Should Virgo woman take friendship with Cancer man to the next level?
March 13, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Miss Worried Virgo writes:
OK so its resorted to this. Me Miss Virgo, just recently started dating a Cancer man. We have been long time friends but the romantic connection is so very strong, at least for me anyway. Talk about romance. He knows exactly what to say and do. He broke up with some one about 3 months ago. He went so far as to change his phone numbers and moved and doesnt care that she cant reach him. I knew she hurt him because he would come crying to me to often. Never in a million years did I think we would be dating!!! At times he can get moody and the predictable Virgo that I am cant take those mood swings. This is sort of weird because we were friends first and never in a million years did I think we would be going out on dates. He knew my boyfriend and I knew his girlfriend. I dont want to ruin our friendship by going to the next level in the relationship but he is persistant and I must admit that I am willing. Should I just call it off now to save our friendship? The thought of him being with some one else would kill me however, even though we have never been sexually involved.
Friendships are sacred, but romantic relationships are even more rare. I know you are being cautious, as is Virgo’s inclination. However, you only live once. (At least in your current body!)
Virgo-Cancer is a fine combination. You may analyze your feelings more than necessary while he wallows in his moods, but you both share a risk-averse nature that will keep you tied to the work-home routine, without too much disruption.
Be careful, though. Cancer can get defensive, and if he completely shut out his ex to the point of moving and changing his number, what’s to say he may not do the same to you if he feels sufficiently wounded? Cancer is ruled by the habitual Moon and serves his past — he may be a slave to old patterns that are hard to shake. Virgo has been known to nitpick, and the Crab may be too sensitive to bear too much criticism. Harp on him too much, and he’ll retreat into his shell. After that, you won’t be able to reach him on his cell.
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Thank you. Your reply helps a lot. I have now noticed the mood swings and am not sure if that is something I want to deal with. Sometimes this Cancer is so happy and other times he seems so withdrawn. I am going to re-think having a continued relationship. Typical of Virgo I guess.
You’re welcome
I am a Virgo to the tee. My soon to be ex husband is a Cancer. We were great in the beginning until I started to do exactly as he mentioned and so did my husband. James is a great man and I love him dearly BUT I couldn’t take his moods anymore and in turn made me more of a nit picker.
Don’t know if this helps now but maybe it will someone else!
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Ada, you asked a while ago how to know when a Cancer man is interested in love?
You will know.He will be sweeter, and gentler.
If you don’t notice anything , he is not interested, or, not feeling safe around you.
I am a Virgo woman who was married to a Cancer man. A negative Cancer man. He knew all the right things to say and the right moves to make but once he felt that I had fallen for him he became lazy and more of a reciever than a giver. A negative Cancer man will try to criticize you because he knows this can cause you to become insecure. If you notice any of these signs cut him off. It is better to be safe than sorry.
I am a Virgo and I broke up with my Cancer boyfriend six months ago. He was the biggest ass I have ever been with. He was an alcoholic, a drug addict, a food addict and smoked pot more than five times every single day. I could never have a decent conversation with him, because he was either high from drugs or drunk. Or both. He was also manio depressive and took a lot of medicine every day. When he was drunk he couldn’t remember what he had done (including driving his car) and he would shout sexist comments to other women, even though I was standing right next to him. It took me three months to fully see the extend of his lies and his dubble life. He even used me to get hold of his old dad’s money. He always wasted a lot of money on booze, drugs and useless, expensive things. In the end I was very bothered with all of his overweight, even though I wasn’t in the beginning. It was a nightmare. Perhaps the worst part was that he tried to manipulate me into staying – and other thing. Sick bastard! I don’t feel sorry for him at all! I think Cancers are avoiding and hiding problems instead of wanting to talk about the issues. It’s like when they don’t talk about the problems, then they don’t exist. I always face issues head on, so maybe I shouldn’t be with a Cancer. They are also too quiet for me anyway.
I’m a Cancer man and I must say I hear those of you talking about our mood swings. Completely understood. The thing to take into consideration is where is their base? Is their base positive (optimistic) or negative? If their base personality is negative, then the swings will curve further in that direction, and in those times you see manipulation, sniping, defensiveness, etc.
If their base is positive, they will still have mood swings, but you, as a stable Virgo, can actually have influence over those – while at the same time give a little space for them to unmuddle their mood. Make sense?
As per the anon post about the addicted Cancer, that’s not really about the sign. That’s a more psychological disorder, and, no matter the sign of the individual will in the end result in self-destruction and quite a lot of damage to wheover is involved with them. The only thing to glean from that post is that yes, Cancers are Masters of Hedging so if you want a straight answer on a topic that is close to their core OR is something they are feeling extremely guilty about, it will be a hard time getting it out of them. Even then, that whole mess of a person described has much more than the negative traits of their sign working against them.
Make home a safe place, and your Cancer will almost always return, and hopefully want to continue to keep it a safe haven.
Hi. I completely agree with Billy. What you experienced are negative traits of the Cancerian sign working against a self destructive person. There are other cancerian with similar mood swings and a thirst for liquids. But as far as I see, they also know how to use their handy tough shell to get through the mood swings. And their drinks doesnt get any harder than large quantities of fruit juices. Most Virgo women are very quick to analyze a person. I wonder what made you stand by him for 3 months watching him make sexist comment at other women ? And if so, this cancerian has lost the most positive essence of the Cancer Sign – Decency & Kindness. By the way, I & my brother too are cancerian. My brother is similar to the person mentioned above and leads a wasted life away from his family. Whereas I live a blissful life free of drugs & alcohol with my precious Virgo wife and my sweetheart Taurus son..
Just because the sun sign is in cancer, is not a great indication of if you are compatible…put a nice Venus in Gemini with a Scorpio moon and strap yourself in 4 a crazy ride. If you are ready to break this
Cancers heart by judging soley on a sun sign, I question if true love is present? If you are going do run your relationships via astrology, atleast go further than reading only the first chapter of many….do it the right way and find out about other placings in the birth chart and you will find a whole new world opens with more possibilities then you could ever imagine! I’m a cancer with a moon in Scorpio, rising in libra, mercury in gemini I along with Venus in Gemini and a mars in Pisces and am speaking to a Virgo at the moment and things are looking bright! Remember, love for the meaning of love not just because of the stars in the sky. Looks like a few caps of MDMA are here, toodles!
Im a Cancer man. the virgo woman I have been with the last eight months is absolutely beautiful and so amazing. I am truly blessed. I could not believe how often she appreciates the little things I would do because she had not experienced them before. she says that the way we just held each other was not something she knew before…and yes I do believe her because I have had woman friends who are not treated with respect by men, regardless of their sign. I am very much a cancer, but I am aware of my moods and try to keep them to the upside…which is a great trait to be aware and care enough to change.
I say listen to your feelings. If the person I am with energizes me and inspires me instead of depleting me, that is where I will be and want to give back 10x. we have a bad reputaion for our moods, fair or not, I am more easy going and upbeat than most people I know.
I am a cancer man and dating a virgo as well.everything is amazing actually she makes me feel good in a special way and yes she is very critical at most and i do get hurt many times.its always better that if the mood swings are present i be left alone because at that very moment i tend to be able to make irrational decisions and changes no matter how hard i try to point out to her how being so critical is hurting it never helps but if you real love a person you will have to learn to hang in there and as long love is there just hang in there its not always everytime that you gonna be happy in a relationship and virgos love independence and their own space and just give them and they will love you for it.goodluck
I have a question..I’m a Virgo met a Cancer man…been with his wife for 12 years, she has cheated on him multiple times, but he stays with her for the children and his military career. He has filed for legal separation and said he was going to divorce her as soon as he returned. We met and experienced 90 days of total bliss. We were together everyday and he opened up to me and I too him. We share a very similar history and I feel we connected. He said the same. He actally told me he “loved me”. He recently redeployed back home and in these last 30 days I’ve heard from him 3x. I keep asking the question if things are okay between us, but get no answer. In the time we were together, he did things that no other guy I’ve ever dated has done. Gone out of his way to make me comfortable and feel secure. Spent every minute with me and only me. So now that he’s home and competely distance has really thrown me for a loop. His last words to me were “patience, honesty and communication, are the only way this relationship is going to work”. I feel like I’ve been bamboozled. Any comments from you Cancer Men?
Hi,
I’m a virgo woman and i’ve been working with a cancer man for about a year we both get along great and we’ve had a strong connection early on i seriously do think we would be great together but i’m worried about ruining our existing friendship what should i do? i really like him!!
Virgo Girl, I suggest that you keep your distance from this cancer man. If he was interested in you, we would have made some attempts. Why ruin a good friendship?
hopefully someone can help me. I’m a virgo and he’s a cancer. known him many yrs and we just got together recently, it’s been great but he recently told me that he hopes that hes not leading me on, didn’t know what to say I was numbed. He’s a great guy and he does everything for me but he confuses me. He wanted to get a girl’s phone number while I was present and i felt disrespected, how can I bring it up to him even though he has told me that this relationship is going nowhere basically when he said I hope I’m not leading you on. help?
@Joan
Dump the son of a b*tch!
He’ll come crawling back on his knees to you……….