Should I challenge a Virgo man and show him that I am not easy to catch?
December 19, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
Can you play hard-to-get with a Virgo man?
I don’t think Virgo’s all that interested in a challenge, unless he’s trying to improve his skill-set. He may analyze the most efficient way to chase a not-easy-to-catch woman, but he’s more into improving his game than winning the prize.
In other words, I think your plan will backfire. You’ve got two things working against you: his element is Earth and his mode is Mutable. Earth signs are not exactly noted for their immediate, passionate responses — they are more cautious and slow to act. And Mutable signs disperse energy — your Virgo man has difficulty mobilizing himself to pursue you. Mutable signs are mentally-focused — he may just think about how he’d catch you.
Comment below: How has the Virgo man responded to your playing hard-to-get?
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Ditto… As a virgo man, I can tell you that most of us are so literal, that if you demonstrate that you are not interested, he’ll take it for what it appears at face value, and move on.
Be direct, tell him exactly how you feel, and put the ball in his court from there. Virgos don’t like games, so if you do, you may not be all that compatible to start with.
OKAY HERE WE GO .. THIS DR. I AM TALKING TO IS A VIRGO. ( I KEEP TELLING YOU I KEEP RUNING INTO A LOT OF VIRGO MEN THIS YEAR FOR SOME REASON..)LOL.. ANYWHO…THIS GUY HE WANTS ME BUT I HAVE BEEN GIVING HIM A FIT BECAUSE I WILL NOT SUCCUMB TO HIS ADVANCES. NOW YES I AM ATTRACTED TO HIM. NOW THAT HE THINKS HE HAS ME I AM INVITING HIM TO DINNER SOON. HE SEEMED TO CALM THE f*** DOWN.. NOW MIND YOU. HE THINKS HES GETTING SOME BOOTY. SO I DONT THINK SO. I KNOW IT WILL PISS HIM OFF. BUT HES USED TO HAVING HIS WAY. AND I SEE THAT.
Hard to get does not work on we Virgo’s, we will see right through that game immediatly, keep in mind we are VERY observant people. And once we see a game being played we will forever decide that you are an undecisive person and we will quickly move on to the next conquest, although we just might not tell you, we expect for you to see the change in our attitude.
im a virgo male … and well almost 18 …. now in my case i love a girl that acts hard to get i love the challenge of making them like me … ^^ So in some cases to get may be good because i love it …… but then once i have them im bored and then i must start my quest to find another hard to get girl so be warned
you know your wishy washy.. be for real dude. you do not know what you want. i know the truth hurts i dealt wiht my virgo ex boyfriend to long to understand how virgo men work they are a piece of art… they drive you batsh–t crazy.
i would like to get my virgo back we have some trust issues , he seeing someone else right now i am just dating. so how he said to me he does not love this new person . when i call him he does return my calls so what can i do to get him back. its only been a month. but i miss him he says he miss me to but he wont act on his feelings.help!! i am a sagittarius
I’m a cancer woman and seem to attract a lot of attention from Virgo men. Chemistry is always great, but they are very cautious. All of the Virgo men in my life have waited at least two years before they ever tell me they want more, although they definitely hint at it prior to that time. It’s okay to show you’re not easy, but if you truly want him, just be yourself–he’ll be analyzing you. Ultimately, he’ll let you know his intentions.
I actually had a Virgo who was very interested in me. I am a Pisces woman. We are the complete opposite! He came off way too strong for my liking and pretty much propostioned me. We had sex three times (the first on out first outing) and it was great. He said at first (before the intimacy) that he want ed to eentually marry and settle down but that he needed to reach a certain goal with his business. I understood but then he just wanted sex. Or so I thought. So, I played his game. I only used him for sex. He did not like this and began to shy away from me. However, now he is askign my guy friend (literally he is just a friend) about me, trying to get close to him and actually being nice to me on the few occasions we have interacted. This Virgo has money and I don’t want him to feel as though he can buy me or dominate me. I think that he has come to respect me. How can I let him know that I am interested without the games or confusion but without directly stating it? I am a Pisces remeber : )
Im in love with a virgo man for 7 years we have been off and on. Recently my attitude about our relationship cause him not to want to be with me and he has decided on his own with talking and trying to work things out, that its over. I have supported him thru deployments and been by his side when he was at his lowest point. He will not talk to me, text me back,answer the phone, he has shut me out.I realize that true love him and want to be with him eventhough he doesnt want to get married or move forward in our long term relationship. Im at the end of my rope and dont what else to do. I have apologized to him and keep telling him that I love him without a reply..
Wow, Dessie – those are some serious Virgo issues. Recently I’ve had many friends having similar problems with their Virgo men (no calls back, texts – where the woman gives everything and he is either aloof, barely willing, or not there at all). I myself have been going through the same thing for the last 6 months. We were unofficially together for 6 months – did not discuss what we were, where we were going. Then I left on a trip for the summer, did something to make him stop trusting me – aka SEEMED promiscuous (but wasn’t). Ever since I’ve been back we’ve been downhill. I want him back with every fibre in my being, but I have a feeling it’s time to move on. I can’t keep sane by focusing so much energy on one being. What we had was beautiful, but it is not more. I never give up on what I want, but I think this may be an exception. Dessie you sound like you are in a similar position. If you guys are really meant to be – time will tell.
PS. Venus is retrograde this month so our lovelives will seem highly volatile and unsatisfactory. Not sure what sign you are, nor am I an astrologer, but keep your chin up if it gets worse, it’s all just temporary!
I am a Gemini, just recently last summer I had a Virgo. Very sexy might I add, but this thing we had was just a ’summer’ thing. I always run into him almost every weekend and we seem to always be in the same vicinity. He’s really a catch and we have SO much in common from our way of life to the music we listen to… We had a downfall and didn’t speak to each other for quite sometime and also had some tension in the air and we both stayed mute but would look at each other from across the room. Just recently it’s gone away and we have cleared the air, and we also kissed on new years but it was nothing, but from then on he’s seemed interested. How do I win him back?
i dislike virgos with a passion. I am a libra female, with my rising sign in virgo. Needless to say, i seem to only attract virgos. Dated one for 5 1/2 years..didn’t work out because he was a cheater and a liar. I have been talking to this other virgo guy and he’s giving me mixed signals. I just can’t stand them. They lie and are unsure of themselves. There…
Anonymous, you should date me, i’ll change your perspective. i’m SURE of that.
I think playing hard to get depends on the virgo. i know some that would love a bit of a chase while others may hate it and move on. I’ll tell you that i need to first have an initial attraction to a lady before i’ll think they’re worth pursuing. and this is not just physical attraction i’m talking about. you gotta first show that you’re a classy lady who’s worth the chase, otherwise if you’re just a pretty face and seemingly strange attitude, it won’t ignite enough of a passion for us to run after you (okay maybe if you look like halle berry).
Virgos don’t like games. If you play hard to get we will take it as rejection and shut you out of our lives. We want what we can’t have and when we get what we want (which we always do) we don’t want you anymore. I was in a relationship for 2 years up until a few months ago and now I want back in a relationship. From my point of view, we always want someone to be there to love and cherish us..When we ignore you it most likely means we are through with you..If someone I like makes contact with me I ALWAYS talk back