How to get a Sagittarius to forgive you
March 30, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Forgiveness is an integral component of the world’s religions, one of Sag’s favorite topics. Intellectually, he knows that holding on to resentment hurts him more than it hurts you, so he need not wait for your apology. Therefore, Sag may not have any problem letting bygones be bygones. The danger is that he may be holier-than-thou when you do make amends.
For the Archer, to be right is to be righteous, so it can be a challenge when you’ve wronged a Sag. You want absolution, but you also want to pop his balloon of self-aggrandizement. Forgiving does not make him better or more exalted. It just opens up his heart. Or at least it’s supposed to.
Sag may have just a little too much ego when it comes to granting you a pardon. Until he gets out of his own way, he’s acting more like the institutionalized Church than the compassionate Son. When you ask for forgiveness, wear a “What would Jesus do?” T-shirt. Hopefully, the message will knock him down from his high horse.
Comment below: How would you apologize to a Sag?
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HAH! As a sag rising, you are correct. I think if you give an honest apology, a sag can appreciate that and let it go.
Well.My father was a Sagitarius–and he *was* rather high-minded–but as you say–not so much so that he didn’t lord it over me-definitely.
He would forgive me, but he did make it all out as though I was somehow making myself guiltier by virtue of my attempt to apologize.(don’t understand it myself, but that was about the size of it).
I do rememebr when I was a teenager hanging my head once and he was clearly saddened, and overcame his high and mighty-ness.
Trouble was I couldn’t seem to remeber to do that again.:-)
I have a good friend, former lover who is a Sagitarius although he’s right on the cusp,(0 degrees Sag) so his nature is affcted by Scorpio imo.He is’nt roused to anger, and judgment easily, ut when he is, he is not pleasant, and cut me off abruptly when he was angry.
I learned to leave it, and him, alone, because later he always thought things through and saw things differently..
So, I would say that is one way–giving the person space–although as you say, trying to reason with the Sag through philosophy and with something they believe in deeply, will set the stage, if not completely change the situation.
If the Sag in question is not absolutely furious beyond reason (which would be rare anyway), explain that you regret your actions, and behavior.
Then refer to a source,belief system person or book that he/she accepts as ‘higher’ than he/she is.. and that you both beleive in, especially,such as a high priestess, the Bible, the Q’ran,Christ, the steps and principles of AA etc–and then leave it alone, until the Sag can agree to accept your apology.
That is my well-thought out answer, but I looked back just now, and it’s not much different than the tee shirt that says”what would Jesus Do” LOL
Haha! I recently had to apologise to an old friend (sag) for calling him a snob..which he apparently didn’t take as a joke! We haven’t seen each other for about 7yrs…I wanted to reignite our friendship, as we had been very close. I knew I would have to apologise in order for him to talk to me, even though I meant nothing by it…and knew he would take the “Holier-than-thou” attitude also!
My solution was to tell the absolute and simple truth, that I was in a bad mood that day, and that perhaps the joke was not as funny as I thought at the time…
he said simply “I accept your apology..” (which in his mind equals, “I’m only forgiving you because you’ve acknowledged that I am right and you were wrong”!!)
Hence, we’ve been chatting again as if we’d seen each other yesterday…
Sagittarians, I have found, have a great ability to forgive and forget, even if they do like to stroke their own ego in the process…and they really do appreciate a straight-forward, logical approach.
Show up with a sandwich, smile, apologize, invite said Sag out for another sandwich and a beer. Have a philosophical discussion on the benefits of buddhism. Bring your dog along for the date. Said Sag will forget what he was mad about.
Being a Sag myself:
If what you’ve done has really hurt them down to the core, you need to give them their space. Let them feel it. Though we never show it, when our feelings are hurt, boy are they hurt. For me, when I’m hurt I tuck myself away untill I’m ok again. I think maybe it’s because we have such a natural talent of smiling through our tears, we don’t want others to see that. After that I’m as cheery as I was before it happened, and then more open minded and willing to talk, if that’s what the other person wants.
One of the reasons why we hide away when hurt (from a relationship stand point)is because, even though we may not be the party at fault, we assume resonsibility. We stew over it in our head wondering what We could have done to have things happen this way. Partly because (and quite frequently I might add) we offend people with our sharp tongues, unintentionally… emphasis on unintentionally. We may be a fire sign with that firey personality, but we NEVER are malitous. Life is a party, we like to have fun and make others laugh, however most of the time we don’t realize that what may be funny to us isn’t quite funny to others.
The best way to appologize to a sag is to be honest. We are very honest and expect the same in return. If we faulter we’ll admit we’re wrong and move on, we expect that aswell. We don’t like secrets and things hiden. People misunderstand us in that way. Even the most hurtfull truths people try to hide really aren’t that hurtfull as long as it’s presented with honesty. For instance: I would much rather you told me that you didn’t want to hang out with me or call rather then avoid me.
We’re pretty forgiving and understanding, we’re a fire sign because we are warm people. Just give us time to cool off; a firey temper isn’t something I recommend getting in the line of… which also brings back to the ‘not wanting to offend others’ thing, let us be because we don’t want you to get shot with a firey arrow. I once dated a Pisces. He came home right in the middle of a conniption of mine. I was pissed and tried to keep to myself but he was all up in my business asking me what was wrong, I kept telling him nothing and to leave me be for a bit. He of course didn’t listen and kept at it. Finally I turned to him and said, quite sternly, “LOOK, WOULD YOU JUST GET OUT OF MY FACE?!” After I was able to cool off and come to the conclusion that what pissed me off really wasn’t that big of a deal, came to watch tv with him as nothing ever happened. Him of course being the emotional Pisces didn’t see it that way. He was, in my mind, being a little too sensitive about it. I appoligized and tried to explain why I bahaved the way I did, what more did he want? He was ready to move out.. duh! Actually the true moral of this is: if you’re a sag, DON’T date a pisces! ha ha
haha. exactly. so true
True in deed. Also, good great apology sex comes in handy when our mate mess up.
haaaa this is sooo trueee. my boyfriend is exactly like this and hes a sag(:
I pissed off a Sag today. He had been very patient with me but I guess he had it enough. I need the shirt as Jeffrey mentioned, “What would Jesus do?”
He would forgive me!!!!!
IM A SAG AND MY GIRL WAS A SAG TOO.
HOW DO I GET HER BACK CAUSE WHATEVER I TRY.. SHE IS DOING THE SAME! LOL
pah, apologise to a sag you might as well volunteer to get shot in the arse the are impossible to apologise to !
they will keep at something for ages and can never accept an apolgy because sorry isnt good enough. I prefer to say my piece then thats that
Im an aries btw sag may be able to shoot you with a firey arrow but aries can charge and knock that pain in the arse sag right off his fee
You are right lew. I can agree because my mate was an aries and says the same. No disrespect lew but Aries can be selfish sorry ass mates and think they can do what the hell they want to you and you should forgive them over and over again. So I agree with your comment because you are an aries. Sags deal with everyone differently. Sags don’t like sorry if sorry does it over and over again and again. Besides aries like submissive mates and sags usually are not that way. Lew Sags always bounce back up but your fellow aries from my experience needs to learn how to heal their wounds and move on.
to diva sag : I suppose thats a fair analysis . Everybody hold the phone an aries is admiting , hah !. ( my logic loving aqua mercury is kicking in here
) I have many sag friends myself , they are generally good people , and will speak the truth if you ask for it .( Being an aries I would much rather you were upfront with me , a wound caused by a truth is never as deep as that caused by lie)
Which brings me to another point both are fire signs both have an ego and can be too blunt, both have alot of pride aswell ( we just don’t admit it ) ryt ?
Hi! Awww i can say that i got into a sag and i dont know what else i should do. I am a libra girl and he is a sag boy. Yesterday we broke up already like 4 times and he really was piss, i tried to apologize about what i did and he just stayed with a no no no and noooo. I feel bad cuz i know they are honest and the fight started just because a simple thing to deal with and cuzi made it huge he got piss and he just got upset with me. I called him a lier cuz a lot of my friends help me to discover something he was doing, and i guess he was cheating on me and he wasnt being honest at all. When we almost got him, he started acting like a snob screaming yelling and he really hurt me but i beg him a lot to understand that e libras are sensible and that we change the mind a lot. He told me that if i have a nice reason to forgive me about not believing on him, testing him and all that, that is the only way he will take consideration about this and that may be we could try for the lastir time. I know sags new their freedom and i understand that, but they are committee- phobia , they are scare of the comittement and thats why most of our fights. Could someone give me an advice about this? I am really feeling sad and with a huge fault. How can I make my bf coming back with me?
I’m a Sagitaruis oh by the way i’m also an atheist i except forgiving people but they’d better be honest & true to me HEY LEW27 YOU FORGET SAGITARIUS IS THE CENTAUR WITCH MEANS I CAN AIM ARROWS AND TRAMPLE YOU CAUSE I’M TALLER SO NICE TRY TAKING DOWN A SAG
Erica size isnt everything , Aries may be small but because they are small they can easily dodge the sag hah! ps this is amusing me greatly
100% correct i am sag woman and love sag man. but heart broken due to his behaviour. he cheated on me. he looked so philosophical but proved to be a sufaced man. but my love will remain there for him
The description of Sagitarius totally fits my little brother. He really does have that self rightous attitude, except with me, LOL
When we were kids it was a verbal battle everyday, usually starting out with his teasing then escalate into a hot verbal battle, then it became physical and would often end up with me having to hold him on the floor untill he stopped blowing his fuse LOL Good times….
The temper is mostly “show” sag guys are actors, hmmmm, look at Brad Pitt
When your a Libra and you grow up with a Sag, you become sharp tounged LOL and they become sarcastic, because you teach eachother your worse traits
Hi Sagi,
Really need some insight and guidance on an issue i kept within myself for these past few years.
I got close to this galfriend of mine during a camp after i broke off with my ex.
She’s an intelligent, witty & charming lady and we hit it off after the camp we had in 2006.
somehow, things went wrong…..when i’m with her, past issues with my ex. re-surface whenever we argue or quarrels. I mean, its not that we argued about my ex…but that whenever we had an arguement, somehow i’m stuck in not knowing how to handle as it always remind me of my past relationships. Somehow, this is also e same reason why i did not get itimate or open up myself to her emotionally.
Another issue which i find it overwhelming is that when i’m with her, i’ve done all the nasty things which i never will do in a relationship. (eg. walk off in the mid of an arguement, hang up phone etc.) All these actions actually makes me guilty and upset with myself….but i just cant control it.
Eventually, we drifted apart and she stopped seeing me or answer my calls in end 07.
But deep down inside me, i know very well that my feelings for her are true & real. Just that i can’t handle myself emotionally.
After she left me, I blamed myself for treating her bad and am really guilty for all the wrongdoings….but i have this strong feelings that i’m not over with her yet. And i believe and hope my sincerity will touched her some day. (so, i still send her email, sms or cards these yrs….but of cos, without any reply or acknowledgment from her)
Everyone has this ’solitude period’ after break off (i dunno whether anyone agrees with me). And for me, (based on my past relationship experiences) i normally takes 4 yrs to really heal myself before going into another new relationship. I reckon i jump in too fast with her after my relationship with my ex.
I do not have the chance to explain these to her cos she totally break the connection. Even our common friends.
This year marks the 4th yrs separation with my ex. which means i’m healed for new relationship or should say i can control myself emotionally….and i fell that my love for this galfriend grows stronger as each yr passes.
Should i or should i not confess my feelings and e truth to her?
In my case, what is the best approach or method in order to make her forgive me?
kindly enlighten me can?
Thousands and millions THANKS
well, am a libra/scorpion cusp and am in love with a sag guy. Last night, however, i said something involving his ex and he got seriously upset. We had a big fight and he said we dont belong eachother. It was terribly hurt, I couldnt believe a good relationship could be easily called off in this way. later I sent him an email, apologizing to him without mentioning the breakup part. He didnt reply. I don’t know if he will forgive me for pouring salt on his wound.
To Fishy76
If she hasn’t answered to you in 2 years then she has probably moved on. In my case I can fool around with many guys (nothing serious, little flirting) but when I fall then that’s deep! I may not show it for long time but inside there can be butterflies and all that… and I’m willing to do anything for the person I care about that much.
And then there’s limits, yes Sag forgives and forgets easily but that doesn’t include everybody. If you are one of the lucky ones who got me to love you for real then for you there are different rules. If you manage to hurt me really bad then something clicks in my head and I will walk away without ever looking back! I will burn all bridges! And the way I see it all is that I don’t need people around me in this life who hurt me or make me miserable, since I want to get as much as possible out of this short life and such people are not helping me on this journey at all, so I MUST get rid of them! And at some point I have managed to forget you ever existed and I feel damn proud of myself because I have been so strong once again.
Also things like walking away in the middle of the conversation and hanging up the phone do not help at all. You see, we seriously think we are worth more
Of course it’s also possible that she just got bored with you but in that case I’m sure she would of face the uncomfortable conversation and explained to you that lets just be friends…
Sag girls don’t run away, they do their best to explain what’s going on if they care about you even a little bit.
Since you still have feelings for her then I suggest you get it all together in your head and find her, tell her how you feel face to face, promise you will never ignore her, will never hang up the phone or walk away, will never hurt her on purpose and will do your best to give her the freedom she needs for getting all there is to get out of this life
Don’t lie to her! Show whatever emotions you have, they have to be true! Always be truthful with Sags, we know you are not perfect and we expect also you to know it. Do the best you can and if she tells you she’s just not interested anymore then forget her, you will never get her back. But at least you have your answer and can move on. But there’s a chance she won’t say that 
Another thing is you controlling your emotions, whatever goes on inside of you, try to show that you know exactly what you are doing and where you are going. Sag girls don’t like confused and weak men, I dare even saying such men are repulsive to us. We have enough problems with the mess in our own heads we don’t need you to skid along with your baggage.
Either way it’s all worth it
Good luck!
Centaur Girl “81″…….You broke it down so well….Fishy76 take these notes and you won’t fail. Sags love hard but when its over we hard to love again.