How to come back to Aries
March 16, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Aries is always right — for there are no other viewpoints to consider — so the best way to come back is to yield. You probably broke up because you locked horns with the Ram, and realized that he would never concede. So you left, and realized either that you were wrong, or that even though you are right, you are willing to brush pride aside to be held beneath his powerful arms.
You don’t need to plan an elaborate apology. He burned through his anger weeks ago! Just admit the error of your ways, and pledge that you will follow his lead on all matters. If he has not already moved on to someone else, Aries will likely take you back.
Comment below: How have you returned to the Ram?
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Oh PLEASE- these men are retarded.
I am a Cap and we never really argued-he was usually so sweet and nice-until he decided he wanted to go and have other female friends-then I would EXPLODE and he would not listen so I would resort to passive aggression-and he would always be bewildered why I acted like that-so I left him in Europe and told him I was doing it the day I had to get on the plane-
back to the states and I would not yeild one inch-well he was not that persistent anyway-
15 years later, he is married and we spoke on the phone for HOURS and have been in touch regularly ever since-as friends only-but one thing he said to me after 15 years was “What happened to us?” I went beserk and could not believe he forgot our “infamous” parting-he really did not but I think he was asking why it did not work out-
B/C ARIES is so SELF CENTERED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
that is why-despite my attraction to a lot of them.
When he wanted other female friends did he mean real friends or friends with benefits with whom he slept?
I’m a Libra woman and I lost my Aries man and I want him back. I didn’t understand the complex simplicity of an Aries man until now. In short I said something that wasn’t insulting at all but was completely insulting to him and he hasn’t spoken to me in over a week. He wont talk to me or see me. I know he cares about me a lot and what we had was something great but I dont know how to fix it. I understand now that I’ll have to be the one doing the pride swallowing and I’m ok with that so long as he doesn’t know what I’m up to. And an appology isn’t going to do it either. I think its going to take much more than that. Suggestions from an Aries man would be much appreicated
Just out of curiosity, what did you say?
I am also a Libra woman in love with an Aries man who has me completely confused. I really need advice on how to get him to take me back. I didn’t know he was so sensitive (first time dating an Aries…).
He is so brusque sometimes & we all know Libras bristle at that. I told him to ‘be a jerk to somebody else’ via text because I was hurt – he gave me another chance. Then I asked him a question about dating other people, which he took as an ultimatum – and it wasn’t – and he says he is done with me because of this and that I hung up on him (which I didn’t think I did). The ‘last straw’ came about because I didn’t know how he felt about me (mixed signals – to me) & I was hurt. Turns out I had it all wrong.
I have apologized, admitted the error of my ways, tried to explain myself & it’s not enough. I haven’t cried, which I doubt would work anyway. His heart is hardened & I am heartbroken. Please advise. FAST!
For the Cap: AMEN!!! They are self-centered.
the person that responded doesn’t get the fact that he brought up that he wanted female friends is just like saying, “I want to leave the door open.” If he was serious (which they usually are not), what the hell does he need to make a priority out of friendship with females instead of building the one he has with his significant other?!?!?! They are not “friends” if they relationship with them has to be outside of the one with his woman.
The libras: it’s a challenge for the 2 of you because Libs are naturally designed to be a partner while the Aries is designed to be a loner. Libs will try so hard to keep something the aries knows they’ll live with or without fixing.
I am in love with an aries man with whom I work. Im reading those stories and can see myself in them. We are intimate but not exclusive although none of us are sleeping with anybody else (cuz I honestly think that both of us would probably loose it if we ever found out) I am a virgo woman with alot of Leo in me.
He claims that we cant be together because of our working situation plus his ex is part of the company. But he is jealous and doesnt want me to see anyone and gets so frustrated when anyone tries to talk to me. He is sweet and passionate and has great qualities but the occasional distance is driving me insane…
One day its hot between us, then I dont hear from him, then its hot again, this man is driving me crazy what is the solution?
To the Leo woman. I am a Scorpio and work with my Aries man. And one thing about Aries men is they are natural rebels. and If he wants something he doesn’t give a @#%^ what ANYONE thinks. Otherwise how could he have an ‘ex’ who also works there? Sorry to curst your bubble but he wants to have his cake and eat it too and I can guarentee he is probably still WITH his EX.
I know it is hard but having been on the winning end of this ..I was the one trying to keep things secret..he made it VERY obvious he was into me and makred his territory with every man. If he was into you he wouldnt be able to help himself. They are like little kids in a candy store. When they are really in love 4keeps the scream it from the mountain and 4sake all others. Virgs tend to want to please and Aries like to win…but in the end your to much of a pushover and not enough challenge. Don’t change yourlsef.. change your man and move on.
Im also a libra an my aries man broke my heart an he knew it but he didnt care he never took me back an ive had a difficult time getn over him.. 6 months later h sends me an email askin me if im ok an askin how ive been all these years ive replied 2 him but his ansa was short an blunt an now i feel like ive gone back to square one with him..
To Anon031108 – they don’t build… it’s like giving a 4 year old a bucket of lego… they’ll either throw the mega blocks at you… or… yes, granted you might get them to erect a tower, but that’s with the anticipation that they’ll eventually push it over…
they don’t cultivate… they just plant the seed…
For All Other Anons. – to jump on topic… if you’d like to cater to your codependent tendencies, look forward to a conversation this…
You state, “I f@#k’d up. I’ve come back.”
Arien chuckles, “I knew you would.” while thinking, “you can’t help but bask in my awesomeness.”
A better option may be to get Aries to move on…
Arien’s childish attempt at a ploy, “Let’s end this.”
You: “So be it.”
Arien’s thoughts (24 hrs later), “You couldn’t appreciate my awesomeness. I don’t care.”
You didn’t hope that Aries would appreciate how awesome You were? Did You?… You didn’t expect Aries to ponder where Your relationship went wrong? And fix it, Did You?
Arien’s thoughts (48 hrs later), “You will come back. I really am awesome!”
from an aries man perspective who is doing similar things its because we feel unappreciated. it would be nice to call that aries sometimes and tell them they miss them, they trust them, they love them when u are in a friendship or relationship. YOu think you know aries but you don’t….if we were so self centered then why are we so generous???we are selfless through our actions. however to the girls with aries bf be careful of not making aries feel unappreciated because even if they do love u and u are the most important thing to them they will get the “With or Without u” and once we do become distant its hard for us to come back to you because we see you as an experience that failed. U were the one that we thought would be our other half(our soulmate)….after that we just go with the search and soon time we forget about u….oh one thing…do u ppl really think that just because aries are most of the time cheerful that they can’t read u???we act like we are dumb sumtimes so the conversation doesn’t feel ackword but we read u like a book and can tell that u are lying but ignore it which makes us hard to read….lol so who are the dumb ones now???
Well I dont know about you guys but Iam a libra dating a Aries man. I love that boy and I know he loves me. He brought out the worse and best out of me, and I believe I did the same for him. We have went through our times when I thought it was over he didnt talk to me, answer my phone calls, see me anything. I found out the way to get them back is really based on how you treated them when ya was together. My aries man came back to me when I stopped acting like I cared. when I stopped calling him and crying to him he came back to me. They get scard of the one they feel like they lost. at the same time they like it when we beg but it wont help us get them back fast enough. One My aries man seen that I was giving up on him an our relationship he surprised me with gifts. nice phone calls and text messages, showed up to my house. He know what to do to make me fall back for him. But Aries men can get very cold hearted and act as if they dont care about you at all, but in their heart they really do. when they get like that just give them time a couple of hours to a day depending on how bad the situation is, then call them, they will recover and soon be back to normal. Dont nagg them when their upset just give them space. Nagging them Pushes them away.
Good Luck!
I am a libra and i was with an aries man for two years and then we broke up because of the emotional turmoil we were putting each other through- i couldn’t make up my mind and he just wanted passion right then and there and i needed more time. When he started acting weird i told him to get his act together and eventually he broke up with me..that really hurt me..anyway he friended me..i accepted and then deleted him…(couldn’t make up my mind as to whether i wanted all those emotions to resurface) and then he friended me again asking what had happened and i accepted it again. Now i am totally in awe of him and he wont give me a passing glance..he’s so cold..i dont even know why he friended me..i thought he wanted us to give it another try…:( Well, because I cant stand to see him without feeling attracted to him on a deep level i feel like i just need to cut off contact with him completely. Is this the right thing to do?
when i say ‘friended’ i mean on a social networking site.
@Tina I was in a similar situation couldn’t make my mind, everyone was blaming because they thought he was nice. I was struggling really to make up mind…. the next thing I knew I was pregnant & lost it within two months, he was gone then. Came back after some months, it was me then who was so into him because of guilt, guess what???… He lost interest but kept on calling, telling me how much he missed me. I did the chasing most of the time, him running in a different direction.
Guess what??? He is now chasing me I am not interested & I am afraid I never will. I am not the one to be running back & forth after three years. I don’t think you need to be hurried to make up your mind, & they use force most of the time. I am not going back. He does like the chase not the catch- it’s not challenging to him. There is this childlike attitude I don’t like about them. Ok that’s enough…. you gal be careful!!!
I love Aries Man’s comment – it is totally true…cause I can read everyone like a book…very well said!!
From my experience Aries men are like toddlers.Feed them and take care of them and they will coo.If they trow a tantrum it is usually because they see a “toy” they want,they will blame the tantrum on you, it is a diversion tactic. I have a particular problem of being in love with an Aries man who will [expletive deleted] anything and anyone unless I am physically next to him babysitting him like the child he is.I know I know you will say dump him and I have several times.But he is a sweet person, fun , and I am hooked on the sex.Any advice from Aries men on how to handle this?
I’m an Aries female and one of the most spot-on things I have EVER heard about my sign is “Aries fire burns hot and fast…Aries ice can be eternal.” When I am raging, angry with flames shooting off in all directions I still care. It might be scary scene, but it is over quickly and everything returns to normal.
When an Aries appears cold or disinterested, I wouldn’t waste your time. Once we turn off to the point where we are ice cold….it is not likely to ever change.
Im A Taurus Man, Any advice for getting a Aries girl back…
Thanks
hi taurus guy, care to share how you and your aries girl broke up? when aries initiates the break up, it’s usually over. however if she still responds to your calls or emails, there’s still a chance of winning her back. you have to prove her your worth though, which means starting all over from scratch. you have to be ultranice and set aside your pride.
I was in love and involved with an Aries man. We had a torrid affair that turned into one of the best relationships that I have ever had in my life. I am a sagitarrius woman, so I am quite amazing myself. The relationship was a complete accident and because it was there were difficulties defining the roles in the relationshipa ns what it was. He ended the relationship, although he will not admit it, and has been persuing me through the years. What I’d like to know is why he dumped me, and is fervently trying to resume the relationship. I am a sagitarrius, and sags are known for having huge trust issues. Although I am still madly in love, not just lust, with this man; I have no clue as to what to do. What are his intentions? What in creation does he expect? How should I handle a situation that I am not sure I really want to open myself up to if it ends as it did the last time?
Ok hi taurus guy i’ve spilt up with my Taurus boyfriend and if you wana get an aries back i’ll tell u now for ur own sake don’t be distant twards her. Is all u’ll have too do is smile at her Aries women love too laugh so make her laugh you will do anyways cas of chemistry. Be affectionate twards her show her how u feel, treat her like a princess too God aries women love that s*** its why i loved my ex so much. he fussed over me, treated me like a princess, bought me stuff without damaging my independence. But on the down side he ignored my calls which made me feel unappreciated and unloved, he played me too an extent where i was crying alot. it will take alot too win back an aries womans trust once u hurt her badly but she is one too forgive and forget and when u break them walls down ya’ll win her trust no problem. Aries women love the attention so give her plenty of tat too. fuss over her but key make her laugh and smile at her and ya’ll have her attention big time
hope this helps
and one more thing taurus guy, be urself around her she appreciates the fact ur down to earth, calm and loveable twards her. make her feel special too
TAURUS GUY – SPEAK FROM UR HEART TELL HER HOW IT REALLY IS. SHE WILL LOVE U FOR THAT ALONE. ARIES WOMEN LOVE HONESTY WE APPRECIATE THAT MORE THAN ANYTHING. SO BE HONEST WITH HER AND TELL HER WHY YA DONE WAT U DONE TOO HER. BUT THAT YOU ALWAYS LOVED HER.
as an aries woman i can totally say it would be nice too call or text once in a while to show us how much u appreciate us. ACTIONS ARE STRONGER THAN WORDS meaning we are selfless through our actions. As aries guy say’s “however to the girls with aries bf be careful of not making aries feel unappreciated because even if they do love u and u are the most important thing to them they will get the “With or Without u” and once we do become distant its hard for us to come back to you But if you do break them walls down ya’ll have us completely. if we thought U were the one that (our soulmate)….after that we just go with the search and soon time we forget about u… oh one thing…do u ppl really think that just because aries are most of the time cheerful that they can’t read u Aries will act dumb cas they are questionion ur moves and motives seen if u are sincere or not. with aries if ur not there for her at her worst ya’ll never be there for her. so if u truely love him or her prove it remember actions speak lowder than words
good luck ya’ll
If an aries is deeply hurt they will become cold so warm them up. send them music and be around where they are not in a obsious way. Talk about things that really intrest them. Make them laugh and smile at them be effectionate twards them that will warm them up. then work on building back their trust cas without them trusting u they will not respect u the way they use too.