How do you get Taurus to do anything?
March 8, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
A frustrated reader writes:
Enough about Scorps! What about Taurus? Why are they so damned stubborn? And how do you get them to do anything??
Have you noticed that Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius are all fixated in one way or another? They are all resistant to change, whether in the realm of ideas (Aquarius), their self-importance (Leo) or emotional resentments (Scorpio). All these signs have one thing in common — being fixed signs. They’re all stubborn, just in different ways. What makes Taurus take the cake, though, is that the Bull is an earth sign. Compared to the other elements (water, fire, air), earth is the most reserved and cautious. Earth signs (which also include Virgo and Capricorn) need to see the goods to feel secure — cold, hard cash; a plotted graph; a dust-free cabinet. When you mix fixed with earth, you get Taurus — the most stubborn sign of the zodiac. Taurus doesn’t want to let go (fixed) of any of his possessions (earth), and wants things to stay just as they are, thank you very much.
So, how do you get him to do anything? Venus provides the key. The planet of love, money and art is the ruler of Taurus. The Bull is a pleasure-hound, and will be roused out of his laziness if there’s a reward to be had. The reward, mind you, must be physical — praise won’t cut it. A deep massage, sexual favors, rich food, sweets, money — whatever it takes to bribe Taurus into taking a course of action. Learn the principles of behaviorism to develop an effective schedule of reinforcement. You know: rat gets pellet of food when it hits a lever.
I know it’s not easy. If Taurus has dug his heels regarding an issue important to you — such as his willingness to spend Christmas with your parents — then it may take some creativity and persistence to find the right carrot to get your donkey walking.
Comment below: How have you gotten your Taurus to do anything?
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This is perfect for me! I have two taurus kids!
I can coax my son into doing stuff with cash. I can coax my daughter with entertainment of some sort.
Even things like getting them to rid of old baby toys (they are now 14 nad 11) its a chore. I paid my son to get rid of them. Then my daughter was offered a concert from a friend, I used that to get her to toss her old baby toys. They are such pack rats!
Get a taurus to do something? Hahaha. That is a real funny one.
I had a Taurus once.
Rewards work (sometimes) but I find that the best way to make a Taurus do something is to make him think it’s his own damn idea. Seriously. And then tell him what a good idea it was, too.
Anonymous:
You are so right, and that just makes me laugh because I used that trick when I dated a Taurus.
I’m a Taurian female and these suggestions are good. However, with myself I’ve noticed that subtle movements work best. Posing the idea of the intended action, letting it sink in, not rushing for an immediate response, and then providing some positive things that may come from it. Taurians do a lot for others, to the point that they martyr themselves a bit. Positive reinforcement and showing your appreciation goes far with them. I have to absorb things first – think them through. Once I’ve accepted it and considered all angles – I move forward.
I had a Taurus boss and we worked closely together (the only two in our department). Since part of our jobs were to go out on sales calls, we would “reward” ourselves with long lunches (her fav hobby!), pedicures, or whatever…I would bring up any ideas that might not go over well with her during these outings. While she ate, I’d wait until she gave her first moan of ecstasy before broaching a sticky subject. She was all ears!
I also noticed that one of her closest friends (another Taurus) would always bring her a homemade dish right before asking her for a favor. It always worked like clockwork. That was the only time I wished I could cook. lol
I love what Sagilarious said…LOL.
HAhaha indeed.
Anyway, my husband is a Taurus,with Aquarius Moon and I can (occasionally) get him to do things, LOL.
My moon is Taurus too, though not conjunct his Sun.
I probably am stubborn emotionally(who me?)but my husband does Take the cake.
I tell him straightforwardly, no big prelude very little drama(if I can manage;-)]and I don’t explain long windedly.
I sometimes tell him it’s something difficult to talk about, or sweetly ask him to please listen patiently for my sake.
I am accustomed to explaining, and talking, and details–most of which he doesn’t want to hear, but does want to hear the facts he needs to know what I’m talking about or what he’s deciding about.
You know what’s a good one?
If he does something I like and have suggested, or hinted about, I say things like”Oh that was so clever of you to try that”LOL.
Oh–I didn’t even finish this and I see that Anonymous said the last thing I just said–”make him think it’s his own idea!”and I see Sagilarious agreed– *That* is it allright!
That’s what I meant.;-)
Oh–as regards Taurus and meals, and cooking!
Yes! he loves his home cooked meals–always!
I read someone here saying something about cooking for a Cancer–but I’ve found Taureans are even more into their food.
He’s very thin, but while, I’m not, I don’t care about meals and such–he wants his cooked meals-always, LOL
Haha. THERE IS AN ART TO FOOD!
Nagging is the MOST annoying thing to do to a Taurus. Present me your facts and your pros and cons, but a constant nag is usually a positive NO from a taurus to your request.
Great advice, Jeff. Let us know waaaaaaaaay in advance. If we haven’t acted on it, it doesn’t mean we forgot. We are sitting back and waiting for the right moment to strike.
As a Taurus Rising with Venus in Leo (fixed again) I have great trouble making myself do anything, even when I’m very much aware of how necessary getting some things done is. Studying for instance.
Then, as soon as I get finished with one little piece of a million pieces puzzle – I reward myself (mostly by spending time doing nothing, lol), like I moved a mountain.
Now, there’s a trick with me – you can’t bribe me to do anything, don’t know if it’s for my Cancer Sun, or for Venus in proud Leo, so until I decide I’ll finish whatever the job is nothing moves me to do so. Luckily I’m smart enough to move myself (often when the deadline is getting damn close) or I wouldn’t do anything with my life and myself.
As a Taurus, here’s what works with me.
Ask for my help when you sincerely need it. I often notice myself if someone needs help & just pitch right in quietly. Don’t take advantage of me, if you do & I figure it out – I’ll probably just start avoiding you. Don’t whine. Reciprocate from time to time, shameless moochers get dropped off my list quick (unless they are relatives, then that’s just the way it is). Don’t embarrass me by thanking me in front of others, speak well of me privately instead. If I’ve helped you repeatedly, be loyal and don’t badmouth or criticize me behind my back (nothing I despise more than a hypocrite). If I don’t offer to help you, it’s that I don’t want to – I’m busy with something else, I don’t like you, I don’t think you really need it, etc.
DO WHAT WORKS BEST FOR TAURO– MAKE HIM SEE RED
HE’LL BE MOVING SO FAST YOU’LL CHOKE FROM THE DUST
CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR
then RIDE, SALLY, RIDE!
tauro don’t move til he’s good an ready
Help, I am in love with a Taurus male and I am a Scorpio female. I have known him for several years, as we used to do business together. When I met him I was married on my way to divorce. Over the years he has always kept in contact with my sporadically calling me out of the blue to find out how I am and what’s going on. I have been divorced for a few years now and when he called me one day I suggested that we meet for a drink (no strings attached – we just always have great convo and lots in common). After meeting him for that drink I realized how charming he was and we started talking on a more frequent basis (for hours on end at least 2-3 times per week) he works crazy hours (owns his own business) but we enjoy talking and have lots of laughs. Ok I am IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN and I have to have him. I recently started professing my love to him, he thinks I am dillusional and doesn’t really believe me (I think – he may be playing and has the need to feel desired) but he keeps referencing my ex-husband who I am SO over. We had sex once (unexpectedly) a few months ago and he kind of lost his mind right after “he started saying that I made him weak, etc” — so I figured ok won’t be getting that good stuff again any time soon) once he even said “you made me feel like a 17 year old high school boy that night” (but I’m a scorpio we can’t help it) however after a week after that incident I was able to baby walk him back to our regular state (he seemed so scared after we had that initial incident) so things are back to normal now but I have to have him and yeah I know they have to slowly think everything out… but does ANYONE have any ideas on what I need to do in order to get this man because I KNOW he likes me. He’s a man who works from 9am until midnight most days so if he didn’t like I am sure he wouldn’t waste his time always talking to me. I am a great cook, etc. I can even cook entrees from his native country (as we are both from the same country) but I got to get the man over my house again in order to feed him. His b-day is coming up do I send him something or is that too aggressive – what do I need to do? Any and all advice is welcomed!!
I’m a taurus female, and stubborn should have been my middle name. I’m so bad sometimes you can try to bribe me with money or food *smile* and I still won’t budge. I’ll just do it when I good and ready…but I think I’ve met my match with my Scorpian husband AND daughter lol
And yes…I’m a HUGE pack rat lol
My taurus male has alot of earth, fire, and water in him. But not a lot of air! And being a libra female, I can be very bossy at times. But I have watery emotion (Im a scorpio moon) and I have a lot of fire in my rising (saggitarius). Im still struggling with it. It’s hard to convince him anything without benefit to himself, and he can also be extremely greedy. He tends to not remember the things he has done wrong, but can tell me all my faults to a key. He has a cancer moon and a leo rising, so that pretty much my tactic. I play to his watery side (needing, sensible, caring) and stroke his ego. He’s usually open to anything once I warm his heart. It pays to be subtle, so he can eventually believe the ideas were actually his own. Its certainly not fun to have to be the submissive part of the relationship, but once you learn to manipulate things without letting him realize your game, you realize the power lays in your hands, not his.
im a taurus woman. and let me tell you. i will stand there, arms crossed, and with a mean mug until i get a presant, cash, food, or a massage/back scratch.
i love it all. and its the ONLY thing that gets me moving:
rewards.
I’m a gemini with way too much earth and fire on the side and one of my good friends, is basically nothing but taurus, through and through. We meet at odds constantly because we both don’t know how to do anything but be blunt and to the point. So our mental horns are locked in endless and inevitable battle. Our stubborness and pride ensuring that neither of us will ever give up!
I think these manipulative tips may win me a point or two! Thankyou, heh. Now all I have to do is pull them off…
HeHe, if i have a bulls favor i can usually get them to do what I would like.
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Maybe its cause I am manipulative with my sun in scorp, maybe its cause I can connect with my moon in taurus; what I do know is with my gemi rising, out talking them and making it seem like they are in control and its what they want wins me the last part of the battle of getting them to do what i want them to
this is very conditional on if they are a woman and if they have some form of interest in me though, i cant say it will work on a random stranger, and only on guys for business related stuff but i have a lot to prove for those lol…..
over all, just keep em satisfied and most of the time it wont be any skin off their back to share food with you or come to a small compromise…….their still stubborn as heck though when not trying
I’m a Taurus female. Stubborn as hell. The only way to get me to do anything is give me something i want. Not possessions, i hate taking anything from anyone unless it’s a birthday or christmas present. more like…favours
this works well if you’re a member of the opposite sex i’m attracted to. wink at me, kiss my neck or ear and i’ll literally do anything you ask of me, even if it’s to go to the shops. just promise me more of it when i get back. colleague wise, show me you’re serious about work and that you want me to do some in a nice polite way and i’ll do it. friend wise, show me that it’s something i might want to do.
failing that, you’ve got no chance
I have a question i met this taurus
im crazy about him we see each other off and on in passing alot we
have talked on the phone several times and i even visited his home before, it took a few months of tag to get us to this point but we finally slept together when we were done he wanted me to stay for a while i had somethings already planed so i couldnt besides he had places to be as well we joked around for a while before i left we kiss and that was it. now before all this happened we didnt talk every day or even every week so i wont be hurt if its a few days or a couple of weeks before we talk or should i be concerned that sex was all he wanted it has only been a day but im just concerned i guess.
It is just hilarious reading everybodys comments about how the sign of Taurus are. I am enjoying reading the tricks you guys use to get them to do what you want. Its funny because I didn’t think there were any but I knew I could find some and boy I did. I am over here cracking up. I have been working on a Taurus female for a while. (10 months) The food thing really had me laughing because it is the truth. The truth though for me is that i am tired of waiting. I quit.
I’m a triple whammy….my sun is Taurus, my moon is Virgo and my ascendant is Capricorn. I am very very very very fixed, and sometimes, I get sick of it . I do love reading through the experiences here though, and chuckle to myself whenever I read something that sounds just like me.
Id like to hear from others who are double or triple earth signs….I will try to describe my habits. I love eating (OMG!) home cooked especially, I love having a steady routine with everything in its place, I dislike change so much unless I am properly forewarned, and I love living my life quietly, simply, and with as little attention as possible (VERY private!) I used to be recklessly irresponsible when I was younger but I think my VIrgo moon has reared its head 100% as I grew older .
This is what I hate about myself and my habits : I always stick to what I am used to. I wear the same things ( or a variation fo the same things) EVERY single day, and wearing a new shirt or new pair of shoes or pair of pants or using a new bag terrifies me (LOL! that is so funny..maybe because I do not like attention, like my friends are so used to me looking a certain way and I do not like anybody calling attention to something new about myself ) . I really want to change my style, but I am SO stubborn and rooted to what I am used to..always making excuses. I always make excuses not to change my hairstyle, or to let my hair down ( I always tie it) and I always want to be comfortable and wearing my “tried and true” stuff. Is anybody else like this?
It takes something major for me to get out of my rut, like a wedding or special ocassion where I do have to dress up BUT i cannot wait to wear my sneakers and beloved jammies. Please help… lol
@gibraltar, Pluto’s in Capricorn until 2024. Depending on the degree of your Ascendant, this transit to your First House can definitely bring on significant change to your “look.”
I am a Taurus female. The best way to get me moving are REWARDS! But the rewards will have to be genuine and subtle. You can’t make it too obvious that you are trying to win us over. We hate being underminded and prize forthrightness and honesty. If we feel that you are trying to manipulate us, we will be indifferent in your presence, or ignore you all together. Given that we are introverted signs, our thoughts live in our heads, and we are very private people. We will not be highly verbal as to why we are indifferent in your presence.I hate to admit this, but FOOD works! Light scented candles, and make subtle romantic gestures every now and then. Art shows will be perfect! Also, be VERY VERY VERY appreciative of the things that we do for you. We crave positive reinforcement for our efforts. Leave ‘things’ and ’skeletons’ like ex-boyfriends and former relationships in the past. We will secretely hold it against you. Never make them the topic of discussion. We are possessive by nature. Competition is not attractive….
To get us moving faster, since we are a fixed sign. Give us reasons to feel safe with you since we are overly cautious. Meet our family members. Be an active listener when we vent. Be financially driven. Take us out for ice cream and add sprinkles. Also, be very affectionate, we are a very physical sign. Do not be emotionally demanding, because emotional meltdowns make us rather uncomfortable. Do all this…and a Taurus will MOVE MOUNTAINS.
To all of yall complaining about being fixed. You really can tell me nothing I have a Leo rising, Taurus sun, and an Aquarius moon. I have a really difficult time with people, because I so often just barrel through there ideas with mine. And never even realize that I have offended everyone in the room. Kinda sucks, but hey my great weakness is also my greatest strength the ability to remain untouched.
Haha! You wanna hear about locking horns. I’m an Aries/Moon in Libra and my boyfriend is a Taurus/Moon in Leo. We are like the worst possible setup ever. I don’t know how we get along but we do and its awesome. I see it as a bit of a challenge to deal with his stubborness but he can understand because of his Leo Moon. I’ll use some of these tips though to get him away from his computer. Thanks:)
It’s interesting how you say that food makes a bull move…so true with mine. He loves to eat and have dessert. After he eats, all I have to do is place my hand on his muscular chest and my lips on his ear and he says, ‘I told you not to do that.’ And he’ll pick me up, sit me on his lap and kiss me. I love it! Always know that you will have to make the first move. They want to make sure you want them.
Straight up nothing personal: Some Taurus Men bloom a little late but the basics are still the same..depends on their upbringing..
1. Be willing to back up your statements with facts – or at least some pretty sound reasoning.
2. Don’t expect us to respect you & your viewpoints just because you say so.
3. Be willing to concede when you are wrong. We respect the truth over being “right”. Withdraw your erroneous comment and admit your mistake and we will see you as a very reasonable person. Stick to erroneous comments and we will think you are an irrational idiot and treat everything you say as being questionable.
4. Try not to be repetitive. It annoys the hell out us
5. Do not feed us a line of bull. We will know even if we pretend not to..
6. Expect debate. We like to tear ideas apart and prove their worthiness not worthlessness. We will even argue a point we don’t actually support for the sake of argument (nothing personal).
7. Do not mistake the strength of your conviction with the strength of your argument. We do not need to believe in a position to argue it or argue it well. Therefore, it will take more than fervor to sway us.
8. Do not be surprised at sarcasm.
9. Remember that we believe in workable solutions. We are extremely open-minded to possibilities, but we will quickly discard any idea that is unfeasible. Our open-mindedness means that we are willing to have a go at an idea by trying to pull it apart. This horrifies people who expect oohs and ahhs and reverence. (like sensitive persons etc..) The ultimate– Our insult to an idea is to ignore it, because that means it’s not even interesting enough to deconstruct. This also means that we will not just accept any viewpoint that is presented to us. The bottom line is “Does it work?” – end discussion.
10. Do not expect us to actually care about how you view us. We already know that we are arrogant bastards with a morbid sense of humor. Telling us the obvious accomplishes nothing.
11. We are aggressive and we like our woman to be aggressive
12. We love being in long relationships stubborn and hard-hearted if you can truly get in – by unconditional interest – and a serious interest in reading our minds…
13. We love to feel wanted
14. We love to help people in times of need
15. Never belittle us when we have fallen
16. Become our friend first and work your way up from there
17. Pretty eyes and a great smile and happy to see us is a plus
18. If your full of crying drama all the time then stay away from us please!
I’ve never really had any problem getting along with Taurus men. If you flatter them they’ll do a lot of things just to show off
Of course thats true about a lot of men in the zodiac 
Just show him you appreciate ir when he does something, they like to be acknowledged too 
I think Taurus guys are warm. I know a Taurus guy that would move the sun to make his wife and family happy, she shows him the same consideration and they get along great, shes a Virgo lady 
sex!!! always gets him do whatever you want