Comments on: Why are Scorpios so sexual?

By: blakgoat

blakgoat — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 04:00:16 +0000

@countess
ur comments are analytical and on point, im impressed.
u see it,
u understand it,
u feel it,
but can u give in to it.
u pretty much summed it up when u said u love him but he wants you to be IN love with him.
im just giving a male perspective.

By: blakgoat

blakgoat — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 03:15:44 +0000

@countess
i only had chance to read ur last three posts. but it seems like u got all the answers, but u dont know it.
ur making the guy "tense up".
countess said: " likes to get me all worked up to the point im talking so fast im not really thinking just reacting and then he'll get all calm and almost smile and ask "so what do YOU want?" orrrr "so what are WE are we going to do about things?"
that's a que. he wants more passion and instinct …. less rationale.

By: TheCountess

TheCountess — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 00:28:55 +0000

ok this too long of a comment thing is SUPER annoying. Ive got stuff to say goddarnit! Lol.__Anywhoo, point being due to this lack of clues that a man is into me and his subesequent behavior in the beginning of blowing me off, flaking out, asking me out and the literally calling me up a few hours later right before we're supposed to meet and saying "something came up". i mean ive never felt comfortable with him, certainly not to be vunerable enuf to let all my guards down to be anything other than a little hard on him and as detached as possible. even when i try to be different, its not natural and i think he senses that. so i wonder if its not me thats getting in the way?__He also likes to get me all worked up to the point im talking so fast im not really thinking just reacting and then he'll get all calm and almost smile and ask "so what do YOU want?" orrrr "so what are WE are we going to do about things?" And it always throws me off balance so i collect myself and act cool and reply "i don't know. you figure it out. im fine either which way."____and it just goes on and on…____

By: TheCountess

TheCountess — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 00:02:44 +0000

He dated this girl for a few weeks. I found a picture of them together on his phone as i was scrolling thru the ones he WANTED to me to see (altho i have a suspicion he was hoping i would see this one too, idk why). He was very affectionately embracing her from behind, very protective, very possessive, both of them smiling as he held his phone out to capture the picture.This was the cause of our big emotional $hit show a couple weekends ago. I just couldnt get over how natural and happy they looked. It wasn't anything special, just the basic way a man acts when he's even minimully attracted to a woman. And yet, and this is what he really doesnt seem to get, he doesnt act that way with me! He even stated, "Some people bring out certain things in you. you dont bring that out in me." And then he claims its nothings, she's nothing and i'm "more" and none of this should bother me or threaten me. But for a women, i just can't get over this. I mean this the lowest level of a man showing their attraction for you and if i dont even accomplish THAT than WTF?!?!

By: TheCountess

TheCountess — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 23:53:59 +0000

tthe beginning part all sounds very like him.

Im very sad and yet still very confused as to what to do. I think he believes im not the one and believes i deserve more – that he loves me just not how i want. And i can't love him THAT way because he does not have it for me. I can just love, not be in love.

Its all very sad. And even sadder because i have no way to stop it for either of us. I could walk away, ive tried, but it causes him pain and i'm not determined enuf to keep walking when he puts up such an arduous fight…because i really dont want to go, I care for him, he's of important worth to me. I wish we could both feel what we want to towards each other. It seems like such a waste to have all these other important rare aspects and yet the simple basic feeling of romanticness is not there.

And I wonder…maybe it's me? Maybe there's something in me that's not letting go and therefor he can't let go into either. Especially since he mirrors me so perfectly. Maybe i'm not creating a flourishing environment for love?

By: Phenix/scorpio

Phenix/scorpio — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:44:15 +0000

Scorpio femme- It no that we dont try cuase we do more then we should and stick around longer then we think we ouaght to. Intruth we do love them but its not what we want and we hate ourselves for not loving the person the same. We feel obligated to return tht love but how can we return it if we do not feel the same. In a relationship where theres something missing we want to leave but how can we we dont want to hurt thatperson but they refuse to let go and alas we arent found of letting goits very hard to let go of things. Even if we do that person was ours they were the object of our desirefoor a time we gave them ourselves. we dont want anyone else to have them. It becomes a double edge sword in a way of want but not wanting. In this case we want them for the wrong reasons but are unable to let go of soemthing thats keeping life combtterable. Another sadness is never finding a place to belong. Talking to many people but not satisfied , getting wealth not satisfied getting love not satisfied we want that one more than anything in the world and we want that romantisiced lovesometimes to be the best for a woman to have a close cliche but how can we when the worlds so diffrent. It bothers that sex is purley physicl for some and the eye for an eye thing makes us bitter. Its so easy for us to self destruct. And we fear to show all and for them to leave that is par of it but who could ever be strong enough to understand or even take all the emotion we hold in. The sign of extremes and thats definatley true. All the love all the hate, all the bitterness and sweetness in short its a fear of being rejected from hat whitch we want the most. And even if we find it what then. And it becomes somethigng bitter also when a woman says things like why cant they just except me for all of who i am or something like that. You cant just take the good without the bad. And you must earn us. To a degree it hurts us and i wont lie about that. To test someone and sometimes its dissapointing when they fall short. Life to seems harder we dont seem to know exactly what we want and everything seems to be meaningless. Therefore if we cant find something we want or even need were ok for a time but then we become obsessive of soemthing else. Relgion astrology, sex, viloilence, money we learn to control our feelings and hide and that to is a weakness after so loong of being a robot in a sense its hard to just turn your soul back on after the hardships and weiryness. And we want to help other and do but we wonder why is there no help for us. And that mystery might be secrets and mysreyies or even lies but its also power we can never show our hand. We must give it out in small doses to protect ourselves. As mush as we give oh there is so much more and we grow and change with it. And we to males need attion i will not even try to deny that. We crave it because most of the time we are observing life waiting for someone to make us feel. And yet we cant willingly make a mistake. We do at least once but after that we cant cuase we know better then that and we are so hard on ourselves on what we should be. We can be whatever we desire but we only want to be what our other dsires and if we give so fully it may just destroy us. Literally. Our heart is in everything i think. everything we enjoy at least. And scorpio femme i do beleiveyou im involved with a scorpio woman and i must say to you noone has ever been able to capture me so. She told me yesterday she feeds off my energy nd feels weak when shes away from me. We are nuatrually almost always together. Even with her i find it hard to trust and there in lies a fualt that is large within the scorpio people. Trust but who can truley blame us when if the other left thered be so large of a whole within our hearts. I’d still love to hear as much possible on a scorpio female or all females. I also admit we struggle with a complex witchive seen on here many times. We all seem to attract he oppset sex and we are loyal but its annoyence to some when we know we cant so many others. Some will go back im sure bu its not for the reasons most think. the reason is actually based on the thought of i dont like the idea of others touching her and the thought that she will be with many other men and a scorpio wanting to get even will haft to do the same. Basically its a lack of faith in the other and an anger towrds oneself. Like in his mind he bleiveis she can be controlleed by sx and as such will have more becuase toher sex doesnt haft to be special itll still feel good. And t the male an unfotante thing he cares not for sex unless his emotions are involved otherwise sex is meaningless and hardley feels good. Basically a male can fake sex. And its an anooyence to haft to put so much emotion and get so much knowledge to feel combterable and satisfied but i guess its another price. Sorry running short on time. I hope you found this interesting.

By: Scorpiofemme

Scorpiofemme — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 15:39:21 +0000

So let me understand this…. You are always sad, or have deep emotions… but we both know that the happy moments do not come as often as the casual or normal ones, you feel alone even when you are not. when in a relationship if happy you do not say it, cause you need a replacement (that would explain why I ended mine when I had an alternative, common ground here) so you never try to work things out? you just expect it to happen?

I may be a scorpio … but I do try … it is true that I know…I always know that he is not the one… but I still try….I guess you guys don’t even try anymore… you leave it as it is?

We do control the money, the power and the sex, but I believe that our biggest pain is that we do not have the trust to share these with someone as strong as us. I have to say this… we look for strength and power in the one we love, not vulnerability in life, but vulnerability in the love with us, we need attention cause we can give so much more if we get a little. The mystery is protection, we do not trust. This is the female, what I hear is that the male is everything that we are, but so much more intense.

PS. Mystery means lies, or hiding truth, so if something hurts we never say it, you just have to be even more cautious. If you think that something might bother us, it does.

countess, hope this helps a bit

By: Phenix/scorpio

Phenix/scorpio — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 04:42:54 +0000

About sorpios-Ive been following the threads very carefully. I must say foralk on us scorpio males. Everyonets noone knows us. SOmetimes we ourselves dont know oursleves so what makes anyone think htey could figure us out. We are ever cahnging in water ever wy as if to contradict any theory. We show only what we want you to see and that is it. As much as anyone couldknow about us theres so much more we hide. Theres a reason why scorpio’s are the ruler of the house of sex money and power. Often refered to as the house of hidden power. Theres a reason y our sign is the sign of the investgator that we are said to hold the answers and that we will come the closest. theres also a reason we are the legendary sign and so many striveto find what we hide. It takes a brave woman to fly with us even our lowly evolved selvs. It takes a brave one to reform and help us astrong one the question is more along the lnes is the price worth the cost to fly with the phenix. We often mirrior other or haseveryone forgotten. And we are bitter cuase as much as everyone else feels alone a scorpio male feels more alone. Becuase we are smarter then most and we defintaley have more emotions. Ithurts so deeply in anything and everything. We feel so much. It feels we can feel others feelings others emotions. As much as others think they can get close they never really will. Others can calculate others can strive to find it but they fail. And each scorio is different unto his ownthere is suc choas in our creature. A sign with three signs cabable of havig other traits as well. We are the chammilions. As much as any sign whishes for this they can never truly understand. YOu could try to empathize and try to picture it but never truley attain. Each scorpio male or female is so driven and dedicated to something it becomes a obsession an object of love a possion n a way but if your the one the strong one who waits and understands when to bac of f and wait and be smart youll find yourselves changing and learning lessons about life and everything. Think everytime someone meets a scorpio male has there life not changed there view of things are touched by something that others can hardley fill. We stand out inmemory. And remember we never forget an act of kindness. We are sown what we are shown and in some cases the scorpios are somewhatfools but you sense that amzing power that draws you evn to the lowliest scorpio. Thin of a dane n some ways a fool of scorpio does not yet no how to dance maybe es overbalanceing the steps fumbling in embaressment. Think of a dance of seductivness hes trying to find the perfect one. If its not you if you dont understand and wait thn why should hetreat you any different from anyone else. Te greatest things in life are to be earned. You must behigher. then any woman knowthat even the lowliest scorpio knows that he is being unfair. Its a test imagine that love you see and love and crave so much is that not worth it. If every girl who hs dated a scorpio male or female is so brilliant then why dothey not figure ou the greates mystery and be happy with it. We are just tryin to guard the only thing thatcan hurt us. We hurt so deeply.As for why we cant move on and just leave sometimes because for the momment that person were with holds our attion. We need another to take it before we can move on otherwise we wont just leave even if smethings missing. Think getting a job is it wise to leave the one you have before having another. No it is not. (so couness theres your dilimmea writtern out before you). If your feeling a missing feeling he most likey does. We scorpios like our secrets. Why would we tell you that we have a missing feeling then you wouldnt stay the same. We haft to hide that. Even if its from ourselves. Just like i ave done inthe past its easier then you might think for a person to do. Think how good a scorpios mask can be.(sorry from here i may leave thing out mere concidence maybe but others require my attion geeze so many people need advice in tis wworl and so many need hep) as far as getting us to open up. patience is the bst virtue in this case. Wth time we get better. Give us more time to be combterable andwe will open up. Ask questions and yeah tell them you need them and be reassuring. maybe suggest or hnt that you guy s should shae a notebook. Other things we do get annoyed when yu get excited and leave us too smeone we get annoed whn you dont introduce us. It is the thought thatcounts. I man just let them know. Even that grey lizard of a scorpio will understand that. I do acknowlegde the bad side remember a scorpio would rather kill and be killed at te sme insant if it means getting even. We must have a balance sometimes soprios think if most scorio think first and take a breathe its good but dont tell them that. Unless there almost a wise one. From here i think ill let my hought drift. I hope this helps you btw when i it gong to go to the wemon. There are men genuinly interested in that. (please note that twords the end my concentration wavered i apologize that i may not have givin you full details buti hope thats engh for you to undersand more of a scorpio male.) As a oke i must say why dd they create insant messenger im getting im’d all over the place lol see i proll made you smile lol.

By: the countess

the countess — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:32:40 +0000

@scorpio wife – it saddnes me because i have a feeling something is missing in my relationship with my scoprio. thing is, i think this “thing” is more important to him that to me and I think it confuses him, as it does me to a certain extent. The sex is compeltely off the charts, the drama could make a blockbuster movie, the intimiacy – not just sexual, but true emotional intimacy is very pronounced, more so than anyone ive ever met. WE both anger each other like no one before, the inante ability to get under each other skins but thankfully it dissapates quite as quick. We fundamentall have the same views and morals on life but with each of us bringing new aspects to the table which is just enlightening and pleases both of us. We both understand each other at our core, which we both admit no one really has before. And we get swept away in these emotional moments, where its like we fuse together and cant break away and need more, like an addicitive feeling. But even after these intense moments, which get stronger and stronger as time goes by, given a few days or hours, it all fades out. Its either hot or its cold and nothing in between. It doesnt seem to stay. i feel like all the pieces of the puzzle are there but its not making the picture. We both have been very guarded and cautious with each other as our natural energies make each other uneasy, so its exhausting to be around each other event if its pleasant.

But i’ve been wondering, is it just a matter of time that our guards come completely down that we will be vunerable enough to let love happen or is it its just not there? BUT my aqua mind simply can’t comprehend if we both admitedly can’t walk away from each other and we have all this really rare stuff going on in relationg to each other, why it wouldnt work somehow someway.

We both feel like we would regret for the rest of lives getting rid of the other one, that we have to see it through to he end, whatever that may be, but somethings off.

Any words?

By: scorpwife

scorpwife — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 05:40:08 +0000

im a scorpio woman and i have every trait..im not joking, EVERY trait. and i secretly love it. i have been with a taurus man for almost 2 years now. when we first met we fell deeply in love. im talking like love at first sight. the sex is amazing, powerful, passionate. and better than anything i’ve ever experienced. it gets better every time i would just like to share some things about our relationship and how awesome astrology and all that junk really is he is your typical taurus. loves to eat great food, loves nice things, craves materialistic comfort, extremely hard worker, lazy as hell when hes not working, hard headed as a son of bitch, strong willed, slow to anger, he tells me to take my clothes off ALL THE TIME and im never allowed to sleep with any clothes on. he loves my naked body. ahh this is funny!..i wont lie, up until recently he has realized how i work. hes completely clueless and knows nothing about the scorpio woman or anything so im thankful for that. we clashed and clashed and clashed. we’ve had hundreds (no exaggeration) of fights that leave our house a complete WRECK because of my uncontrollable anger and his..well..bull-like actions. but we LOVE each other like nobody’s business and we refuse to leave eachother. its not even an option. honestly, i think we see our horrible fights as an inconvenience, not as a deal breaker. its quite funny. we are like an electric couple every where we go. we never shut up. everyone thinks we are crazy and we love it. no one understands us at all. once again i cannot lie, there have been times when i have wanted to torture that man for pissing me off so bad but after the make up i find myself even more at one with him. its like our souls are continuously melting into one another. its so powerful!

i also wanted to share that i have seriously dated 3 aquarius men and obviously none of them worked. thing is though, the attraction and sex is off the charts but as far as a relationship goes, dont even think about it. one of these men was a friend with benefits. we did have love for eachother but under circumstances we never committed. but the friendship was AWESOME. we could talk about anything, we always had a great time together, and he was protective of me. he was very attracted to the mysterious air about me and he always said i could make love with my eyes.

ah, good stuff