Cancer woman loves passive Pisces man: Should she continue pursuing him?
June 11, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Pisces Mania provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,
i met this pisces male who is eight years my junior and he is from another country to boot. love at first sight and despite our language difficulties we connected on a spiritual, emotional, physical and psychic level. never experienced this type of relationship before. but he confuses the heck out of me.
i could tell from his nervousness and sweaty hands that he was really into me but then he’d ignore my phone calls for several weeks only to call me out of the blue and ask why i didn’t call more? the last time there was two months in between our inneraction (because he stopped returning my calls, i refused to keep trying) but curiosity got the best of me and i called. he got in touch a week later and came over. greeted me with the most passionate kiss ever and asked again why i didn’t call more and that he was “waiting” for me. it’s like he doesn’t even realize he is the one being distant or perhaps he’s good at lying. so, it’s now been a month since we last saw one another and i left a message several weeks ago telling him i missed him and would like to spend more time together. of course, no response and i’m ready to walk away. is this typical pisces behavior? have read pisces are indecisive and live in their own world. how do i know to stick it out and fight the good fight or stop fooling myself? help! i’m hopelessly in love with this strange creature….
Stop fooling yourself. It sounds like this Pisces man wants you to be in the driver’s seat, yet he won’t even get in the car with you. You leave frequent messages, and he complains you don’t call more … plus he rarely responds. I don’t care how much you love him … he’s not living up to his part of the deal. However much his feelings for you are reciprocated, his near-total passivity — for which Pisces gets a bad rap — is a deal-breaker.
You have Venus in Taurus in your Seventh House. Stability and a feeling of being valued are necessary for you to have a satisfying relationship — neither of which this Pisces man is offering. You also have transiting Uranus — planet of awakening and sudden change — transiting your natal Jupiter in Pisces. This planet may signify your Pisces man, as Jupiter represents people from foreign lands, and it is in his sign. This transit — which ends February of next year — indicates a lack of any stability with regards to him. He may come in and out of your life with no predictable frequency. Do you want that?
You currently have the opportunity (Jupiter) to build a dream (Pisces) home or home life (Fourth House), which can help provide you a sense of security (Jupiter rules your Second House). I’d suggest you put your energies into bringing the best of Pisces into your life … not the worst.
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Sandy,
Based on your statements, it sounds like he likes you.
You should consider asking him out, even though you crabs hate to make the first move.
Either ask him out to a nice dinner, or deal with his playful games.
Either way, you have to make the decision!
Now get to it, and keep us posted!!!!
To All Cancer Ladies….I know your pain, frustration, I know the “let Down” feeling….I’m 38 and every, I mean EVERY guy no matter his sign has hurt me one way or another. Word of advice, Pisces guys, Aquarian guys and Libra guys are the hardest to understand… I have met a few Cancer guys that would be very good to a Cancer woman, not a Libra like me, but with a Cancer guy, Capricorn guy or Scorpio guy, a Cancer woman is treated pretty decent
Find one of those…. As for Libra Ladies, were cursed LOL 
Good luck Cancer women, and remember Libra women are just as @##$%$$ in the love department as you, only you’ve got hope 
Mr. Fish, Thanks. Hows your love life?
LibraLady, Thanks for your input. Very sweet of you. You’ll meet your guy. Try a Gemini or Aqaurius they will adore you.
Ok seriously…
Sounds like this guy could like you, or maybe he is just playing games. Both are possible. Either way, forget it… its not worth your time and obvious stress. If he likes you he should ask you out, and be a man. If he is just play9ing games and isnt gonna ask you out – give him the cold shoulder or just straight up tell him that he is making you uncomfortable. I like to test the waters for a while with some convo, flirting, and reading vibes or body language before asking a girl out – just to have some idea of weather she will say yes and actually likes me. But if he hasnt made any moves as of yet then saounds like a game and you don’t have time for that… do you? You sound like an intelligent and amazing woman and unfortunately this guy doesnt have the guts to ask you out, or is a game player… you need to find a great guy who is sensitive, romantic, and caring – but knows how to step up to the plate when its time to be a man.
I agree with PiscesGuyVancouver
He does need to step up to the plate Sandy. I think a lot of guys don’t. I’ve never really met too many guys who put much effort into a relationship anymore, there are a few that really shine but most don’t. I think its the technology. Women’s worse competion now is the computer or video game 
Really, it does look like that, while we wait for the guy to call he’s off killing some space robot from the planet Xenox 13……
Hi Sandy, Aquarius guys are very hard to understand
I don’t know too many Gemini guys that arn’t alrerady married. My Aqua BF right now said the sweetest things, but now hes disapeared on me, he gave me a great excuse, it made sense but its now been a week since I’ve heard from him the last time….I was seeing a Pisces guy before I met him. The Pisces guy was so dreamy, he also said the sweetest things but disapeared too….They ALL disapear LOL
Its weird.
Piscesguyvancover, He did ask for my home number so i gave him mine and my friends. He didn’t ask for hers but i wasn’t sure how it meant it. He called asked if he had a chance with me.? i stated i was attracted to him but i don’t date married men. He is seperated as he told all coworkers. then he asked questions blah blah blah . then called 2nd time but brought up a girl a work he stated he dated a few times and now are friends. i feel he was dating her and may not be over her so i just listened. Then he called 3rd time said something about taking it slow which believe me i’m probably the slowest person when it comes to relationships anyway he mention about being friends. that hit me like a ton of bricks. even thou i knew i didn’t really want a relationship with him at this time since he’s married. but i wonder when he stated do i have a chance with you was that just saying he wants a one night stand. just curious how pisces men would interpret this. i am not seeing him and no longer work with him but like i said just curious on how pisces man perspective.
libralady , thanks again for you’re input. Your aquarius is probably off on some new adventure. i used to date one he was a blast but he was 12 yrs older and he was ready to settle down after only knowing him 3 months he was discussing having children . i was 22 too immature to settle down and certainly wasn’t about to get married. He hinted a lot about marriage. It was weird i am the female cancerian and he a male aquarius usually it’s the other way around. He was fun very detached which i liked at first sinced i can be emotional. We were friends and lovers but the inbetween was missing. You however are supposed to be soulmates. Hang in there if he is a mature aquarius.
Thanks Sandy
He’s 43, I’m 38, hes American & I’m Canadian, he lives in WA, Im in BC and he wants to move here soon so we can get married, thats what he said…its just so weird that whenever things get delayed or he runs into problems instead of telling me right away, he goes silent for weeks, then I find out its nothing I wouldnt have understood, its insulting that he keeps all his problems secret, after he told me that were soul mates….I hope I can explain it to him oneday 
He also discussed children thoug he already has 2 and I have 1, they really come on strong at first. I wish I didnt love him, but I cant shake him from my heart. BTW they are usually married to a Cancer first then look for a Libra to torture next 
Its what both our signs have in common, Aqua footporints on our backs LOL
The Pisces men I’ve met wern’t passive. THey were elusive…..LOL
I’ve met a few fishy guys, very friendly but always assume I’m not interested, Libras get a bad rap for being flirty 
Pisces guys are very good freinds. I think that a woman in love with one could just talk to him, they are great to talk with…..They listen too, a rare quality in most guys 
I think the guy that yu think passive is just a bit shy
Its hard to catch a fish, even harder to keep one
BIT OF TRIVIA Casino Royale daniel craig as bond is a pisces and eva green vesper lynd is a cancerian.
Hey Donna,
Thanks for sharing with us!
Are you a crab woman seeking a fish man?
hi sandy..m a cancer girl and currently dating a pisces guy…he is an amazing kisser and lover..v r deeply in love wit each other..piscean guys are the most confused souls ul ever come across..they want you to chase them..they will also seem to be desperate initially..just go with the flow..if he chases you, show positive sign..win him by ur sense of humour..he is doing all this so that he can get your attention..wat they like about cancer girl is her mystery…he is doing all this so that you can initiate..just be your self…he will fall for you..
mr. fish YES.
Pisces men usually go all GAGA and drool at the mouth for us Scorpio women. They are putty in our hands.
Mr. Fish it seems like you are doing much better regarding getting over your cancerian ex girlfriend.
I find that for me when I meet a Cancer girl that there is attraction and sparks with, the feelings and attraction are insane… almost obsessive and overwhelming for me… Like Im madly insanely in love and must have her… but as times goes on, I find she is not at all what I thought she would be or the relationship is not how I imagined at all… Almost like a big dissapointment and I almost prefer if the initial mystery and exciting beginning phase never ended… It never got beyond the first phase with all the Cancers in my life so I never knew but now its about 9 months in with my current one and this is how I feel… I also feel she is totally out of tune with my emotions, thoughts etc while I can read her like a book…. I also find she is very self centered and these are a huge turn off for me. I find my eyes wandering and my passion waning… It could just be our particular dynamic and perhaps a different Cancer would be totally different….. I also feel she is overly independent and doesn’t really “need” me at all…. I know this sounds rediculous but just thought I would share that with you all
mrfish vancouver, Maybe you had your rose colored glasses on. I’ts better to tell her now and be upfront so you don’t string her along and hurt her. Be a man and tell her ADIOS. Also it could be you only think you really know her. Cancerians hold back and can hide a lot. It takes a long time to really know a cancerian women.
PiscesGuyVancouver, What were you dissapointed with? Maybe you put her on a pedestal that she cannot live up to. Because you perceived her to be someone she is not. Maybe you really don’t know her as you think you do. She may be independent but I’m sure she still needs you. Be honest with her and catherine stated above don’t fool around first just let her know it’s not working out first than date others. And don’t just swim away on her. She deserves honesty.
Good morning, Lisa.
Yes, I have learned a lot lately about myself and other people.
Having recently discovered the 3 phases (Decans) of each sun sign, I am of the opinion that my Scorpio-Crab (July 4 Crab = Decan 2 Crab) was a totally inappropriate choice for me.
Currently, I am speaking with a Pisces-Crab (July 16 Crab = Decan 3 Crab), and she is so much more fun to talk with. She also likes games and the other silly things that I like, so it’s really easy on my mind.
Since I am a Scorpio-Fish (March 14), I prefer that I not get romantically involved with another Scorpio-Crab ever again. It was just too emotionally distressing, and the Aries-Jerk father and related religious arguments were probably the most overwhelming problem.
Crab women are not off my list entirely, but it is the Scorpio-Crab that I have less confidence with these days.
Mr.Fish, How does one find out which decan they are. I was born 07/20/58 and i know my moon sign is virgo and i have venus in Gemini. But not a clue as to my decan 1, 2, or 3rd? and what sign? Can you help? Thanks. and by the way what is your moon in and your venus? If you don’t mind me asking.
What in the world is a decan? Never heard of it… I was told by an astrologer once that my rising sign is Cancer and I forget now but I had a strong influence of Scorpio… Then someone else said my rising sign was Scorpio… I am not sure now but it’s all fascinating…
lisa and PiscesGuyVancouver,
Mr. Fish is talking about the subdivisions under each sun sign. For instance for lisa, she would be under the Cancer-Pisces decan because it’s based on the she is born. Depending on what sun sign you have, it will based on other water signs.
If you want to find out more of your rising sign and such, you can enter your place and time of birth on astro.com
This site explains a little bit on the decans. http://www.astralaspects.biz/ishop/730/shopscr681.html
THANKS JANE YOU’RE SWEET
lisa,
no problem. hope it helps you some.
PiscesGuyVancouver
Hello fellow Vancouverite. enjoying the lovely rain too?
Hey… yeah I know hey… its raining lately. I will take the rain over the snow though. That mess we had last year sucked big time. I drive a front wheel drive civic and live on the top of a mountain so yeah… me and snow are not cool LOL
I hate snow, brrrrrr…..grew up in Alberta, know exactly what you mean LOL
Rain is a lot better
Mr Fish, I just know you found a new gal. You have been awfully quite lately. DO TELL
Lisaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa,
As a matter of fact, I am talking to a really nice Crab.
The only problem is that she lives all the way out in California, which is somewhere around 3000 miles away.
What about you? What are you up to?
Do pisces men prefer brunettes or blondes?
Hi LibraLadysays
Ive seen Pisces men stare at women with all hair colours. Im a brunette and I notice that red heads seem to get a lot of stares from men of all signs…. I think its just being the one in the room that is different, I try to stand near a lot of blondes when I go a place, dare to be different? LOL
Men are never worried about their hair colour though, isnt that strange? yet they talk about us like “hey, did you see that red head” or “check out the blonde” ect… Guys are funny creatures
Black hair, fair skin, blue eyes… thats my favorite but I love any girl who is attractive, cute, and unique in her features…. its all an individual thing
Pisces van couver, thats interesting since i have blue eyes pale skin and just dyed my hair soft black. Tomarrow have an apt. to get the black out. too dark for me. but i love brunette hair. Blonde is too common. I actually love jennifer anistons hair and giselle buchen. I normally have a dark ash blond color . But i love darker hair. I now look like jennifer connelly too pale for me
That’s seems like a fairly Eurocentric question.
Well LibraLady… I’m sure you look great nomatter what your hair color. Jennifer Connoly is unbelievable though ;p