What happens to a Sagittarius woman after she gets hurt?
July 27, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
If there’s one positive attribute of mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces), it’s that they let go easily. Sagittarius, being a fire sign as well, may make a big display of her emotions, but she won’t hold on to her hurt for very long. In fact, she may take the high ground — Sagittarius is ruled by moralistic Jupiter, which is more interested in principles and ethics than who did what to whom. Unfortunately, Jupiter can be arrogant, so it’s not uncommon for the Sagittarius to think that she’s superior to the person who hurt her. Any forgiveness of the offender may come along with a nice dose of condescension. (See How to get a Sagittarius to forgive you.)
Perhaps the biggest danger of hurting a Sagittarius is that she won’t want to stick around any longer. Born under the sign of freedom and adventure, she may not want to go through the trouble of working out any problems. It depends, of course, on how she was hurt — a threat to her need for space is worse than an insult to her cooking.
A special exception would be a Sagittarius woman with Venus in Scorpio. If you’ve hurt her, lock all your doors, take down your social networking profiles, and disconnect your phone.
Comment below with your hurt Sag stories.
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I’m a female Pisces/Sag moon/Scorpio rising and my on/off female partner of 5 years is a Sag sun/Taurus moon/Capricorn rising. Her Venus is in Scorpio (OUCH!), and I have Venus in Taurus – and yes, opposites DO attract (and fight a lot!). She does a LOT of clumsily hurtful things to me, and when I ask her why she acted that way…she says, “I dunno”. That makes me CRAZY. But boy, if she thinks you’ve hurt, even if you didn’t…watch out! She will walk all over your heart with horse’s hooves and tell you that you deserved it. And she holds grudges for about two centuries. Odd thing is, I’ve tried to end our relationship for the last 3 years and she won’t let go of me, always keeps coming back. Isn’t that weird for a Sag? You’d think the Pisces in me wouldn’t try to end the relationship…but with my Sag moon, my Sag sun partner might have met her match.
well..i’m an aries gal who was recently involved with a sag man, so you know i’m practically an authority when it comes to the need to be free and the need to be honest..
but let me tell you… he could dish out critiques but certainly not take it. since he was one of those sags that was seriously hurt by his ex, (o woe is me!) i was the most considerate and patient i have probably ever been in my *life*!
understanding almost to a fault, but when i express my anger about a simmering issue, (through a text msg- i know bad taste- but i couldn’t hold it in any longer!) its a problem & he bolts like a deer!
in which case, because i truly care, i apologize and want to talk. he does- and doesn’t. he’ll text and say he’ll call but never does. whenever i stop texting him for a few days- he’ll text me back.
its just enough to keep me from moving on. and its not fair. so all that justice and philosophical talk is existential bs to me (he said he needed time to figure out where i was coming from- come to me! i’m the source right here!)
maybe its the mars in me, but when its time to argue/fight, let’s go ahead, get in the mud, fight and come out best of friends and stronger.
but go ahead and let me go if i’m not the one for you. i’ve got plenty of other fish trying to jump on my plate!
sorry sags…just had to vent!!
Wow…i was just googling “sagttarius man” and came to this site. Now, mind you, I’m a Sag, have had 2 serious relationships with Sag men, and am currently interested with a 33 year old Sag man. He has Mercury, Venus, and Mars in Sag. Moon in Scorpio, though! Me, I am 24 years old, and I have Virgo rising, Moon in Taurus, Mars in Libra, Mercury in Capricorn, and Venus in …Scorpio! AHH! This man is driving me crazy! We met, were intimate very quickly, and he coaxed me out of my tight-lipped-ness about my feelings. I started to tell him about all my romantic wishes and how I am so sensitive, and would just love to be wrapped up in a love affair with him, mind, body, and spirit. My earlier Sag relationships were great, but i was in my teenage years (17-20. ) In those relationships we spent a lot of tijmme toge
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in my earlier relationships, we spent a lot of time together, talked a lot,and had a lot of sex. It was great, but then things happened. From like 19 until now, I have been with a Cap, Scorpio, Gemini, Libra, Cancer, and Pisces. Difficult, but no regrets. My only regret was briefly being married to an unhappy Leo! Now i want this Sag man! But he doesnt call me much, and doesnt spend a lot of time with me. Hes kinda sporadic, which i’m not, and he says hes getting his life together, which is why hes so unavailable. But this is confusing, right? Exactly! Here comes my Venus in Scorpio…I’m thinking about him WAY too much, and I feel the need to correct that, lest i drive myself crazy. So i’m THIS close to completely disconnecting from him. Thats the ony way i know how to deal with my emotional surges. But deep down, I’m willing to give him his space and see what happens. I’m SO confused! The Sag me wants to give him all the space he needs. But the Taurus moon and the Scorpio Venus wants him to be close to me, or else! By the way, after our first intimate encounter, he told me he wanted to be boyfriend/girlfriend! And now this! What should i do??
sorry but i dated a sag male, and he was the most evil thing in this world, broke my heart, cheated, lied, the whole deal, i threw him out, told him i never wanted to see/talk to him and he seems to keep coming back for more…..seems he wants to get the last word in edge wise, but i beat him to it
aha! sucker!
I’m a sag. we don’t like to admit we actually been hurt in any situation becus you did us a favor proving your unworthy… Honestly we accept ppl for who they are good , bad , ugly , whatever and what we want most is respect in return we accept you so accept us for our dominant characteristics all i want is a male to understand that you have to agree with 100% just respect my desicions and Never tell me what i should do… ask! I can’t say im hurt if someone doesn’t want me because they had the balls to tell me the truth.. That’s what we like straight foward approach try it and won’t bring us into some sort of depression we will simply brush our shoulders off because you’ve become dust and go on with our lives .
Yes. I agree with the last comment. I cant stand a plastic, fronting person. Keep it real. Save me from depression and wet pillows. We are people who always bounce back from any situation. Accept us for who we are. Stop trying to controll sags because we will fight you. Tina Turner fought back. Ask some of my ex’s i rolled up a jobs with knives. Threatened to key cars all that. DON’T PLAY WITH A SAGS HEART. We love hard. BUT THERE IS A PRICE TO PAY WHEN YOU BREAK IT COWARDLY AND CALLOUSLY.
I’m A Sag and my Venus is in Sag and my Mercury is in Sag and my Moon is in Libra. Unfortunately, I never met a man I couldn’t leave. Until I bumped into an AAAAAAAQUARIUS !!! This one just might take me down.
I agree KT. All aquarius hopefully are not the same. But statement above about keying the car etc. was an aquarius man. He had great sex and a charming bastard and also was emotionally detached he also try to mind f*** me all the time. He lied to no tomorrow. Just dont be naive if he is one of these aquarians. Most men like this don’t like smart women to much. You have the power to shut him down trust me. When we were together he tried pulled all types of stunts on me he thought i didnt know and i thought he really didnt have much emotions or sensitivity. Until i grab a hold of my feelings and vulnerability and shot back at his as with my arrow and figured out he was a sensitive sponge fronting like he was in control. I had the control the whole time but i was emotionally bogged down and vulnerable. His birthday is feb 12. He is out of my life today its been 4 years and i am glad. Like is said sags love hard, but when we dont love you is when they realize we were the best love they will ever have. Sags always bounce back.
I am a Sagittarius famle with my venus in Scorpio, and I absolutely agree with this statement: A special exception would be a Sagittarius woman with Venus in Scorpio. If you’ve hurt her, lock all your doors, take down your social networking profiles, and disconnect your phone.
Luckily for my ex I’ve come to terms with this and have decided not to take the psycho route.
oh oh oh OH! lol, one of my very best and dearest friends is a female sag with venus in scorpio… and man oh man.. I would NOT want to be one of the boys that has hurt her! years and years of emotional revenge and ego bashing!!! Don’t trifle with her, she’s the very best at guilt trips.
I am a sag with scorpio in venus and moon in scorpio and I usually tend to never give another chance to a guy who rejected me at one time. I make them feel sorry for their decision and treat them as I would treat a subordinate. When you cross us there’s no turning back. You only get one chance. And if you blow it and if you dont get it or understand the signs… that’s it. Its over We’re not going to want you anymore. And we will never feel the same way for you again..
A special exception would be a Sagittarius woman with Venus in Scorpio. If you’ve hurt her, lock all your doors, take down your social networking profiles, and disconnect your phone.
oh yea… wow thats me…. i am a sag with venus scorpio… go with a pisces and this viscvous side will appear..
I’m a sag. Never had anyone who can tie me down till i met an AQUARIUS. damn it! i don’t even know why i’m so in love with her although she bears the obvious quality of an aquarius which is emotionally distant. and she dumped me without giving me any explanation at all! this for sure leaves a sagitarius like me feeling unsettled. then i fell for another aquarius, not emotionally distant like my previous partner. but too clingy. now i’m confused.. i dare say i fell for her because i saw her as the carbon copy of my previous partner. so i tend to be cold in the relationship after i realized that i was still in love with my ex. not fair for her. i never gave her attention like i suppose to as a partner. and she eventually dumped me because of my attitude. i felt devastated. regret. after she leaves me, i suddenly felt the urge of wanting her so badly and automatically forgot about my previous ex. but its too late. she’s already made up her mind and moved on. i hope i will never make the same mistake i did. i sooo need a therapist
What happens to a Sag woman after she gets hurt? Well, if you’re me (Sag Sun, Asc and Mars; Leo Moon; Aqu Venus and Sco Uranus), you fantasize about elaborate revenge (but don’t follow through), and break up in a fairly showy and spectacular way. I gave my first boyfriend my braid, which was over 16″ long, in a brown paper bag when I broke up with him. I told him “this kinda cuts things short” and “here- you can keep the part of me you love!” No tears, just humor, because I do all my crying and agonizing in private beforehand. When my marriage ended, I came home from class that day and told my husband flat out, “Our marriage has been flatlining for some time now. We’re going to separate,” just like that. No crying then, and I didn’t shed another tear in front of him until he announced a few months later that he was moving abroad, leaving me alone with a toddler. No tears in front of him since. When I’m hurt by someone who respects me enough to be totally up-front and transparent, I put on a brave face and try always to remember it’s not all about me, remember the big picture. I generally want to be friends (tho it’s a battle btw Venus in Aqu and Moon in Leo for me) and always want to be gracious and “big” about things. When they’re lying, cringing, cowardly scumbags, tho, it gives me nightmares for months and makes me deeply (but privately) upset. The Sagittarian part of me is definitely the humor under pressure, the willingness to be friends, and the need for honesty and integrity in myself and others.
I agree with the comments. I am a Sag woman with Venus Scorpio. No man has ever tied me down until I met Virgo man!!!!! He is hot and cold. This gets me to scratching my head wondering why doesn’t he just let me know what is going on? I do not like to be left guessing!
Im a sagiattirus girl and when I get hurt from someone I truly love I want to damage I will hurt you more then you ever hurt me…my husband before we got married we had issues we both were playing with each other’s emotions and when I found out something I felt betrayed,hurt,anger and I almost beat the living hell outta him which Im not proud of and yes I will be a B*$%h if you hurt me deeply to the point where you won’t want to ever speak to me.
Wow all of these comments are so true! My Virgo man just hooked up with this disgusting girl right in front of my face. I was devastated but before he could return to our hotel room in the morning I left. In fact, I left him 3 hours from home. I didn’t even give him the chance to see that he hurt me. I feel that if a man is worthy of my emotions, he may just get a glimpse. I feel sorry for all the losers who hurt a Sag because revenge (in any form) can be scary. lol.
These statements are all very insightful. I am a Sag woman, and I have dreamed about getting revenge on my exes, but I never even attempted to follow through. I have been guilty of hiding my feelings, though, and I haven’t yet been able to be really intimate with another. My last bf is a Libra, the lover of signs, and I think my inablity to be upfront about my feelings made him insecure, and unsure of our relationship. He shut down, and our communication fell appart. He grew very cold, and eventually shut me out completely. This hurt terribly, and usually I would cut someone off if they crapped on my heart, but I really cared about this guy, and it felt different this time. Instead of forgetting about him and moving on, I tried to keep contact. I believe our reactions to heart-brake are different from person to person, but more imortantly, as we grow, and as we have varied relationships that may trigger different emotions, our reactions can’t always be the same. I feel it’s important to try and learn from every situation, and get to know thyself, just so in case mikstakes were made, they won’t be made again.
im a 22 yr old sag. dec 1st, pure 100$ sagittarian, and you do Not want to piss me off. and if you do, you will learn the hard way to NEVER do it again because you will never get away with it. its not that im revengful, its just that i let you know that us femal sag’s refuse to put up w any bulls*** and wont let anyone get away with it. anyone.
im a Sagitarius moonsighn/Cap & Scorpio rising i do tend to hold grudges i’d probally go after someone if they hurt my feelings bad enough so locking your doors would be advised. =]
Sagitarius females are warriors that always win the battle so you’d be wise not to piss us off or risk getting a smack down or worse not walking again my birthday is December 13,
I feel like If I been cheated on I wasn’t good enough then the anger start’s once my bf at the time I found out he cheated on me through looking his phone I guess I cared about him in a way I freaked out I was visiting my sister in Az, and screamed and went into my sister bathroom and cried he came in and I was going to hit him instead I hit the door punched a hole my sister had to pay at the time(felt way bad)and told him to leave after a couple month’s he called me bugged me while I was with my husband at the time bf,I never returned to him nor gave him the chance..WARNING to all the males wanting to date a sag women-Don’t break the heart’s we love u dearly with,or betray our trust in the end,youll end up feeling like an ass,and we will get someone better then you & youll be in the end whining about how u fkd up.We go all ape s*** when u hurt us,we do love deeply & if it’s fake love we really don’t bother with ur games.
Eeyyo!!! Diva Sags n all, well yes I’m a Sag ascending Sag, so yes I’m the realest, most sincere person, deep in heart and mind, intense person. I love us!! We are not nervous and we are strong and we give the benefit of the doubt even after we’re hurt if the chemistry is at its highest, BUT once we realize our intensity is inevitable and irrresistible, which will enable men to do anything at any means necessary, we learn to be strong and walk away, because it is unhealthy to be one’s heroin.
Aquarius yes, they are a match because they’re so out-of-this world and we get that, and adore their intellectual, charm and individuality. BUT, however independent we are, we should not loose focus on ourselves nor put up with their schizophrenic tendencies. My strong Sag ladies, make sure you cut them without looking back if they’ve hurt you. U know how we do. Samurai style.
Holla! That’s right Nelly! Man down code 10!
I’m shocked! I’m a sag with my venus in scorpio so i must be some exception because im pretty good at letting go?
I am a sag/scorpio on the cusp….I am as mean as a rattlesnake when someone has hurt me. I will get you back. My saying is I will be old, senile and need mor ehelp than I can give, but I will remember who I don’t like and why. It is very difficult to offend me, but when I have determined that I have had enough disdain, I will cut you completely off with no response or reply. Should you do worse than offend me, I will break into your email, cut up clothes, whatever and I will leave a mark so you know I did it. I blame it on the Scorpio in my nature. The Sag in me will let things go, not hold grudges, is free with the breeze.
I’m a Sag girl through and through — just got stuck with a boy’s name. Ironic, huh? Let me ask you what you think.
I’ve been “involved” emotionally with a unhappily married Scorpio male. In June, he tells me “he’s going to stay where he’s at.” Okay. I accepted and knew I just had to wait it out. On Friday, he calls me to make sure I’m at a party that he was going to be at. All night we exchanged the sligh little smiles, he watched me all night, etc. When I finally talked to him later, I said I really don’t like to be ignored and kept waiting since he was practically hold court. I began to tell him that I’m sorry that I don’t treat him in public like the rest of my male friends because I’m worried about letting things show. Well, he turns on me and says “I told you before I’m staying where I’m at.” I was stunned because I already knew that so I said, “Well, I thought…guess it doesn’t matter what I thought.” He said, “No, it doesn’t matter what you thought. I wish I had never started things with you.” I left crying!
Oh, holy hell. First, I can’t believe I let a man see me cry. Cried the next day. Now I’m mad as hell. He jumped to the wrong conclusions and never let me even finish what I was going to say in the first place. I’m trying very hard to control my vengeful fantasies and not call him and give him a piece of my mind.
I have cried in front of strangers, dont feel bad, My brother is a Sag, he cries in the open, I have respect for him, When he cries its genuine… In front of those I hate however, I smile and wait till theyre gone, then I cry….
Hey Troy. I am sorry you had to go through that for real. Because when we love hard its hard and deep. Scorps and sags usually don’t mix that well. Look at ike and tina. Ike a scorp. Just an example. They like to spit venim for real. Yet they are sensitive know this. I will give him a tongue lashing from hell Troy. You will feel a whole lot better even if its a text lashing from hell. He just wanted a for the mean while mistress probably. Troy from sag to sag don’t date married men because us sags are not cut for being second to no one. We are always first. Our emotions are not cut out for that. Troy curse his ass out and you will feel a whole lot better and then you can successfully trot along with ease with your life. Patch the wounds up and keep it moving. Hope this helped. All the best to you.
Thanks Diva. I understand exactly what you’re saying. Problem is, I was really never his mistress — no sex. I was just his good friend or so I thought! My understanding is the best way to deal with a Scorpio is to ignore him for awhile so I will. Right now, he’s actually dead to me so why speak to the dead? I have erased every text and voice mail he’s ever left me or sent. I have gone to his stable and picked up my things. I have returned everything of his. I am in the process of cutting him completely from my life. Last thing is to delete him from my cell. Not ready for that final step yet but give me a week. Isn’t is great to be a Sag sometime!! — That we can do this so quickly.
And if he thought I treated him in public differently before, Oh Sweet Jesus, he has no idea of what’s coming.
Yeah it is sweet being a sag. When can overcome anything and quickly most times. I feel sorry for him because he doesn’t know what he is in for. Haa haa! He going to be running for cover under the sands. Revenge is best served cold…. later Troy.
I am an Aquarius Female and he is Sagitarrius. I have never in my life felt a connection both pysical and mental like the one I have with him.. It is out of this world. It feels like he is my soul mate. We can talk for hours and the sex… whew~!! out of this world. well.. here is the thing. We dated a year ago for about a month. Then we lost touch. And about 2 months ago we got in contact once again. Everything has been awesome. I have slept over his house.. left personal items there. He however just got out of an engagement. He called of the wedding only a couple of months ago. He doesn’t trust women or his judgement of women, since they all seem to be psycho. lol Anyway, we were talking the other day and it just came up that he thinks of me as a friend. but much more than a friend with benefits. He tells me he doesnt want to lose me. So I send him this email, on how It doesn’t have to be one extreme or another. He really wants a relationship as well as kids, but is scared of making the same mistakes and of not achieving all his goals and dreams. I haven’t heard from him in about 4 days. I called him yesterday and no call back. Any advice?????????????? oph and for the record. i know for a fact, that he likes me a lot.. I feel it in everything we do, whether its talk to fall asleep together… but I’m kinda thrown off.. and not sure what to do to get him interested once again??
oh as a follow up…. to the above.. he also tells me he has never felt a connection like he has with me… so whats the deal?
To Marisol,
Im a sag, and the only thing I could say is that he may not want to put all his eggs in the same basket… especially if he has just ended an engagement. Marriage is touchy for us, i guess because we’re never quite sure if we’ll find the right person.
As for the special connection to you, this really reminded me of what I have with my boyfriend (he’s Aquarius)…. like some crazy magnetism we have to eachother, both physical and mental. I think he feels it too, but may not want to commit to any too serious right away.
I’d say he may be a little confused or caught up in other things, but if he really feels that connection he will most likely call you.
Also, a little word of advice, (I don’t know if it’s different for sagittarius men), but for me what really makes us tick is our passion for philosophy and big ideas! We love theorizing and expanding our knowledge..
And Aquarius is a thinking sign so, this is where you can’t go wrong!
Good Luck!
That was amazingly funny! though I had no idea where that creativity and energy was comming to me, I need to admit that this is true… I lived an experience like that, as I’m a saggy with scorpio venus… and I think it was a blessing for those hurting me, to have been born with saturn conjunct venus, which stops me.
a Sag woman can be brutal when she gets hurt. for some reason they want get physical.
Hey Blakgoat……thats true we can be brutal. Now if you mean sexual physical its true thats the best sex make up sex. It used to turn me on when me and my mate fought……im just saying. Now if you mean hitting and stuff thats true as well because of the fiery rage inside.
@Diva Sag
oh yeah, im speaking from experience, real good experience. my Sag has gone off on me a few times and hit on me, it does turn me on.
well im a Aries. Don’t know about sagitarius woman went out with a sag guy once. OMG mind games.One minute he would want space which was fine i would have given him it,I need my freedom to, but it was always he would want his space I would give him it then txt me five minutes later telling me he missed me what I can be bothered with that crap, you either like me or you do not, don’t play me about.
My sagi bf would always go in a massive huff after a fight , with me i will yell and scream then we will be friends again it will be done and dusted. With him it was always he would say he was fine then sulk for ages eh ? dont expect me to put up with sulking if you say your ok and will then play mind games.
I would rather you left me alone if you were gonna be like that, have your time out then be friends again dont make out your ok and start sulking I do not have the patience for that s*** lol
I basically killed our relationship when he started usig stuff that had happened in the past against me. That is one sure fire way to rile an aries.He couldnt take it I refused to discuss the past as I dont live in it.
Although that might have been his scorpio mars
One bad experience with a sag but im not gonna say all sags are bad because of it. Sorry for the rant but if you lived with my bf youd see my point