Things not to do to the Capricorn man
January 5, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Capricorn has worked hard to achieve his level of status and respectability, so the last thing you should do is sully his reputation.
- Don’t do the slutty, trashy bit on the town with him — he will not want to be seen with you again.
- Don’t tell embarrassing stories about him at business functions.
Avoid pushing him to be more “expressive.” Good luck!
Don’t incessantly press him to spend more time at home. Of course, he should! But work is where he feels at home, and he may stay longer at the office if he feels that his domestic life is emotionally messy.
Comment below: What have you regretted doing to a Capricorn man?
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NeedAdvice – thank you for the wonderful compliment.
AquarianBlossom,
Don’t assume for one minute that he is in love with those girls. Girls who kiss and sleep on the first date are good for his ego for sure (and boy do CAPS have an ego!)
If you really want this bad, send him an email on Facebook. Don’t open up too much about your feelings. You want to sooooo bad I know, but don’t….it makes you vulnerable to being hurt.
Stop your midnight calls. Stop the poems. He might assume you are desperate, and that is the level of the women that probably puts notes on his facebook page. You are bigger than that and have more self esteem.
No. Simply drop him a facebook EMAIL (not a post. and Email, CAPS are very private when it comes to this stuff) – just tell him nonchalantly that you have been busy with work and family and that had been meaning to say hello and that you hope things are going well with the job. Keep it short, sensible and without too much emotion. TELL him; if you are in town I’d like to catch up with you over dinner. How about Saturday at 6. We can meet at….” and pick a location that is trendy, but nice and NOT romantic (no table violinists etc)
remember when you meet, talk about logical things and not about feelings. You need to talk about his job, his family. Don’t even ask if he is dating someone. That is pushing to hard. Talk about things he likes.
If he does not respond within 3 days, you need to take a big girl pill and move on. I know that hurts. But you are better than this and deserve to find someone who will call you and text you and want to be with you! You will be better off with a Libra….as long as you aren’t too clingy a Libra is your best match!
Bionic Bigfoot, thank you for your advice but I don’t feel you are truly understanding the nuances of my situation. I hope someone else reads everything I’ve written and gives me the answer to my burning question. I simply think that a friendly email will get no response just as much as my emotional communications have been, yet I feel and know that he has emotions for me. I do not understand why he has cold turkey stopped calling. Is it because he has too much on his plate and didn’t know how to tell me so? I don’t even know the details of who he is helping or why, other than his mom. I know that all his work hours were keeping him away from me and it was hurting our conversations. Whatever he is thinking or feeling, why hasn’t he communicated it to me? Was he afraid of confrontation? Of hurting me? Not knowing what to say? I don’t understand why he couldn’t just say it, whatever it was.
AquarianBlossom: I answered your questions below in capital letters just so you could distinguish them from your own.
I simply think that a friendly email will get no response just as much as my emotional communications have been, yet I feel and know that he has emotions for me. WHAT HAS HE DONE IN THE LAST 2 WEEKS TO SHOW HE HAS EMOTIONS?
I do not understand why he has cold turkey stopped calling. Is it because he has too much on his plate and didn’t know how to tell me so? AS I MENTIONED BEFORE CAPS DO NOT DISCUSS THEIR FEELINGS EASY. THEY KEEP THEM BOTTLED UP AND HE WOULD HAVE TO KNOW YOU INTIMATELY FOR ALONG TIME. HE MAY HAVE STOPPED CALLING YOU AS I MENTIONED BEFORE, THAT YOU TOLD HIM ABOUT YOUR DATING HABITS AND IT SCARED HIM. DID HE TELL YOU DETAILS ABOUT ALL THE WOMAN HE HAS DATED? I WOULD BE SURPRISED IF HE DID. YOU ALSO TOLD HIM MANY MANY THINGS BESIDES THIS. INCLUDING WRITING A POEM MOST LIKELY PROFESSING HOW YOU FEEL. AS I MENTIONED ABOVE THEY ARE NOT RIGHT AWAY “FEELY” EMOTIONAL PEOPLE. THIS MAY HAVE INITIALLY SHOCKED HIM ONLY BECAUSE HE DOESN’T UNDERSTAND INTENSE EMOTIONS WITHOUT YEARS AND YEARS OF INTIMATELY KNOWING A PERSON.
I don’t even know the details of who he is helping or why, other than his mom. WHY DO YOU THINK HE IS HELPING SOMEONE RIGHT AT THIS MOMENT? CAPRICORNS NEED LOTS AND LOTS OF TIME TO EVALUATE THE SIMPLEST THINGS. IT MAY BE THAT HE IS JUST THINKING OF THESE SIMPLE THINGS AND NOT REALIZING YOU ARE THERE FOR HIM UNLESS YOU REACH OUT IN A FRIENDLY UNEMOTIONAL AND CASUAL WAY.
I know that all his work hours were keeping him away from me and it was hurting our conversations. CAPS LOVE TO BE DEDICATED TO WORK. AGAIN I MENTIONED THIS BEFORE. IF THE CONVERSATIONS WERE NOT SYMPATHETIC AND ON THE TOPIC OF HIS WORK AND WERE MORE ABOUT YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS THEN HE MAY HAVE NOT THOUGHT YOU WERE CLICKING. AS I MENTIONED IN AN EARLIER POST…IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS EARLY ON. THAT TAKES A LONG TIME. BUT ONCE YOU HAVE EARNED HIS TRUST YOU WILL ALWAYS BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT THEM. IT TAKES A LOT OF WORK AND A LOT OF YEARS TO GET THERE.
Whatever he is thinking or feeling, why hasn’t he communicated it to me? BECAUSE HE IS A CAP. HE DOESN’T COMMUNICATE WELL WITH SOMEONE HE HASN’T KNOWN FOR A LONG TIME. HE WOULD MUCH RATHER TAKE THINGS SLOW AND HAVE THE INTENSITY SPRINKLED IN ONLY AFTER HE IS COMFORTABLE WITH YOU. HAVE I MENTIONED THAT CAPS DO NOT LIKE TO BE PRODDED ABOUT THEIR FEELINGS. THEY ARE LIKE SPOCK ON STATR TREK. Was he afraid of confrontation? YES! WHY BE CONFRONTATIONAL RIGHT OUT OF THE GATE. THEY WANT TO GET TO KNOW A PERSON BEFORE THEY CAN BE CONFRONTATIONAL ANYTHING ELSE WOULD BE, WELL AS SPOCK WOULD SAY “NOT LOGICAL”
Of hurting me? YES. HE DIDNT WANT TO HURT YOU. BUT YOU HAVE SHOWN A VERY EMOTIONAL SIDE AND DARE I SAY ARGUMENTATIVE SIDE OF YOUR EMOTIONS. (I SAY THIS BECAUSE YOU INDICATE THAT YOUR CONVERSATIONS STARTED TO GO THIS ROUTE) IF HE SAID ANYTHING THIS EARLY ON HE WOULD BE CONFRONTATIONAL AND WOULD HAVE TO DEAL WITH EMOTIONS. AS I SAID CAPS ARE NOT ARGUMENTATIVE IF EMOTIONS ARE INVOLVED BECAUSE THE 2 IN HIS MIND ARE SEPARATE. Not knowing what to say? CAPS ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY. AS LONG AS IT IS SENSIBLE. IF YOU ARE PRODDING HIM TO FEEL A CERTAIN WAY, WELL FEELING IS AN EMOTION AND AS I HAVE SAID MANY TIMES, HE WILL ONLY SHOW SINCERE DEEP EMOTIONS AFTER YEARS OF TRUST AND LOVE. IT IS HARD WORK TO GET HIM TO THAT POINT. I don’t understand why he couldn’t just say it, whatever it was. AGAIN. HE DID NOT WANT TO BE CONFRONTATIONAL AND TALK ABOUT EMOTIONS.
Bottom line – you are emotional and intelligent. He is logical and analytical. You were being you and that is FANTASTIC he loves that in a person. But he falls IN LOVE with a person when they approach life in a logical and efficient manner.
I do understand you. I really do. Caps are a hard nut to crack. You would do yourself some good by googling more of their traits.
This is a good link to start: http://astrology.about.com/od/allaboutcapricorn/qt/CapAquarius.htm
It describes how a Capricorn always looks first for a sure thing and at first glance Aquarius is too unpredictable and socially zigzaggy.
My suggestion of approaching this in a non emotional way of just 2 friends having dinner AS FRIENDS is a place to start. As long as you didn’t scare him off for good. If you follow my recipe and understand he doesn’t want to hear about your emotions and your feelings of “love or deep liking” this early on. And if you come across as hard to get and private he will see you and chase you. You become mysterious and they like to try to (again) ANALYZE. By you telling him more and more about yourself, you are taking away his ability to analyze and he gets bored that there is no challenge and moves on. Talk about HIS job and talk about HIS family. Praise him for the hard work he does. They love to hear praise, and if they say “work is sucky” don’t say “I know what you mean I hate my job too” respond with “I am sorry to hear that. What’s been going that makes it so sucky”…so he keeps talking..and you show interest in what he is doing. It puts him in the spot light and the love it there. Eventually he will find you a good listener and eventually he will open up his heart in the way that you crave.
But if he doesn’t respond to any email or phone call ASKING him to go out just to catch up with what’s been going on in his life, then I would move on and find your better match.
Okay, I have some more questions for you.
1) If he has no emotions for me, why does he keep coming back to me?
2) I agree that I might have rushed the feelings and emotions but I want to get to know him better. I just got miffed because he wasn’t coming to see me, yet when I asked him if he wanted me to remain faithful to me in our six weeks of calls and not seeing each other, after a brief pause.. he said “yes” When he sat on my couch in July and we reconnected, he seemed to be on the same page as far as having a relationship. When the transition came, he said we’d have all the time in the world to be together after it was over. I told him time for me meant 3-4 times a week, not once every two weeks. When I asked him what time with him looked like, he said, “Just me.” He’s mature enough to know that not seeing him hurt me and made me question his intentions. So after more than eight weeks of calling after the day I told him about those dates, he decides to drop us? It hardly makes any sense. Why not do it earlier?
3.) Why do emotions scare him? I have liked this guy for so long but each time things end like this and it constantly makes me question what he wants. When he sat on my couch in July, I said, “You know in 2005, you could have had me.” He raised his eyebrows and said, “What about now?” So you see… I hardly understand him. I want to be those rare few that get close to him. He said that when he opens up to me, he’d want me to feel special because he did so. I told him I see the reverse. I’d want him to open up to me because I am special to him. He has said things like “Other than being R—, why should I open up to you?” or “What are you to me that I should tell you about my past?” And I would retort and say “Only you can answer that question.” So if he wants to get to know me, why do I feel like he consistently pushes me away and plays hot and cold? I could be faithful and devoted and loyal forever if I knew he had the same feelings for me.
4.) When I asked him if it was worth riding out the job transition thing with him, he said that the decision was up to me. I WANTED TO KNOW WHERE HIS HEAD WAS REGARDING ME. He had said that the timing might not be right. And so I mentioned maybe seeing others, just to get a feel on his thoughts. He said he can’t let it affect him right now. CAN’T????? Or does it mean I don’t matter to him??? I said I’d want it to bother him if I were to see others. He laughed and said, “Why?” Duh. Why???? Because I want to know he has emotions for me! So I said, “For the obvious reasons.” At one point he even asked if I was in love with him. When I remained silent, he asked if I had heard his question. I said that I had. When he pressed me for an answer, I said “I think I know the answer.” He said, “You think you know, or you know?” It was too soon to say anything like it. So if he is scared of or not driven by emotion, then why did he care to know so early on? And if me seeing other men bothers him so, why does he continue to say things that make it seem like it doesn’t?????
5) No, he hasn’t told me a lot about his past relationships. But what he does tell me, I feel like I am so different than them. Why call me a 10+, if he doesn’t see value in me?
6.) Isn’t it too late to be casual after I’ve told him I really like him and want to get to know him better? Maybe crying in front of him telling him about those dates wasn’t a good idea.. but he did hold me… I just know enough about him to want to know more… For once, I want a real chance and for me that means face time. If he didn’t feel anything for me, why would he hang out with me when he was hurting over his family? And to answer your question, I know about him financially helping others BECAUSE HE TOLD ME SO. Hence, the second UPS job…
7.) I did tell him alot about myself but it was my thinking ( a mistake?) that it would make us closer and as a result, he’d open up as well….
9) In my convos, I have asked him to elaborate at times and I’ve questioned him about work. But 99% of the time, I say, “How was work?” and he just says, “Long.” Which makes me feel he’s not interested in talking about it…
So I’m afraid that he won’t respond to a just catch up dinner. I know he doesn’t even get off until midnight and has work early which is why we were having problems in the first place. I doubt he has time for that…
I think you need to just give up on him. I’m kinda in the same situation dealing with a Capricorn Guy and I’m so over it! I never been so frustrated with a person in my life. It was like love at first sight and we got extremely close very fast. It was all him at first & I was a lil scared in the beginning,because he was taking it so fast. I was the one trying to slow him down, but I did really like him. I was just trying to be on my guard. I totally thought in the beginning if anyone got bored or messed up it it would definitely be me first. I really liked him, but I felt like he even liked me more. Plus I’m a Scorpio & I’m use to almost always having the upper hand. On day 2, he was telling me he was in love with me. I was his soulmate, etc. All the crap a girl wants to hear. And stupid me believed him, because we are in our 30’s not 18. I didn’t think a guy at this age is going to say all this crap if he didn’t feel it, but as I learned that was a really dumb assumption & guys are idiots & immature at even 70 sometimes. So basically after a while, I started reciprocating the feelings. We were together every single day and for me there was only one other guy in my life I could stand being like that with. I usually can’t stand to be around someone that much. We were totally in love I thought. We both spoiled each other. He treated me exactly the way I wanted to be treated. He was a gentlman, totally wined/dined me a couple times a week and extremely romantic. He was very generous & wasn’t majorly rich, but did ok. (Usually Capricorns are very cheap & he wasn’t which was surprising, because I don’t like cheap guys). He actually use to communicate with me very well & tell me his feelings. We’d always have deep conversations, because I’m very deep about things. I knew he wasn’t that spiritual/deep, but he would actually seem very interested in what I had to say & interested in learning. I felt very connected to him & at the time we did think a lot a like. We never fought at all & were with each other everyday. We both were very goofy & laugh together all the time. This is where I think it went wrong, I was really in love with him & I felt like I was becoming a lil needy/clingy in the end, which really isn’t me. I never was jealous & I always encouraged him to do his own things & see his friends, even know we saw each other everyday too. But I did start always watching my phone for his phone calls & changing plans in my life & w/ my friends just to hang out with him when we were already together all the time. In my head, I was like freaking out if I didn’t have a text from him every 2 seconds. I started like being afraid of losing him in my head, which for any guy insecurity is a turn-off. Guys can definitely sense that even if your not acting like that in front of them. Well anyway we got in our only 1 fight over something that wasn’t major, but it was extremely emotional for like 3 days. I cried, he cried. I admit I definitley over-reacted in the situation & when it was over I felt really bad. He did fix things & he was upset in the situation, because he kept telling me to trust him & I didn’t at the time cause I was too emotional. I apologized a million times. The situation was both our faults. He basically procrastinated on something that was important to me that I reminded him about a million times & even offered to take care of it myself & on my part I made a bigger deal out of it then it needed to be. I know I definitely hurt him, but like a week & 1/2 before this fight I just had an intuition that he was getting bored & I wasn’t a challenge anymore. Everything was actually pretty perfect & we did have the best relationship, but I think any guy gets bored when there is nothing new to discover. He will even still say now I was the perfect girlfriend & we were always happy together. Which I will never understand. After the fight, he would hardly talk to me. Then he said he needed time to himself. Then for a month after he was very wishy/washy, like I miss you I want to see you then flake. He kept doing this. I was a complete mess on my own. Until one weekend we were suppose to hang out & he never called me again. That’s how we broke up. He would never give me closure, never talk about us. I tried to tell him I know it wasn’t only the fight that he just wanted out cause he was bored, which overall I think that’s the truth. I think the fight just gave him an out & I helped by over-reacting. We’ve been broken up over a year & 1/2. I always thought he’d come back. I never dreamed that be the end, just like that. I thought he was my soulmate, now I think it was all bulls***. You don’t just stop loving someone in two seconds, unless you never loved them to begin with. I never got any I miss u’s (except like the 1st week after the fight) or even drunk calls. Every couple months after he just stopped talking to me, I would get a text on a holiday & then he would ask me to dinner & then flake. I wasn’t asking him out & yet he still makes me feel like I’m chasing after him cause I do have this longing to see him. He has done this to me like 5 times & I still have no closure/answers. I don’t get it & I never will. Like why the hell ask me to dinner if you really don’t want to see me? I’m so sick of him. Recently, I just got an offer from him but I know he is going to do the same thing. And he says now it’s different & he won’t flake, but he said that last time too. He will even send me texts looking forward to seeing you then flake. I know part of it is because he is scared. I don’t think he loves/cares about me at all anymore. I think he is just scared to deal with my questions about the relationship. He’d rather just avoid it. It’s so annoying/frustrating/makes me feel like s***/cry & I know I need to just not have any contact with him ever again. I always felt like I needed closure so bad, but now I’m at the point where I’m like screw him cause this stupid crap has messed with my head way too long & honestly this stupid scared/immature capricorn crap is not worth it. He always says I was the best girlfriend & I know I was to him. I just feel if thats true he should appreciate me & respect me. I know it’s my fault too, because I need to respect myself more by not letting this idiot affect me & play stupid childish games with me. How’s this kid gonna ever have a relationship ever if he can’t just be honest & communicate. I even begged him right after the fight, if he wanted out to just be honest & tell me instead of hurting me by calling then not calling. I even tried to break up with him 3 times then just cause he was hurting me & he begged me not to then one day he never called me back. If this kid loved me so much during the relationship, then you would think even if he wanted out he could just be honest with me cause he cared about me as a person. No instead, the kid still messes with my head. I think Capricorn guys are the most stubborn, immature, uncommunicative, selfish, mean & unfeeling individuals (about others). They love them damn themselves though & their feelings mean the world to them, but they don’t care if they hurt your feelings. Actually, most of the time if they hurt your feelings they will even have the nerve to laugh in your face just to blow it off like it’s no big deal. But god forbid you hurt their feelings, they will never talk to you again. I learned that Caps do not like dealing with emotions after it was too late. Capricorn is suppose to be one of the best love matches for Scorpio, but I don’t see how that could be? Just because Scorpio girls are the most emotional/dramatic of all the signs and even if I wanted to try to pretend to be unfeeling, I couldn’t help myself if I felt emotional. Basically, I just think Capricorn Guys are way too complicated to please. Relationships are hard enough, you don’t need a Capricorns added bulls***.
ScorpioGirl
Remember their are two sides to a coin you may have hurt his feelings to and this mabye his way of gainning vengence on you and another thing he has u traped in his heart and he may fell ur doing the same.
Are CAPS Vengeful??? I know Scorpios can be, but I’m not like that anymore as I got older. Do CAPS even think about their old relationships if they were close??? I almost feel he doesn’t ever think of me anymore, like he just turned off his feelings in a second like it was that easy. Even if I wanted to, I couldn’t turn off my feelings in an instant if I felt strongly about something/someone. I can’t believe he never once was even tempted to call me late at night. Not that that is a good thing, but at least you know the person still thinks of you somewhat. I just feel it was easy for him to walk away & after the relationship we had it shouldn’t of been. I really think he is doing a disservice to himself. I have been in many relationships. People don’t have relationships like we did. We were that happy together and always together, which makes it even harder to always be happy with that person. I think it’s sad & ashame that he just gave it up over nothing. I think when maybe he gets older or more mature & dates even many more girls, he will realize it doesn’t really get better than what we had but then it’s going to be too late & I will have moved on. It really does make me sad, because I don’t think he will ever end up totally happy in a relationship.
One more thing: Are CAPS even affected by what you say if they use to care about you??? I really wonder if things I have said got through to his brain after it was over. I have definitely let him know how I felt good & bad after it was over and I did and do still think he is being a coward. He often also laughs things off that are serious or makes a joke of it to cover up his feelings (I can see it in his face), which drives me crazy, instead of just being sincere & honest.
ScorpioGirl
He is most likely thinking about u compulsively but like I said u probably hurt his feelings and when we get hurt we react in a different way instead of spazin out or plot to destroy u or completely fall apart, we do something that requires almost no thought, we just turn down the heat about 100 degrees, we just go cold, I personally think its intelligent.
Reading ScorpioGirl’s story I feel for you, I recently started posting about this cap guy I liked I guess being a libra I am pretty emtional so if I thought of giving him a chance I don’t know if I can handle him emotionally and I sensitive too along with my cancer moon this guy already got me upset…the connection I felt with him was amazing, I’ve only felt like that for my guy best fried who was a sag… it was erie the connection I felt for him…but the cap completely has withdrawn. I talked to Diva Sag and LibraLady in another posts on here about it.
Still can’t get him out my head ladies. I see him next week in class, wonder how that will go…ScorpioGirl that has got to be tough I’ve only just started dealing w/ this cap guy and I can’t let him go…I don’t know y they are so hard to shake…he just drew me in and at first I wasn’t even interested in him, don’t know what happened but I think of him daily all day sometimes…I am not usually this into guys I date early on, I think he intrgues me…I met another cap guy 1.5 years ago, we worked together until recently, we are still kind of close, I didn’t want to get involved with him for the same reason, he would suck me in and have my head all messy, I keep my distance but we still talk from time to time…y is this so hard???
i dont know how many times i have to remind people of this. the nature of the goat is to overcome and conquer. we like to work for “it”.
sounds like your goat got tired of you. the best thing you can do is be yourself. the scorpio woman’s true nature is very seductive to us and keeps us in check. i think u lost ur self towards the end of the relationship, that’s when he lost interest. just be yourself.
Libra30
If u would have read my post u would understand, Capricorns are very complex creatures we do have emotions we just like to be in control of them.
What Blakgoat said man, thanks for helpin me clean up this mess
LOL you guys are funny, the charming goats:) Ok don’t remember your posts Mountain, I’ve been reading so many posts the last fews days, I am going to go back and look around. Be back later:)
confused, does he love me or does he not? when will i ever know
Cappie came back sweet as pie (called), then the next day he actually saw me on my way home. Wierd for some reason he passed me by on his motercycle, I think he freak out, he thinks I didn’t see him but I did, I called him once I reached home, he was SO sweet he tells me he is in the area… cappies can be so wierd, now he disappeared once again, maybe he’ll call tomorrow…who knows LOL strangest guy ever…but I am still VERY intrigued…
Hey, uh… if anybody has any advice here, it would be of great help. I seem to have fallen for a Capricorn guy… over the internet. Which makes it especially hard to try and well “seduce”… sort of.
He’s a typical Capricorn, who wants to be a writer. I love all his stories- that’s how I learned about him, like five or six years ago, and I am genuinely a HUGE fan of his work. He’s got a great sense of humor (HILARIOUS I laugh so hard I cry), the only thing is that he’s pretty hard on himself. Critical, that is. Recently, prior to developing this crush, I decided to let him know that I was a big fan (yes, all those years later) and really pulled for him to someday get things published. Surprisingly, he responded, and added me as a watch (this is on DA). When I post new things, sometimes he’ll write a comment. One time we got into a debate. I know he is keeping an eye on me, as I am on him.
Anyhow, I ask if my approach is a good one for dealing with a Capricorn. My plan is to carry on with my life and fulfill my goals (which also happens to be getting my works published) then propose to do a joint project in a few years time. Then, I would assume we’d gradually get to know each other and eventually meet if it was to discuss business.
Is this something that generally appeals to Capricorn? Would sending a random email being honest about these RANDOM, UNHEARD OF feelings just scare him away? (er, especially being that he doesn’t know me too well… xD)
Another thing: I am worried that, having read about Capricorn guys, they generally don’t fair too well with Aquarius given the serious practical nature. This guy SEEMS to like the bizarre, but is that just a facade? He can be awfully serious sounding too. Also, I’ve read they don’t like independent women much. And I am highly independent. He probably suspects that.
I need to know what the signs are that Capricorns are interested. I feel like I am feeling my way around this situation with intuition- which is all nice, but I hope it isn’t a dellusion. xD
It would be helpful to hear from a Capricorn, what they would think of this. If any have warnings about what else not to do, I’d like to hear. Or if there are ideas that would appeal, I would also like to know. I’m an aquarian, and it’s true, I’m pretty cool and detached about love- and I only pursue a relationship if I see it as an ideal. I’m really picky, especially since I like having my own space, and someone who would be about sharing ideas with and working towards a goal. I like the ambition of Capricorn. I can relate, because my projects come before love too. I wonder if there is something else in the Capricorn mindset I need to be aware of, though.
The other thing is that I am completely unconventional… xD Is it THAT big of a turnoff to the Capricorn male? lol, just wondering.
That said, any help or advice would be wonderful. I know it’s a weird situation, being that it’s like a stranger over the internet, but I can’t really control how or why I fell for him. xD It just happened. My chances are slim, but I’m going to go for it- Does anyone out there have any advice to offer? Any insight?
Oh yes, if it helps, I think he’s 23 or so, and I am 20.
hey aquarian, im a capricorn man. it sounds like everything you wrote to me is pretty much on point. dont buy into that hype we dont like independent women. we like ambitious women who we can build with. dont be afraid of the “bizarre” those are just our deep hidden passions.
if he’s 23 most likely he’s all about his work until he can get to some point later in life when he can relax and let go. But all this hard work makes us horny so dont be suprised if he wants to freak u ’til the morning light with no strings attached.
dont smother him , its a turn off for us.
Thank you Blakgoat for your advice! It’s really appreciated! I’m glad to hear that ambitious women appeal, because I’d read in other places that they generally preffered more traditional types of relationships. His seriousness is nice, but I really hope he’s as weird and awesome as he sounds too. I would hope he would be the type to join me in my crazy ideas and fun adventures, not dismiss them as being like too frivolous or whatever. xD I got the impression from reading about Capricorn that they are real practical people.
lol yeah, it’s real clear that he’s all about work right now. Trying to become a better writer! I like to cheer him on. I think he sort of appreciates it, as I can tell he isn’t used to recieving praise much.
I wonder how long it will take before we actually become friends. I notice it’s a tough shell to crack, with these Capriocorns. Especially over the internet, too. lol! I haven’t been too forward- haven’t gone to lengths such as email, or forcing contact. I suppose I hope he’ll make the decision to begin a friendship. Right now I am just demonstrating that I am dependable, friendly and interested in his work.
Here’s hoping he’ll open up! Eventually!
you could teach him a lot as an aquarin. thats what attracted me to my Sag wife . she showed new things, how to have fun, “loosen up”
people would say you’ll are so different. we’ve had our ups and downs , but in a weird crazy way we grew even after breaks up, arguments, infidelity.
life is crazy like that sometimes, you never know.
only thing i can is its about time. capricorns get better with time.
S dot just be careful, because my ex Cap & I also decided after 3 months that we were soulmates & wanted to get married in a couple years. We had our kids names picked out. Usually, I don't believe a guy if he starts telling me he loves me so soon but I thought well we are in our 30's now & we must just know and we get along better than anyone I ever knew or any relationship I ever had. So I thought this was it, this was the guy I was waiting for. It was all him who came to this conclusion about us first and then I reciprocated. We had the best relationship never fought, always laughed everyday and always had fun. We were together everyday and neither of us could stand to be with someone everyday usually that we dated. It was like a dream. He would tell me everyday I thank God for sending you to me, etc., etc.
cont. to S dot: Well basically, we got in one emotional fight & we never fought before. It wasn't that big of a deal at all & then that what is it. He was gone. For a month after the fight, he would call/not call/say I want to see you/then flake until one day he never called again. He would never talk to me about the relationship, avoid it any cost. I have had no closure. He use to communicate well w/ me when we were together, now won't at all. A year & 1/2 later, we may correspond every couple months in which he always asks me to dinner & then flakes. I finally a couple of weeks ago woke up & don't care anymore about the situation or him and now I don't even want to see him or need to or going to pick up my phone or answers his texts ever again.
cont. to S Dot: My bday is in 2 days & he of course told me like 2 month & 1/2 ago he wants to take me out on it etc. I haven't heard from him in weeks & I'm not calling him & if he calls me on my bday not answering. I'm just to the point after all his hurtful crap after it was over that I just don't have any feeling left about it. I hope your relationship is the one for you & goes better. But just remember to always do your own thing & focus on yourself too, don't make him or anyone your whole life because if it doesn't work out it is a lot harder to get over.
@scorpiogirl
im pretty sure there is more to this story than what u wrote, but it sounds like something scared him from u. that's odd to me because i usually feel comfortable around scorpio women. people are usually intimidated by my demeanor. but scorpio women accept me for who i am. very understanding, very loving and sexual the same time.
may i ask what the fight was about?
@scorpiogirl
i think he's still feelin u. usually for a capricorn man we dont look back on relationships. once we let it go, that its. so if he's still contacting u then……
it was more than just love and sex.
it was love, sex and "magic"(capricorn man mojo). seemed like you'll had a spiritual connection as well.