Approaching a shy Taurean
May 17, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
aries303 provided a birth time (click chart to view) and writes,I’ve recently ended a 5 year relationship – my first real one, in part because I felt like I was “the man” of the couple and I longed to feel like the woman. As a single girl, I’ve been attracted to/attracting and dating Alpha types. 4 different guys I consider to be “my” type: powerful, aggressive, dynamic. But there is guy from my college days whoI’ve liked for six years. He is suddenly in my life again (we’ve been in schools in different cities and totally by chance, we’re now working in the same hospital). He’s the opposite of the guys I’m usually into . He’s a Taurus with his Moon, Mercury, Venus, AND Mars in Aries (why the self-esteem issues?)! I’ve never been able to explain how instantly we connected. The reason we didn’t get together in college was because – according to his best friend – he needed for me to make the first move, despite supposedly liking me a lot. I was bewildered and a little hurt and as a result, I refused to make the first move. Now I have the feeling he still likes me, since his best friend has started calling me again, wanting to hang out. This was always the only way this Taurus felt comfortable “going out” with me. I don’t want to have to go through his friends anymore! I want to approach him directly but I’m worried that I’ll scare him away! Is it a bad idea to be direct? How do I get the show on the road?
You and this Taurus man have two Sun-Moon conjunctions by sign (if not by aspect), with your your Sun and his Moon in Aries, and your Moon and his Sun in Taurus. These are good marriage aspects, for the Moon and Sun are the wife and husband.
I can also see why he’d want you to lead. As much as you want to be the “woman” in a relationship, you’ve got a lot of cardinal (initiating) energy, with Capricorn Rising and an Aries Sun. Other parts of your chart relate to your desire to be wined and dined: your love planets — Venus and Mars in Pisces — are more passive and yielding, and your Taurus Moon wants to be comforted.
Is it a bad idea to be direct?
How else are you going to get what you want? Taurus is reluctant to take risks, for he does not want to lose whatever security he has. He may be afraid of losing your friendship if he expreses his interest in you. So, you may have to be the “man” here to get things going. If you scare him away be being assertive, then he’s not ready for you.
Transiting Venus is just entering your Seventh House, and will conjoin your Seventh House Jupiter — planet of good fortune — around June 4. That will be a good time for looove. Transiting Mars will conjoin your natal Sun around May 26, which will give you an extra boost of assertiveness. The worst that can happen is that nothing romantic will come of your friendship with this Taurus man … and nothing has happened so far! Except for some potential embarrassment, you’ll at least know that you tried.
Related: If I back off from a Taurus man , will he want me more?
Jeffrey offers private consultations.
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Go for it, baby doll! You can do it subtly, if that’s what you feel comfortable with. Just do it.
i am a taurus/gemini cusp guy with a moon in taurus, and being more or less a full on taurus, i do not like initiating ANYTHING! i will wait for the girl to make any and all moves and be fine not being the alpha type! only one thing- i cant stand pushy people! and for any girl to make the first moves, that would mean she probably has an EXTRA pushy personality than most guys. blech! i dont want that! you’re best off making the first moves and watching how the chips fall! if your taurus guy likes you, he will GREATLY appreciate this. if not, he will not cut you off- once a friend, always a friend!
Female opinion: Be really direct and straight forward. We’re very attracted to that so long as it is with dignity.
I am a scorpio that is very attracted to a taurus. I’m in college, taking summer school classes, and this particular class lasts like 3 hours, so we get two breaks. On each of these breaks, I get a little chance to talk to the taurus, and I feel a definite connection. He’s in my mind all the time, and I can guess that he feels something too by our conversations.
I am so nervous that he won’t get around to saying anything. I don’t want to have to initiate anything, but I think I will need to. I will see him tomorrow, and I would really appreciate some advice on how to initiate at least hanging out outside of class.
im a taurus girl nd ii totally hav tuh agree wit bobcat i mean ii like tuh start things well sumtimes in muh flirtatious way but den again ii wud like dha other person tuh start but not push meh in2 a relationship cuz ii wud feel suffocated nd uncomfortable :\ ii hate pushy ppl … but ii like dudes tuh take charge but not tuh too much cuz ii need tuh feel like we’re in this together not just dha guy
A SHY Taurean??? Is there such thing?!
Yeah they say Taurus don’t like initiating thing, and like girls to make a move. Because of their charm and macho personality girls are drawn to them most of the time. I found that true but I don’t think you want to be ‘one of those girls’ I find that Taurus guys DO more than just initiate! They will approach, plan, chase, seduce, etc when they met the right girl!
So what do we do as to ‘approach a shy Taurus’ ? We simply dress up real nice and get our butt out there to be seen! thats all
do taurus men like take like too chase their women then ????
Never met a shy Taurus, man or woman….
Hi, i fall in love with taurus guy now, i confuse shall i admit it to him or not, coz we are good friends now n have formed a group of 5 including us. btw we met at college, 5 months ago n since then we are always together. my concern is, i afraid if a tell him i like him than if he doesn’t like me , will he go away from me and my friends? i dont want lose him as a friend as well..
thx 4 any advice be4..
piscesgirl
Heres an idea…why not have a friend of the group ask him (by himself) casually, if he could see himself dating u, n report back to u….that way u will kno how to approach the real situation without losing ur friendship.
I am and am not a shy taurus! It’s a double standard, and confusing I know. If I am comfortable or uninterested in people, I am very easy-going and very easy to get along with. If I like you and you don’t make a move… it might never happen. The thought of me initiating makes me want to throw up! I will admit that I love when guys chase me a bit. Sometimes I fake the whole shy thing. I want someone to be in control. I need to feel like they WANT me, and badly. I need to feel very comfortable with them if I’m going to make a move. If you tell them that you think they’re attractive, or that you’re interested, or make it abundantly clear that you want them… then they might move in for the kill. We love it when anyone admires us, I think it’s what we live off of. I’m sure if you just make the first move by telling the guy you like him and toss him your number, he might call you! Make sure you look and smell good though! We are very superficial. Wearing sweatpants and messy hair isn’t going to work for us.
Aries girl… we will chase, but honestly… we’re lazy. If you make it too hard, we’re just going to give up. Make it a simple chase, a hard menial task and we’re on it for as long as it takes. Just don’t play too hard to get. We easily shy from rejection.
Pisces girl… you need to tell him how you feel. Maybe don’t go gushing on and on about love, commitment and rainbows, but you need to tell him you really like him and want to maybe take it to the next level. Don’t scare him away with all this sudden love and admiration… it might jeopardize the friendship, then you will be without your love, and without a friend too.
Taureans are not that difficult. We’re just very cautious. Compliments help, they get you anywhere with anyone. You need to take control, but don’t be aggressive! It scares the crap out of us when someone puts everything on too strong. Take control with some class. Like “Taurus woman” said, do it with Dignity. We’ll come to you when we’re ready