How to know when a Scorpio doesn’t love you

ScorpioA Scorpio can be cruel to those he loves, so how do you know when he doesn’t love you?

Scorpios can be secretive and manipulative, but they can also be intensely intimate and devoted. Why would they bother hurting someone they didn’t care about? If a Scorpio is seething in resentment, he is still attached to the target of his anger. You can still be emotionally connected to someone without loving them, but if a Scorpio is going to let you in, he’s likely to “love” you in some way; he trusts you enough, after all, to give you access to his inner sanctum. Perhaps Scorpio is confusing “love” with “trust,” but any Water sign feels loving in a safe relationship.

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About Jeffrey Kishner

Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at


  1. Same thing happen to me even though my ex scorpio new what i had been through and so had he,he promised to never hurt me or my children and had such a charm about him, he manipulated me and played mind games, cut me off for days, he was so open and caring at the start of the realtionship then just became cold he gives the impression their open honest and talk about their feelings but that can change in the blink of an eye, weather his cheating, putting his guard up so he doesnt get hurt or hurt u, whatever the reason they become so cold and distant quick as a flash..i realised to stop trying to analise him as it was destoying my soul, i new scoripos were like that as another ex was also a scorpio but i guess i fell for his charm once again. Never again. Theres liars even though they come Across as honest loyal men they are not they are secretive and selfish and will hurt u over and over! Im staying clear of scorpios for good. Its not worth the pain or distrespecting of yourself.

  2. Hi,
    I just wanted to thank you because although your advice was for another lady, I have been with a scorpio for along time like yourself, 23 years and going no where ever. Just games and stealing a woman’s precious years away! I felt so stupid realizing how long and thought I can’t just walk away. I can, just like you and all the women here should just go. This isn’t kind. Stringing people’s lives along knowing that they will never really commit to that lady is more than wrong!
    Anyway, I felt that your advice help me out and I wanted to say thanks.

  3. Based on my personal experience in loving and befriending both male and female Scorpios, Scorpios are hard to love. As long as you know they act out of self protection, you can weather the hard bits.
    Scorpios feel so deeply and intensely that they love painfully. So they are particularly vulnerable. And that frightens them. When you hurt them to the point they need to walk away, they do it because
    1.out of self preservation.Being around someone they love intensely but can’t be with is too painful and
    2. If they love you deeply, they want to avoid hurting you in the Scorpio manner

    They are fiercely loyal to their friends and expect the same in return. Part of a Scorpio’s lesson is to understand that most people can’t match that loyalty (except a Sun, Rising, Venus,Mars or Moon in Scorpio, Virgo their karmic cousins, or Taurus, ). They will bleed for you and expect you to bleed for them. If you are unable to be strong enough to do this, walk away. They are the friend that will help you bury the body 🙂

    I personally fell for a pure Scorpio and a Scorpio Rising, I had my heart ripped out twice. They adore me, trust me to the limit and would do anything for me…except love me that way.

    So I know very well the following:
    Scorpios are very determined to find THE ONE. If you aren’t THE ONE to them, you have to accept this and trust they love you enough to be with you but they will leave easier if you hurt or betray them. Once Scorpios have had THE ONE expect to be a close second. And they knows this and will try hard to be true to you. But the bar is higher for you because you aren’t THE ONE. You have to be accepting, strong, confident in yourself and allow yourself to be completely open and vulnerable. An evolved Scorpio will respect you for this.

    Also if you aren’t his kink, forget it. It won’t happen. If they wants a tall athletic blonde, and you are a short brunette, forget it. They wont change their mind. It is because they are determined and confident that they will manifest what they want and knows that it would be unfair to anyone else to settle because sooner or later they will most likely cheat or leave if their kink comes along. So they hold off. They know this about themselves. Its painful for those of us who don’t fill out their punch-card, but it is what it is.
    If you are his kink, consider it a blessing. Most Scorpios go for fire signs, athletic, bouncy, sunny uncomplicated types like Leos or Sagittarius. They seek balance in themselves for their intensity, their dark moody introspection and simply to feel save that their secrets and vulnerability are not put in jeopardy. However, depending on their Venus and Moon sign it might balance out. Also look at their Juno sign and the house it is in. It will tell you the marriage partner they should have in terms of personality and where they are most likely to meet them. See if you fit.
    Let them take control. In doing so, you’ll be in control and it shows your confidence because you are capable of giving up control but stand your ground.
    Scorpios are hard work but, once you have them in your life, no one else will compare.

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