Comments on: When astrology is used for reassurance

By: proserpine

proserpine — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:31:00 +0000

I didn’t just look at Linda Goodman’s book back then, I looked at my ephemeris.
I’ve only been online since 2000.

By: proserpine

proserpine — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:28:00 +0000

Jeff, oh definitely–I think we are.
I understand.
I did not mean differently
I eman tthat I don’t look for reassurance (well really I don’t look for anything anymore), but I did and occasionally still do look to see what is *there*–to tell me about what I’m sense and what it is actually about.
Yes of course I understand about the woman friend with Sun in Aquarius and moon in Pisces –you are still taken, and she moved anyway–yes, I get it.
However, what you felt–the connection–was there, for a reason.
That’s all I meant.
Of course it doesn’t mean the synastry that looks interesting or promising means the relationship lasts forever–no.LOL
The teracher you had worked well for awhile–that is what mattered while it mattered.
We may be on the same type of page in a different, but similar, book Jeff.LOL

By: Fabienne

Fabienne — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 16:01:00 +0000

Hi Jeff:
Very nice post. I took me down memory lane when I used to consult Linda Goodman’s Love Signs book before an important date to check if we were compatible and/or had any possible future together. That was well before the internet and instant compatibility reports. You reserved the consultation with an astrologer for a serious boyfriend!
I totally agree with your comments as I used astrology for reassurance and the illusion of permanence. But it also helped me work through my own emotional issues – T-square between Moon in Libra, Venus in Aries and Saturn in Capricorn –
From my experience, compatibility does not always help. The most difficult relationships were the ones who had the most number of good interaspect. On the other hand, the present one is the most solid of all my relationships, although our moons and venuses do not form any major aspect. It has been a tremendous growth opportunity for both of us.

By: Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 13:39:00 +0000

Proserpine, One of my former teacher's Sun is exactly conjunct my Moon. We had a very good connection (on a teacher-student level) for a few years, then he began annoy the frick out of me. Yet we still have that Sun-Moon conjunction.

A woman I used to work with has her Sun in Aquarius and Moon in Pisces. We got along very well (I'm a Pisces with Aquarius Moon), I felt a connection, but I'm already taken, and she moved to a different state.

What am I saying? So what if there's good synastry. That doesn't mean anything's gonna happen. Or if it does happen, who knows how long. Maybe the Mars-Uranus opposition in a lover's chart is hit by solar arc progressed whatever while an eclipse hits the same point. OK, so we know that there is an astrological correspondence with the semi-rig accident. But he's still dead.

Can you look at someone's chart and tell if they're going to fall madly in love with you? There's so much context in life. The same conjunction between two charts can mean so many things -- yes, all these interpretations will "fit" with the planets, but ROMANTIC LOVE is just one of many expressions.

Are we on the same page?

By: Eme Kah

Eme Kah — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 13:36:00 +0000

I have found a lot of similar natal aspects and interaspects in my lovers’ charts and I think it is interesting to track that, as it were, bc that way I can figure out some of my issues. Obviously, I seem to attract men with the same natal issues or psychology so what does that say about me? In a lot of the composite charts with my exes, I’ve found Moon or Venus square Neptune which definitely checks with the end result of being sorely disillusioned about the nature of the relationship. And most of these charts also had lovely Venusian aspects, too, though. Also, I have found that I attract men with Moon/Pluto natal aspects or with Venus/Neptune aspects as well OR (and this is somewhat odd, imo) Saturn in the 2nd and Saturn/Venus aspects. I also tend to attract Virgo/Scorpio combos. Obviously, all of this reflects a lot of my own issues. I have a Moon/Pluto opposition, a Venus/Neptune inconjunct, Saturn in the 2nd and Pluto in Virgo. The only thing I don’t have is a Saturn/Venus contact, thank God!! My poor little Venus is afflicted enough as it is although Saturn does rule my 7th house so… maybe it’s just as bad.

By: proserpine

proserpine — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 06:29:00 +0000

Jeffrey..I have a comment on this.
(maybe a question too).
I believe I understand what you are saying very well.
I remember checking my chart wiht lots of lover's charts to see what was going on there.
Of course, I wanted to know we were somehow meant to be {married, lovers, best friends,soulmates, and so on}
I liked best when someone or other was very drawn to me for karmic or other wise spiritual reasons, LOL.
What I want to comment on though, is that when I have noticed meaningful or clear "love" aspects (moon conjunct sun, venus oppose or conjunct Mars, Venus conjunct Moon) there usually *is* love present .
However, the other points/aspects matter too.
If a man's Moon was conjunct my Venus, but, his Mars *squared* my Moon too--what do you think happned later , after some months of sweet love??
So, while I agree--we never know when someone, compatible or not, will get killed by a semi-rig hitting him....I still thought the various aspects in synastry do tell us somehting important..
For instance, might not the killer semi-rig have to do(hypothetically) with a difficult Mars/Uranus tie in his chart?
And maybe a Uranus tie between he and I in my 5th HSE as well?
Know what i mean?
Or no?
I do agree most of us look at a chart of a new love in our lives hoping to see 'something wonderful',and usually don't want to see the difficult parts--that are always there anyway.

By: proserpine

proserpine — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 06:15:00 +0000

Scorp–I’m not so different than you!:-)
I’m with my husband 27 yrs , however–we separated twice and in between those times we made each other miserable.
We kept trying –he in his stubborn Taurian way, myself in my fits and starts.
Eventually we agreed to see a therapist for counseling together.
Mind you, I had pushed for this for years.
But when the time came, I broke down in fearful tears to think of what we’d face.
Short ending is– we are so much more happy now.
Now,even in very stressful times we’ve managed to talk things out satifactorily.
I was drawn to your post, because we might not have tried 27 yrs ago, if we’d known what we were doing either, LOL.
Nonetheless that no longer matters.I’m glad we’re still together.
We’re *not* the perfect couple–but as you say–what couple is?

By: scorp

scorp — Mon, 18 Jun 2007 19:04:00 +0000

Had I done our compatibility chart 19 years ago, I would not have married my husband. We’ve been married 16 years. Our chart is not the easiest one.
But 16 years and two kids later, we’ve done fairly well. We go through our trials and tribulations like everyone else. Sometimes we handle them with grace, other times its war.
We both have our negative and positive traits. Previously,when wounded, he wants to give up and run to his mommy. I want to take the kids and run. We have come a long way. Its not easier, its different. Always changing… as it should be.