How do you win a Scorpio male’s affections for good?
January 29, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
A reader asks:
I recently had my heart broken by a Scorpio male who claimed he is better “on his own” yet ended it with “I may come back around.”How do you win a Scorpio male’s affections for good?
You’re being led on. Are you going to wait around while your Scorpio ex plays his power trip? If he claimed he was better on his own, why would you want him back? I know you love him, but you also have to (1) respect yourself and (2) be realistic.
Scorpios don’t turn around when they’ve left. This fixed sign sticks around and doesn’t budge, but once a relationship has died, he moves on. If you’re a snake who has just shed, are you going to try to fit back in to your old skin?
Which leads to the question, “How do you win his affections for good?” I hate to bust your delusions, but nothing is permanent. You cannot make anyone love you forever. If you initially win a Scorpio’s affections, probably the best way to maximize the chances he’ll stick around is if you keep changing. Scorpios undergo major transformations at the frequency that the rest of us tie our shoelaces, and if you remain static, he’s going to get bored by you. Regardless of your sign, you ought to occasionally dig up your skeletons to see if anything is ready to be exhumed. Your psychological growth should at least keep him interested.
Comment below: How do you keep a Scorpio interested over the long haul?
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Scorpio male more interested in getting and keeping a sorpio woman so lets switch it around here. Its not about the guy. Its the girl
Its also about the vibe
People send eachother vibes
Yeah but if i feel i vibe i usually feed off it its odd thing really. lol
Thats the whole point of sending vibes, its nature, we dont controol it, I can send vibes to at least 4 guys at once in the same room, when I only wanted to attract one
I can feel when theyre coming back…It is weird, I know LOL
For a Libra woman its tougher, we send vibes by accident, our energy transfer at the wrong place and time LOL
lol yeah i met a libra once me and her had a thing but she said something was missing or did i i dont know
Yeah, she was scared LOL
Used to happen to me all the time
scared idk all i did was talk to hr a ong time and evuantually started kissing her and we had a makot cuddleing fest till like four in the mornin or was it six. She still talks to me every s oftn sometimes not so much anymore though.
Its frighteneing for a woman that wears a smile over her emotions to suddenly feel like everything she can hide from men is exposed. I feel weak when I talk to a Scorpio man, I can talk with other men and feel like I control what I reveal but with a Scorpio the hypnotizing eyes and soothing tone puts me at such ease that I feel like every vulnerable part of my soul is visible to him
I feel like Ive lost control of the situation, its hard to accept such defeat LOL
Also, I guess I can tell you, a Libra woman is a romantic, this comes before sex, with a Scorpio guy that changes…That scares me away because I dont like to feel “lust” so instead of walking too close to the flames, I usually run like hell 
Its a self loathing thing… Its lousy to feel “weak” and I feel strong and in control until a pair of those eyes lock into mine…..Hope you understand 
A Libra woman like to hide her pain, hide her frustration and feels so confident that this is achieved, then a man comes along and can read her so well that its frightening, its terrifying to lose your secrets so quick and you havent even had a drink yet
lol sounds about right. Though i havent had anything close to lust since my cancer. And yeah i drew out alot and did hypnotize her. Even her sister liked the idea of us being together when i asked right in front of her lol.
well…scorpios are very loyal,caring and loving by nature..they are a little dominating..but i think its for our betterment..its my experience,if u dont listen to a scorpio man u experience worst time..alwys listen to a scorpio!!they are very very helpful..when world will be against u ..its ur scorpio guy who will always be there wid u and protect u..they are very romantic..in love he will satisfy u totally..coz he understand our deeep emotions…i like scorpios..
hey guys, i think scorpio men are sooo romantic! my boyfriend is scorpio and at first i expected the worst…volcano, ice-coldness, neglegt from him, but he won my heart completely!!! he’s extremely kind, gentle, sweet, composed, smart…the list goes on. I knew he was the right one when I realized that he was obssessed with satisfying me sexually… (all i know is if he’s not attracted to u sexually then its over)
Idk it could be a scorpio complex. Sorry thinking. We all seem jerks at first ad then we come in as the best. I just find that interesting. As fir the ssexually thing. Idk about that. All scorpio men i think just want to over please to push the limits to know.
all very interesting.
I would say, being a scorpio male and all, that you can never really tell how long anything can last but there are ways to make a relationship last longer. First there is the trust issue. If a scorpio trusts his partner then that is the glue that holds everything else together. From that comes everything else. Once someone has been shown to be a cheat or liar or unreliable or useless then that is the end. The scorpio will withdraw and start planning to leave. A simple word out of place or wrong action can do it and then it is bye bye.
Second they need to keep themselves alert and alive and constantly changing and understanding more and more about life. When it just becomes routine and devoid of passion cracks will appear and the grass will look greener.
Third they need to feel as one with the other person and that relates to trust. Then if they hurt that person they are hurting themselves which although can happen it is rare if things are going well in their life.
Fourth they need respect from their partner for being who they are and not for how much money they make, how they look, what car they drive etc. Those material things are boring and trivial compared to what you bring through living and breathing. Life is of most importance and every aspect of it with tragic or hilarious is to be savoured. Anything material is purely to aid the feeling they get for themselves and the impact it has on others.
Fifth they need to have a purpose in their lives outside of the relationship or jealousy sets in. And that could be jealousy of anything not just seeing you flirt with another guy.
Obviously there are other things to consider such as communication and the hatred of being told what to do by someone considered unworthy.
But provided you haven’t done something too heinous to them a scorpio can be won back. unfortunately they will never forget and will find forgiving very hard unless the rewards outweigh it. One thing to always remember though is that a scorpio will make the decision in their life and no one else will do that for them. In fact anyone telling them what to do will be very low in their opinion.
Scorpio male- perhaps you can help another scorpio male. I am trying to find out why i’m not very interestedi sex with my scorpio woman even though everything else is great i find the other thing hard to weigh on mind what i mean is i dont know if i want to but i want to. Its more of shes not turning me on as much as girls in the past. MYy ex was well something and her idk im still waiting.
well, ok, difficult question but i’ll give you my opinion.
firstly it could be that she is not showing you her full sexual side as she needs to get more intimate and trust you more until she does that. when she does that she could surprise you by turning you on more than now. how long have you been seeing each other for as this will influence things a lot?
or it could be that you don’t find her sexually attractive and should just be good friends with her. if this is the case then you should tell her and not string her along.
maybe you could look at what turned you on about previous girl friends and see what it is that she is not doing and see if you can change that?
scorpio male
You sound like a very evolved male, Please tell me truthfuly, what do you think of Libra women?
well my sister is a libra and she’s a great mother and wife. Very generous with love and affection and is always up to date with the latest fashions so her children really respect her. I once dated a libra but she was really irritating lol. Problem was that at the time I was in a bad place and she walked away from me. Can’t blame her looking back!
Now I work with a great libra female and she is very chaotic with a lot of energy but with her heart in the right place. A very good friend and has helped me with loads of things and was the first person to call me when I was ill earlier on this year. Just had flu but she brought me loads of fruit and things so I look out for her now.
scorpio male
That’s sweet, sounds like you have a really good friendship, at least (could be more
) I just thought I’d ask because on this site my sign gets a really bad rap for being flakey and cold… not true.
I was going out with a Scorpio guy, years ago but I was a lot younger then and he was and he was looking for a replacement for his ex (I looked like her) A lot of my friends are Scorpio’s, mostly female, but I get along with Scorpio’s more then other signs (could be because I’m Scorpio rising) People tell me I carry both signs traits.
Scorpio Male
I understand what you said “telling them what to do will be very low in their opinion” I was married 5 years to a Libra guy, he would try to tell me what to do, notice how I say “try” LOL…. I lost respect for him more and more everytime he tried to tell me what to do, honest advice is good, its noted, but to just start to boss someone around shows how small they are inside, I think that those who have the smallest opinion of themselves boss their friends around the most… Sort of like “finally I look like a grown up” LOL
Of course when I get bossy, its in fun, and should be taken that way…. Im adorable when Im bad… Just kidding
libra guys are a funny kettle of fish. i always found them to be far more controlling than a scorpio ever could be. possibly because they are trying too hard to be a man or something? god knows.
i do take pleasure in disciplining bad girls
LOL
If you can catch one, I bet you do……
Scorpio male- lol
i think i just smiled or was it a grin…
oh Blush, you guys are meanies
mean?
This is for scorpio men how do I know if he is mine or won his heart? I’m a gemini woman he has captured me and I love it. the only problem is we are both married we have not cross the line but he just started calling out side of business hours and on weekends. I just love talking to him I fell so relaxed with him and he makes me laugh uncontrollably. I have met his wife too. I have seen the way he loves to control any situation but I don’t mine at all he respects the fact that I will interject when needed I do challenge him to keep him fresh with some flair. He loves the creative interruptions (me) well I could go on and on I am a gemini but I will wait for some feedback from the scorpio men