I also have Pluto square my Moon and Venus, so I have a lot of issues.

For me, the control issue has been a major thing, along with the lack of trust (and I suppose they’re probably related). The interesting thing to me has been that, as far as healing these issues is concerned, it’s been recognizing my real lack of control that has freed me. Giving up the idea that I can control everything has made life simpler and happier. And I’m more trusting, too, because I’ve learned that I can survive being hurt.

Now, if I could just address my Mars/Jupiter/Uranus T-square issues, I’d be set.

I do know that the only friend I have that truly understands and can relate to my fear of emotional hurt and betrayal also has this same aspect. Hers is Aries sun square Libra pluto. Then again, her fears could be coming from moon conjunct mars/saturn or venus square mars.

Jeffrey, have you seen some charts that just seem to be “blessed” in a way? I know that no chart is better than another, but my cousin’s chart seems to be charmed (just like her life), with all of these trines and sextiles and one opposition. She’s really a delightful person to be around, too. She’s the epitome of that saying “to know her is to love her.” Opportunities just seem to come knocking on her door. Could that be chart-related?

I have noticed that people who are often described as “angels” have an unusual amount of “good” (easy) aspects in their charts. For example, consider Aaliyah’s natal chart. She’s the r&b singer that died in a plane crash in 2001 at the age of 22. No one ever had anything bad to say about her (before or after death). I had the pleasure of meeting her before she passed and she had this very special aura around her. You could tell she was different. Extremely nice and genuine. Out of curiosity, I checked out her chart and sure enough…what immediately stands out about it are all of the trines and sextiles, especially between her asc./sun/moon (by aspect and sign) – Taurus rising, Cappy sun, Virgo moon.

Is there something to this theory I’m developing or is it just a coincidence?

Don’t worry, I’ll remind ya if you forget.

My desire to control is something I work on daily. Learning to let go has been tough. Once my kids were born I realized I was controlling and rushed to figure out how in the world I can stop that. Its not easy, even 15 years later.
I dont know what the rest of the stuff means at the moment in my chart. But my controlling nature is the one I need to work on the most at the moment.

Pluto in 7th
I dig deep, like deep friendships/feelings,and seem to almost “cause” them in others too.
but–also have been, and felt betrayed , and had strange sexual situations as almost a constant.(this is just a slight comment–as you know, Pluto runs deep.Things used to blow-up periodically.
I was and am,at times either an acid trip, or a cathartic to some folks. :-p

My Saturn is conjunct my Sun,and Netune and opposes my Moon–I’m insecure, and when I was young it was a real serious matter, too.
I have Uranus square my Sun, Saturn, and Neptune.
Uranus is in my 6th HS, but conjnct my Descendant
(Enough said, for now.;-)}
I have Neptune conjunct my Sun,(which obviously opposes my moon, too.)
The Neptune conjunct Sun is mostly a good thing, –now.
Past–I used to be much into fantasy, and magic, and did not always know the difference between them and reality–and even when I actually did, I wasn’t appealing to more down to earth folks.
I drank way too much, and used romantic relationships and sex as a drug.

Think that’s enough for now.

And I, too, would be interested in any healing insights you might have to offer, Jeffrey.

Consider that a nudge.