Why did Libra turn cold?
April 4, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
In early March, a Taurus wrote:
i arranged to go out for drink with a Libra, he agreed to meeting up and seemed quite friendly in his texts. Until the day of going out he textd me a blunt message saying he couldnt make it, i assume hes not interested but y did he turn cold
Today, presumably the same person wrote:
Im female had a date with Libra male. Before his texts were warm and friendly. He cancelled last minute saying couldnt make it his text was cold. Thought that was it. Then he text me after 3 weeks. I replied but not heard again yet. Help?
One wouldn’t normally accuse Libra of being cold. This Venus-ruled sign is charming and polite. Unfortunately, Libra goes out of his way to avoid offending anyone, and there may not always be a diplomatic way to cancel a date.
How to back out gracefully? I’ll leave matters of textiquette to Miss Manners. Although cell phones are a great medium for an air sign, it may be difficult to convey emotional subtleties via SMS. Just because a text feels cold doesn’t mean that was the texter’s intention. And besides, would it have been better for him to write that he was no longer sweet on you? I’m not sure a Libra would text anything to hurt your feelings. Maybe he thought that “i cant make it” was all he could muster.
And yet … he texted you three weeks later, and did not respond to your reply. Libra indecision for ya! Why don’t you just CALL HIM?! Tell him you like him but are getting mixed signals, and you want to know what’s up. Yes, it’s a risk (anathema to Taurus, I know), but it’s the easiest way to stop torturing yourself. If he’s not straight with you, take that into consideration when you continue pining for him.
Comment below: Have you known a Libra to turn cold? How do you make sense of it?
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I pray for you. I’m sorry that it had to happen.
As for you Gemini Woman, I don’t think he’s actually serious. Sex is sex. It can be special, or it can just be a one-time thing. Libra men, although they truly wish for their perfect partner, they tend to get really carried away when it ISN’T their top-choice “partner,” they know it. Just the other day, I found out my soulmate had a one-night stand with some random woman during a party. He didn’t care for that woman.
In other words, if he at the least shared some feelings, then perhaps it is real. However, if he pulls the dissapearing act like he is Houdini (or starts to distance himself real fast), pull away and get ready to move on. Don’t fall for a Libra man if you have even the slightest feeling that it won’t last so long. It hurts.
…read the last 50 threads …this blog is absorbing …wish I’d jumped in a month ago
…wonder what sign none! is (ya, I know sooooo 70’s)
…LibraLady didn’t catch your Venus in Sign
…George, how often did you need to make the decisions? …what’s the deal, here? …how often did you have to choose between her peppermint and spearmint toothpaste?
…and did you ever get away with telling her to just brush her teeth already? …lmao
…had an Aries dad/Libra mom …sounds like you did what he did …do your own thing, and ignore her …problem – that normally means someone else gets stuck being the conduit of communication
…twolibrasbefore …that “parenting” comment is a gem …had me a Libra gal that I co-mingled with tell me that she’s never having kids because “she needs a man to take care of her” – classic …that part about “wonderful, gentle, and caring” is relative …they do their best imitation of whom they “think” June Cleaver is …been floatin’ around this site, and they say Pisces plays games …the scales can be a master at using jest to peck at the intellect …they’ll even prepare you to cook up a wonderlic test that those Twins, Vulcans, and Water-bearers won’t pass …lastly, you forgot #17 – they love to use guilt, but they’ll have a conniption if made to feel guilty
…Pisces Queen …how did your scales fair against the scales? …were you constantly bending to his whims?
…Teddy, a Libra admitting their failures – that’s just perfect (I couldn’t help myself)
…Virgo Diva, be nice …a lot of Libras have personal planets in your sign …they go hot and cold – its part of their process of being selective …take it from a Pisces that didn’t make the Virgo cut (O.o) …Librans eventually want to select everything available to them on the shelf
lessdistractedlibra, what’s your Venus? (missing from your list) …”emotional weaponry”??? …don’t make me
…reading on, you make it sound like Libra needs re-programming in order to be functional, or adopt new stance …(I can understand your fascination with Virgo …who better to undertake the task than Mr. Roboto)
all jockeying aside, ladies if you know your Venus, and would be kind enough to share… I’d be indebted… (personal reasearch)
Aquarius, Moon in Gemini
Virgo, Moon in Gemini
Leo, Moon in Gemini
Libra, Moon in Gemini
I’m attempting to discern if the perpetual vacillation exhibited by my Libra interest is caused by her Sun, or Moon in Gemini who have a propensity to latch to me like leeches, or if it’s ’cause I’m that Top Gun known as ICEMAN…
Thank you…
Chip
Im Scorpio Rising, Aries Moon and I think Virgo is my Venus…. Why does that matter? My Aqua Guy is Taurus Rising, Gemini Moon and Venus in Pisces, I guess were a strange mix but its working LOL
PS, I was raised by a Cancer man and a Scorpio woman, and my guy was raised by two Scorpio’s…LOL Not much chance to grow up flakey, or able to be indecisive…:)
LL you asked “why”, my list:
a. There was resonance in what your wrote, and in what twolibrasbefore wrote…
b. Here goes a sweeping assumption …based on emperical evidence, or consensus amongst astrologers’ text that proliferates various media, well-aspected Moon-Sun combinations suggest a familiarity (or that “soul-mate” quality) for the Moon person towards the Sun …Venus can point to how you behave towards the object of your desire
c. If I were to surmise – it sounds like you are content to be in a “loose”** relationship, and tlb leans toward stability… she said, “once we (Libra)*** take committment seriously”, and the partner is aware of our “devotion/loyalty”, Libra warms up…
d. LL, your planetary placements are similar to my mom’s; you sort of echo her sentiments; I’m interested in a Libra, but not in pursuing my mom… (irregardless of what the physche majors out there think!)…
My dilemma is simple… in my experience, Moon in Gemini are easily influenced, hesitant, and capricious (yes, even the Virgo Sun said that she was always changing her mind)… since I seem to find myself liaising in perpetuum with these particular Moon girls, I was wondering whether this Sun Libra/Moon Gemini combo is going to leave me “out in the cold”… my Venus is in Aries, and hers in Scorpio… I’m getting leery of initiating contact, and would prefer not to rely on my acumen
does the chase stop? Or do I got to continually pre-heat the oven?
Lastly, I know that Libras have a tendency to arrive at decisions rationally. Is there ever a time when its predicated on raw intensity?
Chip
Disclaimer:
**by no means am I advocating that you possess that derogotary quality; normally, I wouldn’t qualify the adjectives I use, but given that text can be taken out of context when I exercise artistic liberty, I felt that I must… ’cause using “airy” as a stand-in, just wouldn’t do either
***sounds like Venus in Virgo to me
I kinda need some advice….
I started hanging out with a libra guy,we got along so well,had fun together went to the movies,kissed,hugged,had sex,hang out,went to museums,went to art galleries,did a lot of awesome things together and stuff but honestly,I started falling in love with him,I did.
Not in a chessy “I love you,cant live without you ” kind of thing,I am a gemini
and maybe thats got nothing to do with it,but I am not very romantic,I try though,and I like to hug and kiss and be lovely with the person I care about but thats it,I dont usually go over the top with romance,with me things are easy ,chill…there is romance involved but I dont like it when things get to sofocating,the one thing I do want is honesty and when people are straight forward with me…thats all I ask but whatever,back to where I was.
I fell for the guy,so I had to tell him because I wanted him to know how I felt right,so I did,I told the libra guy :
“I am falling in love with you,but im not really expecting anything back,I am falling for you and I like it,if you want me to I can be there for you and love you very much and be your friend,lover,partner in crime,etc,if not,its ok im not gonna get mad or sad or anything,Ill understand”
and a bunch of other stuff,but after I told him about my feelings for him,he suddenly changed his attitude towards me,he used to be very amorous ,he used to hug me and kiss me more often and all those lovely things couples do…(yes,we slept together a few times…not good,I now)but now he barely touches me,he hugs me but not like before,he never kisses me anymore,he treates me more like well….his friend….
I am so confused and Im thinking about asking him whats going on,I can be brutally honest and open when necessary and right now I just want him to be honest and straight forward with me but then again I have no idea how to treat this libra man,and how to ask him cause I dont want the guy to feel overwhelmed or something,I just want him to be “fair” and to speak the truth….he is sooo confusing…
ooh and another thing,he suddenly turned cold to me after I told him about my feelings but he has never said anything about anything,I have no idea what he wants from me,what he feels…nothing
then again everytime we hang out he makes plans for other days,he keeps making plans for us!!!
he invites me to places,he says things like “when we” go there…or “I have to take you there” or “we have to go to that party”
stuff like that and I seriously hate this,im starting to feel annoyed by his attitude even if I love the guy hes gonna end up by making me crazy and im gonna back off him i know…and i dont want that,hes a good person and great friend bu tseriously,are all libras like that??
why the hell cant you make up your mind!!!
Chip
Hi, it never hurts to pre heat the oven. Right now Im crazy in love with a man that pre heats the oven every other day, if you love her keep pursuing…
Minamay
No, we are not all like that. I’ve never had trouble making up my mind. I love hot not cold and I’d kill or die for those I love. My Libra ex husband was the opposite, he is the “cold” libra type, selfish and cruel, glutunous and perverse, so no 2 libra are the same. My older brother is a hermit libra, and get this, the man I love is an Aquarian, in touch with his feelings and emotions, he’s more emotional then I am, (which is very hard, I’m emotional) so I’m learning that Aquas are all different too. If you meet one Libra that is an a@#%$le it doesnt mean the next will be.
Chip
Raw intensity? For me you bet! there are many times like that. I cant speak for other Libras but I’ve made snap decisions and didnt regret many, a few times when I listen to other people I regretted it, so I go with my instincts now, so far okay too
minamay
Ias married to a Libra man for 5 years, we’d been childhood friends then dated in high school, years later met up in our early twenties and he was very affectionate. One day he changed. After we were married he stopped being cuddly and became sexually charged, he stopped giving me hugs and kisses and wanted rough sex every day, and I don’t mean once a day, he was never satisfied, not too many men can climax 3 times and are ready again in a half hour but he was, he was “sure” of me now, so why should he try making me happy, right? The more I tried to make him happy, his fave meals, showing interest in his lame video games ect, the more he withheld affection and when I confronted him he said that sex meant the same thing, I found out later that he suspected me of cheating (which was stupid, where would I get the energy?)and that he was trying to exhaust me so I’d stay home (I never went out) After 10 years of divorce I finally asked him, why he thought I was cheating, he said it was because of the way I looked…..Sometimes these boys are not smart, then he said the strangest thing, “I would have cheated on me” Maybe your guy has low self esteem and needs to find out why you care about him the way you do….
Now that he knows that I’ve met my soul mate (my Aquarius man), 10 yrs after our last physical meeting, he told me that he wished he had been able to touch me more often, how he meant that is a mystery, “twice a day wasn’t enough” LOL or if he meant affection wise, I have no clue, but I find that since our breakup he thinks about “us” more, now that there is no “us”
Maybe your Libra guy needs to see that you won’t live in a clod relationship forever, it’s as if they need that wake up call sometimes (crazy boys)
cold not clod….come to think of it mine was a clod, LOL
I have a Libra friend who I think I am falling in love with. We have been friends for 2 years. We have a friendship and business partner type of relationship. WE do go out both have fun together. He often will buy my dinner or lunch and vice versa. When we are out he talks about “wanting our relationship to work” So far we have a very good friendship but its not to the real dating stage in my opinion. Yet others who see us think we are dating. They see the chemistry between us when we are together. The problem is I guess as a Capricorn I am looking into the future and want to know if we can have a real relationship. He’s said he loves me but it sounds like one uses love in casual conversation. As in you say I love you to someone who does something nice for you. Yet friends have told me they notice he acts jealous when others are around me his tone changes. He seems to be nervous or find an exit. Yet when we are alone or around his friends or collegues he acts very friendly. If alone he will act flirtatious. He will use certain sexual body language to convey a point but in a discrete manner. He also smiles or laughs if I use certain words to tell him how sexy or cute he is. I told him that its hard for me to tell a person how much I love them but rather I use actons. I will often bring him his favorite sweet treats or snacks. Yes I eill go across town just to bring him something just to spend a few minutes in his presence to see his smile or hear his voice. Yet he doesnt call often. If I call though he calls back immediately and will spend a long time talking on the phone about nothing at all. Often giggling or asking me how I am or anything he can do for me. If something happen to upset me or make me mad at him hes devastated. He rushes to fix whatever it is he said or did to make it right. Once he knows its right hes back to being charming and oh so cute.
So what do I do? Is there a problem here? It just seems its taking forever for this relationship to progress beyond this.
One other thing Hes 25 and hes Chinese. His family still allows him to live at home as its very common in the culture. Hes often talked about getting his own place or try to convince me to buy a home. Yet I am not sure where its going. Once I know he loves me I want it to work and will love him always.
Im puzzled about the Libra guy I know. He is very Mysterious, but yet a nice guy. I have known him a long long time. He called and ask me if I wanted to date him, he would come we would eat, go to Casino had alot of fun, he would call and text me.
Once I ask him if he had someone at work, he said work? no. Have one at such and such, a matter of fact two women? S o then he in return said do u have anyone? I said no and to be honest I like you. He got all bent out of shape, said oh thats not possible, I need someone my own age, someone that works same shift as I do and someone different than my mom.
I thought What??????????????????????
Why did he ever call in the first place or even come??????????????????????? Always said we were friends. And to this day if you text him that would be a benefit to him he will answer otherwise he wont.
I fell for him to. I do NOT UNDERSTAND LIBRA MEN…THEY ARE VERY DIFFERENT.
Dated one in High School that was the same way, and Im in my 50’s now.
By the way Im a Virgo, Libra has alot of personal planets in Virgo, so we should hit it off well if he was normal. lol
And when he does answer he is always nice, and tips for me?
Yeah, I should not have gotten involve in a libra male…
” So those stopped.. and he went to cali and came back and i saw him at my friends party and was trying to make the moves on me by being sweet.. we did ended up making out and sleeping next to each other, holding each other.. I ended up liking him, but i did not talk to him about my feelings at all. Then he told my friend ” she does not know what she wants and she is giving me mix signals” so i tried talking to him and he was like ignoring it..
My friend introduced me to him and we all went dancing.
He gave me a look, (reading through his eyes).. and asked me if i wanted to dance. His friend was like dance with me! and he turned to me and said ” i will dance with you but not her”
Well anyways we ended up talking and exchanging numbers.. I wouldn’t text him but he would text me in the mornings saying ” hey love
Then i kinda laid off of him but we were still talking and hanging out every now and then. Then I told him about my true feelings for him again then he ignored it and so i was like ok im through!.Told my friend that he wasnt fond of me and thought i was pyscho so I deleted his facebook and his number.. and did not talk to him for three months.. Then he requested me back on facebook and told me ” thanks for deleting me” I replied ( i should not) then we began talking again, and he gave me his new number, so i visited him and we talked and everything seem to go smooth right?
we texted and i would see him every two weeks so i won’t get emotionally attached.. then i saw him on sunday cause i was bringing him pie..lol then he began flirting while we were watching a movie.. then we were playing and next thing you know he pulled me in to kiss him and i was like no, but we ended up ccleeping with each other.. we got done and asked if i was ok and gave me hugs and kisses and told me next time i will decide… now he is barely texting, so i guess i m going to ignore him again.. everytime i don’t pay him any mind he comes back.. and i know he have other girls he sees.. ugh I need to leave this man alone!!!
ok all you women who do not understand the libra man.i am libra and when it comes to love we only want one thing and thats someone who can show affection at the spontanious moments during anytime of day. we want someone to leave us a short note to say ive been thinking of you and cant wait to tell you. we want someone who is not afraid to put their arms around us out un public. we want a lady who does appriciate the things we do each day that surprises you. not to be taken for granted. our love is not like any you have ever known. you draw us in by your reactions on a daily clock thats ticking. when we feel as though you do not want to be with us we are quite cold. we need the love that you so want to recieve too.hope i wasnt to harsh. me and my wife are both libras and for the past twenty years she continues to be my life line. i think of her each day knowing she is doing the same. we all need space but when are feeling down or need a friend to talk too we know exactly where to look. if you dont have that then keep libra far from your relationships because its hopeless.