My only saving grace is aqua mars and venus and moon in sag

I have been in some long distance relationships ((military men – or boys disguised as men- big mistake)). friends would ask: aren’t you worried hes cheating. i already know the answer but always respond, I dont really think about it. The truth is, I know he probably is flirting with the idea of sleeping with the hot girl across the bar. Im definite has flirted: beer goggles. Not until I see him face to face can i see the TRUTH in his eyes.
Call me simple, I just know that there is no point to worry what he’s thousands of miles away _ we are CONSENTING adults, we chose this path so why stress the POSSIBILITIES?
if a man is going to cheat, he can do it right under your nose, it happens on a daily basis. Perhaps its less painful so far away…

Rational people out there must think Im FROM another planet: call it NEPTUNE; reality need not exist.

Now, if you also have venus/mars in Pisces (check the houses too) then your desire to love & be loved is twice or thrice as STRONG – its a primitive urge- its not about sex although we are very fantasy-driven-sensual people-

We actually get a warm rush of accomplishment watching people GROW & TRANSFORM those we nurture/helped/saved . Many times we are so preoccupied with others problems we disregard our own.

But sometimes it does get too much and I build everything up, then I give the person or write the person a big speech or whatever about what I feel and usually I’m better. Of course that’s after I’ve cried A LOT.

Also whoever mentioned the idealist part, that was funny. I was talking to my boyfriend one day and I was just pouring my heart out about how I feel. I said ” I’m an idealist, I think about what can be and you’re a realist, you see what it is”… =) Oh yeah he’s a CAP by the way.

I have to wait until my son is out of the house with his friends or busy elsewhere, and then I LET IT RIP. I don’t think a man would be able to live with me. He would go deaf.

Unless I decided to throw out the computer, and went back to books. Oh, what a peaceful existence it was!

It has been a push-me-pull-you existence as not only is the action in Pisces in my 10th, but in direct opposition to my Uranus/Pluto conjunction in my 4th.

I’m such a compassionate doormat that when the tension builds up and it’s time to reverse roles to balance this opposition, the doormat turns into a battle-axe. I internalize this anger and unless I fall to my knees and let go and let God, those seeking further compassion wonder what the hell happened. Thankfully I vent at in the confines of my home and not on the forum. Yet I sense at times my energy is apparent nonetheless when my Pisces Chiron is provoked unjustly or not rendered due respect.

The key to resolving this tension and keeping the scales balanced is simply this: Don’t be such a doormat! And use your discretion wisely when approached by those who would suck up your energy. Emotional vampires are lurking everywhere, ready to devour.

And I do agree we just want to believe on face value. If someone is saying the right things and saying, trust me, and saying it over and over again, we really want to trust them. We really do, even when our hearts say not to, we just NEED to know for sure, give them the benefit of the doubt, otherwise we say ‘what if’… ‘maybe it was true’…

Not knowing this Pisces guy’s chart, I would not say that his only motive for being with you is out of compassion. He must get something out of being with you other than his self-inflated pride from martyring himself in the relationship. A guy’s a guy, after all.

One of those interesting experiences is related to the issue of compassion. Being in this man’s presence makes me happy. Apparently, being in my presence drains him. I’m a pretty straightforward type (four planets in Sag), so I had always assumed that he agreed to interact with me because he also enjoyed my company. Now it seems that he was merely sacrificing his own comfort to make me happy. Although, I don’t consider myself without compassion, this seems a little beyond the pale to me. I’ve asked him to cease and desist. What do you suppose are the chances of that happening? He does have Neptune in his 7th house so that adds to my fear that he will continue to place my happiness before his own, which is not what I want.

Here’s my real question, I guess: is it possible that his only motive for interacting with me has been compassion. (The story of our relationship is a long one – perhaps it would be better addressed in a separate question rather than in a comment.)

At any rate, thanks again for the many insights.