soooo. i have a HUGE confession. i completely and totally backslid with my scorpio. ugh. LOL. still, all is not lost, i learned some new things about myself in the process and am now getting back to doing the things that make me happy. glad to see you’re doing well, love.

@ scorpio male–what you’ve said makes a lot of sense. i’ve come to find those statements to be true in dealing with a scorpio. growth and self-improvement is so very important.

“My” Scorpio is grey lizard too. I know about the 3 types of scorpios since some time and first I thought he is trying to be eagle cause he likes to help people but now I think he likes looking for people who are weak and who need help so that he to manipulate them later and/or to play with them. I am not sure if I am right though. Maybe I seem mean or something but I remember how good he was with me when we were just friends and how rude and cruel he became when we began to be closer. I don’t even bother to dig in that anymore. I am happy I am out and I still wonder why I stayed around for so long and why I cried so much about him…

The photographer who I met 1 month ago is Scorpio and he is different. But the hypnotic staring stays. I guess it applies to all Scorpios. Men tell me I look at them hypnotically too, maybe it’s cause of my Scorpio Rising.

Tallulah, you have water inside you with your Cancer moon, you seem close to me. I have Pisces moon, hehe.

Nice to see a Male Scorpio being aware of past sins and doing something about it : ) Also interesting to get a male perspective. I think I was involved with a grey lizard lol What a shame. They have masses of potential and even talent, but he was shy, lonely and deeply troubled sometimes and even that side attracted me. I could accept and understand it when I thought I knew the source of the problem which he would tell me about often.
Assuming I had actually not fallen for an act. See, you start second guessing yourself and questioning your own instincts and judgement. Thats what they can do to you. Not good!

My Cancer Moon needs keeping in check sometimes. I can be so intense too and caring to the point of feeling deeply about others problems. I really wanted to help him and would have done gladly. Im not mothering though thank god – I couldn’t stand that being done to me. Even what I’ve written above is soft and squishy, good thing I have the Sag part to balance me out. A bit of Fire is definitely called for in these situations lol.

At the same time he had all the magnetism and hypnotic eyes thing going on and charm when the mood took him, so a strange mix. I really wish we had been physical because I think it would have been awesome and may have broken down major barriers, but then I don’t expect my powers of sexual goings on could turn a sociopath into a decent person Lol Ok – and its time for Sagittarian girl to be honest, I also really wanted to just see what he was like in a sexual context all naked, passionate, intense and wild with a dose of quiet affection thrown in Lol.

Hey I am a fiery woman, what can I say. Anyway I have learnt a lot (very important for me) from the experience and I laugh about it now.

XxX

It makes me laugh really how Scorpios can occupy extreme ends of the spectrum. At one end wonderfully on my level in almost every way, intellectually, sexually, in terms of sense of humour, having loyalty and passion for many things etc. then so blood suckingly awful at the other end. You never seem to get the anyone inbetween.

I’m a scorpio male and really enjoyed reading all of your comments. I’ve dated a few sag women before and my best mate is a sag guy. They’re all pretty smart people who seem to have a brilliant sense of humour and ability to look at things from a philosophical perspective.

hearing about all of these terrible scorpio guys really makes me cringe! There are definite truths there and I had similar ways of acting in my past when I was less emotionally and mentally evolved. But with experience and time I have changed and it is because of other people having made an impact on me that this has happened. For instance I used to love getting my own way all of the time and would toy with women getting bored if they didn’t do what I wanted or even if they did! Absolutely crazy. Like I was the most important creature in the world, needless to say I learnt my lesson there after a long time.

I think a lot of it is that scorpio guys don’t know what they want and find it difficult to accept that someone else has needs and desires and opinions of their own. With a sag girl this can work one of two ways

1 the scorpio gets his own way all of the time gets bored and the sag girl ends up a poor wreck. This is the worst way and should never happen.

2 the sag girl kicks the scorpio guy’s ass and make him change his ways and see that she is a living breathing thinking loving being with her own opinion and that if he listens to her will make both of them grow. This is the better way and is possible but takes a lot of effort on both parts. Not a problem if you want a really special relationship with some great times and that helps you both learn more about yourselves.

The way I see it is that scorpio men can be very stubborn but this is rooted in their need for security and trust. If they don’t trust you they will blow hot and cold. So what might appear like a perfectly harmless comment from a sag girl could be brooded over for all possible meanings by a scorpio guy. Dumb I know but that’s how it works. Best thing to do is be blunt and tell them to stop being an idiot and that the comment had no ulterior motives. use the legendary sag humour and positivity and the icy scorpio man will begin to thaw.

I’m with a leo girl at the moment with sag rising and with been together on and off for 10 years. We always seem to get back together after a terrible break up and change each time. The reason for the break ups is always due to getting stuck in a rut. I like staying in to read, watch movies, lie in bed, play guitar and play video games. She loves to go out on adventures. So we compromise and I take her where she wants to go and she plays video games with me. It’s tough at times but we have a deep bond and both learn from one another.

There are three types of scorpio

The grey lizard who is a very sad insecure individual. Very shy and in need of a lot of love.
The scorpion who is very vindictive and cruel.
The eagle who soars above the petty disputes and takes a fair and non judgemental view.

I try to be the eagle but it is a bloody difficult task sometimes!

Anyway I wish you all the best in your relationships and hope that you find the man of your dreams which you will.

The Scorpio guy that I used to love wrote me 2 weeks ago that he wants to see me and he didn’t even ask if I want to see him!! He asked WHEN I am coming! Can you believe this? I just wonder how it’s possible a man to be so impudent!!! I asked him why on Earth I would want to meet him again and he blocked me and then he unblocked me just like that the next day and started writing me again asking about my new job and blahblah but I stopped replying.
When I was with him he was acting like Tallulah’s ex Scorpio, same thing, almost the same story. I couldn’t believe it!

I agree with Tallulah that you should let it go and not to ask much and not to reply his questions much and to put mystery if you want that man and if it’s worth it. You should be very careful and not to end up suffering like the way it happened to me. Scorpios don’t like people who asked them a lot of questions and you won’t get answers most of the cases. The Scorpio guy I used to hang out with didn’t want to tell me where he graduated even, when I asked him about what he thinks one time he said he doesn’t have a head to think. I am so so so so happy that he is past now and away from me and I think I have been incredibly stupid to have wasted so much time on such a man.

The earlier he shows you his real face and the earlier he starts with his games the better for you so that to leave in time if you see you start to suffer. It’s better not to get involved very emotionally with him till you get to know him really well. If he doesn’t reply your texts it’s better not to text more and not to call. He is being rude the same way “my” Scorpio was.

Good luck and all the best! : )

Apologies.

Let it go is about as simple as it gets. If someone wants to text you, they will. If you don’t hear anything its because they are doing other things and you aren’t the focus. Just like I wasn’t the focus of the Scorpio guy who ignored me. Now saying that there are some fundamental things to take on board right now.

1. Just because someone ignores you, does not mean you are the one with the problem. It feels horrible, but thats not the same thing as having a problem. Detach the emotions from reality. Being on the other end of someone else’s poor manners or cold heartedness, does not put you in a weak position. A Scorpio would think so, because they usually are into winning games, blinding them to the deeper issues behind everything. They hurt someone = Them winning. Thats how the less evolved ones think. Crude simplicity. You are probably a deeper thinker than him, with a more flexible mind being a Sagitarrian, so use it to your advantage.

2. So, the formula I would use is Sampled the Scorpio—>Was a less evolved specimen——–>Therefore not worthy——->Let it go—–>Trade Upwards (Get someone better next time!) = Being Happy

The truth is you are seeing his true colours early on, this is fantastic because you can drop any notions of him and get on with more worthwhile stuff and people. See his poor behaviour as a massive positive for you, which it truly is.

Also I do get the feeling that with Scorpios if you aren’t as wild as they are in bed or more so, that will be a major strike against a partner. I think it is extremely important to them that the sex is something soul engulfing, deep, animalistic, intense, etc.. Maybe your questioning of the sexual aspect is being held against you which is unfair. I don’t know, I could be wrong on that count.

At the end of the day, he should not ignore you. Don’t waste time like I did trying to work out why or make excuses for him. Its just rude and ignorant and being a Sagittarian I don’t respect people like that. Once you can take the emotions out of it, you can think clearly. I didn’t think clearly at all and it was a nightmare, but once I realised I was dealing with an idiot it was so easy.

Also I have a kind of sexual thing going on with a Scorpio at the moment. The sex is out of this world. I know we like each other as people and he has told me that. I like him too BUT the emotions are not spoken about or analysed. When we are physical together all of that comes through. Maybe thats why its so incredible. When he holds me I can tell he really likes me as I can feel it, the way he squeezes me and he’s thinking while he’s doing that. I can hear the cogs in his brain turning literally. He wont speak the words like I wont speak the words. He texted me saying how much he likes me, but you know something… Im not going down that road again. I keep my emotions in check and keep my distance. I am keeping it a sexual thing and a mutual respectful thing, but Im never letting it go beyond that. I know he senses me doing that and in a way thats maybe why he likes me as I don’t give of myself too much emotionally. I think it intrigues him a bit. I think with some Scorpios they don’t want it too easy. They like mystery so give them mystery even to the point where they are being driven crazy with questions about what you are doing with your time. Give them a taste of that. Don’t be reeled in and start opening up, I think thats is a mistake. When you start doing that its like they know they have you, challenge gone.

I am busy to the point of being rediculous, but I also make sure I have a good time as much as I can. Live by this and let any guy regardless of star sign wonder about where you are and what you are doing and let him WANT you more and more. You will only get that though if you make your self a bit elusive. If you aren’t a busy person its easy to think too much. Avoid that situation like the plague. If he isn’t wondering about where you are when you are busy and socialising without him, then he isn’t that interested.

Also I know we girls like to ask questions about sex and relationships. We like to talk about our inner feelings. I love to do that being a Cancer moon and can be really emotional and intense sometimes BUT I really think to maintain your mystery you need to hold back a bit. Don’t talk about that kind of thing with a Scorpio especially at the start, because he would not with you. He will see that as giving away his own secrets or showing his vulnerability and in a way he would be correct. It is like opening yourself up and Scorpios have got it right to a certain extent with the self protection thing. We Sagittarians can leave ourselves way too open sometimes and people take advantage.

You sound like a nice person, his silence may indicate a number of things BUT its not your responsibility to work our other peoples problems, your only concern is you are your happiness, so forget him. He can’t handle you for whatever reason, his loss, pure and simple.

Just think there is a world of amazing people out there you are now free to bump into – you never know what is around the corner, but more importantly you can be happy single and men/women will be drawn to you and you can take your pick. Thats fun and exciting : )

Good luck

Let it go is about as simple as it gets. If someone wants to text you, they will. If you don’t hear anything its because they are doing other things and you aren’t the focus. Just like I wasn’t the focus of the Scorpio guy who ignored me. Now saying that there are some fundamental things to take on board right now.

1. Just because someone ignores you, does not mean you are the one with the problem. It feels horrible, but thats not the same thing as having a problem. Detach the emotions from reality. Being on the other end of someone else’s poor manners or cold heartedness, does not put you in a weak position. A Scorpio would think so, because they usually are into winning games, blinding them to the deeper issues behind everything. They hurt someone = Them winning. Thats how the less evolved ones think. Crude simplicity. You are probably a deeper thinker than him, with a more flexible mind being a Sagitarrian, so use it to your advantage.

2. So, the formula I would use is Sampled the Scorpio—>Was a less evolved specimen——–>Therefore not worthy——->Let it go—–>Trade Upwards (Get someone better next time!) = Being Happy

The truth is you are seeing his true colours early on, this is fantastic because you can drop any notions of him and get on with more worthwhile stuff and people. See his poor behaviour as a massive positive for you, which it truly is.

3. At the beginning it was intriguing because it was a gradual coming together of the two of you. Thats how my really great Scorpio experience in my past happened, as we went to school and were friends first and did loads of stuff in a really close group of friends (all guys except me) and it was perfect. I have learnt a great lesson from that which more or less applies to ALL guys. GET TO KNOW THEM AS PEOPLE FIRST, BE GOOD FRIENDS IF YOU CAN BEFORE GIVING ANYTHING PHYSICAL!

I know this sounds old fashioned and is majorly difficult. I am such a sexual woman this is such a challenge. Not that I am having sex all over the place I am so choosey and also aware of health issues. I have had less sexual partners than your average woman. Its just I have ALOT of sex with the person I am with Lol. My Leo ex (Great friends still, may give him another chance as he’s done so much for me and we still hang out a lot and I would miss him if he was not around) had two meetings with me and we made love. That was never held against me as we are so on the same wavelength, so for some men it isn’t an issue especially if they are almost instantly head over hells. I think generally its worth trying to stick too that rule with men who don’t show you that love straight away.

Also I do get the feeling that with Scorpios if you aren’t as wild as they are in bed or more so, that will be a major strike against a partner. I think it is extremely important to them that the sex is something soul engulfing, deep, animalistic, intense, etc.. Maybe your questioning of the sexual aspect is being held against you which is unfair. I don’t know, I could be wrong on that count.

At the end of the day, he should not ignore you. Don’t waste time like I did trying to work out why or make excuses for him. Its just rude and ignorant and being a Sagittarian I don’t respect people like that. Once you can take the emotions out of it, you can think clearly. I didn’t think clearly at all and it was a nightmare, but once I realised I was dealing with an idiot it was so easy.

Also I have a kind of sexual thing going on with a Scorpio at the moment. The sex is out of this world. I know we like each other as people and he has told me that. I like him too BUT the emotions are not spoken about or analysed. When we are physical together all of that comes through. Maybe thats why its so incredible. When he holds me I can tell he really likes me as I can feel it, the way he squeezes me and he’s thinking while he’s doing that. I can hear the cogs in his brain turning literally. He wont speak the words like I wont speak the words. He texted me saying how much he likes me, but you know something… Im not going down that road again. I keep my emotions in check and keep my distance. I am keeping it a sexual thing and a mutual respectful thing, but Im never letting it go beyond that. I know he senses me doing that and in a way thats maybe why he likes me as I don’t give of myself too much emotionally. I think it intrigues him a bit. I think with some Scorpios they don’t want it too easy. They like mystery so give them mystery even to the point where they are being driven crazy with questions about what you are doing with your time. Give them a taste of that. Don’t be reeled in and start opening up, I think thats is a mistake. When you start doing that its like they know they have you, challenge gone.

I am busy to the point of being rediculous, but I also make sure I have a good time as much as I can. Live by this and let any guy regardless of star sign wonder about where you are and what you are doing and let him WANT you more and more. You will only get that though if you make your self a bit elusive. If you aren’t a busy person its easy to think too much. Avoid that situation like the plague. If he isn’t wondering about where you are when you are busy and socialising without him, then he isn’t that interested.

Also I know we girls like to ask questions about sex and relationships. We like to talk about our inner feelings. I love to do that being a Cancer moon and can be really emotional and intense sometimes BUT I really think to maintain your mystery you need to hold back a bit. Don’t talk about that kind of thing with a Scorpio especially at the start, because he would not with you. He will see that as giving away his own secrets or showing his vulnerability and in a way he would be correct. It is like opening yourself up and Scorpios have got it right to a certain extent with the self protection thing. We Sagittarians can leave ourselves way too open sometimes and people take advantage.

You sound like a nice person, his silence may indicate a number of things BUT its not your responsibility to work our other peoples problems, your only concern is you are your happiness, so forget him. He can’t handle you for whatever reason, his loss, pure and simple.

Just think there is a world of amazing people out there you are now free to bump into – you never know what is around the corner, but more importantly you can be happy single and men/women will be drawn to you and you can take your pick. Thats fun and exciting : )

Good luck