If an Aries man has trouble forgiving, it could be that he has the Moon or Mars in fixed signs (especially Leo or Scorpio). Every man is complex, and his Sun expresses only one (albeit important) part of his personality.
Many Aries men have Mercury and/or Venus in Pisces, the most forgiving of signs. He might be a warrior-martyr, initially feeling irritated and then believing he deserved to be a victim of your errant behavior. Then you can forgive him!
Comment below: Have you had difficulty being forgiven by an Aries man?
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gillybee that is odd, because I too am a Aries woman and that is exactly how this guy would act with me and still does, but where hes upset with me now it is worse. I tried the deleting him and stuff but we always end up talking again. I think hes really confused, I too met him online and long distance relationships can be very hard…
Thanks Cnr grl for your words. It’s bloody hard. Each day goes by like a month. It’s only been 2 weeks since his text and it seems ages. Why does time suddenly seem endless when your heartbroken? Ah well, life continues… it’s strange reading all your posts… there is really is something in common in all of them, and there is always a part of each where I identify… such as gillybee – the message that I sent which “caused” his break-up text also mentioned that he was hurting me, I often wonder if that was what made him draw back. Maybe I’ll never know… just got to find how to get over it…
Im a Scorpio woman and dated an Aries man for about a year. This site has helped me realize that this nigga got some deep rooted issues and not to trip on him. But its so sad tho. We dated, loved, taled marriage, laughed, church…then one day he said how he didnt like surface cleaning..like straightening up things..he liked his house cleaned thoroughly. I sad yea me too. He said thats why I need a good wife. I said no..you need a good maid. He got quiet and got off the phone. 10mins later the nigga calls back and said i wanna break up and that was it. I was a sea of stormy emotions..but we went through little episodes of this throughout the entire year we dated, so it didnt hurt too badd. Plus we had agreed to abstain from sex at the start of the relationship. Now I know why the Bible says no sex before marriage because if we had sex, and he later did this childish bs to me, i would be on deathrow right now.
^Um probably the oddest break-up story I’ve ever heard. But good for you.
im dating an aries man for 7 years, always argue and fight. both of us have a bad temper, explosive and wanted to control each other. we recently talked about marriage early this year, but because of my explosive temper, he just drag the marriage. he told me to behave and follow and obey his orders. and by he doing this, it hurts me so bad. by him doing this, it makes me even explosive and angry all the time. Recently, my parents just got divorce and my relationship with him is going down as well. i was in a bad mood (my family problem) that when he called last week, i nag and said nasty hurtful mean stuff about him that i really didnt mean it. i didnt have a clear mind and it just happened that he called, and he become the victim. last week, he told me that he dont love me and doesnt want to do anything with me again. but i love him dealry, and looking forward in the future with him. for the past 7 years, altho we often fight, we never broke up. now, what should i do? how to win his heart back? coz i really have hurt him real bad. i apologize, but it seems, he is cold and really pissed off. helpp!!!!
@scorpiowoman,
He probably got tired of the same patterns repeating in your relationship (couples get into that). Pain signifies that change is needed. Don’t ignore it, explore it, it’s trying to tell you something. Find a way to communicate rationally and with respect. Go to therapy, meditate, pray, research; work on it together. If he isn’t willing, then you do it for yourself because this is no way to live. You’re going thru a tough time & need to find ways to heal. Lashing out is destructive & not really what you want to do anyway. The focus should be more on your relationship as a whole rather than your individual needs. The only way to do that is to bond spiritually and learn to trust each other deeply. The walls need to come down or you will be constantly at odds. Once he sees a real desire for change, he might come around.
I’m a Capricorn dating an Aries man and it is not easy.. I’ll explain, we’ve been together for 2 years he has talked marriage and living together but I wanted to wait and see how things go before I jump in. I love him very much and most of the time he is very sweet and loving but when he gets angry he is selfish and irrational. He’ll say hurtful things , not speak to me for days and not answer his phone when I call. We recently had an argument which he started and he made me so urious that I slapped him which I know is not right every since then I have been trying to apologize but I only get his voice mail. He is not a very forgiving person and I know I shocked and hurt him do you think it’s over for us I really need help with this one. He’s never stayed mad this long.
thanks @bliss,
thats exactly what i should do. im trying on it..hope it went well. oh and yes, heres an update, we went out as friends twice last week (the first time i asked him out and next, he asked me out) and we r going to meet tomorrow again (i asked him out). when i asked him about getting back together on the second date, he said to slow down and we can still go and meet as friends. i did wat im supposed to do, i didnt cry, didnt beg, didnt ask for forgiveness, and said yes with a fake smile (dissapointed). Since the breakup, he never called, but whenever i called, he always picked it up and talk, when i sms him, he replied. when i asked him out, he said yes. but all the phone and asking him out is always been me (2/3). so, is this means that i still have a chance or hes just being nice?? i can never know wat is he thinking. how can i tell when he is still interested?? i know scorpios and aries is not a good match, but i just cant let go of him yet.. 7 yrs together, hes a part of me, i wanted so bad to fix this relationships although having a relationship with aries man is damn hard… i know and ive been there.
Linda: Never, EVER, never get physical with a guy in anger. He may retaliate in a heated moment & really hurt you. Than what? Press charges….ugh. Glad he was able to walk away & maybe that’s why he’s staying away; he doesn’t want to end up in jail. That”s why people say communication is such a big factor. You have to learn how to talk about issues that is constructive. Write him an email telling him how sorry you are and that you want to work things out in a positive way. Maybe go to counseling.
Scorpiowoman: Have you talked about things openly? Are you in counseling or taking any positive steps in your life towards healing? If you show him how much you want to change, he might reconsider & follow your lead. It’s time for you both to change if you want a future. It’s a lot of work. Just don’t go back to a destructive relationship & fall back into the same patterns. You don’t want to raise children in that atmosphere.
I am a cancerian woman who has been married for 9 years to my husband who is aries. It has always been arguments and fights. He can fight over the smallest of things . When I try to work things out , he becomes very distant and cold. As I’ve read some of the comment, it seems I’m not the only one experiencing the raft of aries man. I’m alway worried that hes out there cheating but he swaers up and down he isn’t. One evening someone call the house and i lashed out at them because i thought it could have been some one he was out with , turns out it was a relative that needed work on there car. I’ve tried to apologise but he just gives me the cold shoulder. Is there hope? Any suggestions.
I am a Taurus woman who dated an Aries man for 6 weeks and we fell hard really fast. He broke up with me because he said I couldn’t behave and obey him with out me being sarcastic and talking back. I told him I will change and he said not soon enough and broke up with me. So I text him the next day telling him I was not on birth control like he thought. And he called me upset and asked did I text him that because I wanted him to call and I said yes and apologized for lying and he called me crazy and never call him again. Please help me get him back. I love him so much.
I’m a libra sun gemini moon virgo venus virgo mars I was dating an aries and at first it seemed like he’d rearrange the stars for me if I asked him to I wasn’t that into him at first bc he seemed less intelligent than me and as a libra I know when someone is lying and he spouted off lie after lie to impress me and I found that juvenile immature and kinda creepy the more time I spent with him he grew on me and I gave him a chance as soon as he was sure I was into him all the affection stopped and it seemed like every time I disagreed with him over something trivial or expressed an opinion he would fly off the handle n wouldn’t forgive me I have NEVER had trouble winning over someone anyone espcially not a man in an argument or smoothing things over after but he just wasn’t having it..makes me question my powers of persuasion idk wht to do we ended up breaking it off and he hasn’t come back…they always come back I’m baffled
hi , iam a leo woman having a distant relationship with an aries man.. it is soo hard to be able to have trusting relationship with him. last time we had an online chat just me and him his house mates was around off course;/ he never spends his time totally on me as i assume he gets bored or doesnt want to commit by himself lol..after chat i texted him saying that i think of him with joy in early morning like 2 days ago but still no answer ..i wonder , could be cos of last time something i said and he try to panish me as aries man do like to do that to ones they love !! or he is too busy to focus on me right now ? i really dont know last time he told me abt visiting him over in few weeks and he can not wait to be with me etc..what to do pls help!!!!!!!
ad#link]It shouldn’t be that hard. The Aries man drops things quickly if they bore him, and is not one to dwell in the past. Aries is in the ever-present NOW, engaged with whatever inspires him at this moment. It is almost as if he has no history. So why should he hold on to grudges? Most likely, he will express a burst of anger (or even rage), and then just let it go.
If an Aries man has trouble forgiving, it could be that he has the Moon or Mars in fixed signs (especially Leo or Scorpio). Every man is complex, and his Sun expresses only one (albeit important) part of his personality.
Many Aries men have Mercury and/or Venus in Pisces, the most forgiving of signs. He might be a warrior-martyr, initially feeling irritated and then believing he deserved to be a victim of your errant behavior. Then you can forgive him!
Comment below: Have you had difficulty being forgiven by an Aries man?
ok, so what do you do if part of you wanted to kill any chance at reconciliation (so each month sent a reminder of how crazy/angry you were) and the other part was madly in love (so you kept blogging about how much you missed him)? Because I’m a gemini and that’s what i’ve been doing with an aries guy. He doesn’t respond, but at the same time idk if he sees the messages. There’s no hope of forgiveness right?
i am not sure of no forgiveness…maybe he is working through something, or waiting to see if he really feels for you. These two should get on well and I have older friends who married late in life of the same combination.
I know exactly the frustration and balancing act you are experiencing.
I get mixed messages and sometimes psychic insight that the one I love will return later when he is sorted in his mind. they are complex, but not really as cold as we think…usually they feel confused and trapped in their own lack of real confidence when it comes to those of us who really do turn them on intellectually and they panic when they realise it could be the real deal.
I have hung in for 2 years, but feel there will be a resolve soon(:
Yeah barb, I keep being told to move on and that there is someone else out there for me, but i keep getting flashes of us and it’s hard to move on. I just want the back and forth in me to stop(ie. do i love him/do i hate him). I’m also kinda scared that when i do find someone else and settle down that that will be when he comes back and we wont be able to control ourselves :/ that would be so horrible. but hey, at the same time why should i worry, that may never happen.
I’m an aquarian woman who has recently split up from an aries man. We are both 42, I have never been married & no kids, he has 2 children and has been married twice. Having read all the posts on here I now know that the aries man is a very complex and unforgiving person. Like with so many of your stories we met and he fell in love straight away. I was getting over an 18 year relationship and so wasn’t looking for anything serious. However he was so kind and loving and considerate, promising me everything, wanting to live with me, marry me etc that by the end of five months together I realised I loved him too. We never argued, he was always very loving but we did have one problem, my ex. I was and still am on very good terms with him but apparantly this was the deal breaker for my aries man. He never complained about my ex, at least not to me, would sometimes make a joke about him but I never realised how much it bothered him until the night he told me it was finished. I was in such shock I didn’t know what to say. He said that I didn’t love him enough and so now he no longer loved me, that he always felt like second best etc. Initially I said nothing but like many of you I sent emails, not more than maybe 5 or 6 in the last 3 months but each time I have tried to convince him that I love him and only him. I have even told him that I no longer talk to my ex hoping this will change his mind. He has only answered a couple of mails, always very nice but never saying we can give it another try. We still see each other socially and I have just spent all weekend with him and other friends, we seemed to be like before, he was very flirty and so yesterday I emailed him and surprise surprise no answer. How can they blow so hot then so cold ? I am desperately sad, my heart is broken and I can’t stop thinking about him. Everytime we find ourselves together since the break up he somehow manages to make me think we have a chance and then no contact whatsoever until the next time we’re with mutual friends. I have no idea what to do or if it’s even worth pursuing. I was never unfaithful to him with my ex even though I obviously still cared about him. Anyone with any advice it would be greatly appreciated
@Jax,
That’s a killer for an Aries. A man you spent 18 years with and still remain friends will always be in the back of our minds that you might go back to him. We need to be #1!
YET, I don’t understand why he wouldn’t have brought this up as an issue before if he loved you as much as he said. I think he’s using this as an excuse to get out of something but wants to put the blame on you rather than addressing the issue. We can be very jealous and that would have come out and not in a joking manner either. I think things went too fast and his mouth wrote checks that over time he realized he can’t cash. So he’s putting it back on you.
Another thing is how he can be friendly/flirty without too much angst. He wasn’t deeply in love. And your lack of passion in dealing with the break-up just confirms in his mind, that together, you don’t have the passion he craves. It’s all so friendly. Not good for an Aries. We do blow hot & cold.
Confront him. Ask why didn’t he tell you what he needed from you before breaking up. Don’t be nice, be angry at what he promised, be angry that his love was so shallow and that he didn’t fight to keep you in his life. He may think he did, idk, can’t hear his side of the story. Most men would have a problem with being friends with an ex, especially one that lasted 18 and you have no kids to keep that bond going.
IMO, he should have talked to you about this and this is why I say he might have other reasons for the break-up. Try to find out. My best to you. I’ll help if I can.
@Bliss,
Thanks so much for replying. Are you an Aries ? To be completely honest he did let me know my ex bothered him, and he certainly let all our friends know. I think it was me who preferred to imagine it didn’t bother him that much, was easier for me as I wasn’t ready to give up my friendship with my ex. We live on a small Island off the coast of West Africa and my ex is very well known, I have been here for 20 years also and my aries man has only been here 2 years. He has often said to many of our friends that he always felt like he was in second place to my ex (I have only recently found this out).
For me as an Aquarian confrontation isn’t my thing. I can be very passionate but I don’t want to argue with him or force him to give me answers. I’m one of those people who believe if he wants to tell me something he will do it in his own time and if he doesn’t then I will need to accept it’s not meant to be, even though it breaks my heart.
Friendly & flirty yes, but that was only last weekend, he has come to my house (owned by my ex I should point out) and has been very upset, telling me that my ex was too much for him to handle. He looked so sqd, tears in his eyes. I did my best to convince him (in my aquarian way) that it was over with my ex but I never asked him to take me back, I felt that should have come from him. Obviously he never asked.
My first time with an Aries man and I will regret him for the rest of my life. Perhaps you are right and he tried to put the blame on me when there was some other underlying cause but he is still single and isn’t the kind of guy who runs about after females. He lives with his son, a fairly quiet life (his son & I got on very well) so if there was another reason I’m not sure what it was. If it was simply that he didn’t actually love me then why would he stay in contact ? After all I have read about the Aries male I would have thought he would just have cut all contact if there was no love.
Very very confused LOL Do you think I’m best just leaving things and accepting his decision ? I’m not the kind of person to beg and I do think that in my own way I have made it clear that I still love him and that I’m prepared to do what it takes.
Thanks again Bliss
Jax
@Bliss
I have decided to take your advice and confront him. Mailed him at lunch time today and he answered saying no problem to see each other. Still not sure what I actually want to say so seeing him tomorrow night (if I don’t chicken out LOL)
I will let you know how it goes but I know that I need to know what really happened for him to change his mind about loving me. Here’s hoping that for once I can be firm and not keep saying sorry !
@Jax,
Yes, I am an Aries. Your last post clarified things. He’s very insecure. Being that you are in a small town and your ex is very prominent, he may feel he doesn’t measure up or may not know what you see in him. He could be comparing himself to your ex. Now, that really is his own insecurity and nothing you do may counter it. Does he know why you broke up? Or have you told your Aries the qualities you liked about him? If he knows you aren’t going back to your ex and what sets him apart to make what you have so special, it may help him be less insecure. He needs to hear this.
I imagine the Aries with two failed marriages will be more fearful about getting involved again and getting his heart broken. Do what you can to convince him. No, never beg, just be honest about your feelings and your past with your ex. Lay it out. It’s then up to him to deal with his own insecurities and you shouldn’t be subjected to more ‘proving’ of your devotion than is necessary. Jealousy is an insidious killer of what could be a wonderful relationship and torture to the one subjected to it incessantly. I’ll leave it to you to know that you have done all you could, the rest is.
I’m looking forward to your update. I wish you well!
Oops, “the rest is up to him.”
@Bliss
Thank you again for taking the time to write. I think what you said is probably true although I hate to think I may have made his insecurities worse. I’m still not sure that I will be able to convince him. He really laid his heart on the line and I think because I took things slower than he would have liked he took that to mean I didn’t love him enough. He told me 2 weeks ago that he always felt I was walking way behind him, that he had thrown himself into our relationship body and soul and that I was just enjoying his company. I do believe I hurt him even though it wasn’t intentional.
I will take your advice and be honest with him. The sad truth is that my ex doesn’t even come close to my Aries man (my ex was a Libra). My break up with my ex was actually a relief, a sense of a great weight being removed from my shoulders but I didn’t harbour any bad feelings and as an Aquarian I like to be on good terms with everyone. I will do my best to explain this and hopefully he will perhaps understand a little better. I suppose I should be thankful that we are still friends and hope that maybe some day he will forgive me and believe me when I tell him he is the only man I love.
Will let you know how things work out, many thanks once again, you have helped tremendously by giving me an insight to the Aries man and the way he thinks.
Take care, Jax
@ Bliss
Well I haven’t had much to report until now. I decided not to have any contact with my Aries man as to be honest I decided there really wasn’t much point in trying to force the issue. However on Saturday evening we found ourselves at a friends birthday party. It was a large party, over 60 people so there was no reason for us to find oursleves together. When I arrived I said hello and asked how he was and then I moved on to other friends. I was very aware of him watching me and after not too long he was beside me, chatting and laughing. He made some comments about me to some mutual friends to which they replied I was no longer his girlfriend (a friend of his touched my hair and he said “how would you like it if I touched your wife’s hair”). We then got onto the subject again of me not telling him how I felt when we were together and my reply was that i always thought he knew how I felt. Anyway to cut a very long story short he has invited me out for dinner so that we can talk, just the two of us. I have said yes this time and even though I am very nervous I think we really do need to talk. This will be the first time since our split that we will be in a restaurant just the two of us.
I’m trying not to get my hopes up, is he just interested again because he thought I was losing interest ? Why did he spend so much time talking not only to me about us but also to a fez of my close friends on Saturday night. I would so love to believe we still have a chance of being together, I just hope I don’t say all the wrong things or worse still not say the things he wants me to say. I just don’t know if I should be completely honest about how much I do love him. I don’t want to scare him away.
I feel like I’m 16 all over again !
Any advice would be greatly appreciated,
Jax
@ Bliss
Think we’re going for dinner on Thursday !
Well, just as I thought I could get over the Aries Dragon,one look melted my heart like butter!
He certainly has a chemical reaction on me that I can no longer deny. The strange thing is, it would appear he thinks the same about me but not quite able to come to terms with it yet.
I haven’t laid eyes on him for two months, as he works away and I have been out of town. I went out the other night to a mutual place, but not sure if he would be there. After a while, I got up to sing and got good applause from patrons…not that there were many, LOL. Just prior to singing, I recall looking through the song lists, and he flashed right next to me, pretending not to see me, but if I put my toe out, could have tripped him he was so close(: After I sang, he came from another room and I quietly said hi…to which he spun around and abused me and called me old, ugly and short-haired, and said I couldn’t even sing(: Pretty obvious others thought I could. I told the guys I would no longer sing, as didn’t want him to abuse me and not wanting to upset him further as he was drunk.
Next thing, he is in the same room as I and sits down a little on the opposite side of room…loudly repeating things I said. A friend took him outside to talk. Meanwhile, I went to the bar and the bartender commented on how good I sang and I said he should say that to the Aries Dragon as he thought it was sh.t but he was a fn idiot anyway. I didn’t really mean it,, but he called me that…yes, I know, childish. Next thing, he is back in the room in the previous posi, and repeating what I said again…then, next thing, he was sitting next to me speaking in a nice tone. We made small talk, then he got up and moved again. After some time, I ask him what time the bus goes and he ignored me and walked out. When I found out the time, I got my things together an headed out to the stop and was singing to the music as no-one around. Next thing, I hear him running to the bus, cheekily calling out TAXI(: We made civil conversation until the bus pulled in and both said hi to driver and boarded. He tried to tell the driver of his recent trip to China to see his internet mate. When I explained to the driver who she was, he turned and yelled at me again. He accused me of something I did, but hadn’t owned up to because he keeps denying coming up to my place in past. The driver asks why he is doing this, and I say,”because he loves me”. He spun around and yelled some more saying again that I was old,ugly and short-haired (not really short) and that no-one would ever want to go out with me”. I spoke calmly until he got to his home…then he says ‘i guess I have to go home then’…well, only 2 of us on bus, and my place was past his somewhat…where else was he going? I see him as wanting to make contact,, but is threatened by my ability to see through him. He also showed jealousy to the max, considering the barman and i had had an intelligent conversation when he was in earshot…hiding around the corner. i felt bad not owning up to what he accused me of, and it may very well have been the deciding factor as to whether he bothers with me or not, but as mentioned, he keeps denying stuff. My conscience got the better of me and I txt him to say I had learnt valuable lessons this year about not to discuss things or sleep with a drunk man and not to go out as waste money and lose self respect and if a man wants to see me, he will call or come to my door. I wished him peace and happiness. He will never reply, and always claims he doesn’t read my txt but uses their content in remarks to me(:
A psychic last night told me he genuinely does like me but I need to be patient with him…I can see the merit in this, but wonder if he will forgive me for not being honest when he really wanted me to. Time will tell. i know I cannot give myself to anyone else now, as feelings are stronger than ever for him.
Hey Jax!
Sorry I haven’t checked back in awhile. Hope you’re happy with whatever the result was. As always, be yourself but yes, don’t hide your feelings. Life is too short!
I’d love to know how things went. Drop a line here or friend me to send a private message if need be.
@Barb
…”but wonder if he will forgive me for not being honest when he really wanted me to.”
What do you mean by that?
I fear for your personal safety with a guy so filled with rage. I understand you are seeing through that but his toxic behavior will only unbalance you Libran energy. Perhaps you can remain strong despite it. Still, it will take a toll on your harmonious nature. May I ask what attracts you to him? You must be hanging on to something good or worthwhile to forgo another.
Bliss, You are right, there is something good under it all. When he is sober, he is a beautiful man and very talented and intelligent. He has also, I have learned since the earliest post, suffered a very tragic loss of a former partner and her daughter in a MVA as he was busy working and couldn’t pick up the child from school…he blames himself as the partner got angry that she had to leave what she was doing to collect her child. It wasn’t even his child, but he feels guilty nonetheless. A terrible thing to get over, and you could possibly attest, it will take a lot for him to accept he loves someone as he will be afraid of losing them too…so tries to push them away instead.
I get such strong feelings before I know he is actually around, and I mean PHYSICAL, not just mental. There is an incredibly strong chemistry that he is trying hard to battle against to protect his little heart.
Others see it, so it isn’t just me thinking this with ignorance(; After thinking I had gotten over him, I now actually feel more for him.
Hi Miss Bliss,
Long time no hear long time no see. Good to see you again I must say. How have you
been. To London to visit the Queen.??? Just a little Taurus humor by the way you get
my drift.!!!
These Aries Men are real trouble makers and unless you get the upper hand they will
drive you mad. That is good advise you gave to Miss Barbie Iam very concerned about
her as well but she is a big Girl and she knows what she is doing. So let’s wait and
see shall we.???
Cheers Miss Bliss and Miss Barbie I wish you the best be sure to keep in touch. Taurus.
Hi Bliss,
Thank you so much for your reply. Well things have changed tremendously since my last post. We have now been back together for 2 weeks. We have already found a house we both like and are moving in together end of May. We have talked about everything that was wrong and realise that we love each other enough to be able to put things right. I realise now that my aries man must come first and that he needs to know this. He loves me so much and is so happy to be with me again that making him number one in my life is such a small price to pay. I have everything to gain and nothing to lose just by understanding him and accepting that he needs more reassurance than I do. Fortunately I am very easy going and making him happy makes me happy.
I have absolutely no doubts anymore and I am ready to give 200% (he says he needs 200 not 100 LOL). I genuinely believe that the aries man, when in love will give everything to his partner and will make her feel like a princess every day. For me, my aries is everything I could ever have wished for, he is my prince charming and I will do everything I can to remain his princess. After reading all of these posts I do realise that the aries man can be difficult to initially figure out but once you have him and understand him there is no one like him.
Thank you again Bliss for taking the time to listen to me, I haven’t stopped smiling since we got back together and he tells me every day, many times that I am the love of his life. I am in heaven
Summer holidays all booked (we both have 6 weeks holiday from the end of June), visiting his family in France and mine in Scotland with a romantic trip planned in Corsica. He likes to plan things in advance and I love that about him.
Anyway I won’t bore you with all the details but life is once again good and to all the ladies out there with an aries man, try to understand him, try to make the effort to do and say the things that he wants. he will give back ten fold if he loves you. Aries men are worth the effort and the wait, they are the real gentlemen of the zodiac.
Thanks Bliss,
Jax xxx
Jax,
Wow, what wonderful news(:(: You know, even though the Aries Dragon that I love has an aggression problem, I know he has injuries like myself, and a fear of losing someone again, and my intuition tells me very strongly that he truly does love me but needs me to do exactly what you just said. He was wanting me to be honest with him and I should’ve just said I did what he accused me of, but it was so silly I was embarrassed to admit to it in front of others. I pray he sees through that and read my txt on Sunday which was more of an apology and wishing him well.
In my txt I said I wouldn’t go out or drink anymore, so have to stand by that so he can gain trust in me again. Like you, I would go to the end of the Earth if he asked me and not care if I never spoke to another soul as long as he was by my side. He writes beautiful poetry and songs, plays guitar, sings, cooks beautiful food and dances old style…like his taste in music. Such a romantic nature and so misunderstood by the majority of others, which must be so frustrating for him.
He does, however have this Chinese woman he met online who he has been seeing, but still drawn to me. I am going to adhere to the psychic’s advice and be just like you Jax and wish you every blissful strand of happiness(:
Hi Barb,
I have read all about your Aries Dragon and I agree with you that he seems to have a fear of getting involved again because of things that have happened in his past. I was 4 months without my Aries and surprisingly because of those four months apart I now understand him better than ever. Like you I was sometimes embarrassed to admit the truth about certain things, very childish I know but that’s the way I am. I’m an aquarian with virgo rising and I tend to keep my feelings in check but for the Aries man (at least mine) he needs to know everything and I think honesty is probably the most important thing to him (that and of course making sure he knows he is number one in my life LOL). So I am now more open and relaxed about my feelings and anything he asks me I answer honestly (aries men seem to have a knack for knowing when someone isn’t being entirely truthful) !
The four months apart I also went through the phase of sending texts and emails and most times I didn’t get a reply. When we saw each other out and about however he couldn’t stop himself from talking to me and being next to me and like yourself I was convinced he still loved me but was scared of getting too close again to me. My aries is twice divorced (we are both 42) whereas I have never been married and have no children. I know he didn’t think I was serious enough about him. I have now made every effort to make sure he knows. I liked to party, wear short dresses, go dancing etc but now when I go dancing it’s with him, short dresses no longer in public (he is quite jealous) & I try to include him in everything. I know that most of the concessions are coming from me but I honestly don’t mind because the love he gives me back is overwhelming. From what you say you seem to feel the same as I do and just being with him would be enough for you.
Perhaps the chinese woman and the bad moods are just a phase. He sounds like he is misunderstood & the romantic nature is very true of aries. If you feel in your heart of hearts that he still loves you then don’t give up hope. Don’t push too much either, he will come back to you when the time is right. I almost lost hope but he came back and things are better than ever. I so hope that things work out for you and your aries dragon Barb, we all deserve love and happiness and I can think of no better sign to be in love with that an aries (I’m biased though LOL).
Please keep me updated, it’s always nice to know that other people are experiencing or have experienced the same trials in life, it makes one feel less lonely.
Hugs & kisses
Jax xx
Thanks Jax,
i like yourself used to love dancing and wearing short skirts and going out a lot, but don’t give a damn about any of it now..unless he decides to be with me and takes me out(:
It is that lie that I know he knew I was lying about, that has me worried though. Although he was drunk, he seemed to really want me to admit what I did out of jealousy. i inadvertently admitted by saying when he claimed he didn’t know where I live (he used to come all the way here and chicken out when he got to the stairs) that that was right, and I didn’t do what he accused me (rightly) of! If he wanted to expect me to believe his story he had to accept mine(;
Like yourself, the distance from him has enabled me to see things more objectively and understand him better and I don’t feel nervous in his presence now, rather more calm and at ease. I smile when he goes off as see it as jealous rage rather than aggression. It just cements my beliefs that he really loves me, otherwise it wouldn’t bother him.
it is up to him now to accept my txt as a truce and admission of guilt in one. I hate myself so much for that one lie, and am not sure whether I should contact him again, or just wait for him to come to me. I won’t go out again, at least not in this area where everyone knows us, as stories get made into mountains by jealous others. I want to show him I am making changes for him to prove like yourself, that I care for him alone.
I shall call in the angels. Someone is copying this page as I type…interesting…but then, I have everything tapped due to a compo case. That may have also been a barrier before.
Thanks for your understanding and honesty Jax. I actually have an Aquarius moon, so have a great affinity with them.
angelhugs
Jax,
I’m so happy for you! Yes, we are like children in that we need partners who are quite demonstrative of their affection. Every relationship needs compromise and it’s worth it as long as it makes you happy as well. If you have any issues with him, just be honest and get it out right away.
I wish you continued love & joy!
Help plzzz…. I am a Libra that is in Love with an Aries….We were in a relationship for four months…during that four months we had it great until our first fight, 2 months in & I became scared. This went down hill from there. Two months later she broke it off, becuase were are “Not Compatible” / “Not a Good Match.” The next day I did the old I’m sorry, please don’t do this. She told me that she is not trying to hurt me, that she is unhappy and that we again are not a good match. Due to this I went to seek counseling… the first meeting the counselor advised that I have Post Tramatic Stress Disorder due to a On the Job incident that happened in my life that occurred right before we started dating. I know NOW that this is part of the reason we got into fights & things fell apart. I am working on myself, but I’m crazy in love with her. She is truly the Love of my Life. I want to tell her, but I’m not sure if I should. She is an Aries. Its only been a week and I’ve read the responses to other questions / answers & wonder what I should do. I know this can be a great Love & want her back. I want to marry her.
Hello, I’m a Libra woman and I dated an Aries man VERY briefly. I am 25 and he’s 21. The attraction wasn’t quite instant because I was dealing with someone else on an intimate level. However, earlier in February this year we both confessed our mutual attraction to one another, a month later we started talking about dating. Later on in March, we had a conversation in which I asked him, what exactly are we doing, since nothing had been officially established and there were other guys lingering around. But because I liked him much more, I wanted to see if things were going to develop into a relationship, since I’ve been single for two years. He responded saying he didn’t know and I became irate with him. He said I “freaked him out,” my biggest mistake was talking to my ex boyfriend about it and he has a female friend that doesn’t like me, she overheard the conversation, after only hearing a first name and hometown and jumped on Facebook and just time him a bunch of lies. I didn’t know until a few days later. This was April. He told me, he was done with me, and that we will never be together and he had no feelings for me. Another month or so goes by, and I started talking to someone else. We had a conversation on twitter in which I told him I was trying to get over him, he asked me why. And I told him, because he said he was done with me and no longer had feelings for me. Later in that conversation he asked would I get back with him, I told him yes, but things would have to be different. About two months ago, we re-established our friendship and talked about meeting up when I came to town, because I moved earlier this summer to Florida and he lives in Alabama. Things were going well, until this past weekend, which was my birthday weekend, I got drunk and sent him a text message and now he’s mad at me, but won’t tell me exactly why. I still have deep feelings for him and I hate it, because I thought I was over it, but obviously I’m not. Please help…
@Dee,
You have nothing to lose at this point. Tell her that you went to counseling and what happened. It may be a longshot but it might help her understand and if she has real feelings for you, she’d understand and work on your relationship together.
@luckyladylibra,
A month is hardly enough to ask where you stand. It reeks of desperation which a total turn off. I don’t know what you said in the text which is important to really give you specific advice, but if it was the same kind of thing, then yeah, he’ll be turned off. I swear, people should hide their phones when they get drunk!
You know him best, so why do you think he got mad? Was it something that would get him jealous or were you pushing him for commitment? Remember, saying sorry while repeating the same mistakes wears thin after a short while. Wouldn’t you feel the same? Just a future fyi.
@Bliss you’re right. I didn’t think about it at that moment, when I asked him the question. In regards to the text message last weekend, I said that “he f***s and talks to whoever he wants, and doesn’t care about the way I feel for him, that’s why I ignore my feelings.” When I spoke to him Wednesday about it, he text me saying “I have nothing to say to you, I don’t care if you were drunk, and find out from your friend.” That was the last time I spoke to him. Only thing I could think of as his reason to be mad is because of what I said. About him messing around with other girls.
We were in love for nearly 3 years. We know each other quite well, he brought me to see his family and he also visited my house, see my parents everyweek. I am Capricorn and he is Aries.
One day, I got angry because he leave me for getting out with friends (and its been nearly one month we didnt meet). I texted to him and said we should not meet each other. He didnt reply at all. 2 months passed. No reply.Nothing. I missed him so much and tried many calls, send emali ask what is the problem? Can we see to settle it and we can speak out what we like or dislike with each other, then adjust it. And his acts would make me think he is with his ex, etc. Then he replies, He needs my support not acting like that!
I were very happy to see his mail. Replied back that I always support him, but I just dont like the way he ignored me like that, I dont mean to do that and I am sorry…
Then half a year past, on holiday, he sent his brother to meet me, gave me some gift of his parents. At that time, I was angry so much for his act while leaving me alone for such a long time. I didnt care at all, just be polite with his brother and finish my duty. Even I tried to escape when he tried to come to pick his brother (and maybe to see me).
Since then we dont meet. I changed number but still think of him everyday. 3 years already. Sometime he send online msg for me. Just ask how am I, normal conversation we made. Then he got silence again. Whenever I miss him, I search for his pic, get online and found out something wrong as seeing his avatar on facebook. That picture I took for him, and now it is tagged with another woman.
Or I see he was hugging his co-worker during working…
Few months ago. I miss him so much. I recreate a proflie and there I make my name with his sure name. I added him. He accepted. We transfered text to each other, just very formal about work. Then one day, he send msg said: “I miss you”. Really I were very happy. I replied back that I also miss him and really want to meet him. Again, no replied from him.
So I tried to call him by landline (I am afraid if he saw my cell number, he will not answer) . He picked up and suprrisingly wonder why I had his number (in fact that number he gave me long time agoooo). We then talk about work, job, etc. He also ask for my new number. But never call me.
On Christmas I also call to greet him. He answer me very okie. And I asked if I can visit him? He said its too far… Then I said I love him, he told I am crazy, and no love reply back.
Last week, we have long holiday. So I call him, I wish to meet him on this occasion. He replied he is too busy, but will try. Then after 2 days, when the holiday started, I called him again. Surprisingly, he didnt answer! That made me worry and forced me to call again and again. I also text that pls tell me if there is anything wrong, I beg him. I worried so much. He texted back: “Im fine”.
After seeing that text, I got more nervous. Wonder why he acted like that. I kept sending msg, calls. I woke all that night just for calling him and text msg to him. I asked him whats wrong, why dont make clear, I will accept it. I am sorry for my act, but his avoidance forced me to do impolitely like that. Then he texted back 2 msg, told: “Before, I just reply you as a friend for old time sake” and “There is no “US”, there is nothing to be clear. Pls stop bothering me. Now I regret why I entertain your very first call.”
I got shock!!! I didnt call him after that text. But till now I m hurting. I dont know what to do, really I dont understand why his act like this. Can anyone give me advice…
I am a Libra woman (being the absolute epitome of a true Libra) and I met an Aries man at the beginning of October. We both had an immediate connection and very intense relationship from the beginning. It was an amazing 3-month relationship and we never had an argument or disagreement the entire time. We talked about getting a house together when our current leases were up (would have been next month), and talked about getting married. I was blissfully happy the entire time we were together, and I made sure that he knew I felt that way – he treated me like a princess, to the point of me thinking how could i be so fortunate to have finally met the person who is everything i could ever want and more!
We’re both 42 and both have kids from previous marriages and because of our connection, I didn’t hesitate to introduce him to my kids after a few weeks. Because of issues with his ex, we thought it would be a good idea to wait a little for me to meet his kids, but planned to do it before the holidays so we could all spend them together. In the meantime, I met his entire (extended) family at Thanksgiving (i could because his ex had the kids for the holiday), we went on a long weekend getaway to NYC (where he bought one of my Christmas presents at Tiffany’s) and had a great time thru December doing Christmas shopping for everyone (and he was very generous to my kids at Christmas). Fast forward to the week before Christmas, and i still hadn’t met his kids, even though he mentioned it several times, but at this point, it would have too close to the holiday to have made things comfortable to spend with all of us together. He had is kids for the three days leading up to Christmas, so I wasn’t able to see him at all then, but Christmas day was spent together and he met my entire family. So then I find out that his ex (knowing that since I hadn’t met the kids yet and wouldn’t be able to see him if he had them) decided that he should have the kids Thurs thru Sunday for New Years. I was quite upset about not being able to see him yet again for several days at the holiday. So, two days after Christmas, I was quite frustrated and during a text conversation (stupid thing to text anything important anyway), I made the comment that “it must not be that important to him”, meaning about meeting his kids. Except that what got typed was “I” must not be that important, not “IT”. He got immediately very upset thinking that after all we’d done and talked about together, I didn’t think that I was important to him. I tried explaining, apologized over and over again, and he eventually said that he understood and when we “talked” (I was crying and pleading, stupid, I know now), he said he still loved me. Communication was strained for several days, but we finally got to the point at the end of that week (New Years Eve) where I thought we would be able to work thru things. He even made it possible for us to see each other just for a few minutes on NYE where we hugged and kissed (without his kids knowing I was nearby). I thought everything was going to be fine. Until NY Day when after he dropped off the kids, he called and broke up with me, no explanation, nothing. Two weeks later we met so we could give each other their things back that were at each other’s houses, and we talked and even said that we would start “seeing each other” again. But when it came time for us to meet, he emailed and said that he didn’t think it was a good idea for us to see each other. About a week later, I dropped off a few additional things for him at his office when I knew he wouldn’t be there and he responded the next day saying “thanks”, and then mentioned about doing something together that we had talked about before we broke up but hadn’t had the chance to yet. Then we see each other briefly the following week and immediately after I leave, I get a text msg and in it he tells me that “I look really good” (I had lost 22 lbs by that point from the stress of all this). And in the past few weeks since then, we’ve had occasion to communicate, although it’s always me who initiates it, but he always responds in a positive manner. Just yesterday, we emailed, then talked (he actually answered the phone when I called) and said we would meet for drinks sometime soon, and then continued to text back and forth that nite for the next hour and a half.
Is this typical of Aries men? It seems that he changes his mind often and it feels like I get conflicting messages from him. I anticipate that we’ll make plans to have drinks “as friends” and he’ll end up cancelling before it happens. It seems that anytime we see each other, or talk on the phone, he’s agreeable to doing things together, but then he ends up changing his mind and I get an email or text saying so. I feel like I’m almost wasting my time, but if it means that we will eventually get back together, I’m more than willing to wait and keep putting effort onto it. It’s been 9 weeks since the original incident happened – I know I’m in a much better place after what happened and would really like to try things again, but is it likely that I’ll succeed? And what would be the best approach with an Aries to do so?
Sorry this is so long, and thanks for keeping with me. Any advice is welcome!