How Virgo men break off relationships
December 26, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
All a Virgo man has to do is relentlessly criticize you and pick at your faults until you break down into tears. When you ask if he no longer wants to be with you, he will say, “Of course I do. You just need to x, y and z, and everything will be fine.” But when x, y and z are insurmountable tasks — when he is asking you to wipe yourself clean of all inadequacies — you realize you have been set up.
Or, he will say he’s not good enough for you. He tries to improve himself for your benefit, but he always comes up short. “You’re probably better off with someone else, someone who measures up.” You insist that he’s fine just the way he is, that you love him. “But there must be something wrong with you, if you can love such a loser. Really, I don’t deserve you.”
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I just have to say I have to agree with most of these. Us Virgo guys are pretty hard to understand.
Half the time I don’t understand why I do the things I do.
I also can’t get over the Aries attraction, you guys too?!?! Something about Aries completely baffles me, but in such a way that I can’t help but want them more! I’ve been in enough relationships to know that when something isn’t working I have the upper hand and 95% of the time I have been the one to end things while the other person has been left hanging. It must be karma because as soon as I met this Aries girl I couldn’t get her off of my mind and for the past year I have been trying to figure out how to get her back or at least how to make it so that she is left wanting me. I have not been able to gain closure on this but I’m hoping it’s not permanent.
To any girl pursuing a Virgo man: get tips from an Aries. I can’t explain why but they know how to exert one hell of a hold over us.
Aries have a hold on Virgos beacause of their constant self confidence, independence, and adventurous spirits. These are all the qualities not typical in a Virgo, so therefore opposites attract. I am on the cusp of Aries and Taurus (April 21), so I have attracted a Virgo man, but he has not contacted me in 4 days, and I think I scared him off because of my strong indepedence. I reek of not being “needy”, and it is quite intimidating. More than most men can handle!
Oh wow, I should not have read this. I am an Aries, I’ve been with a Virgo man for almost 5 years. The first paragraph is exactly what I’m getting right now, or for a little while now. One problem brought up constantly is my “anger” which to be honest, I don’t fully get. I might have a moment, but I quickly move on to brighter things, or try to. While I’ve been told by astrology type things I need to embrace my anger, he wants me to get rid of it completely. This seems impossible. We haven’t broken up, I’m too stubborn for that. Lol. To the point, I feel as though he doesn’t even realize he is doing this all the time. And when I bring up the matter, he goes through it again. I do not need nor want someone telling me how they think I should be as a person, but it’s always there. I feel as though I can’t assert/express anything even myself without his constant criticizing. I asked the Virgo to marry me, we waited a year and did just that. And now…he wants me to change. I must say that Virgos can baffle me sometimes as well, and sometimes I can see right through them. Can’t help it, sorry. But I wish it would just stop. I write novels, and this is hindering every creative bone I have in me, in every aspect it feels like he’s trying to take me apart. Warning Virgos: Think hard on whether you truly want that or not, leave us as we are…
I am a Taurus, I have been dating a Virgo man for 3 an a half years now. He has always helped me threw rough times. The sex is great. How can I get him to be serious? Like let’s move in together or get married?
I am a Scorpio and dated a Virgo it lasted about 2 months. He broke up with me in front of a good friend of mine by starting a fight with his best friend and to top it off he had a women call and leave a nasty message on my phone. Stating that he used me to get her jealous. It was pretty funny that a man couldn’t speak for himself.
I am a female Scorpio and I am in love with a Virgo. This started out as friendship and really getting to know each other. We were good friends for a long time before I told him that I loved him. He didn’t reciprocate at first, but I didn’t stop telling him and reassuring him that my feelings are real. He finally did reciprocate after over a year. It was worth the wait. He has really opened up more to me, become more emotional, more protective and a little jealous streak has reared up every now and then. Apparently organization and cleanliness is appealing to them. When he found out that I am OCD about cleaning house, he seemed immmediately attracted. If you love your Virgo man, the best advise is take it SLOW, don’t lie to them, they are perceptive and will know. Appreciate your Virgo…
I met a really great Virgo man on line. We talked for about 8 months building up to everyday. Then after meeting him, and teasing romantic gestures, hints etc. on his part, I think I missed my window of opportunity. When I returned home I knew something was wrong but he didn’t say a word. I asked him if we were heading somewhere? (Mars in Scorpio asks impatiently and Venus in Cap wants to know as it wants structure!) He said “why does it have to be ANYTHING? It will lose it’s luster”. Is that typical? Saying something but saying nothing! Sounds like a Gemini. I got the hint but I can’t stop thinking about him!! He is a Virgo, and my moon is in Virgo. Smitten with him!!!
I have a better one, my virgo told me that, “our arrangement isn’t working, he does not enjoy turning down my invitations to hang out, so it must mean that we are going at 2 different speeds”. WTF does that mean? I told him OK. Since when does a man turn down a dinner invite at the woman’s expense, and then comes to the conclusion that she is moving to fast. I am giving up! I really was interested in this man, but I have needs that have to be fulfilled, so I have been dating others. But, can someone please tell me, what this virgo means by his comment.
yes i agree with what the artical says i was with a virgo for 4yrs and he was very controling person and he didnt realalize how much i had loved him and he kept assuming things and i told him one day that his ways needs to change and he got up set and just walked out and came back later that night and told me he isnt gonna change anything so we went our seprate ways, but i did love him so much. in a artical i read it said that a sag. and a virgo is never gonna work out but i think if he would have taken what i said and tryed we would still be together…..
Why is it, in the Electronic Age of blogs and the Web and facebook, do people not use their mother f***ing SPELL CHECK, people!!! It’s hard to read through comments like Rebecca’s who apparently hasn’t heard of it, nor applied for her GRE certification. “a artical”? c’mon! That’s gotta hurt the eyes. And the ayes certainly do not have it. In front of a vowel, you must always use an, such as: an orange, an apple, an ARTICLE. Not artical. What is that? A new prescription drug? Artical: feeling faint? restless? unable to spell? Guaranteed no side effects, with the exception of snide side remarks from professorial types. I wish I could teach ESL because I would totally get Rebecca to be my one and only student! An intensive course. THEN and ONLY THEN can we inflict her on unsuspecting readers on the Web, such as this sassy sasstrology page. I just needed help re: my Virgo man who may or may have not broken up with me by deleting me as his friend on Myspace. Other than that, please use spell check people. This isn’t Charlie Brown’s letter from summer camp. This is the real world. And in the real world you are judged by your apparent lack of education. Surely, there must have been some public school to enroll it, aiiiiight? <–ok, that last word was a bit of colloquialism, but I assume you get my drift. Peace out! Class dismissed.
English Professor, there’s no need to be nasty. I can’t see how anyone will want to help you re: “[your] Virgo man who may or may have not broken up with [you] by deleting [you] as his friend on Myspace” if you’re going to be judgmental.
I’m so much like Vigo and I am not proud of this but I have left many guys hanging waiting and wondering. I recently got a taste of my own medicine from a Virgo guy. Maybe he’s stepping back thinking like Libra’s do. The problem for me is: if I try and keep hitting a brick wall I’m done and I never look back. Virgo men are way too hard to figure out.I’m going to check out a better match like a Gemini man.
ENGLISH PROFESSOR….In regards to your comment about grammar in the “real world” you prove, once again, that education in the school system doesn’t make someone an upstanding human being. Though u may have better grammar & spelling ability than some, you’re unfortunately lacking compassion and consideration for others. Are you that insecure that you have to publicly bash someone? Let me remind you that WE are judged in many ways other than just our education. I’d be willing to bet that if you and Rebecca were compared to each other, she’d end up “being judged” as the better person. Just what does education mean in one’s life when there’s no heart for others? You do well making yourself look bad. Did you learn that at school?
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I’m a Virgo male, but reading through these comments i’ve came to the conclusion that every story above could relate to any man, no matter their star sign.
It’s not the star sign you should be looking at ladies, but all men in general…we’re not all dicks.
I was dating a Virgo man for 3 months.. Hadn’t dated men in over 4 years.. Strictly women.. Everything was going great.. He approached me in the street.. We got to know eachother as best we could.. He lives right across the street.. He asked to be exclusive, I said a tentative yes b/c I thought it was too soon, but I was only dating him.. Last saturday I threw my friend a bday party @ a club and forgot to eat b/c I had so much to do (she hired me to take care of decorating, photographer.. all details) and around 3am it seems I blacked out and treated him horrible and flirted w/ women.. Now he won’t talk to me @ all.. Like, every since.. It’s been 5 days and I feel so hurt and lost and confused and sad and mad and I feel like going to his house and teaching him not to end things with people in such a harsh way.. I need closure @ least! I’m not an annoying stalkerish person, but I’m infuriated @ his non-communication.. Need advice badly..
im a pisces and i have been with a virgo for two years yes indeed they are picky and they need alot of reassurance but they help u out through rough times and they are super hard to get with so be patient and be a hard worker
I think the English Professor is a Virgo! Oh, English Professor! If you didn’t notice “gotta” is not a word it is a slang term.
I dated an Aries up until a month ago and now I am dating a Virgo. There is a big difference. The Aries was always into something, and when he seems quiet it was only because he was REALLY into something. But he wasn’t able to leave me hanging, as most Aries try to do. I left him hanging because I don’t argue with him and it makes him nuts. He has a sensitive side and he doesn’t get pleasure out of arguing unless he thinks I am really mad. But the Taurus in me doesn’t fight fair and once he was ready to make up, I would still be mad and getting revenge. So I stopped arguing and that’s how I got rid of the Crazy Aries. LOL! As for the Virgo, he is more like me. Very talented, and calm yet he has a very “creative” side. Aries is more talk….Virgo is about showing you. Both guys are gorgeous, friendly, generous and wonderful physically. However, the Aries likes to go back and forth from challenge to challenge. Virgo likes to conquer one thing at a time and just become a pro at it.
My bday is April 21st as well, Aries/Taurus. COOL!
hey i have a problem. i m aries girl in love with virgo guy.hes one yr elder to me.we were in same school.gt in touch thrgh social netwrkin site.exchanged no.s. started talkin frequently.i confessed my feelings to him n he followed by telling his that he likes me n wants to meet up. i because of certain family restrictions cldnt meet him.told him my problems n he said fine.we will stay friends.i mean i wanted him to understand.then i posted a messaged to him dat we wont talk.n its bye forever cos i like a guy n cant stay friends with him.he started calling me up.texted my friend to explain me.but we kind of had arguemnt n we ended it.later i regretted over my decision. texted him.called him.but he dint reply.i gradually involved my friends wich made him angry wid me.so its all messed up.he doesnt reply.what should i do????
so, i was dating this virgo, and its so true. they pick at you. they tear you down and act like nothings happening. its awful.
we went out twice and the first time he broke up with me was ‘im not good enough for you’ and the second time was the slow and painful end.
however, despite that, he still has a liking for me. he still talks to me all the time after more than a year. he has a gf but hes cheated on them a lot with me. its annoying, its almost like theyre afraid of finding something that will actually work. im left thinking what the hell, and keeping things at friend level now.
I am a Sagittarius girl moving to another country for a Virgo man planning to get married. We were living together 1 1/2 year. I came back to my home country agreeing to take a break and one week ago he smsed me that we are 2 different people, that everything is my fault , that he doesn't want to get married anymore, love is gone and he wants me to send him his house key back! And on top of these he sends me messages to see how I am doing!!! The funniest thing is that when I was leaving our apartment a month ago, he was crying and telling me that he didn't want me to go and wrote me a love letter and put it in my handbag that he wants to get married to me, have baby, I am the biggest love of his life and he will come see me really soon. All the time we were together he never stopped criticizing me about the smallest detail and actually all our fights were for little stuff cause he was so focused on the details that he couldn't see the big picture. At the moment I am trying to pick up my pieces and move on with my life. If u ask me about Virgo??? NEVER AGAIN!!! They are such actors and narcissists!!!!
That is a kick ass answer. I'm a scorpio girl and I was thinking the same thing! I like you!