How to get a Scorpio man to change his mind
January 12, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Let’s face it, Scorpios are stubborn. Scorpio is a fixed sign, resistant to change. The strength of this “modality” is that Scorpios will stick with a project or relationship until the bitter end, until either it dies from natural causes or he kills it.
The difficulty with fixed signs is that they don’t let go easily. The “element” of the sign will tell you how they are intractable. Scorpio will hold on to his feelings for dear life, wringing every last drop out of the rag of resentment, the towel of tears, the cloth of … well, you get it.
Not that Scorpio won’t be rigid in his beliefs. In fact, he is likely to be somewhat conservative with his opinions. His thoughts about the world are heavily influenced by his family, and he feels threatened when a philosophy of life goes against what’s familiar.*
So here’s how you go about changing your Scorpio man’s mind: First, understand that Scorpio’s old belief system has to die — just because that’s the way he functions. There’s no middle-ground with him. Next … he needs to embrace a world-view in which caring and security are paramount. He believes in a nurturing Mother Goddess, or he’s a “family values” type of guy. So, if you present an alternative, it should “fit in” with this general paradigm. He’ll push back at first, then let the idea mull around in his unconscious. It’s best to step back, and be patient. If his mindshift happens, it will occur after a violent death of his belief system — but it will happen underground, so you may not notice. Afterwards, he will not mourn his old self — it will already have burned away.
See, that wasn’t so hard, was it?
*Cancer is in Scorpio’s solar ninth house.
Comment below: How have you changed a Scorpio man’s mind?
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I have by giving vague tidbits. Something he can investigate on his own. He came back to the topic months later! LOL
That’s right. Scorpio likes to get to the bottom of things, so present an idea he can “dig in to,” and he’ll probably be an expert on it by the time he’s through.
Im a virgo, ive been seeing a scorpio for 3 yrs, very rock relationship. And i hate to admit it, but i cheated on him, and will regret it till the day i die, and realise what i have lost now and it wasnt worth losing him. As much as i love him, he also gets physicaly aggressive but i love him and forgive him but he wont fogive me?
@Anonymous Virgo, if “physically aggressive” means your Scorpio hits you, you need to get out of the relationship. Whether he forgives you or not, abuse is inexcusable.
“If his mindshift happens, it will occur after a violent death of his belief system — but it will happen underground, so you may not notice. Afterwards, he will not mourn his old self — it will already have burned away.”
A most interesting entry and entirely worthy of speculation and debate. As formerly having subscribed to schools of thought which encompass the inherent goodness of man in the original sense to wit engendering a necessary humanitarian evolution toward perfection in the idealistic sense I am presently of the belief this process of “burning away” may be ascribed to as being a highly unpleasant experience and involving a significant degree of painful uncertainty as to the unforeseen outcome(s)in the materialistic sense and the manifestation of related unforeseen outcome(s) in the spiritual and/or metaphysical sense as circumstances would arise relevant to the situation at hand, and in due course.
@Tony, you’d make more sense if you wrote like a woman
what the mans sayin is like the CIA ur all guilty til u prove innocent life sucks sometime thats just the way it is things aint never what they seem and usually the opposite ha and what Im sayin is who needs it
That’s right. Moon square Uranus people are crazy. That’s just the way it is. Moon in the 12th only exacerbates the inclination toward lunacy in the shadows. Beware of activations by transiting outer planet transits and significant lunar eclipses when all hell breaks loose lol.
Here is a question for the Scorpio man, I have been dating my Scorpio man for about 2 1/2 month, he has shown me that he is into me, and I in to him. I shared with him that I had a drug problem 5 years ago. He said that he needed time to think. Help me out Scorpio men. Was I doing the right thing by being honest or should I have kept my secret
Here is a problem I am also having with my Scorpio man, we only have sex once a week????????????????????????????? When I asked if we could add another day, he said I was an addict???????????
MY QUESTION IS CAN A PISCES WOMAN USE SEX TO GET WHAT SHE WANTS FROM A SCORPIO MALE, i.e. a relationship?
So heres the deal. Recently met a Scorpio male and we get on like a house on fire. The basis of our relationship is sex. We are ”friends with benefits”. The sex is fantastic, as I’ve read Scorpio is the sign of sex, so this is not surprising! WE COME FROM DIFFERENT RELIGIOUS BACKGROUNDS. And this appears to be a big stumbling block for him. But somehow, without sounding flaky and weird, there seems to be this huge cosmic connection between us…THERE’S JUST SOMETHING BETWEEN US, I CAN FEEL IT AND I’M SURE HE FEELS IT TOO. I don’t pry too much, I don’t ask too many questions.
Am I being disillusional? The sex is intense, he only wants me, he doesn’t want to share me. I’m happy to give him control in that area and he seems very happy to be in control. He has these beautiful green eyes and its so intense and mesmirising.
I would be happy to change my religion to be with him, but don’t want to say that outright as I don’t want to give him the impression that I’ll be his doormat.
This Scorpio male is all new to me and I WANT, I WANT, I WANT!
Mimi, I could have written what you wrote above, except the only difference, is that he has a girlfriend of 3 years. We have this unspeakable connection, mind, body and soul. NO words are needed. Sex is intense. Being in the same room with him is electric. We both feel it, and are wrecks before we see each other. We met one year ago..and I made him wait 5 months. Now, he takes advantage of me by strictly coming over for sex….once I slept with him, he never took me out anymore. I spoke up about it, and it really bothers me, but I cannot seperate myself from him or the thought of no contact. I’ve tried to keep apart and not allow contact, but have broken down. We have gone 3 months at a time without seeing one another. I’ve been really reading up on this website about Scorps behavior traits, character, etc. and he is a true Scorp. Down to the lying, and cheating, hiding, coward, etc. He is ruled by sex. It’s insane how we are with each other. I have never allowed a guy to just have sex without it being a true relationship. I am hopeful that he will realize I am his soul mate…but I must be honest to myself, that this is just sex…he would have left his girlfriend by now…way before in fact. I cannot get him out of my mind, he is there 24/7. I ask G-d why I am so obsessed with him, when he does not treat me right AT ALL. He has the power over me, that mesmerizing, hypnotic quality about him, that I find so powerful and sexy. I cannot say NO to him. And he knows it. It says Cappys and Scorps, our chemistry, relationship together ‘can’t get any better than this pair’..in mind, body and soul connection. It is so true. I have been strong, and not been his doormat and he likes that quality in me…not sure, could be still a challenge to him somewhat. HIs girlfriend is his doormat. He loves that control. I never wanted anyone more in my life and am going thru hell trying to forget him and get over him. I’m still allowing him to contact me…and once in a blue moon come over. He looks for me daily on AIM and me him…..it’s totally junior high and crazy. He is extrememly immature, going on 50. Very successful! Very revered by his guy friends, doctors, etc. He races boats, motorcyles, is a captain for a huge company. If only…..
“See, that wasn’t so hard, was it?”
Dear graciousness almighty.
OK I think I really need some advice here with my scorpio man of interest
I’m a cancerian and have known this scorpio guy for weeks through my best friend. We have met up twice but only with my friends with us, so I can’t exactly try something on with him…trouble is he has a boyfriend.
they’ve been together for a few months but the scorpio guy has freely admitted that he isn’t THAT interested in his boyfriend, he’s a rebound from his ex and ‘nothing more’.
We text all the time and send pics etc etc.
and apparently, his boyfriend is cheating on him 2, so yes while I would feel bad if stuff happened the boyfriend isn’t one to bite back. glass houses and stones and all that
but i want 2 meet him JUST him and when we arrange it he’ll flake out on me. now i KNOW this is 2 do with his boyfriend and he doesn’t want to meet cos he knows stuff will end up happening but how do I convince him 2 meet me just me?!
i REALLY like him
reply please???
Susie, you will always be his side chick. That goes for any man/woman that starts off as the “other woman/man”. The only way you’ll become number 1 is if his gf dumps him or she does something he can never forgive. He’ll probably marry her and keep you as his side chick because he knows you aren’t going anywhere.
I dated a scorpio for 2 years. We had a very in and out relatioship. 3 months into the relationship i got close with his best friend, would hangout with him and ignore my scorpio for days, but then i realized i wanted my scorpio and went back to him, when i went back to him he thought i was cheating physically (which i wasnt) and told me he slept with his ex. We both did wrong and both forgave each other. We had a good relationship for a few months, then i would start to get really jealous, telling him he didnt love me until i convinced him of it. He then cheated on me again with the same ex, came crying back to me telling me what he did, and that he loves me more than anything and he cant be without me. I took him back with no hesitation. It was good for a few weeks, and then i would see him talk to girls all over the place, once again i started freaking out and developing a serious side of rage. He told me he wanted to take a break after i confronted him about his girl problem. We broke up for a month, and he came back to me. He tells me he got with 3 people during the break up and realized i was the one and could never love anyone the way he loved me. I didnt get with anyone. We got really good and fell into the most intense love. Slowly but surely, the more i began to love him, the more jealous and worried i got. He always had a lot of friends that were girls, so it was very easy for me to develope this rage again, which i did. For a year we would have 2 weeks perfect, 2 weeks disgusting. We would tell each other that we will never be over no matter what happens. He would give me chance after chance for me to really trust him. I would tell him ok the rage is over i love you and trust you, and i never really would. He would always take me back though and tell me we will never be done. Then he went on tour for a week, and my rage sky rocketed, i would flip out about everything. We have been together for a solid year with no cheating, but i still was afraid. He would always insure me it would never happen and i wouldnt take no for an answer. Things would get so back that he would call me every name in the book and turn off his phone. I would text message terrorise him and he wouldnt reply. Well on tour he wouldnt take any of this. It was phone off about anything realated to our problems. He got back from tour and i apologized, he accepted and told me he wanted to rebuild us and give me all the love i could ever desire. We got into a small argument later than night, and he just shut his phone off, the next 3 days he was kinda distant. I went to his house and saw him and he said he was still mad, and disconnected and didnt want to get close to me at all. I asked him if he cheated and he said it wasnt that. He would stare at me, and seem like he loved me but then tell me “i looked at some of your pics and you used to be really ugly” “you look good now though” i got mad, and he got mad that i got mad again. The next day was our 2 year anniversary, so i came down. I got in the car and he told me “this is awkward, i am disconnected, i feel nothing for you, its over” he drove me hone as i was crying and freaking out and said “you will never change, the rage is just how you are and i cant handle it, i gave you chance after chance and you blew it, now you really pushed me away and im never coming back, stop talking, stop crying.” He wouldnt look at me, he dropped me off, and didnt say anything. I texted him irrationally for 2 days after and he would say “omg how do you not see its over, leave me alone” then i slowly stopped texting, but he never would reply ever. He has ignored me for 3 weeks. I stopped texting a week ago. I want him to see that this break up is the only way i could change. Will he ever believe it and give me a chance again once we both grow within ourselves? What can I do?
L Pisces
He doesn’t deserve you. You can’t make anyone change and he clearly doesn’t want to anyways. I’ve met a lot of players of different signs and none of them had a valid reason for being that way. By taking him back, you will just encourage him.
He isn’t a very trustable character…just think, if it were reverse, he would not take you back. Scorpio’s don’t forgive easilly, you shouldn’t either