns are usually the ones doing the dumping, so breaking up with them is relatively easy – as long as you let them be the boss of the breakup. Present yourself as a loser without future earning potential or any interest in money or status what-so-ever. No matter how many times the Goat introduces you to a great mentor in your career field, say you’re not sure this is the right step for you. The Capricorn will fire you from the relationship for being an unsuitable mate (aka business partner). If you don’t let Capricorn dump you, then look forward to changing jobs, bank accounts, and social security #s in order to protect yourself from the Capricorn wanting to get revenge against you (especially if your goat has Venus in Scorpio).
Ex-files
Unless you broke Taurus’ trust, a Taurus ex will probably be in your life forever in some way or another (especially if you have kids together). If you married Taurus without a prenuptial agreement (how’d you manage that?), then be prepared for a long battle in court if you want to leave the marriage with anything Taurus wants to keep, like the car, the house, the kids, or YOU. If you’re moving out of the home you’ve built with the Bull, make sure to clearly mark all of your belongings. It will make packing so much easier.
You will enjoy Virgo better after a breakup than you did during the relationship. Not only do you still get the constructive “advice,” but Virgo might even help you reorganize your life after it falls apart due to Virgo’s highly noticeable absence. If you share children with Virgo, you won’t have to fight for joint custody, but you will have to endure Virgo frequently correcting and criticizing your parenting style.
The great thing about a Capricorn ex is that the Goat won’t kiss and tell about your breakup. It will be as if you never existed at all…
How did your relationship with a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn end? Did the end of your relationship with an earth sign leave you feeling on shaky footing or on solid ground?
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Well, I just divorced a Capricorn, and it was my call. I was with him for four years, and I predicted how the “announcement” of the divorce would go…and I was right on. His predictability is part of what bored me to death…and his inability to manage finances, though he had all receipts in an excell spreadsheet, it couldn’t fix the fact that buying a Porsche was not a good idea.
Anyways, it went like this:
Sag: “We need to talk about something”
Cap: “Ok, what?”
Sag: “I want to get divorced.”
Cap: “Are you serious?”
Sag: “Yes.”
Cap: “Ok, so do want to split the house, and the finances? Should we just divide up the bank account then? What about the pets? Do you wanna take one, and I will take the other?”
And this is how it went to the very end….it was like terminating a business contract, and we are still relatively cordial business associates on matters relating to the divorce and even personal matters.
I’ve had two relationships with Virgoans. Never again. They both left me completely ungrounded. One was my ex-husband. He wanted to play control games with the only one of my prized possessions: my book collection. I was willing to walk out without a settlement, etc. bc I wanted my freedom. I left that marriage with nothing but the books HE thought I should have. No money either. I had to start from scratch.
The other Virgo came between me and my family. That relationship almost did destroy my life. After he broke up with me, he asked me for money. Since he’d pawned off all the guilt on me and I was still reeling, I gave him the $$. (I was the bad one, see, bc I was angry all the time and he wouldn’t engage in arguments. He was extremely uncommunicative.) When I asked for it back, he tried to gaslight me by claiming that he didn’t have any records of me giving him the money–even though I did! Then he got my family (who thought he was angelic) on his side.
My experience with Virgos is that in public they want to look like the good guys but they can be very sneaky. I don’t trust Virgo men as far as I can throw them. I like Virgo women, though, but my experience of the men is just awful. Give me a straight-up manipulative, evil Scorpio any time. At least a Scorpio doesn’t insist that he’s an angel and that you are the devil. I think that’s a wicked thing to do to anybody, I really do. So, my experience of Virgo men is that they unground me.
HAHA. Virgos DO ask a lot of questions. I thought my male virgo friend does that because he wants to play “dad” (where are you going, who are you going with, where is it, how many people will be there, what’s there), but now I know it’s for future references
I am a taurus, and… a cancer and I ended a month ago.
He called me once after I requested that we cannot keep in touch, leaving a long message of “I still have your picture on my wall, I want to still be close to you, I want us to hang out…”
Not only does it sound pathetic, I could not agree to be his friend or a companion in anyway because:
He broke my trust.
When he said he needed “a break” from the relationship prior before our confirmed break up, in exact words he mouthed, “I will still be your boyfriend, I will be there for you, nothing changed, I just need a little time to think.”
He went out and kissed ANOTHER GIRL.
He wanted redemption by confessing it to me; it does not make him “a man” in my opinion. And how dare he try to ‘camouflage’ what he should not have done in the first place. But since I didn’t want US to change, I took him back (another chance for the long-term agreement), where he broke my trust AGAIN by breaking it off 10 minutes later.
So there you go. If I see him, it’ll be something in the line of “hey, thanks for the good memories.” but never will I trust him again. Now, future, life time.
And I am comfortable with that
- May
Caps are cool about break ups (of course if you’re not the one being dumped by a Cap and you can take an objective look at their behaviour) cause they’ll try real hard to end everything in a civil manner and with dignity, respecting the other side even if they hate their guts.
On the other hand, I’m Cancer with Taurus rising and I really have trouble letting go. (While the Cap just makes a surgical cut to the relationship. Cap decides that it’s the end and that only thing left is moving on.) Add Venus in Leo and I make a soap opera out of the break up, unless I’m the one breaking up.
My Aries ex (described here
has Cancer Risign and Taurus Moon, he just claws in to people, break up lasted for 8-9 months.
Jara, you’re onto something
Eme Kah, “I’ve had two relationships with Virgoans. Never again.”
Same here! And I second the fact that Virgo men are sneaky, sneaky, sneaky. Not only are they sneaky, many are downright strange. (Sorry to those of you who aren’t – just my personal experience is all.)
I’m Taurus and when I broke up with my Virgo ex this last time, he was relatively ok with it. Why???? He was already working on Plan B in the office. Married her 5 months later. Probably working us both about a year.
But his main problem seemed to be that he just couldn’t believe I was breaking up with him. How’d I reach that decision he seemed to ask? He had decided that between me and the other girl, I was first choice (cushier living situation). . .and he made it like I should’ve been thankful he chose me. But if I wasn’t ok with it, he was moving onto plan b.
Mind you, she provided a cushy living situation for him, too. Virgo men seem to resemble a gold digger in a certain respect. Looking to latch onto something. Handled it ok, but acted strangely afterward. Started spying on me at my camp, some 100 miles from home. Would drive by and wave like we were buds or something. . .started camping nearby with friends and HER.
Very strange, indeed.
Virgos scare me a tad, so I can definitely not provide any personal report on what it’s like to break up with them.
I’ve totally seen a Taurus in action though. Give the gleeful bull a garden to play in and nurture, plus material stability, they’ll be at least comfortable. But heavens help you if you ever use that as a compensation for your lack of depth and emotion, the Taurus will confront you, make demands, and push you. And if you’re not worthy, you can bet the Bull is gonna leave.
Get this; a Taurus and a Leo, fixed signs, semi-sextile. The Taurus has experienced a lot and has truly known people, a fighter and struggler, not to mention constant goal-achiever. The Leo was, on the other hand, all about facade and being presentable to the public, completely not caring about anything beneath the surface as long as everyone liked him. He’d pretend to talk with people, care about them, convinced himself that he could read people, while he in fact barely UNDERSTOOD or even acknowledged the existence of certain emotions. We can call him an afflicted Leo, it’s like his Sun and Moon made out, imploded, and turned into Black Moon Lilith. Seriously.
Anyway, the Taurus tried to save the relationship and has confronted the hypocritical Leo several times, and when the Leo refused to show any regard or interest in the Bull’s emotions, Taurus moved everything with tremendous force. The Taurus not only broke up, the Taurus actually showed who’s the superior and initiative one, who the real boss always will be. That was the most beautiful moment ever.
That same Taurus was later involved with a Gemini. When the Gem felt pressured and particulary depressed, he broke up with Taurus. Heavens be damned.
The Taurus didn’t just walk away or got depressed, oh no. Instead, the Taurus slapped some sense into the Gem and again showed such robust power and determination, that the Gem not only came back but couldn’t even fathom why he wanted to break up with the Bull in the first place.
You know what else is interesting? That this Solar Taurus is also a Virgo Rising and Capricorn Sun.
If someone tries to break up with that Taurus, you better have a damn awesome reason. Even if you do, the Bull will do anything and everything to first get an answer out of you that is understandable for her. Even if that actually happens, the Bull will attempt to keep you. Screw her over, and she’ll make sure your material stability and security is never seen again.
Oh, and she doesn’t bear grudges, it’s like traumatic events or breakups are harmless pebbles cautiously thrown at a bull, always falling to the ground with but a minor nuisance that lasts for less than a second. Delicate lover, outstanding business-partner, reliable friend, and a formidable, straight forward enemy/ex. No grudges, no pesky sneaking, everything is down to earth and served directly and concretely. Confrontations are to no avail, and some signs can barely handle such power.
“Would drive by and wave like we were buds or something. . .”
That sounds very Virgoan, Aphrodite. It’s not strange if you realize that, above all else, Virgos are very attached to the idea of looking like the nice guys. They want the whole world to think of them that way and will be very hypocritical to that end.
He’s bigger than you! He’s over it! And he’s STILL courteous to you. See what a nice guy he is?
Noctule: THAT was beautiful. Can you tell me HOW the taurus did it? I’m looking for what action she chose. Of course it was graceful and classy. I’m excited to read!
-May
“Virgo men seem to resemble a gold digger in a certain respect. Looking to latch onto something.”
Hmm…you could have a point here. Virgos are always looking for the PERFECT partner (most of the time by becoming the PERFECT partner). No wonder Beyonce (a Virgo) came up with a song called “Upgrade You.” She’s definitely speaking to her Sag boyfriend when she lets him know she’s an asset to him in every area of his life. There are a lot of songs on this last album that reference the things she can buy for him (”Suga Mama”, for example). It’s like being a reverse golddigger, but I don’t think she would be as interested in her Saggy boyfriend if he wasn’t one of the richest rappers ever. Virgos probably don’t think of themselves as golddiggers, though. They just want the security of knowing they made the best decisions in life (i.e., picking the best partner).
@May: Well, the Taurus was married to the mentioned Leo. As the Leo was all about social rank and superficiality, it’s been taking a toll on the marriage. The marriage lasted for about 8 years. The Taurus, on the contrary to the Leo, is a person of emotion, intimacy and depth of feelings and devotion.
She threatened with a divorce once, when the Leo simply refused to do anything to improve the relationship. She wrote a list of demands and things they should work on in order to make the marriage and relationship work out, and it should take mutual effort. She tried to save that marriage, even by consulting a relationship-therapist/councelor. The Leo did nothing. Ever.
He never took her seriously, and that was a big mistake of all his big mistakes, which are many. She bought an apartment, told him that she’s divorcing him and moving out, and moved out. She literally rented a van, and moved all her stuff out within a week. The Leo was so baffled, shocked and later depressed. He must’ve thought that she wouldn’t really do it. Silly Leo. She also told him to keep all the things and furniture, as the furniture specifically look great in the house. What a stylish way to break his pride even more. She’s an interior architect and engineer, the typical Taurean Artisan.
That was indeed very beautiful. How she said that she will do this and that and how she did it without drama or emotional games, without threats. Just like, BOOM. The Leo was so shocked. That’s what happens when a Taurus tried to confront issues directly and maturily with you, and you ignore her and don’t understand the feelings. For the Bull, it was a sure sign that there is nothing to achieve emotionally in this dysfunctional relationship, as it takes two to tango.
I’m totally fascinated by that Taurus. Many great stories surround that Bull. The best part is that the Taurus doesn’t hold grudges, when she occasionally runs into Leo, she bears no hostility or grudges but communicates with him like an acquaintance or friend, no sneaky thoughts behind. Amazing. I wish I could do that, but I’m too good at holding grudges, plotting stuff and being silly and sensitive for life.
Man, Taureans are awesome.
Eme, and Mirror of Aphrodite, I agree Virgo men are a pain in the neck.
I also agree I like the womne much beter-although they can be a little difficult too.But they’re *much* more pelasant.
I have found Virgo men not to be so “nice’ though.They do seem to think that explaining the reason for the break-up makes everything allright.
But the one Virgo I was real intop had a Cap moon, Virgo Mercury, and Venus, and Mars in *Scorpio*!
He was just horrible when he was angry–and almost cost me my job(I quit in shame, anyway).
He was nasty, and sneaky, yes.
Capriconrs–well that a goat of a different color.;-)
The one Cap I was in love with always managed to hurt me(for yrs)–though as a friend he was a nice guy.
Finally I ended the whole thing–and *he* went crazy with sorrow.
I was never so surpised, but it really was way too late.
We became good freinds a couple yrs later–and he was still unreliable, but fun caring friend.
It’s been over 30 yrs now–actually abvout 37.:-)
My husband is a Taurus, and *my* moon is i Taurus.I have to admit I don’t let go easily.Wish I could.
He did not either.
He and I broek up several yrs ago, and he could never grasp I honestly wanted space–for some reaosn he kept trying to prove he was “there’ as if that was what I wanted.
I find a Taurus has one focus, and one only.
nd their speed are slow and stop.LOLOL.
We even tually worked things out in counseling, and were a happy, but mismatched couple.;-)
ai–sorry for my miserable typing ’skills’.
ai–sorry for my miserable typing ’skills’.
I’m a Taurus and loyal to the end but a Virgo man just cannot be my man: they’re control-freak, they always say sorry when they make a mistake but are happy to repeat the mistakes 10 times, highly hypocrite and quite cruel when you dicover what they’re doing wrong behid your back, and yes, extremely sneaky.
“Virgo men seem to resemble a gold digger in a certain respect. Looking to latch onto something.”
The only reason why my virgo man was interested to marry me besides the great sex & great food (I’m a Taurus), is the perspective that I will gain a very good salary, better than his. When that did not happen, he basically cheated on me with a promising colleague. But his perspective turned real after the breakup (I got a very good job) and he’s all chasing me again, wanting to remarry again.
So go ahead and re-marry him. Get a super-duper-set-in-steel pre-nup in your favour, reap the proceeds and divorce him twice as fast
Don’t get mad, get even.
I’m a Capricorn with a lot of Virgo planets, my moon itself is in Virgo.
Yes, so when I break up with you, I give you a huge list why. I need to make sure you understand my point and it was well thought out too.
If you break up with me, you better have a good answer or reason. I don’t care if it’s as stupid as you wanting your ex back. As long as I hav an answer, and you better explain to me as well how on earth could she be better than me. (Leo rising).
When arguing with you, it sounds more like business proposition. Here is what is not working, though I can see where there was improvement here that assited this area, but it’s completely lacking with XYZ. Is it so hard for you to compromise and perform ABC? It only takes all of 3 mins to do this, and save about 5 hrs of seething anger and another 2 hrs of arguing….I spend a good amount of time “selling” my arugment, making my point and then end it with, “don’t you agree?” “Am I right or am I wrong?”
hehe…of course, I’m right. I calculated and analyzed that s*** so thoroughly, it’s a fail proof plan!! hahaha jk – sorta.
I know this was meant to be funny, but as a Taurus, the best way to break up with me is to JUST DO IT! Don’t play passive-aggressive games with me; don’t keep me hanging on, while slowly taking small things, like affection and effort, away, because I’ll probably sense that something is up, and you’re not telling me about it, which will just piss me off. Just tell me you want to break up! It’s true that I’m uncomfortable with change (good or bad), but if you just give it to me straight, I’ll respect you a lot more in the end. Period.
Begin Anew, It’s over between us.
I’m a sun taurus. God, I hate breaking up. It’s always so hard for me, even when I know that this person is not right for me. I’ve been in a relationship with a libra that made my life miserable since day one. I’ve been wanting to break up for such a long time and it took me over a year to give up on us and do it. I guess that’s my main problem – I see break ups as a sign of weakness, can’t give up.
Needless to say it’s not in our character to give up =] I can’t accept the fact that I have failed to create a good relationship, even if it’s not my fault. I can’t just give up and walk away. I always have to try and fix it, to make things right, truly believing that I can do this, that I can make things alright again. Sometimes I’m too busy trying to “fix” everything, refusing to believe that maybe it just can’t be fixed.
I guess it’s our flaw, being so goddamn stubborn =] I’m always fighting for the one I love and care for, not realizing that maybe he’s just not worth fighting for.
But of course, realizing that would mean admitting that I was wrong about him.
Me? Wrong? Nah, impossible
Ugh, taurus taurus…
I agree 100%. It’s like you took the words right out of my mouth. Doesn’t help that my natal Mars and Moon are in Virgo, along with two other planets…so I not only agree with what you said, but I have to analyze the hell out of it to rationalize why IIIII failed, what IIIII can/could have done differently, and what IIIIIIII can do to fix it. Even though nothing could be done to fix it. Being a proud Cap with Leo rising…the last thing I want to do is accept defeat. Not to mention, if I’m the one that walked away, I’ll forever haunted by the “what if’s” ringing in my head. It’s daunting I tell ya.
“Not to mention, if I’m the one that walked away, I’ll forever haunted by the “what if’s” ringing in my head”
I wish. When I decide to walk away, I always know that it’s for good. If I, me!, the most stubborn person in the world, decided to break up… It means that I’ve been through a living hell with that person and there is nothing anymore for me to come back to. For me to initiate a break up is burning all bridges – Set the fire, and once it’s gone – It’s gone for good. From there I can only go forward, there is no way back for me :S
I’m the same way. When I walk away, I walk away. It’s over. Like it never happened in the first place.
However for the man to know when I’m really walking away is something else. There have been times I’ve told a man “*uck you” and “you know where you can go” because I’ve been so deeply in love with him. To give a man *hit is NOT walking away from him.
To completely ignore him, his calls, his very presence as if he doesn’t even exist . . . THAT is walking away. And THAT is a permanent thing.
I’m not a Virgo man, but a Virgo woman with the traits of a Virgo man. I can tell you that we live by the Golden Rule. It’s easy to break up with a Virgo–just dish a bunch of crap but be incapable of taking it. Or make them feel as if they aren’t in a relationship at all. A lot of complaining helps, too. They will then proceed to act like a total dick or a total bitch, so much so that you will have no choice but to leave them (which is just the thing a Virgo tries to accomplish when engaging in such behavior). Virgos hate confrontations, bitterness, and drama–they are easily able to let go without getting burnt to a crisp (hence, the ability to be so friendly to an ex that it is often viewed as strange behavior). As for the slithery, sneaky ways? Just be angry and unclassy about the mere mention of a breakup and watch your Virgo morph into a lying, deceitful, sneaky little jerk should you insist that he or she stay. A Virgo will stay to put the fire out, but you can almost guarantee that he or she will not be under your thumb.
LOL…this was funny as hell. Especially the part about Capricorn Sun Scorpio Venus seeking revenge. I have Capricorn Sun and Venus in Scorpio and that is MOS DEF the way to break with me……(if you dare)
It’s surprising how many people don’t realize that I actually own them during the relationship. What silly rabbits…No one would dump me anyway….I’m the sexiest thing since gravy.
im a mid 30’s scorpio with a 22 year old passive aggressive male capricorn….he’s driving me crazy !!!! Im new to this and are our signs compatible at all??? as a scorpio i find myself more passive and submissive than i normally am in this relationship. Almost afraid that this cap might explode…are caps usually dominating like this ???
As far as Sun signs go, Scorp and Cap are compatible, but you really need to look at all the planets in both charts. Capricorn is the “boss” so I would not be surprised if he wants to dominate you.
Wow!
There certainly seems to be a lot of animosity towards Virgos.
I am Virgo female with a lot of Earth in my chart: a moon in Taurus, and a Venus in Virgo. I can’t speak for my male counterparts. But I can honestly say that I don’t consider myself astrologically-inclined to hypocrisy, gold-digging, or sneaky cheating.
Not all Virgos are hyper-critical shrews. Much of the time, it’s honesty that motivates criticism, and not ego. Ego, or the lack of it, is apparent when most Virgos divert a compliment with a self-deprecating comment. I don’t offer my fault-finding to people who do not want it, but if prompted I can usually find the tarnish on anything. But that always includes me. And I’ll be the first to tell people that I’m not as virtuous as I seem (as much as they protest).
Virgos are shrewd; they don’t want to hook-up with people they must support–indefinitely. I am not a gold-digger. But I do not want to commit myself to someone who is not willing to pull their own weight. I will always want my own achievements, and I want to be with someone who is driven to create his/her own successes. They don’t have to be successful when I find them: I would love to help someone make their dreams a practical reality. For me, it isn’t looking for money. It’s looking for an equal that I can respect. Besides, I don’t commit on a whim–and I don’t want to be stuck with someone I can’t live with.
Virgos…sneaky? I used wish I had a capacity to be a little sneakier. Since, I’ve been blindsided a couple times by ex-partners infidelities. But I can’t bring myself to cheat on someone. I have had partners suspect me–but it’s only partners that are very possessive. Virgos require a lot of privacy. And maybe part of this “sneaky rap” is misunderstanding the lone-wolf quality a lot of Virgos emanate.
I realize that this is long, and a little self-centered. But I felt the need to pipe up in defense Virgos everywhere. (Is it just me, or do we get a bad rap in a lot of places?)
BTW…I clean when I get dumped! Cleaning has a cathartic quality: burning off all that sad energy and it literally wipes the slate clean.
Ha! I’m a Virgo female and oh boy..I can be tough. There is always a plan B in my head. I always strive to make the impossible very possible. I will tell you though if you want to break up with a Virgo just do what they hate (be a slob, don’t care about yourself, have no ambitions and no goals,..she’ll be gone sooner than you thought). Also being a Virgo woman, I love strong men, who can stand up for themselves and even ignore me sometimes, basically a man that knows what he wants ad is not clingy. Even though in most of the horoscopes it says that Virgos are of serving nature. We definitely want that back in return. You muct acknowledge us. If you don’t we will tirelessly fight to get it; however, if you do what we say..oops we get tired of you and can’t wait to break up.Now you would think..what did she just say? Honestly, if you want to break up with us just do what we asked you to do and you are becoming boring in my eyes. We love the chase and to be controlled when it comes to love but the lover should also know how not to abuse that. Another way to break up is to piss me by doing something so unconventional like cheat on me but we didn’t mutually agree on that. Ugh..I would be pissed at first and break up..but remember..now you are a challenge so I may want you back sooner than you know and try to make it look as if you wanted me back. Virgos are playing a lot of games and have secret lives. Don’t let the innocent outlook fool you.
Wow…the many spins were light – hearted and inspiring. I am a Bull…as fixed and earthy as they come. Formidable and determined. Determined to SHOW YOU that I am stronger. All the stories above mirror my actions as if someone read my mail LOL
I see break ups as a sign of weakness, can’t give up.
Needless to say it’s not in our character to give up =] I can’t accept the fact that I have failed to create a good relationship, even if it’s not my fault. I can’t just give up and walk away. I always have to try and fix it, to make things right, truly believing that I can do this, that I can make things alright again. Sometimes I’m too busy trying to “fix” everything, refusing to believe that maybe it just can’t be fixed.
i SOOOOOOOO AGREE!! lol
I am indeed a virgo man 22 years old… I may not have experienced enough relationships to know if i have a “sneaky” side but for the most part im head over heals for a 26 cap and i would do anything in my power to keep her happy. No going out with the guys “i hate friends” no flirting with super sexy women “their actually a turnoff” and most importantly LOVE LOVE LOVE! im a sept. 19 virgo so maby that makes a difference… But i feel very “Pure” and i know my faults, i AM a hypocrit, but i WOULD NEVER demand more of a woman then i was more then willing to put in. In most part Bad matchs to virgo men like leos n such give us golden boys a bad rap. WE DONT EVEN LIKE FOOTBALL i dont sheesh hate crowds. I just love you women. and i want to make you super happy in bed.
! BTW i persue 1!! woman at a time. Too much heartbreak when i was younger QQ.
im a taurean…. if the personhas been kind but im just not into them i find it hard to break up.. but if the man is an idiot after giving him a chance or two i will break it off… most of my ex’s have stayed feiends…
i do need a good reason for being dumped as i feel like i was straight with you.i would like a reason so i can clear my mind and move on then be left thinking mmmm what was wrong… iv also noticed that ex’s seem to want to give it another go with me after the break up…im like no way… there was only one man i allowed thatto happen with virgo… and that was a waste of time…..my capricorn friend he seems to syay friends with his ex’s aswell???
if you want to get rid of a taurean start playing games because i have not got any time for it,,,,,x
Noctule…I love what you just said about Tauruses. I was involved with a Leo for a short time and you describe this person EXACTLY to a tee….totally superficial, obsessed with how he looked to others, kept telling me that “I never listen” and that “his brain is processes everything too fast which probably makes him really smart ” when he never realized that it was HE who never listened (he never gave direct answers..grrr, like what the fork?) while making it seem like I was at fault whenever I asked for clarification about something. I have a photographic memory and I remember facts and everything I am told very well so I really hated this.
Anyway I stopped talking to him and completely ended everything in one day. I think he got shocked and was texting for a while, but i completely ignore him. Easy .
Im a Taurus with virgo moon and capricorn rising BTW.
I am a picses and dated a taurus. I tried to break it off with him and it was hard work. I’d get my number changed and wouldn;t give him my number but that would’t matter, he would just somehow look me up, He’d just call my job and talk to me so I’d feel bad and give him my new number. He did that twice. So we talked but then I tried to get away again, got my number changed again and this time he somehow looked me up and got my house number and called. I was thinking man, this dude don’t give up! And even then after he looked me up, I told him I had a boyfriend and he was a little disappointd but just said, He will just wait until me and the guy break up, Lord! Give it up!
I dated a Capricorn for about 3 years. When I broke up with him he got real s***ty. I felt at the time that “I don’t want to be with you anymore because you are a drunk and you party to much” was a good enough answer. We would talk every once in a while, but he was always an a******. Then after some time, we just didn’t talk at all. Well I finally hooked up with someone (from my past whom I dated before) and my Capricorn ex started doing wierd stuff like showing up at my house in the middle of the night. He would crawl threw the window to get into my house. The first 2 times he did it was when I was out with the guy I was dating at the time. My roommate told me if he keeps doing it my ex would get hit with a bat. He didn’t stop. The last time my ex crawled threw the window of my house, the guy I was seeing at the time was there. We woke up and my ex was asleep on the couch. I think that did it for me and the guy I was seeing. He was creeped out because my ex would not go away. I had to move. Doesn’t seem like the average Cap. I think he must have lost his damn mind. I am a loving, Leo BTW.
I’m a virgo woman and mostly agree that we do ask a lot of questions… a break up is a failure, and you just don’t want to repeat that in the future.
I also noticed the animosity towards male virgos, but i don’t take that personally at all – I think we are quite, quite different! I love being a virgo and get along quite well with other virgo women, but I often find that the best qualities of the sign, the pleasentness, being demure, the search for beauty, the duality… well, those just don’t translate well at all in men – they come off as harsh, intolerant and focused on the perfection of others instead of themselves and can go overboard in certain characteristics, for ex, having a “plan B”: where a virgo woman is often adaptable and is just being practical, in a virgo man that sometimes shows up as being very fickle and sometimes even unfaithful. Being a virgo man sometimes leads to quite confused individuals whom I just don’t have the patience for.
Last but not least: I think the venus position is even more important than the sun when it comes to how you react to a break-up – once, I had a boyfriend who decided to break up with me, and since I still liked him, once when we started having that conversation, I did ask him many questions and tried to see if there was a chance of working things out – then he told me he just didn’t feel that strongly about me anymore, and that was it! I’m a venus in Leo person, and the second I sense someone is “just not that into me” I immediately lose interest!
am leo girl, the virgo man i was in relationship with was very ignorant , i even thouht a times that he doesnt want me.. only he showed up when he knew i became a friend of his guy cousin, he is just like a lil boy he just wants me when i ignore him and talk to other guyz.
I’m a virgo girl born September 10th. I was with a taurus for 2 years and HE broke up with me. It seems he was easier with letting go. He did cry but now we don’t even talk really except he contacts me about once a week. One of the reasons he did it was because he thought i didn’t trust him because of all the questions! Ya right…i just like knowing things haha. Anyways…I’m done with taurus’s! Now i’m onto a gemini and that is worse…hes hot and cold. I might just go after a virgo haha!
Blah Blah…I am at a lost for words. When I met my Taurus on New Years Day during our conversation then and to this day, he says he will not get married without a pre-nup. I didn’t give it much thought, but I told him I would have no problem signing it..lol And then I just read your “opening” comments and you mentioned the pre-nup. Wow!! He was/is really serious about that
I’m a virgo woman; I definitely have to find out why it’s over, otherwise I stay up late torturing myself with the unanswered questions. It’s really nerve wracking. But if a guy just tells me what I need to know, I can peace out and move on like it never happened.
I’ve dated two Taureans. One guy broke up with me, in fact, almost THREE years ago– and still calls me up when he’s lonely, under the guise of “Oh, we’re friends, I’m just calling to see how you’re doing… So, uh, you wanna get together again?” This happens every few months or so.
Now, the second didn’t really want to break it off when I asked him to– we weren’t much for conversation to begin with, and I didn’t like this. After he got upset, I opted for the slow and painful death of “friends with benefits.” Bad idea. He liked the idea, but only because he was, uh, more of a physical type than anything else. When I finally decided that I didn’t even want that anymore, and withheld (you know) he got really entitled and acted like a complete child about it… He was like, “WHAT, you mean to tell me you DON’T want to have sex with me? Waaaah.” And later, he tried to apologize and get back with me. I told him there was no way in hell. I mean, really, I thought I said it very clearly: “I’m not getting back with you. We have no business being together.” But he couldn’t take a hint, and kept calling “as a friend,” only to tell me I was confusing him and that he couldn’t “read my mind.” He also kept texting me things like “I miss you” and “When can I come see you?” (Like I said, I was pretty clear!) I just ignored him, and a couple months later he stopped. Could I have handled that better? I dunno. He just didn’t get it.
@scatterheart
a couple months is not too long lol
I’m a taureaan woman, i always to the break up, I do it easy, quick and fair but the men never really get over me
I broke up with a gemini man 6 years ago, till now he’s still chasing me, calling me 5x a day, sending me gifts, …he says he will wait for me when i’m 60 and divorced and noone wants me, and then maybe does he hope i will give him a chance…mind u, i’m only 28 now
I also broke up with a taurean man 3 years, basically same issue, calls me at least once a month wanting to get back together
Also broke up with cancer about a year, basically still the same
so for you be glad it was only 2 months and you didn’t have to deal with it for years
Well I’m a taurus and my leo guy dumped me after being with me over a year. We did everything together and by the end of the summer he totally just ended it and then ignored me. That is the worst thing to do with me. I called him nonstop and texted, I wanted to get my every last word in but he threaded me on for like two weeks saying we would get back together in the future. But in our relationship he promised he’d never leave and pretty much fed me a bunch of lies he didn’t stick to. It takes a lot for a taurus to actually stay mad at someone, but I wouldn’t beable to look at him with a long heartfeld apology a leo would never give. Oh well. Just don’t f*** with a taurus girl, go to counseling before you consider a breakup
I am a scorpio woman married to a virgo. Ours was an arranged marriage and i didn’t know him till we got married. then i put a lot of effort in the relationship and found him to be critical, cold and not ready to acknowledge my feelings. The constant criticism got to me and I finally left him. He used to call me rarely when we were together but when I told him very clearly that I donot like him calling me, not only did te frequency of calls increase but he behaves as if there is nothing wrong and I am just away on some vaccation. And the worst part he is so nice and charming and agreeable with my family that I am portrayed as the impulsive fool. I hate that part the most. If we hv problems and break the relationship atleast acknowledge the responsibility of yours and not try to be the good guy around.
Hi, when I broke up with a Virgo BF for being cruel to someone else, he told everyone I knew that he would kill himself and it was all my fault. Then he attempted to, making sure he would get stopped just in time. Then he started calling my brother and telling him how mean I was, Drama queen manipulator!
That’s just a little weak LibraLady…
I’m a Cap-Sun, Libra-Moon, Libra-Rising (with Venus in Scorpio! – like in the article… & I’m ashamed to admit, but totally true about the getting revenge thing, especially the stronger my feelings are for someone.)
My first serious relationship was with a Gemini. It started out hot then fizzled quickly once I was no longer a chase for him. After we broke up & I moved onto someone else, he wanted me back, so I took him back. Then the same thing happened again. He was always a pretty good friend though, and could make me laugh, which I loved.
My second serious relationship was a Libra-Sun/Capricorn-Moon. Definitely the most passionate of my relationships, in a negative way. This relationship was a 6 year long battle. It was incredibly intense in the beginning, lots of sex. Then became a series of fighting, yet forcing he relationship to stay together because we had made that verbal commitment to one another. We would ebb & flow between being the independent/dependent one.
My most recent serious relationship was with an Aries-Sun/Pisces-Moon. He is a typical Aries – a child with a quick temper. I felt like I was having to constantly mother him & I’m not into that. He was also the most detached of my lovers and I couldn’t stand that. I like my alone time, but I also would like more than just (very rough, selfish on his part) sex! In the beginning I liked that, but it got old quickly. I actually became pregnant for this man, we got married when I was three months and filed for divorce about 11 months into the marriage. The break was very clean – we discussed arrangements at home & then went to a mediator, had everything typed up, signed it all, and went on our ways. I still have to see him almost on a daily basis because we have joint custody. We have definitely kept things incredibly cordial, though at times he still acts like a child and whines to me about how he wants to get back together with me, even though he is aware of how incompatible we are.
I am, in fact, a complex Cappie after-all. I feel like I’m so very heavy, yet still attempting to maintain a very optimistic approach to love. (i.e. Getting to the top of the mountain, while taking a self-fulfilling prophecy rough journey to get there.)
The best way to break up with an earth sign is be honest 100% TELL THE TRUTH!! If you dont want to be with us say it! The truth hurts but earth signs are very logical and we dont like Bulls***..