Waiting for a Libra man to call
February 23, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
A Taurus writes:
I have asked my friend to pass my number on to a Libra man I fancy. Should I have played harder to get, as it’s been nearly a week and I’m still waiting?
Libra is the sign of the scales, and as an air sign, he is both blessed and cursed with the ability to weigh both sides of any issue. As a result, he has earned a reputation for being indecisive. Although as a cardinal sign he can be a man of action, Libra cannot initiate until he’s made up his mind. Ruled by Venus, Libra can also be a bit lazy.
I don’t understand how having your friend give this guy your number is playing hard to get. You’re more like being hard to give — meaning that you’re putting yourself in a passive role. It seems so “high school,” but for all I know, maybe that’s where you really are. A Taurus will surely not be the first sign to subvert gender roles, but geez, can’t you be a bit more assertive?
Let’s assume this Libra knows you’re interested in him. Why would he not call?
1) He’s not interested.
2) He thinks you’re cute, but he doesn’t really know you all that well, and you seem a bit unyielding. There is this nice, sensual quality to you — you seem really earthy. However, he’s not sure if you two would hit it off. I mean, you have a throaty voice — that’s really sexy — but you don’t really talk all that much. Does he want a silent type? He wants somebody to talk to, somebody who can match him mentally. On the other hand, maybe what he really needs is somebody to ground him, and you seem like you could do that for him. Maybe he’ll sleep on it, think more about calling you … tomorrow.
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I met this Libra guy on chat n we became gr8 frens… coz we both shared our stories and feelingsss and listened to each other… i think he’s frank n honest n i can trust him…and suddenly out of the bluee he tells me he loves me!! I didnt care muchh…. and justt told him not to joke with me….but then after few weeks of his disappearence he calls me once and shares dat his parents dont trust him and always accuse him of being irresponsiblee and tells me again dat he loves me…I suggeste him we should meet first and then decide… Thenn he keepsss onnnnnnnnn postponing the date….and finallyy we meet n he’s latee…and we have a quick cup of coffe together and talkk…later we talk on the phone.. he tells me i’m a lil shy then on chat and phone well duhh!! obviouslyy he’s a new guy to me!! huh and then we have phone conversations and i always have to call himmm and we talk for hours………. and if i dont call him for few days he just calls me for a short time to accuse me dat i forgot him n didnt call!! And i later call him upp… he’s so confusingggggggg always postpones to meet with me!!I know he has a job and he’s bz but still he has always time for his buddies in the weekend and not a single day for me!!He rejcts my callss n reasons dat his parents were arouund!! never calls me backkk!! but still claims to love me!! what the f*** why are librans this way!!! first they try so hard for u to fall for them and when ur all into them!! they dont even respond he wont even call when he sayd he wuddd……… should i move on coz this really hurts… and what if after i move on… he calls abck again!!! I’m an aquarius/pisces cusp born on feb 19… and i want to be in a comitted relationshipppp
Eeeee I feel for you
OK- first thing is first—–
Without knowing his entire natal chart… you don’t know really the WHO you are talking about- we got he’s a LIBRA MAN- OK but rest of his chart will tell us more.
The thing with LIBRA- you are dating his friends- not him. THEY make his choices for him. If his friends aren’t all raving about you- you don’t exist.
They also like to have a whole stable full of girls- married, single etc.
What THEY think of you is all that matters there. So now you’ll have this dude whining to these chicks, and if you’re a type that other women are jealous of you may as well paint a target on the back of your coat!
A REAL BIG ONE
He’ll claim he had NO IDEA what was going on when they start getting catty.
NO IDEA.
Then he’ll go back to his guy friends- and of course if they don’t know you personally, you’ll have even MORE trouble.
Then he’ll mess with you, and here come all the head trips and mind games (and hey I have a stellium in Taurus- ascendant in Scorpio– I don’t DO HIGH SCHOOL GAMES….)
and if you decide OK you’ve had enough games and decide to LEAVE, then he’ll REALLY WHINE and claim you’ve wounded his soul and ruined his life- NOW you’ll have all kinds of trouble coming from EVERY CORNER of the planet!
And it will all be by people you never even spent 5 minutes with- and they have now deemed you the next Anti-Christ.
I merely speak from experience….
Be real careful- this could be the biggest waste of time you have ever spent- and you won’t be getting your 5 minutes back when all is said and done- REALLY THINK IT THRU.
After I was finally out of the picture I watched this dude play this same game OVER AND OVER AND OVER with every chick he went out with- they’ll do it until they’re too old to get away with it.
I have no idea WHY- but I do know you’ll most likely wind up having to leave town- if it somehow doesn’t go HIS way.
My mother is also a Libra- I swear I just don’t understand these people AT ALL.
I seriously wonder if SHE even knows how many marriages she’s broken up with her little games. Her theory on the whole thing is people are in relationships because they are “living in FEAR” and they are “weak”.
She’s got more than a couple planets in Libra- if that gives you any idea at all there.
One of my best friends is Libra- I’m thinking she likes to SPECULATE the whole
ordeal. So of course I am in HER stable of friends- I have seen this first hand- the boot on the other foot.
This speculation has been going on for over 10 years.
And there is a child involved.
It has gotten like a bad nightmare.
I just do the best I can with it trying to be fair to both parties.
AGAIN love from afar- longing- being in love with being in love- not actually BEING IN LOVE.
It’s all very ethereal- very romantic.
But viewed thru my Gemini/ Taurus / Scorpio lens .. very annoying- very impractical and a total waste of good socializing in public time and Kleenex.
(New Years was a BUST!)
From what I gather- when someone is born IN a certain sign- it doesn’t always mean they are the EMBODIMENT of the said sign- it often means they need to LEARN how to DO that sign.
They are LEARNING about the subject of being Libra. Not TEACHING it.
SO Libra is said to be the sign of marriage and relationships- I’m surrounded by Libras in my life- not a one of them can actually BE in a relationship.
Or marriage.
They can’t seem to make decisions either- which can also be really annoying.
But as I said, looking at merely a SUN SIGN can’t really give us enough to work with at this point. Having your friend be your go-between- there’s ANOTHER NOT TOO BRIGHT IDEA- trust me.
Either THAT friend will wind up with him- or like the person above said- it’s not a direct thing- too high school.
Maybe you need to BE where he is- and just fall in step if he’s THAT important to you- because chances are since they tend to base their whole opinion on whatever his friends think…. you had better BE one of the people there.
Ya see what I mean? If you’re not THERE you can’t defend yourself when people start getting catty- it’s a dirty game- but there ya have it.
Oh and when doing this- I’m not sure what you’re supposed to do when they start making out with whomever happens to jump on his lap….. but there’s always THAT little problem too- remember the “catty” sh!t I spoke of earlier?
been there and done that- and while the “game” is on– forget about dating someone else- that pour soul WILL be banished from whatever coast you live on by said group of “friends” as well.
So trust me- your precious time WILL be wasted in more ways than one!
And NO you don’t get any of that wasted time back.
EVER.
I learned MUCH from this game.
Hopefully you’ll find a way to be “friends” because that’s what is REALLY important and just leave it at that- oh and don’t have any feelings either – because that will be construed as you being JEALOUS- and HEY that’s just NOT ALLOWED- you’re “friends” remember?
Good luck Miss!
I mean that in the nicest possible way.
~WW
to elina…
Hi as i just arrived and lil bit drunk so if possible you can read more of my past messages here and see what my past experienced to my libra lover.He seems so sweet now and gone for the next day…hell let you fall inlove but cant catch you..well just learn from it..last wed. i had a date to another libra man again? lol but at this time i am smart enough to know their weakness and defend myself..that guy that i dated last wed?he called me and asked for a dinner on sunday as he said he wants to meet me again..dear i never expect.i just sleep hahaha..then when i woke up later?i texted him saying hi and he texted that sorry he was so drunk and sorry ..i said one sorry is enough but next time dont ask me if your not sure…lol..dont let yoiurself down fall on him..i did to my last libra man..but now….it will never happened again.
haha yeah thats true..my libra man used to told me that were just friends but still he used to visit me and date me and kissed me and make love to me!!!!!!!his family like me…even the gfs of his brothers but only him..has his own world at all..he said..no need to think what he wants or to whom he want to spend his life..if that moment of time will come he said he will just know it…!!!!!if i let him feel that i dont care..secretly he used to revenge too….revenge that he can defend himself through it..hell will just act that he doesnt know what youre talking and act that youre wrong and his right….lol…take some breath..date some and enjoy life dear…as early ive been in that situation and soon youll relized it too.