Comments on: How do you win a Scorpio male’s affections for good?

By: AquarianB

AquarianB — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:16:31 +0000

There is this scorpio guy that i never use to fancy, he was really into me but I just gave him honest signs I wasn’t into him.
After 2 months he suddenly found a new gf, and they are doing long distance, only a few weeks in. I was happy for him, but then we met up to have dinner and he just kept trying to kiss me etc etc and told me he broke up with his gf, and we ended up sleeping with each other.

After a long night of talks and kisses etc I realise that i do have feelings for him after all, he told me he had feelings for me stil but he cannot just forget about his ex gf so quick…anyhow i do not think they have broken up at all. I know he still likes me, but how can i get him to make up his mind?

By: cool hand

cool hand — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:49:49 +0000

oh yeah scorpios dont play games. either we like you or we dont. and if we break off its to try to save you from a path we are not sure you can handle. we would die for our causes first rather then let another die for us. scorpios dont like to lead others wrongly they have to know its right.. its your choice to follow but i aint gonna tell you to jump off the bridge wit me

By: cool hand

cool hand — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:44:35 +0000

dont back off. I am a scorpio. give him space but dnt back off. a scorpio needs you to submit. once he trully believes your submission is honest just and true he will become loyal to you. the problem is it may take alot. something very drastic and not set up. you have to take a big leap in faith and hope it works. you cant set us in a trap we hate to be plotted on unless we know of the plot and consider it flattering never make your scorpio feel stupid after you win his loyalty then you have the rights to tell him when he acting up till then you just goota deal we take that as a sign of loyalty. we no we are not always right but we are always justified. its our justification that adds to are secrecy. you can never have a scorpio until you prove you are loyal first. we advertise our loyalty but you wont get it without proving your worth our dedication… because once we dedicate we are deeply deeply dedidcated. we need to be sure of what we open up to cuz once we are open we are OPEN. it would help you to figure out his definitions of honor kinda like what he respects and wut would he do. my first impression was he dont feel you menataly meet his standards yet. and we turn back just not often and maybe years later proving your loyalty is key to a long term relationship with a scorpio till you do you wont have him

By: LibraLady

LibraLady — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 15:24:08 +0000

Syncopath
If she says that you have to work harder then she still wants you. If she didnt then she wouldn’t talk to you, ever. You have to show her selflessness, somehopw do something special for her to prove that she is the most important person in your world. Think “devotion” that will be the deal maker, if you show concern for her well being and her family, and do it with more then words then she will feel loved. If she doesn’t see that total display then she will never trust your intentions as true. Its very difficult but you have to have a lot of patience with her, one gesture at a time…..the trick is never taking “no” as final with her, if you give her flowers and she rejects them bring her more anyways, it means a lot to her to see that you enjoy trying to make her smile. She will NEVER forget any kindness that you show her, they remember EVERYTHING

By: Syncopath

Syncopath — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 06:03:12 +0000

Can I get my ex scorpio girlfriend back? or is it really impossible to get a scorpio back?

She giving me signs that she still like me.. but i dont know if she’s just playing with me. we going out, we’re always talking but she always says that “I should not expect but we never know what the future holds”.. do i just need to work harder to get her back? how do i respond to this?

Thanks,

Syncopath

By: LibraLady

LibraLady — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 17:08:34 +0000

Quirky Aquarius
I think you’re right, letting him know that you’re there for him no matter what is the best thing to give anyone. That is the the ultimate ingredient in the perfect relationship, to let someone know that no matter what happens, no matter how many people are angry at them, no matter how many doors are closed in their face, that you are that someone that is there and you love him….He will feel special once he realizes that…I know you will need patience, it will take a while before he can show you but if he already loves you right now, showing him that kind of bond will only make it better and if he isn’t sure that he loves you yet, this could do it…..It can only get better. I know a lot of Scorpio’s and they don’t take that kind of friendship lightly, they always count their friends and always know who is worth standing (even in hell) with, they just know

By: Quirky Aquarius

Quirky Aquarius — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 04:00:37 +0000

I have stopped calling him, asking to see him etc. Its him doing all the contacting. We had a 2 hour text conversation the other day… he lead the conversation the entire time. once I realized he was done, so was I. He asked to see me last night I even said I wasnt staying over, however he insisted and almost seemed sad when I first said no. This is why I’m confused… he’s telling me to come to him while he’s asking me to give him space.
Thank you for the advice. One thing I do really need to do and thats let him know I’m here for him no matter what. I will stick by him as friend always… as far as the rest I will take it as far as I can. If I want more later on and he doesnt then it wasnt meant to be. Thanks so much all

By: vovi

vovi — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 03:50:07 +0000

@QuirkyAqua: It’s hard to understand but I think it’s best to back off a little now.He is after all going through a divorce and probably worry about his finance to support his children.On the other hand, it’d be nice if you’d sometimes send him a short message to assure him that you’re still here for him, or just a short mesg of supportive words, I’m sure he’ll appreciate that.The thing here is that he still wants you ,but he’s caught in a personal “storm” and he needs time to sort it out,but he wouldn’t mind that you want to support him, be there for him not just a lover but a friend as well.It’s about distant yourself from him to give him space to sort out thing ,yet at the same time be close to him so he can be assured that you’re there-supportive and understanding, those two things that he might have not found with other women and hence making him a “lone wolf”.
I know it’s difficult but if you still love him then hang on there till the storm over , then you can proceed to tell him that there are barriers he can’t cross, because you can compromise for him, but so can he for you.Of course right now, he’s dealing with quite an overwhelmingly emotional situation himself, so any reasonable suggestions from you would be dismissed quickly.

By: Quirky Aquarius

Quirky Aquarius — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 01:09:15 +0000

Oh Boy… I am going out of my head. WHAT DOES HE WANT???? lol So as I’ve explained my Scorp and I have known each other since we were 15 but just met up again 23 years later. In the first 2 weeks he said he loved me, said I was his “someone” and was making major attempts to plan ahead.. even talking about moving closer. When he backed off 2 weeks after seeing each other I asked him what was wrong and he basically said (above) that he needs to straighten out his life. I totally respect that and its understandable. So for the past week he seemed edgy so I backed off. He called me yesterday and asked me to come see him (an hour away) so I did. We had mad mad passionate sex. He hugged me tight and said “mine.” However there are no more “I love you’s” and I wasnt going there either lol. His looks are intense and making those gestures… is this a players game or is this the way Scorpio men show their feelings? Even when I left he sent me a text that told me he would have a smile on his face all day because of me. Do you think its just a sex thing because thats not where I want this to go. He even made a comment that he was moving to another town which is still the same distance but not anywhere to where he had talked about in the beginning. I’m really confused by this Scorp thing. Thank you

By: Lovely_Libra

Lovely_Libra — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 17:41:10 +0000

Quirky Aquarius:
No, I don’t think he’ll get offended if you back off. Men need their space, and I think the more we hound them, the more they run in the opposite direction. I like John Grey’s “Rubber Band Theory”: let him pull away, he’ll come snapping right back. If he’s that into you, nothing will stop him. Nothing!!! It sounds like he’s trying to tell you in subtle ways that he needs time to sort things out before he comes back to you. Give him this time, and then see what happens.

Right now, my Scorp and I are temporarily separated because of the holidays. It is hard, but at the same time, it’s also good for us too. I don’t know if it was Countess who said this or not, but I definitely agree with letting him be the one to initiate things! My boyfriend and I went one day without texting each other, and so I sent him one lil message . . . All the sudden, he let me know pretty quick, “Don’t call me. I’m busy writing a paper ”. Later on that same night, he called me when he was ready. In other words, HE wants to be the one in control of when we talk to each other, thus – the one doing the chasing. Quirky – let your man do the chasing! How much you want to bet he probably loves it? Give him a chance to miss you, and he will come back to you full force.

I think Scorps love a good mystery. He doesn’t need to know what you’re doing most of the time. Keep him guessing. This is a piece of advice I am constantly trying to perfect myself. It can be hard because you want to share everything with him. Mine is my soulmate; I can tell him just about anything, but at the same time – it’s so hard not to reveal too much about myself at once. This is the lovely mating dance between men and women, lol. It sounds like he’s going through a pretty tough ordeal, and he will need to know you are there for him 100%.