Why did Libra turn cold?
April 4, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
In early March, a Taurus wrote:
i arranged to go out for drink with a Libra, he agreed to meeting up and seemed quite friendly in his texts. Until the day of going out he textd me a blunt message saying he couldnt make it, i assume hes not interested but y did he turn cold
Today, presumably the same person wrote:
Im female had a date with Libra male. Before his texts were warm and friendly. He cancelled last minute saying couldnt make it his text was cold. Thought that was it. Then he text me after 3 weeks. I replied but not heard again yet. Help?
One wouldn’t normally accuse Libra of being cold. This Venus-ruled sign is charming and polite. Unfortunately, Libra goes out of his way to avoid offending anyone, and there may not always be a diplomatic way to cancel a date.
How to back out gracefully? I’ll leave matters of textiquette to Miss Manners. Although cell phones are a great medium for an air sign, it may be difficult to convey emotional subtleties via SMS. Just because a text feels cold doesn’t mean that was the texter’s intention. And besides, would it have been better for him to write that he was no longer sweet on you? I’m not sure a Libra would text anything to hurt your feelings. Maybe he thought that “i cant make it” was all he could muster.
And yet … he texted you three weeks later, and did not respond to your reply. Libra indecision for ya! Why don’t you just CALL HIM?! Tell him you like him but are getting mixed signals, and you want to know what’s up. Yes, it’s a risk (anathema to Taurus, I know), but it’s the easiest way to stop torturing yourself. If he’s not straight with you, take that into consideration when you continue pining for him.
Comment below: Have you known a Libra to turn cold? How do you make sense of it?
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long story short. Dated a libra for a short time. Things went well until he bailed out on all of our planned dates. I told him straight up that it wasn’t cool with me. So I realize they have a hard time deciding…what he don’t realize is that I’m very impatient, the time we had was short and I can lose interest in matter of minutes. I can’t read minds and know if he really liked me or not. Communication is a two-way street, don’t just assume everyone can feel your thoughts Liba.
So he broke it off. I was upset but not upset enough to get depressed really.
I knew how to resolve our minor disputes and he was just not up to it. Not my fault…
We cut off communication for a while. Now he’s suddenly finding ways to see me again. Trying to catch my eye. It’s a tad bit creepy since it’s more than coincidence that we meet each other more than once at the same hang out spot. I don’t have a problem facing him. He was seemingly jealous when I carried on conversations with other people instead of him.
I do have a problem with thorough inconsistency at the start of a relationship though. I don’t open up to people who I think are gonna hurt me a second time. He probably felt remorse.. but you know what? It’s only a probably. I really don’t have a clue. He never tried to make it clearer. Maybe it was too “stressful.”
Libra’s flaking out and being unavailable at the beginning of a relationship doesn’t look attractive.
If you can’t handle somebody at their worst, you suuuuure don’t deserve them at their very best. Nobody is perfect. Your mind could come up with the most unrealistic expectations of people, which leads to more disappointments. It should be common sense but it isn’t.
So all these guys who gave up you nice ladies cause of their fears.. or some silly nonsense like you didn’t appear to be picture perfect like a fairy tale– they all sound like wusses to me. Time to figure what’s best for you, ladies. Find a guy who won’t let you down.
You Libra’s are really wonderful people, lots to offer. It’s just men and women will drive each other insane regardless of the sign! No one said it was gonna be easy.
none!, I like the way you put it. I did the same
omg none!!! love the way u expressed !!
Hi, I am a Libra woman, I am happilly divorced from a Libra man. I know exactly what happened, he is a CHILD….They love you “Oh I love you” kiss kiss hug hug….”Ooooh is that a new video game? tra la la la la” Think he’s bad now? Have a kid with him and watch him get colder. The Libra men who are nice are the ones that wern’t spoiled as a child, the “mommied ones” Also when it comes to indulging, they prefer food to us, unless they can talk you into …well
I am now engaged to an Aquarian, they are another story,After a few day after I met him, it was “I love you, marry me.” then they disapear for a LONG time once you accept, then the day you decide to move on, poof! they drop you the most romantic email explaing how much they love you, miss you to the point of feeling sick, and “I will call you soon as I can” He’s A Secret Agent maybe?
LOL
Basically all men, no matter what their sign are, are strange beings…..Sorry Ladies, we live among aliens. Especially the air signs.
haha, Libralady, was he smiling abit when he said marry me to you? The Aqua I’m with was talking about marriage alot one moment, then the next said I know it won’t last forever.I just simply said I’m not into marriage till 5 years later
His face was serious, he even looked like he would cry…..He said we belong together forever…..He would never love another and I would complete his heart and soul…..Now hes hiding….Cest la Vie
I said I loved him but we shouldnt rush we should be engaged for a few months first, he wanted to do it right away….I also suggested we dated first, which he thought was odd….Surprising huh.
I really hope I get some feed back from leavin this post as right now im pretty heartsore.. met this libran male in my street he seemed really interested asked me for my number an wanted to take me on a date.. we were insepearable after that together every day but he jus kept sayin to me he wasnt ready for a girlfriend as he had done a long spell in prison an wasnt ready to commit as he was tryin to find his feet.. i accepted it an was jus happy to hav him in my life.. then i seen a really selfish side to him an his attitude was a stinkin joke the way he used to speak to me was unreal he wud call me all the soft c**ts goin durin a argument but i really liked him an put up with it as wen we did get on it was jus magical.. my youngest daughter adored him also an him her.. he wud tel her he loved her every day an spend hours playin with her which i thought was really nice.. We argued one day so I left to go an stay with my sister an while i was gone he was textin me sayin he was missin me like crazy an beggin me to go back home so I did an he was nice to me for all of 2 days an then he was back to bein nasty.. he refused to ever pay me compliments but would pay them to my friends.. he wud say he never wanted 2 see me again then be outside the door ten minutes later sayin he was outside an wanted to spend the night with me and it jus started to really get me down I was no longer the happy sparklin person i was when he met me.. I went back to stay with my sister an wen i got back he come round to see me an while we were in bed he sed we couldnt sleep together bcos he had slept with someone else while i was gone and has to go for a check up which really hurt me but as I wasnt his girlfriend he didnt think I had any right to question him !! He said he told me out of respect!!! I carried on seein him an had a holiday booked in spain for jus me an my daughter an he was takin me the airport then he wasnt then he was then he wasnt so in the end i jus said its ok i will ask somebody else..he come to my house on the saturday an told me he didnt think we should sleep together anymore as I was gettin to attached an thats not wot should be happenin as we were jus friends an then he left..I text him sayin he had hurt me an I was upset an not to bother comin round again an he never.. that was 2 weeks ago but since ive been back of my holiday ive managed to find out that he as stil been in contact with his ex an has been seen drivin around in her car.. im devastated i cant eat and am smokin like a chimney.. my daughter keeps askin for him which jus shatters me and I dont no what to do .. I drove past his house last nite has he only lives 3 streets away from me and his car wasnt outside which jus told me he was obviously with her which jus set me off again.. im scared to move on bcos I fear he will be back and I will be back to square one.. advice please anybody i no ive rambled but i jus needed to get most of it out xxxx : ( xxxx
I have been married tp a Libra for 8 years. Very beautiful. However, if you are with a Libra do not expect a stable relationship. You have to do all the adjustment. My advise run away from a Libra as fast as you can….There are other signs where the relationship can be more stable. If you want passion go for an aries or a leo. If you pay attention to these signs they will shower you with love.
Good luck!
thanks george he text me today sayin this was his new number i replied by sayin oh ok .. doubt he wud hav liked that
George,
If you want passion from your Libra wife you have to intrigue her LOL
The thing is we view our sexuality as a weakness and convince ourselves that sex is dirty 
Once a man has released the fire from our soul we become addicted to passion.. Tease her by telling her that after your intimacy you are going to punish her and take away her guilt….Don”t be surprised if you end up getting pounced on the next morning…. She may even hide your car keys…..
She may need you to come on strong, or tease her because inside a Libra woman is a tiger just waiting to pounce on her man
Any advice on how to make my now cold Libra ex-boyfriend of two years get more…. Huh well open
He used to be more open, but he closed up again. I know there’s something i haven’t tried, and being who I am (Aries), I neever give up on him 
So, any advice? I really would love for him to open up. He and I are still deeply in love. And I would truly love for he and I to be together again.
Hi Amorosa Dulce
They love food, fixing him romantic meals turns this guy on, fast..
If you hear anything that he mentions that seems unfair that happened to him and you tell him so, he will want to share more. They always think noone is listening even when you are 
Thats why they withdraw sometimes…. or they are in “self” mode, in which case to get him you have to make yourself part of his interests….Even if you think they’re boring interests, (usually are LOL)
Even my ex,(Libra) who had a bad personality, at times would try to show me that he could please me…..Show him your neds too, they like to be told what you like/want 
Theyre too lazy to guess 
Hope this helps
If you love him then you need to tell him. If a Libra guy feels like he’s sexy to you, he can’t resist getting near you, its an ego thing too
To get him to talk you have to “sympathize” with him, they love to feel special and mommied
Warning though, in the relationship you might be doing most of the “giving” unless you make him feel like even the tiniest thing he does for you is appreciated, they love to show off once they feel that you love what they do for you
If none of your friends’ good advice work for you, here are some practical ways to deal with a relationship with Libra, if you find it confusing…
Being previously in two relationships with Libra men at different periods, here is my opinion. I reconsidered more than three times before deciding to post it here, because my viewing may sound too extreme for some
So please don’t take it word by word, and please don’t project it just as it is in your own relationship with a Libra. Because what I encountered may not be the same as what yours. It’s just to illustrate what I’ve done and put in my mind in my previous relationship with Libra, which may be can useful.
Being in a relationship with a Libra is just like a parenting career, or just like playing chess games with a “kid”. What I mean by a “kid” is more like the “kid inside” him. You have to understand the “kid” inside him. You have to let him win a few steps ahead, always, like all of the following that I’ve done (and surprisingly to myself it once brought a rather sustainable relationship for me).
These are what happened to me and what I’ve done in my last relationship with Libra (the first one was a total mess):
1.He can still be married to his wife and have you as his girlfriend at the same period.
2.He is allowed have other girlfriend at the same time besides you, IF it happens he has the other one.
3.If in fact you always listen to him, but one day he (surprisingly suddenly) he says or assumes that you never listen to him, let him do so, don’t argue.
4.You still have to wait for him anywhere he asked you to at anytime. Don’t demand him to be on-time to meet you. And yet he is allowed to one day assume that you’re never there for him and he’s allowed to forget any date with you (leave you there, waiting with no news).
5.You still have to spent time with him, be available for him and be a good companion for him, and yet he is allowed to one day assume that you’re never there for him.
6.You still have to help him as much as you can but he is still allowed to one day assume that you never do anything for him
7.You have to let him lie to you IF he did lie to you, and you have to pretend that you don’t know that he lied to you (if somehow you can feel it’s a lie or you know for sure it’s a lie). And on the contrary, you have to let him get mad at you because he thinks that you’re lying while you know you’re not lying or cheating, ever, at all.
8.He can cheat on you but you don’t even think about cheating on him, ever.
9.He is allowed to not responding to any of your calls and text messages, loving words, not communicating anything to you and even ignore emergency call from you, but not once you’re allowed to do the same to him.
10.You don’t ever tell him he’s making any wrong move even if you really think or know for sure that he’s making a wrong move. On the contrary, you have to accept any of his protest or any unsolicited advice for you, with a smile.
11.Even if it’s not a “check mate” by the game’s rule, but he thinks it is, you have to smoothly pretend that he is the total winner.
12.He is allowed to get mad at you all of the sudden without any transparent reason. But you are not allowed to do so, because you will scare away the “kid inside”.
13.If you ever win by accident, you are to quickly “turn it around” and make it looked like he wins, not you.
14.You have to attend to him but don’t expect him to attend to you, even when cross our fingers, you are in a seriously needy condition or situation.
15.The overall game is about “don’t be cruel to a kid”.
16.The last rule would be: Don’t ever let him know that you know all these and that you are doing all these for him. It will take away the “excitement” of being with you in the game.
Very close to being a parent accompanying a kid, at least for me. Maybe you get the picture of my personal viewing of being in relationship with a Libra. Maybe some of you will think that it’s too silly to be true, and maybe some others will think that this is a truly true love and it is a total unconditional love (which is also true). More like a parenting work, isn’t it? It takes real patience, it takes real pro-longed open mind, it requires you to be well-tempered and understanding in all situation at all times. Just like understanding a kid when being with one. In my own reality of past relationships, I walked away from both. The first dating with a Libra made me mad and didn’t know where I went wrong. The second one lasted for three years, I guess because I tried to put efforts to play along (I guess…). For you who is willing to bear it cheerfully, or take the challenge, go ahead, the result may be truly rewarding for you. For those who think it’s a true BS and not mentally strong enough to stand it and play along, walk away.
Once again, this is only my relationship experience, and only my personal perspective resulted from those experiences, it may not hold true to your own personal experience, and I believe not all Libras are like the ones I encountered before. In fact, my mom is a Libra and she is the most wonderful, gentle and caring mom to us, and a truly dedicated partner to my dad (I’m not lying just because she’s my mom, LOL). So, you never know… but the decision is yours, not his (your Libra lover’s), but yet there’s no guarantee whatsoever… interesting, right? ? And at last, just a piece of advice, don’t take it toooooo seriously in your heart when in a relationship with Libra, meaning: enjoy the sweet moments, but don’t let yourself become stressful about the relationship itself when and if, I said when and if, you think something went wrong in the relationship… If you’ve come to the point where the relationship gets too stressful for you, force yourself to find your favorite activities, to “re-direct” your mind into something positive that you really like. Life goes on, find your passion and get busy with your life… Cheers, all ?
LOL I’ve done every single thing in the list to be perfectly honest…. I truly love my soulmate. He is the most loving, caring, sweetest, romantic, understanding man in my life. He means the world to me…. He always responded to me and showered me with tons of love… Of course, I had to shower him plenty with bunches and bundles of love first! He is like a kid, but I truly love him deeply.
The only “rule” I didn’t know is that he IS allowed to NOT respond to my loving messages, my words, what I have to say, my packages… That’s new because well… Since he is my ex, he has a new attitude to not respond to me. mmm I think he has every right to do what he does. He is an angel. I truly hope I can be back with him. He means the world to him, and I love him dearly. And he still loves me as well. Alrightie then, I’ll just keep trying. : ) Thank you both!
please move on from this libra guy
He’s a jerk…. He’s treating you the way that would hurt him if it were reverse, Libras know what fair is, and not giving someone the truth or closure is not fair, he can’t be a very good person, you can do a lot better
If a Libra is cut off, I mean ignored with no communication, its pure hell, so if he does it to you then he’s a real jerk…
twolibrasbefore:
What were the ages and birthdays of these Libras you dated, if you dont mind my asking?
Hi Pisces Queen
I was married to one boen Oct 11 1968, I dated three before him, one Oct 10 1969
Sept 28 1971 Oct 12 1965….basically all diferent dates…I myself was born Oct 13 1970, maybe it has to do with Chinese astrology too? my ex husband was “monkey” LOL
Hopeless,
He doesnt know whether he wants you or her. She has all the relationship baggage and his heart, and until he finds someone that will compare to those sparks/remembrance of those feelings, he will go back and forth. He probably comes to you when they fight becasue he likes you, then starts getting indecicive. He fights with you becasue he feels like he owes her something and is attached to her. Librans cannot let go, to people, things etc. You are new and exciting, but if she still has his heart…let go. he will come back to you after the relationship is truly over if he cares for you. give him his space.
well, I dont know what to do with the man I love. It’s as if he isn’t going to talk to me in a million years… Any way I can stimulate his loving heart? Because I would truly love to talk to him again. I gotta admit, I havn’t tried everything. But I love him deeply and I am not going to give up on him. He is hurt. And I am letting him have his space like he wants it because I respect him. However, all I hear around about his whereabouts is that he parties a lot now… Is it time to just try to ignore him? It’s an impossible feat, but I at the least could pretend I don’t care… But that’s not like me. Please, any thoughts? I truly care for this man. I only wish him the best and well, if he’s really happy and satisfied with his life as it is now, perhaps I should just not send him packages every once in a while, give him e-mails telling him I love him, making him feel good about who he truly is…
Thanks Libra Lady,
And out of all of those, you didnt find any “non-cheaters” in any of them? Or were they all a mess? I am trying to understand at what point does the Libra stop the wandering eye. It appears as though its the attention they cannot resist or the love of “beautiful things” and not necessarily something their partner did. I do, however, believe that they will use any negative traits their partner has, if they can find any, as a “reason” for their cheating if they get caught even though they know that wasnt the reason, just their love of attention, refusal to deny attention, and love of “beautiful things.” However, please correct me if I have this all wrong…lol
Amorosa Dulce,
Im confused, was it you that did something to hurt him which is why he is now your ex?
Hi Pisces Queen
No, none cheated on me, they all accused me of that, ?? But I’ve never cheated on anyone. What they did though was treat the relationship like they were on and off, I only slept with the one I married, but the other 2 were just as possessive yet cold… They wanted to keep me yet put no effort into the relationship, its a “I have a GF” in front of their friends. You know like when one guy has a new keyboard, so the buddy has to get one too…LOL
The one I married was shy and quiet untill I slept with him a couple of times then turned into a sex addict…. I tried to keep him happy in other ways but all he wanted was sex. I was his play thing when I wanted so much more.
Amorosa Dulce
My ex still wants me, its been 10 years since he left me and I think its because he couldnt “tame” me, he couldnt make me the way he wanted me, under his foot…. He hated and loved me too, thats rare for a Libra guy 
You guy sounds differen, he sounds like he needs a verbal kick in the butt ….. Never let him self pity, he’ll milk it forever…
you are being too good to him. no no no, LOL…. With a Libra guy you have to be sweet and tough. I would just tell him “Listen I’m crazy about you but if you dont talk to me, thats it, have a nice life” They “WAKE” up…. He needs a good jolt of reality once in a while
Thanks for the advise guys .. i hav since foolishly had him bak in the big bed an straight after sex he jumped up as he was gettin dressed an told me not to get attached as the sex was jus a one off.. ive never felt so horrible in my entire life.. i dont want him around me nomore as mary j blige sang id rather b alone than unhappy : )
I dont blame you. What a jerk! Dont worry what goes around comes around and he’s a Libra, we all end up with bad luck in love….
All Libra men are a******s!! (for the most part) They Lie compulsively, They want things their way or no way,They absoluelty think its their RIGHT to have two women, since they never seem to be able to make a decision they always keep you waiting with no answer as to where you stand in a relationship with them libra men would rather keep you waiting and wondering…But despite all this they seem to get away with it because they are usually so damn Gorgeous…LOL
LibraLady, what do you mean exactly by a verbal kick in the butt?
I tried twice to talk to him that way, and I spoke my feelings passionately (of course, not in person.. I didnt want to irritate him) and the third time was by sending him a wonderful package. I don’t really understand this. He is truly deeply in love with me. It’s a feeling that he couldnt feel with any other woman, so he treats me wonderfully. Even after breaking up, although, he tries to man-up and hide it…. He is strange, but I love him nonetheless.
Unfortunately, I was too rough on him at times and he realized his friends made him “feel better.” It’s one of the reasons why he ended it, but also because he and I are in university and it’s real hard to keep up with each other. I think he just needs a HUGE break. But then again, like he said “it is the end kind of thing.” I wouldn’t let him tame me. Once I got VERY docile though, he started getting depressed and worried. He realized he truly love me MUCH MORE when I was rough and very honest, rather than giving in to whatever he says and just let him be “the man.” It was partly my fault, but also his. He hurt me deeply and turned me docile because I desired to be better for him. Basically, he is really hurt for hurting me.
Despite all that though, I love him! In fact, I learned to love him better, and much more after these 7 months. I feel wonderful loving him; it keeps me going, just thinking of the love that I feel for my soulmate, and that I truly know from him, the real him before he got strange, that he truly loves me very deep inside. I need him… Even if we are both busy a LOT, at the least we could know we have something between us. You know, open up.
Amorosa Dulce
A Libra guy sometimes makes us feel guilty to tell them that we are not sattisfied, you know that look they get, dont you, poor little me…. I just meant that dont hold back to spare his feelings 
But I think youre right, he may need a break for now, but be careful they bury themselves in trivial things, and lose track of time. If you love him then you’ll have to wait, I know 
Guys are so complicated, oh. one thing I know about most Libra guys, if they “know” your waiting, they are sattisfied and procrastinate, dont take it as loss of interest, its like chasing butterflies, if he is in love with you, he might not know how to behave….
I just meant he needs to hear you out sometimes, I see youve already been honest with him , good
It’s so great I’m going to attend medical school then; it’ll keep me busier.
He is a BIG procrastinator, so I might even wait a decade. I won’t mind him as much that he doesn’t contact me by then since well, it’ll be a decade 
But still, I’m all the same, and I love him deeply. However, if I end up meeting an even better man, I’m not gonna give up the opportunity, although, this man that I am deeply in love with… I have feelings that are such as if they have been born within; he is my soulmate, so even if I do find a proper, great guy, I’m not gonna lie; I would pass that guy out just to see my soulmate again.
I get hurt when he doesn’t know how to behave because i know him all too well; I know how he is, his behaviour and all. But since I love him, it doesn’t get to me like it would to another woman haha. I’ll wait, but i’ll hold back just a bit. I want him to be calm and live his life.
Hey guys, i think i can explain to you why Libra turns cold. I’m a Libra and yes i’m usually cold to my parthers, but the moment i feel that there’s something in my parther that i dont like and that i cant help him change i stop liking him, its sound crazy i know, but its not intentianal. I’m very indecisional and i think when we meet somebody we want to like him and we start flirting and make him think we like him and we actually start to believe we like him and then one day we wake up and find to much inperfection and we just turn cold. But i do feel bad when i leave somebody, because i know its my fault and i hurt him.
Too complicated…
Like I said most Libra men are a******s..All you have to do is grow up and tell her that you are not intrested because no one is gonna wait until you make up your mind.
Teddy
Ah, the elusive Libra man….. Please tell us, whats the deal with the control and the hot / cold switch? My Libra ex husband thought he “owned” me, yet he ignored me, except for sex…. Is that all that Libra guys want from a girl? that and our cooking? And why do you guys love video games so much?
Are you a guy Teddy or a girl? If your a guy, Id love to hear your point of view, if your a girl sorry, Teddy sounds like a guys name…. Some guys dig other guys so I never know who Im talking to on here
Teddy, you nailed it as what I see going on with my wife after 10 years.
She makes herself crazy with her pursuit of perfection. In the past when she would point out the flaws in things I used to get fedup.
Now I just laugh. For ten years, childern, homes, business…she always (since the first few months) saying who knows? how long our relationship will last…Always fishing for flaws and conflict….after so many years, I don’t bite, I just laugh
. Libras are like beautiful sailing ships without rudders…always tossed about by their emotions, having difficulty deciding anything…
The key is to enjoy their beauty and creativity, but DO NOT FOLLOW THEIR MOOD SWINGS……….
Libras emotionally high maintenance is thy name….
Aries man out…
Now that is unfair, we are not ships without rudders, we are handgliders without rope
omg…lol. …had to get in on this discussion. Wow…. First of all, hi everyone. Hmmm, very interesting. I have not had relationships with libra men. No particular reasons. Although, after dating and relationships with various signs, I find that I want to marry a virgo man…don’t ask. Virgo men tend to be cold and cruel and fussy and so on…but I even love that about them. We show each other how to do both live AND love in life. Also, emotionally, we are not that different; only in our expressions of it. We’re both insecure a-holes!!! I am a libra woman of course with virgo rising and aries moon as well as a fire snake. Now, if you want to talk about reality vs practicality always do it with all things, money. Libras aren’t that realistic in the true down-to-earth value of money. Although, we are just as materialistic and love to have it. But, when it comes to emotions…please. Come on…we fit in. Just about all signs are emotionally sprung. They just handle it differently. For example, Earth people (virgo, taurus, capricorn) wear their emotions on their sleeves(they are actionary-don’t think, just do; I have a taurus boss…at least 100 memos a day, about whatever how unimportant and extreme, keeps a heart attack at bay yet she is otherwise a great boss). Water people (pisces, scorpio, cancer) use their emotions as weaponry (they are a liability waiting to happen-just be sure to have a lawyer handy to gather the true facts when dealing with their emotions). Air people “express” their emotions(they are visionary, they mix emotions with what they think-sorry have to cut them a break for once…not as chaotic). Fire people’s emotions are impulsive (unpredictable and spontaneous-leave you asking, where in the heck did that bizarre reaction come from. At least, that is what I’ve constantly asked my leo and saggitarius friends) So, emotions on a whole can cause either of these grouped signs to react unrealistically. Therefore, I can’t agree about the beautiful ships or handgliders description, but personally, I know that pent up insecurities can have their way with the person. When LibraLady discussed the way libra women handle sex…totally agree. If you want us to really enjoy it and not just enjoy it because you enjoy it, conjure our passions by providing adequate security to the love making. We talk a lot (obviously) but, can be very confidential too. We sooo dig the top secret stuff. At least, I certainly do! If we feel that it is only between us and that guy and we’re not doing anything derogatory, passion isn’t a problem. I’ve only experienced this with a virgo man and…just WOW. Insecurities is what often can lead libras into thinking that the tools needed to repair a relationship, or resolve one is just not available. If you’re insecure, then you definitely feel helpless. Unfortunately, I see very little written on the real inner being of libras. People seem to require depth, but are not honest and objective in their writtings or statements. Stuck on the basics I guess….YAWN Libras also look for a deep, loving, honest, tough as nails relationships. Hince, the committment issues. Once we take committment seriously, every aspect of our lives revolves around the committment. I have read and have been told that libra females most likely won’t have children…our indecisiveness I guess? No…insecurity. Libra women crave children with their beloved, but they know that it is a permanent thing. Apparently, looking deeper…anyone can see that they don’t take getting pregnant lightly. There is never enough trust for a life-long altering decision. The partner MUST realize this and be grounded and intelligent enough to know that the libra’s real committment and love in the relationship is lasting. Deep down, he or she will be devoted-loyal. Libras also want to feel wanted and needed…not taken advantage of and underestimated. They’re romantic but yet very intelligent. Libras minds are like tape recorders. The past replays constantly no matter if the libra has supposedly moved on. Be comfortable in the fact that no one can move on that quickly without mentally and emotionally rectifying the matter at hand. If they have abandoned the relationship without resolution, deep thoughts and emotions are always turbulent. Maybe move on in body, but not in mind and heart. Especially, if the love making (not just sex) was imprinted in their minds as well. The practical things: A stable home life, marriage, a loving devoted partner, security, and safety, is what libras deep down constantly think about. Someone here mentioned our souls…I was impressed. If you are willing to do both-teach us verbally AND show us through action to value money and the responsibility needed to have it, then the libra will conceptualize their entire relationship in that manner…to VALUE it. We work through consistencies and money is important to us. We are the scales…exchange of money and business. Now, whatever the agenda is from your perspective of a relationship with a libra: “practical” or “romantic,” if you expect to do what you want the majority of the time…treat the libra as you wish the majority of the time and have them compromise all the way, lol, then you’re in for a “real” treat. Making them the center of your inside jokes is even worse. When they sense these things, insecurities set in and they’re gone with the wind. If you want directness and openness, you must be it with the libra. Otherwise, you will never get depth. He or she will be too busy protecting themselves from further abuse, or too busy on the run. It’s simple. Why expose themselves to you for folly? Deep down libras are extremely serious about everything. It has to be a meeting of the minds and hearts…not a meeting of a master mind whose skill is to hide his or her own heart. If you want fun…have fun. If you want seriousness, have seriousness. No one talks about it, but libras are very suspicious individuals as well. If the libra picks up on any flakiness…hey. All bets are off. Completely understandable.
I met this Libra guy on chat n we became gr8 frens… coz we both shared our stories and feelingsss and listened to each other… i think he’s frank n honest n i can trust him…and suddenly out of the bluee he tells me he loves me!! I didnt care muchh…. and justt told him not to joke with me….but then after few weeks of his disappearence he calls me once and shares dat his parents dont trust him and always accuse him of being irresponsiblee and tells me again dat he loves me…I suggeste him we should meet first and then decide… Thenn he keepsss onnnnnnnnn postponing the date….and finallyy we meet n he’s latee…and we have a quick cup of coffe together and talkk…later we talk on the phone.. he tells me i’m a lil shy then on chat and phone well duhh!! obviouslyy he’s a new guy to me!! huh and then we have phone conversations and i always have to call himmm and we talk for hours………. and if i dont call him for few days he just calls me for a short time to accuse me dat i forgot him n didnt call!! And i later call him upp… he’s so confusingggggggg always postpones to meet with me!!I know he has a job and he’s bz but still he has always time for his buddies in the weekend and not a single day for me!!He rejcts my callss n reasons dat his parents were arouund!! never calls me backkk!! but still claims to love me!! what the f*** why are librans this way!!! first they try so hard for u to fall for them and when ur all into them!! they dont even respond he wont even call when he sayd he wuddd……… should i move on coz this really hurts… and what if after i move on… he calls abck again!!! I’m an aquarius/pisces cusp born on feb 19… and i want to be in a comitted relationshipppp
Move on from this guy, he is not worth your time. Libran men, I learned, can push it too far, and then forget about the girl. You know what they love? The hunt. They REALLY do. They want really hard girls, and don’t expect calls from them. Here, if you like him a lot, then “move on,” but don’t like pretend he’s not there. He’ll be eating out of the palm of your hand. They are hopeless romantics at heart. Personally though, I truly love the Libran man I was with. But I have to leave him be and move on. It’s the best thing to do…
My advice: Don’t date a Libran man unless you’re in for marriage/serious long-term relationship/difficult relationship. They want full commitment.
Oh and there’s this thing called being a “Lazy Libra.” It’s a phase. Don’t get discouraged if he comes late or procrastinates or sets up a date for another day. It’s typical, indecisive Libra behaviour. Just bear with it if you truly love him LOL.
Elina, lol, I agree with Amorosa about most of what she has said, except that you should leave the libra guy alone, blah, blah, blah. You’re an aqua! You probably will irritate him from time to time and vice versa, but aqua and libras are true soul mates once they come to realize that no one else in life has more to offer them. You will love him for him and he will do the same for you. You will deeply respect each other. Things are usually off between libra and aqua until they have been together a while. You’re unpredictable in nature and he takes it as an emotionally unstable item. But, he will soon notice that you are more stable than what he thinks. Trust me, with all the craziness going on with him, he will appreciate your disorganized, but stable mind and habit. He won’t get bored with you. Trust me, besides your opposite, the leo and our comrad-the gemini-you have more in common than they think. It is a mutual meeting of mind and heart. I have been with an aqua man and although we were on two different paths at the time, aquas are definitely on my list (second to virgos) for a committed relationship/marriage situation.
hello i need some advice about libra men…i am a taurus woman i met a libra man about two months ago he approached me by asking a mutual friend of ours about me…we are long distance but he told me that he wants to get to know me..i said ok and from there he started off texting and calling me..sometimes he would text in the morning just to say good morning or if he missed my call the night before he would text in the morning explaining why…shortly after he kind of backed off and i started initiating calls and texts more..he said he doesnt like to talk on the phone so we texted most of the time..i noticed sometimes when i would text he just wouldnt respond but then a few days later i would text again and he would be soo happy to hear from me that confused me a lot..one time he texted me asking me how was my day when i responded he never responded back(confusing)…he came to my state to visit his old friends but did not initiate hanging out with me until i texted him so we went to dinner…and that night we had sex…the next morning we talked about me coming to his state to visit him and everything seemed fine…when he returned back to his state i once again texted him and we were writing eachother back and forth i then asked him about the dates we set for me to come visit and he did not respond so i waited until the next day to send the text again he responded 5 hours later to tell me that those dates were not good and he has to see when his family is coming to visit and when his home games are and that was it so now its up in the air about when i can go visit …i asked him to call me last nite but he did not…so today i tried to text and see what he.s up to but still no response i kno he is gonna respond but i am very impatient and dont think i should have to wait two days for a simple response..am i coming on to strong? are libra men this confusing or is he just not into me because he seems to be sending me mixed signals? what should i do i seem to have really fallen for him and just realized it
You got too close too fast. Don’t text him so much. Libras love their space and freedom. For him, if you truly think he is worth your time and dedication, you have to have all the patience in the world. As for him, if to him you are truly worth it, then he will text you, call you, etc… That’s real interest.
The funny thing is behind all this is that you can be any star sign. Be it Capricorn, Aries, Pisces, Gemini, Taurus, etc… (I am the Aries)… Libras get along with every sign. It’s just a matter of whether you have good chemistry with each other. You know, if you both complete each other.
It’s all or nothing. In my situation, it was all, but we decided to part ways. He is busy, I’m busy. He hopes to see me in the future I guess, and so do I. But it’s not something to like look forward to. I can truly love him all I want, but Libras do tend to change their minds constantly. It’s tricky business. No matter how much you “seem” to know them, unfortunately.
thank you…that helps a lot!!
To all non Libras: if the relationship with a Libra has any problems leave as quickly as possible…they will make little effort to improve things and they will put the adapting on your shoulders….If you think a Libras is going to change…they can….however, it will take years of you banging your head against a wall…The Libras out there do not argue with my point because you know what I am saying is true. Yes, we know you love to argue…but after a while that becomes boring and childish for us non Libras.
If you are with a Libra playing games: run away fast!!! If they are really in to you they will make some effort. Otherwise forgrt it….
Aries man out
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After reading your comments today, I grinned, you nailed it completely. We do have suspicious minds, I do anyways. And the part about Libra women without kids, thats sad, My son has been my anchor in the real world. A Libra woman needs someone to look after or we go crazy. Relationships come and go but your children are always there to need you, thats the thing most people dont understand as Libras go from one relationship to another, we need to be needed. Even my lousy ex husband (libra) had this quality, he was always at his best when he thought he was needed. To take that away is the cruelest thing, if a Libra women feels that her BF or mate needs her, she will feel valued. That is far better then any silly gift or sweet talk, because deep down in a Libra is an emptiness that haunts them. Its not the worship that people often mistake it for, its not an ego thing, its a value thing. We judge ourselves by how much anyone needs us, we are not perfectionists, like George seems to think LOL We are seeking a place to belong. We are our own worse enemies when it comes to a relationship because we want to please, and when others are cruel to us, who do we blame? ourselves….Maybe its because I didnt make his favourite food? maybe I didnt look pretty enough…… Before a Libra gets to that stage of hating their enemies, we first try to take some of it ourselves, even making excuses for the other party, it mus be my fault….Soi then next time we do anything for anyone else, we worry about every detail, but its not ego George, its fear… all Libras have that same fear, one day I will wake up and noone will care about me….or need me, And George, when a Libra woman is showing you that she can slay her own dragon the message is simply, respect me so Im worthy of you…..not I dont need you, its more like look, I can do it, dont be with me because you worry about me, be with me because you need me
The other message a Libra woman is giving you is hey, Im not an airhead. Stop laughing at me and telling me Im cute…. If your going to piss on me, have the decency to be honest so I dont blame myself for you
I’m a libra and I can’t be cold like that.. even to people I don’t like.. the very few people that I don’t like. In the past I have noticed that tauruses can kinda be mean. lol I dated one for 3 years and he was a ahole. Had another one fall in love with me about a year ago and he too was a jerk who treated me badly because he had feelings, but couldn’t do anything about it. Maybe the Taurus is overreacting. I always give everyone a fair chance though no matter the sign because I’m a Libra and thats just my nature.
I made love to my Libra man for the first time yesterday. It was amazing, texts all night from work, etc. He knows I am up early to email and today around 8-8:30 I gave in and texr him and asked if he was okay. He said had feelings for me, etc. Not sure how to act. How could there be such passionate lovemaking, kissing, oral sexy, telling how beautiful I am thqn pretty much nothing. Don’t play games with me. I can’t do this love me..love me not stuff. Any insight?
This was a short lived love affair. Made passionate love yesterday, not too much interaction today, Wow, what a mind blow this is. We talked about our lives, loss of love, faith in God, made passionate love then he pulls this disappearing act. I told him tonight via email I don’t play games. I’ve been hurt beyond belief from other men….I could care less if the sex is good. If 2 souls collide that is what spirit is…Don’t screw with my soul. I am so sick of games. Please pray for me.