Cancer woman loves passive Pisces man: Should she continue pursuing him?
June 11, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Pisces Mania provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,
i met this pisces male who is eight years my junior and he is from another country to boot. love at first sight and despite our language difficulties we connected on a spiritual, emotional, physical and psychic level. never experienced this type of relationship before. but he confuses the heck out of me.
i could tell from his nervousness and sweaty hands that he was really into me but then he’d ignore my phone calls for several weeks only to call me out of the blue and ask why i didn’t call more? the last time there was two months in between our inneraction (because he stopped returning my calls, i refused to keep trying) but curiosity got the best of me and i called. he got in touch a week later and came over. greeted me with the most passionate kiss ever and asked again why i didn’t call more and that he was “waiting” for me. it’s like he doesn’t even realize he is the one being distant or perhaps he’s good at lying. so, it’s now been a month since we last saw one another and i left a message several weeks ago telling him i missed him and would like to spend more time together. of course, no response and i’m ready to walk away. is this typical pisces behavior? have read pisces are indecisive and live in their own world. how do i know to stick it out and fight the good fight or stop fooling myself? help! i’m hopelessly in love with this strange creature….
Stop fooling yourself. It sounds like this Pisces man wants you to be in the driver’s seat, yet he won’t even get in the car with you. You leave frequent messages, and he complains you don’t call more … plus he rarely responds. I don’t care how much you love him … he’s not living up to his part of the deal. However much his feelings for you are reciprocated, his near-total passivity — for which Pisces gets a bad rap — is a deal-breaker.
You have Venus in Taurus in your Seventh House. Stability and a feeling of being valued are necessary for you to have a satisfying relationship — neither of which this Pisces man is offering. You also have transiting Uranus — planet of awakening and sudden change — transiting your natal Jupiter in Pisces. This planet may signify your Pisces man, as Jupiter represents people from foreign lands, and it is in his sign. This transit — which ends February of next year — indicates a lack of any stability with regards to him. He may come in and out of your life with no predictable frequency. Do you want that?
You currently have the opportunity (Jupiter) to build a dream (Pisces) home or home life (Fourth House), which can help provide you a sense of security (Jupiter rules your Second House). I’d suggest you put your energies into bringing the best of Pisces into your life … not the worst.
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Fr A Crab Lady. Dated a Pisces man for 8 years & he remains the love of my life (now in Spirit World) It took awhile for him to warm up, alot of people, especially his ex-wife took advantage of his kind nature. But I didn’t give up!! I didnt push (hee hee too much). I made it known to him that I liked him, alot. I’d say don’t give up, but don’t be too Cancer needy either. HOpe this helps, any more questions, just ask!!
Dear Snapperz,
I find your story to be very charming! So you care about your Fishy? Emotional and moody, eh? That sounds right! Just don’t snap at him too much, even though he may snap at you as well!
Just maintain what you have with him, and hopefully things will continue to strengthen.
Dear Kimmy,
I am so sorry that your Fishy has died. My ex-crabby also called me the love of her life and her soul mate. We dated for 4 years, but things broke apart and she married this sophomoric capricorn idiot on the rebound. Ah well. She was just desperate to get married, but I believe she may still have feelings for me? Then again, perhaps it is a completely dead issue for her and she is truly as cold as a Siberian iceberg.
Who knows, but more importantly: Who cares?
There is a lovelier crabby out there for me.
For pisces men, Are cancerian women boring to pisces men?
I find some cancerian girls to be a bit boring, but then I have met some who are way too hyper and out of control. It’s a huge turn off. I prefer the ones who are more chill, have good morals and values but most of all… I like when they love to spend time with me = P
Hmmm, moonchild… Ok well I dunno what is going on with this dude but seriously, that is some messed up bahaviour. MY ex Cancer girl did basically the same thing to me about 5 months ago and it almost killed me. SHe has not asked for me back but says she still loves me and is not closer to anyone like she is with me, bla bla…. Well I tried begging her, pleading… She said we argued too much and she doesnt want to hurt me. I actually found out she had been lying to me about a friend she has who she slept with right before we met and they slept in the same bed together while we were together. Basically I know your paint, it sucks hard core. Especially when you have a really deep connection with the other person and apparently they do too… so they say. ALl I can say is I would not take her back even if she begged me. Im dont with this crap and I deserve so much better. I think she knows that too. SO what Im trying to say is that you deserve better than all this drama, and is he hiding something? Did he do something? Why does he act so guilty? Also if there is one thing I cant stand, its breaking up. I think it should be worked out and if someone breaks up with me, it better not be a bluff, casue thats it. YOu need to feel the same way, he broke up with you, fine, now he has to live with it. I know your feelings are strong, believe me I know… and the connection is deep. But this is rediculous. How can you live this way. I can understand if its really not working and he is done and has made up his mind. Thats his right. Or if someone or both fall out of love. Ok… but to break up with you and then want you back and then drop you again and want you back… are you a dirty shirt he can toss aside when he feels like it and then pick you up again when he wants to? I find it ver disrespectful and its not acceptable. You need to give him an altimatum. Its either he loves you and wants you and wants to work on things or he doesnt. And tell him, if he breaks up with you, he better damn well mean it cause thats it if he does. You tried, you wanted to work on things, you have been honest loved him. WHo knows what he is doing behind your back, this bahaviour is very suspiocious. Sorry for my spelling I am typing so fast LOL. Hope this helped a little.
Dear Melissa,
“For pisces men, Are cancerian women boring to pisces men?”
Depends on the type of person you are dealing with. If you are dealing with a Pisces guy who is a bit older, wiser and more capable of handling himself, then you will be just fine with him. It is the younger and more wild Pisces boys that may seem incapable of settling down with you. However, find yourself one who is a little older and more seasoned from life, and I am fairly certain that he will have no problem committing himself to you. I know that is certainly my case.
Vancouver,
“She has not asked for me back but says she still loves me and is not closer to anyone like she is with me, bla bla….”
I have a sinking feeling that we are brothers from the same issue. My ex-crab still had some feelings for me before she leaped into her rebound marriage, as I have almost a sixth sense for this type of thing. She may never admit it, but it was written all over her face in the engagement photos. That, coupled with the fact that she admitted that he was a “mistake” before we reunited about a year ago.
“Well I tried begging her, pleading… She said we argued too much and she doesnt want to hurt me.”
If she thinks that she is going to get out there and find someone else who doesn’t argue with her, then she is nuts. Mine did the same thing to me. Made me feel bad because we had the occasional squabble over something, but the key thing to remember is that EVERYONE SQUABBLES! Squabbling is a perfectly normal part of being committed to someone. It happens all the time, and the less experienced people in relationships FAIL to understand that squabbling is perfectly okay.
“I actually found out she had been lying to me about a friend she has who she slept with right before we met and they slept in the same bed together while we were together.”
Is she a Decan II crab? They tend to be the sneakier crabs with sex and stuff related to it. Just curious.
“ALl I can say is I would not take her back even if she begged me. Im dont with this crap and I deserve so much better. I think she knows that too.”
Good for you! Stand up, and have some respect for yourself! I like that! Critical thing you need to remember is to not have a knee-jerk reaction, and write off all crab women. There are some really wonderful crab women out there who are not jerks, so remember that.
“Also if there is one thing I cant stand, its breaking up.”
I agree, and can offer you this advice as well: DO NOT RUSH INTO A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP. That is the worst thing a person can do while recovering from a broken heart.
Thanks Mr. FIsh,
I appreciate that. I have heard from many people, including this girl in question and they all agree… It is not normal behaviour, its messed up, and I deserve better. I guess I feel like I gave her everything I had. Loved her intensely, and committed totally so all in all its her loss and I know she will regret it. But the lying to me about that guy, and sleeping in the same bed… yeah I have lost all respect for her and would never have her back. But I agree, there are some good Cancer women out there, I just have to find a good one and stay away from the messed up ones who have sexual promiscuity issues, not a turn on at all.
Im sorry you went through that too, it really sucks I know. But as I said, its their loss.
Well I’m a cancerian woman and i Love all you pisces men. Also HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ALL YOU PISCES OUT THERE!
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