Virgo Man on Marriage: “Why should I buy the cow if the milk is free?”

Virgo Woman on Marriage: “Why would I buy the whole pig just for that little piece of sausage.”

ok…that wasn’t very original…

Have you watched the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”? The character played by Jennifer Anniston was in a live-in relationship for 6 years. She put her foot down and moved out because her bf refused marriage, even though he loved her. She did go back to him after deciding that she would rather spend her life with him, married or not, than without him…as long as he could verbally commit to love her for life. Guess what? Her show of generosity and compromise is what it took for him to buy her a ring and marry her. It also didn’t hurt that she “shook up the tree” and left him for a bit…so that he also had the space and time to miss her and feel what life would be like without her.

Follow your heart. This is your one life to live. Try not to be afraid of the truth. A lot of personal growth can come from facing your fears head-on and dealing with the truth regardless of the outcome.

Thank you for your insight…

You’re right: he’s always been very open with me anytime I’ve ever asked him a direct question in the past. And when we’re together he’s very attentive, thoughtful, and over the years, has grown very affectionate. But the problem now is that I love him and can’t do the hot/cold anymore.

I’ve asked him once before about 3 years ago where I stood and his reply was that he wasn’t ready for a relationship…I think now I’m scared to hear his answer!

Thanks again.

My only 4+ year relationship was with an “Ol’ Reliable” man while I was in college. It was always just casual when convenient for both of us. However, we set up the “ground rules” the first week and agreed to it being casual. That way neither of us was “fooled” into thinking anything else. My focus was on my college at that time and I was not going to be tied into a relationship that might have effected my decision to take the best job offer anywhere in the country after that. I was not “in the market” for love back then.

Every Virgo is slightly different, depending on what unique conclusions we have drawn through countless hours of analyzing every little detail of where we’ve been and where we want to go next.

I personally would never hang with a guy who I wanted to love forever for four years without some sort of verbal commitment. People always know where they stand with me, and if I don’t know where I stand, I ask.

There are two Virgo men who I talk to regularly right now. One is the outgoing flirty type (probably Libra Ascendant/Venus/Mercury like I have). One is the shy man-of-few-words mysterious type. The “flirt” just wants to be a swinger…I didn’t even have to ask him…he’s very direct. LOL The shy one has been hurt, recent divorce. I had to flirt a bit with him to get him to open up and talk. But with one or two conversations, he said he does not want a relationship ever again, just sex. He may or may not change his mind later…but right now any woman who sleeps with him will end up getting strung along.

I’m looking for real love now, and not interested in the “old reliable” casual stuff of my youth.

If you ask a Virgo a direct question, in a calm non-emotional way, and you are prepared to handle ANYTHING they say in a calm non-emotional way, then they will usually be very direct, open and honest with you.

Ask him calmly where you stand, be prepared for any answer. He’s had plenty of time to know EXACTLY how he feels, so anything that sounds like “I don’t know” is NOT AN ANSWER. Also be prepared to tell him what you need next…whether you can go on without a commitment or not. Life is too short to sit around wondering where you stand with someone. You should know where you stand.

Any idea what the reasoning would be behind one who would gravitate hot/cold for ~4 years? (after they had been burned very badly…)

How would you know if you have been placed into the “temporary” or even an “Ol’ Reliable” categories?

BEING hard to get requires that you have a strong sense of your own identity, your own self-worth, and your own ambitions. You need to carry yourself well and be polished.

You need to let your Virgo man know that you like and appreciate him, but without chasing him. If you are always friendly, warm, honest and in control of your emotions then over time he will see you are consistent and trustworthy. Then he will want to talk to you more and more. Be his friend first and foremost. Be as discriminating about choosing him as “the one” as he is about choosing his own life mate.

Flirting with him in a fun, feminine way is a turn-on, but do not be EASY. You’ll have to draw that fine line. If you have fallen too fast for his charms and have been too easy for him, he will likely put you into a “temporary” category while he continues to seek a woman who shares his high standards for a “pure love”.

Virgos are not in a hurry to find love. We will live alone sometimes forever if we don’t find the quality person we can truly commit to for life. Meanwhile, it is not beneath us to go out and have occassional brief, temporary or casual flings to fill the time…especially when younger. Buyer beware! LOL

That’s wonderful! The greatest love of my life was with a Virgo man. We were definitely kindred spirits. I’ve never since felt with any other man so completely loved and able to completely love someone in return.

I need to quit toying with an overdemanding Capricorn and find another Virgo. LOL