How to win a Scorpio back after you have hurt him
December 6, 2006 by Jeffrey Kishner
Scorpio men do not take kindly to being hurt. Scorpios hold on to resentments as tightly as a sphincter holds on to water. A fixed water sign, he is stubborn when it comes to emotions. Scorpios don’t trust easily in the first place, because they are all too aware of how one can be wounded in intimate relationships.
Scorpio is ruled by Pluto, the planet that digs deep into experience, rooting out secrets and suppressed memories. Pluto is associated with manipulation and abuse of power. The Scorpio man is well-acquainted with the methods of torture used in the Underworld, and hence does not like to be on the receiving end of such barbaric techniques.
Even though the Scorpio man does not let go easily of his resentments, his zodiac sign is also the most transformative. Pluto rules the death-rebirth process. Scorpios hold tight, but they also periodically become devoured by the flames of regeneration.
As he rises from the ashes, your Scorpio man will have let go of his anger. However, there’s nothing you can do to initiate this process. Pluto works by his own mysterious schedule.
You cannot win back a Scorpio, but if you’re patient he might forgive you.
How long do you want to wait?
Comment below: Have you been reunited with a Scorpio after having hurt him?
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I’m a Sagittatius woman. my boyfriend is a scorpio. he is a really jealous man even though he doesn’t say it. i just talked to a friend over the phone and when i told him what i’ve done, he told me that “you should be with him since he makes you happy” then after he said that, i assured him that he has my loyalty ang that i am happy only with him. but instead of listening to me, he just walked away. i didn’t have the chance to do anything. i let it pass for some time. then he came to me and told me that he was the one who was wrong. i think everything would be fine if the scorpio compromises. well as for me, i am willing to accept changes.
now we are stronger as ever. i know that he trusts me and i trust him back. he is the first man that i gave this much loyalty to. i know he’s the one
Long story short, my scorpio dissappeared for a short while during the ending of our relationship. When I decided to try it with someone else (after being seemingly forgotten about) he decided to magically re-appear and he was furious that i, his property, had betrayed him. He ended up dating my 16 year “best friend” to settle the score. He just couldn’t let go. I hurt him so he tried to hurt me worse and ended up hurting her as well with no regard what so ever for her feelings. He was never faithful to her and VERY emotionally abusive and disconnected. With me he had never looked at anyone else, with her he couldnt stand not to.. ? I have seen a romantic, loving and loyal side of a scorpio and also a hurtful, shameful, cheating side of a scorpio. There was no getting him back after I’d hurt him. no chance. He chose a punishment for me and stuck with it… we are now distant friends but could never date again.
My scorpio guy is so mad at me that when I try to aim him he sends me 1 word answers and when I ask him questions he never answers them what should I do help ?
For some reason I am attracted to scorpio. My ex of 10 years was and now the guy I am with is one. How do I get rid of the ex. He still thinks that he owns me. always calling me. Help I need to get away from the ex
i’m in love with a scorpio man soooooooo badd, i just can’t stop thinking about him, its been 1 year or so now that we’re in love with each other, but it seem like ever since this year started, things just getin worst. i don’t know what happen, but i think he’s mad at me. and right now i’m sooo worried about my love, i’m just so afraid to lose him, but he seem to be talking about sm…bad things about me behind my back with his friends, i dunno wat it is, and its makin me mad, but i just can’t seem to stop loving him, i just can’t get over it! we use to be very crazy about- each other, but now, he seem to be very depress everytimes he see me, and smtimes he totally ignored me (which hurt me so bad), i tried to get over him sooo many times and failed completely, and right now, i’m REALLY worried that he might be hitting on my best friend! and it hurt me alot thinking about that, yet my friend seem to be interested in him also! and i don’t want to talk to my friend about it because i’m afraid that it’ll ruined our friendship, but smtimes i’m just soo mad at my friend for playing back with him!! i feel like i’m the bad person in my story, i feel like i’m goin crazy, i want this worried feelin to be gone, i want him back in my arm so much, i wanted to talk to him, but i dunno how, i need the chance to talk to him alone, but he seem to be ignoring me and always with his friends, i just needed to know do he really loves me now, so that i would know wat i should do afterward.
i been with a scorpio man for 2 years and i left him cuse i was scared i was pregnant with twin grls and ran away from california and changed my number now after having my girls 2 months early i want him back and i can not get ahold of him can someone tell me what should i do .
scorpio,scorpio….
I have a scorpio problem…things were great…then he said he didn’t want to see me anymore…he had “committment” issues…fine..scorpio was separated (told me when we started dating that he was divorced and it was done)…so fine it felt like someone just pulled the plug. He has something of mine and I sent him an email with the address to send it back to…but it’s been a month and he hasn’t given it back. I replaced the item…and I am happy he is gone..because I realized he could be very boring(outside the bedroom, ofcourse!) and a downer.
I am worried that he will crop up soon….What should I do? I will avoid him like the plague…but i hear they can be quite persistent …how do I get rid of him for good?????? I am assuming he will come back…but i think he will because he hasn’t give back the one thing that connects us.
I am a scorpio man and tend to love deeply. Have been in Love with a Cancer for over a year. Yes, I am terribly jealous and suspicios..not without warrant though. Until I had reason to be, there was no outward sign of these traits.
After catching my loved one talking to another man via text behind my back, and encountering lies during the investigation of this matter, I came to believe in my heart she was cheating. At the very least she was being dishonest about it, hiding the messages, saying he’s an old friend, hasn’t seen him in a year etc…but not true. I still love her dearly, the perfect woman for me.
Yes, it is very, very hard for me to let go. I wish she hadn’t done that, my jealousy and suspicion is now over the top. I never got to the bottom of what happened and am trying very hard to forgive her in my heart.
The key to keeping a scorpio man happy is loyaly above all else, and complete honesty.
I am dealing with my Scorpio ex now as we speak, and in working on trying to get him to forget the things that hurt him. We were together for 2+ years and we broke up initially due to circumstances outside of our control. Well, during our relationship and more so after we broke up, I said some things that hurt him, out of my own frustrations and anger. I didn’t mean them, but after we broke up, found out how much some of the things hurt my Scorpio but he never told me out of fear of losing me. Well now he’s harping on those feelings of hurt, and says he has to deal with those feelings first before he could be back with me. Even though he’s told me he loves me, and still wants to be with me for the rest of his life, he says he wouldn’t treat me well or fairly if he doesn’t get over these things first. Because he’d always hold them against me in a disagreement or argument in the future. I’ve heard Scorpios never forget, so I do believe him, and I know he does love me. But honestly do you think he’ll ever forget it and come back? He’s the love of my life, and I want him to.
I have been with a Scorp guy for almost 5 years. I’m a Cap woman. When my Big Baby Huey gets mad, I step back and analyze what category tornado he has begun. Category 1 & 2 tornados can be diffused if you are willing to grovel. Groveling to a Scorp is an art form. You have to maintain your position/arguement when apologizing, but still admit you’re wrong. If you apologize too much, they will just think you’re too dumb to be with them cause you keep making mistakes and they have little patience for that.
Category 1 & 2 Scorp tornados are usually stem from me having UNINTENTIONALLY done something to them. Being unaware you hurt them, and them knowing you didn’t set out to hurt them is of no consequence.
Once old boy is a category 3,4,5 – forget it. I either trump his punk storm or ride it out. Let them kick, buck, cuss, say the most horrendous things he can think of without crossing “that line”.
It took me 2 years to compose and assert this cracked theory, but it works for me. If you don’t feel like killing a Scorp, just ride the storm out. They may not speak to you for 3 months, they may talk about your mother and upbrining, but they eventually come around.
The worse thing my Scorp has said to me is “is your intelligence an act”? He said that because I forgot to bring something from the store and wasn’t about to go back. He wanted to wrap his hands around my neck and squeeze. LOL, OH WELL FOR HIM-HEHEHEHE.
I am a gemini woman. I have been married to a scorpio man 6 yrs on sept 27.I love him very much. During the course of our marriage, and even before hand, he has had an issue with being unfaithful. He would deny everything and get so angry when he got caught. We got married very fast. He is a soldier and he has been deployed 3 yrs of our time together. I recently got tired of not feeling like I was still the center of his world anymore. During rthe second deployment, I found out he was cheating on me with a girl who had befriended me. Out of anger I cheated on him with 2 guys. I ended up telling him everything. He has still never told me everything. He only admitted it because he got caught. We decided to work through it. I couldn’t trust him anymore, and for good reason. He kept getting angry because of my lack of trust. in a hasty decision a couple months ago. I said I was done, and moved across the country. He wrote me a letter telling me he loved me and he would always be there for me. A month or so passed and I realized what I had done. I decided to tell him how I really felt. I told him that I know he wasn’t happy with me in the relationship. ( I became lazy and dependant, without being intimate with him) I was scared to get burned. I decided to make the changes I needed to make in my life, and spilled my heart to him. He kept saying I love you, I just don’t know. I don’t know.. I wasn’t satisfied. I then decided to look at his myspace. I found a girl he had been talking to the first time we split for about a month or so. I knew something was going on. We had been talking and making a little progress, so I thought. I know I shouldn’t have left. I messed up royaly.I hadn’t found any real facts that they were together. Then I sea a picture on her page of her on our bed in our old bedroom. I call him flipping out and he assures me it is her house and that I am buggin. Makes me feel like the idiot once again, but little things don’t add up. So, I keep checking her page in the next few days and I find a comment about how she can’t wait to get off work to go see my husband. I flipped the H*ll out again. I asked if he loved her, he said no. I asked if he would give up his just friend for me. He got angry and said he shouldn’t have to do that because they are just friends. I kept asking him and pushing him to tell me the truth and to give her up. He stopped talking to me. Ignoring all calls and texts.I went crazy. I blew up his phone for days. At first it was I love yous and why aren’t you talking to me.. Then I started getting angry. I went back and forth between love and anger. I said some really nasty things out of anger. I even had a ticket to go see him, and we were gonna see what happened. I asked him if I needed to cancel the ticket. I got nothing. I tried everything I could think of to get him to speak to me. I kept saying that I wasn’t giving up on us. I know I shouldn’t have pushed him, but I felt he was just as wrong for lying as I was for leaving. I asked him again, and gave him a deadline. I text him right before the deadline and asked should I cancel? He hadn’t talked to me for a week by this time. I had text him something everyday, and got nothing. He replied back with one word… Cancel. I was so upset and infuriated. I called him every name in the book with no response. During one of his deployments he thought I was messing with a friend that I hung out with.I would do things with him, and his family I.e. Wife and kids. I never did anything, but I knew that would cut him deep. So I said I was doing this guy the whole time. He didnr say anything to me but posted my text on facebook. Omg… He called a mutual frind and asked for the guys number. He didn’t get it. I then went and checked this girls page and she put up a picture of her and my husband kissing. My heart is broken. I don’t understand how he could tell me he loved me all these years and cheat and lie to me. I text him and told him it wasn’t true, but I wanted him to feel what I was feeling. I have said a couple times, fine send the papers. I don’t want a divorce, and I want to put it all in the past. What do I do? I really love this man, even if he is a lying sack of crap. I am changing myself… Am I to late? Is he hers now? I wrote him one last time and said again that I shouldn’t have said something that wasn’t ttreu to hurt him, but I was really hurt too. I told him I was dissappointed in him, and I asked how he could do that. I haven’t said anything to him in a day. It is absolutely killing me that he isn’t speaking to me. If I back off do I still have a chance? I haven’t cancelled the ticket. The flight is in 4 weeks. That is the only window I have to see him until next dec. He is leaving for korea. Any advise would be awesome. I feel like such an idiot!
P.s. When I told him I was gonna leave, he let me go. He didn’t try and stop me or anything. I think he had the plan of going back to her. We were like roomates for the month up until I left.
I think u should cancel the ticket , I have been dating a scorpio for 5 yrs… And they are extremely complex creatures. During this time I’ve learned that the more unavailable u make yourself ,the more attracted they are to you. If you continue to text and call him you will only push him farther away* scorpio men appreciate emotional strength, honesty, passion, and well women who have common sense, not to sound cruel but … Scorpio Men despise clingy women ! He will always care for you , because a scorpio falls into love hard, but u have to treat him the way he treats you, you will then have the ability to beat him at his own game (so to speak) Aurevoire ! Est Bon’ chance***
“if you love something,let it go…if it comes back its yours ,if it doesn’t …it was never meant to be !”
This is true. I made a mistake and it took my scorpio man a month and a half to forgive me. While I (and many of both his friends and mine) think that what I did was so minor he should have gotten over it quicker, it was at his pace and his readiness that I had to wait. Alot of my friends thought I should give up on him since they felt he was being petty, but I know what a wonderful man he is, and I was willing to wait him out. Unfortunately, he still doesn’t trust me. But he forgives me and we’re taking it from there. We’re working on rebuilding what we had. It’s going to take time, but I have confidence that we’ll get there.
I find the Scorpio tornadoes & relentless inflexibility & lack of ability to exhibit emotional intelligence during their jealously tantrums, these are childish and show insecurity, and should not be put up with, most of you women on here are earth or water signs and are putting up with it, fire sign women challenge scorpio men and do not put up with stuff like this, as this will see them in a lower position eventually but if you like being submissive and feeling always in the wrong then stay with them because you may be the only shot they have at a twisted, unhealthy, unbalanced relationship.
Well I have hurt the feelings of a scorpio man but didn’t mean too…..would it me wise for me to say to him, that “I would never intentionally do anything to hurt him” or would it backfire onme as he might take that as a weakness.
I’m a Scorpio with all the traits mentioned: loyalty and expecting loyalty in return, no questions asked. I like my space and I don’t like clingy and needy people. When I was dating, I could not stand anyone calling me twice or three times a day or wanting me to respond to their every email right away, or even every day. I hated it. Also, if someone did me wrong, I gave them _one_ more try. After that, they’re dead to me.
I’ve dated various signs and I believe Capricorns and Geminis are best for Scorpio. I’m married to a Gemini and we get along great. Geminis are honest communicators and contrary to popular belief, Gemini women are very faithful after marriage. Capricorns are very ambitious and loyal as well. Just my two cents.
Imma Pisces..I’ve hurt the feelns of my scorp and Its been a couple days since I’ve heard from him…I apologized for hurt’n him and I’m leaving it there…I’m human..we make mistakes..I pray he will get over it..and we will work it out because I Love him..but if he doesn’t I won’t sit around losin myself in his grudge and unforgivness..I have to be strong.
M scorpio i disagree i think cancers and other scorpios are the best for a scorpio male at least.
Mandy i’d suggest ohnestly to give up. Even if he takes you back theres gong to be an uncombterableness about it. He’ll always remember you cheated. Yes he cheated but he sees you as his and hates the thought of anyone touching whats his. He’ll almost despise you but love you its a love hat thing really and he’ll keep going back and foruth and before yeah us scorpios ive noticed need alot of affection alot attion to be reassured sometimes is nesscary if theres a rift and it keeps getting bigger your never gonna catch up or its unlikley. Since you said you were f’ing the other guy the hole time and he was looking for the hter guy he still cares or its his ego but either way it might be good for you. Play on his ego maybe idk about this one dont know the wholestory. But when you said that and called him names he ends up kissing the other girl. So its basically showing you he can get what he wants and doesnt need you or that this girl could replace you. To hurt and also demoralize you becuase youve done it to him. He seems to be the level one scorpio. The one who attacks and keeps attaking and instead of thinking first and things you kinda got eally clingy and desperate instead of calculating it out and being calm about things and setting deadlines not good and even if you did you shouldve went all scoprs i think have a hero complex. Besides scorpios dont live b any rules but there own there own way noone elses.
I am a virgo. I met my Scorp 2 years ago when I was still married to my ex husband. The chem was so high I could bearly contain myself when I was around him… and neither could he. He fell in love with me but the problem was we I stayed out of state and I was in his hometown on a family emergency. My Scorp and I were together for 3 months and he was begging me not to leave but I had to come home…. after all I was still married to this other man and I needed to complete my education. When I got home my scorp and I kept in touch for a little while but I was still stupidly with my Ex hubby… I still wasnt over him. When I tried to explain this to my my scorp he became heart broken and slowly we lost touch. 2 months later I left my Ex but I didnt contact my scrop for almost two years. In the mean time I was going though a phase that included several different guys if you get what I mean. When I finally came back to my senses I called my scrop up and he played like nothing had happend. He and I got to talking and he told me he was not seeing anybody which was a lie. I found out the hard way about that but I was willing to stick around. I dont know why I did but something in me was telling me that this man still loved me so i stuck around. After recieve a phone call form his gf I stuck around. It hurt me to know he lied to me and it hurt worse when he didnt call me for two weeks after the girl called me. When he finally called me it was to apologize and to ask me to be his girlfriend…. he said he loved me but he wasnt in love with me. I was willing to accept that because I really wanted to take my time with this man. After all i knew what he was capable of after spending all that time with him two years ago.
Somehow he found out about how permicous I had been in my past and he was not happy about it. He held it over my head for a long time but this scorp is different… he is a bit soft hearted when it comes to matters of love. He was able to “forgive” me but to this day even though we are engaged to be married he stills mentions the fact thaat I was with so many men. I love him but it scares me that he still does this. I am afriad that he still has some type of hate for me in his heart because of what I did. I love him so much I d ont know what I would do without him but I feel like our relationship has a slight dent in it becaue of what I did. Part of me wishes he would get over this…. the other part wonders when he will get over this….
I met my scorpio guy over 17 yrs ago. We were very close friends for a few years eventually ending up falling in love. Long story short, I cheated with my ex and we broke up. We lost touch for 14 years until earlier this year. He spent the past few years looking for me online. His efforts finally paid off. Its like we never broke up. So although it took him several years, he didv forgive me. Our bond was so deep time couldn’t break it
i was dating a scorpio man for 16 mos. and things have been rocky the last few weeks. on thursday we had an instant message arguement over him wanting me to disappear when his father is in town or when his roommate’s wife is around for thanksgiving weekend. i told him i wasnt disappearing. we live in different states.
well, i havent spoken to him since thursday night. he usually calls me daily to say hello. this is so ridicuious, he is 52 yrs old.
he is on facebook, chatting away to every single woman out there passing sexual comments to hurt me more. he even has gone to having these woman put up pictures of the two of them from 2 yrs ago.
we happen to have gotten along well, at times like any relatioship things do get rocky. what suggestions would you have. Im an aires hes a scorpio thanks