Chart Analysis: Why am I attracted to the wrong men?
April 26, 2007 by kishner
Marsey provided a birth time (click chart to view) and asks,
I’m often attracted to men who are not compatible with my sun sign and not attracted to the ones that are. This is a problem because eventually the relationship that I start with the incompatible man ends because we are incompatible.. I’m not overly picky. I want a man who is sexy, charismatic, intelligent and fun to be with. I find that men who are compatible with Virgo are boring or moody and I am turned off by them. This is a habit I want to break but can’t stand the idea of being with a man I find boring…Help!
Boring: Taurus and Capricorn. Moody: Cancer and Scorpio. Is that what you’re saying? Why don’t you name names?
Looking at your chart, I’d surmise that you are attracted to Libras. Mars, the traditional ruler of your Scorpio Descendant, is in Libra. Also, Mars signifies guys you’re hot for. Libra’s incompatible with Virgo, as far as Sun signs go. Better for you would be a Scorpio Sun (to match your Seventh House cusp) with Venus in Libra. A Mars-Venus conjunction between charts would be great for sex, and Scorpio would be a good Sun sign match with Virgo. Your Neptune in Scorpio would find him just dreamy.
Let’s get back to “boring and moody.” You’ve got Taurus rising and Venus in Cancer. Surely, some part of you craves security. Your Sun conjoins both Uranus and Pluto, though, so you also need excitement and intensity. Stability is not so easy for you to accomplish, with your attraction to mysterious men and rabble-rousers.
Saturn is sufficiently “boring.” And he’s opposing your love planet Venus, which is also the ruler of your chart. It is not so easy to find love with this placement. You may not feel you are getting the adoration you crave, and that warm and cozy Cancer feeling can be hard to come by. Not impossible, mind you, for Saturn is also the planet of commitment and responsibility. But until you resolve your insecurites about being able to attract someone who can care for you, you may continue to be drawn to precisely those types who won’t provide what you need.
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This was good, very very good.
Especially that last line.
I like the various examples cited, and will search for the parallels in my own chart, to set me on track.
I seem to attract the wrong men. In my first dating years i seemed to date emotionally abusive and manipulating men, then i decided i did not want that anymore. since then ive dated men who have turned out to be very attentive but also jealous and unable to let me have my own time. the last few attempts have not gone past text messages.. they say they like me, and then don’t text. I don’t understand, ive tried to understand myself in order to fix this, but i am at a dead end. I am a virgo/libra born on 23rd sept, not sure which sign i really am. i need some kind of help, i’m beginning to think that something is wrong with me, i’m nearly 26, fairly attractive, meaning i can hold my own, but it just doesn’t seem to work what do i do?
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