He cheated– my sweet, innocent, “fallen angel” as he likes me to refer. Why? Now what? Does that mean he is over me? As he put it “she literally broke into his house in the middle of the night, and she is an ex ex ex girlfriend, the type he wishes he had spent more time with.” Isn’t that just about every ex for a Pisces? He did tell me that he loves me, before this obviously, and he said it often. This seems out of nowhere. I haven’t cried yet, and I told him I didn’t want to speak with him anymore. Now, I want to speak with him and find out the golden question: why?Is there hope? I still love him too much.
Sad Sag,
It sounds like your Pisces is embodying the very worst qualities of his sign: passivity and martyrdom. Pisces is the archetype of the crucified Jesus — no wonder he likes you to refer to him as your “fallen angel.”
Your Pisces’ ex may very well have broken into his house, and I’m sure he wishes he had spent more time with her, but he’s with you now. He could have said, “No, I have a girlfriend.” Pisces can act as if they are helpless victims, but there are Pisces who have grown up. “Help, I’m a fallen angel, and I can’t get up” is no excuse, especially since he can get it up with someone else.
I’m not sure trying to get a reasonable explanation out of him is worth your time. He went with the flow of the moment, as Pisces are prone to do. If you’re a guy, and an ex you’re still hot for breaks into your house and seduces you, it does take some backbone to save your bone for your girlfriend. I’d actually be more worried about this ex who broke into his house — is she stable?
There may be hope for the relationship if your Pisces can take responsibility for his part, as well as make a commitment to grow up. That’s not something you can measure, but you’re a Sag … either you have faith, or you don’t.
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this is what i love about these blogs….you can go IN on someones comments and give it too them straight without buttering it up…some of us need that
i do have to say that a fish man will tell a story or three, but then again the pot cant call the kettle black…
I need advice. I have been seeing a pisces man for 3 years now. Its been hot then cold for the past 3 years. The sex is great and keeps getting better the more time we spend together. About a year ago he said he wanted to start seeing me more. At that time I was dating someone else but we were not serious and we didnt get to see each other ofter. So we started to see each other more, then once i told him i cared for him he all of the sudden was not ready for a relationship. So we stopped talking for 3 months or so then started back up aging but i was mostly sex. All this time im still dating and not puting my life on hold but have not had a sexual relationship with anyone else. He gets very jealous if he thinks im seeing someone or even if I wear a low cut shirt. I reassure him im not and that i have been loyal to him for the past 3 years. He keeps his life very personal, I have never met any of his family or friends, yet he has told me very personal things aobut himself and he says he trust me more than most people. I just dont understand what he is thinking about us. Last month he told me he wanted to start seeing me more again. So like the fool I am i agreed, now i see him 2 to 3 times weekly and we have great sex, he takes me for a ride on his harley, he also has started talking about the future. small comments that make me believe he sees a future with me. This week he is on vacation, and a coworker of mine told me her husband knows him and he though he had a girlfriend, but was not sure. Now Im so confused. I have gained weight the last 2 years and wonder if that is something that keeps him holding back, even though he tells me all the time im beautiful. I feel like im in a part time relationship but I like every leo woman wants a real one.
Pisces men are VERY difficult to deal with. I am a Cancer woman with a Taurus Rising. I thought I had my Pisces man right on the same level with me, then he got wishy washy REAL quick. He asked me to be somewhat aggressive with him, and I said OK.. I can do that. When I did, thats when he decided to retreat and back off completely. I have been open and I have tried and tried with these “P” guys, but this is just not working out. They all seem to have some sort of baggage from the past that is totally beyond changing. I gave up on Pisces man years ago. I thought for sure I met one that was SO different. HAHA… How WRONG I was. They want SO much and they give SO little.
I m a Sagittarius and my Pisces boyfriend just cheat on me
Valeria,
Don’t take it out on yourself. This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and his insecurities. I’m telling you right now…do not cry. Be strong and let him know how he hurt you and his punishment is a breakup. Don’t take him back, at least not yet. You have to punish that behavior so he won’t walk all over you, ok? It’ll be really crappy for awhile but remember…it’s not you, it’s him! Some people are just messed up and don’t think before leaping.
Thank you AquaTrainer
sweet hard u are a sag with a pisces. Run far awy from him as possible he will always wnt u because u are easy to get over on and most of the time u cater to him I am a pisces female that had a baby by a pisces man diastet because he was hiding a girl friend and a baby on a way real sexy guy very trifling and sneaky always making up stories that I will believe knowing they was lies and his girl friend that became his wife and he was playing both of us like big chess game I got pregnant and he got married to her she also a sag I left him a lone because I discover so many lies that u wouldn’t imagine I was left confuse and. Furious I disappeared for a long time and he stalk me but since I am a pisces I saw right threw him but pressure bust pipes and he would talk about his wife like a dog to me tell me all her business but but that’s just to make me feel comfortable they tend to wnt what they cnt have and he will do more stuff to u if u stay trust me never wnt to see u happy I think the men love y’all sag people because y’all will alwys take them back play him first before he play dnt trust nothing come out his mouth its lies trust me I know never will mess wit no more of them never
So true. Pisces often times tend to be martyrs even if its not healthy anymore. But there are few exceptions when they tend to “grow up” in deed. Just be careful and try investigate further if your partner is cheating on you or your just being paranoid.
Okay, a so-called Piscean here. Male at that. Let me tell you, I have been a troubled soul all my life, and I will be turning 35 in a month, March 4. Again, this will sound like a martyr-mentality type of complaint, but bear with me. And yes, this involves unresolved inner conflicts stemming from childhood experiences…
Before I was 7 years of age I did more than just play doctor with a few girls. I actually tried to have sex with them in various locations and in various positions. I don’t know how I could have thought this up by myself at that tender age, but my older Sag sister gave me a clue when she said that our parents sometimes allowed us children to climb on dad’s back while they were having sex. I have no conscious recollection of this.
Anyhow, I was caught with a dirty magazine that I and a few friends had found in the woods, and my parents confronted me about this. Not very sternly, just revealing that they knew about it. At about the same time I hit my girl because she had stopped being intimate with me, and I got a mild but frightening beating from her dad.
All this contributed to my being hesitant to deal with girls intimately. So I admired them from afar. Made out with a few at 12, but nothing naked. A girl in my class had a crush on me from 4th grade to 9th grade, but since I wasn’t attracted to her nothing happened between us. Instead I had crushes on other girls, from a distance. I was flattered by her lusting after me, having my Ascendant and Moon in Leo, but it turned me off when she alluded to her sexual experience with an older guy that looked like a rodent. Literally, he did.
Can you tell by now that I’m self-centered…?
I always longed for a girlfriend, but my insecurities grew. I wasn’t really into graphic pornography until I was 15, and that clashed with the mushy romantic movies I saw on TV, and so I became confused about the do’s and don’ts. I gave in to perverted fantasies over time. I had my few chances with girls but I was afraid of them, because I didn’t know what to do with them any longer, and doing what I saw in pornography didn’t feel right. I didn’t know the boundaries.
There was a girl I was sort of together with for 7 months, when I was 21, but I didn’t know which ones of my passions and desires I could allow to come into practice, so we never got to sex, and time went by and I suppose she got bored with me, because I was boring, still insecure, not knowing which impulses to embrace. What was normal, and accepted.
In my mid-20′s I realized I couldn’t get an erection from one-night-stands. I tried a few, and failed. To me, it felt pointless to have sex if it wouldn’t lead to more. And since I didn’t know the girls, how could I have known if I wanted it to lead to more? Plus, I don’t like condoms, and these days, post-30, I’m pretty much against contraceptives as a whole, so I think thrice before I approach a girl. But due to not knowing if I will be able to perform (because I am hesitant) I postpone getting intimate until I am doomed. I’m an open-minded guy (although I am against tattoos and piercings and promiscuity) and like kinky stuff, albeit combined with times of tenderness. I like admiring a girl’s face sometimes, to the point of exaggeration maybe. But that’s just the initial falling-in-love stage. I’m not all that romantic and lovey-dovey. I’m practical but I am lost.
Seeing how everyone around me sleep around from left to right, without any thought of long-term commitment, I get bitter and resentful, knowing that I’m not that one-night-stand type of guy, yet I need sex and much of it. I don’t want to be like everyone else, but I wished things would run more smoothly for this Pisces. This involuntary absense, and other people’s promiscuous lives, have taught me to justify a few cheatings on my part, in a stable relationship. Because most girls have slept around, and I have a right to my share when I’m finally with my future love, who I then intend to marry and have lots of children with. I have been denying myself sexual outlet for so long, involuntarily so when I’m secure with sex, I will get my share for a little time and then drop it.
Now, I have been a Christian for 6 years or so. I am against adultery and fornication. But I’m gonna take my share of the cake before it’s too late, but stop before the first child comes. I’m good with children and other people recognize this. Come to think of it, if I didn’t have my few hang-ups I would be a perfect husband and father, and maybe even a pillar of society. The sexual bit, together with an insecure vanity, has cause me most heartache in this life. As of now, I’m not insecure about anything but the sex, and most girls seem to want to go to bed pretty much immediately, and that’s when I lose my cool. Yeah yeah, I’m the archetype for a martyr, right?
Anyway, time’s running out on me. What I’m not sure about is: Should I go for that mushy, almost platonic love for a girl, or for that kinky and passionate desire for a girl? I could start out all innocent with the first and “progress” sexually (yet not reaching my desires), or I could go for the kinky woman and hope I can conjure up affection for her down the line. I sort of want to have both: The cuddly, and the raunchy.
This is not a forum for these issues, but do give advice if you got ‘em!
Swedish “pisces” (Asc Leo, Moon Leo, Venus Aries, Mars Aqua, Jupiter Taurus, Saturn Leo. And a detrimental Leo in first house opposing my Asc and Moon..)