Can you play hard-to-get with a Virgo man?
I don’t think Virgo’s all that interested in a challenge, unless he’s trying to improve his skill-set. He may analyze the most efficient way to chase a not-easy-to-catch woman, but he’s more into improving his game than winning the prize.
In other words, I think your plan will backfire. You’ve got two things working against you: his element is Earth and his mode is Mutable. Earth signs are not exactly noted for their immediate, passionate responses — they are more cautious and slow to act. And Mutable signs disperse energy — your Virgo man has difficulty mobilizing himself to pursue you. Mutable signs are mentally-focused — he may just think about how he’d catch you.
Comment below: How has the Virgo man responded to your playing hard-to-get?
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Anyone have any experience with a Sagittarius girl + Virgo guy relationship/dating/whatever?!? I’m in the middle of this roller coaster I’m reading about with a virgo guy. It’s been about 6mo, sort of casual, he travels for work and will be gone for weeks at a time. I can be patient, but just want to know if its worth it???
To be honest any sign can get on they say virgos and geminis dont get on im a gemini my husband is a virgo my ex was a virgo and my ex before was a gemini and the one before that a scorpio ( god that sounds bad loool)my husband is a wonderful moody kind loving man lol ok i dont get roses and presents but hes there hes loyal and no one comes before me he doesnt expect me to wait on him to cook for him etc hes quite happy to do that im spoilt its called compromise understanding and patience. I hated my gemini ex he was so immature but thats because he was a mummys boy at 45 lol
my virgo ex cheated and now regrets it and the scorpio guy was wonderful. Everyone thinks virgos and geminis dont get on yet a lot of my close friends are virgos one of my staff is a virgo we lunch everyday its called comrpomise and understanding xxxx
saggirl, It’s up to you to decide if it’s worth it. Use your fire to get his interest. Get him to try new things, we love variety and strong people. Just don’t sit and wait for him to make all the moves.
I’m a virgo fellow . I just got out of a rather ridiculous relationship with sag woman, virgo moon. I am Virgo sun and gem moon. Lol. Uh yeah, I personally have a nack for being attracted to sag’s… or thats the way it always ends up, rather. I’ve known her since I was 9, she was my first girlfriend back in elementary school. Before that, I had ended things with another sag, it was a very off and on kind of relationship. Timing wasnt ever right. But my over all impressions are that Neither situation left me bitter, most certainly more cautious for sure. The most recent of the sag’s seemed to enjoy lying so very much and things got turned into a huge mess. Anyways, the whole point of my incoherent ramblings is that these two women have much such a huge impact in my life in a positive way and I wont soon forget them in the slightest bit. Things got complicated, but still was worth it. Go for it.
Have made such a huge impact*** :-/ Communication fail on my behalf. lol.
I love my Virgo man, I am sad at our parting, but was worth the ride. Good childhood friends, we will always be in eachothers lives, just want more? help
@Sagi .you need to explain parting etc i dont understand
Agreed with Lucy. Do you know what else is in his chart? Im still learning, but from my understanding, that can also have an impact on the way he tends to be. same with you. Perhaps there were some other things contributing?
Also, maybe I can pick your brain about you Sag women?? Met yet another one…
Bad idea sister. Virgos innately doesn’t want to be challenged. They get bored and tired easily when put up to the test. Think of another way to please your Virgo guy other than testing him.
I’ve been talking to a Virgo guy for a month, we finally found time to get together and went out 4 nights in a row. He has his kids for a week so we can’t see eachother but he texts me every day to say goodmorning and goodnight and even calls once a day just to say hi. I kinda leave it to him to call so I don’t bother him. This is all great but here’s my thing…I’m very emotional, I get attached easily and I am not good at keeping my feelings to myself. I don’t wanna scare him off but I want to tell him I miss him because I do a great deal. He’s def not an emotionally open person but when he looks in my eyes and he smiles like he does (about the only time he does smile) I can see it all and I melt. I already know I’m gonna fall for him in no time but how slowly do I need to go so I don’t scare him off? Do I wait for his signals? If I can read them correctly. He’s everything I’ve ever dreamed of and I wanna do this right. Anyone with any advice I’d love some feedback.
@Sarah:
” I already know I’m gonna fall for him in no time but how slowly do I need to go so I don’t scare him off? Do I wait for his signals? If I can read them correctly. He’s everything I’ve ever dreamed of and I wanna do this right. Anyone with any advice I’d love some feedback.”
SLOW DOWN BIG TIME….or you will get hurt…Virgo men like a challenge…the easier something comes to them,the easier they discard of it or run off…..they need to be kept on their toes, make yourself a mystery or unattainable and they will become obsessed with you until they have control over you or know all they need to know about you…catching and keeping a Virgo man isnt hard, you just have to understand how they work….and the one thing you DO NOT want to do is get all emotional with him so soon…keep it to yourself…let him be the one to show you or mention it to you….otherwise, you will either run him off or he will see you as weak for falling for someone so soon…and yes, he will not seem like someone who can be that way but he will…lol…I have dated a good amount of them to know….they like STRONG women who can handle them when they get out of line…someone who will put them in their place in a heartbeat…a lady who they look up to…they see women who are overly affectionate too soon…or all over them as having some sort of weakness or no mystery to them…they thrive on the challenge…once conquered, there is no more mystery and they may look elsewhere…also…they havea very high standard so they will look for flaws in you once you start to tell them you want something serious…allow him to fall for you…do not fall for him too soon because he wlll sense it and possibly run…just be a strong woman with your own life and let him do the chasing…be available but not too available…and DO NOT give up the goodies early LOL…if you do then you will definitely need to keep them on their toes…keep it interesting…the like the game of cat and mouse though they will never admit any of these things LOL
Thank you for your response. With all I’ve read, it really confuses me. I’m keeping everything to myself but I have also read that virgos like to be chased. Is this true or not? He is also very affectionate (holding my hand, rubbing my hair or leg, kisses on the forehead) and I didn’t think virgos were. I know he likes me and I know we both want the same things out of a relationship so I’m just gonna chill and wait for him. I actually took him out the last time and he made the comment that he’s never had a woman buy him dinner lol. Hope that wasn’t a bad move.
@sarah:
“I’m keeping everything to myself but I have also read that virgos like to be chased. Is this true or not? He is also very affectionate (holding my hand, rubbing my hair or leg, kisses on the forehead) and I didn’t think virgos were”
Virgo women like to be chased…..yes, virgo men to an extent enjoy the chase but it doesnt get you any closer to their hearts AT ALL…in the end, they fall in love with the person who gives them a run for their money….who they know can and will leave at the drop of a hat if they get out of line….it needs to be a very good balance of fiestiness and sweetness…or else they will walk all over you….they are ALWAYS sweethearts at the start….they are always trying to make this image as perfect as possible so he will appear like the dream man….but this is only their exterior and eventually this image starts to fall apart….virgos are perfectionists even when it comes to the image they want to portray…again, my exVirgo I was with for 3 years and U dated at least 3 or 4 virgo men after that…I know them well…the virgo love of being chased go more towards a narcissistic need than an actual interest in the person which is why many virgo men have a good amount of female friends or acquaintances…not all…but many…so again, I do not know what your sign is, but you need to keep yourself a mystery..somewhat…let him have a need to figure you out or he will get bored quickly….perhaps not now…but if you express your feelings to him now…he will eventually run for two reasons…one because he doesnt know what he feels and two, to see if you will run after him and thats where it gets tricky…if you chase him too much, you will seem desperate….and he will test this…so its up to you what you decide to do if and when it happens, but unless he has some serious other placements in his chart, it will eventually
@sarah:
” I know he likes me and I know we both want the same things out of a relationship so I’m just gonna chill and wait for him. I actually took him out the last time and he made the comment that he’s never had a woman buy him dinner lol. Hope that wasn’t a bad move.”
That is a great idea and no, that wasnt a bad move…just wait for him now to offer to pay or take you out the next time…either keep it balanced level of interest or let him do the chasing…and the reason I say this is because, I have seen this countless times with Virgo men…which a woman is expending all of her energy and time chasing one….he is out there chasing someone who isnt chasing him….and thats the girl he really ends up wanting and falling for…there is a Virgo doing that to me even now…I have no interest in him…he has a woman hanging around him madly in love with him and he is ready to cut her and all other women off in a second if I give him the greelight…but I am not interested…which only makes him more fascinated…and he himself has admitted this
I think I will let him come to me. Make him wait a little before I respond and see what happens. I really don’t like the idea of playing games and this kinda feels like it. I’d rather just be me but he’s def worth holding back for a while. Thank you so much. If you’ve got any other pointers then I’d love to hear em. Another question…I got myself a new football hoodie the other day before our date, he started asking what size and I was teasing him that he was gonna take it, he made it a point to let me know what size he wears and he knows from our conversations that I’m a giver. So is that a hint from him or what. He also is very sure that he can change my mind about things that we disagree on (cars, football teams, food) is this part of his challenge he sees in me?
@Sag1975
“Another question…I got myself a new football hoodie the other day before our date, he started asking what size and I was teasing him that he was gonna take it, he made it a point to let me know what size he wears and he knows from our conversations that I’m a giver. So is that a hint from him or what. He also is very sure that he can change my mind about things that we disagree on (cars, football teams, food) is this part of his challenge he sees in me?”
If you feel uncomfortable then don’t…be yourself…I am just relating my experiences to you and my opinions…the Virgo interested in me to which I have been showing NO INTEREST IN…just told me that he wants to marry and have children with me….WTH!!!!! I asked him what about the other girl who is in love with you…who is practically your girlfriend…he basically said “whatever” and said he wants that with me only…WTH????? He knows I am not interested…smh….but you do what is comfortable for you…just take it slow…also, Virgos ask very random questions…about random things…they are SUPER curious….you shouldnt let him always change your mind though….stand up for your opinions..trust your own opinions about things without being close minded..I cant explain it…but him being sure that he can change your mind…is somewhat of a challenge….but its up to you how you want to handle that..I see by your name that you are a Sag so you should have enough fire to handle him…the older they are the less games they play
Well hun, ur right on the money. We haven’t been able to see eachother this week cuz he has his kids so I made plans with a girlfriend and we had dinner and played cards. He asked me to text him when I was done and before I did he texted me. He said that we were gonna find a way to see eachother somehow. This makes me very happy, now I know what’s up.
i am a gemini woman dating a virgo man. we work together foremost and see each other all day everyday. we act like teenagers and carry on..not too much tho, bcuz we r at work.we hold hands when we are out tho. steal kisses in the parking lot at work. he waited several weeks before i gave him my cell #. we were chatting over facebook. i even stood him up a time or two, for legit reasons. he told me 1 day he likd me.really like me. he has bent over backwards for me in many areas..its been like 9 weeks since i came to the job..he was on me by day 1 of my second week.lol i am very smitten w/him myself. i like like him. we have not done anything more than kiss.we are grown. 31 and 35 so, i guess its working. i am a spitfire and he keeps up w/me.
@Gemini4life….I have had a long off and on relationship with a virgo male for a year and a half now. It began much the same; flirting, little pdas (I’m not much of a PDA person so holding hands was pretty much kept to the car and movies,) and of course intimate moments. A few weeks into it I got my “Dear Jane ” letter because he stated there was no chemistry. My reply: WTF?! How is there no chemistry? Is it you I’m with? Are you on drugs?! Regardless, something turned him off to me and he went into hermit mode. Nonetheless he came back a few months later, for just physical stuff, and made so much of a point in letting me know that we don’t date anymore. He disappeared again, and came back, disappeared, came back, etc. MAy I mention that each time he went away was preceded by a fight that more often than not involved him getting irate over pretty much nothing. Presently we aren’t doing so well….we were friends, physical, then he changed his mind, so tried being friends and I am not satisfied with that. It seems to me that this particular Virgo is new in the dating game (he’s a bit of a late bloomer in the love dept) and is trying to live his youth in his adult years.
As a fellow gemini woman, let me give you some advice. When the virgo male tells you to back off because he needs some space- DO IT. That is the first and biggest mistake I made with my virgo. When he dumped me the first time he was having a lot of personal problems and insisted he needed space, and as a gemini I just can’t give anyone space- i have to be their mother. Don’t. I know it will kill you to not call or text, and you can check in with him but don’t push the issue! Don’t 20 question him, don’t give him advice, and leave him alone when he wants it.
Secondly, realize that the virgo male is one of the most mentally screwed up individuals on the planet. While geminis put their heart on their sleeve (and everyone else that comes near us,) the virgo would rather go into hermit mode. They also like to test you…..pay careful attention to their antics and just breathe. Try to wait 24 hours before reacting….that is my general rule as a mature gemini lol!
Okay here’s my story, it is a long one, and I will try to make it short, I am head over heels for a Virgo man, he is 42 and I am 39, we have kind of known eachother since we were kids, he was always shy and did not even know I was alive back when we were younger, he never dated that I know of when he was in school, and after he graduated he went into the navy, when he got out of the navy he came back home, I was already married to a Gemini man, and he got married for the first time, and he had a son with his first wife, and things did not work out with them, they divorced, and a few years later he remarried, sometime during his second marriage, we began talking on fb, and it first there was nothing to it, just talk about when we were kids, the fact that we were both so close to our dad’s and that both his dad and my dad had passed away so young, and the fact that his older brother dated my older sister, his older sister dated my older brother and so on, completely innocent, and then he really began to flirt with me, at first I had no intrest in really having any kind of a relationship with him, and had even thought that he was no where near as attractive as he was when were younger, anyway as time went on and we talked for about a year online, he kept on insisting that we meet, I did not know what I wanted, I was starting to have feelings for him, but I knew I was married,… and not saying in a good marriage, my husband had been very abusive over the years.. anyway there was a lot going on in my life, and I was thinking about meeting him, and about the feelings that I was having, and they were for him, so I left my husband, and I told the Virgo man whom also by the way was no longer with his second wife either, that I would meet him, I met him, and I asked for a hug, well then he kissed me, and I just was not so sure, so I stopped him, and then in a few minuets he was kissing me again, this time I did not stop the kiss, things started to turn sexual, and I did stop it, he left shaking his head, but not saying a word, after that he insisted we were just good friends, I kind of just stopped talking to him, and he came back and began talking to me again, we talked for another 6 months, and by that time I really really had feelings for him, so I told him that I was in love with him, WRONG move, he then told me he had no feelings for me at all, he said I am sorry but that’s just the way it is, I was heartbroken, but decided to move on, and did not even try to talk to him, but one day I was online, and seen that he was online, I asked him a ? about his sister because she and I had been very good friends, and I had not talked with her for a while, he told me everything was fine with his sister, and that he really wanted to talk with me, I talked to him but did not really say much, soon he was wanting to talk almost everyday, I was talking to him, and he asked me to meet him again, I said NO but he insisted that he knew I did not mean that, and that I wanted to meet him, and be with him ect. he lives some 3 hr. drive from where I do, and he said he was comming in that weekend, and wanted me to meet him, I finally agreed with him, but then decided I would not go and meet him alone because I did not want things to get carried away, I’m still kind of hurt that he said he had no feelings for me at all and now he is back, kind of has me confussed, anyway when I met him he was not so happy that I did not come alone, and he said we would have to meet up another time, then he said it was probably for the best that I had not come alone ect. he don’t txt me, and he don’t call but he is online almost everyday and trys to talk to me, and find out what is going on in my life, anyway last week we were talking and we kind of got into an argument online, and he did not talk to me for a few days, then I had some bad things going on in my life, and he heard about it from his sister, and he started talking to me again, he acts like he really cares, in some of the things he says, like yesterday we were talking about the situation I am in now, I have a family member dying of cancer, and it is very close now, anyway he knew I was at the hospital and when I got home I was online, he said how goes it? and I said I was having a bad one today, and he said I hope you feel better soon, I said I am okay it is my sis in law that is dying, he said okay I am sorry about that, and then told me not to let myself get run down, and try not to get to emotionally involved, he said I know it’s hard, but you will be okay, and then I said yes, I am sure I will be okay but it is hard to watch, and I care to deeply for others, and he said YES, anyway he kept telling me to take care of myself ect. then he got to talking about when we had met the first time, about the kiss ect. and said he would like to give it another try.. is he only wanting me for SEX does he have feelings? a lot of time when we talk what he says is very short in answers, but he always makes it seem like he is saying more than what is on the page,??? HELP me please does he care at all?? or is he just wanting to use me?
You can’t play hard to get with a virgo man. As a virgo in third house, i think like one and can tell when someone is playing hard to get way before they have even thought about it. It does them no favours. Although I’m an aries sun, I don’t behave like one. I don’t chase a guy. It’s not that I’m playing hard to get, the guy’s actions, behaviour, words tells me all I need to know about him and the sort of person they are. After analysing all that, I then decide whether I should be involved or not.
The doesn’t happen fast either. I take my time. I’m reserved to the point of people telling me that I seem cold, stuck up. I don’t mean to give off that vibe, I can’t help thinking and analysing as to how if I do decide to be involved with that person how they will fit in the grand scheme of things.
It’s like my mind is one whole chess board and you’re a piece that can move in various places and bring endless possibilities…But will they bring success..
Hope I made sense!