An angry Cancer man is not a pretty sight. He’ll withdraw into his shell and refuse to talk to you, or just bitch and complain (whine). Passive-aggressiveness is also common for a water sign that is famous for moving sideways.
More likely than not, he’s angry because you wounded his sensitive crabmeat, or your actions elicited his fierce protectiveness towards those he loves. It is natural to feel angry when you don’t feel safe.
Therefore, the first step towards reconciliation is acknowledging that you posed a threat, and that you will do everything you can to maintain Homeland Security. (And although our current President is a Cancer, do not follow his example. Torturing others to save your relationship is off limits!)
Talk is just talk, though. The Cancer man, as a member of the cardinal signs, prefers action over words. (A warm embrace counts more than verbal reassurance.) Your overtures should reflect a sincere desire to make things right. Cancer, ruled by the Moon, is an intuitive sign, and will be able to tell if you’re just going through the motions.
Cancer’s feelings of safety are based on emotions, not logic, so a home-cooked meal may indeed do the trick, provided he can taste the love. A cup of warm milk and a nice cuddle can also melt the Crab’s defenses.
Comment below: What would you do if a Cancer man were angry at you?
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Update – I am leaving to NY and my cancer called to say he wants to see me before I leave.
hi girls,
i had a date with a cancer. we have been together for 18 months. on our twelfth month he left me for a nonsense reason but after 2 months he came back as nothing had happened. he just called me and said that he wanted to see me. everything was wonderful, we had a great holiday together, i met with his sisters. then he told smt that does not match with my values. he did smt that can hurt a person. we were working in a same company then he left his job. but he was very angry to the company and he wanted to take revenge. the thing that he did was not so terrible but could give damage to the person that newly emloyed, therefore i said that the thing that he did could damage our relationship and i never expect this from him. that night i felt he became angry.we did not call eachother for one week and at the end of that week it was my birthday. after my birthday i just sent a sms and said that ” i think u quitted this relation, because u did not call me on my birthday”. he texted “u are questioning our relation and i dissapoint u. u did not call me along the week. it’ s better to quit.” then i texted ” these are just your excuse. ok have it your own way”. it has been nearly 1,5 month. i do not wanna call him. i can not beleive that he’ s broke up because of a childish reason and without saying anything. he did not tell me that he wanted to break up, i learnt that we have been splitted up through the message.. girls, pls tell me what should i think. he has done this before then he came back. offff! pls tell me smtg..
I am dating a cancer man currently. Its been very interesting because i this is the first cancer male i have ever dated and now i can see why ! I am a leo by the way. Our relationship had more arguments i cant believe that we are still dating! I am currently mad at him but i have learned to hold it in and not “go crazy” on him like he likes to put it lol. As a leo its hard for me to do that, but for the sake of our relationship, i have to understand his needs. I am mad at him because i feel like he is not giving me enough attention! i want him to talk to me about everything and call and text me throughout the day, but he is taking it very slow, n not sharing his feelings at the moment i have a fire inside me and he feels cold as ice to me!
Here are my key takeaways and i hope its some help to someone. As a cancer, he hides his feelings in effort protect his feelings from being hurt so try to not take it personally (i still have hard time with that one!). Cancer men do not respond well to threats or trying to test them to try to get the feelings out of them, they simply would rather to just leave without saying a word to avoid confrontation and heartache. Avoid texting whenever possible specially if there is an big argument or a breakup going on, CALL him and talk it out. Texting can come off as if you really dont care and he cant hear your tone of voice or get a feel of your emotions to try to tell whether you are being sincere or not and that is important to him in making decisions. Dont be afraid to call no matter what because cancer men are usually very calm but watch out for the mood swings lol (sometime it feels like someone else got a hold of his phone and is enraged only in the content of his words not in his demeanor). Do not get mad if you dont get allot of attention from your cancer man if your relationship is relatively new. Cancer men like to take their sweet time … and i mean sweet time to commit only after they trust that their feelings wont get hurt , after that the fun can begin! If your cancer man needs his space give it to him he will comeback to you when he is ready! and finally, make sure you reassure your cancer man everyonce in a while to make him feel emotionally secure he will love u for that!
thnx fot the advice,sanaa.. yesterday i sent him an e-mail to ask for talk.. he replied rapidly and told ‘yes, sure.. what it’ ll about?”. i wrote him “seperation without talking is disturbing me that why i’ should know the reason”. he said “i’ ll be convinient tomorrow night and i can pick u up”.. he was polite and we’ ll see what will be happen..
Hmmm…well I’m definitely in a fight with my cancer man (I’m a Libra)… I crossed a line by over reacting towards a comment made by a female friend, and in the midst of waiting for him to call me, and straighten it out… I befriended her on fb..bad idea. Then he found out, got really mad, because the woman thought i was talking to her man- but idk why i would befriend her if that was the case…and some how she told him and he confronted me about it…And told me he was pissed and to apologize to her. And me being a Libra…i just said okay..and i apologized to him and to her, but i think i made it worse by trying to explain why i did, because i care for him…he didn’t understand because of his next words, and him really not liking it.
And its been 5 days since i heard from him…and that was the fight. He isn’t very happy, i tried calling him to make up…but he didn’t even return my phone call. I guess he felt like i threaten his friend or something.
But i think i have cooled down all the way, but with him its hard to tell.
I just wish he would let me know if he was okay or something…i miss him like crazy.
Hey Jess
Ya i think it was a wrong thing to do. but now he is back in his shell. he will take his own time to get over it. u need to stop calling him or msging him. It may take a month or even few months, be patient and dont do anything impulsive, he shudnt think u r obsessed with him. they get really pissed.
well we met and talked about why it was over.. everything was fine. today i’ ve asked him that what he was thinking about after our converstion iand he said “i love you and you make me happy but i can not handle the relationship, u know if we get together again again it’ ll be same”. he said this before our first seperation. and i told him “i can handle, u love me and i love u so we can do it. but he said don’ t know, the thing i know is i’ m really happy with u but it won’ t work, u’ ll get bored to handle me”. i said “i can handle and never get bored but i can’ t force u, take care…” so?????? help me, what should i do.. i’ m libra too..
Hey well this Tuesday i texted him if he was ever going to talk to me. Because it was a whole week that went by. And i don’t like wasting my time worrying if he is gonna talk to me again or still likes me. Its not like i cheated on him. He texted me back…but he needs to really get over it. Its really trivial…so things are going a lot slower than usual. And we were supposed to talk 3 times on the phone…but idk. I missed one of his calls he didn’t return it back. then he didn’t pick up my call last night.
To me, he is being immature for 32 year old man. Maybe i need to use my librarian charms to smooth it over… But at least he is talking to me.
Im a libra who was talking to a cancer , were in HS . we started off as friend then decided to move forward we did not start a relationship or anything but we began talking . his friends constantly teased him asking if i was his girlfriend which made him distant himself. we didn’t hang out much only late at night which made me feel like a “booty call” and he said it wasn’t like that . then he used my device to log onto a social network and did not sign out so i read his information and told his friends about him talking to other females when he told me he would only talk to me when i saw him i told him i would never forgive him though i knew i would eventually . that happened before thanksgiving break so he refused to talk to me as well and said i violated his private business and im not even his girlfriend. when we came back from thanksgiving break he refused to talk to me and continued using my locker without saying hello or goodbye when seeing me so i kicked him out of my locker because it was uncomfortable . Its been a month and we haven’t said a thing to eachother yet we see oneanother everyday . I dont want to enter 2011 knowing were not communicating .Advice?
Hi everyone.
I thought I would share some info about my relationdhip with a cancerian man. I am virgo. We are both in our forties and I dont think age has anything to do with how people react to each other. I am a great believer in astrology and what the zodiac says about personality traits for cancerians. I have recently split with my man, it was his decision, but I know he still loves me and misses me cos he has told me. I love him so much and I want him back. I am a typical virgo and I tend to want to sort things out quickly. But beware girls, cancer men are not like that. the break up was fuelled by me hanging up on him in a very silly fall out. I was out with my friends on a xmas do and he had promised to pick me up at the end. But it started to snow deeply and he rang to say did I mind getting a taxi home. I was moody and told him I wasnt then hung up on him. I rang him 2 hours later and he didnt answer. I txtd him to ask what was wrong and he replied he didnt want to talk and that it was over.
That was Dec 17th. We are still not back together but it will happen soon I know it will. We have spoke on the phone and texted each other. I have mithered him to talk but that made him worse. A typical cancerian. Actions speak louder than words.I drove to his house to say goodbye in person but I had to leave that message with his friend. He is a nice man and I knew he would pass my message on truthfully. I texted to say goodbye and he replied with a loving text. I still wanted to say goodbye properly so we spoke on the phone a few days later. He said I cud come down whenever I wanted so we met up and chatted as friends. He was lovely and I could tell he wanted me there at his house but I didnt push anything. He showed affection a few times but I didnt act on it. I kissed before I went home and we have agreed to meet again soon. Im hoping that the more we meet the more it is likely we will get back. Ihope my theory works.
One piece of advice I would give to any woman in a cancerian relnshp never push them. They need to make their own minds up and crawl out of their shell slowly. Just tell them your feelings and wait.Dont text all the time or phone all the time.
Im not texting every day anymore and its working. He needs space but funnily enough so do I. Calm is good for a cancerian. I will ring him in a few days for a friendly chat. I know we still love each other and miss each other and time apart makes you realise this. A CANCERIAN MAN ONCE IN LOVE WILL NEVER STOP LOVING YOU. Give them time.
today i crossed the line with a cancer man, sheeesh he got retarded, underneath his sweet face his an animal ! when i looked in his eyes when he was talking to me he looked like a killer, omg and im an aries ! he had that crazy look in his eyes. then he got my clock and threw it on the wall, of course i fixed it and he just went back in his room. and my face was like 0.o . this happened when he pissed me off so hard that i got his phone battery and destroyed it completely then he found out, lol and he cracked. shit i will never do that again, im to young to fight him back !
i think he won’ t come back because 3 months passed:( i’ m just sad and nothing to do. i did my best.
I was high school friends with a Cancer, who ended up being my long term partner of 7years..
If he was angry at me.. he def retreated, I learnt to leave him alone for a bit.. let him be alone with his own thoughts.. you def need to give them their space when they are angry, no point trying to talk, they wont talk back.. just glare at you and end up leaving the house for a couple of hours.. I would just let him retreat to our games room.. and let him sit on the comp and sulk.. after, he would either A come and approach me if he was in the wrong or not, or I would eventually go in, and just hug him and smile.. then ask wat he would like to eat.. and said I would make him wat ever he wanted.. (or I would say, im gona go get pizza, do you want some?) food was def the way to his heart.. the pizza approach usually worked best, he would then smile, and say come here.. give me a hug and would say wat were we fighting about? And everything was then all good!
The Cancer Male I like at work was melting in my hands, but the last couple of days he’s been ignoring me, avoiding me and not talking…to anyone really. So I probably shouldn’t take it personally. But I could melt his heart if he lets me.
OMG! I have been spending all day reading majority of these comments and feel so relieved that Im not the only one going through this emotional rollercoaster. My friend started dating a cancer before me and told me all about it.She is still going through this but worse because she fould out he has a baby on the way and they never even went on a date, all sex.
I began dating this cancer which is younger than me by 4 years (which I normally date guys older).He’s 23 and Im 27 but he was so mature at first..Anyways I am sooooo confused.I am a cap so we are opposites.I thought I could deal with dating a cancer man because my sister is a cancer and I know how to deal with her.However,dating this guy is totally crazy.
My story is so crazy and long but here’s the basics.When we first started dating he came on to me by flirting on fb.We meet through an ex friend.In the beginning (4months ago) he was always contacting me everyday.He texted to let me know what was goin on, he called, he sent fb messages and post,etc.We were together every weekend.He was in college but got kicked out the dorm for issues with his room mate and had to move with his mom.Him and his mom’s relationship has been rocky because of personal reasons.He ended up getting into a deep arguement with her and ignored her for a while too.He moved in with me temporary for a month.(1st time having someone live with me).He was so understanding, kind, nurturing at first. he gave me money for things for the house, bought food, etc. Some other issue came about with his mom and I was there to console him.He didnt mind if I had to run errands for my fam and didnt mind me going out with friends (which i would decline).He would stay at home and watch sports, clean,etc.
Then he began to change.(His dream is to play professional basketball and go overseas.This is important info to know later).When he first moved in after about 3-4 weeks, he asked if I mind him moving with his dad because his dad was hooking him up with a job and it was closer to his basketball leagues.He played on 2.You see basketball was his #1 priority.That’s why he was in college and thats all he talked about. I would drive him to his league because his license was suspended until he moved out. I told him that was a good idea and it was his choice. After a week, he started to act differently.Little things started to bother him and he would get mad at me for everything.Then he broke up and decided to leave.Then we would make up and he didnt want to leave.Then the next week he would do the same.Then a big agument happened.I told him that if it was because he was confused that he could just leave because I understood that was bothering him. He hugged me and said he wanted to stay and would find a job here.(He had money saved from school still and would give me money by the way).He would ignore his dad and didnt tell him what was going on.Then his aunt which lived in the same 2flat as his dad and same job sent a message on fb saying either you want the job or not stop playing games.He decided to leave after that and said he would come on the weekends.
Before when we had that last arguement he said he didnt want to be with me because it wouldnt work since I lived far and that he had to follow his dream to play ball overseas.He said after he was calm that I was the only female that had things going for myself and was attractive,smart, and to keep following my dreams no matter what happens with us. He said that I had my bachelors and he only had an associates and he couldnt compete with that.I told him I loved him regardless and that its not about competing.
Anyway, once he lived with his dad we were cool but we begin to argue alot.I would go to his games and he would spend weekends with me.Then he began to accuse me of having guys over my home. He would say “I knew once I moved with my dad, things would change”.He even accused me of looking at his team mates and broke up with me because of that which I was not only watching everyone play the game. He begin to say mean things to me too.He would one minute say we would spend time together then change his mind the next.He would cancel our plays for his family too (his dads side).I spoke with his mom (secretly because he doesnt like me being too close to his family because he says that he always breaks up when a girl meets his fam).She told me that he acts out when he is going through things and dont mind him.Just dont let him disrespect me.His grandma said the same.
For a whole month straight we would be extremely good then he would break up with me over petty things.Its either we were real good or real bad.He was never straightforward always wanting me to be cleo and read between the lines of what he “really” means or wants.He complained that I need to study him more like he studys me.
He keeps breaking up with me.This time I’m so confused because I dont know if he doesnt want to be with me.He keep telling me he wants to move back, he has money stacked up and wanted to find a job near me.He always offers to give me money and gets mad if I refuse.Then he told me that I do things to upset him and dont have common sense.Thats why he breaks up with me.Then when we argue he says I’m always right and he cant argue with that.He brings up everything bad I said when we argue but he has said worser things to me.We went back and forth this whole week.He always manipulates my words and finds petty ways to get mad at me and breaks up with me then says he is too deep in love with me and for me to hold on with him.
What made things worse was we both called a psychic.I did first and told him about it.She was right about everything.Then he called and they told him I want to communicate but cant with him which is true because he manipulates my words. He took that as I’m hiding something from him.They said that basketball is there when he is ready and that they like where he’s at not overseas.Then he called again one day without telling me and that whole day acted funny towards me, picked and agruement and then ignored me.Finally he told me this new psychic said he was going to make it big in basketball and marry another women.My psychic said he was jealous of my education and was confused.She said his ex was back in the picture but he was not cheating on me at all. She said we have a future but it was gonna go slow and that he is always testing me and suspicious of me. (all true).She said he would break up and I would find someone in august, he downs me and dont let him do that then the call dropped.My dumb butt told him this becuz he told me what the 2nd psychic told him the day he ignored me(I believe his 1st psychic not the 2nd because all 2 positive).He said, “I’m scared for us, you think we should just back away”. I said we control our future.
Once we got on good terms he told me I was the only one that could deal with him.His family can barely deal with him. He said he loved me more than I would ever know.He’s done with the psychic thing too.Recently, we got into a big argument 2 days ago and I exploded(not good) because so much bad was happening and he made things worse.My car broke down and other things was going on financially and personally.I called him and he once again accused me of cheating even though he ignored me all day and picked an arguement then text me it didnt matter cuz i would find someone new in august anyway smh. I called him selfish and said my car is broke down and all you can say is im cheating.He offered money after and I said that and I said I never asked for money I dont need him for money.I said Im done with him and told him how i felt out of anger.
He 1st said he understands and if thats what i wanted he understood (prior this day he broke up with me because he said I sound unsure when he ask me questions and he ignored me all day until I called him late that night) Then he told me that he wasnt the one for me and that I should move on.He said he is a skrew up in so many words.I was so emotional that I said no, I didnt care I loved all of him.Then he changed got cold hearted and said he never loved me, he cheated, everything bad and so please just leave him alone.I said I no your saying this because you going through things.He said just let us go or I’ll be like the lady in the bible who turned around to see a temple destroy and she turned to a pillar of dust.he said his fam doesnt like me so now i skrewed that up and he told his mom lies to not like me so leave us alone.(prior this week his dad was mad at him because he stays in the room all day away from everyone).I think thats why he kept picking arguements and breaking up with me this week.
The next day I was so hurt as usual.I dont know if he’s saying things out of anger or not. I talked to his mom and she never even talked to him.She said dont let him get to me and that she loves me and will always be here for me.His grandma said the same, for me to move on because I dont need this mood swing stuff.She doesnt even deal with him like she used to and he has gotten worser. I gave in texted him and said I was letting him go. I love him and still believe in us.He texted back that he made a song about us called single and I could take it negatively or respond back positively for a hit song (we both do music from time to time as a hobby.)this confused me.The song stated he wanted me to leave him alone because I lied to him and we argue and blame each other.I made a response back which afterwards he ignored my call.I texted asking how it sound and he said decent.That night I sent him a song about how i loved him.he didnt reply.Today I havent heard from him.I dont know what to do.Is he completely done with me?Maybe he did cheat but I just dont feel like he did.I always knew when my ex’s did and I think he just thinks im too good for him and scared that i will give up on him.Im just gonna leave him alone for a while.help!!!!!
Just to add.My phone is suspended (tmobile) so I cant make calls or text.I can only receive them.After me posting this,he texted me wut up.I couldnt respond so I called tmoblie to see how much the bill was and cant pay until my sister gives her half.I dont get paid till thursday (which technically is now). Then he called and I tried to answer while on the line with tmobile but it didnt let me.I went on fb and sent a message for him to call me back then saw him saying he was lonely for girls to inbox him.I noticed it was after he tried calling me but then went through his post and saw a chick saying sweetie and asking if he could see her.I got so mad and sent a message sayin never mind and how stupid i was to think we wasnt a cheater,etc etc. He called me 3 times 5 mins later. I didnt answer.I deactivated my fb page and said he didnt have to block me because I wont be on fb anymore.He sent a text saying thats what i get for being nosey and once again i let fb destroy everything we had and have left and other mean things like i probably messing around anyway. I finally answered his call the 4th time and he asked why didnt I answer.I explained and we started arguing.He never believes anything I say.He said if he wanted other females why would he call me and that he made that post after he called me.I said i no but i saw other comments before.he said he aint hiding nothing from me, we single but he hasnt messed with a chick yet but im pushing him to.I said i dont care.then he said he called so he could go to my graduation friday and to see how i was now i messed up anything we had left and so on.(he always blames me as usually).then i explained something about my ex because he asked and then he said im lying and said he not going to my graduation and he’s finally done with me.I sent him a email expressing myself.Back to square one that fast.Never any progress with him.Sorry so long if anyone reads these post.I’m going through a soap opera lol.I’ve been through alot with men but never been through this.
I’m currently dating a crustacean. I’m more than
familar with crab cakes. Dined on a few in the past
and I have a Cancer-Moon. More often than not it’s
pretty smooth sailing with them. I can intuit the Crayola
scope of their moods to side step any unnecessary
disharmony. But this Sagittarius has managed to royally
piss off her Cancer just yesterday. We were invited to
a July 4th barbecue at my Virgo friend’s house. I kinda
sensed he wasn’t in the most festive of moods to go. I
told him he could sit this one out and we could hook up
later on. He insisted he was fine with going and wanted
to spend more time with me before he goes out of town
for a couple of days(work related). Whole ride there
NOTHING, dude didn’t utter a sound. Get there he’s still
quiet, eating and just drinking mostly. Later in the evening
we all head to the beach to see the fireworks. By now
I’m a little annoyed. Usually when something is bothering
him he pipes up(Gemini-Moon/Mercury). I’m thinking to myself
now, I must really be in the doghouse he’s not saying boo.
After all this Cancer drops me home. He gives me this
hurried run down of his itinerary for his business trip,
kisses me goodbye and starts walking to his car. I follow
behind him wanting to know WTF is good with him? He tells
me he’s disappointed we didn’t hang more before he leaves.
My rebuttal was we just spent the ENTIRE WEEKEND together.
He responds by saying that was all well and great but I
chose a barbecue over him. *sarcastically* I say yeah that’s
exactly what I did. Cancer gets in his car and tells me he’ll
see me when he gets back. I guess it’ll be what it is until
he rolls back in town. I’ll more than likely call him after
he’s chilled for a couple of days. Ughhhh…
Aw Mer, don’t beat yourself up. He could’ve spoke up when you asked if he wanted to go. More than likely he’s not mad, just feeling down that he’s leaving on the trip and is going to miss you; hence, wanting the last day together by yourselves. He’ll cool down, and when you two talk next time in person just tell him next time to say something. More than likely two things were going on in his head A) he didn’t want to ruin it for you that you wanted to go, see friends, etc. and B) it was his chance to spend more time with you before he did leave…so rather than say ‘no’ and take a chance of disappointing you, or making YOU mad, he chose to go along; but, then was a sulker, which Cancer men are notorious for. BUT also, he will need to lick his wounds a bit and go into his shell, because he probably was wondering why you wouldn’t want to spend the day alone with him knowing he was leaving. He’ll get over it, and if doesn’t then go from there. He’s a grown man, yet you can’t allow his ‘manipulation’ win over either, so you need to set him straight right away that he needs to not do that kind of stuff; and very possibly had you known he DIDN’T want to go, then you may have just wanted to spend the day alone with him..you’re not a mind reader. Do it gently though, especially if you’re into this guy.
@ MerDeNoms. I feel your pain. The Virgo that I’ve blogged about has a Cancer moon and if you’re anything like me where you will flex in a relationship where it’s reasonable to keep peace or make the person happy, it’s frustrating when you do or are doing something that upsets someone and you’re not sure what it is until after the damage has been done. lol
I feel you on this one…completely.
after 8 months my cancer man called to congrat my new job but on the other hand he has not called me yet for 4 weeks after. on the other side altouhgh he saw he did not do anything after he called, but i acted liked i did not see him… all these are nonsense things, just left them, ladies!
@ Andras…hold on….is this your DUDE!?!?! or do you guys have a romantic past or are you just friends or what???
That sh*t is flippin ridiculous. My mom is a Cancer and admittedly one of the worse Cancers I’ve ever known. lol However, my Dad is also a Cancer and he’s a piece of sh*t. Literally.
Both of them are flakes and let them tell it, nothing in their life has gone right because of someone else. lol But geez, please tell me that this dude is not your man man…that he’s just a friend or a past love interest or something. That communication just SUCKS! But it seems very Cancerian to me. Inconsistent, emotionally charged for some cosmic reason…maybe jealously….and just flat out unacceptable. lol
The first guy I ever dated on an intimate level after not dating for five years…a Cancer. Nice guy…to an extent, but the reason why I quit dating him was because he took offense for an action that wasn’t even…like MerDeNoms…I wasn’t even aware of what his expectations were and then when what he wanted to take place didn’t happen, he call his raggedy self not speaking to me…so while I took steps to make ammends, because I really wanted to know what I’d done…in his opinion….I x’d him out right away. I wasn’t dealing with that crazy makin BS.
We are still “friends” and I use the term loosely, because…well, we speak and are very friendly…NOT on a romantic level…just chit chat from time to time, but as far as a relationship goes. Hell to the no. I won’t do it. lol
I’m not calling all Cancers emotional flakes/kooks, but show me a handful that are not and I’ll be more than likely to ease up on my opinion. lol
‘What to do when your Cancer man is angry at you’
Piss them off and divorce them..worked for me
@ WildChild
Thanx a lot. Pretty spot on assessment! Yeah I’m gonna
call him once he gets settled in, see where his head is
at. I felt he was annoyed before we left my place. That’s
why I told him we could meet up later. I would have just
gone to the barbecue and ixnayed the fireworks and spent
the rest of the evening with him. He didn’t say anything
so… things didn’t work out that way.
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@ Ms. Teeq1974
” I feel your pain. The Virgo that I’ve blogged about has a Cancer moon and if you’re anything like me where you will flex in a relationship where it’s reasonable to keep peace or make the person happy, it’s frustrating when you do or are doing something that upsets someone and you’re not sure what it is until after the damage has been done. lol”
lol yeah TOTALLY!!!
I felt he wasn’t feeling going at all but once he
started to get church mouse quiet I knew shit was not
good. OH DEAR both your parents are Cancers, damn! Well
you’re a fish right? You should be able to navigate their
moody terrain no? OMG your story about your Cancer ex reminds
me of a Cancer guy friend I had many Moons ago when my typical
Sag foot in mouth got me in trouble lol. I made a passing
remark about the way he treats women and dude didn’t
speak to me for a month.
I am have been involved with a Cancerian man for two years, we fell in love hard very fast, He lives in the USA and I live in England. We have spent many months travelling back and forth spending time together which has been blissful and on Valentines day he flew the 4000 miles between us to propose to me.
We filed immigration papers and I am due to emmigrate with my two children to be with him and his two children and marry in October, in the next two months.
Our realtionship has always been so close and loving, he has never played games with me, we have both believed we are twin flames.
However the distance has at times plagued me with insecurity, plus the giant leap I am taking to be his wife. We have often had very passionate arguments with one of us always mentioning leaving (stupid I know) we always worked them out and became even closer.
However over recent months I havent felt he has been quite as invested, he has spent more time going out, hasn’t called as much or been as understanding towards me. Whnever I talked to him about this he said it was totally in my head and pointed out the ways he does still show love. Things were getting back to a really good place again.
On wednesday night I got jealous about something stupid but understandable, and broke down saying I need more support in this final stage of the moving process, and that I feel so far away. The argument became very heated and resulted in him saying he was done with us, and we are over.
That night we did end up talking calmly. I told him I don’t want to lose him and that this stress is breaking me. He said he still loves me more than he ever imagined it possible to love but that the arguments are killing him. He said he would leave his talk window open in case I needed him and that he would speak to me the next day.
I wrote him a few messages to tell him I was sorry and I don’t want to lose him.
The next day he emailed, was very loving. Said he thought we were like a fairytale and all he had done was think about us. He said that I had always told him to let me know if he felt unsure, and now he did. Because even though we are now at the final stage like we had always dreamed of, he fears we will take this leap and regret it, be miserable as a result of fights between us and that he just doesn’t know what to do.
I wrote back and absolutley poured my heart out about everything, how feeling like there had been an emotional distance as well as physical had been too much, that I feel as though such a huge part of the burden is on me, and that all I have ever feared is losing him. I told him I would respect whatever he decided but that I didn’t know how to stop being in love with him and that I want to fix this. I told him that I do believe we would work in person as we have before and all the things I’m fearing would be gone as a result of bridging the distance.
He responded quickly and said he had found my message so lovely, and he would reply properly soon he just needed some time. I told him to take all the time he needed, and he thanked me.
My question is what do I do?? I have sold most of my belongings, taken my kids out of school and taught them myself because of all the time between two countries, I’ve basically said goodbye to all my friends and even have my Dad paying for our wedding. My children think of him as their Dad. If he backs out now it will ruin our lives.
But mostly I love him so much I simply cannot imagine my life without him. He and the children are my world and I neve meant to hurt him, I just never realised this situation would be so hard.
He emailed me this morning saying he couldnt sleep for thinking about it all and is so torn. I haven’t replied. I’m trying to give him space.
He is a Cancer with moon in virgo, Libra rising, venus and mercury in gemini and mars in Libra.
I am a Cancer with moon and mercury in cancer, Libra rising, Venus in Gemini and Mars in Libra.
Please help I am falling apart
I think compensation is the key to resolution. Since you already injured his “crab meat”, the best thing you can do is yield and let him have what he want providing you also secure your own desires as well. It not nice to give up everything for his own happiness. Where’s dignity in that? The solution, therefore, would be compromise.
What a simple solution. Basically, as woman you can go all Martha-Stuart on a Cancer guy and he’ll be OK. Home making skills, don’t fail me now! haha
Hi Guys
I love your comments on cancer men. Here is my story
I met a cancer guy recently i am a gemini, in a matter of weeks he said he was fallin in love with me very fast, i guess it was my sense of humor. We met on a dating site (at first i was unsure of online dating so i use a false name and pic) i was attracted to him so i sent him a flirt he sent me an email asking if i would to chat on messenger or somewhere else. I reply back with my email address, and then we started chatting, at that point it was fun talking with someone he was instantly talking about family and commitment and how he can easily fall for me, that he is attracted to me and want to get to get know me. i was flattered but guarded, he was so sincere, we started chatting daily and then we eventually we exchange phone numbers. I call him every morning just to here his voice and just say hi and we both would text each other throught out the day, when we talk he always say and it was comfortable talking to me i was so easy to talk to and he love talking to me and i made happy. At that point i was falling for him too. So after weeks of talking online he finally said he would go on web cam so i can see him. well i didn’t have web cam yet but it was ok for him, he just wanted me to see him, to show me that he is real. I evenually saw him on web cam every other day, he was so sexy i was so gone LOL.
So we continued talking online for awhile, he always talk about he want to see me to say the “L” word that i have put a spell on him because he is always thinking about me and smiling all day at work and thats not normal for him. So we have agreed to meet each other in August i would come and spend a week with him, bare in mind we never met in person before nor has he seen me yet. So it was a Saturday night and he was going out with his friend and he text me and said, i am really is falling in “L” with me, that night was the best night of my life, but i started to feel guilty because i have never told him the truth, and i promise to get a web cam for him to see me. I know i had to tell him the truth, So i told him two days later and let him see me online for the first time, he was so angry and hurt, i never saw him that way, he said i should have told him the truth from the beginning and that he has serious trust issues and that his last girlfriend cheated on him. I kept apologizing telling him i am sorry but and if can still be friends or anything that he wants he said of course but he need sometime and then he signed of line. That day was the worst day of my life, i texted him later that night again telling him i am sorry but he keep saying i lied to him, i told him i would give him time and he said ok thankyou. Then a week pasted he never call or texted me, so i called him and left a message telling him that i miss him and love him. he eventually text me back saying “that it is easy for me to tell him how i feel about him but for him all he knew about me was a lie” so i replied back saying ” A name and photo does not define me, but me and my personality and me been me is what defines me, and then he replied back saying ” yes but i completely distroyed his trust in me”. and that was the last time he texted me. After two weeks i called and left voices messages and texted him he never return my calls or texts. So i got really desperate i needed to know what he was thinking if he still wanted me. So i did the unthinkable i went online and open a new profile pretending to be someone else, and so happen he was online, so i sent him a flirt, i was shock that he answered, but o played the game. We chatted online for bit and in our conversation he started to talk about me, and that people are not been honest online here and that he girl he was interested in lied to him. So i took that as an opportunity to asked about her and did ask. I asked him what happen. I got real quite for a long time before he answered me. So eventually he started to talk, he said that she was really nice and he was falling for her, but then she lied about herself and he cannot look at her the same way anymore, and he said if she would tell him the truth from the beginning we would been still talking. And then i asked if still care about her, i went silent for a long time, were i said don’t answer that, but he still did, he said that he care for me but it was bad. So its been 4weeks since i heard from him, but the pretend me still talk to him and he seems to like the pretend me sometimes i feel he knows this is me and he demanding he wants to see the the pretend me. Sometimes when he talks to the pretend me, he sometimes makes me feel like he is comparing me with her, and i told him that i think is not over her and still into her, he replied that he is not and trust him. I WAS HURT. but now he not talking to the pretend me now and he is not online.
I know i confuse him, and now maybe he wants the pretend me.
The real me want him, but i think i have lost him, i need help, do you think he will ever talk to me again? really need to know. PLEASE HELP.
@Paige
Wow. Astrologically, you completely embodied Gemini duplicity. And, not in the best sense.
This is beyond astrology though. What you presented to him was a half truth. Dating online is already a challenging experience. One at least hopes that what can be presented (pictures, profile information, and communication) is as genuine and authentic as possible. Posting an identity of someone other than you was upfront in misleading him and I understand his distress. Then to go back and do the SAME THING under another mask is even worse whether he knows it or not. You are toying with his feelings and abusing his ability to confide and trust someone.
The foundation of this exchange is rooted in lies and misuse. He has a right to feel hurt. He is no longer pursuing you nor open. Let him be. The best thing you could do is learn from this experience in regards to your own behavior.
Ladies,
please advice. My cancer Man got mad at me because I didn’t tell him that I met with his best friend’s wife to chat. Eventually I was going to but because I am a little slowly he found out first. He is not returning my calls or answering messages…and it is third week like this.We have very close connection and it is very hurtful to lose it like this. What would be the best approach just to speak for now?
..forgot to say..I already apologized and left him love messages..I’am sure he received them all but nothing..
I am very sensitive too and this ignorance just killing me.
.. we just chat about her work my work some beauty topics nothing that could be dangerous to him.
Hi everyone, I need help… I’m a Sagittarius and my boyfriend is a cancer horoscope. I had been crying for three days… I’m very very down right now… I love him truly and badly… But just last friday we had an argument cause i went party with friends and he texted me asking where am i and he would join me.. as i was on the line with my friends i replied him late by half an hour he get so fed up and i tried calling him he ignore my call… but after that he called me up and i tried explaining to him… later after that he met me after my party and i was sobbing a little cause i do not had any argument with him before… and he hugged me and told me he wasn’t angry with me at all.. he believed what i had told him ask me not to cry and we went to a park nearby for a walk he’s the same lovely as before… after the walk i went home feeling very happy and he behave normally till the next day he went missing for the whole day… Until 12AM he called me to chat on phone for awhile less than 5 mins… And on Sunday he totally ignore my call and text message he did not call me for the whole day or a single text message… and here come Monday which i was totally down i broke down and cried terribly i do not know and understand what he want i wanted to see him badly and hoping to talk things out with him… but he suddenly called me and told me he’s going to work… and will call me later but i waited for his call there isn’t any call from him he went missing again… i tried calling and texting him but there were no respond at all… i cried and did not ate anything that day… than on tuesday which was yesterday he called me again.. and told me he was going to work again and asked me am i having a bad mood ask me don’t be sad and he’ll will meet me after his work… so i waited but there were no call or msg from him again… till i fall asleep.. and woke up this morning i saw his text msg saying that he just come back from work… and i tried texting him again but there wasn’t any respond at all… I had not been eating for 3 days since Monday…. What Should I do can anyone advise me?? I really miss him like crazy and love him alot…Its been almost one week when we last met…he can went missing for days… or when we suppose to meet up he can go missing and without any explanation from him… What should i do i’m crying every now and than… I’m not sure whether is he still angry with me about the last friday incident… i do not have a chance to have a good talk with him… but when we really meet up he’s very lovely and sweet towards me it’s like nothing had happen before… i really hope and wish to meet him and find out what had really happen… please help me… thanks everyone in advances..
NEED HELP…. I recently met and had a date with a cancer. He was very cautious at first (He’s my instructor I’m a PhD candidate) After the semester was over, we continued to e-mail and text each other. Eventually we decided we were consenting discrete adults and had dinner together. It was WONDERFUL the best night of my life. We have the same goals and many commonalities. We even had sex, I know I was mad at myself. The next day he didn’t call. Being an insecure female I was thinking all kinds of thoughts. We chatted briefly a few days later. He told me we have to be careful, don’t be sensitive and he was interested and didn’t want to be friends with benefits. A week goes by we text briefly and then I don’t hear from him for like a week. So I wrote him a long e-mail about my feelings and disappointment in his lack of communication. He tells me he is sorry and that we need to talk. TWO weeks later we finally sit down to talk. I tell him I am disappointed we had sex, I wanted to wait. He tells me I am too aggressive, I can be mean and I hurt his feelings. He liked me because I have a loving spirit but when I snapped at him, he saw another side that frightened him and he doesn’t like women like that. I tell him communication is vital because perception can be skewed when we don’t communicate. I take things one way and he sees them another. I say the ball is in your court. I think we should wait until all professional ties are done and try again. I tell him how much I like him and am not ready to throw in the towel. He says I like that. SO I go on vacation and pick up a small trinket. I text him he texts back and I tell him I have a gift. He thanks me but says I can’t accept it but thanks for thinking on me. WTF? I say I am so sorry you say an ugly side of me. You make me want to filter my mouth and watch my words. But now I am so confused. Is he likely to give us a “restart” or are we at the finish line. I just feel the feelings and connection can’t be over just like that. What do you think? I am miserable and my friends are SICK of hearing this LOL! They all say F** him but my heart just can’t.
lionness3,
You’re moving too fast for him, girl. Seriously. Cancers love their space and love to be surrounded by happy-go-lucky people. Him seeing a not-so-nice side of you probably made him retreat a little bit emotionally. They like independent women and your emotionally charged e-mail even FURTHER pushed him away. Just chill out. Let things happen as they happen. Don’t force anything. Don’t control anything. Let him woo you, not the opposite way around.
You were so right! I haven’t forced anything and I have stopped calling/texting all together. After about 2 weeks I made him a poster and gave him a card for his first boxing match. He LOVED IT! We have chatted everyday since. We had a long conversation about what happened between us. Needless to say, we hooked up this past Friday and FIREWORKS! He was so passionate and makeup sex was GREAT!! Also, we agreed that since we are starting our last class together, we will chill out until it’s done and then he said we’ll resume in a few weeks. He is out of his shell and I have toned down my aggression. He has even stepped up to respond to every text and call. He opened up with communication to ensure we are on the ame page.