You know that deep, dark hole you dig after you’ve been dumped? Where you stew in the juices of your resentment and despair for months and months? Well, the first hole of despondency was dug by a Scorpio.
In a relationship, Scorpio explores every nook and cranny of the intimate space shared by two people — sometimes even looking into recesses for which her partner has not granted her access.
As a result, Scorpio knows her partner really well, and if she’s gotten to the point where she trusts him, Scorpio is not willing to let him go. So when the day comes that she gets dumped, Scorpio goes into one of two modes. She withdraws into her own private hell, or she gets even.
You know that saying, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned?” That surely must be about a Scorpio. Because she has all the dirt on her ex, she is willing to bring it to the light of day, or at least manipulate him into staying so that she will keep his secrets safe.
And Scorpio’s private hell … she can live there a while, commingling with her demons, brooding over past wrongs. However, Scorpio is the sign of transformation — after she has burned through her resentments, she will be a new person. She may tread lightly the next time a man shows interest in her, but she will bring a deeper insight into her own process. This latter option is preferable; revenge may be sweet, but it leaves a bitter aftertaste.
Comment below: How have our Scorpio readers coped with past breakups?
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@Candyz8 Ha, you are so right. I’d stay away from both Taurus and Aquarius. My ex Taurus cheated on me like crazy and 18 years later, he’s still chasing me and asking me back (no thanks). And my ex-husband was an Aquarius, we were completely incompatible and he couldn’t handle my strong personality, he was way too sensitive. But overall, he was a pretty good guy and I think he stayed pretty faithful until we started to split up. Then he got really sneaky and really betrayed me.
I think at this point I should stay away from all signs, haha, because Pisces is supposed to be our perfect match–and this one is in a lot of ways, we have this instant connection and I have this unconditional (ie very self-destructive) love for him–but yeah, hasn’t quite gone my way.
In fact, our main fight is over him making me second fiddle, and it’s just not working for me and this is usually something that will make me make a very quick exit, but with him, for some reason, I tolerate it b/c I don’t want to lose him. It sucks!
@ughleee breakup
What is your sign?
Scorpio, with Scorpio ascendant and Gemini moon
@ughlee breakup
I am a Scorpio with a Gemini moon, too! I was just writing in the “How to get a Pisces to chase you” forum how I don’t understand how Scorpios/Pisces are supposed to be a match made in Heaven. I am struggling to understand.
Come join that forum if you feel like sharing your Pisces tales!
@NovLady, that’s cool, we probably have very similar personalities. And I have lots of advice on pisces to share lol
hurt my scorp and I need advise. I said somethings out of anger not just him but the whole word(very rough time in my life) and I really hurt him. I apologized. While he said he accepted my apology he also said the damage is done. Since then communication has been scarce. He textes me i believe because we just had a daughter together to know what is going on with her. After this I did said i loved him and missed him and he replied he mises me too and loves us both but was wondering if that was a fluke or did he mean it and slip. I dont know if there is a chance of making it worst. I know scrops are very stubborn and hold on to things. I am nothing like that, which is probably why i fly off the handle when really stressed because I know i wont be mad long and get over it quickly. I dont know what to do to fix it. Right now i am giving him his space and not hitting him up. I changed my number because I got a new phone and didnt give him the number. They say absense makes the heart grow fonder. Is this true, I have no clue of what to do anymore with him. I truly love him and Im hurting right now. Worrying we wont fix this and/ if he has already moved on. Any advise would be appreciate. Does him saying he loves me and misses me mean that he really does and is just still hurt or is he just being nice for the sake of our child?
Thanks.
Being a Scorpio female I can not speak for Scorpio males but to be honest, don’t play games with him. If you love him let him know. Don’t smother him with affectionate because if he’s reluctant or indecisive that may scare him off. I just mean let him know you still care. Give him your new number. If you don’t he’ll be wondering why you say you love him yet disconnect him from your life which will only confuse him and make him pull away. Scorpios never forget things said or done but it can be repaired it just requires effort, a lot of effort from you. If he is not in love with you he wouldn’t say it. Scorpios are passionate people and hurt easily so make sure you keep sending your affirmations of how you feel. All I can say is don’t play games or be dishonest, we’ll see right through it and move on. Once we have moved on, that’s it. Good luck! Like I said I can’t speak for Scorpio males but we aren’t all that different when it comes to love
@ugleee breakup your experience with Pisces mirrors mine and I too am confused with how they are meant to be our best match yet it only gets so emotionally horrible and confusing! I have this theory, and other scorps add to it if you have picked this up or experienced something different. I have this theory that maybe Pisces born in march are a poor match and instead Feb Pisces are the ones we would be better suited to? All my Pisces experiences have been with ones in march and I have never been so connected to and felt so attracted to anyone before! I have never met a Feb Pisces though. Would love to compare! Any thoughts? Previous experiences?
@Betty Boop says:
“January 26, 2010 at 4:41 pm
Well isn’t this very interesting.
Fortunately or Unfortunately, I have been heavily involved with a Scorpio man going on two years now.
I have NEVER met anyone on this planet that could make me FEEL in the various ways – the way he makes me feel.
Sadly, it is on all levels. The good the bad and the UGLY.
It would be fair to say that this is the first time in my life that I have experienced such a bond with another human being and it has truly taken a toll on me.
Three weeks after we met on a job, working together, I felt this overpowering desire to be with him out of the blue and that passion is still there, just on a much deeper level, which is wonderful.
It is confusing at best. The intensity of the passion is akin only to sever addiction and they are terribly ungrateful. No matter how much loyalty, love, money, you shower them with, it is never enough for them to trust you.
This man has told me several times that he has never been loved by anyone the way I have loved him. He has told me several times that he has waited his entire life and prayed to meet someone like me. Yet for the past 9 months (we moved in together 9 months ago), he has turned into a jealous, spiteful, individual. I can’t even go to work anymore without being accused of f(*king my boss all day long and this hurts to the bone. Because I adore my Scorpio.
There has been a price that has to be paid being involved with Scorpio and it is a bitter one indeed. In exchange for this “love” they expect complete control of your body, your mind, your soul and your freedom.
They intend to change you, which is completely contradictory, as how could they truly love you if they wish to change you.
When we met, it was such an overpowering connection, like nothing I had ever experienced before. This is someone that I would never cheat on, I can’t look at anyone else, I don’t ever want to be with anyone else, and no matter how much I love this person, with everything I’ve ever had and more, he doesn’t believe any of it. The jealousy and hurtful remarks are unbearable, especially since my devotion and adoration abound..I don’t know how to get out, I don’t want to get out. I just wonder where the man I fell in love with has gone.”
Hi Betty Boop, pardon i am like digging your old post, but it truly touched my soul for your story and feelings is exactely what i been through.
Together for about two years plus, met through work.
Strong intensity between that never so sure and certain i wan to be with that person.
Everything was perfect when it’s really good. But when things got nasty like any other relationships, you will realised you have lost him forever.
I read before, once they change they would never be like before, and be assured that was what i am being told by EX scorpio.
They will never be the same, everytime they transformed.
Just like we, i am also made to wonder where has the first known scorpio went.
We will think and think and will never figured out.
Try and wish you could crack this mystery pluto case, wait till you’re dead in their underworld.
After reading enough i have get to accept the truth.
So hard yet it seems to be, and i read many many scorpios man say this themsleves-
Forget about trying to understand or even figure them out, cos if you ask them if they know themsleves, the true fact is they also dont know.
Being a typical SUN aquarius, it’s my habit and favourite past time trying to play the puzzle and think the logic out of it.
I cant stop thinking, i would never stop thinking.
I fight through battles and tremedous long struggles just to satisfy my personality desire of figuring them out, but cry out loud, after the breakup he turn ice cold stone, this is when i feel the coldness and the inner side of him is so dark and deep.
As warned, forget about understanding.
Well after this relation i realise and truly hate myself for being so stubbon, i never knew i was.
Stubbon that i am trying to fight the puzzle to satisfy my natureto think and analyze, stupid enough to forget what creature i was dealing with.
What a joke, sure scorpios who read this will laugh out loud for me being a fool.
But know i gave up persuding him.
I hack if he’s not gona feel my strong desire and loyalty by not begging and pestering.
If he wants to leave for that whole list of ridiculous reasons, by all means, perhaps just like him, i am worn out.
Oh ya the turning tables and projections just to make it it was him breaking up with me although i wanted it, wateva, i know it’s all about ego and pride, well as long he feel good and great, i give it to him.
Betty Boop, i read that you been through alot with your EX scorpio too, and have a list of how and what horrible thigns he is capable of.
I am very interested to know if ya dont mind sharing.
I am as curious and willing to learn as usual like a typical aquarius.
I want to be awared, perhaps served as a reminder and knowledge for more ladies too, also aid in faster moving on from them.
I’ll be waiting if ya ever read this, looking forward to read ya stories.
Regards.
Ladies i have a strong urge and wish this, relatively applicable i feel…
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@Aquagal, you truly describe the unevolved scorpio to a “T”. So be grateful that you got out before you really got hurt……..I acually feel sorry for the woman my guy is with now. When he gets tired of her or she asks for too much she will be gone……I think I was able to survive because my ex-husband was a Narc and I learned alot about what not to take from a man……. I also know some very wonderful scorpio men, they are not all bad boys……..You will heal…….. All my best to you.
@Aquagal
Good to hear you on your way to recovery. ladydb is right.. “So be grateful that you got out”
sounds as though you are getting a handle on things
take care of you.. remember your no.1.. you come first before others..
now that your taking ownership of yourself.. you will start to feel better within, empowered!
lifes a journey.. have fun, and remeber to smile
@Aquagal
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Hi Bionda and Betty Boop, I don’t know if both of you still visit this thread, but I am deeply touched by your comments here, I’m a Libra too, went through very similar experience but with a fortunate turn of event: self-awareness, I don’t know if it’s the transformation needed for death and rebirth as I am currently going through the process, but to see kinder spirits in the both of you is deeply touching. I would like to share with you a site where I found most of my enlightenment :
http://chasingthecool.wordpress.com/2007/09/18/scorpio-man/
I hope it would be of help to your spiritual growth as it did mine, the comments are long, but within it, you will find knowledge with love. Good luck and best wishes to the both of you. *hugs*
i have had two serious relationships with a LEO and a GEMINI. And one somwhat serious, but really just dating with a VIRGO. All three attempted to comeback.
The Leo left me to frolic with the bimbos. I was bummed and was my first love. He was the hardest to get over; but I did and it made it easier for me the next few relationships.
The gemini was the longest. cheated and went back was not the same afterwards. had a child with the gemini.
The virgo the same as the gemini but was not as serious with the gemini. now virgo is in love, supposedly.
I like being single. Not all scorpios need a relationship to feel compelete.