Waiting for a Libra man to call
February 23, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
A Taurus writes:
I have asked my friend to pass my number on to a Libra man I fancy. Should I have played harder to get, as it’s been nearly a week and I’m still waiting?
Libra is the sign of the scales, and as an air sign, he is both blessed and cursed with the ability to weigh both sides of any issue. As a result, he has earned a reputation for being indecisive. Although as a cardinal sign he can be a man of action, Libra cannot initiate until he’s made up his mind. Ruled by Venus, Libra can also be a bit lazy.
I don’t understand how having your friend give this guy your number is playing hard to get. You’re more like being hard to give — meaning that you’re putting yourself in a passive role. It seems so “high school,” but for all I know, maybe that’s where you really are. A Taurus will surely not be the first sign to subvert gender roles, but geez, can’t you be a bit more assertive?
Let’s assume this Libra knows you’re interested in him. Why would he not call?
1) He’s not interested.
2) He thinks you’re cute, but he doesn’t really know you all that well, and you seem a bit unyielding. There is this nice, sensual quality to you — you seem really earthy. However, he’s not sure if you two would hit it off. I mean, you have a throaty voice — that’s really sexy — but you don’t really talk all that much. Does he want a silent type? He wants somebody to talk to, somebody who can match him mentally. On the other hand, maybe what he really needs is somebody to ground him, and you seem like you could do that for him. Maybe he’ll sleep on it, think more about calling you … tomorrow.
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I met this Libra guy on chat n we became gr8 frens… coz we both shared our stories and feelingsss and listened to each other… i think he’s frank n honest n i can trust him…and suddenly out of the bluee he tells me he loves me!! I didnt care muchh…. and justt told him not to joke with me….but then after few weeks of his disappearence he calls me once and shares dat his parents dont trust him and always accuse him of being irresponsiblee and tells me again dat he loves me…I suggeste him we should meet first and then decide… Thenn he keepsss onnnnnnnnn postponing the date….and finallyy we meet n he’s latee…and we have a quick cup of coffe together and talkk…later we talk on the phone.. he tells me i’m a lil shy then on chat and phone well duhh!! obviouslyy he’s a new guy to me!! huh and then we have phone conversations and i always have to call himmm and we talk for hours………. and if i dont call him for few days he just calls me for a short time to accuse me dat i forgot him n didnt call!! And i later call him upp… he’s so confusingggggggg always postpones to meet with me!!I know he has a job and he’s bz but still he has always time for his buddies in the weekend and not a single day for me!!He rejcts my callss n reasons dat his parents were arouund!! never calls me backkk!! but still claims to love me!! what the f*** why are librans this way!!! first they try so hard for u to fall for them and when ur all into them!! they dont even respond he wont even call when he sayd he wuddd……… should i move on coz this really hurts… and what if after i move on… he calls abck again!!! I’m an aquarius/pisces cusp born on feb 19… and i want to be in a comitted relationshipppp
Eeeee I feel for you
OK- first thing is first—–
Without knowing his entire natal chart… you don’t know really the WHO you are talking about- we got he’s a LIBRA MAN- OK but rest of his chart will tell us more.
The thing with LIBRA- you are dating his friends- not him. THEY make his choices for him. If his friends aren’t all raving about you- you don’t exist.
They also like to have a whole stable full of girls- married, single etc.
What THEY think of you is all that matters there. So now you’ll have this dude whining to these chicks, and if you’re a type that other women are jealous of you may as well paint a target on the back of your coat!
A REAL BIG ONE
He’ll claim he had NO IDEA what was going on when they start getting catty.
NO IDEA.
Then he’ll go back to his guy friends- and of course if they don’t know you personally, you’ll have even MORE trouble.
Then he’ll mess with you, and here come all the head trips and mind games (and hey I have a stellium in Taurus- ascendant in Scorpio– I don’t DO HIGH SCHOOL GAMES….)
and if you decide OK you’ve had enough games and decide to LEAVE, then he’ll REALLY WHINE and claim you’ve wounded his soul and ruined his life- NOW you’ll have all kinds of trouble coming from EVERY CORNER of the planet!
And it will all be by people you never even spent 5 minutes with- and they have now deemed you the next Anti-Christ.
I merely speak from experience….
Be real careful- this could be the biggest waste of time you have ever spent- and you won’t be getting your 5 minutes back when all is said and done- REALLY THINK IT THRU.
After I was finally out of the picture I watched this dude play this same game OVER AND OVER AND OVER with every chick he went out with- they’ll do it until they’re too old to get away with it.
I have no idea WHY- but I do know you’ll most likely wind up having to leave town- if it somehow doesn’t go HIS way.
My mother is also a Libra- I swear I just don’t understand these people AT ALL.
I seriously wonder if SHE even knows how many marriages she’s broken up with her little games. Her theory on the whole thing is people are in relationships because they are “living in FEAR” and they are “weak”.
She’s got more than a couple planets in Libra- if that gives you any idea at all there.
One of my best friends is Libra- I’m thinking she likes to SPECULATE the whole
ordeal. So of course I am in HER stable of friends- I have seen this first hand- the boot on the other foot.
This speculation has been going on for over 10 years.
And there is a child involved.
It has gotten like a bad nightmare.
I just do the best I can with it trying to be fair to both parties.
AGAIN love from afar- longing- being in love with being in love- not actually BEING IN LOVE.
It’s all very ethereal- very romantic.
But viewed thru my Gemini/ Taurus / Scorpio lens .. very annoying- very impractical and a total waste of good socializing in public time and Kleenex.
(New Years was a BUST!)
From what I gather- when someone is born IN a certain sign- it doesn’t always mean they are the EMBODIMENT of the said sign- it often means they need to LEARN how to DO that sign.
They are LEARNING about the subject of being Libra. Not TEACHING it.
SO Libra is said to be the sign of marriage and relationships- I’m surrounded by Libras in my life- not a one of them can actually BE in a relationship.
Or marriage.
They can’t seem to make decisions either- which can also be really annoying.
But as I said, looking at merely a SUN SIGN can’t really give us enough to work with at this point. Having your friend be your go-between- there’s ANOTHER NOT TOO BRIGHT IDEA- trust me.
Either THAT friend will wind up with him- or like the person above said- it’s not a direct thing- too high school.
Maybe you need to BE where he is- and just fall in step if he’s THAT important to you- because chances are since they tend to base their whole opinion on whatever his friends think…. you had better BE one of the people there.
Ya see what I mean? If you’re not THERE you can’t defend yourself when people start getting catty- it’s a dirty game- but there ya have it.
Oh and when doing this- I’m not sure what you’re supposed to do when they start making out with whomever happens to jump on his lap….. but there’s always THAT little problem too- remember the “catty” sh!t I spoke of earlier?
been there and done that- and while the “game” is on– forget about dating someone else- that pour soul WILL be banished from whatever coast you live on by said group of “friends” as well.
So trust me- your precious time WILL be wasted in more ways than one!
And NO you don’t get any of that wasted time back.
EVER.
I learned MUCH from this game.
Hopefully you’ll find a way to be “friends” because that’s what is REALLY important and just leave it at that- oh and don’t have any feelings either – because that will be construed as you being JEALOUS- and HEY that’s just NOT ALLOWED- you’re “friends” remember?
Good luck Miss!
I mean that in the nicest possible way.
~WW
to elina…
Hi as i just arrived and lil bit drunk so if possible you can read more of my past messages here and see what my past experienced to my libra lover.He seems so sweet now and gone for the next day…hell let you fall inlove but cant catch you..well just learn from it..last wed. i had a date to another libra man again? lol but at this time i am smart enough to know their weakness and defend myself..that guy that i dated last wed?he called me and asked for a dinner on sunday as he said he wants to meet me again..dear i never expect.i just sleep hahaha..then when i woke up later?i texted him saying hi and he texted that sorry he was so drunk and sorry ..i said one sorry is enough but next time dont ask me if your not sure…lol..dont let yoiurself down fall on him..i did to my last libra man..but now….it will never happened again.
haha yeah thats true..my libra man used to told me that were just friends but still he used to visit me and date me and kissed me and make love to me!!!!!!!his family like me…even the gfs of his brothers but only him..has his own world at all..he said..no need to think what he wants or to whom he want to spend his life..if that moment of time will come he said he will just know it…!!!!!if i let him feel that i dont care..secretly he used to revenge too….revenge that he can defend himself through it..hell will just act that he doesnt know what youre talking and act that youre wrong and his right….lol…take some breath..date some and enjoy life dear…as early ive been in that situation and soon youll relized it too.
We would email all day long and finally agreed to get together for lunch. Call it love at first site, chemistry whatever but we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other. We went back to his place and barely got into the door and the clothes were flying all over the place. It was amazing. We texted each other all through the day that day again couldn’t get enough of each other. The following day, the texts started to fall off a bit but the interest was still there….then the weekend hit…not 1 damn word..literally. So FINALLY yesterday, Monday he responded to an email I had sent him saying to be patient, he was busy with work, etc. and he would get back to me. Are Libras so self centered that they don’t realize that putting a woman off just causes more confusion? I have NO clue what to do other than to drop sliently which is hard for me because I am a Gemini, The Communicator of the Zodiac. Any insight would help.
I love loved this Libra man says
Hi, no he isnt self centered as much as distracted easilly….He has the attention span of a fruitfly and he’s a little boy…..
Yeah I agree with the original post about being a bit more assertive, it seems like Libra men like a strong confident women who arent afraid to take the lead from time to time, just not all the time they seem to resent that. I remember reading somewhere:
“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.”
The Libra man I’m with now… we were having a good conversation, than I just said somethin like its so fun talking to you here’s my number call me lol. And left to go meet up w/ my friend. He actually called me right away, then made sure to call me on my lunch break after that and at night from than on… talking for hours and hours. I think you gotta “tickle their fancy” as one of my libra friends put it, you gotta leave a lasting impression so they think about you. In fact all air sign men seem to be like this, if you intrigue them intellectually… they come back for more.
That’s why it’s really good to have Sun/Mercury, Venus/Mercury… well Mercury synastry period when it comes to air sign men. Its a good sign in my opinion. Just another of my opinions… but if you think a man is stringing you along, he more than likely IS. If a libra is doing that, hes probably not a very secure/mature one :S and do you really want to spend time/energy on that? Because your time/energy is a valuble thing, you cant exchange it or get it back once its gone its gone.
to all:
I had a libra man for a year and i was wrong treating him to be the only one and no one.Hurt him and he will hurt you back.He wants all..and cant decide who…well now i am dating another libra man..and I am the one who told him that i dont want any commitment…well,experiences is the best teacher…he keep running..reaching..telling me that he will do averything to make me happy.He spend his hours@money just to pick me up from his place to my place almost 50min and just back to the city and had fun.He said he likes me that much..and he likes the way I think…I told him that i like him that little..lil for him,lil for another one and lil for that one..and i said im kiddin but it makes him more intrigue…he doesnt know that i have a bad axperience to another libra and now i know how to deal to him.Rules…no one will be inlove to the both of us?no sex?so on…and hes planning to quit cegar too bec i said i dont like….well lets see whats happen…if they want to play,,then play too gurls
Hi Cap/lady!
Girl how are things going with your new Libra man? You can’t seem to stay away from them! However, you seem to have this one under control. Good for you!
T0: Aquarius?libra moon
Sorry for a bit late replying your msg gurl..just went home.Well my new libra asked me for a shopping and dinner since wed. but i said im a bit busy..and awhile ago he asked me again on Sunday but i said ill try coz i think ill be lazy.Well,libra is a player..he keep saying hope he will have fun with me soon..anyway honestly were not having sex..only kiss@touch..i juz like him a lil bec he spend lots of money..and i learned already.My old libra hahah as in OlD one…funny thing..exactly i recieved ur msg i planned already to post another one of experienced here.I chatted to my old libra yesterday,we talked lots as well as his brother is coming here..this will be the 1st time that his bro@ I will met.To make a story short,he told me that his brother didnot appreciated the thing that im interfering the privacy of his love life..@ he said his brother hates me.im shocked!bec me?his bro and the Gf of his brother are friends and were talking in one site.we talked lots..funny..serious…we shared things..so even we havent meet yet..we can called it friendship…he said…WE might be friendsbut..note..we might be friends but im not a friend of his bro and his bro gf!i felt bad..really..then i said i want to talk to ur bro@his gf..he said no need..but lately i talked to his brother@ he said…he doesnt know what my old libra saying hahaha..even the gf doesnt know anything..so im shocked!!!i asked him…he said he doesnt want to talk abt this thing anymore bec its finished.jahahaha..whats the reason why he made a story like that//able to ruin the friendship bet us..hahha..his brother said..he will talk to my old libra man hahaha bec his enocent hahaha…see?i cannot get angry i just laugh.He said..he still likes me..bec if not..he will not talk to me anymore.bec i told him that if he will erase my accnt he must then forget the day that we meet.then he said he cant do it..yeah youre right its hard to stay away from him.It is just that im running to go away and hes walking to follow me and if ill stop and turn my head he will stop walking too hahaha…for you gurl what do you think is his attitude..?of making those story?besides the boy is his brother and im nice to them bec he is his brother..hahaha…nice you remember me..how are you?
Libra men are weird. You can never get to know them cause they dont want u to.
I was seeing one and he said he doesnt call daily or weekly cause their isnt anything to talk about after seeing a person.
He gave me his phone No.’s and would say call him at a certain time if I called. So, I would then after awhile he wouldnt answer, then started texting, he did then after awhile that stopped.
I ask if he had someone at work, he said work no, then said he had two women somewhere else.
When he ask if I had someone, like an idiot I said no, and told him I liked him, should of never said it but did, and I think it scared him off, cause he didnt want to commit.
Heck, I dont want to marry so whats the big deal.
He knew it.
Most Libra guys dont want to go or do anything, found out some are players, very indecisive, charming, smooth talkers, know how to get what they want, dont always return phone calls. Leave you wondering.
If a guy is a Player, and you confront them with this, do they ever call u back?
Id love the opportunity to turn him down. Anyone on here know?
Kara
Hey all, how can I get this Libra guy back? I really liked him but made a wrong move by saying I thought he was a player after telling me he had two women. Then I also said I liked him meaning as a friend.
Should I act like I have met another Libra guy and let him know, because he had ask me if I found anyone after I ask him if he did. And I had said no like an idiot.
Some are probably thinking why would u even want him if u think he is a player, right?
Im just not real sure if he is or not. Known him for 15 years fixed he and his x up 13 years ago, she left him this summer for another man so he started calling me. Ive always liked him as a friend. My husband died over 2 yrs. ago so when this Libra guy started calling it was just nice to have someone to talk to. I got a little anxious, I know that.
Heck if he is I can play along, but he doesnt answer my phone call or text the last time I sent one.
Any suggestions?
Kara
Kara…
dont let him know more about you.let him think more about of who you are…as I observed to my new libra man..not the old one.lol. he wants to know me more…bec im telling him that my last bf is the only one who knows about me..then put some rules and regulations in between of you..tell him..you dont want any commitment..that you want all guys..that many guys longing for you..just make a story hahahah…well do some dates take pictures..flirt to anyone..see?my libra no spend his money for me..do me shopping…dinner…well he said he might be rich after spening all oh his money to me hahahaha….give and take..like me..you waste my time?then you need to pay back,,you cant pay me your love then pay me your money…im not that kind of person but libra man need to see you as a strong woman or else theyll lost interest..i told him that we dont need too much attachment .that we can play but no sex…as long as i observed he dying to have sex with me..then i told him..ill give you sex if i have feelings but for now..no..and much better of no sex so no attachment…goodluck..be strong or else youll loose him still.dont communicate..let him jealous.encourage him to catch you…
Any ideas to get a Libra guy back? I know his whole faily. I know where I made mistakes, and if had to do over would really be different with this man.
How can I get another chance?
His mom says he wont answer her phone calls til he is ready.
I dont want to call or text calls he wont answer til he is ready.
So, I have let him know Im back to my ole self like I was in the beginning, cause didnt want him to think I was waiting on him.
My husband passed away over 2 yrs. ago this guy knew him, it was fun he coming and Id cook and we would sit out back and talk in the summer time, heck just something to look forward to.
Then little by little Id hear less from him. After losing my husband of 34 yrs. this was like a fear to me of losing another best friend in my life besides my husband.
I heard from him the week of Christmas he did text me, said a few things then said Merry Christmas and his name. So I texted him back the next day. Havent heard hide or hair from him since.
I think he likes being a mystery and maybe with his sign he cant help it, I dont have a clue. Boy, would I like the chance to be a Mystery to him. I think I will have that chance someday so for now, Im not going to contact him in any way. And as far as seeing another Libra I dont think Id even want to go down that road. Even though this one was upfront with everything, its like he got me to like him, then poof. Their very charming, and smooth. This one wouldnt go out to eat, he would come here and call in a Pizza. Anyone know what this is all about?
I have a big crush on this libra guy. We met at this job he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. I respected that and he did to. We kept our relationship professional. So about maybe a year and half later I was working some where else and he seen me and noticed me and starting chit chatting. He was still with his girlfriend at the time he said he would come back to see me and he did but I was busy. So that was a year ago I seen him lastnight and I straight asked him if he was still with his girlfriend and he said he was single so I gave him my number. He hasn’t called me yet. I have a huge crush on him he’s really a cutie just my type of guy. Hopefully he calls….Waiting by the phone……
hey guys….as i remember i used to visit this site and we do agree that libra man used to stop communicating and hiding right? I observed that to my ex-libra man..but this new libra man?that i mentioned lately?we used to talked from work to home..then he scheduled me in when to meet me..sometimes he used to complained if i am busy..and if ill text him…he replied emmediately….confusing…so what do you think??hayz….
I hav been talking to a Libra guy since 3 mnths now..our families arranged for us to ‘get to know each other’ as is in our culture of arranged marriage. he has been a sweet n sensible guy n i really like him…n he feels the same for me (is wat he tells me). But..he has been keeping me hanging on before taking a step further (v havent met yet) bcuz he has been in a relationship n thou they hav verbally winded it up…they r still the (so-called) best of friends n meet regularly. He says he needs a lil time to sort it out wit her…as he doesnt want to leave her hurt n alone. I dont mind waiting if its not goin to be an indefenite wait n if all tat he has told ne is genuinely true. As many hav cited here…i too somtimes face this problem of not being called often n not returning calls or replying to sms. there r days wen v hav spoken for hours together n thr was a time wen he didnt call n not respond to my calls…for 4 days at a stretch! (which hurt me terribly) I am confused n unsure abt his feelings for me. Wondering if its actually worth waiting for him??!!!