Aries taking things slow
January 17, 2007 by Jeffrey Kishner
Now, that’s odd. If your Aries man does not want to move fast, it’s likely he has Venus in an earth sign — he doesn’t want to take risks. Normally, an Aries would go full throttle into a relationship; he knows what he wants, and he goes for it. He’s not one to “hem and haw” when it comes to jumping into the waters.
Venus ventures no further than two signs away from one’s Sun sign. Taurus, therefore, could be the culprit. The sign of the Bull takes things slow, indeed. Venus in Taurus doesn’t like change, and is focused on security, so “she” will stick her toe in the water to test the temperature, as opposed to Aries, who will confidently dive right in. If the budding relationship feels “just right,” Venus will cautiously submerge herself into the pool, and will keep an eye out for sharks. It is only when she feels comfortable that she will enjoy herself, and then it will take two lifeguards to pull her out of the water, because she won’t want to leave.
An Aries with Venus in Taurus can come across then — in matters of love — like a split personality. He really does want to go for it, and does not usually consider the consequences of his actions, but he just can’t help getting stuck in this area of his life. Unfortunately, he may not be able to see this aspect of himself clearly — it’s a bit of a blind spot. Just trust that if he says, “Let’s take things slow,” he means it … otherwise, he would have left the pool to play football.
Comment below: Did your Aries man take things slow?
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I have a good friend (several years)who is an Aries (male), I am a Pisces (female). We always had a strong sexual chemistry. I knew he was attracted to me and vice versa. We were both married.He was my shoulder to cry on during my divorce, and now he has divorced.(she cheated on him) It has been a couple of years now for him, and we have kept in contact. Several months ago, we went out. I knew “something” would happen. We ended up making out (for a couple of hours) It was hot and heavy BUT extremely emotional, I’m not just saying that either because I am a Pisces. We did not have sex, or even really get to 2nd base, it was mostly him, he said he did not want our first time to be like that. After that, he shyed away, it was too soon. I completely understood. Gave him space. He sporatically would contact me. Now we are going to get together again. Every thing I read about Aries and Pisces says we are really not compatible. He is born right on the cusp of Pisces, extremely sentimental, emotional, and sweet. But I don’t know what time he was born to do the rest of his chart. I am a TRUE Pisces woman to the core, born in February, my moon, and mercury in Pisces. So I know I am only working with peices of the puzzle by just reading about our sun signs. We have a strong psychic connection too. I dream about him out of the blue, only to find out he has thought of me, dreamt, or even contacted me that same day. I really could use some advice, or comments…soon. PLEASE help!!!!!
I don’t think you need any advice, dear Pisces. You already know what he needs and are able to provide it for him and beautifully too. And he seems to do that for you as well. It doesn’t matter what Sun sign astrology says. You two seem to have a strong and true connection. Just trust that you do and forget the rest. You’re using your Pisces well with him. Don’t fret.
Thank you eme kah…truly. Your words were very comforting, because I have begun to fret. That is something that I have been facing lately…learning to just trust. Whether it be a person or the universe itself. I will do just that.
~trust
Take Care.
Ok, would you say that would be the same for moon in Taurus? Cuz the schizo characteristics are driving me up the wall. Venus is in Leo I don’t know what’s the contradictory hold up.
I am a Libra and met my first Aries 3 weeks ago. We had instant chemistry and he persued me with a vengence. Our first date was beyond wonderful and he introduced me to all of his friends who said that they liked me and gave him the “thumbs up”. They also told me that it’s been years since he brought a girl around because he likes spending time with his friends or alone, but not really into dating…trying to find something special.
He asked me out three nights in a row and by the third date, he gave me his college football ring (he is now 34) and asked me to be exclusive or “go steady”. I though it was endearing. He said that he would be “honored” to be in me and my son’s life.
The next day we got into a small “Seinfeld-esque” tiff (somthing so stupid it isn’t worth even bringing it up)and when I went to apologize, he did not respond. He backed away and I made it worse by leaving too many messages. He ignored me for several days and then called me (when he was drunk) to say that he “really liked me” but I freaked him out with all of the messages. He said that he wanted to take things slow and he will call me to go out on dates etc… I haven’t heard from him in 4 days, we had plans for this weekend (made before the fight) and I still have his ring.
So my questions are…because I have the ring, are we still exclusive, or does his “slow” mean we are seeing other people?
And how long does it take an Aries to get over things? He was all in it and one little tiff makes him back away to barely talking? I’ve apologized 100 times and just don’t understand why we can’t move on since we had so many more positive things to focus on.
I don’t know how to proceed from here…he doesn’t respond to me at all and I don’t want to wait around for him like a fool.
Please help.
i have no idea what to tell you i have a smiliar situation..drop off the face of the earth for a while…so he rthinks your gone, then call out of the blue to “hang out”….your not exclusive your not anything….just let him know your running and he has to catch you…thats what i have so far tell me how it works out.
Apparently, I’m possibly dealing with this kind of Aries. If you read my comment in the “Are you getting Rejected by an Aries” piece, you’ll see what I mean. It’s very confusing and rather annoying to a person like me who doesn’t feel the need to trap myself in unnecessary relationships. I want to talk with him, but am afraid it might scare him off.
I can personally agree with this. I am a female Aries with Venus in Taurus and I am very much the same way. I find that whenever I get into a relationship I like to sit back and take my time in deciding whether I want to go any further. I find it hard to really commit to someone right away and am very hesitant in letting my real emotions show. Guys have told me that it seems like I’m holding back and I can be hard to read because my emotions aren’t really on the surface. Luckily, I’m in a really amazing relationship right now with a Taurus who happens to have his Venus in Aries. So he can understand me like no one else.
I AM AN AUGUST LEO AND I HAVE BEEN DATING A MARCH ARIES MAN FOR GOING ON 2 MONTHS NOW. AT THE VERY BEGINNING WE WERE MOVING AS FAST AS LIGHTENING STRIKES… WE WENT ON A DATE OR TWO AND AFTER THAT HE WAS COMING OVER EVERY NITE (YES I SAID EVERY NITE THAT IS HOW OUR SCHEDULES ARE MADE)… WELL EVERYTHING TOOK A TURN FOR THE WORST WHEN I GOT MAD BECAUSE HE SAID HE WASNT COMING ONE NITE… HE TRIED TO RUN VERY FAR AWAY IN FEAR THAT I WANTED A RELATIONSHIP OR TURNED OFF THAT HE THINKS I MAY HAVE MADE TO FIRST STEP… WELL ANYONE WHO KNOW A LEO KNOWS THEY USUALLY GET WHAT THEY WANT OR NOTHING AT ALL…. THATS ME SO I IRONED EVERYTHING COMPLETELY OUT AND HES BACK AND ITS LIKE IT WAS BEFORE… THE THING IS THAT HE KEEPS SAYIN HE DOESNT WANT A RELATIONSHIP RITE NOW. HE IS RECENTLY DIVORCE AND I AM GOING THRU A DIVORCE CURRENTLY… HOWEVER HE IS THERE EVERYNITE SEX OR NOT AND HE SEEMS TO ENJOY IT… HE DID MENTION HOWEVER THAT HE WANTS TO A FEW STEPS AHEAD OF HIS WOMAN AND HE FEELS HE IS IN A TRANSITION PERIOD RITE NOW… SO ALL I AM DOING AT THIS POINT IS WAITING… BUT I AM STARTING TO WONDER WHAT I AM WAITING FOR???
Well, if I can ask:
I’m Cancer female with Leo rising and Cancer Moon (don’t know the other stuff) and after a horrible, horrible time with an Aquarius man seem now to have “attracted” an Aries man.
Except he’s already blown a bit cold on me a couple of times, which after the hideous Aquarius sets the nerves on end; and he has been married twice before!!!! (Okay, so maybe not his fault, but…).
Think there could be anything to this Cancer woman/Aries man thingy before I give him my colours to carry, lol?
And – by the way – I fit nothing of the Cancer female description. I’m MUCH more Leo in my make-up (rising sign).
Thanks. xxx
It’s fine, everyone – I don’t need an answer, I think he’s married/involved anyway; so I must have been misreading the signals.
Hi,
I just ended this terrible going no where thing with a Capricorn a couple weeks ago. The same day I ended that, I was out with an Aries guy I have been working with for a while and who’s been flirting with me since the start of March. We went to a party and hung out after. Now a Pisces guy we’re both friends with was also at that party, and I’ve always found the Pisces cute and he was being really nice, but he asked me to go home with him and that was just too fast for me. So anyway after the party Aries and I end up getting food, and talking. I drive him home and he says he had a great time and leans in…for a hug. Recently we were at a party together and my guy friend who I came with came over and said “Aries has been staring at you this whole time.” But I didn’t want to go up to Aries because I had texted him a few days earlier and got nothing. However, I didn’t have to go to him he came straight to me as soon as he saw I wasn’t talking to anyone and as I was on my way to the Pisces from before. He explained away why he couldn’t text me and it was legitimate. Later that night he was super direct and just told me “I think you’re cute, and I’m really attracted to you. So I’d like to spend time with you is that ok?” I said yes of course, and he said “So do you want it to be a date or just hang out” I said he could pick, and he said “Well I’d like it to be a date.” So we’re set. But even then when he walked me out he hugged me…no kisses. I also figured out his Venus is in Taurus. So he’s intense when he’s watching me, flirting with me, and talking to me, but then when he has the chance to go for the kill he doesn’t take it. Still he planned a date so I guess its all good. Oh I’m a Cancer btw, with a moon in Sag. and Capricorn rising and my Venus is in Taurus as well…I wrote on here about a Cap. I was seeing, but that’s over, although we still run into each other and he gets so upset. I just act normal. I do sometimes wonder if I should go back…to the Capricorn that is…still I’m having fun with Aries.
Here is a suggestion to all who are having problems with a Aries man, I am a Leo woman who knows how aries men operate from experience also I have a younger sister who is an aries. Aries men do not like clingy women they like the chase you have to let him pursue you, if he has you easily then he is not interested because you have taken away his chase. Maybe an Aries man is not right for you, if you constantly seek his attention he will run fast as he can. Just my two cents.
Hi. I don’t understand this Aries. He wanted to take it slow. I’m a Scorpio. I was all over him–a lot. We never had a real physical relationship. I’m a bit peeved b/c he seems to have slept w/everybody except me. What gives? I miss him.
Hi, I’m an Aries with Venus in Taurus. I do take thing slow when its a matter of love/relationship. As I age I take it even slower and more cautious, but this doesn’t apply when it comes to physical relationship as its more a matter of pleasure and satisfaction.
cas that aries has been very very hurt in the past and its their way of protecting themselves from being deeply hurt again. too gain their respect twards u show them appreciation and effection.
okay this aries guy tried to talk to me one time he was very charming, but i was very shy so i didnt say much. the next time i saw him he asked me if i knew his name, i smiled and shook my head no (but i actually did)and he turned his head and went back to doing what he was doing. But then i told him i was just kidding i knew his name. if i had left it at no would his feelings be hurt, would he feel like i regected him or didnt notice him he. Or would he take it as a challenge and want to persue me more ?? Can an aries man or someone whos delt with them please tell me how they think.
by the way his birthday is april 10, if it matters o and im a taurus with venus in aries and hes an aries with venus in aries
Hey. Aries LOVES to chase so your comments are probably ok. Aries males tend to like innocence too, although people are who they are besides the astrology. I believe star signs to be an interesting basic guide, but they are not 100%. Good luck and have fun!
aries men are just to damn difficult-whats the point why do women hang around for them.
There are 2 reasons why an Aries will take it slow:
1- He’s either not into you that much OR
2- He’s been hurt in the past
Its up to you to figure out which applies.
Okay, I figured the Aries I am still deeply in love with, even after a very callous rejection, has been deeply hurt in his past. It has to do with his deep brooding and how touchy he gets so quickly. He also gets aggressive with other staff where he works, not being one to show he cares. However, it appears he has Taurus influence, which is a good thing, except makes him VERY JEALOUS! I am a very social person and have worked with men a lot, and tend to have more male friends that female, and sleep with NONE of them! I noticed the last time we actually had a real conversation, initiated by him, he got jealous a few minutes later as I was talking to another guy about business, whilst he tended to his package inside. It was instant dismissal, no questions asked. Prior to that, he had been keeping eyes on me every time we were at the same venue, and would pass by and give a beautiful, soft smile, but NEVER acted on it. He is very romantic and loves deeply from what I can see. I was impatient and kept writing letters and sending txt…not often, but enough for him to tell me to delete his number on 2 occasions. All I want in this world is him, and to show him that there are women like me, who will NOT cheat on them, but he just needs to learn TRUST! I don’t care if we don’t have sex for as long as it takes for him to heal, but I really would love to be in his company and share his friendship and help soothe away any previous pain. It cuts so deeply and I don’t know if he will EVER speak to me again, but do know I will die if he doesn’t. I felt an instant link to this man when I first saw him, and still get butterflies when I think of him or see his car. Patience is the best virtue if you want them…I am just so sorry I was too impatient and want a second chance.