Are Libras unfaithful?
April 19, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
There’s been a short discussion in the comments section on Does Uranus in the Seventh House automatically mean infidelity?
proserpine wrote,
I have heard … that Moon in Libra means the person is unfaithful in relationships, but that that placement often means the native will have two relationships at the same time(or want to have them). Libra Sun will often have two relationships–and *that* I can testify to–personally, and second-hand.:-).I have known a few Moon-in-Libra folks and they often do have more than one love affair going on.
I scoured the web a bit to look into this, because it’s not something I’ve heard about. (Was I not invited to the cheating party?)
novareinna writes, “Libra is easily attracted to other individuals and fidelity is not this Sign’s strong suit…although ironically, there may be evidence of jealousy on both sides at displays of such disloyal behavior.”
Victoria Bazeley writes in the larger context of afflictions to Neptune in Libra, “I get a bit suspicious when I see a lot of Libra in any chart (including a Libra Ascendant), although I don’t actually have the hard data to back up my suspicions.”
Granted, I don’t have any personal planets in Libra, so this sign is somewhat alien to me. But conceptually, Libran infidelity doesn’t make sense. Yes, they’re flirtatious, but among the air signs, Libra would be the least likely to cheat. Aquarius is the sign of independence, and Gemini is the sign of “twos,” needing variety to keep stimulated. Libra is just so focused on partnership — why would they be unfaithful?
Perhaps indecision would be one culprit. Libra may be torn between two (or more) lovers, because they’re constantly balancing each person’s virtues and faults.
Libra is ruled by Venus, whose counterpart is Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love and beauty. Aphrodite frequently cheated on her hubby, Hephaestus. If you are a Libra, the sign placement of your Venus will be especially significant. Due to its proximity to the Sun, Venus can only be within two signs of either side of Libra, so that would mean Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio and Sagittarius. Venus in Sag would be prone to play the field.
I also suspect that the outer planets may have something to do with this reputation. Boomers born between 1943 and 1956 have Neptune in Libra, and people born between 1968 and 1975 have Uranus in Libra. Any Libras born during either of these periods are likely (using a 10 degree orb for a conjuction to one’s Sun) to have their basic nature influenced by either of these powerful planets.
Victoria Bazeley again writes,
afflictions to Neptune in Libra (affecting the generation now in its 50s) have proven to be problematic in a number of cases. (Libra is the sign of marriage, so this is a blending of the symbols for deception and marriage!)
And people with Uranus-Sun conjuctions need their share of freedom, not to mention the fact that Uranus in Libra breaks down the conventions of marriage.
Anyone with a Moon in Libra who was born during these two periods will likely have a Moon-Neptune or Moon-Uranus conjunction, which correspond, respectively, with poor boundaries or a need for independence in relationships.
I’m not convinced Libra deserves this bad rap, but I’m open to your comments below. My Aquarian Moon wants some logical explanations, though.
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that annoys me to suprisigly could it be that he woulndt know shed cheat. Im sorrt sweetexistance ive taknen an interested in observing the both of you. On a libra part heartless almost detached and a bit selfish but maybe this only describes younger libras. Dropped fast but in truth maybe its in there mind set not to waste time. Well there are my thoughts so far. Ill give more in due time. Since ive taken interest in this i’ll be reading and researching and waiting to see how your debate ends.
I am a Libra woman and I have never cheated on anyone. I’m a fairly young Libra too (23).
I have Venus in Scorpio and the Moon in Cancer, so that might have something to do with it. When I love someone, I’m very loyal, devoted…I just want to make the other person feel incredibly loved, needed, and appreciated…I also have a strong need to heal in love: to make the other person feel secure, emotionally safe (i.e., that he can be himself with me), content, and connected to someone who cares for him deeply and who is faithful to him. I would also expect my partner to be faithful to me as well.
To me, the whole concept of cheating doesn’t make any logical sense. If you just want sex and not a relationship, be honest about that. If you want a relationship to survive, keep it alive with romance and affection–relationships are living things and need to be cared for. If you have tried everything and a relationship just isn’t going to work, leave and give the other person a chance to find someone new (and give yourself this chance too!) who’s more compatible. That’s only fair. There are so many other options when it comes to not being satisfied with a relationship: talking it out, reflection, therapy, breaking up, etc. Cheating though is wrong because it’s a betrayal of trust. Plus, for me anyway, I never have eyes for anyone else when I really and truly care for someone: whenever I see another guy, I am reminded of why I love the one that I love and of what I like about him.
So, those of you who have been hurt by some of my fellow Libras, take note: we are not ALL like that.
And as for Virgos…I personally find that many of them are very kind. I also like how many Virgo men appreciate intelligence in a woman ^_^. There’s a certain purity to many Virgos–purity of mind, heart, and spirit. Granted, you will meet some Virgos who have really badly-placed ascendants, moons, and Venus signs, and Virgos who manifest more of the negative traits of the sign, but those are the exception, not the rule. I’ve usually found Virgos to be delightful, loyal, and honest. Not every Virgo is nice–there are good and bad types of every sign–but overall I’ve never had major problems with them.
I have a Libra ascendent and Ive never cheated, but I do flirt!
I have alot of Libra friends and have dated 3 Libras, I notice from my friends that they are faithful to the person they truely unconditionally in love with and commited to the person they simply love. Theres a big difference! But once they stray… you can consider the relationship over way before they strayed, they just didnt know how to break the other persons heart yet and are usually already attached to this new person. Their kind of innocently unaware of just how deep they wound a person by prolonging the inevitable with their reasoning being [I still care about the other person and I feel "responsible" for their feelings so maybe if im cold enough THEY will leave.]
Which is so far from the truth, its a selfish act for an unselfish logic. The sign of balance though might not mean these indivduals ARE infact balanced, from a third persons perspective theyll say, “Nah Libra thats not fair to just keep stringin that girl on while your attached to the other one.” than libra feels pressured by the statues quo of how love SHOULD his logic seems to everyone else unfair to both women and since libra is the sign of relationships he takes what others say and is now married to a women he didnt truely love but, simply loved.
And thats hard to understand for most people… you love nature, you love chocolate and you can love moments you love this womens beauty or that womens romantic gestures, for libras its difficult to see why people think the joy of life comes principally from the joy of human relationships, love is all around us its in everything and its for everyone. Their country is the world, and their religion is to love and do good.
But all that love its not easy loving the external entity that is THE “relationship” giving energy and love to that entity permanently for a libra is a hard lesson sometimes because there is so much to LOVE, but they learn true happiness is only real when shared.
Libra’s goal is relationships not careless sex, some “date” aggressively in their youth though which can hurt alot of admirers. But eventually they learn not to be so love drunk and inlove with aspects of relationships and choose to settle down and find true love to share.
I also see libras give as much as they get, so if they feel the unbalance in the love thats shared from the other person than thats a misdemeanor on the offender for not being fair, so it wouldnt be unfair is libra chooses to get their fill of love elsewhere. LOL! I know I know… alot of people might not agree with that rationality. And not all sun libras behave the exact same way.
Sadgie:
So if a Libra cheats on you does that automatically mean that they are not “in love” with you but simly just love you?
Pisces Queen:
Thats my opinion only because… well im not a libra so im only speaking out of observation here. But Libra’s concept of love is different from alot of other peoples concept. And Libra is the sign of relationships, so their soul journey in this life is about love, balance and relationships. Through relationships they get balance which to them is love you being the ying to their yang kinda thing. And sometimes Libras get caught up in finding the balance with someone that is only them working for the balance they can end up sacrificing their time, energy and whatever other resources into a relationship that should naturally be balanced already.
Thats just my opinion.
Thanks Sadgie
Sadgie
Very good observation….I tried to make it work, I was the busy Libra in the reltionship, my Libra ex, he was sort of along for the ride, I never called it balance though, I called it repairing. Constantly trying to fix every little crack in the dam, Of course, Libra against Libra can make a dam explode…..
Both Scorpio rising too, somehow made it worse
Pisces Queen
If anyone cheats on you they are a creep…Regardless of sign or age. Not all Libras cheat and I cant imagine anyone that creepy being capable of love….If I fell out of love with someone I would tell them and move on, then I could see other people…I hate cheaters and I resent the fact that men always suspect me of this behavoir just because I smile at everyone, I smile at women too and at the neighbors cat, I wouldnt sleep with any of them either LOL
my ex had a venus in libra. he cheated on me by saying it came from the thing that he was cheated by his aries ex girlfriend. however, in his next relationship with a different girl he kept cheating and cheating. at one point, they ended up having an open relationship cuz the girl herself (venus in aries) wanted to be with different men.
I’m a Libra and have never cheated on my boyfriends. In the beginning of the dating phase, I have dated other guys. But once there is an established relationship, I tend to have only eyes and heart for that person. Even when the relationship has soured beyond repair and is on its last legs I can’t bring myself to stray. Part of is a loyalty, while I’m a bit of a flirt and love attention, the act of following through on cheating doesn’t appeal to me. There’s always something that prevents me, could be some moral compass or the fact that I tend to value my lover/boyfriend. I have those lighthearted daydream fantasies about running away with another guy, but normally when the relationship is on bad terms.
The funny part is I’m currently being cheated on in my relationship. It was so traumatizing, it was a huge betrayal. There’s something so horrifying about being lied to and the act of deception that is completely overrides the whole “sex with another person” thing. Right now I am still in that relationship still, but I intuitively know that it won’t be for the long haul. I could never marry or be with someone longterm like that. But when I love it’s hard to say goodbye. Aiyaiyai.
I am a libra.. I admit after several years of being in a relationship that has gone sour.. if you are in a relationship and the romance and the fire is gone. Someone good looking come along that shows you the affection you haven’t had in two years.. it is possible to cheat. i have cheated before I will admit, it happened once. It was because I was severly unhappy in my relationship. A happy libra won’t cheat!
Libra women usually dont cheat. The men do. My boyfriend’s friend is a libra with venus in scorpio. And currently he is in a relationship, but goes secretly at night to meet someone else.
Inspector of Venus:
Has he ever said why he does that?
haha to tell you thr truth a libra cheats . but they cheat because they easily get annoyed and get tired of a relationship they will feel bad and wont tell the partner the truth of what happen this reason is because ibras hate to hurt peoples feelings they love keeping people happy they flirt and love to be in love so when ever a men looks at a libra they immidatly think damn what do i do hes so cute oh welll am going for it. i know because i am a libra and i have cheated on all my relationships . AND ITS NOT BECAUSE I AM A SLUT I JUST GET BORED EASILY SORRY
Hi there Pisces queen, I am not sure about which libra guy you are asking here, but I’ll talk about the two I mentioned.
My ex cheated on me because back then I got busy with my school and gave him less calls. He told me he was in fear that I was going to walk out of his life and so he ended up catching another’s tail. When I asked my bf what is wrong with his friend he simply told me that the guy can’t resist temptation. He told my bf he feels bad to hurt anyone. Interestingly, his looks and the way he talks attract women very easily. So they invite him and he accepts it.The woman who is his real girlfriend goes through intense insecurity and often finds herself bursting into tears in public when she catches his eyes “wandering”. They often argue about his behavior. I must also say here that she is a fire sign and thus likes to control the relationship. My boyfriend told me the guy doesn’t like that, but at the same time he doesn’t want to break up with her because she is highly educated and has a job through which she makes him dine and wine in fine restaurants. So you can say that the guy is a gold digger and is with her because of her money.