Should I challenge a Virgo man and show him that I am not easy to catch?
Can you play hard-to-get with a Virgo man?
I don’t think Virgo’s all that interested in a challenge, unless he’s trying to improve his skill-set. He may analyze the most efficient way to chase a not-easy-to-catch woman, but he’s more into improving his game than winning the prize.
In other words, I think your plan will backfire. You’ve got two things working against you: his element is Earth and his mode is Mutable. Earth signs are not exactly noted for their immediate, passionate responses — they are more cautious and slow to act. And Mutable signs disperse energy — your Virgo man has difficulty mobilizing himself to pursue you. Mutable signs are mentally-focused — he may just think about how he’d catch you.
Comment below: How has the Virgo man responded to your playing hard-to-get?
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Ditto… As a virgo man, I can tell you that most of us are so literal, that if you demonstrate that you are not interested, he’ll take it for what it appears at face value, and move on.
Be direct, tell him exactly how you feel, and put the ball in his court from there. Virgos don’t like games, so if you do, you may not be all that compatible to start with.
OKAY HERE WE GO .. THIS DR. I AM TALKING TO IS A VIRGO. ( I KEEP TELLING YOU I KEEP RUNING INTO A LOT OF VIRGO MEN THIS YEAR FOR SOME REASON..)LOL.. ANYWHO…THIS GUY HE WANTS ME BUT I HAVE BEEN GIVING HIM A FIT BECAUSE I WILL NOT SUCCUMB TO HIS ADVANCES. NOW YES I AM ATTRACTED TO HIM. NOW THAT HE THINKS HE HAS ME I AM INVITING HIM TO DINNER SOON. HE SEEMED TO CALM THE f*** DOWN.. NOW MIND YOU. HE THINKS HES GETTING SOME BOOTY. SO I DONT THINK SO. I KNOW IT WILL PISS HIM OFF. BUT HES USED TO HAVING HIS WAY. AND I SEE THAT.
Hard to get does not work on we Virgo’s, we will see right through that game immediatly, keep in mind we are VERY observant people. And once we see a game being played we will forever decide that you are an undecisive person and we will quickly move on to the next conquest, although we just might not tell you, we expect for you to see the change in our attitude.
im a virgo male … and well almost 18 …. now in my case i love a girl that acts hard to get i love the challenge of making them like me … ^^ So in some cases to get may be good because i love it …… but then once i have them im bored and then i must start my quest to find another hard to get girl so be warned
you know your wishy washy.. be for real dude. you do not know what you want. i know the truth hurts i dealt wiht my virgo ex boyfriend to long to understand how virgo men work they are a piece of art… they drive you batsh–t crazy.
i would like to get my virgo back we have some trust issues , he seeing someone else right now i am just dating. so how he said to me he does not love this new person . when i call him he does return my calls so what can i do to get him back. its only been a month. but i miss him he says he miss me to but he wont act on his feelings.help!! i am a sagittarius
I’m a cancer woman and seem to attract a lot of attention from Virgo men. Chemistry is always great, but they are very cautious. All of the Virgo men in my life have waited at least two years before they ever tell me they want more, although they definitely hint at it prior to that time. It’s okay to show you’re not easy, but if you truly want him, just be yourself–he’ll be analyzing you. Ultimately, he’ll let you know his intentions.
I actually had a Virgo who was very interested in me. I am a Pisces woman. We are the complete opposite! He came off way too strong for my liking and pretty much propostioned me. We had sex three times (the first on out first outing) and it was great. He said at first (before the intimacy) that he want ed to eentually marry and settle down but that he needed to reach a certain goal with his business. I understood but then he just wanted sex. Or so I thought. So, I played his game. I only used him for sex. He did not like this and began to shy away from me. However, now he is askign my guy friend (literally he is just a friend) about me, trying to get close to him and actually being nice to me on the few occasions we have interacted. This Virgo has money and I don’t want him to feel as though he can buy me or dominate me. I think that he has come to respect me. How can I let him know that I am interested without the games or confusion but without directly stating it? I am a Pisces remeber : )
Im in love with a virgo man for 7 years we have been off and on. Recently my attitude about our relationship cause him not to want to be with me and he has decided on his own with talking and trying to work things out, that its over. I have supported him thru deployments and been by his side when he was at his lowest point. He will not talk to me, text me back,answer the phone, he has shut me out.I realize that true love him and want to be with him eventhough he doesnt want to get married or move forward in our long term relationship. Im at the end of my rope and dont what else to do. I have apologized to him and keep telling him that I love him without a reply..
Wow, Dessie – those are some serious Virgo issues. Recently I’ve had many friends having similar problems with their Virgo men (no calls back, texts – where the woman gives everything and he is either aloof, barely willing, or not there at all). I myself have been going through the same thing for the last 6 months. We were unofficially together for 6 months – did not discuss what we were, where we were going. Then I left on a trip for the summer, did something to make him stop trusting me – aka SEEMED promiscuous (but wasn’t). Ever since I’ve been back we’ve been downhill. I want him back with every fibre in my being, but I have a feeling it’s time to move on. I can’t keep sane by focusing so much energy on one being. What we had was beautiful, but it is not more. I never give up on what I want, but I think this may be an exception. Dessie you sound like you are in a similar position. If you guys are really meant to be – time will tell.
PS. Venus is retrograde this month so our lovelives will seem highly volatile and unsatisfactory. Not sure what sign you are, nor am I an astrologer, but keep your chin up if it gets worse, it’s all just temporary!
I am a Gemini, just recently last summer I had a Virgo. Very sexy might I add, but this thing we had was just a ’summer’ thing. I always run into him almost every weekend and we seem to always be in the same vicinity. He’s really a catch and we have SO much in common from our way of life to the music we listen to… We had a downfall and didn’t speak to each other for quite sometime and also had some tension in the air and we both stayed mute but would look at each other from across the room. Just recently it’s gone away and we have cleared the air, and we also kissed on new years but it was nothing, but from then on he’s seemed interested. How do I win him back?
i dislike virgos with a passion. I am a libra female, with my rising sign in virgo. Needless to say, i seem to only attract virgos. Dated one for 5 1/2 years..didn’t work out because he was a cheater and a liar. I have been talking to this other virgo guy and he’s giving me mixed signals. I just can’t stand them. They lie and are unsure of themselves. There…
Anonymous, you should date me, i’ll change your perspective. i’m SURE of that.
I think playing hard to get depends on the virgo. i know some that would love a bit of a chase while others may hate it and move on. I’ll tell you that i need to first have an initial attraction to a lady before i’ll think they’re worth pursuing. and this is not just physical attraction i’m talking about. you gotta first show that you’re a classy lady who’s worth the chase, otherwise if you’re just a pretty face and seemingly strange attitude, it won’t ignite enough of a passion for us to run after you (okay maybe if you look like halle berry).
Virgos don’t like games. If you play hard to get we will take it as rejection and shut you out of our lives. We want what we can’t have and when we get what we want (which we always do) we don’t want you anymore. I was in a relationship for 2 years up until a few months ago and now I want back in a relationship. From my point of view, we always want someone to be there to love and cherish us..When we ignore you it most likely means we are through with you..If someone I like makes contact with me I ALWAYS talk back
hum i think what most ppl are posting here is true I’ve like a Virgo man….he’s so damn sexy, intelligent and can make his point in an intellectual discussion (i <3 that) im a Pisces girl =D who-ho. anyway, i was dating a Capi when i suddenly started having feelings for this amazing Virgo,FOR THE RECORD I GET BORED OF GUYS EASILY…… Virgo declared his feeling for me, but i was to caught up in the moment with my ex Capi, when it was all said and done with my ex capi, virgo disappeared , until recently,unfortunately its turned into a long distance relationship, my Virgo is constantly accusing me of choosing another over him. Although its true i love to do my own thing i do what i want when i want to do it its as simple as that……i think it might be diffrent with virgo… he's sweet he's waited for me although we are not in a "RELATIONSHIP"; witch i love just bc there are no commitments. I think i can change my ways for him????? hum??? if only we lived closer?????
anyway srry for all they typos*** =]
Based on the cat/mouse game that I initially found myself in with my virgo I would say that you can play hard to get all you want to. Once they get you though, it won’t really matter. You’re subject to then find yourself in the cat role while he becomes the mouse. 8 months in to it with my virgo and he’s so aloof and self centered that I don’t even think he’d notice too much if I tried to play hard or any games with him.
I was hard to get, once the chase was over it becamse clear who has the upperhand in our relationship. I hate that too, but he’s so friggin’ intoxicating that I find myself putting up with stuff I shouldn’t. I have my limits though and recently he pushed me to them. Because of that I did not return his last text. The downside to it though is that he knows I have something major going on in my life right now so he is probably thinking I am out of touch because of it, not because I’m a bit ticked with him. We’ll see how it plays out. I know he likes me, but I don’t like feeling like our relationship is lopsided, I refuse to be the one giving so much while the one taking doesn’t ever reciprocate.
Aireezgirl, I’m also an Aries gal with a Virgo man, and let me tell you from experience – if he is texting you, he knows he upset you (though good luck getting him to admit it). Virgo men never stop caring once they start (which is a blast when he’s talking to his ex, but nothing’s happening – I swear). They like pushing you to the limits because Virgo men are all about the reaction – they love being cool manipulators that whip you into a frenzy just so they can make fun of you for being dramatic. You’ll notice Virgos always say they aren’t game players, but they are, and they LOVE it – you just have to figure what he’s playing (and dear god, let him win – just not by much). Even though it seems like you’re not having your feelings reciprocated, remember they are more practical. Ask him to help you with something, and watch how quickly he’ll jump up to do it. Aries girls love a challenge, so just remember he is a puzzle that is always changing, and you’ll feel more secure, I promise
I’m a virgo girl and I’m currently dating a virgo guy. I first played hard to get, to see if he was serious. When he was trying for long enaugh, I revealed to him that I had a crush on him too. He first wanted to know how I came up with that and from when I know I liked him, when he found out I knew it for quite some time already he was kind of disappointed, but he got over it because he liked me so much and said: “At least I’ve got you know, though I could have had you a long time before already.” He now got over it. He still sometimes whines a little how worthless I made him feel when I was acting so cold towards him, and that I made him think I was ‘too good for him’, like you know, as if he was out of my class. But he’s okay with it now, I guess I shouldn’t be so harsh with him in the first place, but all I’m happy about is that we’ve been dating for half a year already now, and still happy together and completely in love (;
Yes Virgo n Virgo make good matches….my best friend is a virgo guy n we get along pretty great…he wanted more once but i told him no bc he has a roving eye n goes out with more than one girls at a time which i hate so we r really close as friends….he calls me up n give me the scoop on all the chics hes with hehhee…
Yes i agree with Virgo…..we hate mind games….we want a stable relationship with a very reliable person…someone who is there n yes we love attention….u take care of us n we are guaranteed to take care of u in return…
Play games n we think ur not worth it n move on to an easier target n be happy there n forget abt u…My virgo guy friend just gets annoyed when a girl wants him to chase her….he never does either….of course we respond to fist contact fr u…we love that..
@VirgoDoll,
That’s wonderful! The greatest love of my life was with a Virgo man. We were definitely kindred spirits. I’ve never since felt with any other man so completely loved and able to completely love someone in return.
I need to quit toying with an overdemanding Capricorn and find another Virgo. LOL
DO NOT play games with a Virgo! I can’t imagine Virgo men being too different from Virgo women, so I’ll say this…the only thing that turns me off more than someone giving me the cold shoulder is someone who plays hot and cold. I want someone who is ALWAYS hot for me. That doesn’t mean that I won’t allow for someone to have a “mood” or that I want grand gestures of love. All I want is to be secure. In all their other preoccupations in life, I want my love interests to devote all of their romantic attention on me without making me wonder where I stand with them. I stress and worry a lot by nature so if my romantic interest is going to make me sit there and worry about how they feel about me, it won’t take me long to cut them off and find someone who will make me secure in their feelings (and relieve my general anxiety). It’s simple.
There is a distinct difference between someone who PLAYS hard to get and someone who IS hard to get. We Virgos can see right through players, but respect and appreciate the challenge of someone who IS hard to get.
BEING hard to get requires that you have a strong sense of your own identity, your own self-worth, and your own ambitions. You need to carry yourself well and be polished.
You need to let your Virgo man know that you like and appreciate him, but without chasing him. If you are always friendly, warm, honest and in control of your emotions then over time he will see you are consistent and trustworthy. Then he will want to talk to you more and more. Be his friend first and foremost. Be as discriminating about choosing him as “the one” as he is about choosing his own life mate.
Flirting with him in a fun, feminine way is a turn-on, but do not be EASY. You’ll have to draw that fine line. If you have fallen too fast for his charms and have been too easy for him, he will likely put you into a “temporary” category while he continues to seek a woman who shares his high standards for a “pure love”.
Virgos are not in a hurry to find love. We will live alone sometimes forever if we don’t find the quality person we can truly commit to for life. Meanwhile, it is not beneath us to go out and have occassional brief, temporary or casual flings to fill the time…especially when younger. Buyer beware! LOL
VW:
Any idea what the reasoning would be behind one who would gravitate hot/cold for ~4 years? (after they had been burned very badly…)
How would you know if you have been placed into the “temporary” or even an “Ol’ Reliable” categories?
@LovelyLibra,
My only 4+ year relationship was with an “Ol’ Reliable” man while I was in college. It was always just casual when convenient for both of us. However, we set up the “ground rules” the first week and agreed to it being casual. That way neither of us was “fooled” into thinking anything else. My focus was on my college at that time and I was not going to be tied into a relationship that might have effected my decision to take the best job offer anywhere in the country after that. I was not “in the market” for love back then.
Every Virgo is slightly different, depending on what unique conclusions we have drawn through countless hours of analyzing every little detail of where we’ve been and where we want to go next.
I personally would never hang with a guy who I wanted to love forever for four years without some sort of verbal commitment. People always know where they stand with me, and if I don’t know where I stand, I ask.
There are two Virgo men who I talk to regularly right now. One is the outgoing flirty type (probably Libra Ascendant/Venus/Mercury like I have). One is the shy man-of-few-words mysterious type. The “flirt” just wants to be a swinger…I didn’t even have to ask him…he’s very direct. LOL The shy one has been hurt, recent divorce. I had to flirt a bit with him to get him to open up and talk. But with one or two conversations, he said he does not want a relationship ever again, just sex. He may or may not change his mind later…but right now any woman who sleeps with him will end up getting strung along.
I’m looking for real love now, and not interested in the “old reliable” casual stuff of my youth.
If you ask a Virgo a direct question, in a calm non-emotional way, and you are prepared to handle ANYTHING they say in a calm non-emotional way, then they will usually be very direct, open and honest with you.
Ask him calmly where you stand, be prepared for any answer. He’s had plenty of time to know EXACTLY how he feels, so anything that sounds like “I don’t know” is NOT AN ANSWER. Also be prepared to tell him what you need next…whether you can go on without a commitment or not. Life is too short to sit around wondering where you stand with someone. You should know where you stand.
VW~
Thank you for your insight…
You’re right: he’s always been very open with me anytime I’ve ever asked him a direct question in the past. And when we’re together he’s very attentive, thoughtful, and over the years, has grown very affectionate. But the problem now is that I love him and can’t do the hot/cold anymore.
I’ve asked him once before about 3 years ago where I stood and his reply was that he wasn’t ready for a relationship…I think now I’m scared to hear his answer!
Thanks again.
Happy if anything I said helped. You know we Virgos like to help others. Gives us a good excuse not to stew in our own problems for a few minutes.
Have you watched the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You”? The character played by Jennifer Anniston was in a live-in relationship for 6 years. She put her foot down and moved out because her bf refused marriage, even though he loved her. She did go back to him after deciding that she would rather spend her life with him, married or not, than without him…as long as he could verbally commit to love her for life. Guess what? Her show of generosity and compromise is what it took for him to buy her a ring and marry her. It also didn’t hurt that she “shook up the tree” and left him for a bit…so that he also had the space and time to miss her and feel what life would be like without her.
Follow your heart. This is your one life to live. Try not to be afraid of the truth. A lot of personal growth can come from facing your fears head-on and dealing with the truth regardless of the outcome.
Just one more thought b4 I go get my flirt on.
Virgo Man on Marriage: “Why should I buy the cow if the milk is free?”
Virgo Woman on Marriage: “Why would I buy the whole pig just for that little piece of sausage.”
ok…that wasn’t very original…
Ha ha, maybe not original but still immensely hillarious. Thanks for the philosophical chuckle!