Scorpio man seeks woman who can keep a secret, stay faithful. Must have high sex drive, and must never ever look at another man (or woman, for that matter). Extra points if you have a healthy respect for privacy. Willingness to merge assets a plus — bringing along debts may be a dealbreaker. You should have completed a full round of psychoanalysis first, and know your dark side well — I don’t want to be your therapist, and I’d rather you have thoroughly examined yourself before I dig up all your skeletons. Tolerance for witnessing emotional extremes and black moods is a necessity. If you want to be possessed, I’m your man.
What does a Scorpio man want in a woman?
February 27, 2007 by 7,696 Comments
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Hi everyone,
Seems like this topic is updated quite often. Hope someone can help me.
I’m a 26year-old cancer girl who is falling for 28-year old Scorpio.
We met through an activity that we share in common. We clicked right away and spend the entire night at a friend’s bbq where we laughed all night long. Afterwards, he took me home and I couldn’t resist him. We spent the best night ever. Then he kinda melted in front of me, confessing he had a gf (long-distance relationship. Both of them have already cheated on the other one). I took it very cool and told me I couldn’t blame him cuz we’re all just humans.
The next day, we saw each other again and he thanked me for being so understanding. He gave me his number and took mine, hoping we could stay friends.
“Unfortunately”, we’ve seen each other quite a number of times for the past month. Either just having a drink or going out to eat and something spending the night together. He has confessed me that I’m his best sex partner ever and I told him its the same here. Whether in bed or not, there is just a magical chemistry between the two of us. We laugh a lot, he keeps on complimenting me, we have small talks but also more important ones. Although I do feel how secretive he is.
He has introduced me to a couple friends of his. Last time, we went to a bar with people he just met (from classes) and one of the woman there (45 year-old woman with 5 kids) asked me if we were a couple because he had been eyeing me greedily for the entire night.
He tries to get to know me by asking “innocent” questions and seems amazed everytime he discovers something about me (yeah, I’m a secretive crab also). He’s always discreetly brushing me when we’re around people (our “relationship” is a secret”). Everytime we part he gives me huge hugs. We know what the other is thinking only by looking at each other’s eyes (which we do a lot).
Just a wonderful chemistry and bond.
Now there are a couple things that bother me :
- I’m always the one doing the 1st move. He will always answer my texts or call me back but he has only made the 1st move a couple times.
- Last night, we had a talk about “us”. He told me our relationship was getting dangerous because we had to keep in mind he still has a gf, who might join him after her travels. He was pretty elusive and I think he meant we had to be careful not to get our feelings involved (though I believe it’s getting too late). Then we went to a party together where we had a lot of fun, as if we had never had that talk.
- When we’re together, he can be pretty adorable, somewhat romantic. And then, he will suddenly back up and become a little cold.
So in the end I’m starting to wonder what to think. Do you think he actually likes me and might just be torn between what we have and his gf? Or would it be possible that he’s just playing with me and “entertaining” himself while his gf is away?
A couple times already, I heard him say to our friends that he found his relationship with her quite complicated and that he didn’t know what would happen when she’ll be back. Especially because “new parameters” appear. (hope he was talking about me. haha).
Do you have any insight on his behavior and what might be happening in his head/heart? Because I’m really starting to fall for this guy. Any advice on how to “keep” him?
Thanks a lot!
Ok, just a few cold obeservations, which might help or not:
1. Funny that he confessed about his gf only after you had sex
2. “Once a cheater, always a cheater”…do you want that?
3. “I took it very cool and told him I couldn’t blame him cuz we’re all just humans.” You just gave him a free pass to cheat on you, too.
4. “He told me our relationship was getting dangerous because we had to keep in mind he still has a gf, who might join him after her travels.” Nothing specific here, just fog to keep you around indefinitely and also, maybe. have you compete for him…which is already working.
5. “Do you think he actually likes me and might just be torn between what we have and his gf?” He likes you, but not enough to break-up with his gf to be with you exclusively; by the way he speaks to you, you are NOT his first choice. In any case, he won’t make any move until his gf is back. Then and only then, when all the “variables” are right in front of him, will he make a decision.
I would guard my heart and prepare for whatever. You don’t actually know what’s between them (complicated, sure, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing). He might be keeping you on the back burner, in case he and gf don’t work out when she returns. If you want to take that risk and wait for him to make a decision (which might take “forever”), being his “spare”, it’s up to you. I wouldn’t.
6. “Any advice on how to “keep” him?” Plenty of literature on that. Keep reading. Good luck.
@Jess
You lost me at girlfriend.
He is telling you that he is just entertaining himself by telling you right after you have sex (instead of before which would have showed character) that he is “committed”. It was at that point, it would have also been pretty human to walk away.
Then YOU continue to pursue. He does not initiate. Chemistry and fun times can exist with many people who have affairs- or else WHY would they have the affair? Its a distraction.
Scorpio men are already a challenge to get involved with, but you set yourself up for further misery attaching yourself to one that is already attached and who was bold enough to tell you very early. Your actions and responses to him let him know how much he can ‘enjoy’ you.
Also, let’s say that he does leave his girlfriend for you…umm, I hope you never decided to make a solo trip anywhere in the world. Otherwise, good luck enjoying your margarita on a beach and sleeping well in hotel sheets while he is not around. His character- from the jump- is horrendous.
Instead of trying to figure out to ‘keep’ him, figure out how to keep your self worth intact. You deserve better.
Jess the man is a lier. Asume nothing he told you is true. Also why on earth would you go so low and be with a man you confesses that he is unfauthful ? Is your self easteem that low? You really opened the door for bad karma into your life. You will pay for it dearly. Scorpio men do not marry or respect woman you do it on the first date. You’re a toy and nothing more to him. I hope he destroys your heart. Then you may accually learn som integrity and ethics and never do something like that again. It’s woman like you that make men not want to commit.
Thanks for the insight.
Well, he actually told me about his gf before we had sex.
I also know I’m getting myself involved in a promised mess. At first, it started as a sex friendship but I’m having more and more of a crush on him. First month was ok. But for the past 2 weeks, I’m pondering how our relationship might turn out.
“There is no such thing as an honest cheater.” Jess. You are weak and being manipulated and controlled and setting yourself up for alot of misery and emotional pain and that’s what he wants you to do for him.
So you slept with him even after he told you he had a gf……WTF. You are already second, maybe third on his list of “booty” calls………. Ponder no more, unless you have a magic wan, it will end when he has used you up, be sure of that. You are not listening to all the experienced, wise Ladies on this forum.
Jess,
Not to hurt your feelings but you are just a fling.
dont keep him. start walking away without telling him
why? if he loves you he will chase.
if not, then obviously he loves his gf.
A Scropio man wants a loving loyal wife. I’ve been with my husband for 22 years. We met when we were both 14. He spent 5 years in prison and I stood by his side. Loving them is not that diffacult. Yes they can be distant at times. They are just working though things. Just be yourslef, be his friend first. Love always finds a way.
@DonsWife
Share more! Its nice to hear of success stories when it comes to Scorpio relationships. With twenty two years under your belt, I am sure you have much insight to offer.
I just came accross this site looking at horoscopes and saw all these negative remarks about Scorpio men. I don’t find any of it true. My husband is kind and gentle. He was facing life in prison at19. He was so drunk he did not even rememeber what happened it and there was doubts that’s what happened. They scared him with life in prison without parole so he took a plea deal. Everyone of his friends and family abondoned him. We married in a prison visiting room when he was facing 25 years to life with parole at 25 years. After 5 years the truth came out. I wanted him to know I was not going anywhere. I still have all the letters he wrote from prison. The horror and sadness. We have a very special relationship. We’ve had our hard moments like any couple but my happiness is all that matters to him. He never wants to see me sad. He would do anything in his power to make me happy. I have seen the negative side when it comes to an issue that upsets him. I would never want to be in the way of the storm. As for me and our marriage he does not even look at other woman. He’s very attractive and has kept a super hot body since prison. Yet he only has eyes for me. I’m attractive, but woman have like thrown themselves at him in front of me thinking there is no way we are a couple and he just blows them off. He said why would I have hamburger when I have filet mignon at home. When I broke my back in a car accident a few years ago he would got to work then sleep at the hospital with me. He’s very devoted to our marriage. I think marrying him during the darkest time in his life has bonded us very deeply. I’ve asked him are you staying with me out of loyalty. He says he does not feel whole or right without me next to him. That I’ve always been the one.
I had this major crush with my office mate and I think he’s a Scorpio. Good thing I bumped into this. Now, he’s gonna me cause I now know what he wants. Thanks!
Be careful of office romances. If it does not work out you still have to work there. Most times Scorpios realize this and wont risk it.
So true! Office romances tend to be a bit messy. Work can sometimes get mixed up with pleasure, if you know what I mean. it could even sometimes cost your job! As for the article, I totally agree. Scorpio men tend to be a bit possessive. Reminds me of cavemen when they used to drag women around by the hair. haha!
@DonWife
I cant put into words hardly of how Sincere and Beautiful your story is.
And dont worry hunny. He Loves you with all his heart. You were with him in his most darkest time of his life. And He will never forget that. You keep Loving him as you do and he will always be there for you. (So i feel in my heart with your story). It’s encouraging to know. And Thank you for sharing. Hugs
Hi! I’ve been reading this forum for some time now. I guess I’ve reached the peak of my frustrations with Mr.Scorpio. My frustrations has led me to do some out of the norm things… :\
So we met about 3 weeks ago at a bar. After dancing the night away, he asked me for my number. I couldn’t help myself so I contacted him 2 days after the bar to invite him over for dinner. I cooked pasta for him. We had a great 3 hour conversation before hooking up. His emotions are intense and the sex was GREAT. He let me know that he has never been in a relationship because he is afraid of being hurt. HIs father cheated on his mother throughout their whole marriage (even til this day) After the night was over, I texted him to let me know as soon as he arrived home. He did let me know he made it home and on top of that told me I was a really cool to be around and that we should definitely hang out again. The next day i couldnt help but let him know i thought of him all day. I text him a few songs that reminded me of him as well. I tried to keep the text minimal (2-3 text per day). He never initiated the text but always responded. Finally on the 4th day following our hook up i asked him when he was free again to hang out, he said the following weekend. When the weekend came around, I decided to wait for him to contact me. He didn’t. I decided to go out with my gfs and saw him at the bar with his cousin. I didn’t say much, and left the topic alone. The following night, I let him know how disrespected I felt and how he just left me hanging. (mind you, all these conversations are through text) THe follwoing day i apologized for being harsh, but i just said i would like for him to be more upfront, even if it meant getting in my pants. The conversation ended due to interruptions. I decided just to drop him but 4 days later i get text him from asking me what I’m up to for 2 consecutive days. I responded but did not initiate conversation. I ended up seeing him at the same bar again a few days later, he approached me to dance but I declined & said i would find him. I saw him talking to other women all night, but decided to just keep to myself. That same night i told him sorry I didnt dance with him because he was talking to so many other women. He asked me to go over, but i declined. I told him he was a player. Then a couple days later i decided to text him, he responded and told me to come over to hang. I asked him if what he wanted was for us to hook up, he said no he wanted to hang out, but i ended up declining his offer. The following day i decided to go over to his place. Again, we had a great 3-4 hour conversation before we ended hooking up. THe conversation was so deep. He would make comments like your definitely someone i can hang out with; he played a love song and was estatic that we were listening to the song together; he held me after we hooked up; his eyes were so intense when he looked into mine in bed, he even made an effort to kiss me on my forehead; he told me how much he loved my honesty and the attention i was giving him. He told me to stay the night; held me periodically throughout the night. The next day i text him in the evening that I really enjoyed his company and I am excited to see him again. No response. I waited all day just to hopefully hear from him. My frustrations got the best of me so I text him that I really liked him and that obviously something more than what we are is not what he really wants and to just not contact me to make things easier on me. He never replied.
What the hell is going on??? I feel like our connection is SO great when we’re together but when we’re apart I don’t hear from him! He does not try to contact me, unless i ignore him like i did after i flipped out on him. Am i stupid? I re read what i typed, and i feel dumb. But how could something be so great in person, but lack during separation.
Help!
Kassie- He’s playing with you. Scorpios like strong women. They also like to control people. GIve him a little bit of his medicine. Act aloof. Make him chase you….dont chase him. My scorp who I am engaged to now did the same thing to me in the begining…more or less.
Kassie, if you’re going to hook up so easily (without a commitment or even being asked out on a proper date) then yeah, he’ll hit it again & again since you’re so available. Scorpios like deep conversations. It’s their nature but it doesn’t mean anything more.
@michelle
so true, I agree!
“Scorpios like deep conversations. It’s their nature but it doesn’t mean anything more.”
agree with that 100%
Hi Michelle
You answered your own question he is a “PLAYER” and used you for the “SEX” since
it was so readily available and he didn’t have to go out of his way or do anything to
prove his loyalty and commitment since you never asked for it but jumped into bed
on the first night.
Men do not become attatched to Woman whom are easy they want to pursue you as
long as posible and they want you to make the chase a hard one sinse it means your
morals and standards are of high quality in order for them to get serious about you.
Plenty Women out there whom are willing to hit the sack straight away but it doesn’t
mean anything to the Man because i’ts just sex and nothing more so they hit and
run as soon as they can in order to make you realise that that is all it is going to be
and nothing more on his part. For all you know he could already have a Girlfriend
but hasn’t told you yet.???
JUST MOVE ON OTHERWISE HE WILL KEEP USING YOU AND HURTING YOU.
Cheers and keep smiling. Taurus.
The above post was meant for Kassie.!!!
Cheers Taurus.
Thanks everyone. I kicked his a#$ to the curb. I’ve learned my lesson. I will exhaust my vibrator before i let another man get in my pants :]
Live.Laugh.Love.Learn
Hi Kassie,
You live and you learn that’s very true and Iam glad to see that you did the right thing
for your self by throwing his ass to the curb so now he will learn his lesson of having
more respect toward Women and may very well change his tune by seeing you in a
different light and may come after you again with a different angle.???
Your vibrator made me laugh and it should come in very useful in the future so if he
comes after you again just tell him that you are well taken care of in that department
and to keep his dick in his pants unless he wants a proper relationship with you or
else go and pay a sex worker because that’s what they are there for.
I hope you have the last laugh where this Guy is concerned and in future make wise
choices where Guys are concerned regarding sex and relatiionships. How old are
you by the way.??? You sound like a delightful Girl whom deserves so much better
so never settle for less again.
Cheers and keep smiling. Taurus.
@ Kassie and Jess
I’ve been hooking up for a while with a Scorpio, he’s my friend’s brother which makes things a bit complicated (meaning that I have to be attentive with him), but i’m not in love with him, i only like him physically, we don’t even talk that much
and i feel great about it. I don’t mind not being in a relationship with him, i don’t care, honestly, so i’m immune to all this Scorpio crap.
What do you ladies see in them, honestly? I am a Cancer and I dated/boned two Scorps so far, for long periods of time. I don’t see ANYTHING in them. They are extremely attractive, physically (of course, i wouldn’t get down otherwise) and good in bed, but that doesn’t mean anything to me. Maybe i’ve managed to overcome my ‘womanhood’ when it comes to such issues and differentiate between sex and love. Not bragging or anything, just curious about those ‘deep conversations’ and ‘looks’- never experienced said things.
So Kassie and Jess…
1. It doesn’t matter their zodiac sign, at this point. You made yourselves available. You slept with them. You initiated everything. It’s not necessarily about them being ‘evil manipulators’ who ‘like strong women’, hence the disrespect shown in both cases. It’s about the attraction between two individuals. Yes, i think it’s common knowledge that playing hard to get will make you more desirable and all, but after all, if they REALLY liked you, they’d be with you right now.
I have met MANY serious-relationship couples who’ve started their stories with one night stands, sometimes while one of the partners was involved with someone else. They just banged for a while, then decided to either dump the partner and get together with their new flame or just stop doing it and getting back on track.
2. If he doesn’t answer your call/text in less than 3 or 4 hours , depending on his job (if he’s an exec in meetings all day long is one thing, goes to the gym, etc, if he’s working from home it’s another) then just don’t bother. I think, after so many shiteous experiences with men (yes, i did exactly what you are doing….with Leos, Pisces, etc), that a man who likes you will show interest. It does depend on his sign whether that interest is gonna be stalking-ish (Pisces) or a hot’n'cold who’s your daddy (Leo), but at the end of the day, YOU WILL GET it.
3. If he really liked you and felt the same, he wouldn’t have told you about the gf. That’s exactly what the other comment said- the guy has balls. He dared telling you straight away, just to make sure he’s ‘clean’ and you have time to make up your mind on whether you wanna keep dangling around or not. He is a work of art. I’m not jumping to conclusions about his personality- but about his character as a man, incited by your availability. Maybe he usually ‘has fun’ with girls but totally disrespects them once the deed is done, and keeps entertaining himself while home alone. You cannot know.
4. Even if you slept with him once, and you enjoyed the sex and everything, don’t tell him right away, with puppy eyes, that he’s ‘the best sex ever’. That’s just gonna inflate his ego since it comes from someone he is absolutely NOT tied to in any manner- no feelings. He will just feel like King Kong with ‘some chick’ and not ‘ohhhh i feel so good, she’s special’.
5. Don’t text him, don’t call him, don’t do anything after sex. If you want him to contact you, just wait. Don’t do anything especially if it was casual sex! If he calls, he’s interested (even if he calls after 3 days). Just play it cool, no ‘awwwww it’s so nice to hear from you! we have such a deep connection! can i cook you canneloni and watch some Titanic together?’.
Just imagine you’re talking to a former university classmate you haven’t seen in years. Be nice, polite, appear happy/smiley, don’t overdo it. If he texts, nevermind. Don’t answer. He could spend 3 lousy cents on you if he REALLY felt that connection. Don’t fall into the 13-year old texting trap- he’s a selfish petulant asshole. Leave him alone, or answer super shortly, ‘hi, i’m ok, hope you’re doing well too. probably going out tonight, not sure’ and that’s all.
6. Don’t stalk him, ladies. My friend asked me if i have her brother’s phone nr after the first time we slept together, and i didn’t (he had mine), but didn’t wanna take it. What for? I’m not gonna call him. If he wants something,he’s got my nr.
7. Do NOT call. It’s not about appearing ‘hard to get’. It’s about self respect. Especially if he is involved.
8. I cannot stress enough- do not, under no circumstances, get involved with someone with a girlfriend (who won’t dump her in maximum 2 weeks) or a married guy. He will just take advantage of you accepting the situation and never change it- what for. It’s demeaning, it makes you fall in his eyes and just wrong.
9. The comment with ‘i hope you get your hearts broken’- i’m sure it was meant to ring the alarm and not to offend any of you girls. I’ve been there, done that. It’s the most horrifying experience a woman can have with a guy (voluntarily i mean, no abuse talk here) and it does scar you. Just don’t do it, don’t become someone’s fuck buddy just because you ‘can’t help it’ to find yourself in the crapper later on. If you did it, it’s okay – as long as you get out in time. That’s why i don’t feel anything for those two Scorps (actually, one was a BF, the other just a FB)- because i was never attracted to them ‘like that’, profoundly, to begin with. So everyone got out without a scratch and we’ve been friends ever since. I’m still shagging with Scorp nr 2. No feelings whatsoever. He’s a bit…not smart
If a guy has the traits you know you’ll fall for, RUN. You’ll just get yourself in shit otherwise. or make sure he’s gonna be with you, i don’t know, play hard to get, sex him up, manipulate him to achieve what you want. If he’s not around like you’d want him to, just dump him and that’s all.
I am especially sorry for Jess, who seems to have gotten attached to the dude
@ Kassie
Oh hun, there are so many men out there, why ‘vibrate’ yourself to sleep?
I come to think, the ‘the next one’s gonna be even better’ saying it’s actually kinda true, in some weird way. I know it has no logic, but most of the times, it’s probably us who’ve been so hurt that we expect anything afterwards, so every dude is <Prince Charming.
Go out, get yourself a pedicure, a new dress, take your girlfriends out for drinks, meet someone new etc. Don't isolate yourself just because HE didn't appreciate and value your feelings/efforts to try to make something happen between the two of you. if it didn't work, just think it will definitely work with someone else. Don't become cynical.
hmmm…question about my ex-scorp…
he just told me he has moved in with his “not special” girlfriend (they got together earlier this year) because it was cheaper and more convenient…
I thought scorps were a little more substantial than that..i mean…if he is totally in love with her…fine…but do they really more in for money and convenince? (especially when she looks like something i pulled out of my drain yesterday…)
ag
@Aries Girl
It is so hard to tell with a Scorpio, Some of them are cheap as a miser, and would probably do anything to save a buck. And with her looking like something you pulled out of a drainage..I hear some Scorpio Men don’t care how a woman looks if they think this person is good for them. So it is kind of up in the air.
He could truly be using her to save money, and/or, he could really be in love and trying to spare your feelings knowing that he has some kind of hold in your mind and heart. Scorpio Men tend to have a lasting impression on a Aries Woman (if the Aries woman was really in love) Speaking from experience.
Not expert advice, but it’s the best I could think of without going thur the whole Scorpio Male’s MO of why they do things as they do (who knows?). Or speculating it to the tilt.
But if he is trying to spare your feelings… then he cares about you. And don’t want to hurt you anymore than he has already.
erm…thanks for the insight…while i am pretty sure he still cares…he was never all that worried about my feelings…so it is unlikely that…
also, it turns out that the details he gave me were somewhat fabricated…i mean…the stuff he told me has turned out to be, at least some of it, not true…not really sure how much of it was not true…am still trying to find out!
anyway, why would he lie? The main concensus is that he did it to make me jealous…but since he broke up with me…that doesn’t really make much sense…i mean…everytime i have broken up with a guy – i have done my best to spare their feelings when another guy comes along…or not even mentioned that there was another guy…
Isn’t it usually the dumpee that is supposed to be trying to make the dumper jealous? or is this some weird scorpio thing? They want a strong dignified woman – who they can then grind into dust?
AG
@AG
Because he is evil? who really knows what is going thur his mind.
what do Scorpio men think about women who initiate physical contact? i’m getting tired of waiting for this guy to put the moves on. he’s said he’s shy so i’m wondering if he needs a direct invite?
@thosedesired . . . I love it when they initiate it.
Women can be more difficult to figure out for the male species. No man in his civilized gentleman right mind would want to ruin an otherwise romantic moment with the female of his current pursuits by riding up north with his hands starting from the south on her body right away for fear that he might damage what might have taken him a long time to construct.
He wants to be sure that the lady will reciprocate and it sucks when you try to kiss your “friend” for the first time and she turns away or becomes uncharacteristically panicky about something and gets up and dashes away to attend to whatever matter leaving the advancer with his own saliva.
Now if he is like staring at you (no facial expressions–like the kind where he looks like nothing is inside his head) and then point blank places his paw on a fun bag without any advanced notice—I don’t think many women would respond positively to that. If the two are alone in private, someone’s apartment, then the environment has helped the couple already to make it happen.
That’s why he is taking long it’s not that he doesn’t want to see and feel what colors are underneath the girl.
I’ve noticed, from experience, when the girl has grabbed my hand and placed it near her southern valley or in very near proximity to her downtown (primarily when the girl is wearing a skirt)–man it always felt soft—that something was going on and about to happen. But I couldn’t just place my hands downtown right away and stick out my tongue and go for her neck simultaneously either without her permission.
the SWV video was a nice touch! i’m a cancer girl. the scorpio guy i was talking about has been my friend for a while now. he is so secretive about his feelings so i flat out asked him what he wants. he said he wants to be with me but wants to go slowly because if you rush in to sex, not only will the lovemaking be horrible, but the foundation for a real relationship will never be there. plus, he claims to be shy, which i have a hard believing.
i’m really frustrated about the physical relationship not unfolding. i’m a grown woman with needs! after i read your message, i got all prepared to initiate which really goes against my nature. i waited the whole day for the right moment. while we were out, he openly flirts with a women right in front of me then acts all surprised when i got quiet! maybe i was more angry then i would have because i had seduction on the mind just to be slapped in the face with his flirting. i couldn’t help it. i dropped the ball on self control and didnt do anything to discourage a man who approached me. Oppps. He was sooo jealous he was literally foaming at the mouth. Shouting and acting crazy, saying all kinds of hateful stuff about men hitting on me. I asked why he was so passionate about men flirting with me when he hasn’t laid paw on me. he started with the same speech as before. i said he obviously didn’t want me so he must want me to go to someone who did. he said he didn’t want that and reminded me that he already told me what he wants. he was still flushed but quiet when he answered. he had that dead stare, completely expressionless. did he scoop me up and take me to bed? nope. he called me an enigma. me? the nerve.
i’m worried that maybe he wants to go back to being just friends but doesn’t want to hurt me. i know that scorpios can be jealous over their friends as they would be over a lover. am i missing something or is this just a waiting game?
Just to have some credibility with you, I have been married to a Scorpio male for over 20 years. All this negative posts relating to scorpio men really do not surprise me. There has been such a magnetic fascination with these guys is hard to explain, and I used to hear that ” these are the guys our Moms warn us against”. But to make a long story short. I am Acquarius Woman. I can say I dated pretty much every sign in the horoscope, but never even tried to get close to a Scorpio male, for the same reasons, many described here. Yes, they “love” women that regard themselves as objects. Women that believe that they would impress a Leo, or an Aries, or any other sign by “alluring” men to bed in a first month, are just playing with a Volcanic fire. Yes, if you went to bed on a first, second or even third date with these “superior” individuals, they will likely do it to see “tour inner inside”, AND they will respect you as much as you respect yourself . So, to answer the original question ( And I admire “Don’s Wife” for her courage, no wonder her husband has taken her places (as did my scorp) that most of women only hear in “happy novels” and trust me, they exist only with Scorpio Males. They really are the most compassionate, sensitive, lonely, idealistic, romantic and YES, LOYAL and truth searchers I have met in my life. I feel bad for the women that get confused by a long and REAL and LOVE relationship, and casual encounters. Be happy, whomever you choose, but if you are smart, you will see that every sign has good and bad, but Scorpios, usually are “better than good”. Mine is my best lover, friend, and everything else. Yes including their famous passionate “bed encounters” – which They can only feel with: 1 woman at the time, the rest of the women are part of their experience, but at the same time I ask you? “Were you not experiencing them as well?”. With my humble experience I can firmly say: “You will not have a more sublime experience with a Scorpio Men, than with any other (not even the flamboyant Leo comes close to Scorps). But a word of advice, actually 2: 1. If you can’t handle passionate men, just run 2. Just because they are nice to you women (yes, including sex) does NOT MEAN HE LIKES YOU. Again, you will be selected, by him, and jumping from men to men is not going to make you or him happy. Wish you love.
Difficult question but I will try to answer here:
As a scorpio male I want different things from different women. Some women I just need them around, kind of like a pet, doing whatever they want to do but just there. Some I want to have for sex only. Lots and lots of it until desire is satisfied. Some I want to discuss ideas with and see what makes them tick. Some I want in order to have an argument with to test my own wits against them.
However there will be women who satisfy more than one of these roles and those women are more likely to be in the long term soul mate category.
Unfortunately for me my Venus is in sagittarius so I find it difficult to ‘settle down’ as I get Tired of the same thing very quickly. So most of my relationships have been of the pet variety. Though when I was younger I had a bad experience similar to the guy in 500 summers. That sinking love feeling is not kind to you.
It is hard for a Scorpio male to give you everything and they generally will not. It is not out of heartlessness or fear of being hurt. It is because they don’t feel the need to or that it is of great importance. See it like someone who hints at something without being overt about their wishes. For example, a symbol of an object to express a million different things for you to work out for yourself for your own experience. Why would I need to tell you what each thing is about? You need to work it out for yourself.
Hi! Well I have a question. I like a scorpio man but I don’t know if I should tell him. I think he kinda likes me but I’m doubtful at it.. Should I tell him that I like him or just wait? Will it scare him away if I did?
The story is, I met him online and we’ve been chatting for three months already. He always tells me that its crazy that we’ve been talking this long. Haha. And he compliments me lots of times telling me that I’m very pretty and all. I don’t know if he’s being nice or if he likes me too.. but we talk everyday and we’ve sent each other gifts and he always wishes me luck at my competitions.. It’s just that its hard to read the scorpio guy. And I was wondering if he still have feeling for his ex. He tells me they never spent deep conversations with his ex but they stayed long for 4years and he broke up with her because there’s just emotional attachment. And he tells me that he barely knew her..
Thanks everyone!
Virgo girl
@Marge
How did you meet this guy online? Have you seen him in person or you just talked to him online/phone? Does he live in another country? And what does he specifically say about his ex?
@Dr.Me,
I met him in an online chat site. I haven’t seen him personally but I see him in videochats.. And he does live in another country.. Well, he says that his ex does lots of partying and they haven’t had deep convos. Just sexual attachment mostly..
I’m a 14 year old gemini girl who’s madly in love with a scorpio boy. He’s a typical scorpio: intense, secretive, magnetic … and gorgeous!! I fancied him for the whole of last year, which he knew about, and I didn’t really talk to him, then at the begining of this year I said that I no longer fancied him and then we’ve recently become friends, us and six of our other friends go out every weekend so we see eachother quite alot, however I’m not really sure where I stand with him. He can sometimes act as though he really likes me and then other times barely adknowledge me. One example of this is when we were round my friends house watching scary films, I was standing in the middle of the room wondering where to sit when the film came on. I got really scared so I ran and jumped on the sofa next to him and because there wasn’t much room and I was sooo scared I was curled up facing him so thatI was facing the left side of his body. As I got more scared I curled up more so I was kind of leaning on him and then I sort of ended up leaning on him with my head on his cheat. Then he put his arm around me and rested his chin on top of my head. Halfway through the film he grabbed me and started hugging me pretending to be scared, whispering hysterically :”Ohmigod I”m soooo scared”. Another example would be when us and our friends were playing this game where basically we turn off the lights and scare eachother and all of a sudden I felt him wrap his arms around my waist and drag me off the bed and pull me on top of him (I then started hitting him with pillows.) Yet a couple of days after this we went back to school where he acts completely diffrent. In school he is really guarded and quiet. Other people have picked up on how much we have in common and how we flirt constantly but a close friend of mine and his that I know he trusts asked him if he liked me and he said no. Help please?! Is he just being a flirt or does he not want to say anything for fear of rejection? xx
@Marge
Hi Marge,
Your story sounds way too familiar… I am asking because I too am involved in a very similar situation. But tell me, which country is he from and what name does he goes by? did you meet him on facebook?
I’m very curious to know … who knows, maybe we know the same guy (it’s a small world after all!) – he may be playing the both of us – let me know – thnx
@Dr. Me,
He’s from the USA. That’s funny that it’s familiar. Lol And I didnt meet him in facebook
)) Lol.
@Marge,
Thanks for sharing- It’s a relief in way but rather strange at the same time since our story is quite similar lol…
@Dr. Me,
If you want to talk more, we could chat online
Lol
@xGeminiGirlx
Hi! He might do that because of Fear of rejection. Scorpios crave power.. You will have to observe more
@Dr Me,
Hi! Yeah. I really think we’re not talking about the same guy. Lol. Where are you from the US?
And yeah, I come from another country. Hahaha. That’s so funny! How is the scorp guy then?
I agree. The similarity is funny
But his is 4years so that’s kinda diff but still a long time 
HELP please! I’ve been reading this blog for some time now, and you have all giving me really good insights on scorpio men in a relationship.
I met my scorp 2 weeks ago, we met at a latin dancing club, we hit it off right away, the chemistry was amazing, we danced all night together. The next night he asked me out and we danced all night again, and we ended up at his place, and we had amazing sex. He was very intense and caring, and he sent me a msg as soon as I left his place to tell me how much he enjoyed the night and wish me a safe drive home.
The next night he took me out for dinner. We finally had a chance to have a real conversation, it was great, very romantic, he kissed me again and again before dinner came. He sent me a text as soon as we parted, and told me he missed me already even though i just left.
The days following that, we talked and texted everyday throughout the day. Everything was going really great, until he came over to my place one night, I blurred out that I had just broken up with my ex bf 2 weeks ago. Right away, I felt this instant guard came up for him, and he said ‘oh, so you’re on a rebound’. I didn’t quite agree, coz my ex and I have been having problems, and I’d been wanting to end that relationship for months before the break up.
Yes I was sad that it ended, which my scorp sensed from me and told me I had a very sad look in my eyes. The energy shifted since that conversation..as the night progressed, he reached over to kiss me, we kissed passionately and then he lead me into my bedroom and once again we had intense passionate sex. As we were both lying there, I asked him if it’d be a problem if my ex and I remained friends. Instead of answering me ‘yes’ or ‘no’, he answered with a question ” do you think i should worry’? I answered without a doubt, ‘no’, I said that’s how I operate, once it’s over, it’s over, and it’ll never be more than just friends. But I know he didn’t like that answer, and he said to me that he’d be in a disadvantagous position if I remained friends with my ex coz I’d be more comfortable with my ex because we had a longer history together.
As he got up to leave, he was aroused again, and I playfully said ‘no’, he chased me around the room and got his way in the end…lol. It was amazing, his manliness is so irresistable. When he was leaving, he kissed me again and again on my forehead, my cheeks..I wish i had looked up so he could kiss me on the lips, but I didn’t, I just hugged him tightly and rested my head on his chest. But as he let go of me, I felt an instant coldness from him, then he turned around and walked out the door, with a very faint smile on his face.
The next day I called him to see if he wanted to do something, he told me he was too busy. I sensed something is not the same anymore, I suspected it had something to do with the fact that he thinks I’m on a rebound and wanted to put on the breaks. I later texted him that night to tell him that I understand he probably wanted me to take some time alone and get over the ‘rebound’, he replied right away agreeing with me, and tell me that he needs some alone time too, and that he doesn’t wanna rush anything.
The next day we didn’t talk all day, and then the following day, I sent him a long text explaining where I’m at emotionally, and he replied with a long text telling me that he’s still emotionally drained from his last break up which was only 3 months ago, and they had been together for 2 years. He said he misses me and thinks about me, but he’s not ready for a new romance so soon, He says he loves to see me again, but for now he needs to be alone.
I’m so confused.. If it’s true that he’s still hurting from his last relationship, and that he doesn’t want to start a new relationship so soon, then why was he calling me and texting me so frequently last week telling me that he wants to kiss me, hold me in his arms, etc.. Or is it because he thinks I still care very much about my ex (which he concluded and said so while we were lying in bed discussing about me remaining friends with my ex), so he doesn’t wanna get involved? He doesn’t wanna fight for me? Or he thinks it’s too much of a challenge to win me over when I still care for my ex?
I haven’t talked to him for 3 days now..his last text ended with ‘you’re truly amazing..will keep in touch..kiss kiss’. I don’t know what to do
Should I just wait for him to call assuming he IS trying to heal himself from the last relationship. Or should I contact him and tell him I really miss him? Is he waiting for me to call him so he can feel he’s the one that I choose over my ex? He had said to me that my beauty is a bit intimidating, that he thinks every male that come in contact with me would be attracted to me..he thinks that I can do better than him 
, but I told him he is super sexy himself (he is, super hot) and that I’m very happy with him.
Can somebody please tell me what does a scorpio man usually do when he feels there’s competition? Does he back off and wait for the girl to go to him and show him that she is interested and assure him he’s the one, or does he come back after retreating and fight for the girl he wants? Should I call him or just wait endlessly until he comes back to me? I really really like him, I rarelly ever feel so attracted to someone within such a short time. I think about him every minute of the day, and I have no idea whether I should continue waiting or I should reach out and let him know that I miss him
Please HELP! Any suggestion or insight would be greatly appreciated. Oh btw, I’m an aquarious, 2/14. Thank you everyone for reading, and any input you have.
God bless!
Oh and, I’m quite a bit older than him (more than 10 years), he originally thought I was younger than him (yes, I’m blessed with looking a lot younger than my age). He’s 28, he asked me how old I was, I told him when the time is right I will tell him. I don’t want the age difference to be an issue at the initial stage before we even get to know each other. But he’s very smart, I think he has a pretty good idea how old I am now, he told me if he wants to find out about something he will find a way. He knows I’m at least in my late 30′s from the few questions he asked. Anyway, maybe it’s the age gap that’s keeping him back? Maybe he just wanna be friends now, but wanna break it off easily, that’s why he told me in his last text that he doesn’t wanna rush things? I’m so torn and confused right now
, i just want an answer, if he’s no longer interested, I’m moving on. Should I just call him and ask him out to talk? This waiting is killing me 
i love being a scorpio. would wanna be any other sign lol