Will the Virgo man commit?
January 25, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Of course he will! Unless he has strong Aquarian or Sagittarian energies in his chart, your Virgo man is loyal, steadfast and true.
An earth sign, Virgo needs a predictable routine to feel comfortable. He’s not one to flit around from woman to woman (you know who you are, Gemini!). Virgo prides himself on being reliable, and will feel regret if he lets you down.
If your Virgo man is sitting on the fence, he is carefully deliberating whether this is the relationship for him. He needs to think things over carefully, and will likely over-analyze the workings of this partnership. He will find fault with you, for sure … but if he feels he can help you improve, your shortcomings are not a dealbreaker.
Only after careful scrutiny will he come to a decision. And if he wants in, he’s in all the way.
Comment below: Is there a Virgo out there with commitment problems?
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I don’t think virgo guys r that bad ..when they really n love wit u and u treating them right and u show that u trust them then u shouldn’t have no problem..I think sagattirius r the worst smh..I’m a virgo female dealing wit a sag male and its way too stressful
Virgos are so awesome! I found a true keeper. He is thoughtful,kind,patient and very sweet towards me. I’ve never been treated so nice by a guy….ever. He was single for 18 years…YES 18 YEARS(NO SEX) before we met. I feel flattered he chose to be with me and is devoted to making our relationship work:)
Good question…. do virgo men commit?
Well I’m a virgo and have met a virgo male he is a couple of years younger then me but he is so amazing just knowing all tragic things he has been through and still have a good heart he’s always calling me gorgeous and has a gentle spirit and paying attention to the small details. Lately I know that he has been going through somethings with his family and I don’t hear much from him as often, maybe through and email but even in the smallest communication he always tell me how much he appreciates me and that he wants to seek God with me. But the thing is with little communication do to his phone being broke I wonder if its real do he feel as if we have potential to begin a relationship that is set in stone. I try to analyze through his messages but it doesn’t seem to help, well maybe a little. What should I do?
This is to Vanae. This is so funny that you are writting about this. I am going through it seems almost the same thing. I am a Taurus women crazy about this Virgo man, who acted like I was so beautiful..etc. But when he finally got my phone number he does’nt call, he says it was because his phone was off. So now it is on and I dont hear from him. I also knw that my Virgo is going through something with his family, so i told him that he should take care of that and him and I can hook up down the line. He stated that he did not want to do that…he still wants to see me, but i rarely hear from him. I do realize what he is going through is major, I just wish i knew what he felt about me.
I met a virgo about a month ago. We hit it off pretty slow, and hung out once. He has only called me once, and resorted to texting only. It started out with one text a day, to one every other day, to a delayed response when I began to initiate the texting. Now, I haven’t heard from him in 4 days, even after two texts I sent him. Virgos are crazy! What is his deal? Is he analyzing things like an aquarius, or is he giving me the cold shoulder? HELP!
virgo men are selfish,cold,heartless,ugly and bastards they know how to take advantage of people.please stay away.if they dont love you they are the most rubbish who wont even show curtasy and manner. I HATE VIRGO MEN
Virgo Erogenous Zone:
The stomach area is very sensitive to Virgo. Stroke it, circle their belly button with your finger, give them a light belly massage. This makes them feel warn and will help open them up a little bit. Be gentle, no sudden moves or vicious acts like biting or slapping, this will startle them and cause them to retreat.
I’m a Scorpio girl, and I’m currently dating a Virgo Man. He treats me so well that he made me fell in love with him so many times, but in the other side he is not ready for the big commitment.. you know what I mean, the Marriage thing.
It’s true that he’s a loner, and he needs a lot of time to be alone, many times.. When he’s done with his ‘own time’, he will keep coming back. I learned that it’s important to give him a time alone, and he will appreciate it very much.
Several times, I also knew that he’s still maintaining his communication with some girls, but I said nothing. From what I see, he must been doing something that makes those girls falling for him, but he never even replied. And during those times, there’s nothing change between us. He still treat me as his only girlfriend, giving me all he wants. My advise, if you
I’m a Scorpio girl, and I’m currently dating a Virgo Man. He treats me so well that he made me fell in love with him so many times, but in the other side he is not ready for the big commitment.. you know what I mean, the Marriage thing.
It’s true that he’s a loner, and he needs a lot of time to be alone, many times.. When he’s done with his ‘own time’, he will keep coming back. I learned that it’s important to give him a time alone, and he will appreciate it very much.
Several times, I also knew that he’s still maintaining his communication with some girls, but I said nothing. From what I see, he must been doing something that makes those girls falling for him, but he never even replied. And during those times, there’s nothing change between us. He still treat me as his only girlfriend, giving me all he wants. My advise, if you flirted with a Virgo and he didn’t replied, most probably he doesn’t have anything for you. It was just a one flirt/date, and that’s it. He always claims himself as a faithful person, and somehow it’s true.. that he’s alway coming back to his true girlfriend.
My Virgo Man never knows what he wants… He says he wants to be with me but he is not sure where it is leading. We have been together for 7 years? But he doesn’t want to be forced into marriage? Does that make any sense at all.
@tez
Sorry to be blunt, but he’s just not into you. I’v been with my Virgo guy 1 year and he’s ready to tie the knot.
I’ve been with my virgo man for three years and he want’s to have a baby. but my thing is i don’t trust him, it not because he cheated or anything like that i just never had a man treat me so gd.plus i hav trust issues from a privious relationship. I need help!:’(…. not to mention im a scorpio lady
@Iluv
If your Virgo guy has given you no reason to doubt then why are you so skeptical? My Virgo is the kindest, most loyal man I’ve ever met! (virgo guys by nature are very faithful and don’t like to play the field) Sounds like you’ve been burned badly and are cynical! Therapy can help- good luck.
OF COURSE! All virgos are willing to committ. Very faithful, honest, and loving. If we love you, yes we will committ.
I’m really attracted to my virgo roommate. HE has told me a few months ago that he likes me but that he wasn’t ready for a commitment.He’s hot and cold which hurts me a lot ( being a pisces and all). I keep promising myself that I’m going to stay away from him but there is something about him. I don’t know if it’s the complements, his charm that makes me go back and get hurt all over again by him.
All I’m hearing is Virgo’s are so amazing. Well they are… 90% of the time… The other 10%, he drives me crazy. We will have been living together for 2years in January. I love him dearly. He’s really reserved tho and to himself. He urks me with his spending and negligence for realizing what’s needed over what he wants but he’s resourceful and thoughtful and he always finds the way out of a bad situation even whe it seems like he’s doing nothing…bam, it’s resolved.
I believe he has a committment problem. He’s stuck on his babymomma, he’s TALKED to other females behind my back over the phone and on the internet many times, claiming never cheating physically. I never knew about it until he forgot to erase a message. I threatened to leave and actually did. He didn’t miss me much for the 2 days I left and seems as tho he moved on. I didn’t and was emotional and sad as ever wanting him to care and fight for our love. Oh by the way I’m 7 months pregnant with his first and only son (out of him having 2 other kids by different babymomma’s) which explains my emotion and need for affection at this late stage in my pregnancy. He never did understand my emotions and my crying… It’s like he grows cold when I’m sad. Instead of comforting me he’ll say “This is why I wish I was single”. But then any other time he’s sweet, caring, rubbing my stomach, thoughtful, cooks, cleans and swears his love for me. Well when I came back he wanted to start something new. The whole time we have been living a fantasy life… almost perfect… Now he tells me he can never be happy with just one woman. He needs two. That I will be his main wife and if I can deal with that he will definitely marry me… he swears he loves me but that he would never be completely happy and will always continue to fuilfill his fantasy behind my back. I cried til I almost felt like dying. and ultimately agreed to it for the fear of losing him and he falling for someone else who would agree to this lovely man… but it kills me because now he’s always talking about how great it would be to have a girl live with us and another girl, girl , girl… all the time. In the same sentence he says how much he loves me. He admits to being selfish and wanting his cake and eating it too. And I know that he is willing to sacrifice our relationship, raising a child in a broken home just to fulfill his fantasy or to find another woman that won’t mind. What should I do? I don’t want to be alone and I don’t want to raise another child alone. This would be my 2nd (I have a 5year boy as well who’s father isn’t around) and he waited til he got me pregnant and 7 months into it (this all happened last week) to tell me he wants something more… whether its withme or without me.
I LOVE HIM… MAYBE THIS WILL WORK OUT SOMEHOW RIGHT??
virgo is very picky. it makes them mean(no crule) and insensitive but expects you to always be kind and gentle inspite of his mood swings. he’s not for me..also a virgo..but one who does get him is lucky. if you hurt me too much i can’t be nice anymore..i won’t be mean but i won’t be there.simple. 1luvxoxo
wow kae u really hit the nail on the head. My virgo guy is VERY picky….finicky and expects everything to be his way or the highway. He expects me to be perfect…… perfect hair, perfect attitude, perfect weight……yet he is far from it! He is very moody(cranky) and refuses to see his faults. Sadly, I would had to agree that virgos can be mean. He’s hurt me too much, pushing me away with his coldness and criticism.
Hmmm…. Everything is so new to me in regards to relationships with virgos. I met a virgo man in August. In our frequent communications, we disclosed details of our personal lives. He told me that he was recently divorced and he had gone back to try to make it work, which unfortunately, did not. He explained that he was married to her for about 7 years and have two daughters with her. ok. We also shared the fact that we both were looking for a friend, but with some sort of stability…no here today, gone tomorrow type of situation. With this being stated, marriage will always be a priority in our lives. Of course I wouldn’t mind marrying him. He began asking me what I would want in a husband and he told me what he is looking for in a wife. He even wanted to remarry and relocate out of town. I explained that’s not something that would be stable for me right now and he reconsidered. In any case, we both explained that we hadn’t been with anyone in a while intimately. He was about 8 months out of his reconcile and I was a year out of surgery. We made love to each other and it definiely was intoxicating. lol, we both were left looking a bit confused. I could have almost breathed him in….
However, during our intimacy, there was an analyzing moment for him. He stopped, sat still, looked deep into the space surrounding us and began telling me that he hasn’t been with anyone since his wife. Basically, he was trying to explain that he felt awkward. I didn’t get upset. Instead, I thought that was very nice…I had not been with a man who took the time to think about even what his actions and involvement means, or would mean. I just told him that it would be nice to have someone think and feel that way about me. Well, after our intimacy, he asked me again about marriage and when would I want to do it. I told him that pressuring men into marrying me was something that I did not do. I told him that I will definitely want to marry him. Maybe not today, but eventually. Later, in a conversation, I asked him if we could remain intimate partners, if nothing else. You see, if he wanted to try for another reconciliation with his ex-wife then he should have that option. That’s just how I am. Well, I am still waiting on an actual response to that. All he said was, “I thought that that was it.” lol, really? Now, we are both working full time, back in school to complete our BS degrees and he has his daughters on the weekends. We see each other online daily (I guess we’re more comfortable with the ease of communication via the web). Neither of us complain, since the telephone calls just does not happen. We communicate, but when I bring up the subject of sharing more intimacy with him, he does not respond. It’s ok. I am not too pushy, but I am upfront and honest with him. I know he is studying me from a distance and I don’t want to end up in a power struggle with him. Why I say this? I know about the cruel, dark nature of the virgo…which also stirs my soul, but I refuse to be the devil’s playground. SO…I have decided to do things and have things with him because I truely want them-not to make things more perfect just for him. The reality is, nothing’s perfect. We both need to come to terms with this bit of reality to progress into a substantial relationship of our own structuring. I do understand that everyone has their past demons, baggage, or whatever. He also know mine…. Knowing, is half the battle.
Thanks for sharing less! You write that Virgo has a “cruel” side….. I know he is studying me from a distance and I don’t want to end up in a power struggle with him. Why I say this? I know about the cruel, dark nature of the virgo…which also stirs my soul, but I refuse to be the devil’s playground.
Well, I’ve noticed this with my Virgo too. If I upset him in any way or do not act “perfect” he becomes very cold and distant. Do Virgos have a dark, cold and evil nature when things do not go exactly their way? I feel so hurt when he subjects me to this type of treatment:(((
Hi Pisces_Sage. I don’t know about this for virgo men in general, but from my very new personal experience with the virgoan male character…yes, I’ve noticed the loyalty, dependability, great loving/caring, modesty, and strong work ethic nature that he possesses. I have also noticed the cold, dark, cruel nature. I’ve encountered it twice so far. The first time was during our first meeting. I was riding in the car with him when he asked me why didn’t I do something (give him my home address, etc.) prior to our meeting and I told him that he could have been an axe murderer for all I knew. His response? “I still can be an axe murderer.” How nice….lol He really knows how to sweet talk a gal. The second time has been ongoing. The cruelty I mean…. I don’t know if it has anything to do with not having his way, but when I downgraded a potential marriage to an exclusive companionship for reasons that make sense, he has been cynical about it. You know, “ok, she wants to be friends, fine.” …has not discussed the potential for future dating, or intimacy. I guess friends don’t do that. I understand the cruelty isn’t to directly hurt my feelings. That’s just a side effect. What about you Pisces? You have more experience in your relationship with a virgo male. How do you deal with the cruelty? I know that he is also opposite to you on the chart. How does that affect your responses to him? I kind of think Pisces are dark (at least my friend is) and discriminant of the details too….
I have a Virgo man for three years and I can give you all the information on them and if you have one you will immediately see what I am saying is true. Firstly a virgo man hardly ever know what he wants. we spend hours arguing about our future but hardly ever comes to a concensious. He treats me very nice sending rose to my job taking me out to the best restaurant and on weekends or whenever he spontaneously plan a get away for both of us. However behind all of this he has a dark side one that criticises me,and comments on all my faults. althoght he does all this don’t you ever criticize him or any of his close friends.
Presently I am living in a different country so we are having a visiting relationship, now he is telling me about previously problems we had a why this relationship is not working. I just decided today that I would just leave as I am not doing too well on this roller coaster ride, one minute we are so happy and looking to the future and the next we are sad and do not want to be with each other. For example he is buying a house and we are planning who will get the furniture then the next minute he said he is not sure if he wants us to live together. Although he has a lot of money I have enought too so I cannot see the problems he is having with us living together. I am trying my best but my patience is running out. I do not know what else to do. I am unable to get him on the phone for the entire day and we spoke up until late last night. I know that later he will come and just speak to me as if nothing has happen. I am tired and cannot handle it any longer Please tell me what to do?
Hi Shaquan. Unfortunately, it looks like you will be the one handing out any substantial advice. The half-assed piece of advice that I can offer you is to not take the moodiness, indecisiveness (libras get branded for this, but I have seen so much back-peddling and indecisiveness amongst other signs, you would not believe….), and dark nature too seriously in every single instance it happens. I’m not saying completely overlook it and take him for granted or allow it to cause you to lose complete respect for him, but you two have been together so long. Investing a lot of yourselves and other things into the relationship. If that is your biggest problems, continue to work on it. Believe me, there’s worse. Domestic battery, etc. Sorry that I’m not much help, but I have been involved (I guess that is an ok word) with a virgo guy for only 2 months. At this particular point in time, our involvement is turning into a power struggle no matter how much I don’t want them to. I suppose the way virgo men see it, is that someone must lead, someone must follow…. Fine. I don’t mind a man taking the lead and protecting me for sure, but I don’t like to be man-handled. Besides, total submission is not something virgo men actually want. I am a virgo rising, aries moon, and a fire snake. He’s a dragon, fire. Maybe I won’t have to worry about it much longer as it seems that we refuse to call each other by phone and he has started avoiding me online. Well, I stopped calling because I didn’t want to over do it. I told him that he should make the effort to also call. So, neither of us phone each other. When I mentioned the stubbornness involved with our actions, he laughed. I guess he found it amusing. I honestly don’t. It’s draining emotionally and serves no real purpose. My mind is of course telling me that he is sending me a message that he has moved on and is no longer interested. I have not tried to do anything about his avoidance, except tone down my expressions and just quietly observe. My feelings are telling me something different…that our involvement isn’t over-not in the sense of forever. I sincerely feel that it is just a power trip, or maybe a tantrum? He’s been cynically “turning the tables” to where I’m suppose to feel used, which I know is not the case. If I initially made him feel this way (that I am out to use him, which is strange to me…maybe careful, but definitely not use), I did not intend to. I have learned from my past not to jump so fast into serious relationships, especially those with lots of baggage until I know that I can take on everything that comes with the relationship. At this point and time, and with the nature of the baggage, no, I am not willing or ready to take it all on. I am examining how much I would have to give of myself, how much and how often I would have to compromise, and if it would be worth it. Furthermore, because I can not birth children, that is a factor as well. For example, knowing that his ex-wife still wants him back, could I handle a possible affair between him and her. No way. Despite my objections, it’s more probable that it will happen anyways. If I commit to a serious relationship, even marry him, I will work through the situation, rather than just walk away. If he was simply looking for a rebound into a new marriage…he has a surprise waiting for him.:) In any case, I like him very much and hope that things will eventually work out between us. I am guessing that if he is going through the trouble of avoiding me rather than just telling me something to get rid of me, or telling me it’s over he must care enough to either not want to hurt me, or is not totally interested in ending things with me. The most I can do for now, is wait. What is your sign by the way Shaquan? Are you a libra?
hello all. i see many people have experience with Virgos and i’d like some advise. I dont know much about virgos but I have my eyes in a virgo man for the past couple of months. but i cannot understand him. we met long ago, but just recently really started to talk. He invites me to go out to do something with him, but then cancels it (or better words, forgets to tell me that he cancelled the plan) and when i invited him to go hang out with me, he said “ya sure, id like to see you” but then made other plans. im normally the one that has to take the initiative and text him, and when i do that we spend hours texting and talking about relationships and what we like the most on the opposite sex and stuff. But there is also the times where i will text him and will not get any answer back.
Can anyone explain to me what the heck?
Im a scorpio girl, and i do tend to over think most things, so am i just over thinking this, and really the conversations we have doesn’t mean anything at all, and he is just doing the typical virgo flirting thing? Or is he interested in me?
Anyone can give me an advise?
My advise to this scorpio girl is stay away from a virgo man ,they are the rubbish in zodiac and never think when they hurt someone.Also these men are very selfish.Give them ur life they will never be thankful.
Find ur self someone normal.virgo men are mad.
I’m a Libra dating a Virgo, and at first there was an instant attraction. He was compelling, hard to decipher. I thought he was so intriguing, and always a part of me didn’t trust him. There were his cold eyes, I could sense he had a secret motivation, and also these past few months I think he’s strayed and cheating. We started dating in May 09 but lately there is so much arguing and I can’t get past the fact that he’s hiding things from me. While I’m emotional and at times childishly dramatic, I want to give him all of my heart and love him to bits. Unfortunately I get the feeling that he is completely heartless and unemotional.
He tell ms he loves me all the time, but all of his actions seem to be a manipulation of some sort. I feel like I keep banging my head against a brick wall, on repeat and when I have withdrawn from him and we don’t speak for a week. He comes back into my orbit and the problem is I have a hard time saying no. We are neighbors, while I know now he is far from Prince Charming. Which I thought in the beginning, he is Mr. Control, tell her what she wants to hear. But at times there is this sweetness or intensity to our relationship. I know he’s bad for me, but I keep falling for him. I’m trying to be honest and give him my heart but it doesn’t matter. I have a feeling he’d only truly miss me or realize he loved me, once I leave forever. HIs taking me for granted on a daily basis is driving me insane!!
wowww amanda, I can relate to everything you said! been with my Virgo since Jan ‘08. was captivated by his sweetness and beautiful mind from the beginning, there was an alluring, deep connection. As time progressed I saw much manipulation. He is capable of being very cruel and heartless. Sadly, his frigid coldness has pushed me away…..
But there is also a thoughtful side (which lures me into his web again and again). Lately we have been bickering a lot. He recently say ; “leave-get the f*** out!” AND threatend to call the cops. I wanted to believe this man was Prince Charming. I am SO hurt that he could not open his heart and show true love. Seems I’m not the only one who has been betrayed by Virgo.
I am a Pisces female and I have been with my Virgo guy almost one year. I have had my ups and downs with him. He is divorced and he was very wary or our relationship. He put me through many tests as Virgos sometimes do and because I knew the nature of his sign I was able to come out of any situation smelling like roses. We had not even professed our love to one another until last weekend. Once they do let you know how they feel…it is like you are on a roller coaster. We are planning to get married somewhere exotic in July and we want kids right away. I am still in shock but I love him so much he has made me a better woman and want to achieve goals that I had put on the back burner. The key with your Virgo man is to have patience and if you do you will have the man of your dreams!
Hi Carol,
That’s so funny how your Virgo threatened to call the cops. Mine did too! This was after a terrible argument and I did slap him. But he grabbed his phone and seemed ready to dial the police.
My Virgo boyfriend and his double life! Aghhh well he’s Mr. Right Now, but not Mr. Right. I’ll have to move on eventually just hope he doesn’t mess up my head for much longer ;o
my virgo boyfriend was a big party guy alwayss seems to HAVE TO have friends. this is why i have problems trusting him. he hasn’t had many girlfriends but he hass slept with alot of girls. so should i be secure and know that i am ‘the one’? and knowing this should i really not worry about how many friends he has? I am a capricorn girl so i must say we get along quite well and understand one anothers physically, mentally having deep connections with each other.
Unfortunately i really cannot stand like others the manipulating nature he has and how he is NEVER wrong and will always manipulate my same words yet make me sound like im the bad guy and he’s the victim. always. it makes me feel as if i am in an abusive relationship really.
Im a capricorn girl 2 hours from being a saggittarius. with a moon in libra. lol.
when i met him his 2 best friends were capricorn and so when i came into his life what do you know? he was in heaven. lol 4 years ago. We met in naples, fl. he moved to california and i moved to miami, we continued to talk all this time and when we both returned to naples he then left everyone and followed me to texas. he says he loves me and told me the other day that i was the perfect girl for him. My Dilemma. is we have been in texas for 2 1/2 months. He lived with me in my parents house for about a month and half before i kicked him out (we fight alot, make up alot) he didnt want to go back to naples with his family so lived in a hotel for a month with a friend he invited over from michigan. He had a whole plan but when his other friend mentioned he had bought a place in florida my boyfriend came to me and told me he couldnt live in a hotel for a month and wanted to go back to naples for a month to save money, not to mention a pit stop at his friends house first!! i couldnt bare to take the pain of the sudden stop when all seemed well but he says he loves me and still wants to be together. Will this virgo man ever committ and what is he thinking???? Besides a break im guessing… what is behind this virgo mans mind and feelings???? Will it ever work and is it worth the wait?????
help!
I'm an aquarius who was with a virgo for a little over 4 years. Best relationship ever! Why did it end? Life. Stress. 65 hr workweeks, two ships passing in the night, etc. He was my best friend and, hands down, the FUNNIEST, MOST ROMANTIC man I've ever met. I made the mistake of leaving him and not being too sure if I wanted to get back together (he still has vices I don't agree with). But, the whole Virgos and Aquarians only get along mentally… well, mentally was the way to my heart. I have never felt sooooo comfortable to be myself around anyone else but this man. We'll always have love for each other.
see theres this thing with a virgo. if hes interested in you, and it might take some time, hes all out. He might not act like he’s crazy about u in public, but if us ask him hell tell u. Communication is key, u got to ask questions. And ya, give em attention but if hes made his mind, he’ll make sure u know hes crazy about you.
And as for aquarias, its not that that ur not good for each other. The virgo never confuses love with friendship, he will make sure u feel more important than his “girl” friends. Aquarius are the opposite. Unless they truly are in love, they wont descriminate.
Also, the virgo man is nervous around the girl he likes, aquarius women have to be chased and impressed to fall in love. This is a big problem
i am a scorpion and i hv been in lv wid a virgo 4m last 5 years.i hv told hm finally.he jst said dat he doesnt knw me bttr n cnt thnk f gettng committed.i asked hm 2 b atleast frns n he said ya sure.v hd a tok jst thru msgs 4 1 or 2 years dat too vry rare.cn he ever thnk abt me n feel wat i felt 4 d past 5 years.i really love hm a lottttt….jst being practical and waiting 4 hm 2 atleast take an innitiation f improving d frnshp.i hv told hm dat i care a lot…will i ever b able 2 be with hm??????plzzz help me
Good God.
It’s nice to know it’s not just me.
I’m a Leo female (natal Merc and prog Sun in Virgo, quite a bit of earth influence in my chart as well) dating a Virgo male and he is as described above: he can be the most helpful, sweetest, most tender, understanding, caring, and…easiest person to talk to about and brainstorm over anything.
Conversely — he is inconstant with a capital I– says one thing, does another; makes pronouncements (usually along the lines of “I need time for myself, I spend all of my free time with you!” and then when I go off and do something on my own or focus on other people because he said he needed his alone time, “I miss you!”), reverses himself/changes his mind five minutes later. I’ve learned not to take anything he says seriously (or literally) until he follows it through – it’s the only way I can keep my sanity.
I think I can sum up our relationship experiences with Virgo in the following words: pursue, capture; pursue, capture. I don’t have much patience for that sort of thing, and am fairly self-sufficient. I almost have to treat him like a naughty child when he does his quixotic act, but when he’s good, he’s soooo good. When he’s bad, walk away and make him wonder what could possibly be more fascinating than waiting around for him. It’s not easy; Virgos are charming as hell.
The Virgo man has a fantastic eye for detail and enjoys order, precision and efficiency in all things. He’s particularly fond of routines and lists. He may even have a list of his lists! He is likely to be fairly reserved, and may be uncomfortable receiving too much attention, perhaps embarrassing easily. He will be a highly practical person, and will never display any irrational or emotional outbursts in public.
Analytical, discriminating, precise, considerate, punctual and reliable, he will have an above average amount of common sense, and is likely to enjoy work of a technical or analytical nature, quite possibly working behind the scenes to ensure the efficiency of an organization, rather than taking center stage.
Virgo is an intellectual sign, and this mans fast mind can find humor in most things, and often empathize with others more than his emotions alone would allow. He may have a tendency to have trouble relaxing, needing to force himself not to think of how things can be improved, or critically analyze his recent performance of a task. He often hates wasting time, or sitting idle.
The Virgo man appreciates and seeks perfection in all things, and a necessary step towards that is being somewhat critical. This usually applies doubly to himself and his own performance where he can be very self critical. Later in life he’s likely to look much younger than he really is, this is a sign which ages well.
On the negative side, he can sometimes be seen as picky, aloof, sarcastic, depressed, pessimistic or whiny. He assumes everyone views him with the same critical eye that he posseses, which can sap his self confidence. Ironically, he is likely to be more perfect than most of us, yet he’s the only one who can’t see it. This level of self imposed modesty can be particularly endearing.
I think they are a total pain in the ass….and I have NO patience anymore
for someone that “always has to be the Victim” and is “Always Right about Everything”….
and the Criticism – forget it! It must be nice to SO PERFECT Virgos.
Pooor Virgo… Go cry to a Cancer, they’ll feel bad for you- and maybe believe you and
take you in…then you can “rescue” her and “fix her” and then resent her…
Savior/Victim……….It’s a BAD VIRGO PATTERN.
WOW mary! You really hit the nail on the head. I’m having disturbing issues with my Virgo. At first he played innocent “Victim” (terrible childhood, abusive father, etc) I am a very nurturing Cancer and fell for it. Now he is constantly criticizing and treats me with Resentment. My heart is breaking. s***….WHAT HAVE I GOTTEN MYSELF INTO??!!
Omg omg so so tru some of these comments! I’ve been seein a virgo for 8 months and he acts like we’re in a relationship but claims we’re just ’seeing each other’ he thinks its too soon for a relationship! He can be really sweet, but he’s withdrawn, not very talkative at times and moody! He sends SO MANY mixed messages!
Oh and he also never see’s wen he’s wrong and keeps blaming me for something I did wen we first met! One thing! And he was doin stuff too. He always brings up that one little thing I did and says he will never trust me, he seems very angry about it
my virgo is sooo moody too…can be extremely gentle and caring and thoughtful. but at times is withdrawl and cold as ice. when he’s good he’s VERY VERY good….when he’s bad he’s HORRID! lol
Yh so tru @confused cancer! Why are they like that??
who knows? One of life’s great mysteries, I guess:)
OMG – I can’t figure out the mixed messages thing either. It’s the one thing that has sent me in to freak out mode more than anything. I fought his advances for a while, but once I gave in it was beyond evident that I was all in. The only problem was that all of the sweet little thing he did to get me to that point came to a screeching halt. I’ll see a smidgen of them eeeeevery now and then, but I definitely get the ice treatment more than anything. It’s weird because there have been several times I’ve tried to bow out and he immediately reels me back in. I just don’t get why he’s so inconsistent while I, on the other hand, treat him the same way all of the time.
I met a virgo guy about six months ago, when we started a new semester at school. We took on a project together, hardly knowing each other and then he added me online. We spoke for hours every single day. I could tell he was into me, whereas I didn’t really take romantic interest in him at first. Yet he had this charm about him, a very sharp mind, dashing smile and a cool demeanour about him that was difficult to ignore. I hadn’t been in a relationship before, and was very careful about getting into one. Though I had to admit, slowly but surely I was falling for him. Our conversations got more personal and before I knew it, we went on a date. He had told me that relationships hadn’t been his thing either, yet now he could see why people liked to be in one. He always had the sweetest things to say, told me he could not bear a day without seeing me and it almost seemed that I had stepped into a movie. This surely looked like a relationship.
Yet, I was wrong.
After some time passed and we’d hung out several times, he started to “drift away”. At first, I thought it was only in my mind, although I had to ask him about it. It wasn’t such a good idea, since he kept telling me “everything’s fine” and I just had to shrug it off. As time went on, things got even colder. He stopped saying nice things, he stopped having time for me (although that was subjective, as he always had time for other non work-related things) and I almost felt as if I’d made all the previous parts up in my head. I’ve asked him about the coldness and not wanting to spend time together, but he’s under the impression that everything’s exactly the same as it was when we first met. He also told me that he never wanted to get into a relationship, yet believed I was a great person to be with and everything should be “laid back”, as he put it.
A couple of days ago I sent him a letter, as I had too much in my mind that I wanted to get out, undisturbed by virgo’s “I’m right and you’re wrong” attitude. I poured my heart out and remained calm throughout the whole writing, so he couldn’t make me feel as the bad person, as he had previously done. In the end we couldn’t agree on what we both had initially wanted. I told him I was sorry to hear, that he’d lost all interest (which he didn’t admit, but it does show) and that I could not be the person waiting and running after him until he felt like meeting up with me. My invitations were, in most cases, dismissed. The “relationship” was on his terms. Now I cannot help but feel angered, that the even charmed me in the first place. Could have saved my sanity. Oh yeah, I haven’t talked to him since, yet we go to the same school and technically see each other every day. It’s devastating.
Yes they do want things on their terms and yes after the honeymoon faze they dnt do all the nice stuff! Its so weird how I can see my virgo guy in all your comments. But they do hav handsome smiles
I am currently seeing a Virgo man and think I am being given the cold shoulder at this moment, or distance treatment as it’s been called. It’s hard on me. I’m a Libra. I am an air sign and love companionship, especially now that spring is coming and will no longer be stuck inside.
It’s cruel, cold, and worst of all I think he knows it. He has been distant in the past, has come back to tell me he was sorry about it and that he was weighing his “options” … whatever that meant? Could have been work-related, relationship-related, money-related, ex-related, etc. No idea.
All I know is whenever I try and pursue, he runs further away and becomes colder. If I distance myself then he lays on the sweets. This time is quite different for me. I am pretty sure he is upset that I called him out on driving drunk, maybe he is re-evaluating whether he wants someone to “care” about him in that regard. He states over and over again he likes to do what he wants to do.
I also opened up and told him what I appreciated about him, as a friend, told him I don’t judge him and that I believe he is a rare bird and admire his pure approach to life (the earth in him I guess), and no response. Who knew? lol.
I’m not going to reach out, I might just wait and see what happens and if it is different from the other “distancing” scenarios to occur.
I love my virgo man. He is great very loving.kind, sexy, and everything else you can think of. He is so devoted to me. Our friends thuink we are soulmates. We seeem to be one person almost People tell us that our love and sexually chemistry is contagious and electric. So I have great things to say about virgos.Those clearblue eyes and great smile with dimples are to die for. Yummmmmy
I hear ya scorp. My Virgo is dreammmmmy too We are like 2 peas in a pod, soul mates. I feel like he is the male version of me. lol He treats me like a Princess; always so gentle, thoughtful and full of hot, steamy passion too: ) I AM ON CLOUD NINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!