OK so Last Saturday I went out to a gay club with my friend. At the end of the night this guy walks by and looks at me and walks by. so i say to him …hey u just gonna walk by and not say anything lol. he stopped and we talked and flirted a little and he have me his number. He said text me later. SO i text him saturday nite when i got home just a few text here and there. So on MOnday i text him and we are talking a little and then i ask to talk to him on the phone. I ask hey do you wanna hang out tomorrow he says sure…so i offer a coffee shop in the gay part of LA.

Anyway we both get there about the same time….he actually paid for my hot chocolate which i thought was nice! and we sat down and talked.

Honestly most of the time it was pretty chill we were just talking getting to know one another…we were flirty with the eyes…but at times the conversation kinda got stale like we didn’t have much to talk about. I had asked him a few questions and he kinda anwsered them. But he says he’s really focused on his work right now and that he only has time for important people in his life. (i dunno if that means if we were to date i could be one or that he’s just not looking to date) so me being a libra also i didn’t want to stur up and controversy and flat out ask him.

so about hour and half passed by and he says well it’s time for me to go….ugh..i felt like i shoudl have said it before cuz now i felt so dumpped. Cuz the whole time he never made any real complement on me or wasn’t forward.

so we walk out to our cars parked next to each other and that awkawrd moment happens when ur about to say goodbye and ur thinking should i kiss or not…but he seemed so stanoffish i figured he didn’t want one. when i went to hug him he has that look in his eye like “r u gonna kiss me” but instead it was a quick movement and i kissed him on the check…i then hugged him and picked him up and he put his leggs around my waist it actually felt good….it was the best part of the night lol…then i put him down…i tried to see when he’d be next available to hang out and he didn’t really say …he kinda was like i’ll leave it in the air etc……

so yea i am confused …i mean he give me hints with the flirting with the eyes and wanted that physical contact at the end…but otherwise he seemed disinterested…

U would think as me being a libra would know what is going on in a libras mind but it’s quiet the opposite.

Over the summer I met an Aqua man (I’m an Aqua girl) and was soooo totally into him…. Well, after a few frustrating and non commital convos back and forth (he loves the sex – I want more) I gave up on him and did the typical Aqua “fade”.

I still think it was a good decision. I miss his friendship.

Sometimes being an Aqua isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

LOL

Anyway – after that – I decided I was DONE. Done with dating for awhile, done with men, done with air signs in particular. Too flaky. I would know.

And…. Then I met HIM.

Yep. My Libra.

And, he charmed my socks off. Literally, the cad.

We have been going out for a little over a month and seeing each other rather regularly throughout the week and he tells me he “has feelings for me”.

Darnit. I can’t believe I’m falling for another air sign. Interestingly enough, part of our draw towards each other is almost a “Spock mind meld” intuitive connection.

How did this happen again? And, when will I ever learn?

LOL

We met at work and have been friends for almost two years and from the start he was sweet and flirty. He’d come over, we’d watch a movie and cuddle but I wasn’t really into him like that. All his friends thought we should go out but come to find out he’s got a Gemini girlfriend he’s been seeing for nearly 4 years. The only time he ever mentioned her after I confronted him about it was to say negative things about her, I never heard him say anything nice. At the time I was involved with a woman so I thought that he saw that as a free card to be flirty without consequences.

We didn’t see eachother for nearly a year. Then recently he’s come back into my life of his own volition (still involved with his Gemini but I am no longer involved with anyone). He’s turned up the heat and I have done my share of flirting in return. He’s grown up alot and I’m attracted to that. Nights of watching TV would end with us cuddled in the blankets on his couch. He drunkenly admits that he used to have the biggest crush on me. All of this his girlfriend would probably not like and I assume she doesn’t know about, although she does know who I am. He’s blown off plans with me to be with her, which he readily admitted on being whipped and guilted into.

Last weekend things went a step further and there was some making out on my couch after drinks and cuddling. He did start to take it farther but I told him he shouldn’t do something he would regret the next day. I wasn’t rejecting him, but while I was the one who had kissed him, I didn’t really want to take advantage (i’m kicking myself for this now). His response was that I shouldn’t let him do this, that he didn’t want to hurt her (said Gemini). He left with a hug but no kiss goodbye.

Now he’s asked that we act like nothing ever happened because although he liked it, it was wrong (he’s apologized for ‘putting me in that situation’). While I don’t condone cheating on your s.o., if he’s not in love with her then I don’t see the harm? I don’t want to marry him, but I’d like some fun and I do really enjoy his company (and his flattery, I’ll be honest). I’m not sure if I’m comfortable with the idea of him breaking up with her for me. He’s invited me to a party this weekend and we’ve spoken nearly every day since everything happened so I don’t feel like he’s shutting me off.

Perhaps I’m babbling. Opinions?

I sort of had to force him into a conversation, while i asked him how he was doing he stared at me with his cigarette in his mouth, eventhough he hadnt lightened it yet, for about 20 sec.
so after a while he was involving other people into our conversation so i decided i wanted to leave, and then he walked along, mentioned me and my friends had a nice tie (we were wearing green ties for a special occasion) but that the tie had to be tied up better (haha i don’t know how to say that actually, but i guess you know what i mean, i had to re-do it)
so he did it for me.
as if he suddenly feld the urge to do something nice for me.

Then later on that week i called him, because i had been feeling terrible that week and he said i could call. at that moment i felt already much better, but i decided to call.
as i thought, if he doesnt pick up or doesnt call back, its tough but also very obvious.
but he called me back. i didn’t know really what to say, but just said i wanted to know how he was and catch up.

after that i havent talked to him at all, didn’t really had the chance.

But uhm, i actually thought, once libras make up their mind, they stick with it? because they weighted every aspect so sort of know it was the best decision.
he also has mercury in libra.

What is your mercury in, Libra_Lady?

but short after i wrote the post,

he decided it was best we didnt date anymore, because he said we shouldn’t get attached.
he told me he didnt had much empathy and that he always disappointed people.
he told me he let down his family and he cheated on his ex.
completely the opposite of how he appeared to me.
he explained his outer-social self but that in reality he was a not that kind of nice person, because he cheated on his ex and… he is scared of commitment, because he want to feel some sort of freedom

well i think he is partly right,
i cant say im “disappointed” in him, that word is way to heavy to use (even though he used it so many times himself)

i understand what he said.
his father died when he was nine and also a friend of his died.
he already told me about his father, not about the friend, but he said that he made the conclusion out of that that you better don’t get attached to people because they can disappear.

what happens if a libra man takes a decision?
is it a final decision?

I also met a libra guy recently.

I’ll just tell the story and i hope you can give me some advise/ thoughts on this.
(I just finished and it is maybe quite a lot but then you know what’s happening.
I hope you can share your thoughts to give me a better understanding.)

Its going quite ok, especially in the first weeks.
i wasn’t really sure about it yet, so i let him do the work. which worked out well.
First we talked a lot, then we kissed, he first stayed one night at my place then i stayed at his place (nothing happened)
He then asked me out for dinner, because we know each other from a student club/union so when we see each other there there are always a lot of people around and we already told each other, we don’t like gossip.

We went out for dinner (on a saturday), he was a bit tired but it was great.
He also told me a few days later when we met at the student club he really enjoyed our date, and that he wanted to mention it, because he knew he was tired.
Even though there was the possibility of people walking by he kissed me a few times (i was going home).

Within a week i would let him know when i was around, but when i did he told me he already had an appointment with friends and asked if i wanted to meet up the next day (friday).
So we made dinner together drank some wine, watched some pictures of a trip i was recently on. We went to his place and we had sex. i think we were both a little nervous because we actually don’t know eachother that well.
He also has been from the start very cuddling (or is this “just normal” to libra guys?
So the next morning we had breakfast and i went home. i decided i wanted to visit my mother so i packed my stuff and on my way to the station i called him and asked him if he was still at home.
I asked him to open the door and said goodbye to him again.
(was this “stupid” to do? Is this too clingy?

Now after these two dates I met him yesterday again (at the student thing) and we didn’t really talked..
Which was a little to be expected because we also have our own friends there.
But i walked over to talk to him and not the other way around, also talked to his friends, which i also know..

The thing which makes me insecure is that i texted him i got a little muscle ache in my legs, (because of the sex) because he asked me that night if i had muscle ache but then didn’t.
But he never replied..
this was before i met him again and now i don’t know what i should do.
Today i text him and i asked if he would be around tomorrow at the student club (the sort of mixed fraternity and sorority with a student club idea) He replied he would, but then i text him again that that would be nice even though i have to bar tend and how his assessment for his study was going, but then he didn’t reply.)

Being a gemini im quite impatient.. on the one hand i didn’t want to rush into this, but usually when i say that i already start to like a guy, but just won’t admit it.
Then my mars and mercury are in cancer so then when i start to realize i really like him my feelings come in the way and i can’t think clear anymore. Sort of annoys me because i can’t reason and i feel lost.
(conflict with my gemini sun and moon and virgo rising).

Story short: i think he likes me because he asked me out twice and doesn’t make a secret out of us two having dates.
To me that means something, but i don’t know if it does to him.

We’re both 24, and he has his mars and venus in virgo

What do you guys think?

(ps i also already read all the previous posts).