Capricorns and freaky sex
January 26, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
I once heard in graduate school that many CEOs hire sex workers to dominate and humiliate them. Why? Because when you are in a position of extreme power, your psyche needs to compensate. If the Alpha Male never allows anyone to perceive weakness or vulnerability in him, the stress takes its toll. He needs to totally let go and express the part of himself that wants to be a baby or a slave or what-have-you … a totally helpless human being.
Power dynamics are often eroticized. Doctor-patient, boss-employee … the crossing of a boundary can be a turn-on. Playing out different roles in the bedroom (or hotel room, for married CEOs) is a cathartic way to explore vulnerabilities.
Capricorn symbolizes the heights, the pinnacle of career success. Cap works hard to get where he is, and may shut down parts of himself to get there. He overcompensates to make up for his youthful insecurities. All too often, anything considered weak gets pushed aside into the recesses of his psyche. However, these parts of himself don’t disappear. They need expression, and maybe it’s better to seek humilitiation in the confines of a motel than in the public realm. On the other hand, slow-moving planets passing over the highest point in our natal charts can sometimes expose our secrets to the world, making the personal public.
Talk about humiliation!
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nada
well I don’t know what to say, be patient mabye he’s not the one, I’m soory ur going through this but u will learn a lot from this experience. Some capricorn men unintentionally hurt the women that truely care about them because of our detached nature, my advise to u is not to hate him but to learn from the experience and I want u to always keep in mind that he did most likely have strong feelings for u he was just repressed by his youthful insecurities and short-commings. You will be a lot wiser after this experience.
Mountin goat:
yes i do know what you mean i am dealing with it in that perspective that funny thing now i am not around him and i been ignorng him he is starting to appraoch me lately but very slowly trying to make small talks with me :-S i am getting confuse now but i am acting like aha am normal but u make a fair point. just out of curiousity why is this guy is making small talk with me now just becuz i am not around him and i lost interst in him or is he testing me because he sees me always with my friends and busy as well i stopped chasing after him its been a while he also makes small jokes which i dont laugh because i dont think its funny.. do u think what i am doing is actaully working?
Curious cappy : well eventually becuase i am just sick of chasing after him or any other guy i want them to appraoch me who likes me asks me out not playign islly childish games which i donot get but i see your point the hting is now he is trying to make small talk with me and i am just giving him small answrs sometimes i feel he is trying to grab ma attention. hmmm this guy is a puzzle…
nada
I believe he is testing u. he is seeing if ur feelings for him are still their, its a control thing.
caps dont usually play games for fun, but we will play to see where ur head and heart is
nada
I agree with my fellow goats he’s probably testing you. Also talking is the best way to find things out about a person. I know it’s kinda obvious for me to say that, but it’s true. By him initiating the small talk he’s trying to find out more about you and what kind of person you are. We capricorns tend to be very cautious about any choice we make.
Curious Cappy-the goat-mountin goat: okay i will tell you what was the small talk :S i was talking to my freidn and he herd me saying i have allergies from half of the food then he walked pass me and looked at me saying one day nada you will have allergy from me i just looked at him without saying anything just aha okay and ignored. the next i went intot he kitchen because i was cleanign his best friends dishes and then i looked at him and didnt say hello then after a while he said soemthing i didnt hear him then he called ma name n i was like aha then i was like umm no that would explode the oven then i left the kitchen. ( thats teh small talk that we had) :-S its like he wants me to appraoch him or to talk to him WTF!!! guys if he wants games i dont i just want him to come n say things stright forward i dont liek these games!!! any advice ot the next level?? this cappy is giving me a hard time grr .
how long have u known this guy
is he in his 20′ 30’s 40’s or what, theres a big difference between younger and older capricorns
black goat this guy is 18 turning 19 in jan 06. please elaborate if u dont mind
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I’m going to say yes, he wants to talk with you, but black goat does bring up a good point. Capricorns can be very different depending on their age, gender, and back round.
Here are some things I find very true about my self and other caps. I know. I’m putting these on here because they’ll be helpful not only two you, but any one who as problems dealing with us.
Capricorn’s want to know who you are .
Capricorn’s want you to be yourself and appreciate and respect them for who they are .
Capricorn’s take to heart your words and what they are saying and your approach to things and such.
No actions are overlooked whether inquired about or not.
Don’t try to make huge impression or we will expect that and more from you.
Anything less is a betrayal and seen as a disguise to trick us .
If you despise the things a Capricorn loves then say so without belittling- just give the facts. We deal with it and find things both will like and can still have separate interest.
Under no circumstance pretend you like things and are a certain way other than who you really are.
Just be yourself – Capricorn’s are negotiators we need to know what we are befriending or falling in love with
Don’t say anything unless you absolutely mean it .
It will take longer for you to get a positive response than a negative one.
speaking from my own experience, younger capricorn man can be insecure.at that age he’s probably afraid of u emotionally. when i was 18, i was insecure too, so i had sex with older women because they didnt demand much, just wanted sex. girls my age at that time wanted comittment and much more, but they played games too.
in my 20’s i wasnt insecure anymore, just needed sex so i wouldnt lose my mind. i felt like falling in love was a waste of time.
ur cap boy is really uptight.
Black gaot: that is soo true becuase what he told me, he doesnt want a serious relationshipw ith anyone all he wants its sex :-S and frankly, i want commetment and love (a serious one). on the other hand when he liked this girl i felt hmm how come he wants to get her :-S and i think she isnt that old. UPTIGHT!!! ohhh mann this is seriously a challange for me i am 20 and i think becuase i experienced alot that i am not afraid to fall in love again and i want to date him becuase everty time i seee him i cant breathe n my brian just pauses and my heart beats faster -.- lol i know sounds like puppy love
. anywho how to make this young man more felxible?
Curious cappy: thankss for the advice but still i think its complicated out of curiousity why you cappies like to do a test to us and like to mention family and see if we are a good house wives at a young age ?
The test is because we don’t want hurt, we want to find the person, a person who we could have a life with, without traversing through endless heartache.
As for the whole house wife thing I don’t think I’m the best person to ask. The one thing I want in my life is that, I understand some people want more than that, a huge career being a CEO or a doctor, but I know I’d be happiest raising a family. …..if I think about it, most of the female Capricorns I know want that, sure they want to have a job, but not one that keeps them away from home to much. I’m rambling, oh well maybe the guys have an answer?
Mountain Goat
I can understand that…. Been there too… For a long time Ive been a hermit creature, it feels good not to answer to anyone, not to be taken for granted but eventually you wake up one morning and you feel lonley…..Stupid feeling or not, it hurts
its gonna take a miracle to get ur cap boy to thaw out.
i shouldnt tell u this, feel like im betraying the male species, but u sound sincere.
keep the relationship casual, dont try to corner him emotionally. Be on ur own “A” game. its too much about him right now and he knows it. u got to come off as strong, independent, ambitous and dont be afraid to put ur foot on his neck. needy women are a turn off.
we are suckers for women that can slap us around a little and still hold her own. or……………..u can check back with ur cap boy in about 12-15 years when he is 30 something. By then he will be thawed out and well seasoned.
capricorn men 30 something an up, we are the best lovers.
LibraLady
Yeah ur right I guess, did u see the comment I left on the Astrology of kink: the Libran Ideal page????
Yep, I know Taurus women are better then us crazy Libras LOL
but we will wear frilier panties in the bedroom, thats gotta count for something right? LOL
LibraLady
LOL I guess so, so hows ur day been?
Im just in a silly mood today, I kind of like it. Been depressed for way too long. Hope you’re doing good too
Just chillin as usual why r u depressed?
Life, it does that. I just had a Bday, and Im not feeling any smarter, just more aged……. and dull
Today I woke up feeling more of my who the hell cares? attitude and actually tasted my coffee instead of downing it and wondering “whats the point?” There are those days when you want to pull the blanket over your head and disapear….Then once in a while you peek out and see the sunlight…. Need new sunglasses
Oh well I hope tommarrow will bring u good fortune, u have a good day.
lol
Thank you Mountain Goat
I hope things are good for you too
whats wrong libralady?
blakgoat
NOt too much right now, crossraods thing, Im letting go of someone I still love but cant sit and cry about him anymore, I cant wait anymore for him to come back, I gave him 5 months and I cant wait untill Im 80 to resume our relationship. My dad died one year ago Nov 5th, so Im dealing with that…
Talking to a lot of people on this site has helped a lot, that and meeting a few freinds, Its time to break out of the hermit cave LOL
How is life treating you? Better I hope
LibraLady
I’m sorry to hear about ur dad I lost my grandmother a year ago tommorrow she was hit by a car while walking across the street to catch the bus to work.
Im sorry about you Grandmother too, thats terrible. Last year so many people I know lost someone in their family, 2008 was a very tragic year….In the period of 6 months, I lost a freind, a family freind, a coworker, my former father in law and then my dad…and so many people at work lost memebers of their famillies too….Its just so sad
And my uncle
u sound like a nice girl. maybe its time u start living for yourself and stop worrying so much about everybody else feelings.
LibraLady
Thats what I’ve been trying to tell u for a while Blakgoat is right.
Thank you guys
ummm hello again….. i think i f***ed up the situation capp’s i just want to know what u think …. well on holloween night i went to the club and he was there actaully all of us and afterwards we all danced i danced with his best friend he was hitting on me alot i was like let me enjoy this moment after we danced a bt weird (booty dancing lol) the cappy guy that i like was looking(like a grabbed his attention) and one of my friends who is a guy told me he is looking and whatever ur doing nada its working :S i got so confused cuz i didnt mean to make him jelous or think of it that way and beside i am really innocent i was just having fun anyways when i got so angry and had a bit of and attack i fainted a bit then my friend hold me and he out of the blloom came up to me asked me if i was okay and he looked so worried i was like whatever id ont ant to reply so i just puased and walked away the next day he saw me in my friends room and he tried to say hello to me i didnt respond to him he pushed teh door gain so i can see him i saw him but didnt reply then he told to my friend can ypu move a bit and pushed the door and waved again n again then i was like oh heeelloo smiley then looked away and didnt say anything alotugh i herd he is trying to avoid what happend yesterday with his best friend and now his best freind really likes me and he wanst to know if a i am interested in him his a saggitarius i knwo how to deal with them
anywhoo. i am just confused this guy likes me or not cappiess i need ur help what do u THINK does he like me or not ??? i swear i am not abitch n id dint plan this ps at holloween i fixed my self that my friends turned me to a megan fox type plus when i weared a black wig everyoen liked it even him he said yea black suits her hair and every guy in the lcu was hitting on me tjsi never happnes i am completly shock :-/ but he tried to come to me when me and his friend is dancing but i didnt move to him or tried dancing with him i was too shy and scared i feeel confused. seriously cappy’s i like him i just dont know hwo to act with this guy does he like me or not HELP :S lool? .
nada
Well do u like his friend?
mountin goat: hmmm well this would sound btchy he is my saftey net :$.
well mountin goat from what i have just mentioned in the above do u think he likes me ? :-S he is really confusing me… and like him so much i am just hdiding these feelings abotu him.
correction: his best friend is my safety net.
I think the discussion had cruised out of the main topic.. ;-p
nada
yes he most likely does like u, he was concered about ur safety at that party wasn’t he?
well it isnt his party, it was at the club. really he likes me :-S. oh dear will now i am sort fo dating his best frend but i dont have any feelings for the best friend and i feeel so bad cause the best friend isnt as complicated as teh guy i like no offence why u capricorns are really hard ?? man i really like this cappy boy i wish he wuld ask me out.
mountin goat any suggestion what to do :-S?
yeaa he was concernd about my health that time but then i just didnt say anything i just walked away slowly i dont knw i felt shy around him eveen thoguh i was ill :S
nada
Nows ur chance talk to him
LibraLady
Where have u been in the pass 50 years.
Mountin goat
Really he likes me :-S wow i never seen that coming because remmeebr when i told u at the beginning he said he doesnt want a relationship and he just wanted to be friends blah blah. well now did he change hs mind about me after me ignoring him and stopped giving him attention and stuff although, he then started to make small talks and seeing me dancing with his best friend and starting to say hi when he sees me :-S man i dont knw oen fo my friends told me talk to him and tell him how u feel but i dont want to beleve that he likes me because i dotn want to make a fool out of mys elf again why doesnt he make the first move :S . So now is he thinking about me. well any startegy how to make him appraoch me ?
Alright, so let me see.
1. You wanted to date him, he just wanted friends with benefits.
2. You begin to ignore him.
3. He starts trying to talk and joke around with you.
4. At the club he is staring at you dancing with his best friend.
5. When you blacked out he became all worried about you.
6. Now your dating his best friend.
Okay, let me know if I forgot something up above, but I think this is probably what’s happening.
He began to see you as a girl that would be worth dating, and wants to get closer to you. He was jealous of you dancing with his best friend at the club. When he realized that seeing you with another guy made him jealous he decided to try harder to have your attention.
Overall I think he likes you and you like him, but both of you are to shy and or stubborn to tell the other.
CuriousCappie
Baby ur brilliant thank u thank u thank u for explaining this to that to this girl.
MOUNTIN GOAT:
wow u analysed it :-/ i didnt see the situation like that i guess he does like me. well now what s the plan i hardly see him cuz i hardly go out its been a week or 6 days since i havent seen him maybe today i will. anywho, so now should i talk to him or just ignore him again i really want him to come to me not me go to him. strategy please lol =) ?
CURIOUS CAPPY:
wow u analysed it :-/ i didnt see the situation like that i guess he does like me. well now what s the plan i hardly see him cuz i hardly go out its been a week or 6 days since i havent seen him maybe today i will. anywho, so now should i talk to him or just ignore him again i really want him to come to me not me go to him. strategy please lol =) ?
nada
Well…..here’s an idea.
Stop ignoring him. Talk to him, small talk though. I also understand the whole “have him come to you”, I rather a guy make the first move too, but you have to leave openings. If your talking about movies mention one you want to see, but say your not sure if one of your friends will go with. Now he may offer right away, but he may also wait a few days before he asks, or he may not ask at all. The goal is to leave openings for him to ask you somewhere, but don’t be disappointed and start ignoring him if he doesn’t ask.
I hope this helps you with him.
Ps. As long as your with the best friend he probably won’t ask.