How do you make a Libra man invite you for a second date?
May 24, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
You’re nearing the end of your first date, and nothing horrible has happened. In fact, the evening has progressed smoothly. Your Libra date has been charming, polite, great at conversation. Hell, he’s even added romantic gestures that are “just right” at this stage of the game.
Yes, you want more. No, not tonight … you don’t want to send that kind of message too soon. But you see that this could go somewhere. However, he’s a Libra — how do you know all these flourishes are authentic? Maybe he’s like this with all the girls.
Dinner’s over, he drops you off at your place, tells you he had a wonderful evening — “Me, too, ” you add — and gives you a light peck on the cheek. What? Is that all? Isn’t he going to say, “Are you free on Wednesday?” No, instead he says, “I’ll give you a call.”
You wonder what that means. Is that the kiss-off of death, or his true intention? You reply, “Sounds great,” and unlock your front door. He returns to his car. After you get inside, you collapse a little inside, for after so many awful first dates, this guy’s actually someone you’d like to see again. But no follow-up is planned, and you’re left hanging. You don’t even know if he’s interested. Do you wait for him to call? You’re not up for asking him out, maybe because you’re so frightened he would say no.
Fortunately, you’ve got this limitless tool called Sun sign astrology. Armed with the knowledge that Libra is a romantic at heart and wants to be in a relationship, that he craves balance and fairness in all things, which snappy line would you email him in less than a week’s time, if he hasn’t followed up?
Respond below.
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I’ve been in two long-term relationships with Libras.
I say–why wait around? Call the guy yourself two days later and ask him out, SOCIALLY and casually. Say, “Josh and Mary and (insert four other friends here) are all going to a party Saturday–come with us?” Libra will ease into asking you out again without having had to DECIDE about it, but instead of thinking you’re too easy, he’ll think you’re wonderful and easygoing…even the reclusive ones love a group of friends.
Send him a “photo-shopped” picture of you two together in a fun setting with a caption that reads:
“The perfect couple on their 2nd date.”
Why this works?
1. It’s a direct (something they have a hard time doing), yet sweet approach.
2. Answers the “Do we make a good-looking couple?” question that was on repeat in his head all during the first date.
3. Libra’s magic words are “perfect”, “couple”, and “date.” They can’t resist this combo!
4. Lets him know that you admire him/his looks (same difference to a Libra). The only sign that eats up flattery more than Libra is Leo. If your Libra has any personal planets in Leo, you just guaranteed yourself a 2nd date.
And most importantly,
5. This gives him a nice story to tell at your anniversary party in 50 years.
Good suggestions so far. Thanks to the wisdom of my readers, I don’t have to have all the answers!
I had a date last night with a very handsome Libra guy, and when I got back home I remembered this post, reread it and… yep, it was just as described in here, and I’m even more confused.
I’ve dated the same guy 5 years ago… and that was more of a ‘over-the-phone’ dating. He would call me 3 times a day, and we would talk for ages, but we managed to see each other only two times in 3 months. Then I politely gave him few days to decide if he wants to be with me or not. He then decided not to. Year later, again over the phone, he told me that he was actually in love with me back then but that his life affairs weren’t sorted good enough for him to have a relationship over everything else that was going on.
This time I called him, suggested that we could see each other, we did and… there I am right at the beginning having no idea if he’s indecisive and with lack of initiative, or I’m just not his type.
It really is hard to figure a Libra out sometimes, because you don’t know if they are:
1. just being polite (translation: can’t directly say they’re not interested because they fear your overreaction)
2. indulging their flirtatious side (they are incurable flirts that like the flattery of people liking them)
3. really interested (and just being indecisive)
Maybe my experience with a Libra will provide you some more insight…
I met a Libra guy when I wrecked my car and it was towed into a nearby auto repair shop. He owned the place, so I had to deal with him A LOT. Although my car needed extensive work done on it, it took them FOUR MONTHS to finish. Throughout the 4 months, they would keep giving me dates for when my car would be finished, but every time I came in, my car wasn’t done, yet. Every time, Mr. Libra would strike up conversation with me but I didn’t think anything of it.
During month 4, he asked me out and I told him I’d think about it after my car was finished because I don’t mix business with pleasure. Don’t you know that after 4 months, my car was FIXED a week after I made that statement.
We dated for 5 months and it took him 4 months to tell me that he purposely took a long time fixing my car because he wanted to ask me out and didn’t know how (I should’ve suspected this, but I was young).
Was his behavior frustratingly indecisive, extremely shy, scarily manipulative, or romantic? You make the call. Ironically, his birthday was the same as my father’s, which scared the hell out of me…
Exclusion.blue, in your case, I think this guy isn’t so sure of his feelings for you. If he was very interested, he would try harder to spend time with you in person. He probably enjoys your conversations, but isn’t so sure that you’re his “dream girl.”
BlahBlah, great story, I’ll avoid Libras in future
What bugs me the most is that I can’t see through, hell I can’t see anything, which I usually do.
One other thing, I can bet big money on not being his type – I drink beer faster and I’m always in outfit that screams ‘if needed, I can run fast and jump over things’…
LOL @ exclusion.blue
You sound like fun! Maybe the Libra simply finds you entertaining…You might be the dream girl for an(stereotypical) Aries or Sag.
I’m a libra woman and I think he might be playing it cool…Libra’s second biggest fear to loneliness is rejection. He will call you…if you don’t hear from him in one week, text him to do something FUN. if he declines, it’s over. if he complies, you’re in!! make this date a SUPER fun time and look SEXY!!!
Good ideas. Esp. the fun date litmus test. Ex.blue likes to wear “in case of emergency” outfits, though, which I’m taking to mean something similar to jeans/track suits or sneakers/flats. That’s sexy to some, but to a Libra???
I am a Libra woman and married to a Libra man! It has been hot and steamy for almost 8 and half years. I do have to say that at times he has a hard time saying what he wants(I do the same thing). It’s not that they completely forget about what they want it is that they are thinkers! It has to balance out perfectly before they can decide on what they want. Trust me it took my spouse 4 years of college with 1 major(Philosophy) and 2 minors to finally decided that he wanted to go to Law school. They can be hard to understand unless you just remember that they hear you talking, they may want a relationship they just have to make sure it balances out right first. Sometimes, they can figure out if it balances out and so you need to help them by being a litte up front with them. To understand this you should see us trying to figure out what we want for dinner(sometimes it will take us 4 hours to figure it out.) Oh, picking what place to eat at, or what movie we want to see, and even what to do for a date night. It is interesting, but fun, loving, funny, enjoyable, social, intellectual, and very, very hot and steamy! Libra men do like to please!
Very interesting reading
I am a Scorpio with Libra as my rising sign. I have been contacted by a very very sweet and patient guy on Facebook, we met and had a very good time drinking coffee and snowballfighting. We ended the date with a few light kisses – nothing heavy! He has been very very good at calling me, texting me and emailing me sweet things. He very quickly asked when we could see each other again and we agreed to meet again yesterday. This time at my house, drinking tea and watching comedies. Between the two dates contact was more quiet than usual. I thought it a bit strange but decided it was not important.
Our date last night turned into today and he left late afternoon, with kisses and a “I will text you when I am home”. And he did!
We didn’t do anything but kiss – neither of us believe in quick sex. This time he hasn’t mentioned meeting again, but has told me he is going to some carshow near me next weekend with his brother and sister-in-law. Could this be some kind of read-between-the-lines-hint that he would like an invitation from me?
A lot of background from a very confused – but happy – girl (age 32).
I don’t know his chart apart from birthday and place – I don’t have the birthtime. But maybe it is possible to say a bit about a scorpio with Libra as a rising sign dating a Libra man?
@Gabia, it can’t hurt to say you’d love to join them. No need to let him do all the initiating.
I’m a Libra male that dates women (and men, though the women I date don’t always know that) that are strong and confident. If I had to give anyone advice about trying to date a Libra it be this: Do not offer the Libra room to be decisive. It will not work.
The first comment on this thread is exactly right. Just casually call up the Libra person and ask them to join you on something you were already going to do. Please, do not call up the Libra and ask if they’d like to do “something” … and certainly do not ask the Libra what they might like that “something” to be. Yikes. Nothing makes me freeze up faster!
And no flashy sexual advances, keep it classy.
get real already….. if you like the person tell them flat out and leave the ball in their court, if they call or come by again then thats your answer. But don’t assume what another is thinking, thats absurd.
Say exactly whats on your mind, be bold and put it out there.
No LIBRA likes some passive, unsure, insecure, holding back their true feelings because they dont know what the other person wants, kind of girl.
The bolder the better. You attract what you exude! Your wasting your precious youth by not saying what you really want him to do or say for fear of how you’ll look. If you lust that man tell him, or go buy a vibrator.
I’ve just recently done the deed with a Libra man. We’ve known each other for more than 10 years, have worked and been friends. When we recently came into contact with each other, he was all over me and I finally succumbed. I never thought of him in that way (I even told him so, I put him on a pedestal I admire him so much, professional and friendly based only). He said I shouldn’t put him on a pedestal, he wants to be down and dirty. And now suddenly it is most bizarre that we’ve had sex with each other after knowing each other for so long. I never felt those signals from him before, but as I said, we hadn’t seen each other for a few years and then all of a sudden he is all over me. I resisted at first but then thought what the heck. I honestly don’t see him as a potential life partner and am wondering if I should just ”use him”. He did make a mention of us being ”friends with benefits” and I’m think why not? I’m quite focused on my career, travel and life experiences which are very important to me. I’m Pisces. Any thoughts or comments?
Little Minx….I too am a Pisces and i have been in your same situation with a Libra Man. I worked with him when I met him and we had a very good time together, i just thought it was all a game to him and hey i was having fun too. Knowing what I know now I, wish I would have choose him over the non committing Aquarius that i have a deep love for but see no future with after 3 long years. Did I mention that the two guys just happened best friends….you see very complicated…lol Pisces always tend to pick the wrong guy…thank goodness we also admit when we are wrong and learn from our mistakes. Well I had not seen him in a year and I saw him again just the other day and to make a long complicated story short…He was what I was always looking for and apparently he wasnt just playing a game with me…but he knew I was in love with the other guy….can you say DRAMA…lol As you know we can be very romatic creatures, Libra compliments that…very very well…I always find myself feeling happy and good about myself when Im around him. The millions of compliments he pays me doesnt hurt either… And the sex…absolutly amazing!!!! So if you want a long distance non commitied relationship…you should look for an aquarius.
Hi, I’m a Gemini woman totally smitten by a Libra guy. we are both separated and in our 40’s. we met via a dating site..He contacted me.. a month ago. He was really keen, Sexy, romantic,attentive. made my pulse race! We had a very exciting time. last date he spent the night, reluctantly left with a hug and a passionate kiss. later that evening.. Last week. he called to say he wasn’t ready for relationship after his break up of 12 months and felt confused. asked me to give him time. Is this a none confrontational brush off do you think? He had been deliberating this and we had discussed it. But I thought he was ok. Compltely stunned by call. Any ideas????
Hi Ice Queen and Little Minx: I, too, am a Pisces. Pisces ladies ROCK! I have been involved with my Libra man off and on for wayy too long. He’s an absolutely wonderful guy but his indecisiveness drives me nuts! I suppose it drives me nuts becasue I can be a bit indecisive at times. Little Minx be very careful about being “friends with benefits.” My relationship started out that way and I ended up falling in love with this man. Before you know it you’ll be head over heels. These guys have lethal doses of charm and charisma and most of them are quite handsome and they know it and relish in the fact that others know it. They totally eat up flattery. Pisces and Libra have some ways alike, but I think differnt approaches. If you are passive towards him, don’t be, he needs that direction. I am just coming to this conclusion after many years. They respond much better to direction. And it makes it easier for you. They are keen to communication, which I think can be hard for some Pisces, but they dont provide as much emotional depth as Pisces. Look pretty, be well dressed and feed his ego (most all men anyway), they love that. The sex….. all i can say is bone-chicka-wow-wow! Good luck to both of you ladies..
Hi Ice Queen and Miss Cafe Au Lait
THanks for your comments, most useful. Ice Queen you’re so right about Aquarius – very non-commital!!!
ERR……MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE MENTIONED HE HAS A LIVE-IN GIRLFRIEND!
ARGH! I know, I know. Before I sucummbed, a friend of mine said that the universe is testing you to see if you do the same thing with someone who is taken as you would do before.
I know it was (is?) a horrible thing to do considering he has a girlfriend. And in no way is there ever a way to justify it. But why did he want sex with me? I mean when he made his pass, I was LOOKING AWFUL and just getting over a cold. He said when he saw me the other week for the first time in a long, long time, he thought I turned out well sexy…I didn’t have a cold that day and was just wearing jeans and red t-shirt, ponytail and VERY LITTLE make-up, but maybe it was my enthusiams to see him? Like I said before, I always admired him professionally and friendly based.
I haven’t seen him or spoken with him for weeks. I think his version and my version of friends is quite different, but then again maybe it is best he doesn’t call or text me because then I’ll end up getting emotionally involved.
He seems to want his cake and eat it to??????!!!!!!!!
I have texted him compliments, etc, but he never texts back unless it is to do with getting together for sex! I think the writing is on the wall here – duh!!!
He never calls or texts to say hi. I know why, I guess I just choose to hide my head in the sand!
I know what the right thing to do is. That if he suggests another afternoon quickie, I need to say no.
I hope I can.
Previously, I seem to have fallen for a lot of Geminis for some reason, great repoitare (spelling?). My last serious relationship with a Scorpio (who I thought was supposedly my soul mate), turned out to be quite deceptive, non-truthful and an all round dirty guy (not in the good way!
Sorry for rambling on.
Us pisces girls either fall for saints or sinners, eh??!!!
I am an Aquarius female who is getting to know a Libra male. We have become fast friends and I have been getting some positive, but weak signs from him. He is fresh out of a three year relationship and I’m not trying to be his rebound girl. However, I’ve been told friends first is a good way to start moving toward a relationship with him – I just don’t want to end up in the Friend Zone forever. He is also dealing with other life issues right now, so I am keeping things light and steady at the moment. How do I approach this if I want something long-term with him?
Hi Confounded,
I sympathise, my situation is similar with a Libra guy. he was out of a 24 yr marriasge after 12 months and still unsure. He rang out of the blue after a few weeks of emails,we went out and he was fab.Really keen, saw him regularly for a few weeks then he rang with th bombshell that his ex wife had asked him to try again and he thought he should given their history. I was astounded and gutted. He still emails about twice a week but never mentions how things are going which I asked him to do. He still likes me alot and he is confused. I am completely head over heels.
I did the same as you and played it cool at first, knowing he was going through emotional stuff, I backed off to give him room to sort things out. Looking back now I think it was the wrongthing to do. I should have been more confident about his attraction to me and not left him to take the initiative. Had we established a closer bond he wouldn’t have considered going back i am sure. He doesn’t want to sever ties with me and is still a little flirty at times. I really don’t think his marriage will work a 2nd time around, but i’ve left him to deal with it.
P.S Confounded I am a Gemini.
iam a libra ended a relationship with a libra guy cos thought he was being apathetic towards the relationship and not caring. he use not to pick my calls but now that the relationship ended he calls me almost every day and when in need am his first point of call. i guess he is more comfortable with me as friend. the truth is i still love him and should have talked to him about what he feels for me but as a libra i always want stay away from situations that makes me uncomfortable. if he is to show any interest of a come back i don’t think i will refuse but i will do differently cos of what i know from the comments of other women who have dated libra guy. it is their nature, i believe we have love them the way they are.
Hi there.
I wonder if I could get some help – PLEASE????
I am an aquarius female and I’ve just met the most STUNNING Libra male. I am SOOO into him, we have only had “one date” per se and he has recently gone out of town for work, How do I know if he is interested or not? He doesnt reply speddily to my messages or go out of his way to contact me – is it because he is away working really hard or is it because he doesnt find an interest in me?
What are the signs that a Libra is NOT into you?
Hi Bionic_woman,
Given my experience and love for Libra guy, and of course comments posted here, I don’t think you canknowwhat’s going onwith them. They are by nature lazy in relationships. Your guy obviously has feelings for you or he would be relieved the the realtionship has ended and not contact you at all. But Libra men are everyone’s friend and it’s difficult not to end up as one. As hard as it can be to confront, I would just ask out right… Not promising you’ll get a straight answer however. Libra guys shrink from confrontation too. Good luck. They’re not easy to love. But sooo charming and atractive.
Bloody confused
I’m a Female Capricorn and I’m falling deep for a Libra man. I met him on a dating site We met for coffee and hit it off great So He tells me he is taking himself off the dating site to really focus on us So I’m thinking Great
He is into me and want to be dating exclusively Well That changed as he was taking care of his dying father He told me that He couldn’t give me the time he wanted and work on us as a couple to so I told him ok we will be friends and take it slow Well again he started up again with me but got more sexual and Man he was Great 
anyhow we have been seeing each other on and off for the last 2 months but last week his father passed away and So he has been distant which I totally understand but then yesterday calls me up to see me but I was at a friends house and told him Id met him but he said no its ok stay with your friends I see you tomorrow then this morning no call so I texted him to ask whats going on he said he was with family and we would meet later then I heard nothing from him after he said he would call me tonight for sure 
I take what people say to mean something Him not calling is wrong to me at least call or text to say things changed don’t just leave me hanging
So My question for you guys is What the Hell do I do ? How do I get him to at least mean what he says.
I know he likes me and cares about me But I don’t think I deserve to be made to feel last on his list.
thank you for your time
lyss the capricorn
You are making this way too complicated. If you want a Libra guy to ask you out again, let him think that you carry chocolate in your purse. I know this from experience. They always go for the girl with the candy
Bloody confused
You have to call him. He probably lost your number in his junky drawer, Libra guys are pack rats and lose anything thats IMPORTANT, if it isnt important, theyll never lose it, but if its that one thing he wanted to keep, he will lose it….OOOPS
Also, tell him that you wont call him again untill he calls you, this will drive him crazy
They get lazy unless you keep them on their tos, but you also have to keep yourself in his mind, or he’ll be lost in space, not thinking about other girls but simply stuff, or FOOD, really, I know a lot of Libra guys, FOOD comes first, then computers, then you, if your lucky…LOL
keep them on their toes, not tos….LOL
Hey everybody,
I also met a libra guy recently.
I’ll just tell the story and i hope you can give me some advise/ thoughts on this.
(I just finished and it is maybe quite a lot but then you know what’s happening.
I hope you can share your thoughts to give me a better understanding.)
Its going quite ok, especially in the first weeks.
i wasn’t really sure about it yet, so i let him do the work. which worked out well.
First we talked a lot, then we kissed, he first stayed one night at my place then i stayed at his place (nothing happened)
He then asked me out for dinner, because we know each other from a student club/union so when we see each other there there are always a lot of people around and we already told each other, we don’t like gossip.
We went out for dinner (on a saturday), he was a bit tired but it was great.
He also told me a few days later when we met at the student club he really enjoyed our date, and that he wanted to mention it, because he knew he was tired.
Even though there was the possibility of people walking by he kissed me a few times (i was going home).
Within a week i would let him know when i was around, but when i did he told me he already had an appointment with friends and asked if i wanted to meet up the next day (friday).
So we made dinner together drank some wine, watched some pictures of a trip i was recently on. We went to his place and we had sex. i think we were both a little nervous because we actually don’t know eachother that well.
He also has been from the start very cuddling (or is this “just normal” to libra guys?
So the next morning we had breakfast and i went home. i decided i wanted to visit my mother so i packed my stuff and on my way to the station i called him and asked him if he was still at home.
I asked him to open the door and said goodbye to him again.
(was this “stupid” to do? Is this too clingy?
Now after these two dates I met him yesterday again (at the student thing) and we didn’t really talked..
Which was a little to be expected because we also have our own friends there.
But i walked over to talk to him and not the other way around, also talked to his friends, which i also know..
The thing which makes me insecure is that i texted him i got a little muscle ache in my legs, (because of the sex) because he asked me that night if i had muscle ache but then didn’t.
But he never replied..
this was before i met him again and now i don’t know what i should do.
Today i text him and i asked if he would be around tomorrow at the student club (the sort of mixed fraternity and sorority with a student club idea) He replied he would, but then i text him again that that would be nice even though i have to bar tend and how his assessment for his study was going, but then he didn’t reply.)
Being a gemini im quite impatient.. on the one hand i didn’t want to rush into this, but usually when i say that i already start to like a guy, but just won’t admit it.
Then my mars and mercury are in cancer so then when i start to realize i really like him my feelings come in the way and i can’t think clear anymore. Sort of annoys me because i can’t reason and i feel lost.
(conflict with my gemini sun and moon and virgo rising).
Story short: i think he likes me because he asked me out twice and doesn’t make a secret out of us two having dates.
To me that means something, but i don’t know if it does to him.
We’re both 24, and he has his mars and venus in virgo
What do you guys think?
(ps i also already read all the previous posts).
I think he’s in “self” mode right now….Sounds a lot like my dates with my ex husband before we were married….they get “tired” a lot…LOL
I called him told him that I wasnt going to call again unless he called me, told him I was crazy about him but I hope he has a nice life….and then told him that he can call me when he wants to talk.” It actually worked….That set a fire in him LOL
He called about 4 times while I was suposedly “away” I didnt answer… thne the day I said I’d be home he showed up at my door with a box of chocolates and some were actually still in the box (he ate some but you have to overlook that sometimes) 
Of course, to get his attention once we were living together, I would dust the TV he was watching, while only wearing an apron….They need constant “reminders” LOL
I think that he’s still a boy, a lot of Libra guys don’t grow up untill they’re 30’s…
If you care about him and want him to show you a sign, good luck…there usuallly isnt any sign, they don’t know how. hmmm….I got mine this way
I didnt think he had any passion untill then, he actually showed up at my door with FLOWERS….. the first ones he gave me in 2 years.
Then I made him his fave meal, told him I was going away to visit some familly for the weekend and told him not to be a stranger
This cold man actually stole a pair of my underwear when we broke up…He still tells me 10 yrs after our break up that “I cant touch another without thinking about you” LOL
THey arnt always “cold” they are big “boys”
thanks LibraLday,
but short after i wrote the post,
he decided it was best we didnt date anymore, because he said we shouldn’t get attached.
he told me he didnt had much empathy and that he always disappointed people.
he told me he let down his family and he cheated on his ex.
completely the opposite of how he appeared to me.
he explained his outer-social self but that in reality he was a not that kind of nice person, because he cheated on his ex and… he is scared of commitment, because he want to feel some sort of freedom
well i think he is partly right,
i cant say im “disappointed” in him, that word is way to heavy to use (even though he used it so many times himself)
i understand what he said.
his father died when he was nine and also a friend of his died.
he already told me about his father, not about the friend, but he said that he made the conclusion out of that that you better don’t get attached to people because they can disappear.
what happens if a libra man takes a decision?
is it a final decision?
TYPICAL ! He will want you back when he wakes up, I dont know how long it will take, some take years….. They are children
I think i didn’t mention this, but, it was so typical: he said, he loved to be around me, that that was not the problem, f.i. if the dinner i made him had been terrible.. (well as he is a libra, even mentioned it himself, that would have been disastrous haha)
I sort of had to force him into a conversation, while i asked him how he was doing he stared at me with his cigarette in his mouth, eventhough he hadnt lightened it yet, for about 20 sec.
so after a while he was involving other people into our conversation so i decided i wanted to leave, and then he walked along, mentioned me and my friends had a nice tie (we were wearing green ties for a special occasion) but that the tie had to be tied up better (haha i don’t know how to say that actually, but i guess you know what i mean, i had to re-do it)
so he did it for me.
as if he suddenly feld the urge to do something nice for me.
Then later on that week i called him, because i had been feeling terrible that week and he said i could call. at that moment i felt already much better, but i decided to call.
as i thought, if he doesnt pick up or doesnt call back, its tough but also very obvious.
but he called me back. i didn’t know really what to say, but just said i wanted to know how he was and catch up.
after that i havent talked to him at all, didn’t really had the chance.
But uhm, i actually thought, once libras make up their mind, they stick with it? because they weighted every aspect so sort of know it was the best decision.
he also has mercury in libra.
What is your mercury in, Libra_Lady?
Taurian girl who ought not be interested in Libra boy but can’t help it.
We met at work and have been friends for almost two years and from the start he was sweet and flirty. He’d come over, we’d watch a movie and cuddle but I wasn’t really into him like that. All his friends thought we should go out but come to find out he’s got a Gemini girlfriend he’s been seeing for nearly 4 years. The only time he ever mentioned her after I confronted him about it was to say negative things about her, I never heard him say anything nice. At the time I was involved with a woman so I thought that he saw that as a free card to be flirty without consequences.
We didn’t see eachother for nearly a year. Then recently he’s come back into my life of his own volition (still involved with his Gemini but I am no longer involved with anyone). He’s turned up the heat and I have done my share of flirting in return. He’s grown up alot and I’m attracted to that. Nights of watching TV would end with us cuddled in the blankets on his couch. He drunkenly admits that he used to have the biggest crush on me. All of this his girlfriend would probably not like and I assume she doesn’t know about, although she does know who I am. He’s blown off plans with me to be with her, which he readily admitted on being whipped and guilted into.
Last weekend things went a step further and there was some making out on my couch after drinks and cuddling. He did start to take it farther but I told him he shouldn’t do something he would regret the next day. I wasn’t rejecting him, but while I was the one who had kissed him, I didn’t really want to take advantage (i’m kicking myself for this now). His response was that I shouldn’t let him do this, that he didn’t want to hurt her (said Gemini). He left with a hug but no kiss goodbye.
Now he’s asked that we act like nothing ever happened because although he liked it, it was wrong (he’s apologized for ‘putting me in that situation’). While I don’t condone cheating on your s.o., if he’s not in love with her then I don’t see the harm? I don’t want to marry him, but I’d like some fun and I do really enjoy his company (and his flattery, I’ll be honest). I’m not sure if I’m comfortable with the idea of him breaking up with her for me. He’s invited me to a party this weekend and we’ve spoken nearly every day since everything happened so I don’t feel like he’s shutting me off.
Perhaps I’m babbling. Opinions?
Oops – I did it again.
Over the summer I met an Aqua man (I’m an Aqua girl) and was soooo totally into him…. Well, after a few frustrating and non commital convos back and forth (he loves the sex – I want more) I gave up on him and did the typical Aqua “fade”.
I still think it was a good decision. I miss his friendship.
Sometimes being an Aqua isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
LOL
Anyway – after that – I decided I was DONE. Done with dating for awhile, done with men, done with air signs in particular. Too flaky. I would know.
And…. Then I met HIM.
Yep. My Libra.
And, he charmed my socks off. Literally, the cad.
We have been going out for a little over a month and seeing each other rather regularly throughout the week and he tells me he “has feelings for me”.
Darnit. I can’t believe I’m falling for another air sign. Interestingly enough, part of our draw towards each other is almost a “Spock mind meld” intuitive connection.
How did this happen again? And, when will I ever learn?
LOL
Christine
Not like a Gemini or Aquarius, Librans appreciate having the directions written down in front of them, it makes life a lot easier, don’t make him guess, he can’t…And when you express that you liked what they did, they are on cloud nine…Nothing makes a Libra feel better then knowing they made you happy…even in small doses. Its because if we dont see something work, we won’t do it again….we sulk…oh, LOL we like to submitt too, if you dominate a Libra and make them feel loved at the same time, they will be addicted to you 
LOL, I was married to a Libra man that disapointed me to limits I cant even put into words…..Then I went out with an Aquarian that was cold. Then I was engaged to an Aquarian that broke my heart with the ultimate disapearing act LOL
Guess who I’m involved with now, another Aquarian, after I swore off men with Air signs too…..You ar’nt finding them, they are finding you
This new guy, the one I’m seeing now, is so different then the others, he is becoming my best friend and treats me with so much affection and consideration that I can feel the relationship grow, he is very good to me and I am doing my best to be good to him. I’ve never been so comfortable with a guy before, we accept eachothers flaws and through eachother accept ourselves, I’ve never had a relationship like this before. He charmed the socks off of me too Christine LOL and like you, I was scared…But now I’m just enjoying the bond that is developing day by day….I am not clinging, and he is not backing off, I think I’ve finally found my best friend….BTW, if you are in bed with a man with an Air sign, tell him what you like, they will surprise you once they know what will make you happy, even the bad ones like my ex husband, he actually tried to please….I think that’s in most Libras, good character or bad, there is always a desire to please, especially in bed LOL
They will all be different too, I’m learning this now, so the new guy you’ve met might surprise you, he might be good for you, but BE in CHARGE, Libra men all like it when you tell them how to do things, if you’ve told them in a fair and kind way, the thing they always say a lot is “Why dont you tell me” They need direction