“Aries, Leo – falls in love with trophy material. Aries and Leos know they’re in love when they find themselves bragging to everyone they know about their mate”

Aha, that explains it. This ol’ Mars in Leo keeps luring in and being lured by those Mars-ruled fiery Aries and Leos. The minute it dawns on me that they think of me as simply some sort of prize or sex object I lose all respect for them and just play along.

Yes, I foolishly play with fire. And when you do that, you get burned.

Because once a girl falls for a guy, the deep rooted emotional attachment remains. Those second and third degree burns may heal but the scars remain.

There are ways to erase the scars but in reality, we fool ourselves by only covering them up. They’re still there, just not visible on the surface. But deep below the layers of the epidermis the damage is evident and the scars remain.

And deep within the layers of the heart, the memories, like ghosts, wander the hallways of always in the windmills of your mind.

The repression of feelings is not something voluntary or controllable, social paranoia and attachementparanoia can be more or less balanceable, but still pretty absurd.

I don’t think it matters at the moment though. Conflicts may resolve gradually, although they will require effort.

…But yes, it’s definitely easier to work on issues, whatever they may be, when you acknowledge and see them.

Repression of feelings, avoiding people and attachement, turmoils because of bottled up and repressed feelings, unconscious sabotage of bonds. One of the uglier streaks is passive emotional abuse and manipulation. A lot of insecurities and fears associated with close relationships, fear of commitment, etc. Some very contradictory feelings often follow along, and it’s straining. There’s a deal of ambivalence.

Here’s also an interesting bit mentioned on an astro-site regarding this aspect: “A withdrawal from relationship commitment could stem from a similar withdrawal of a parent from you during childhood. You may now unconsciously seek to punish a parent by rejecting others who try to get close to you.”

Regardless of whether my problems are related to the aspect or not; this aspect is scary.

Aquarius – doesn’t fall in love. Just kidding. lol Aquarians know they’re in love when they wake up one day and realize they’ve been in a semi-committed relationship for years and think to themselves, “wow, funny how time flies when you’re having fun.”

I’ve said it before, but no more dating fire sun signs or fiery moon/venus/mars placements for me. In my experience, they tend to fall in love quickly without really getting to know a person, and then have angry outbursts when they feel disappointed or disillusioned by unpredictability (which is likely to happen when you don’t really get to know a person).

@Sagilarious, everything in the chart probably affects how someone falls in love. I used sun signs in my breakdown for the sake of brevity, but I would say the same goes if the descriptions are applied to other planetary placements. There’s just a blending of styles. For example, a sun sign Sag with venus in Capricorn might tend to fall in love with a co-worker who they admire, but become conscious of their love after the co-worker becomes a buddy.

@Eme Kah, with those placements, how do you manage NOT to be in love at all times?

@Jeff, *I’m thinking of ways to spend my $100*

@Cappylady, thanks. I’ve dated almost every sign twice over and that list is shorthand for my experiences. lol

@Blee, I have an Aries friend that has venus in Taurus and you remind me of her. She loves the infatuation stage (kissing random people on vacations), but she always manages to fall into these long-term relationships. I like teasing “Miss Steady” about revoking her player card.

@Noctule, I agree so much with your statement: “I witnessed a lot of Cancers latching onto marriages for example, and most Scorpios I know are into affairs or relationships (well, obviously).” It’s funny to me how traditional astrology says Cancers and Scorpios are supposed to be compatible when Cancer seems much more sentimental and traditional than Scorpio to me. Unless the Scorpio has some Cancer/Pisces influence, the Cancer/Scorp combo can be great affair, but difficult long-term. I have both planets in my chart and it shows in how I’ve gotten carried away with people I’m sexually attracted to and come thisclose to having a short-term affair, but then the Cancer part kicks in and puts the breaks on all of that. lol

How’s that moon square venus aspect working for you? I must admit there are some aspects that I’ve read about and am scared of seeing in a date’s chart. Moon square venus is one of them. My venus squares MC, too (by sign, for sure. not sure about if by aspect).

I agree that, in general, fire signs, Pisces and Libra fall in love quickly. For fun, which sign is least likely to fall in love?

I tend to look for convenience and benefits in possible relationships, and avoid commitment, but I get easily jealous. It’s not even standard jealousy, it’s dark jealousy and envy.

It doesn’t have to be because I adore the person that much but rather because I can’t stand the thought of one of my former partners being happy without me.

I tend to both choose and attract the wrong people, so to speak. If convenience, care and mental comfort fades, I become amputative.

Then again, I have some nasty aspects that may contribute to such an outlook and approach to attachement and relationships. I have Moon Squaring my Venus for example. My MC squares the Venus as well.

I have to agree on fire-elementals being prone to crushes, infatuations, et cetera. A Sag friend of mine changes “true love of her life” on annual basis. I can also see how water-influence people can get carried away, I witnessed a lot of Cancers latching onto marriages for example, and most Scorpios I know are into affairs or relationships (well, obviously).

…Actually, when I think of it, it seems like every single person I know is in a somekind of attachement.