Libra woman in love with Libra boss
June 15, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
bp provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,
I am totally in love with my boss. I have worked for him for just over a year and I know he thinks I do a great job. We had a very near sexual encounter at the end of a company event in the Caribbean 4 months ago. I set out to seduce him and let him know privately at the end of the evening. We kissed, he led me to his room, and we ended up in his bed. But I couldn’t go through with it as we had both had a lot of alcohol. We ended up falling asleep/cuddling together for the night and were rushed to catch planes and commitments the next day. He lives in another state, and we did not talk about it afterwards and I didn’t see him (although we interact daily) again for six weeks. He continues to treat me with the same kindness and respect. He is a Libra as well. I want to clear this up, and want so much to explore things with him. Is he interested, or not? Does he think I rejected him? Is he holding back because he is my boss? Could he handle a relationship with me? Is he waiting for me to say something or make a move? What should I do????
Thank you so much. I am tormented with this.
You write that you two nearly had sex four months ago. On January 7, you had a progressed New Moon at 11 degrees 54 minutes Scorpio, in your natal Fourth House. Your progressed chart shows where all the planets were about 42 days after your birth, as progressed planets move one day per year. Progressions show your inner evolution, and when the progressed Moon and progressed Sun conjoin each other (a New Moon), a new cycle of growth is indicated. Being that both of your progressed “lights” (Sun and Moon) are in Scorpio, you are oriented towards Scorpionic themes: sex and obsession, for example. This progressed New Moon sextiles (a 60 degree angle) your natal Uranus, the modern ruler of Aquarius, which sits on your Descendant (relationships).
Simultaneously, progressed Mars in Leo is moving towards an opposition to your natal Saturn (traditional ruler of your Descendant) in your Eighth House of Sex.
What does this all mean? Saturn signifies the boss. You are wanting to initiate a relationship (Mars opposite the traditional ruler of your Seventh) but are at the same time inhibited (Saturn).
Your progressed New Moon conjoined your natal Neptune. Neptune governs alcohol, and by virtue of its rulership of your Ninth House of Travel and Long Distances (with Pisces on the cusp), the Caribbean vacation.
Is he interested, or not? Dunno.
Does he think I rejected him? Dunno.
Is he holding back because he is my boss? Well, a boss can get in a heap of trouble for sleeping with an employee.
Could he handle a relationship with me? Dunno.
Is he waiting for me to say something or make a move? Dunno.
What should I do???? People do things they would not ordinarily do under the influence of alcohol. Things they later regret. People also do things they would not ordinarily do under the influence of Neptune, because they are in a dream world and cannot see reality in a clear fashion. Combine this with Scorpio — sex and power — and you’ve got a set-up for “About last night” scenarios.
This progressed New Moon was a trigger point, and possibly misdirected towards your boss. Occuring in Scorpio in your Fourth House, perhaps spending some time looking at underground family dynamics from your past would illuminate your attraction to an authority figure. Listen, I know you two are consenting adults, and this stuff happens all the time, but sleeping with the boss always has a “Daddy” connotation to me, but maybe that’s just because I did training in psychotherapy.
Your progressed Moon is tightly conjunct your progressed Neptune right now, so I would advise you to to just chill. You are so much in fantasyland right now that any actions you take might come back to haunt you.
Just, like, meditate or something.
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bp, I think I understand your feelings.Matter of fact, I am sure I do.
And good luck with everything.
I was just about your age, when a very similar thing happened to me.I’m a Libra woman too, and my older very handsome West Indian director was a Libra.
I had other reasons for cutting it off–I wanted to have the whole affair, but in my case, he and I were both married to someone else–and I knew it would end in misery.
I don’t know your situation, but there is something that makes me sense something similar.
I don’t knwo if he is committed to someone else, but theres some reaosn he didn’t contact you again socially.
I agree that dating and otheriwse getting involved with an employee could be dangerous, so that mght be part of it.(or even all of it).
What I was uncertain about was why you never called him, or asked him more.I understand he lives in another state…but you’ve had reason to see him, and know him before the Caribbean trip.
When you planned on seducing him–why were you going to seduce him, instead of simply seeing if he was also interested.
I’m also not sure why you could’nt go through with the sexual part even though you both had had too much to drink.
However–that is ot the point.
The point is, I shouldn’t think he would really feel rejected that you needed to stop–after all, you strted it, and you were there in his bed.
But–it is possible he wonders if you are sorry now, and it is also possible he is sorry now.
If he was willing then, he may be again, I’m sure.
But–I think there is somethung stopping you.
What?
In my case, my Libra boss liked me too.We talked a whole lot.
He never actually told me his real feelings until after I was transfered elsewhere, though.
I don’t know what would have happened had I gone through with it all–but, as much as it hurt me to think so, (and will hurt you too perhaps)..I was not the only woman he’d attracted, and been attracted to.By far.
Libras are very attractive, and seductive –you should know.
I might have even been especially attractive to *him*–I think so, and of course I hope so.:-)
But that still doesn’t make for a lasting relationship.And whatever we tell ourselves, when we get hooked, we don’t get ‘un-hooked’ easily.
My point is that these things can get very very painful.
If you got as far as you did with him, why aren’t you trying to see him now?
If he’s unavailable in some other way, then maybe you know it’s not really so clever to involve yourself?
If’s he’s free and unattached, and so are you–call him.
But, bp–I have to admit I think Jeff is correct–this may be a lovely attraction, that has “something” special–but you’re probably high on the romance and sexual feelings.
This might lead to nothing real.
I can’t tell you what to do—but please don’t brush off what Jeff said.
He said what he saw in your chart–for a good reason.
And what I’m saying is from knowing a *lot* about this kind of thing–just trust me on that one.
Meditation *is* a good idea.
With a Libra guy you have to make the first move, always
They are scared of rejection and a bit lazy, “well good things will just come to me” This guy is not a conquerer….. And you’ll know if he likes you because if you talk to him when hes eating, if he looks at you instead of just at his corned beef sandwich, he likes you…otherwise he’ll sit there all lunch time and look like hes making love to his food in his mind…
If you want him to really go nuts over you, wear tight skirts or pants and make sure you have to bend over to pick up something in front of him, Libra girls can do this really good….Weve got it going on back there and a Libra guy loves to look at that….:)
Oh, if he finds it taboo to date an employee….LOL
He’ll love the idea of being “naughty”