This should be obvious, but it ain’t. Not only can you not make someone love you — not even astrology can help.
I have not followed the love and dating industry very closely. I have not read The Rules. I’m not looking to meet the man of my dreams. But if I were, I’d be deluding myself that I could do more than lure him.
If man were a fish, you can bait him, you can hook him, you can even eat him, but you cannot make him love you.
You can try all matter of perfumes, alluring outfits, love potions, spells, manipulations, machinations. They won’t work. At most, you will be able to make him want you a hell of a lot.
But that’s not love.
I’m not sure if love is an emotion, a state of attachment, or a matter of will. It’s a bit of a mystery. But whatever love is, it goes beyond lust or desire or really groovin’ on someone.
With the benefit of knowing someone’s Sun sign (or even Venus or Moon sign), you may be able to shape your behavior to suit or accomodate his personal style. But if you’re being inauthentic, if you’re just playing a game to get him to like you — how can he possibly fall in love with you?
If you use astrological knowledge to subtly manipulate him to fancy you, what have you got, besides a fancying man? A fancying man may buy you fair trade chocolate or adopt you a cute little kitty cat, but that’s not love. He may have fantasies of getting in your pants or shacking up with you or even having you bear the fruit of his loins, but even that’s not love. That’s just his dreams and desires.
Maybe love is will. When the rollercoaster ride of symbiosis is over, you’re left with two adults with all-too-human flaws. And what keeps these two together after the hormones cool down is choice. You cannot make someone choose.
And even if choice is an illusion, even if there’s some solid soul-bond which is the result of planetary compatibility, you can’t make that happen. It just is.
So stop deluding yourself. Love is about surrender, not control.
And remember, it takes will to let go.