Is Taurus woman wasting her time with a Sagittarius man?
July 25, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Staci provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,I am currently dating a Sag male and I am a Taurian female. Having suffered the “bad boys” early in life as many Taurian females do – I’m gun shy now. But this Sag male seems very genuine, sincere, and brutaly honest. Problem? Everything I read states HUGE incompatibility issues here. His Venus is in Libra and mine is in Aries. We get along smashingly and he’s the only guy that’s ever been incredibly honest with me – which I love. I give him his much needed freedom in return for his honesty. But is this an ultimate waste of my time?
You get along smashingly … why would I want to discourage you? Besides, a Sagittarius man would meet your fantasies and ideals, as you have Neptune and Jupiter in this sign. In fact, the traditional ruler of your Pisces Descendant (7th House of Partnership) is Jupiter, dignified in the sign He rules — an indication of what attracts you in a partner.
Your dreamy, inspired Jupiter-Neptune conjunction sits on your IC, the 4th House of Domestic and Family Life. You may indeed feel “at home” with your boyfriend.
Also, your Sun is in the Ninth House, which is naturally associated with Jupiter and Sagittarius. You need to express your Taurean self in the Sagittarian realm, which may mean you two can enjoy similar pursuits.
You have Venus, Moon and Mercury in Aries, a fire sign that gets along splendidly with Sagittarius. Your aggressive planets complement your boyfriend’s more diplomatic and indecisive Venus in Libra. At times, this polarity will provide a welcome balance in energies. At other times, you may get on each other’s nerves … but who doesn’t fight now and then? In addition, your Uranus in Libra may help awaken his inner artist.
A Taurus only believes what she sees, while a Sagittarius grooves on philosophies that defy the logic of science. Inevitably, tension will ensue when he takes risks that trigger your fear response, or when your resistance to change conflicts with his adventuresome spirit. However, you’re giving him his much-needed freedom, and his honesty helps you feel secure, so it looks like this relationship is working out just fine. Ignore the textbooks and go with your heart.
Related post: How would a Sagittarius and Taurus break up?
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Finally!! A happy ending!
Textbooks don’t include the nuances of the whole chart, only here-and-there aspects. It takes a human (e.g., YOU) to really be able to tell if there’s some nice compatibility here. Sounds like you two have some cool complements.
If it ain’t broken, then don’t bother fixing it.
I bet there are more couples made up of “incompatible” sun signs than there are of “compatible” sun signs…
LOL Miss Blahblah is right imo, Taurus lady.:-)
I don’t think typical texts on astrology that are written for the general public will tell you the inside geatails you needs–and what’s more, only you and he will know anyway, as the relationship develops.
But, another point I wanted to add is that your Venus in Aries and his Venus in Libra are for one thing, as Jeffrey said oppsites, but can nicely complement one another.But, also imo anyway, it’s more important in doing comparison charts to see if/how your Venus and his *Mars* interact, as well as your Moon, and his Veus, and Sun, and Neptune and vice verse for your planets.
Since you have Moon in Aries it would interact in a playful loving way with his Venus in Aries–it’s just a little more give and take, and “tussle” than if they were in the same sign.
Also, agin as Jeff said the Fire element in Aries and Sagitarius might mean there’s some lovely trines between your planets and his Sun in Sagittarius.
Neptune on his Sun could mean theres even a psiritual understanding between you!
As everyone already said, why trouble trouble ’til trouble troubles you?
Meeting someone that’s fun, understanding, and honest is not an everyday event, no?
I would accept it as it is.Don’t add anything, don’t take anything away from it.
It’s great, and may or may not be better even as time shows us thw true meaning this man has in your life.
I know it can be confusing to look at the strological information, and think you may not have what it takes together—but we don’t know all th information, for one thing!:-)
nd two–you know–I was married before when younger to someone with whom I had many many good ties (although I didn’t know them all) and left him (sadly) mostly due to immaturity, fears, adiction issues etc..
I am happily married now to someone with whom my chart is not so “perfectly” compared–yet in time, we grew more in love, and have worked out many many things.
My meaning here is– theres so many many reasons things happen as they do, and I certainly think you know in your heart if someone understands you or not.
*That* to me is more precious than gold.
Good luck.I’m glad you’ve met someone really nice, and I hope it does continue.
aagh,my typing is worse and worse, plus I’m getting blinder with old age, sorry–not geatails, DETAILS.
Fooey!LOL
THANK YOU so much, Jeff, for responding to my question as this has been weighing on my mind a bit. I keep waiting for “issues” to arise and now I can relax a bit. Everything you said and the points that you made are right in line with what’s going on here. Someone also pointed out that there may be a spiritual connection here as well – and in my opinion – that’s definitely true. We hit it off immediately and have been going strong ever since. Again, his honesty is the factor for me here. I really respect that and, yes, it does make me feel secure with him. Once again, thank you!
You’re welcome, Staci.
And of course, Sag people tend to have no problem with rebellion. If I were in love with someone, well, I would sooner go to war with the founders of astrology before I would break-off a relationship on account of what they said.
Love conquers all, so listen to Jeffrey.
I, too, am a female Taurus wondering if I am wasting my time with a Sag. His data: born at 1500 (3 PM)on 11/22/1969 in 39n24, 76w36
My data: born at 1200 (midday) on 05/12/1962 in 17n10, 121e54.
We have known each other for 5 months and he has asked me to marry him. I truly care about him but also doubtful that it will work because there seem to be a disconnect between us. He’d get quiet and distant even after professing his love for me. Do you see a possibility for us? Thank you in advance, Jeff, for being out there.
To annonymous in the post above, I can relate to the “disconnect” you speak of. In spite of all the good times, I do seem to have trouble connecting on a deep level with my Sag male. He seems to have trouble “letting go” when intimate. But after you read about them, they kind of have a 3rd person point of view regarding sexuality and intimacy. The ride will be a fun one, but it may also lack the passion and sensuality that a female Taurian craves and lives for. . .haven’t figured out how to tap into his passion yet, but I’m working on it! Seems like once the Sag male feels himself falling – he MUST pull back into his own space to evaluate.
To MIRROR OF APHRODITE,
Just broke up with my Sag, or rather, he broke up with me. Said he loves me but is not in love with me. Kicking myself for settling in the first place, when I have other more worthy prospects. I suppose it was the challenge. Good luck in you trying to tap into a deep connection with your Sag. I had many good times with mine but I am relieved the roller coaster ride of uncertainty is over.
To MIRROR OF APHRODITE. I am a sag male i think that our biggest fear is to get hurt so we tend to keep our distance to be safe. we plan for the worst it seems and take the necessary steps to prepare and maybe ultimately set outself up by doing so. but we have good hearts and good intentions. dont know if this helps but maybe find a way to prove him wrong by showing him he is safe with you. i know its different from person to person
I’m glad to know there is finally someone who actually went beyong the textbooks and explained how a taurean female and sag male could get along quite well. I have just met this sag boy and because I am a taurus female and not a typical one as I cannot stay home and I have lived and travelled different countries and am quite a dettached person, textbooks like to just label each startsign one way like there is no other way u could be different. I believe there are 2 or 3 different types to every sign. For example, there is the earthy taurus female who wants to hug trees, live in the forest and never wears makeup. I am the complete opposite, I am s super girly girl who wont leave the house without makeup, I love the city but appreciate the country but would NEVER live out there and I am very cosmo.
Even though I haven’t known my sag for very long, we had an instant inexplicable connection. It was so frustrating to me that almost every site was bashing our compatibility when I think we are great. PUt it this way, I was with my “perfect” sign, a virgo male and we did also have an awesome connection and we were soooooo similar, but almost too similar and since I am the less traditional taurean girl, I needed more adventure when he was happy just being together and sitting at home each day although we barely fought, there was no fire or passion in our relationship…it was almost “too perfect” after 4 years I just recently broke up with him then met this sag male who not only excites me, we have awesome communication. He has had his fair share of flings and made it very clear to me he wants total commitment and a serious relationship, so we will try. I am also afraid of commitment and a free soul which nowhere in the textsbooks says a taurean is taht way, but I am. Maybe this is why my sag fell hard for me. I will not let textbooks get into my head, all u taurean girls as long as you are willing to appreciate freedom and a take it day by day way of life, it can be awesome between u both. I also love the fact hes honest, which one of the fact that tore me and my virgo mate up is that virgo was not the most honest person, its not like he lied on purpose but moreso out of fear of my reaction, which after 4 years he would still have trouble being honest because always afraid of my horns.
I like this sag cus hes not afraid, he tells me bluntly and I love that.
I feel the same as HAPA DOLL, I am not a typical Taurus girl, and I have Scorpio rising, and feel as if I am different than my typical “stereotype” I have been with my Virgo boyfriend of 7 years, and there is no passion and some problems. I am scared, because I want to leave him for a Sag male that I have an awesome connection with….what do I do.
Holy shizzballs, I’m also a Taurus with venus in Aries and the guy I like is ALSO a Sag with venus in Libra!
It’s not working out too well though… as pathetic as this may sound, I think I may be too “boring” for him. And he has absolutely no sentiment whatsoever, he’s just a huge ball o’ flirt!!