How to know if an Aries man is rejecting you
February 12, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
If there is one sign that is straight and to-the-point, that cuts through the bullshit and tells you like-it-is, that sign is Aries. Aries doesn’t care how you feel — either you meet his needs, or you don’t.
You can understand Aries better by looking at Libra, his opposite. If a Libra man is rejecting you, he will do it in the nicest way possible. Libra will make sure to cushion the blows by mentioning all of your positive qualities. He can see all parts of you, good and bad, and he’s graceful enough not to focus primarily on the negatives, although he won’t neglect to mention those too. (How else would he be balanced?) He’ll reject you in a manner that makes you feel like you received a compliment, but that there was something in there that felt like a little cut … you just can’t quite place it.
So be grateful you’re being turned down by an Aries, instead. If he’s not interested, he’ll tell you so. No hedging, no cushions. The Aries package does not include empathy and sensitivity. If you’re gonna get rejected, isn’t it best to take all the ambiguity out of it?
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I dont agree with the “If a Libra man rejects you he will do it the nicest possible way” NOOOOOO !!!!! Ive seen the opposite, a Libra guys are just as CRUEL as other men….. Im not sure about Aries guys rejections, but Ive seen Libra guys rejecting people and taking sick pleasure out of it, Virgo guys too. Please dont confuse Libra guys with Libra girls, we are seperate species….
okay this aries guy tried to talk to me one time he was very charming, but i was very shy so i didnt say much. the next time i saw him he asked me if i knew his name, i smiled and shook my head no (but i actually did)and he turned his head and went back to doing what he was doing. But then i told him i was just kidding i knew his name. if i had left it at no would his feelings be hurt, would he feel like i regected him or didnt notice him he. Or would he take it as a challenge and want to persue me more ?? Can an aries man or someone whos delt with them please tell me how they think.
by the way his birthday is april 10, if it matters
I’m not an Aries man, but I know the traits all too well. And no, doing that to him sends him this signal: “Oh okay, you’re not interested. Next.”
Yes, I am an Aries, sorry if that wasn’t quite clear!
I’m a Leo female and the Aries rejection creeps up on you like an explosion that can’t quite ignite. The calls are fewer and fewer. And yes they lack tact, but if you can read between the lines you will be one step ahead. They love a challenge as well and once met with too much resistance will leave. In my situation the Aries male that I’m dating loves having sex with me and I know this. I’ve lost interest as well but I also had liked the a****** and wanted to hear him tell me he wasn’t interested. Since that never happened, he would ask to come over for a “sexual romp” and I would be busy. If you do this a few times and your Aries man starts calling more after you are not available as much as before then your getting somewhere. If not he’s moved on and you can say goodbye from a 1,000 miles away, oh and when your waving, he won’t be facing you, he’ll be facing the next lady in his midst.
I am Libra lady quickly getting turned off an Aries male that has driven me to total distraction for 14 months, but never actually done anything other than watch me all the time and make odd conversation(intelligent conversation though). He always plays really soppy heartache songs like Ray Charles and Roy Orbison that depict the male being rejected by the female…go figure! He tells me he isn’t interested, then goes out of his way to have me notice him, then goes quiet again. Personally, with 53 years experience, I think they are just insecure little boys that are so afraid of being loved nad expected to love back, as they don’t know how and secretly ache to be able to. That is the very clear message I get from this man. He is clearly depressed, but unable to express himself, so puts up the barrier and looks at younger, more available for just sex types.
How about aries sun with pisces mercury??
Hes very indirect and ambiguous. I think he knows it but its hard to get a straight answer from him.
The Aries male that I had been dating, off and on again, did something rather shameful, that made me sick to my stomache and also realized that he never cared a bit. This is rejection at it’s best. Well Tuesday he came over to talk because he wanted to “try” since I had been ignoring him. He came over with Chardonnay and we drank but he drank more than I did (as usual). One thing led to another and we start making out, or making up I should say. Well he passed out in the middle of it all, went completely limp and started to snore.
About 2 hours later, I was still up and on the computer and decided to lay next to him. By this point we were both naked, he was facing my wall and I was the opposite direction. About an hour into sleep I wake up to a hissing noise, then dripping. It all didn’t register right away, but I had to wake this guy up because he was pissing in my bed! I hit him hard to get him up, he was pretty toasty and dropped to floor then found his way to the bathroom. Once inside about 10 minutes went by and then I heard a huge “thud”! I banged on the door, he finally answered and said I’m fine and then I heard snoring again. I kept trying to get inside but this guy was laying adjacent to my bathroom door so I couldn’t get inside.
Well another hour goes by and I could peek my head inside and still heard him snoring. As I peeked my head in I got a really good whiff of something that I can only describe as the scent of a baby’s used diaper. At first thought I realized “maybe he hadn’t flushed the toilet”? I waited another 30 minutes and start pounding again, and he says “I’m fine, let me sleep”. Another hour goes by and there is finally movement inside my bathroom. I can hear the shower going off then the sink. I hear him shuffling. He’s on the toilet grunting one minute then puking his eyes out the next. I ask him if he needs anything, he says no. He stops puking and getting sick, and he proceeds to continue to use the shower. By 6 am he exited my bathroom. My floor was wet, he had clogged my sink. My bathroom mat was missing. My towels had a wicked scent. I asked him in a 20 question type way did I want to know what occured. His only answer was NO.
After a few more probing questions, he finally admitted to having diarrhea on himself while passed out on my bathroom floor. His ego was so HUGE that the next day he asked me if I had poisoned him. Even after requesting my new bathroom set, 4 days later I have none. Not even for Xmas! Yes I believe this is the best REJECTION yet. People get sick, I understand all of that, but this GETS HIGH RANKS IF WE WERE SCORING ON INCIDENT ALONE.
I would say the man in question felt so badly about being an arse earlier, that he got himself soooo off his tree to cope with his guilt, and give him the courage to face you, then his body gave out. Not really an excuse, but imagine how hard it must be to be him.
My Aries friend rejected me after I bought him a ticket on a yacht for Christmas…dare I take the lead! Anyway, when I couldn’t get the ticket re-sold, I sms him to let him know that he could still use it if just turned up on the day. No reply…as usual. Then, later that night, Christmas Eve, he drives up to my place, which is out of the way, slowly goes to park, meanwhile I am watching in full view from the window. Then, he slowly stops in front of my drive, then slowly drives off and stops down the road. I hear him talking loudly on his phone or whatever for a few minutes, then he takes off! (my friend saw him leave the hotel with a nice bottle of wine). On Christmas morning, I try to call to find out why, and if he is still interested in the boat trip. He doesn’t answer, so I sms (in case he wants a lift, considering he will be drinking), and he sms “delete my number”. How crazy?? Then, once we settle on the boat, his car drives slowly past, then follows up the coast and waits at a vantage point until we pass. I don’t think these guys are really so cut and dried as this article claims. I firmly believe they are just so scared of dealing with emotions that eat them up, so it is easier to be harsh. Nothing to do with being callous, but a front to put us off. We need to try a different tact to get them to ease out of their insecure shells(:
I am an Aries male (mercury Taurus, Venus conj Sun, moon conj Saturn) I think a zodiac sign represents a certain style (like Country, Rock, Rap, etc) There is country music but many aspects like Loretta Lynn vs Taylor Swift, and everything in between.
As an Aries male. Any rejection would be straight forward, and most likely if an Aries male like me isn’t into someone, there wont be much eye contact or any direct contact.
Like the woman I love…is always gonna be first above all the other ladies. I try to be near her every chance I can. I go out of my way to hear her, speak with her. Make eye contact with her, while ignoring all the other women. Even if ultimately the feelings weren’t or aren’t reciprocated. If the Aries male in question isnt doing the above. Then most likely they have already rejected you.
Though I can be impressed by a woman who normally wouldn’t attract me if she was noble and kind to creatures great and small. Being the opposite of my sometimes cruel and decisive nature. Dress feminine. Wear your best red dress and show some leg and cleavage. Above all being demure…looking downward coyly and then make intense eye contact might even up the odds. After all it is said we love those that love us. if all that doesn’t work then its probably not gonna happen. Sorry doesnt hurt to try things out, stuff and styles women who succeed in really catching my eye do.
Back with the Aries Dragon male thing. Why would a man bother to drive out of his way to get to my door on Xmas Eve, only to drive off again…albeit slowly? If he isn’t interested, why do something like that? I am going to set him free until he knows what he really wants and pray he decides to come back. I love him to bits, and my dreams and gut feelings tell me he likes me, but maybe isn’t ready to commit to someone who really loves him. Would an Aries male bother to consider the option, or just push it aside and get on to his vegies?
Kat,
Sorry that you had to go thro that. That Aries man was a dochebag.
I promise we’re not ALL like that.
However, if the Aries dont care about you and you push the issue they will show you straight in your face that they dont want you. You have to be able to read them well. If they dont want a committed relationship with you then just MOVE ON. Dont even look back. It will save you money, emotions and headaches in the longrun.
Ariesluvah you sound like you are answering my blog rather than Kats. Message received.
Barb Libra that does sound strange that your love interest would drive out of their way and then drive by slowly. Without stopping. Sounds like he’s checking up on you. The Green eyed monster here seeing if you’re with someone else. Sounds like this guy might have Taurus tendencies. Possessive and jealousy can sometimes prey on us Aries mens mind.
You didn’t flirt with someone or someone flirt with you in front of this person. That might have hurt them to the core but also put them on the defensive. You might have to sooth any wounded pride if that is the case. Or else let it be and if they love you they’ll come back again eventually.
Love for me is a very delicate thing. as an Aries male, I can love someone but if I feel they aren’t treating me right and they disrespect me by flirting in front of me. I may not say anything about it…but you can bet that next time we meet and we see each other they will get the icy cerebral treatment from me. There is nothing more crueler than a man who’s brain rules his heart.
For they can think their way out of loving you by coming to the conclusion that you will not be true and taking them for granted. They will drink you off their mind…and keep looking for a more worthy love.
Or they might just be outright shy. I am usually pretty straightforward when it comes to love and sex. However there are times when some women completely baffle me and I have to regroup and reluctant to approach them or be with them until I get my bearings. Like being afraid that they’ll say No! but also being afraid they’ll say Yes.
Somethings like that can be summed up in words and music like this:
I dont know why
but I keep thinking
somethings bound to go wrong
Even us brave and sometimes foolhardy Aries males sometimes need reassurance and appreciation even if we seem tough as nails. (I’ve seen some really tough deadly men tear up over sentimental songs I mean sometimes it might be “White Christmas”, or “Blue Bayou” or say “Lying Eyes”)
My baby says when you go
you just take all my love with you
and if you knew
how much I love you
then nothing could go wrong
with you.
With me the song that really gets me is “Don’t worry baby”
I use to hear this song and I was a young child maybe 9 yo. The words and music was beautiful to me then and even more now. I understand the words a lot more now than I did back then.
I think about all the women and men overseas in the middle east and people that have to have long separation from their beloveds. Or have to wait for someone to love them back and well you know the rest. That’s why those words seem so beautiful. Thats just me.
You might try saying something similar to that. though I have a Mars in Gemini so naturally I enjoy word plays and I spend my day to find some beautiful words about love and I appreciate eloquence in others. That might not be the case with your Aries. He might have a Mars in Pisces which would make them more timid and maybe shy and avoid love and sex because it seems coarse. Or else their worse enemy given to drink and drugs and escapism.
Wow Ricky,
You sound like a great guy. Yep! The Aries man in question definitely speaks in song and verse…as do I. I think he is very shy deep down, and yes, I have seen the green-eyed monster arise when I was having harmless fun with some younger guys…he quietly left then told me to delete his number…the first time.
The night he found out I was a Libra Monkey and he confirmed he was a Dragon Aries, we danced to each other (not with each other) all night. He also got the band to play ‘How Sweet It Is’ and turned and nodded at me as he sang the words ‘to be loved by you’! Unfortunately, he never acted on it and I get so frustrated. One song we have both used to convey feelings on occasion, is Gotye’s ‘Your Heart’s A Mess’. It is the most beautiful, feeling love song around, and says it all.
I know I could never hate this man, and am not sure what to do now, whether to write to him and let him know he can go freely, or to do nothing and see if he makes a move down the track again…sooo hard.):
He does have high standards and a beautiful nature when we do get a chance to talk.
To all you romantic Aries males, Happy New Year and let the girl you like know it so she has a chance to respond…ask her out at least. Sometimes you reject us too quickly and miss out on good loving as you are too scared to communicate, or jump to conclusions in a negative way that destroys something before it has a chance to get started. Do yourselves a favour…trust more, worry less.(: I love you all.
oops! I said that far too readily! How to know when and Aries male has rejected you??? Well, I think I just got my answer…
That would be when you walk into a bar quite innocently and look up excited to see he is there…only t5o have him quietly collect his key, Richard spoke of? I would much rather be spoken to even if just to say what I did to offend him so badly…nothing worse than being judged without a trial): Insecurity I call it. I will still love him, but guess that he is not of the same opinion):
That actually should have read, picked up his wallet, keys adn drink and quietly leaves the premises!!! I guess that is the cerebral ice treatment Richard spoke of…
How too know if any aries is rejecting u
He/She will ignore you its as simple as that. Put an aries into a room with someone they don’t like, they will either walk out or act as if your not even there.
i’ve an mercury Taurus also can comfirm everything Ricky Vasquez has said yes he is right.
How too know if any aries is rejecting u
He/She will ignore you its as simple as that. Put an aries into a room with someone they don’t like, they will either walk out or act as if your not even there.
Oh well…I guess ignorance is bliss hey Aries Say’s??
Shame you don’t have the ability to talk first. All I am guilty of is loving you.
Maybe you guys can help me out a bit. I am a Libra and dating my direct opposite, an Aries. I have that intense fiery side that all Aries men love, but I usually do not bring it out much because I’m so passive and like to keep peace between us. There is a lot of chemistry between me and him, we both care for each other a lot but he is terrible with keeping promises. All talk no action. I’m not sure what to do because if I’m too fiery it might push him away but if I’m too passive he’ll get bored. Lately he hasn’t been giving me the time of day and he’s been quite rude, then he’ll be a total sweetheart then go back to ignoring me. It is all very bi polar. Everything was all so good before and now he’s not even trying. What should I do to get things back to the way they were? I’m not sure if I should talk to him or what I could say? He is very short tempered like most Aries and likes to be in complete control at all times. I hate being controlled and am pretty sensitive, but if I show weakness I’m scared he’ll leave or be annoyed. I’d like to hear from another Aries man what he might be thinking & how I can spicen things up again.
Well, I do realise the error of my ways…giving away too much of myself to the man in question about how I really felt…big mistake!
I feel like such an idiot, and only now that it is too late do I see how foolish I have been. There can only be bad repercussions from my actions, but I will have to just swallow them and remain a spinster…silly girl!
I hate being a freaking Libran girl!! I may have an Aries Taurus rising, but it don’t help much here…just makes me just as stubborn I guess. I so wish I was able to stop my emotions ruling my thick head BEFORE I make a fool of myself and create a negative result. Well it’s too late baby…although I should remain positive, it is very hard right now.
im an aries and have resently met this aries guy through internet dating. he is gogeou, handsome, and he has got style. we have only gone as afar as kissing. we enjoyed each adas compay. the problem is that he is a little bit too far from where i stay. its more like a long distance relationship. we have been calling each ada, emailing and smsing. he loves me and i believe him. the problem is that i have fallen inlove with him and im worried he is not that much onto me. i feel like this becos somtimes i would sms him but he wouldnt respond for about the whole day. of cause i would think he was busy at work. but this thing of him not responding is continuing and it makes me feel like he is REJECTING ME in a nice manner. sometimes he wouldnt call or sms for about two days, but when he does call me he would tell me he loves me and i would feel him saying that. i have decided to do things his way…stop smsing or calling too just to see if he is onto me or i was coming on too strongly on him. so, am i doing the right thing by not smsing him as usual? is he rejecting me? but he tells me he loves me. i just dont like the lack of communication. should i ask him? guys, do you think he has lost interest before we even went far? but we are planning a trip toghether. and this thing of not communicating frequently is making me doubt him and i know how i get when i doubt someone.
The Aries I had been seeing was a drunk. Not saying that Aries men have a drinking problem, I’m just saying that this particular guy was an alcoholic. well he got sick in my bathroom, (see my other story above). He had still been trying to get over here to bang me at his convenience and I’ve been giving him the cold shoulder. Very persistent he is. When you cut someone off sexually you really see their true colors and he has shown me his. Why don’t I end it the conventional way? I live alone and he’s a big guy, like 6′1 and over 200 lbs and I’m a mere 5′4 and 115lbs. He knows where I live so I’ve been just keeping him at a distance.
Whenever he had come over in the past he would bring alcohol, we would have sex and 5 minutes after he climaxed he would leave. This only happened recently, which led me to believe he had lost interest. In the beginning he was very into me. So to make a long story short, I lost interest due to his preoccupation with just having sex with me. I have very good intuition and if a guy can’t come over to just be with you and isn’t really caring about your well being, bringing food over to cook for you, taking you out, or just even chinese takeout then he could care less if you croak on your own spit.
I’m glad he’s out of my life. I wrote him a long email yesterday and just told him all the things I had been having issues with, finally let it all out. I wrote a 5 paragraph explanation, and his response was one sentence. He had been using me all this time. I wasted 3 months on a scumbag.
Now that it’s 2010 I will not waste my time on individuals that want to take from me. I’m not saying that all Aries men are like this, but in my experience, and I’ve had 3, it has been exhausting and not a very good match….for me.
I’ll tell all the women on this forum this….No matter what the astrological sign, listen to that voice inside, it’s called intuition. Women have a good ability to read things and know subconsciously that something isnt right. In most relationships I’ve had I wish I would have tuned into my intuition more. There are some people that just aren’t right for us. No need in fighting it. You know that they aren’t right because things just don’t add up, you feel terrible, you question yourself and it leaves you stuck. Just move on and know that when you release that bad person in your life, that you will leave things open for someone who’s been waiting in the wings to meet you, for you, and nothing else.
Hugs Kat
Hi Kat,
I know where you are coming from, as I wasted a lot of my youth on a scumbag just like that, only not so big. Anyway, in the end, I found out he tongue-kissed my 6yoa daughter and when I was raped by a guy who thought he owned anyone because he owned hotels, and, by the way, I was consoling by conversation as his wife had just been killed (later found out by suicide), the scumbag said I deserved it and didn’t believe it was rape. That rape impregnated me, so I had a termination and tubal ligation and was an absolute mess for a few years. I hate going out to night clubs and pubs ever since, and have only recently, 18 years later, that I have ventured out alone again. I definitelyh told the scumbag NEVER to EVER come within sight of me, or talk in any way to me EVER! I then allowed only beautiful men into my life who respec ted me and treated my body like a temple. However, they all settled with other women and now I am sooooo over the moon hooked on an Aries man. He drinks because he is lonely and is not crass like yours was, but has a beauty inside that I would love to explore more. So, no, they are not all like that, but are insecure and afraid to commit to the wrong lady. Your guy has obviously been raised amidst this kind of behaviour and thinks it okay. Generally, their mothers let them get away with anything and they have no respect for females as a result. 2010 will be better for you and I and all those in search of real love hey what?
On second thoughts…maybe the Aries I adored isn’t all he purports to be. He has just cut me in front of other patrons in the restaurant he works in…must have made him feel good at least. At least I know where I stand for sure now, and finally got him to actually say it. If he didn’t have an eye for me before, then why watch my every move whilst out…why star jump in front of my car to get my attention and then talk nicely? The chase ended as I really liked him and that wasn’t in his plan…obviously. He wrote some very nasty remarks to me to ensure I don’t attempt to go near him again, so guess it is easy for him to do that so he can move on and make it easier for him. I wish him every success as a person and hope he does eventually find someone who could have given him the quality of love I was offering…and he will never experience. They create their own loneliness…goodbye Dragon…and good luck!
Well, the addiction has to be kicked sometime right? Today I was subjected to a public display from the said Aries, obviously to make himself feel good, as could have just opened his door in the privacy of his home when I delivered the letters etc.and told me the reason he hated me so much when all I have ever showed him was adoration. He hadn’t opened the letters or poetry, but told me to never go near his place again or he would get a restraining order, and slammed the envelope face down on the table. I left it there and just said OK. When I left, I read his reply…telling me about the restraining order threat and that I was everything he despised in a woman…’short-haired, old, ugly and shameful’!! Very flattering. I guess that is why he used to check me out everywhere I went, and did his star jump in front of me to get me to talk and show his interest. I am guessing he thinks I actually see other younger men who wave and talk to me (AS IF), and his insane jealousy has to be justified by being so callous. By being so callous, it ensures I will lose interest and he can forget about me, making his life easier. Good luck. Back to the belief that Aries are insecure, suspicious people who think everyone must be dishonest…is that because they are so dishonest to themselves, and constantly denying their feelings???? How can we do anything but feel sorry for these unhappy souls??
How about Aquarius? I am Aquarius and I think my way of rejecting is taking their words as a joke and make fun of it. Kinda mean eh?
Maybe the childish choice of words used to describe me by the above-mentioned Aries male was a reaction to the fact that I was prepared (still could) to take my life as it is becoming unbearable alone with so many big issues to deal with at once. This would have left him alone and he would have suffered great depression since he actually liked me earlier. By cutting me to shreds, in a bid to ensure I won’t come back to hurt him, he saves himself a lot of pain. I am so sorry to have brought this situation on either of us, but maybe he could have turned it all around by just giving me some time and talking to me. He could have found out that I would never hurt him intentionally and all I wanted was to share his pain and love. It is a shame these creatures can’t communicate better, it would save at least 20 years on their lives and make the world a whole lot easier for many.): From Gotye: “you don’t get hurt if you stay chaste” sure fits this vein of thought. Sorry Aries Dragon…I do forgive you however, and would appreciate you doing same for me…I am desperate to connect and you can’t live like this.
The Aries Dragon appeared twice in my travels today…the first in his car, leaving my tummy fluttering with butterfly wings fluttering frantically…not going to be easy this one. Later, on my way home from counselling, he was walking with a very heavy heart and looked so terribly sad and depressed, that all I wanted to do was stop and give him a huge hug. They may reject us with callous words and apparent anger, but I doubt they really mean it…I think they just have to protect their hearts from possible pain. If they just believed in themselves enough, as much as I believe in him, they would find such incredible love surrounding their every waking moment. Rejection or Protection?…that IS the question(:
I am asking any ARIES men or any that have DATED ARIES men to explain this:
I began talking with an Aries (communicating by ‘net and in game forums) and he seemed to instantly fall in love with me (he had seen my picture… but wouldn’t give me a picture of him – although I looked his screen name up and found he had a picture – and that he was…surprise…engaged!) He had mentioned nothing about that to me and seemed singularly focused on me, said he loved me, said he could never live without me… treated me like a queen basically (at first!)
Being the honest upfront person I am, I confronted him:
“So … are you engaged?” He got very defensive on this “NO! Why would you say something like that…?” Which made me even more suspicious because he was way over the top and I knew it was his screen name as it is very unique. Also, after I queried him, he erased the page I had found -now there is no more traces of his “engagement” or his picture to be found. Hmmm.
His “love of his life” was supposed to move in (?) with him in December. We had been talking for 10 months. By December, I was nothing to him. I had treated this man like a King. He always whined (are Aries naturally whiny??) about being sick and being this and being that…and how hard everything was… and every minute I was there, running to make him feel better. (Stupid me.) December came and he has been ice-cold to me ever since (it is now almost February).
When I send him a few emails outlining my irritation at his persona – that is the persona of a BRICK WALL – he may write ONE email back saying nonsense, I love you- but thats about it. He won’t talk to me… he used to write 10 times or more a day, asking how my day was…asking how I was…talking to me about anything and everything…telling me how proud he was of me…telling me he loved me.
Since December and the supposed “engagement” I haven’t heard any of those sentiments. It’s like he suddenly lost all interest in me, turned into a block of ice and now spends all of his time with HER (I found out who she is by the amount of time they spend together).
I deleted him from my account because I was mad. He begged to be put back on and said he would “try harder” (I told him people that love each other shouldn’t have to “try”)… and said he loved me. Then, without me even blinking an eye, he turned cold as ice again and began spending all his time away from me again, not saying one word – not even sending a message to say “hi, hello, how you doing…are you okay?”
PLEASE HELP. What is going on here? Have I been duped by an Aries man who fell for someone else after he told me he would love me til the end of time? Why be so cruel…?
Hey Jonna.I just read your comment. I am currently involved in a relationship with an Aries man as well. These guys get bored really quickly. I hate to say it but you made a mistake by being there for him when he started whining about his life. He was being annoying and whiny just to test you. He wanted to see and make sure of your feelings for him. He was out for the chase as he already had a steady relationship with another female.It was all about him, these guys have really big egos, they’re practically narcissistic, so don’t let yourself be fooled, he’s a big boy he’ll land on his two feet, the whining was just to get attention. These guys love the chase, but once they win, they get over it and look for the next target. I can tell you because I’ve already been there. Never expose yourself and give everything too easy when an Aries man is courting you. They hate easy prays and they’re also easy with words, to many saying “I love you” is like saying “thank you”. I don’t wanna be cynical or make it seem so bad, but you should try to move on. When an Aries guy is being indifferent to you, it means it’s over. At least for him, because they are usually pretty impulsive and jealous so it’s practically impossible for them to fake indifference. If he loves you he will not accept letting you go. After all, Aries man love the chase. Wish you the best,
I’ve dated 2 Aries in my Life time,Never again i said!!! They or f***ed up Indiviuals, hands down… I hadnt talk to my ex in 3 yrs, and we went threw it in our relationship, That Fucca is still Crazy ass hell, i had to put his ass in his place, we when spoke on tha phone, 1 thing about a VIRGO u willnt talk to us any kinda way @ all!!!, Virgos dont play that bulls***, well hell i dont anyways!!!!! Yea Aries or upfront but s***t Virgos or 2!!!! If a guy tells me hes a Aries and he calls himself liking me i will never call him again ever!!!! I refuse 2 put up with there bulls***!!
I’ve met an Aries man in the past and they are just as crazy as they appear to be….Extremely horny and chased me for months to give it up…I’m a cancer by the way–Aries will ALWAYS find a counter to your criticism of them, deeming them justifiable…Anywho, he played hot and cold so many times, coming back to me after months of total lack of communication and, being my usual Cancer self, was hesitant to trust him–but decided that I was ready to give up my virginity, and wanted to experience it with him—Boy was that a bad idea…Aries are by far the most confusing out of all of the zodiac–They will shower you with compliments, even promising loyal dedication to helping you (which I always knew was complete B.S.–words are just words to Aries—they have absolutely no meaning to them and can be thrown around to their beneift—Everytime I would call him out on his s***, he would stop contacting me for a while and then be on hot bloody pursuit again…Finally, after him practically tormenting and pushing me into having sex (which I had agreed to anywho but he wanted it when he wanted it, no compromise on day or time whatsoever), I submitted and showed up at his place…It was awkward, and, being a VIRGIN CANCER, already knew I needed a ton of foreplay to get stimulated…So we made out, he caressed me all over my chest…he sucked at kissing big time but I’m pretty sure he enjoyed my kisses, moaning every time I would lick his neck–they really do have sensitive neck/head areas–but he couldn’t get it in, and maybe I was too tight due to the nerved…to my total disappointment…and I was willing to overlook his small penis…He texted me later that day to see if things were cool between us and I said I had enjoyed the foreplay….Then, complete lack of communication again…I was totally willing to continue to experiment with him sexually but I figured my being a virgin had turned him off…So about a month or so I texted him to see what was up…In his nonchalant way he said nothing, and, as usual, I asked why he had stopped communicating with me and it was typical for him to get what he wanted (or not in this case) and move on…He Justified his response by saying he thought I didn’t like him b/c I hadnt talked to him for so long…On and on we continued arguing–he said I wasn’t ready for a guy b/c I wasnt comfortable enough w. myself bla bla bla (which I guess may have some validity to it)…Then he admitted he had liked me in the past…and at one point at the end of the conversation decided he wanted to have lunch with me…B/f I could turn him down this time bc I really had lost all faith in him by this point, he beat me to it by saying he missed his old gf…and I gave him a big “f*** You”…He then went on to say he cant control the way he feels about ppl…How can u change ur mind in a split-second…Was he being sincere in wanting to reunite, using it as an excuse to keep me quite for a bit, or intentionally acting out of revenge just to change his mind about his g/f…Everyone told me he was bad news and I know I should have listened but my magnetic Cancer nature loves the most dominant of signs and I’m usually the one with the upper-hand…Men always come crawling back to me regardless of what sign they are (usually sags/aries/geminis)…but after a while they find my profound emotions and moods to be offputting…It’s not like their saints after all…I always end up forgiving them but somehow it never works and I was just wondering other people’s thoughts to my unsuccessful love affairs…I had buried this Aries situation deep in the back of my mind as well as all Astrology but lately all my past failed romances are resurfacing in my brain and I don’t know what to do about it if someone could please help me…I’v been investigating astrology, which I was once a huge enthusiast about, and Wicca lately…So maybe this could be a possible explanation to my pondering on the subjects?
M, considering you are a water sign, have you considered maybe steering away from fire and air signs?? After all, water does tend to put out fire and it is inevitable, unless you have a strong air or fire influence, that you will continue to fail. This young man obviously has a complex already about his substandard phallic, and not being able to conquer the virgin (most men dream of doing this), would have been a huge blow to his ego and esteem, so put yourself in his shoes for a bit and realise how he may actually be feeling, rather than just assume he is a selfish prat. Women must start learning that men are very sensitive creatures and actually more emotional than females. This is the biggest error in our history, that men are stronger…just learn to understand this and don’t go after those that aren’t suited anyway. You didn’t even really like him, so why did you pursue him? Aries can pick up on this too you know. Anyway, you are only young and have many more lessons like this to learn yet…speaking as a mother of an adult. Good luck in future.(;
I mean I understand him maybe having been embarrassed about the situation, but I was willing to overlook it because even though he annoyed me, I was attracted to him and we did share similar interests…I just don’t understand why he said he wanted to meet up with me and then changed his mind in a split-second–I did after all, end up contacting him bf he contacted me…And I do realize that men have very fragile egos and are, quite honestly, more emotional than women…I also have a Gemini ascendant so I wonder what signs would be a better match for me…I just feel like water signs are too submissive for me and therefore bore me but I guess I could give it a try, Any other suggestions?….Thanks Barb
With a gemini influence, you could go Libra…they also have an attraction to Cancerians, but can fade if Cancer gets too secretive and moody. Saggitarius are very compatible with Gemini also, but have to be careful the cancer influence doesn’t put out the flame(: My dcsd uncle married a cancerian and he was a sag, and they stuck it through to the end together…sag just needs their space. Good luck.(:
Hey Kat,
I feel for you, I’ve only had one encounter with an aries man and I was so rude to him. He only wanted to be f*** buddies and I told him no and that I woulnd’t succumb to his childish ways. Least to say, he called me the B word and I had him personally apologize to me and told him he will never talk to me like that again. After him I dated a cancer for a year. I don’t know what’s worse, someone who is emotionally abusive, or someone who never cared? I would rather get the bs out of the way than ever date another crying cancer again. I’m sorry this guy treated you like crap, he was obviously so insecure and couldn’t handle your honesty. We are leo’s; were beautiful, strong and indepedent! Be proud of yourself for getting rid of him because now you have opened yourself up for something better!
I am a virgo and I dated an Aries man before and he turn cold heart. He does not respect the elderly he thinks women should stay at home instead of working. His ego is a huge as Mountain Everest. When he becomes pity in certain things, little things does not want to admit his mistakes. He will ignore you at least 6 months. He call back again to try again. He does not like women have higher position or have higher salary then his.
I have broken up with him twice and I dumped after 1 year. The worst relationship I ever I had. For all those women who wants to have a relationship with Aries think twice. He will used you as much he wants to.
ok, im a 26yr old aqua chick who has been dating a 21yr old aries guy since halloween of last year… he is my little bro’s best friend and he has lived with us before at my dads house and at that time we talked and made out a few times but nothing more. i moved out and then he moved out, and we didn’t talk to each other for a while. now…we are both living back under the same roof and have been since sep 09. we picked up right off where we left and then advanced to the next stage soon after…we really get along well together and never argue, i am in love with him and want to tell him i love him but he hasnt told me yet so i am holding off. a week ago he starts hanging out with his ex alot, which is cool- im not the jealous type but i did raise an eyebrow when i found out he spent a night with her over at her house. (btw she’s married to his best friend but he’s away in the army) anyways i asked whats up with them hanging out so much lately and he says he dated her back in high school and she’s just a really good friend and always will be–so im fine with that but lately he hasnt been txting me as often…we havent seen each other much around the house because i work nights and he works days but he just seems like he’s no longer intrested (he one of those venus-in-taurus aries) so i kno hes slow to commit but now it seems like i no longer “intrigue” him like i once did…
auritherenegadeangel,
Seems to me like something fishy is going on. Military is notorious for these kinds of things…only reason I know is bc I’m in the military and my friends are guilty. If a guy is ignoring you and not wanting to committ, run away! Just like the movie, “He’s just not that into you.” I just started seeing an aries myself and he seems to dig me, but he keeps himself distant too. But I’m moving in a month, so I just wanted to try one out. One thing with these Aries men is you have to give them their space and chase after you. They like a challenge. Stop texting and calling him and let him come to you. If he doesn’t….we can’t control the inevitable if we wanted to. And once a guy is through with us, they don’t come back to stay, they simple use us until they find the next best thing.
First let me say that I am a “Virgo Queen”, LOL!! I’ve been with 3 Aries men in my life time thus far. The 1st Aries man literally chased me for 3 years but, I just wasn’t interested in him, the 2nd Aries man I was involved with and I admit I messed that one up, I went a little crazy on him and cursed him out really bad and but, he managed to still want me? We lost all contacted because he went on to get married and have children. His marriage isn’t doing that great and he may be getting a divorce soon? His wife is an intense Scorpio, enough said! I read that Aries and Scorpio sex is the BOMB!! From what I also heard was his wife and him get into physical fights all the time, caused by her. He some how found me on Face Book and asked to be my friend so I accepted him but have not spoken or emailed him because I know how the conversation will start and I don’t date married men. I later on deleted him because I don’t want to go down that road again. This 3rd Aries man I met while out and about is just so damn sexy!! On the 3rd day I gave him some, LOL!! I just want to be lovers and friends only because I work a lot and thats all I have time for. Men say they can handle my schedule but they really can’t. I get into relationships with these men only to get dumped because the men want to see me every day and they know I can’t do that. I put money and work before men. This 3rd Aries said he was cool with being lovers and friends. He also said he wants to see this through, I guess to see where this can go? The only thing I don’like about him is that he doesn’t like to kiss. I love kissing and thats one of the ways to turn me on. Now that i think about it, none of these Aries men like to kiss. Sex with an Aries man is so intense, passionate and it keeps me on my toes. I never know what to expect. Virgos tend to become very board with their mates and cheat but, not with Aries. The sex with him was VERY acrobatic and entertaining.
Leo woman/Bri,
thanks for the advice- i did actually stop txting him and i’ve kept my distance so far and now it seems like he pays attention to me if i don’t make an attempt to talk to him…also he’s gonna be leaving for a few weeks to train for a new job and we’ll only be able to see each other on the weekends- he won’t even be able to have his phone on him during the training except at night so there goes the txting thing out the window…they say absence makes the heart grow fonder i guess we shall see lol…like you said we can’t control the inevitable even if we wanted to and if he is actually thru with me and using me as the next best thing (which is probably what’s happening) he will soon find out that i am perfectly capable of doing the same thing! But, i do not know whether or not that would have an effect on him…guess it depends on how much he digs me….
I’m a Piceas dating an Aries man. I started out very srong and loving in the beginning. Needless to say he moved in with m in the last 4 months. suddenly he became withdrawn. i told him to “exercise his option” ( actually put him out). but he came back pleading to give it another try. I did he’s always here but just seems withdrawn. Im I over analyzing the situation. I love attention and displays of affection. but I only get that if other peopl, exspecially men are around. any advice?
Hi Mocha,
Well, I have just had an interesting weekend involving Aries Dragon whom I have yet to actually get physical with after cat and mouse for about 18 months to date. I sent him a flower for Valentine’s as was on other side of country at time…needless to say it was delivered way too early by the florist…embarrassing. Anyway, 2 days ago was the first time I have actually seen him face to face for at least a month or more, and I dropped into his cafe fro breakfast. He came out front and kept his presence for most the time I was there…most unusual for him. He didn’t say a word to me, even after I asked how he was. I didn’t feel animosity either…strangely enough. However yesterday, I thought I would test the water as woke up with a strange feeling of loss. I ordered some toast and tea and when it came out, the card from my flowers was carefully placed on the toast plate, face up. I suspected something terrible, and when I left, I read the back. It had not been opened, and had F…k Off written on the back! He did have a flat tyre on his precious Avenger outside, so I figure already got karma. I went home and stayed there all night and just as I was in bed, talking with a girlfriend on the phone, he comes up to my street, out of the way, and has his stereo up full bore and window down so I had to hear him in a quiet area, and just does the u-turn and checkup and drives off!! How do we figure them? Only they can tell us. Going by the age of this one, I can write off some of it to male menopause, and the rest to having been severely hurt in his younger days. He is really a lovely person deep down, and I know he does love me, but is so very afraid of being hurt, so shuts out any chance at being loved. Good luck girl.(:
Im an aries woman dealing with an aries man…Ive dealt with an aries guy before and he was a jerk, he wanted to argue All the Time!–Our convo would go something like “Hey what does it feel like outside” & he would say “What kind if question is that, & why do you wanna know, where do you plan on going, you going to meet up with your ex?” OMG-Crazy Right?! The relationship was a mess!
So naturally, I was a little skeptical about my new found friend & he has turned out to be A Great Guy— We Really Connect-Like on All Levels! We’ve been seeing each other for like 3 months now- We dont fuss–everything is really cool… The sex is The Absolute Best! He puts all of his time into me…If he isnt working or with his daughter—We’re together..I’m falling for Him
- But Im not sure where this is all going! We are doing boyfriend & girlfriend things but without the title… I guess Im needing to know—- How Do I Know If He’s Falling For Me??!! I dont want to be stuck as a just a friend forever! He hates the idea of other guys talking to me & I know he cares—
We have talked about Everything…..Usually when I would tell him how I feel about him he would get quiet & slowly change the subject..Lately, he’s been opening up more about how he feels….He saying he doesnt know if hes exactly ready right now & he trying to see what its like to be with me. Understandable right?! But What am I to do with my feelings?
because we are designed by nature to get hit hard by failures. so when something fails its natures way of telling us to move on and not repeat the same s*** again. So in the end, Blame evolution. well thats why i like Evolution. Those who don’t learn, Perish.
Darwin was awesome…….
Aries or no aries we choose not to evolve & in process get hurt