What to do when your Cancer man is angry at you

CancerAn angry Cancer man is not a pretty sight. He’ll withdraw into his shell and refuse to talk to you, or just bitch and complain (whine). Passive-aggressiveness is also common for a water sign that is famous for moving sideways.

More likely than not, he’s angry because you wounded his sensitive crabmeat, or your actions elicited his fierce protectiveness towards those he loves. It is natural to feel angry when you don’t feel safe.

Therefore, the first step towards reconciliation is acknowledging that you posed a threat, and that you will do everything you can to maintain Homeland Security. (And although our current President is a Cancer, do not follow his example. Torturing others to save your relationship is off limits!)

Talk is just talk, though. The Cancer man, as a member of the cardinal signs, prefers action over words. (A warm embrace counts more than verbal reassurance.) Your overtures should reflect a sincere desire to make things right. Cancer, ruled by the Moon, is an intuitive sign, and will be able to tell if you’re just going through the motions.

Cancer’s feelings of safety are based on emotions, not logic, so a home-cooked meal may indeed do the trick, provided he can taste the love. A cup of warm milk and a nice cuddle can also melt the Crab’s defenses.

Comment below: What would you do if a Cancer man were angry at you?

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.


  1. fullgrownpisces says:

    Oh my gosh this cancer guy is making me nuts. We met 3 mos ago and he has texted me every ay since. On average 70 times per day. Only withdrawing once as I told him early that I hated the thought of him suffering alone on bad days and I wanted to crawl in his shell with him until the bad feelings past. He gave an amazing response and completely let me IN! But we are like 7 hours part and have only gotten to spend a few days together. I’ve noticed a pattern that when he starts feeling really close I can feel him pull away slightly, but not too far. Enter the issue, there is another girl that, lives nearby that he not only has to see a lot for work, but he also CHOOSES to be with often. He tells me they are just friends, but she blows up his facebook page with pictures of everything they do. But when I acted the least bit upset over it, he told me that he didn’t like the way I was acting, And that I was not connecting with him on the same level? Yet he tells he me he doesn’t want any other guys around me. We have been intimate and are pretty much EVERY DAY OF TH WORLD on the phone. Although he prefers to text not talk! He sends me pictures all the time, and I know he is thinking of me cause he takes pictures of things he thinks I wld like to see and sends them to me. The contact is constant and honest. But I can’t figure out what is going on. I sent him a copy of a text one of my guy friends sent that had an autocorrect screw up that was FUNNY to me, I cld have told you the second he read it because I immediately felt the chill in my spine. I was right, he was pissed. he didn’t say so directly. Instead when I told him I felt the coldness he said there was no way that cld have beendone accidentally and then repeated that to me like 4 times. I said perhaps he was right and I wld tell the guy I thought it wls be a hard screwup and not to do it again. he just told me he was going to bed and goodnight. Which is SOOOO unlike him so I know he was more angry than he let on. I am at my wits end, as I am a true Pisces, I admit I flirt a lot if Im single but Im super respectful if I’m in a relationship. But I am so confused as to what is happening here. And how am I supposed to feel about his other “friend”?????? He told me he knows Im a jealous sort, I admit that, but he is too apparently! I shld probably also mention that he is younger, by quite a bit. So it makes for even more confusion, but we are like SIGNIFICANTLY DRAWN to each other. And all the things I wld do (cook, cuddle, comfort away his insecurities) I can’t do because we are so far apart. He talks about future things and sys he wld never want to lose me. Do they get over being angry quickly. Is it common for them to expect you to be only for them while they can be “friends” with whoever. Cancer man insight please……

  2. Im a freaking cancer male, 28 years later- im finding out that being born between July 2 and July 12 means you will exhibit stronger aspects of the cancer sign more than most.
    When the going is great, its nirvana, when its bad- its 7 steps lower than hell.
    If i had know some of this zodiac traits, i might have saved myself and others a lot of heartaches and pains or maybe not.
    I always thought everyone felt the same things i felt and could read others so well- oh well fml

  3. Mspink510@yahoo.com says:

    Hi! I’m a Scorpio and I was in an interracial relationship with an Irish Cancer man. I fell for him and we were together all the time. It didn’t take long for problems to occur quickly. I found out that he has a serious drug addiction. I have a full time job and I attend college part time. I found out that he was also living in this house illegally & he has no job & no car. I still stayed with him. He kept making empty promises he couldn’t keep. Then I was arrested & puton house arrest. This all happened after I met his family. Then he lost his place to live and let him come live at my house which was a horrible idea. I became resentful at him for being a lazy loser and he started to withhold sex and affection from me. He’d fall asleep every night and was really cold to me & it hurt so bad. So we got into a huge fight and then he went out and used drugs with his friend. Then that evening, he started packing his things and he left me. It hurt so bad. I reached out to him several times apologizing but no response. Then I gave him some time, three weeks passed by and I saw him online on a dating site looking for someone new. It broke my heart in pieces and I became so in raged. He lied to me and my mother about paying for a ticket he got in my car . He said he was in it for the long haul. It was all lies. Now I’m completely sober and it hurts me to know that I’m going through all of this alone. Now I want revenge on this Crab. I let him and his dog into my home. I almost lost my job because he left me stranded for work . Will I ever be able to make this Cancer what he did was wrong? HELP!

  4. Hi Mspink

    I am shocked and beyond words as to how you managed to involve yourself
    with this “PARASITE” but that’s beside the point now because what matters
    is that you had the good fortune of him leaving you and going on the prowl of
    of looking for a new “VICTIM” to latch on to so good luck to them.


    Learn from this and keep moving forward with your life and keep striving to be
    the best you can be. Don’t waste time, energy, thoughts and emotion on this
    “LOSER” whom will get his just deserts and what is coming to him in due course.

    Just put it all behind you and consider it a very bad mistake in your lapse of judgment
    at that particular time and point in your life where you were subjected to doing things
    you wouldn’t normally do but he sucked you in and had a firm grip with his filthy claws.
    Just consider yourself lucky it didn’t get any worse by him sticking around and dragging
    you further into his corrupted and destructive little world.

    I wish you the best of luck in the future and keep smiling. Taurus

  5. Cancer men have sociopath traits and tendancies. Please research sociopath and his victims online. when a cancer man do decide to calm down fall in love settle and give you attention meaning being around more, it will still be a problem…BORDOM! Lately ive realized that the only thing astrology can help with is a persons basics like emotions hobbies and family, but in the logic and reasoning area it needs to be thrown back into the cosmos. because ppl out here is just plain psychotic and damaged.

  6. Shannon,

    Sorry you seem to feel that way, but remember there’s an entire chart to look at that determine’s one’s behavior. I know many, many Cancers, many being very close to my personal life, and I would not call ANY of them sociopaths. I have dated a sociopathic Pisces, but it wasn’t because he was a Pisces! You have to look at the whole chart. Don’t go out assuming a few people you know make up the whole zodiac sign, itself.

  7. NewlyWedLibraLady says:

    My father was Cancer and my 18 yr old son is Cancer. I grew up feeling extremely protected, Cancer Dad Scorpio Mom, and free at the same time.
    Anyhow, over years of watching my father with other people I realized that he was only angry for a while when he got mad, as long as it wasn’t serious like someone he loved being hurt he was easygoing. If the person showed remorse and tried to make things up, he was cool with that. My son is a lot like him, same nature.
    I have made mistakes as a parent, like over babying my son, I get scared of him getting hurt and for an impatient person, he really shows me patients. He is so wonderful with his younger cousins, he is polite in ways that he wasn’t taught, it just came natural to him, as a baby, he was so easy to look after, I kept him near me all day everyday and he rarely cried. Never woke me up crying, I would look at him staring at me when I woke up and he would smile.
    The Cancer men in my life have always been beautiful people with big hearts.

  8. Cancerian men are full of shit. A matter of fact all men are full of shit.

  9. Librascales7 says:

    To my experience having a brother thats a cancer and loving a man thats a cancer, they are a roller coaster. You really feel lost sometimes with them you don’t know what their feelings for you, and they don’t trust easiy. They are stubborn, and willfull. If you don’t agree with them it will sent chills down your spine. they won’t tell you anything about it usually but you can feel their anger. when they are mad they are the biggest jerks, hurtful,cold and distant. they can make you feel insane. They don’t talk about emotions. They will make you believe they are unpenetrable, invincible. Finally, they hate to lose they can’t stand it.
    However on the other hand, they are are great people they have a pure heart. Most of the time when they are being jerks its usually because they have been provoaked. they can be the sweet and they care for people in a very deep way and they will do anything for the ones they love. yes, they retreat and dont talk about their feelings even though they have them, but they are always there to lend a hand when anyone needs it. they are always there to comfort and listen. yea they are complicated. i can read anyone and i am great at it, but when it comes to them i have no idea. i can predict him but even so its hard. but they are worth it. I aboustely hate them at times but i love them to death because they are one hell of a person. they are misunderstood since they can’t seem to communicate to well, and they won’t always let you know what they are thinking into they are pressured to do so, when they have no other option lol.
    the cancer man i love tends to retreat when he feels hurt, depressed, angry,or really whenever there is anything negativie going on with him. when he is down he likes to get over it on his own. i think the reason that he does this is not because he doesn’t want me by his side its because he doesn’t want to seem vulenrable. From what i have noticed they seem to hate it when people think they are weak so i think that sometimes as women we want to nurture and be there for everything and we don’t notice that sometimes people need to handle things on thier own. it doesn’t mean they are pushing you away it just means they need their space. He is defensive, he will counter attack anything you say but think about it a crab has a shell for its defense and if they didn’t have it anything could kill them so its the same with them. They need their friends and they come first. I mean it when i say that. they freaking love their friends like family (i am like that too and i am a libra) so sometimes that can make you feel like he is pushing you aside as well but in reality he just wants to feel comfortable like he’s not trying to impress anyone he just wants to relax. he’s super kind his heart is made of gold and even though i am insecure about him i know that he cares about me deeply. they don’t express their feelings, they only express their feels through physical contact. its just who they are. they are wonderful people they just have their clicks if you can get over those clicks and stay by them and show them you care you will have an amazing man by you. they need to feel love, and if they feel it they are loyal very loyal they only start to look for other people when they feel they are not loved but if they know you care for them they will stick by you through it all. so have patience ladies they are not all bad you just need to crack their shells ;) good luck everyone!

  10. Angelface11783 says:

    I’ve fallen in love with a cancerian man while going through a divorce. He didn’t want to have a relationship with me until my divorce was final but we were drawn to each other. However loving him has been a crazy ride. He’s ignored me on 3 occasions and always gotten back to me. He claims he has deep feelings for me but can’t tell me yet and then out of nowhere he claims he just wants to be alone. Now I’m pregnant by him and still very much in love with him. The pregnancy is unexpected for both of us, I still want to be with him but now the baby is an even bigger issue…should I even work on trying to be with him or focus on our child that’s coming??

  11. i met him on dating site , talking alot he told me im special for him and he feel with me new feelings he like how i take care of him , i keep him happy and he can imagine how can life without talking with me everyday , he text me every half an hour and any where , he told me he love my personalty and how im thinking and im so funny and he looking the future with me i told him we have distance 4 hours he told me doesn’t care ,then he told me he has new problem in his life so lets be friend i told him its ok but he the same text a lot and filtering me a lot then he asked me meet , i met him he told me im so sexy and attractive i hug him a lot and he kissed me 4 times and touch my back and breast and was so nice , and told me if i have any problem with long distance i told no i can wait him and understand any case , when i left and he back in his city he text me how he felt lonely without me and he want more than friend special after kissed me and im his mine and he start jealous on me , after one day he told me he thinking about my relation and he know im so great lady so he dosnt want hurt me lets be friend , i told him you want stop chat he told me no he want me in his life , and its not great to date other guy but dont feel guilty and hes not happy about that but he will glad for me, then start dont text if im not text him then start ignoring me when im upset and told him you play game hes mad and told me when i met you im not was the same level on you and go find other guy , im mad and told him hes play game and im stupid love him and trust him and he will know who i when he meet other girl , after 2 hours im call him hes not answer then text him im sorry hes not text back , after 2 days text him again im sorry lets be friend , he text me hes happy becouse im relax now and ok why not . then hes not text me if im not text him then ignored me , im stop text him and no any contact with him 4 weeks , so do you think he will text me when im ignored him , help me please ?

  12. I love these readings ima cancer male july4 this is true

  13. Pls I need help on now to get my cancer man bad. He’s my friend’s elder brother and we in a long distance relationship. He’s so hard to read sometimes I wonder if he really cares for me. He tells me he cares about me N he has only told me he loved me like 4 times in our 1 year relationship. I’ve broken things up fr d second time but now I want him back cus I realise I was being immature. Pls I need help on how to do that. Fellow cancer males

  14. Hello, I’m a cancer of July 13th 1998. My step dad is cancer of July 3rd. Moms a Leo. Chris and I fight so much. We just recently for into a fight where I hit him. When a cancer is mad at you or says something they instantly regret it. Well that’s how it is for me, Mabye that’s my picies moon. Anyways…my step dad is a really good person. All he wants to do is make me happy but sometimes he can smother me and since I am cancer too I don’t like it. I came on here because of my guilty conscious. Man, we get in brutal fights with the worst words. I really hope everything goes back to normal. </3

  15. Been w/ my crab for going on a year :) OK so I learned that you have to look at conception in astrology as well. I’m a virgo/Libra 9/21 but was conceived in Sag 12/21. He is a Cancer 7/6 conxeived in 7/6. So long story short. Ive learned to try and talk less listen more. Also never ever touch their stuff… Don’t do it trust me an exsplosion you wouldn’t believe. Never had love like this we fall out make up get along. Then out of nowhere he is mad. For only reasons him and God know Lol. Love him!!!! It hasent been a full year and I’ve met all of his family and he has spoke about marriage. All in all I love my lil crab. Oh use kind words hurt runs deep w/ cancer ppl. The can be harsh but mean well. So walk slowly with him. If he loves you trust you will always know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  16. blowinkk says:

    Cancer men are confused
    Babys and a complete waste
    Of time and energy,

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