How to come back to Aries

ariesAries is always right — for there are no other viewpoints to consider — so the best way to come back is to yield. You probably broke up because you locked horns with the Ram, and realized that he would never concede. So you left, and realized either that you were wrong, or that even though you are right, you are willing to brush pride aside to be held beneath his powerful arms.

You don’t need to plan an elaborate apology. He burned through his anger weeks ago! Just admit the error of your ways, and pledge that you will follow his lead on all matters. If he has not already moved on to someone else, Aries will likely take you back.

Comment below: How have you returned to the Ram?

About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.

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  1. Thanks Xanthe…Out of all the advice I have received, yours finally seems to make the most sense because I finally know the reason why…Everyone has told me he’s a jerk, or told me he’s a typical Aries in the way that he cares more about the chase than the final result, or just told me to forget about him and not feel bad about his childish behavior…But I’ve been analyzing this situation to a point where I not only tried to find the flaws in him, but myself also…In reality, it was he who didn’t deliver (in the bedroom, if you know what I mean), and being that he wanted his way as to when and where, practically forcing me (even though I had consented to having sex with him), I wasn’t exactly in the right mood, and mood, as we know, is all important to Cancer…Now, I’m a typical Cancer to a certain degree, but this time, I really overlooked alot of faults of his, as well as insults, and would always respond right back with something as clever or more as his. After our arguments, he would just dismiss them as if they never happened, and so I thought, well, better to keep things rolling…Which is why I really enjoyed this guy and overlooked so many things about him I didnt necessarily like–that he had a personality…I want to believe him, but I think he may just have a lying streak to a certain extent at times when it suits him, but that’s a trust issue…Anyway, after our awkward sexual encounter, he stopped contacting me, and I didn’t contact him either, though I was definitely thinking about him to the point where I did make an effort to contact him…SO maybe he wasn’t great in the bedroom, but he was alot of fun otherwise…When I confronted him, at first he said he was busy…And me investigating the issue further, he blurted out why hadn’t I contacted him—that he thought I didn’t like him because I didn’t contact him…So after saying some things about us being incompatible and him being in another country for work (which I dont know if I can believe bc hes pulled that one bf), he actually said he wanted to meet up with me when he was back…Before I could even answer him, he says hes changed his mind and misses his g/f, which at that point I went ballistic on him and made a rather sarcastic comment to which he either didnt understand or ignored and tried ending things on good terms with ‘Thanks you too…Good luck in the future’ Needless to say I deleted him from my fb account (which he had done to me once bf) and also sent him a nasty text about a week or 2 later when I was partially drunk and depressed about the situation, to which he ignored…Well, I blocked him out completely for a good 3 months bf I’ve began thinking about him again, and finally just tried legitimately contacting him with a simple text just saying his name, to which he responded that I had the wrong number sorry, and I just responded with a simple “lol fine” text, not believing that it wasn’t his # anymore. This happened less than a week ago…I’ve been debating whether I should, again, push him more with a simple text saying that sorry isn’t good enough, and admitting my own faults, or maybe using one of the suggestions you’ve mentioned above, or if I should just leave him alone–That he has moved onto another girl or went back to his ex…But, like you mentioned before, he did respond…But whether he responded because I got to ‘his heart,’ as you mentioned, or if he just wants me to leave him alone, is where my confusion lays….Basically, I don’t whether I should continue to contact him or finally bury the situation?

    Thanks a lot,
    M.

  2. hanks Xanthe…Out of all the advice I have received, yours finally seems to make the most sense because I finally know the reason why…Everyone has told me he’s a jerk, or told me he’s a typical Aries in the way that he cares more about the chase than the final result, or just told me to forget about him and not feel bad about his childish behavior…But I’ve been analyzing this situation to a point where I not only tried to find the flaws in him, but myself also…In reality, it was he who didn’t deliver (in the bedroom, if you know what I mean), and being that he wanted his way as to when and where, practically forcing me (even though I had consented to having sex with him), I wasn’t exactly in the right mood, and mood, as we know, is all important to Cancer…Now, I’m a typical Cancer to a certain degree, but this time, I really overlooked alot of faults of his, as well as insults, and would always respond right back with something as clever or more as his. After our arguments, he would just dismiss them as if they never happened, and so I thought, well, better to keep things rolling…Which is why I really enjoyed this guy and overlooked so many things about him I didnt necessarily like–that he had a personality…I want to believe him, but I think he may just have a lying streak to a certain extent at times when it suits him, but that’s a trust issue…Anyway, after our awkward sexual encounter, he stopped contacting me, and I didn’t contact him either, though I was definitely thinking about him to the point where I did make an effort to contact him…SO maybe he wasn’t great in the bedroom, but he was alot of fun otherwise…When I confronted him, at first he said he was busy…And me investigating the issue further, he blurted out why hadn’t I contacted him—that he thought I didn’t like him because I didn’t contact him…So after saying some things about us being incompatible and him being in another country for work (which I dont know if I can believe bc hes pulled that one bf), he actually said he wanted to meet up with me when he was back…Before I could even answer him, he says hes changed his mind and misses his g/f, which at that point I went ballistic on him and made a rather sarcastic comment to which he either didnt understand or ignored and tried ending things on good terms with ‘Thanks you too…Good luck in the future’ Needless to say I deleted him from my fb account (which he had done to me once bf) and also sent him a nasty text about a week or 2 later when I was partially drunk and depressed about the situation, to which he ignored…Well, I blocked him out completely for a good 3 months bf I’ve began thinking about him again, and finally just tried legitimately contacting him with a simple text just saying his name, to which he responded that I had the wrong number sorry, and I just responded with a simple “lol fine” text, not believing that it wasn’t his # anymore. This happened less than a week ago…I’ve been debating whether I should, again, push him more with a simple text saying that sorry isn’t good enough, and admitting my own faults, or maybe using one of the suggestions you’ve mentioned above, or if I should just leave him alone–That he has moved onto another girl or went back to his ex…But, like you mentioned before, he did respond…But whether he responded because I got to ‘his heart,’ as you mentioned, or if he just wants me to leave him alone, is where my confusion lays….Basically, I don’t whether I should continue to contact him or finally bury the situation?

    Thanks a lot,
    M.

  3. Sorry for posting that twice didnt meant to

  4. @ dhrubo – Sorry it took me a while to get back to you. I’m really sorry that things didn’t work out between your Aries beloved and yourself! I hate to be too blunt about this, but it does sound as if she may have moved on… and this was probably well before you and I met on this website and exchanged opinions on the matter. I think trying to get in touch with her again at this stage will only make her feel pestered, so make sure you avoid any contact with her from now on, or you may not even manage to stay on friendly, albeit platonic terms with her. As an Aries wife of a Cancer man, one thing that you guys tend to do without even realising it is cling too much. My husband, whom I love dearly, tends to do it even while I’m telling him not to. Now, I love the man dearly, and put up with it because there’s lots more besides that I love in him. But then I’m an unusual security-seeking Aries, despite also maintaining a strong need for independence and adventure. Some other Aries will flee as soon as someone starts seeming too clingy – and I’m sorry to say that this is usually the case with a Cancers. It’s unfortunate, but it does happen, my crabclawed friends: what you consider to be an acceptable display of affection and attachment will be interpreted as clinginess or neediness to an Aries. So dhrubo, I would no longer try to analyse what the hell went wrong with this lady – it just sounds as if your needs were very different.

  5. Dear Xanthe. Thanks. for all your kind words Mam. :) all the words you wrote for me I have read very carefully, and I will try my best to understand those, and Follow those. The thing is Xanthe, As you know we are the most loyal guy in the zodiac, and we have that ability that, we can love some one extremely and also can hate some one in the same way. :)) we never want to loose our most favorite things. But if some one doesn’t understand that, and feel that is clinging, then is that our fault??? :)) :((

    Dear Xanthe, we all contains our own love, own emotions and own personality. we can do sacrifices, and strongly believe that, just as like the fingers in our hands, not every people are same in this world. But if we expect a very little from some one in a return, is it clinging? it’s our faults? if we want to say some thing which we don’t like, but we don’t want to hurt any one, and say that thing in a different manner, that means we are indirect? :)

    Xanthe, Aries are Sun Sign, but they never want to realize that we the Cancer are also the Moon Sign. which is also a Important Part of the Universe. :) we also carry the Same pride that the Sun Does. But we are Soft and we never want to show off that. But when it’s required to show we do in a Polite manner. To let people remind about our Existence. is that our faults??? :))

    Sorry Xanthe, I feel you as a good friend of mine, that’s why I just Write down all these. But if I say Anything wrong then please don’t take it in a wrong way. I can’t tell you, how much I love that girl and from the same place of my heart how much I hate her…. I just read Some where, (in a Book), you can only Measure your love by hating them. if you hate them in less than you will know that your love was also in same weight… Isn’t that R8?

    Take Care Xanthe, And really Want to thank you to build a Excellent relationship with your Cancer Husband. Dear Xanthe just want to request you, (I know you do a Lot of Sacrifice for your Husband and you love him a lot) but still please, Xanthe, Doesn’t matter how the Worlds will Appears, you guys just never left alone each other. :)) you guys are the best Couple in this world Xanthe.. :)) I can Imagine that, how you guys love each other. and I feel so jealous.. :)) :(( I always do Pray for you that May The God Almighty, keeps you together always, in your happiness and in the time of sorrows. That’s a wish from one of your good friend. :))

    Take Care Mam. :))

  6. Tell them out straight u want them back, and then act on it as actions speak louder than words. Aries underneath all that macho or tough act they want a man or woman who is really willing to fight for them. Who will show them that they love them truely.

  7. Hi guys i was hoping to get some insight off someone on a very recent brakeup? … To start off im a Capricorn girl who’s a horse in chinese astrology and im a 11 master number (dont know much about the planets etc so i dont know if this will help) by ‘ex’ partner now is an Aries male who’s a dragon in chinese and also a 11 master number like myself. Him and i have been together for quiet a long time now things have just recently started to get rocky between us, him overly jealous and showing bouts of insecurities he can be extremely ficious, negative, childish but i have tried to put all that to one side because my love for him is much grater i have always been able to see through all his bullshit (excuse my language) and i think he has felt secure, there defiantely has been a deep connection and bond we have for eachother, however the last 2 weeks have been been abit of a rollercoaster..he’s been working alot of hours & ive been abit sensitive feeling that im not appreciated and that not only do i not hear from him much during the week days but its hard to have a relationship with someone when u feel like ur slipping from them, so he’s been working alot all through the week and alot during the wknd which my issue was that it leaves no time, when i have seen him and have thought we were going to spend a nice day together he’ll get a phone call from one of his mates asking if he can go around to his and help him out (which he does alot, and hasnt bothered me in the past) but it hasnt always bothered me because we still have had alot of time with eachother for it to not be an issue, but recently he’s then been saying yes to going out to his mates whilst he’s got me with him and without consulting me if first.. very hurtful, because i already dont like going out to this one perticular friends place. (sorry if all of this isnt making alot of sense) So that has been an ongoing issues for us well more for me, and he explains to me in his nasty tone of course that i just have to deal with it and thats just life & if i dont like it i can always leave, so 2 weeks have gone by with all that drama and me feeling very excluded and very minimal time together ( i also am aware that being a horse in chinese astrology be can tend to run, and get bored which to me i feel alot and can also be very conflicting being a capricorn which also wants to do the opposite, feels like 2 signs intangled in one fighting against oneanother sometimes) last week being the end of the 2 weeks i hadnt heard from him all week and had rung a few times but got no answer , friday night came & i recieved a txt msg on my phone from his sister ( me and his sister are very close infact his whole family i am very close with & they express to me about what a hard man he is, selfish, manupulative, he has also been married b4 but it was only for 2 yrs with a virgo women the marriage was very suspect which his mother and sister have expressed to me, he hates her though and has no contact with her) so i recieved a txt msg from his sister last friday night saying she spoke to him on the phone and ask how i was and he ultimately said to her that he wasnt seeing me anymore…. so she’s msg’d me on my mobile telling me what he said and if i was okay? … of course i was extremely gobsmacked & confused… i didnt call him and havnt since i heard the news…. i dont know if he is just over me? or he’s playing games? wonder if he really ment that, i havnt heard from him but it would of been nice to of heard that that was what he was thinking… OW sorry lol i had forgot to put a CRUCIAL detail in.. so last wk i was a lil’ upset i hadnt heard from him but didnt pester him thats not my style as i know he gets busy and like his space as i do aswell, i said b4 how i tried to call him but he didnt answer, few days went on so i was abit hurt by then that although he has no credit on his phone to call me he does however have a home phone and i thought it was very slack he couldnt of picked the phone up when he had the time and to give me a quick call , i was talking to a gf of mine about what had been going on (my gf and her partner have know him for atleast 10 yrs so she knows exactly what he is like ) so as i was explaining to her about what has sort of been going on it started to bug me and i got pretty angry i know how ridiculous and jealous (ha! im not the jealous type at all, he is extremely possessive of me though) so i ended up sending him a nasty txt message, saying someting like..”so who is she!?” thinking that maybe he is with someone else.. i dont know what got into my head to think of something so childlike and stupid..anyway i did and i cant take it back now unfortunately …. So in my mind im thinking that maybe that txt msg i send last thrusday night may be the result in him saying that to his sister? …. Im sure he knows now that his sister has told me that, still think its pretty poor show as to what he is playing at.. for someone who is inlove with me and wants a family with me could ignore me and brake up with me without really braking up with me? Myabe someone who knows the aries/dragon could help me out??? I obviously want him back, theres no questions about it we just fit & i believe in fighting for someone you love and to not throw it away so easily lifes to precious, but i dont know how to go about it… maybe i should ignore him aswell for another wk or 2? but then it could work in my favour for him to cool down and realise that it was a stupid mistake letting me go, or it could push him away further if i dont pursue to work things out with him now?? itd crush me if he met someone new whilst im trying to play it safe for a few weeks? I know that aries like that chase, and dont like an easy win so to speak… i dnt want to come off ‘neady’ and weak to him because that will be just too easy for him and will think to himself that he has won, when really he hasnt been all that fair on our relationship for awhile. I would love to hear anybodys opinion

  8. hey guys, i need help and tips probably any one can help me with. am a pisces man and was in love with an aries girl. we had very good time for one year, and one day my gal came to me and said she doesn’t have any feelings for me and brokeup. I tried my best to make her realise her that i love her so much, but she was sticking to her words. I know according to zodiac signs that we both are not compatible to the maximum extent, being a Pisces i know how much i like her and how much am missing her. I never shouted at her neither gave any sort of trouble to her. Can any one plz suggest me how to get her back as i miss her very minute.

  9. Srini,

    That’s a tough one. I don’t know…all I can say is I’m a Sag women who was involved with an aries man and he played so many mind games, but when they are done, they are. I was in a relationship with another aries man several years ago and I ended the relationship, but later realized the mistake I made, but by that time it was too late,when they move on they do. But I don’t know, she’s an aries woman and maybe she’ll realize that real love you have for her and will give it a second thought. I hope so.

  10. Ladies…I really need your help please :) This is kind of long (i’m sorry) but I’d appreciate any advice or encouragement. Thank you :) (OH! and I’m a sagittarius, btw)

    I’m a sagittarius but not your “typical” one. I’m a bit more reserved, ladylike/feminine yet I still have a bit of that adventurous personality and naturally confident/hard to get. He was an aries who seemed to be so CLASSY, debonair…reserved like me… after initially being shy, he chased me, was straightforward, and asked for my #. Long story short: I went to dinner w. someone last summer. He’s the only genuine gentleman I’ve ever met – full of respect and manners and something I’ve always wanted but was never used to. At that time, it’s possible I may have come off as emotionally closed/distant. I was going through some things at that time and did not want to get close to someone. I was still me but wasn’t my best. We left it at “we should do this again” and he hugged me… he didn’t call me or make plans. I texted him a week later and he responded quickly, we talked, and the convo died down. I gave up and deleted his number. I found myself again and forgot about him met other guys, went out w. few and I’m at a good place. I realize the mistakes I did – i have so much more manners than what I may have shown him yet I don’t regret how I was feeling at that time. I couldn’t help it. He was such a gentleman and I really appreciated how he treated me and everything…I wish I could tell him.

    Here’s what we did: when we first met, he never gave me the impression he was hitting on me. we got along so well, even danced w. each other but he never touched me at all. He introduced me to some family members/friends (that were there at the event). A friend even came by to ask questions for him, “how old are you, do you have bf? do you like food bc if you do, you two can get some.” And with that, he became confident/straightforward and politely asked for my number. When I left that evening, he texted me how it was nice to meet and was interested in hanging out. He wasn’t clingy, didn’t text me everyday but when he did, it was strictly about sports (that we liked)…i’m used to guys tellin me how interested they are right away…this one didn’t. He asked what I preferred what I would like to do and even called his older brother (who’s married w. kids) suggestions on where to go. The only “flirty” thing he did (or sounded remotely interested) was sending me a txt of my celebrity crush, saying it was him LOL. When had to pick up an important call, he put it on speaker. He was “sneaky” in his questions (getting my views on kids…how I would punish them, etc…) and the date was like an “interview”… questions straight fr. e-harmony and i was not expecting that. We smiled at each other, laughed…he could’ve been shy? I don’t know. I look back at that realizing he’s what I’ve wanted but to go back would be so random. We’re all in our mid 20′s and I wasn’t sure if he was just “being nice” or actually thinking about something w. me…This was last JUNE! I did add him on facebook (last fall) and he accepted right away but nothing. I’m also at a good place w. myself and I don’t wanna bring in a mess and have it ruin my confidence (right when I built it so high and healthy). I was thinking MAYBE of sending him a quick “hello” message and telling him how much I appreciate what he did…but AUGH, that’s desperate, isn’t it? And I always thought if a man was interested, he would do something….unless he’s the shy type and needed reassurance (that he couldn’t get out of me?) He seemed so “serious” also…i thought he was a CAPRICORN at first…What should I do?

  11. So I am a Libra and I was dating this Aries. We talked all the time and I honestly felt like he might be the one. He would always tell me how much he liked being with me and how much he liked my company. Well one day we got into an argument and as a Libra I have to hear all sides before I make a decision. Well he got mad at me for talking to my friends about him and not dealing with our relationship together. I lost some trust in him because I went through his phone and found some bothering text messages to people that he was talking to. As a Libra I act on emotions and I believe in fairness. So I decided to test his love for me and I threatened to leave. He begged me to stay and apologized for whatever he did. But as a Libra I need to fill justified. Well we made up, so I thought, and we both went to bed that night together in each others arm. When I woke up the next morning he was gone! He had taken some of my belongings including my cell phone and just vanished. I lost my mind. I didnt know what to do or why he did that to me. I called and called and he would never respond to me. I didnt care that he stole my belongings I was more hurt that he hurt me the way he did by just leaving. Well after a few months went by I went through a killer depression stage and finally was able to get over him. But recently his birthday passed and being the kindhearted Libra that I am I sent him a text message wishing a Happy Birthday. A mutual friend of ours told me that he was living in the same complex as he and he is living with his new boo or whatever. So i decided to leave him a birthday card at his door with a letter explaining how i felt and that I missed him and that I wished things were better. Well just yesterday he called me. We talked for a while about what happened and how it happened why he did what he did. He apologized and wished things would be better. I told him I missed him and that I wanted to see if we could work things out. At the end of the conversation I asked him could I call him back and he told me that he would call me. Needless to say I haven’t heard from him. So what should I do? Should I wait it out and let him call me again or should I call him? I dont want to sound desperate but I do miss him like crazy and i dont know what to do. Plus when we talked he told me that he went back to Minnesota which is where he is from but I don’t know if he is lying because he doesn’t want me to know where he really is. Anyone with some good advice please tell me what to do because I want him back but I dont know what or how to do to get him back? Also, does he really feel anything towards me or is the just a game that he is playing. I feel that I have closure on the situation but I am not sure what to do about him? My friends obviously say leave him alone but thats easier said than done because he has a special place in my heart. So what should I do? Someone anyone Help Please!

  12. Hi Tay Smith,

    I realise he has a special place in your heart and you really want him back but if he doesn’t
    want to return then what options or choices are you left with.??? You cannot force someone
    to come back to you unless they are willing to be with you. Can you honestly trust him again
    following what he did and how he behaved toward you.??? How old are you both and how
    long have you been involved.???

  13. We were together for 6months and haven’t talked for about 2. He is 23 and I am 25. I am not sure what to do but I don’t want to be smothering. I just want my best friend back and I don’t know how. I believe I can trust him afterwards because he only did what he did in response to him feeling unappreciated. Some advice from a true Aries would be good. What do I do to get him back? How can I not just be about words and be more action?

  14. Hi Tay Smith,

    You have shown plenty of ACTION so far and so has he by stealing your belongings and
    taking off. He is with someone else today and no doubt he will be with someone else
    tomorrow. He is very young and very stupid not to mention selfish and so many other things
    which you are better off without.

    You can continue to deny what the reality is here but you will only continue to make yourself
    available to someone whom will only hurt you more because he is in no position to offer you
    what you need or desire. You are just one of many whom he will use and abuse until he grows
    up and decides to take responsibility for his actions. And that is not going to happen for many,
    many years.

    Just let it go and forget about him because nothing good will come of it and the longer you try
    to prove yourself to him the worse it will get. He will just take advantage of you and disapear
    again and again. You are very young and you have your whole life ahead of you. There will be
    plenty of time to meet someone whom will respect you, love you and value you for yourself.!!!
    He will not run away from you but toward you because he will want to be with you out of his
    own FREE WILL.!!!

  15. Is my relationship over I’m a Gemini she’s a aries. I have been dating this girl for 9 months and everything was great. Over time ill say the last 2-3months I found myself becoming sensitive and emotional as so whenever we would have our pointless arguments instead of her chasing me and vice versa I did all the chasing. I would always voice how I feel and she would but begun to stop. She pretty much started to have power in the relationship. we would still be together never giving each other space and getting back cool in a day. So we broke up because she wanted a break and I said yes than no.So she broke up with me and I got emotional she said she sorry. But than like a dummy I went out with her for her birthday and we had a good time until I noticed she was texting another dude in away to make me notice and make me jealous. Long story short we argued she hit me and was saying I don’t need to explain anything I have nothing to say and we not together so why do it matter. I kept pushing and she called me soft and to cry somewhere to which I called her a bitch and said hurtful things… It was wrong but I was mad. I waited a week called her she picked up it went well till I started again and she said she was over again. Waited three days was ignored and she put on twitter she need her number changed and two days later asked her to hang out she said the same with another comment trying to make me seem like a stalker. Is it to late to go NC?Will she come back?does the other dude effect the situation?is this a game

  16. Is it possible to get a Aries woman back. I am a Gemini and at first I had that perfect balance but fell to in love and started being to nice and accepting. She pointed it out but I wasn’t able to do it than lol. It came to a point in our none months I was chasing her the last two …saying I would come back after a argument. We never had space always talked everyday and we broke up horribly where she gave me no reason she just texted another dude in front of me trying to make me mad which she did. She picked up after a week we were cool until I mentioned us and she rushed off the phone. Called two more days after this with no answer. Is it over? Do we need space?is it a game?she always say we done but we get back together but idk this time

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